Dale Jr. Deals With Parenting Frustrations | The Dale Jr. Download
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- Dale Earnhardt Jr. and Mike Davis discuss how to deal with parenting frustrations.
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As a dad of 7 and 4 year old daughters, this parenting talk is sooo relatable. I always rooted for Dale as a driver, but I am bigger fan of Dale as a dad/husband.
did your mom and dad ever tell you wait till you have kids then you will understand what I went through
The fact that you are not only aware of your shortcomings, but also concerned about your parenting skills shows how good of a parent you already are.
An advantage Dale has over most parents is his maturity. Most of us have children when we are barely adult.
Very good point, we were kids having kids in our early 20s
He also has the advantage of having a lot of time with them since he’s retired
Also being financial secure on top of it...
Yes, I found this having our child in our early thirties. I was much more patient with him.
@@hobbs12cats money shouldn't have an impact on teaching your kid to be respectful....
The fact that you (Dale) knew that you were reaching your breaking point and separated yourself from the conflict is proof of a great dad!
true he didn't strike out in anger sadly a lot of adult dont do that
Same, I think Dale was able to handle this a lot better than my dad would have in a similar situation with toddler me.
All of your fans around the world have had the luxury of watching you Dale jr. Grow as a man ❤️ and today is a supreme example of you doing just that good job Dale 👍🏻
This conversation is very amusing.
Dale Jr - No one is equipped for parenting. Don't sweat the small stuff. You are doing a GREAT job!
Exactly! Tiny humans are difficult to interact with 😂
Yeah it's really not a good comparison a new puppy will teach you patience and so will a young child and this conversation between Jr and Mike does prove that Jr is learning that being a parent can be as tough of a job as being a race car driver and that Mike is still trying to guide Jr through every day life 😊😊😊
And Gail M your advice was spot on 😊😅😊
I am 74 years old and a life time Ford fan - but always a Dale Jr. fan! He has become the absolute greatest spokesman for NASCAR. It has been a wonderful ride watching Dale Jr. mature into the man he is today. His daughters will some day look back in awe at the father!
My kids did the the eating thing with me. The pediatrician told me take the food away ensure she has a nutrition break for school. They will eat when they get hungry. They are trying to assert their independence and have a voice of their own. They soon learn it is not always the best thing to choice. Many more phases to go through. Don’t sweat the small stuff❣️
Exactly!
6 kids. 12 grandkids. I’m loving this 😂
3 and 3 here, me too!
😂 Someone mentioned to us just yesterday that he'd told his wife recently that he really enjoyed being a grandfather, but that he was forever grateful that he wasn't a grandmother!
@@stadleroux me too😂
Me 5 kids and 14 grand children
7 kids, 20 grandkids, 1 great grandkid(so far) and enjoying Jr as a parent.
The funny/deep thing about this is, in about 15 years isla might stumble across this. And have a understanding of her dad's thoughts. Something most of us don't get
Dale trust me from having raised a daughter who is almost 23 there will be plenty more battles to overcome. Lean heavily on your wife and the wisdom of your sister Kelly who has raised up an older daughter. She will give you good solid parenting advise.
Noooo not Kelly,, those are spoiled little monsters and JR knows it,,
THIS is exactly the reason why I love this podcast. You guys are awesome, honest, vulnerable, and open to understanding the world around you in ways you may not be comfortable with. Plus, you’re entertaining as hell! Thank you!
This is why I love junior. Getting to know so much more about him now versus when he was driving and each time I like him more
Brought back Funny memories. Our 2 year old Son would Scream and stop Church every Sunday about 30-40 minutes into it. I spent so much time sitting outside the Church contemplating everything in my life.
You sound like an amazing parent. It’s okay to not always have the perfect answer. Don’t beat yourself up.
I had a lot of success ignoring the issue while I (we) was angry, and the next day or two discussing the issue like two adults (even at 4). When we were both calm and away from the issue, the understanding seem to work then and in the future. He turned 21 Sunday.
Kids will always test you,to see what they can,and can’t get away with..my grandfather told my mom years ago,if you can’t control them at four years old,you’ll never be able to control them at fourteen
As a father of 3 wonderful ladies, all I can say is that you will always do your best to be a good , loving and fair daddy. Just remember that no matter how hard it is for you to give an ultimatum to your children, you have to follow through NO MATTER WHAT.
Good luck and God bless.
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Every day is a new day and a new challenge Jr. There's no perfect parents...you do your best
Kudos Dale for realizing that you needed to step away at the moment and you and your wife talking it out. I have much respect for you. It's also okay to ask for help or input from people you respect.
Every single parent struggles with this, just keep it consistent, I'm sure the both of you are doing the best you can.
I swear this video was god sent.. coincidentally enough I’m going through a very similar situation today with my 7 year old daughter.. thank you Dale and Mike for posting a video on this topic.. it really helped to just listen to other fathers challenges to balance being a good dad
Can you imagine looking back at your parents doing a Podcast about you growing up like this? It is forever captured and they will really appreciate this.
This is the best video on this show so far. Literally every single dad emotion i feel or thought i get
Junior is so introspective. You're doing a good job, don't overthink things.
Dale, just the fact that you are so concerned that she is raised right is enough to convince me that your daughter will grow up to be an upstanding human being.
Being a parent is hard. Its learn as you go. But that fact that you and your wife are sharing the load, working together and supporting each other.
You’ll get through it. I raised three Sons and there was times when I felt like I need ed a whistle like a Referee. You and your wife are the Bosses . It’s up to the parents to prepare them for life. I told my three Sons you will always have a Boss. They have to learn they won’t always get their way. You have a short time to teach this to Kids . Your preparing them for life because they’ll come a Day When you won’t be there. My Sons all ended up as Bosses. Two were in command positions in the Navy and Army. The other a Business Man. They love my Wife and I and thank us for being loving, Firm. I was never mean to them , and that we are still always there for them. Family is the Most important thing in Life. Your Father would be Proud that you care for yours. Respect from Oregon.✌🏽🤙🏽👍🏽😎
Single Girl Dad and I Empathize Greatly! Also faced/face similar (spot-on description) stuff at times. But never often. We didn't get a Blueprint but your coming up compared to Mrs. Earnhardt's is like mine and Kristin's. And I don't roll like mine did. At. All. That said, you aren't alone and brainstorm with the one you trust most in the homeplace. Proud of you for venting in a healthy way, in a healthy place. Tools in the Toolbox for Life. ✌️🤟
The fact that you are aware & concerned for not only her behavior, but also yours shows how much you care for your daughters over all well being - that alone says a lot. Keep at it.
This is why I love Junior so much. Dale Jr. is the most honest and open famous person I have ever seen. People identify with the real life things he talks about, even if it is about racing. He humanizes it so very well.
Dale I finally learned to be a good parent when I became a grandpa. It all just seemed to come together because I had time to really listen to them, and watch them. You both will get it especially since you have learned NOT to yell, hit and carry on. You will gain their respect by listening, speaking in a calm (very hard sometimes) voice and demeanor, be consistent. Fear is counterproductive
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Trust me, you two are doing awesome. This is from a mother of 3 boys, grandmother of 4 and greatgrand of 1 with another on the way. You will have days like this. But you will look back on this with, wow, I survived and my girls are blossoming. Hang in there. You are absolutely on the best journey of your life.
Great advice, I bet you were a great mom 🙏🏽❤️
As a dad of a 6 year old and 6month year old I’d love to hear Dale and Amy have a parenting segment. I really enjoyed hearing that side of jr. Real stuff.
Right there with you on all that Jr.!!!!! Being a parent is always way more than you bargain for......
Thank you for the single parent shout-out! And for sharing this very real, honest story. It's THE hardest job in the world, but also the most patience building job.
This is absolutely beautiful. It's a real human problem just put on the internet and provides great entertainment.
As a preschool teacher to a wonderful group of four year olds this is my daily life…”I love you too much to argue with you” is a great phrase and offer her a timer - there are lots of great apps for an iPad) “You have 10 minutes to decide how much you want to eat for breakfast.” 😊
Tough Love... is always toughest on the Parents.
Definitely
I love you and your honesty and desire to parent well. Bless you.
Dale trust me, it’s okay to be frustrated and angry! It’s the first time we’ve all been through this! As our kids are growing up so are we! It’s definitely a team effort sometimes to get the kids ready in the morning or get them to bed at night.
This is incredible. It’s real world talk that everyone deals with but when you ask how their day is going they look at you and say oh just fine! Sure, you’re not just gonna vent to everybody that ask you that but not many people are just gonna openly talk about these moments…. We all deal with this in some form or fashion and it’s great to hear you talk about it! Such an amazing show. It’s real!! Thank you guys for all the incredible conversations.
i loved watching dale jr the driver but i could listen to dale jr the dad all day long these stories are so nice to hear
Great video guys! My kids are grown and turned out to be great adults, Hell yeah I'm bragging. My kids are my greatest accomplishment. What I learned through tons of mistakes is 1) kids are testing you, they are trying to figure out their boundaries, yes even at 4 years old. 2) No empty promises, you tell her your going to throw the bouncy house in the trash, you damn well better throw that thing in the trash. 3) As hard as this is, you need to show and tell and show them when they disappoint you and also tell and show them when they make you proud. 4) the worst thing any parent can do is try to be friends with your kids. Dale Sr. seemed to have raised some great kids and I suspect it wasn't because he was big on time outs and counting to 5. Being friends with your kids comes when they become actual adults. I became truly close with my two boys when they were in their early to mid twenties
I appreciate the honesty in the segment. I’m glad I will never be a parent for reasons like this, but God bless Dale and Amy.
Your a real dad my friend ... Good to know u have the same struggles as us .. love ya buddy... Doing it for dale !!!
Everything you are sharing shows how much you care.. keep on DOING what you are doing. Love lasts forever 😍😍🙏🙏
HaHa, great stuff! Nailed a lot of stuff right on the head. I told ya that you would love being a Dad....so many new dimensions kids add to your life!
What an awesome segment! We need more conversation about this stuff. Especially as Dads, I don’t know what to do sometimes.
You take her to school in her pajamas. She won a battle. You let her not eat breakfast and carry her on to school. She wins another battle. When the day is over and all the kids have made fun of her being in pajamas and she spends half a day hungry, guess who has won the war! Mommy and daddy!!! Oh yeah, you fill the teacher in on what is happening.
Widowed Single Dad here and you are (SPOT ON) its tuff. Thank you for the shout out lol.
As a 10 year vet of being a parent that feeling of wished I handled that differently never ends. This is what I really like about jr. Seems like a every day joe.
I feel for you Dale. I'm 37 and 3 boys. A 3 year old and 7 week old twins. 😂
Hi Dale,
I thoroughly enjoyed your video on disciplining your children. I have two grown children. When my children misbehaved, I had a “Saturday Box”.
When I felt like you described, I told the child how disappointed I was with their actions. And I got to choose their favorite toy at that time and they put would put the toy in the Saturday Box. If they were good for the week, they would get their toy back on the following Saturday.
I hope that this might help. My two children turned out wonderful.
I really enjoy your channel. One day at a time. ❤
I can see Dale Sr. right now with that sneaky grin laughing at Jr. about these things. 😂😂😂
Parenting is not about Perfection, but Persistence, Understanding and Love. I understand now that all the imperfections are what makes Life Memories!!!
Oh man! We would have gone to school hungry. You & Amy are doing the best you can.
Dale, Respect is something that is earned! From big human beings to small ones.
Well you have your patience...but no respect. Believe it or not children know they are loved by boundaries. I'm 65 and have a son in his mid thirties. He is a wonderful husband and a good provider, and loves his mom. I couldn't be prouder! What helped me was a book by James Dobson.."Dare to discipline". He is a Christian child psychologist. I read it while I was pregnant in the 1980's. Just a thought for you and Amy to read. God bless 🇺🇸
I so appreciate your insight, reflection, and ability to work on sussing this out. It's kind of like the fact no one else can prepare you for the sleep you'll lose when there's a new baby in the house. Best way around it is straight through. So far, so good.
Dale Jr...This is exactly why I love and respect you so much....Just understand she gets this attitude honestly!!!!!!!!!!!!
This is all so true , as a single dad with baby mama help, it's hard and sometimes you just walk away to take a breath. They are so smart, my Lil man Wyatt is 5. You talk about throwing things away as a threat , Wyatt just says ok let's go and throw in the dumpster cause he knows I am bluffing lol. I feel the same way where I wonder am I bad dad or am doing enough? A friend told me if you are wondering that and trying your best plus they are happy Lil people most the time. Means you are doing a good job even though it can be frustrating.
Dale, one thing I have learned about being a parent as it’s a lot of experimentation for a little return. Mike is right she’s going to be fine and she won’t even remember this event. You’re beating yourself up because you’re concerned that you’re not coming on strong enough or unsure about how you’re handling it, and that somehow that’s going to impact her as a person. It’s not. My dad was probably in the same boat yours was, you did not go looking for trouble with my dad either, but I steered clear of him, and it kept me in check. The only thing that stands out to me is that you walked away which I don’t think is necessarily a bad thing, but it could show your girls that all they have to do is push you to that point to get what they want. My daughter is 5 and does the same thing, but she’ll be standing in the corner if she wants to get mouthy or sassy… 30 seconds or a minute of standing in the corner makes them contemplate life choices for being bad. When in reality what I wanted most from my parents is for them to care about me and pay attention to me. That’s what they’ll remember most.
Dale you are an awesome Dad!
This is radio GOLD! So funny watching mike almost get mad just talking about it. Im a Dad also.....Dudes I get it and my advice is this...Choose your battles. Hold the line guys, they're hard as hell to redirect around 14 and up. Great topic and keep it coming.
Just keep doing what you are doing Jr You are doing a great job Most people that only have boys have no idea what a challenge little girls can be sometimes!!!! Keep at it she is going to turn out wonderful!!!!!
You have no idea how relatable this conversation is, have a 5yo daughter and 3yo boy. Both have these same challenges in their own ways, which can be frustrating in itself. Hang in there Dale!
I’m on my first kid she’s two in April and it’s awesome to have others to go to about things like parenting tips or tricks
I got 7 & 3 year old daughter so i can definitely feel where you coming from Dale 💯
I'm 65 and I remember being told "because I said so" and getting my bottom spanked........
You bring back memories bud. Hey I had twin boys. They gave me a run for the money. I was a single dad for a bit. It prepared me for anything. I swear thats how I feel. Even they are only kids, the situations are real.
There is a fine line between an emotional reaction and a wise response. There are situations you can't control. You're research and work outside of the situations will help you with your wise response in the place of an emotional reaction.
Been there done that, things get better with age, they learn their limits, be firm and love them, you are doing great.
Isla didn’t want to follow the crowd.😂❤ I learned to get my kids to do what I wanted by giving them two choices. I picked what those choices were, they picked which one they liked. You got this.
We as parents ALL go through this
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One of the best books I ever read was ... How to talk so kids will listen & How to listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish.
My kids are now 41, 38 & 26. I had my share of parenting fail moments, but it's all part of being a parent.
Both of my kids are grown. Daughter is married and expecting their first. I remember those days vividly. Oh the struggle of battling with a 4yo over something so trivial, but in our minds, they need to do what we say and not question it. In the end, the love is what matters most! Join the club Dale! You're doing it right! 😀
That is the funniest dale segment ever thanks for that fellas
I have twin 7 year old boys. I feel ya!!
hey it's me Jeff Yoder and even at 72years old I can completely relate to Jr's parenting story still
Yes this is what I needed from Dale jr I’m going through the same stuff
Absolutely wonderful video
We waited until we were in our later 20's before we had a child. Nothing could've prepared us for parenting. Parenting is, to use Dale Jr's metaphor of baseball, a lot of base hits, not homeruns. The culmination of those base hits will yield a loving, caring, smart, nurturing adult. My dad was retired Navy. He was, at times a mean old salt. He never argued with me as I got older into my teen age years. He would tell me to do something and if I didn't, there were consequences and repercussions. He would say, "I'm the adult, you are the child. I don't argue with children." Raising my daughter was different than I was raised. I got spanked and got ass whippings all the time. I was able to look and my daughter and convey to her that I was "deeply disappointed in her choices/behavior.'' That worked for my me and my wife, in our household." Pic and choose your battles. You have a long road to hoe.
Thank you for the video
I have a 4 year old daughter as well - and at times I feel the same way as you Dale Jr - sometimes just don’t know what to do about the kids attitude- but when you and hit that homerun does feel awesome - Maybe do a segment for dads - Looks like a few of us need the same help you need!
First off, good talk Dads. This is a tough thing for a parent. Usually when kids act out it's because they're not getting what they want from their parents, be it attention, approval or affirmation. I can only tell you what worked for me. I had three children and that was three different personalities to deal with. I spent some time figuring out what they really wanted from me. All children are prone to acts of defiance, but once you know what it is they want from you, you can deal with them.
For example my middle child was my only daughter. She just wanted my attention and she didn't care if it was good attention or bad attention, so long as she had my attention. So if behaving didn't get her the attention she wanted, she would misbehave (usually by being obstructionist or defiant) to get me to pay attention to her. After I realized that, she was easier to deal with. She would be defiant to get my attention, so when she was defiant I would ignore her. Eventually she would do what I wanted and I would give her the attention she wanted.
This technique allowed my kids to think they were helping me get things done and they got what they wanted out of the transaction. Next time tell your daughter how excited you are to see her in her farmer's outfit and then spend a few minutes hugging on her and telling her how pretty and special she looks. It might take some coaxing, but I'm willing to bet your oldest girl wants your approval and will trade you her compliance to get it.
Don't let the situation degenerate into a power play and instead keep it a transaction where everyone gets something out of the deal.
Driving down the road did your dad ever hit the brakes real quick when you was in the backseat? My dad called it get'n our attention. Which it did.. but it pissed my mom off!! 🤣 🤣
I've had 3 four year old boys and I can tell you they don't always know right from wrong so you have to step in and make them do what is right. Yell when you need to yell and speak softly when you need to speak softly. Don't overthink it. Do what you feel is right and don't worry about which "strategy" you use.
So truthful. We all been there.
knowing when to back out of the situation as a parent is HUGE! Tagging out is the perfect way to deal with kids when you feel yourself hitting that limit for things like getting dresses and morning routines. There is definitely a time to put your foot down but its different with headstrong kids.
Very relatable to everyone with kids. Just remember that there is no owners manual for kids. Each one is different in his/her own way.
It’s good that Dale understands that small children are more intelligent and comprehend more than most people give them credit for… They’re young and inexperienced… not stupid
It's not possible to parent without second guessing yourself from time to time. Learning what works best for each child is an independent case of on the job training. When you hit a spot where you are questioning what motivation or consequence will work best, often taking a step back to look at the world through the child's eyes to recognize what is precious to them will direct you toward an answer. While your authority is important, the ultimate goal is still to reach the child effectively and individual kids respond differently.
I was a single father with two daughters,both adults now,and you are absolutely right. Disciplining those girls was a tough balancing act without someone to consistently back me up 😅. They’re both functioning adults now and amazing people ❤
5 kids and 13 grandkids, I feel you pain! Be consistent, work together with Amy. Back each other up and if some discipline is applied, you both need to stick with it! Don't undermine each other. Odds are those kids will grow up and surprise you in a very good way!
My son was five when he decided to push the plate away because he didn’t care for the food presented. I explained that this was mealtime and there wouldn’t be any snacks and dinner would be around six o’clock. I stayed calm and put his plate away. As time went on, his tummy started grumbling and he realized it wasn’t his best option. He asked for snacks and even tried getting a banana from grandma. It was hard to watch, but he was very happy to see dinner and never refused a meal after that. The consequences of his decision helped him see the light.
So glad I had 3 sons. Which I raised all by myself. They are all doing well
Love this. ❤😂
I loved this talk about parenting. We have all been there and it is so relatable to every parent as we all have had our moments of knowing the right thing to do. I will say in regards to the consequence for not eating her breakfast is two fold in my opinion. I think there is a natural consequence that if she doesn't eat her food, she will be hungry before lunch and that's a natural consequence to her action of not eating. To me shoving the plate away is a different consequence. I will also add that it sounds like you and Amy are fantastic parents and are doing a great job raising your children!
I have four daughters. I feel your frustration!! ✌️
Dude, don't tear yourself up, you did just fine! Each situation is different . Good job! No exact science to being a parent. Sounds to me like you are teaching excellent values. It's the toughest job you'll ever love.