I was a single mom till my oldest was 10 yrs old. I took pictures of their clothes, that I had big memories of, and donated them to a shelter for moms and their children getting out of abusive homes. It made me feel so good...❤
Oh my gosh this will be me!! Single mom by choice but what a good idea thank you!! My little isn’t here yet after 2 natural miscarriages and $22k of IVF I’m still paying off…I already know I’ll want to keep every single thing like I do w my dogs!! So I’ll keep this in mind ❤
That's what I do with my kids old stuff and it really helps my daughter to think that she is going to make another kid super happy with the stuff she isn't using anymore.
I don't know if you've seen her, but there's a lady here on TH-cam that teaches declutering and she's got several books about it, but her name is Dana k.White and she came up with a method of getting her house under control while having an overwhelming amount of stuff and four kids. And even though I don't have kids a lot of her methods have helped me deal with my home when it gets overwhelming.
Use it or lose it ! It’s the only way if you truly want to declutter. The memories are not in the clothing, they are in your head. You won’t lose them. If you don’t let go of the past how do you make room for the future ?
I told myself this for some stuff but my memory has suffered so much after becoming a mom and being sleep deprived for years that I wish I did keep some stuff :/ or at least took photos
Your amazing. I've done a first pass through. I continue to take a second and third pass. I love it. I'm 64 and want to clear things out for my adult children.
It's nice seeing content from a normal human with a normal house... instead of these pintrest perfect content creators that end up making you feel worse about your life. When it comes to my kids' clothes, I've kept a few special pieces from when they were babies. The rest was donated. I've been on a decluttering journey over this last year and it's such a freeing feeling!
Make your son a memory bin and when u find a memory add it to the bin then it is all in one spot. Have a donate box somewhere and when u find something u don't want or need put it in the box. That helps us get a lot out of the house. You are doing fantastic! Congrats!
7:10 our neighbors had their daughters baby clothes made into a quilt by an Etsy maker. That allowed them to let go of her clothes while still seeing a piece of their special memories every day.
Being a single mom is super hard and I can totally relate. But like you said, you got through it. Letting go of that clothes is a great way to let go of that hard time. Making room for new memories and for you and your child to grow in a clutter free home will be so great! Children do thrive with less. I hope that you're able to be able to look forward to new memories and let go of the old ones. Sending nothing but love and prayers. ❤
I think everyone struggles with depression from time to time especially when there’s a massive change like you’re experiencing now. I hope your life brings you happiness and calm in the future. ❤
I am stopping the video 6 minutes in to add something you may soon address having a solution for, but when I felt I needed to let go of my kids' things (currently 16 and 19) when they were little, I found small roller suitcases helped a lot. I bought 2 cheap ones from 2nd hand stores and decided I could keep whatever I wanted as long as it fit in their suitcase. It so helped me find my absolute favorites because I couldn't keep everything. Their baby journals, the outfits they came home from the hospital in, favorite books I read to them, mementos from family, a favorite toy or two... That kind of thing. You are doing a great job! Much love and support. My weakness was their art. I have 3 ring binders filled with all the things they painted or colored. Just do what feels good to you and eases your Mama heart in this declutter process.
Libby, you are not alone! Especially with the kid’s clothes. I didn’t get rid of my son’s clothes until he was 16. I didn’t get rid of his stroller and high chair until he was 16. 16!!!! I moved all of that stuff through 4 houses! We wanted more kids but couldn’t have any more. What helped me get rid of stuff was giving things to friends and family that were expecting. Knowing his stuff was going to people I cared about really helped me. I kept a few key things like the outfit he wore when we brought him home, his baptism clothes, a favorite shirt….My son is 19 now and I realize I was holding on to the memory of his childhood, but seeing him grow into a young man is exciting too. Hugs to you! You are doing so awesome and take it one day at a time! 💗
I was the same, I kept my daughters buggy in the loft such lovely memories that I didn’t want to let go of it. I finally got rid of it when she was 14 😅she’s 21 now. I was 42 when I had her and I was so happy and loved every minute of her babyhood. I never had any more so I think I cling onto memories
I had a soap problem along with backups for my backups. I gave a bin full of all soaps and extra shampoo, etc to a homeless shelter. They were so happy to get it! You could give baby clothes to a womens shelter. I find giving directly to an organization that will use it immediately.
I have a soap problem too. I love bar soap. I've got enough soap for the next 5 years minimum. Okay, maybe close to 7-10. I stopped buying soap but giving it up is a different story. I do use it constantly though
Decluttering happens in layers. As you experience the benefits, you get more confident, and you feel safe, you will begin to want to let go of more. You did great today! I'm looking forward to going on this journey with you.
You would probably enjoy Remi Clog if you aren't already following her. I think you could relate in part to her struggles. I enjoy her process too. Great work! You can do this!
Hi Libby and Marilyn.. i totally agree Remi is super great!! i'm a bit late to the comments its now feb. 25.. i %100 recommend RemiColg's channel.. she's just so calming and totally honest about her own struggles.. glad i found this channel as well..💜🖤💙🤍
Remi clog is my favorite lady of cleaning and decluttering across the pond. There are a lot of others here in the USA who also are awesome. Dana K. White.. love her and The Minimal Mom...look up specific video of "The silent to do list."
I’m so glad to see that you actually take things (trash bags and donations) out of the house at the end. It’s sad when I see other people stockpiling things to take out “later” but not actually do it. Keep up the good work. You do great!
I have depression too. I also struggle with getting rid of things and you’re totally right. What brings me joy one day may not the next. Hang in there.
Oh my word I'm so proud of you !!! You did such an exceptional job at that hallway. You will develop your own decluttering strategy by trial and error. You are already honing in on that strategy. My advice is: 1. Do whatever is irritating you the most. An area you use all the time. Your hallway was the perfect choice like you said you woke up to all those unmade decisions, waiting to be made, greeting you multiple times every day. Great choice. Looking forward to what spot you choose next 👍 keep it achievable. One shelf, one corner at a time. 2. Don't throw/give away any containers, baskets, boxes (unless broken) that you empty while you declutter. Stack them up. You may find them useful for other things you CHOOSE to keep. (Like the nail products). Plus you are looking to move and need to pack eventually. 3. The marie kondo method. I use as my last resort when going through my things. Its a process of elimination. Use the easy questions first. Are you broken? Do you work? Are you expired? Do i like you ? Am I still using it? Can I store it away appropriately? Is it easy to clean ? If i still havent decided after all those questions i will geniuinely take a moment and ask myself ... Do you bring me joy ? Yes ok 👌 No - thank you and move on now. That is the only part of the kondo method i use and i use it as my final card. Although the ... Are you easy to clean ... And... Can i store you away properly... Usually seal the deal 🤝 With regards to your son's clothes. You did an excellent job on that box ❤ keep what you love most and donate the rest xxx let the emotions flow and thank them. But keep what you love the MOST. Items that bring good memories back to you. 4. Toothpaste, toilet paper, soaps, shampoos all the bathing showering toiletries should go in the cupboard with your towels. You will be able to see what you have and USE what you have. I love having a toiletry pantry. Then everything you use outside of the bathroom, like moisturizer , deodorant, facial products, make-up should be contained in your room where you get dry and dressed. I hope this is not bombarding you, I guess what I am trying to say is now that you have decluttered your beauty products SO WELL, the next step is to organise them. I find it easy to decide how to organise by asking... Where do I use you? Or where else do I already store products of a similar purpose? Or where do I always go to look for you and why are you not being stored there ? 5. Take out the trash from the project you are tackling, just like you did in this video. Don't let the trash and charity bags pile up for days that turn into weeks. And eventually just return back into your house for you to have to remake all those decisions you've already made. 6. Make running to the charity drop off point a habit. Just get used to driving there . This is often the most difficult part. Actually getting rid of it. Make that charity trip a habit. Simply Libby ONE DAY at a time. As you can see, all my points of advice are things you are already doing. Keep pulling different techniques at different times through the project and you will develop your own style of decluttering and looking after and loving all the things you have deliberately chosen to keep in your home and your life. You are doing brilliantly. I am so inspired by you and your journey. Decluttering is therapy and the weightlessness it brings is addictive. Don't rush it and do make the most of it to get the most out of it xxx so excited to see another video from you. Well done you should be super proud of yourself ❤ Emma
You are doing it! One hallway, one shelf, one day at a time. Marie Kondo - her folding method is terrific. Finding joy - as you said that could change every day. But look what you did....you cleared a hallway! Great job....keep going and breathe deeply.
My issue with Marie Kondo's method is I am more utilitarian about things or when I think about getting rid of something my brain goes "well, I'll keep it for this occasion" Work clothes don't bring joy but I need them
With my sons baby clothes, I gave them all to a former student who was having a baby and literally had nothing. She was so thankful and honestly it made it so much easier to give to someone who truly needed it.
As another single mom I am sobbing right along with you when you talked about nobody else having the memories of all the stages of your child. I so recognize that, thank you for giving me the words for those feelings. Also totally with you about the depression/joy thing. A lot of declutter coaches want to say "when in doubt, throw it out" BUT for me, when in doubt, I keep it (for now). Because I can't trust my own feelings half the time. I definitely declutter in layers so maybe next time it will go. Or the time after that. I refuse to put more stress on myself by making decisions that can't be reversed. Once I started being gentle with myself about that, decluttering actually got easier for some reason. 💕
I felt you when you were talking about letting go of your sons baby clothes. I went through the same feelings, hanging on to a lot of newborn clothes because my mother had knitted so much for her grandchild. Love in every stitch. At the age of 40 I was loathe to let them go but realised I would not now be having another child. I eventually donated the items to a friend who worked for a charity sending baby clothing to Belarus. I thought they were made with love, I let them go with love and hopefully the mother who receives them will feel that love too. It was a huge step. However I did it. I am now at another phase. It took me ages to let go of my daughters clothing when she died some years later aged 16. My husband died two years ago now and I am just starting the declutter and removing his clothing and items bit by tiny bit. My life is starting a new chapter, me and my dogs. We all experience so many changes in life, it takes courage to let go, but we must to help ourselves thrive in new environment. Clothing holds so much attachment and memories. Great job and video. Thank you for sharing.
I get it with the baby and kid clothes but I have to say that I finally jumped in and got rid of most of them. I saved a few favorites. I brought most of them to a kid’s clothing resale shop. They give “credit” on new (used) clothes in my kid’s current sizes. I have also sold some on Marketplace and donated a bunch. It FEELS SOOO good to have the space! I know it’s SO easy to buy clothes really inexpensively at the resale shops, garage sales, or on Marketplace. I even got to test this out three years ago. My youngest two children, out of five, are adopted. When my youngest was 10 years old, we got a call that her newborn baby sister needed a foster home. We took her in and she was with us for three months. We had nothing left for a baby and my adult daughter put out the word that we needed baby stuff, and it absolutely poured in! Between that, and picking up some things at the resale shop, and on marketplace, I had no problem clothing that sweet baby girl. And it didn’t cost very much!! So, as far as saving clothes for another child, consider the space that you’re saving, essentially space that you’re having to pay rent on. You’ll be much better off in the long run to be able to have a smaller space and not store all the clothes and buy things in the future for a new baby. Your kitties are adorable!!
I know I’m 2 months late but I’m an overly sentimental mom. My husband and I lost a child to brain cancer at 17 months old. We kept a few pieces from each size that meant something special to us including blankets and then we donated the rest to women and children’s shelters because some of those women left with nothing to save them and their babies so it gave me comfort to help another mama and not just go to a goodwill. ❤
You could make a quilt out of the clothes of your child that are too small for him but you can’t say goodbye to. Thank you for this video, honest and just how it is. You did a good job 💪🏼👌Cheers from the Netherlands.
I just recently became aware of your channel. I truly appreciate someone with a real declutter and not a staged one. Very relatable. I know you’ve had lots of ideas about the baby clothes, but I am a seamstress and think a quilt with your favorites would keep you warm for years to come. If you can donate that would be nice but don’t feel guilty if you chose not to. You don’t owe it to anyone. Take care of your own heart ❤️.
I just came across your video, it's hard to let things go when they are your childs but what you have to remember is you will always have the memories in your heart ❤and nobody can ever take the memories away from you,I do understand as a mother myself but doing a little at a time is easier every time you do it. Well done to you sweetheart with love all the way from England😘
You did an amazing job - just amazing. Marie Kondo also adds - things that bring you joy - and things you need! You don't have to donate the broom because it doesn't make you want to dance with joy - but she would like us to respect the items we do have and treat them well. I find when you have too much it's difficult to care properly for all you have - especially when it gets to a place where you have so much you don't know what you have. Personally, I think you ought to just hold on to the fabulous job you did in your hall and keep on telling yourself how wonderful and capable you are 😊
Thank you so much for making and sharing this video. You being so honest and transparent is changing so many people’s lives! I have gone through depression in many periods of my life, so I really relate to what you’re going through. I think that letting things that does not fill a purpose in your life now is good. If things are hard to part with, then just wait. Time really is a friend when it comes to decluttering. Am excited to follow you further. Love from Norway ❤️
With your sons baby clothes you can make a blanket/ quilt or get someone to make it. That can be a memory of all of the times. My mom did this with our shirts from schools and special things we were apart of during school.
I suggest listening to Dana K. White, especially on the container concept. Her way of decluttering without emotion getting in the way is genius and oh so helpful!
I love Dana K White. She's not a minimalist, because that's too much. And she's more practical than Marie Kondo. I read the intro to Kondo's second book where she talks about how she threw out her hammer because it didn't bring her joy and then broke the heel of a favorite pair of shoes trying to use it as a hammer! I decided she was a moron. Dana has no-nonsense compassion, which I love
I find having less brings me joy . It’s the less stuff and the mental space it uses to control it given back . Suffered with anxiety myself has taken years to get to this point but i wish I’d learnt it earlier .
WELL DONE YOU ON DECLUTTERING YOUR SON'S CLOTHES!!! I'm seriously meaning that from the bottom of my heart, well done. I'm not a single mam, so I can't fully understand your difficulty but there was a time in my life when I kept all my kids clothes (I have a now 9 year old boy and a 8 year old girl). But one day I just thought to myself if I keep it all nothing is really special. I worked through it, it took a long time, not because of how much there was but having to deal with the emotion to go along with it. I ended up keeping just the really special, their first outfit, first shoes, their christening outfits and the outfits that they wore when they were page boy and flower girl to my brother's wedding.
I totally agree. The declutting never ends. I have OCD and it is so overwhelming and time-consuming. I love your kitties. The dogs are so cute, too. I have 3 cats.
I feel you! Chronic depression since childhood means very little actually brings me joy. That said, I get emotional about skin care stuff bc it represents non optimal nap self care. Mental health is weird!
Thank you for allowing us into your space and openly sharing you have depression...i was recently diagnosed with depression also...and yep every day brings new challenges...conrats to you...
Hello from Maine! Great job!! You will be able to breathe so much better now! I love animals, but I cannot deal with their dander anymore! I loved how patient your dog was with you. Just sniffing everything. Thank you for the motivation to get my own hallway clean lol Have a great day!!
i don't do "bring joy". especially not for bathroom items. for me it's do I use it, do I like it (fits well, like the scent etc)? that takes care of most choices. clothes don't bring me joy. they are necessary. the things that bring me the least joy are the things I have to keep - dress clothes or work clothes. whereas I need to keep basic everyday stuff, so I go for how does it fit? have i grabbed it recently or never do. I also found that it helps to have a bin near by for donation throughout the year. then when I'm getting dressed and I see something and think "i hate that", in the bin it goes! no extra thought needed. i heard someone say "if I get rid of it and regret it, can it be replaced in 5 minutes for $5?" so inexpensive easy to replace things can be gotten rid of more easily. Something your child wore or made, can't be replaced, so it needs more thought. my kids have save boxes, i have saved a few clothing items from each stage. I eventually valued the space more than the need to keep the clothes, so I consigned them. but I have pictures of them in the clothes I like. and one baby dress does hang on my 11 year old's wall :).
Yes I struggle with all of the above so I can tend to horde. I moved from a large house to a small flat and had to get rid of half of my stuff. Started by getting rid of duplicate items, items that you no longer use or ware donate. Keep items you love then when you are about to move relook at the items to see if there is anything else you can do without. It worked for me a cleared a huge amount but like you I have not tackled the toiletries this has given me the nudge to get on with it. Good luck with your new move xxx 📦📦
i actually don't do the Marie Kondo thing. I am sentimental and like everything brings me "joy". I have to use the no Mess Decluttering Method by a Slob Comes Clean. no emotions to overcome. Good job and Good luck!
Hi, you are doing great getting started. Saw this on another channel with a person struggling with memories attached to clothes and not being able to let go. She took a picture of the item as a keepsake, but let go of the physical object; maybe that could help?
My son And daughter are 15 and 12 and I’m just going through and getting rid of baby clothes. It is so emotional. I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s hard to separate the memories from the actual items. My best advice is to go at a pace that’s comfortable for you. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel or what time frame you need to follow. For me as I starting letting go some items it got easier. I’ve paired it down to my my favorite pieces and still have way too many bins! At least for my own goals. Good luck and stay strong ❤️
Aw, you don't have to explain that feeling of wanting to hold onto every precious memory/moment. I'm the same way 💙 I might not need to keep these clothes because I have my beautiful boy but, my heart runs on the lyrics to Don't Throw Out My Legos 😢 Would you consider, maybe, getting the items turned into a beautiful quilt? It could be yours until he's grown up and then you can gift it to him. That's what I'm thinking of doing 🥰
I also have depression and instead of thinking if sth brings me joy I usually ask myself if it makes me feel a little better. For example, I have candles in my room , and I light them when I want to make my room feel cozy. Of course those candles don’t bring me enough happiness to cure depression but they make life suck a little less so I keep them and use them
Keep what you really like, and will use. What I do is for instance stuff like extra soaps...put everything "in the front" even stack them on a shelf counter cabinet etc. where you see it front and center and don't buy new until you use it. Also sort by category for time of use. Morning. Night. "Sick". Etc
Also! Re: baby and kid clothes, consider keeping one or two things you or he really loved from that size. I do this with clothes for my girls. The rest I sent to a local baby and mom cafe, so I knew all of it was going to good homes. That helps the process of letting go. The Marie Kondo method really helped me grapple with my emotional connection to my stuff. In terms of toiletries and products, it's less of a 'spark joy' thing than a 'will this get used' thing. Doing KonMari forced me to confront whether or not I would use something. If the answer was no, it was simple to toss. If the answer was yes, I had new incentive to use it more often, which frequently did end up sparking joy. I hope this helps? I know you're going through such a tough time. Blessings and good vibes.
I like the Dana K. White method of decluttering because it takes the emotions out of the process. I could never grasp the Marie Kondo method because few items "spark joy" especially when depressed
I have always been the same way with my son's clothes. Of course, he's 37 now, but sometimes I still ask him to give me a shirt he really loves when he's gotten tired of it. As for baby clothes up through high school, I just paired them down to the really special ones. What I brought him home from the hospital in, his first church suit, etc. I keep everything in an old suitcase I bought when he was about 5. Now he has a son of his own...... I still hold those little clothes of my baby & cry. You cry if you need to, Momma. Those clothes hold a ton of memories. I was a single mom, too.💖💖💖
clothes has no memorys your heart has ,all the joy of his every step of the way all stored inside you not in your boxes , keep all the love there and declutter
you'll always have the memories ❤ ik personally getting rid of the sentimental is hard but maybe turning some of his old clothes into a blanket works for you or framing some of it so you can keep it and honor that time but not feel the pressure to keep all of it. it takes time and is a process ❤✨
Hi lovely, new subscriber here. Im in a similar situation as yourself so glad to find inspiration. Your doing amazing and already ive seen great recommendations in the comments. Looking forward to following your progress. ❤
I don't think about the item giving me joy anymore. I get too emotional about stuff! I think about the space. If I get rid of this will I have space to line things up or will it be easier to find things. That gives me joy. Having a place for everything now gives me joy now. Feeling less anxiety about the clutter and mess, create space for joy. I felt your sons clothes tho, it's so hard!
I use the, if i haven't used it in a year, its gone method. I also dont want to spend my whole weekend cleaning so i try to keep things simple. You will find what works for you 😊 try different things.
Keep one baby outfit and donate the rest he has grown out of. Okay, when I was in the midst of a move from America to Australia, I had a year to go through all of my household goods, books and more. I ended up giving away ninety five percent of everything away to my daughters, a former sister in law and a dear friend. The books and a few things I was keeping were shipped overseas where my husband paid for the customs. The last three percent was donated, recycled or trashed with two percent coming with me in my luggage. It was not an easy task but I found it helped to lay everything from my various rooms on the living room floor to sort through. Being able to see it all was a huge help. And after eight years of living down here, my husband and I are prepping to move to a new apartment home. I am going through all our stuff and asking my husband's opinion on what he wants to keep from his things.
I look at a lot of things I have and break it down to "want" vs. "need". It is easier for me to donate items when I remember there is someone who needs things I am no longer using. (For example, I donated a huge amount of beloved clothes and shoes that didn't fit or I no longer needed since I retired and were impossible for me to wear - shoes- dues to physical issues.) It is hard but many of your belongings are "things" that are cluttering your life and stopping you from moving forward. Good luck!
For the soaps maybe ask your local women's shelter. For your son's clothes: make a large box with the most special clothes from all stages. Then make a second one with all the clothes that are not that soecial but that you still wanna keep.
I don’t use the Marie Kondo method. It absolutely overwhelms me but I know it does work for a lot of people. I like Dana K. White’s methods. It’s really straightforward. 😊
I too had a very bad time giving my daughters clothes away she is 16 now. I put my absolute favorites in 2 totes and one day I will have a quilt made. ❤ also the soap and items you have bought but don’t use…find a woman’s shelter to give them to. That will make you feel good! You are doing an awesome job! ❤
I'm a single mom myself. My daughter is now 33 and married. I can totally relate with you on many levels. Maybe take different stages of life with the items, and make a video explaining what was going on at the time. And save a few favorites. I saved my daughters take home outfit and her favorite outfit when she was growing up. The video helps a lot. The items may be gone but the video is what I enjoy. Memories that would not be triggered without the items. Or maybe it would but I can always relive watching the video.
Hi darling! I am 59 and I too only had one child and wanted to hold onto his clothes because I felt they were a piece of him and memories of him. However I finally did go through them I think when he was 13?? Suggestion get one bin a large one if you want and keep only the most special ones and put only will fit in that bin. I did that and as the years went but I went through it every so often and got rid of more but by bit. You are doing great kudos! 💜
Found your channel today and I'm feeling your gentle soul ❤. Regarding your question, I wouldn't try the Marie method. I love Dana K. White principles. She has a channel if you'd like to see. For sentimental clothes like your son's, similar to what others have already said picking one or two of specific stages, taking pictures, even a video that you can keep just to yourself if you want it private, where you show yourself each of your sons piece of clothing, that could be another way to "store" the memory. Kind of like a "haul" video of your son's clothing. 💕
You can always put a set in those hollow picture frames (google Framing Clothes) and some people do them really nice for inspiration and after that the rest can be donated or maybe frame a few keep a few (per age group as mentioned in comments) and donate the rest
Love the one bag at time.Hubby just retired after about 45 years of 10 hour physical work.We just tore down metal shed,had to cut to haul and the big frame...Lots of work.We did a bit each day..Next a new Amish barn coming.Taking it slow and getting rid of more stuff!
Instead of asking if something brings you joy, consider more if it gives you negative feelings. There is no reason to keep things that remind you of times you hated, people you no longer like, or make you feel fat, ugly, uncomfortable, or guilty... even if its a thought like "this would be great if I were... neater/thinner/younger/smarter/whatever". I struggle with knowing how much I spent on something that I don't want to keep. But then I think of it as I'm paying rent to store that thing I don't even want and I would rather something else in the space it occupies. In my opinion, the only good thing about the Marie Kondo way is gathering like items together before deciding what to keep and what to purge. Its much easier to declutter is you see you have 3 of something that 1 would be sufficient. Big decluttering like this is hard, but it teaches you so much about acquiring things and helps you make better decisions about what comes into your home going forward.
If you don’t use it… lose it. I know it is hard but it’s the only way to get rid of the clutter! And great job! Keep going😊💕I used to keep all of my daughter’s clothes too. I have three daughters. I decided to keep some very special pieces (1st birthday dresses, baptism hats, and first shoes, etc)and donate the rest.
I also cried when I let go of their things. You are crying because that time in your life with them at that age is over. Your son is only nine so you have a lot more time with him and you need space for his current clothing💕
My daughter is almost an adult now and time does fly❤❤❤ but keep the clothes that mean absolute most to you and give the rest away because trust me when I say looking at the pictures from when she was little, brings back all the memories. I have also been a single mom from before she was even born, and that was a gift in its own way.❤❤❤
12:07 - Love these channels for more simple methods of cleaning / decluttering Clutterbug (4 types of organizations) Minimal Mom (Do you want the clutter or prime real estate Carla Project (one item, one section at a time) That Awkward Mom (do what works for you) I love KonMari but Honestly these 4 other women have been very helpful with finding other ways to declutter, teaching on container methods, on method to focus one piece of a time, finding out ones way of cleaning / organization, whether one wants the space or the clutter... they really help put things into perspective if you haven't seen their channels I highly recommend them.
Overly sentimental person here. I had a really, really hard time giving away my kids baby clothes. I did allow myself to keep certain pieces. Things I would maybe want to pass to my grandchildren. I have heard of people having quilts or stuffed animals made from old baby clothes they were attached to. I am glad your video popped up for me to watch. I liked and subscribed.
I saved a few things from each size my baby’s was in and I still have them I’m never letting go of them every time I see them I cry so I understand but that’s what helped me get ride of a lot of them and get through them frl❤❤❤❤
I really like decluttering videos, and honestly one of the most common items people hold on to are baby clothes. I think it's understandable why. You aren't being "overly-sentimental" just regular "sentimental" which in itself is not a bad thing to be. Sounds like things have been really rough, too. Give yourself credit. Anyway, for extra sentimental items you don't have to get rid of everything, and the things you do decide to get rid of, you can take pictures of. Something tells me that with or without the clothes, you will still have all those memories - but having photos on your computer to look through never hurt ;) Best of luck to you!
I suggest you keep two pieces from each age , and be smart picking the unique ones so his kids can be blessed using them 👍🏻including the penguin hat ..so cute, he still needs you and you still adore him 🤎🙏🌹and he will always be your baby
I loosely follow Marie Kondo. I suggest, rather than “bring you joy”, that the items you keep “serve their purpose”. Do you use them on a regular basis and are they in good repair/usable condition? My snow blower does not bring me joy in the nice weather, but it serves its purpose when it needs to. A piece of clothing that fits me and I wear on a regular basis is a keeper, as well as the old concert T-shirt that makes me smile whenever I see it. Good luck with your declutter journey! Keep in mind that it takes time and be kind to yourself along the way.😁
I'm a sentimental keeper of birthday cards, etc. Baby clothes. Hard to get rid of things. Even clothes, if someone I care about gave it to me as a gift, I have a hard time getting rid of. Then, nowadays, everything everything is so much more expensive, hard to get rid of things you paid hard earned money for. Bottom line, think real hard before you buy things. Use to be brought alot of craft things, and never had no time to relax, and make anything. What was I thinking, 😢. Old clothes, I need to purge, gain alot of weight. Lol but its really not funny. Trying to lose,its hard. Love watching you declutter, it inspires, me to get rid of things. Have a wonderful blessed day. 😊
Hi from the 🇬🇧 My mum always put soap in her knickers/nightie drawer, i always thought that was a bit bonkers, I'm now 58 and do exactly the same lol.... makes everything smell gorgeous
I allow myself one small bin of the kids' stuff, and one small bin of my own mementos. Start with a bin size you're comfortable with and shrink it down over time. As far as Marie Kondo goes I couldn't get with the sparking joy thing, but decluttering in categories worked great for me. I know you said you have a deadline for decluttering because you're going to move, but don't be too hard on yourself. Maybe map out time each week to work on areas or categories and know you'll likely need to go over the same areas and categories multiple times before you're done. You got this though. One day at a time. One step at a time. Perhaps also keep track of how many loads of stuff go to charity, or the dump, or wherever. It felt good at the end of my decluttering to say we did 16 carloads to Goodwill, 7 carloads to a women's shelter, over 180+ online sales, etc. Seeing what you accomplished helps along the way.
Celebrate the small wins they gice you momentum. And when you observe the feeling when you see an empty space or box acknowledge the feeling embrace it.
Let it go! I also held on to my son’s clothes for years. Why?Why?Why? So, being over sentimental also…I kept three most loved articles and donated the rest. Yes, let someone else use and make memories with it. ❤ Decluttering will pay off as you progress. But letting go is the healthiest. Also…winning idea!!! Take photos before you donate. There will be your personal memories. Visualize YOUR future. What do YOU really want? Dwell on that. Let it go! This advice is shared to you by a 73 yr old who has seen and experienced much of what you are going through. Blessings and strength to you.
I was a single mom till my oldest was 10 yrs old. I took pictures of their clothes, that I had big memories of, and donated them to a shelter for moms and their children getting out of abusive homes. It made me feel so good...❤
Oh my gosh this will be me!! Single mom by choice but what a good idea thank you!! My little isn’t here yet after 2 natural miscarriages and $22k of IVF I’m still paying off…I already know I’ll want to keep every single thing like I do w my dogs!! So I’ll keep this in mind ❤
That's what I do with my kids old stuff and it really helps my daughter to think that she is going to make another kid super happy with the stuff she isn't using anymore.
Your doggy wanting to comfort you when you were crying. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ They are the best!
Maybe separate your son’s clothes into age groups and allow yourself 2 or 3 items from each age group to save as keepsakes.
That is a great idea!
Also take pictures of your favorites that you aren’t keeping. ❤️
I’ve also seen people make blankets out of special clothing that they want to keep the memories of
@@KristyRNI feel this is a great idea for libby
I don't know if you've seen her, but there's a lady here on TH-cam that teaches declutering and she's got several books about it, but her name is Dana k.White and she came up with a method of getting her house under control while having an overwhelming amount of stuff and four kids. And even though I don't have kids a lot of her methods have helped me deal with my home when it gets overwhelming.
Use it or lose it ! It’s the only way if you truly want to declutter. The memories are not in the clothing, they are in your head. You won’t lose them. If you don’t let go of the past how do you make room for the future ?
I told myself this for some stuff but my memory has suffered so much after becoming a mom and being sleep deprived for years that I wish I did keep some stuff :/ or at least took photos
Your amazing. I've done a first pass through. I continue to take a second and third pass. I love it. I'm 64 and want to clear things out for my adult children.
If you keep decluttering, I’ll keep watching!
It's nice seeing content from a normal human with a normal house... instead of these pintrest perfect content creators that end up making you feel worse about your life.
When it comes to my kids' clothes, I've kept a few special pieces from when they were babies. The rest was donated. I've been on a decluttering journey over this last year and it's such a freeing feeling!
I know. So many videos show perfect homes. I don't know anyone like that so it probably staged
Make your son a memory bin and when u find a memory add it to the bin then it is all in one spot. Have a donate box somewhere and when u find something u don't want or need put it in the box. That helps us get a lot out of the house. You are doing fantastic! Congrats!
Oh this is a FANTASTIC idea!
yes, I have one for my son too.
7:10 our neighbors had their daughters baby clothes made into a quilt by an Etsy maker. That allowed them to let go of her clothes while still seeing a piece of their special memories every day.
I have squares of my families clothing all waiting to be a family quilt.. someday.
Love this idea. There is an online site that can turn tshirts into a quilt.
Being a single mom is super hard and I can totally relate. But like you said, you got through it. Letting go of that clothes is a great way to let go of that hard time. Making room for new memories and for you and your child to grow in a clutter free home will be so great! Children do thrive with less. I hope that you're able to be able to look forward to new memories and let go of the old ones. Sending nothing but love and prayers. ❤
I think everyone struggles with depression from time to time especially when there’s a massive change like you’re experiencing now. I hope your life brings you happiness and calm in the future. ❤
I am stopping the video 6 minutes in to add something you may soon address having a solution for, but when I felt I needed to let go of my kids' things (currently 16 and 19) when they were little, I found small roller suitcases helped a lot. I bought 2 cheap ones from 2nd hand stores and decided I could keep whatever I wanted as long as it fit in their suitcase. It so helped me find my absolute favorites because I couldn't keep everything. Their baby journals, the outfits they came home from the hospital in, favorite books I read to them, mementos from family, a favorite toy or two... That kind of thing. You are doing a great job! Much love and support. My weakness was their art. I have 3 ring binders filled with all the things they painted or colored. Just do what feels good to you and eases your Mama heart in this declutter process.
Libby, you are not alone! Especially with the kid’s clothes. I didn’t get rid of my son’s clothes until he was 16. I didn’t get rid of his stroller and high chair until he was 16. 16!!!! I moved all of that stuff through 4 houses! We wanted more kids but couldn’t have any more. What helped me get rid of stuff was giving things to friends and family that were expecting. Knowing his stuff was going to people I cared about really helped me. I kept a few key things like the outfit he wore when we brought him home, his baptism clothes, a favorite shirt….My son is 19 now and I realize I was holding on to the memory of his childhood, but seeing him grow into a young man is exciting too. Hugs to you! You are doing so awesome and take it one day at a time! 💗
I was the same, I kept my daughters buggy in the loft such lovely memories that I didn’t want to let go of it. I finally got rid of it when she was 14 😅she’s 21 now. I was 42 when I had her and I was so happy and loved every minute of her babyhood. I never had any more so I think I cling onto memories
I had a soap problem along with backups for my backups. I gave a bin full of all soaps and extra shampoo, etc to a homeless shelter. They were so happy to get it! You could give baby clothes to a womens shelter. I find giving directly to an organization that will use it immediately.
I literally didnt think about shelters until you guys started suggesting them! Thank you!
I have a soap problem too. I love bar soap. I've got enough soap for the next 5 years minimum. Okay, maybe close to 7-10. I stopped buying soap but giving it up is a different story. I do use it constantly though
@@1whitecottagelife770 bar soap doesn't go bad! Even if it's old and cracked, it will lather up. And the brick shape makes it easy to store.
@@jenniferpearce1052 And if you're worried about germs in the cracks, just shave it off! Bar soap literally cleans itself with use.
Decluttering happens in layers. As you experience the benefits, you get more confident, and you feel safe, you will begin to want to let go of more. You did great today! I'm looking forward to going on this journey with you.
You would probably enjoy Remi Clog if you aren't already following her. I think you could relate in part to her struggles. I enjoy her process too. Great work! You can do this!
Ooo ill have to check them out! Thank you!
@RemiClog
Hi Libby and Marilyn.. i totally agree Remi is super great!! i'm a bit late to the comments its now feb. 25.. i %100 recommend RemiColg's channel.. she's just so calming and totally honest about her own struggles.. glad i found this channel as well..💜🖤💙🤍
Remi clog is my favorite lady of cleaning and decluttering across the pond. There are a lot of others here in the USA who also are awesome. Dana K. White.. love her and The Minimal Mom...look up specific video of "The silent to do list."
I’m so glad to see that you actually take things (trash bags and donations) out of the house at the end. It’s sad when I see other people stockpiling things to take out “later” but not actually do it. Keep up the good work. You do great!
This is my BIGGEST problem!! So i made it a point that I cant post the video until ive taken all items out of the house 🤣 thank you for noticing ❤️
@@SimplyLibbytwhat a great strategy. I need to take notes 😂
I have depression too. I also struggle with getting rid of things and you’re totally right. What brings me joy one day may not the next. Hang in there.
I hear you about baby clothes. When I decluttered, I set aside one box per child and kept the best of the best and donated the rest.
I love this! Ill definitely keep it in mind when im downsozing.
I struggle with mental health and when I became a minimalist it got so much better. A decluttered home is a decluttered mind. I hope this helps
Oh my word I'm so proud of you !!!
You did such an exceptional job at that hallway.
You will develop your own decluttering strategy by trial and error. You are already honing in on that strategy.
My advice is:
1. Do whatever is irritating you the most. An area you use all the time. Your hallway was the perfect choice like you said you woke up to all those unmade decisions, waiting to be made, greeting you multiple times every day. Great choice. Looking forward to what spot you choose next 👍 keep it achievable. One shelf, one corner at a time.
2. Don't throw/give away any containers, baskets, boxes (unless broken) that you empty while you declutter. Stack them up. You may find them useful for other things you CHOOSE to keep. (Like the nail products). Plus you are looking to move and need to pack eventually.
3. The marie kondo method. I use as my last resort when going through my things. Its a process of elimination. Use the easy questions first. Are you broken? Do you work? Are you expired? Do i like you ? Am I still using it? Can I store it away appropriately? Is it easy to clean ?
If i still havent decided after all those questions i will geniuinely take a moment and ask myself ... Do you bring me joy ? Yes ok 👌 No - thank you and move on now. That is the only part of the kondo method i use and i use it as my final card. Although the ... Are you easy to clean ... And... Can i store you away properly... Usually seal the deal 🤝
With regards to your son's clothes. You did an excellent job on that box ❤ keep what you love most and donate the rest xxx let the emotions flow and thank them. But keep what you love the MOST. Items that bring good memories back to you.
4. Toothpaste, toilet paper, soaps, shampoos all the bathing showering toiletries should go in the cupboard with your towels. You will be able to see what you have and USE what you have. I love having a toiletry pantry.
Then everything you use outside of the bathroom, like moisturizer , deodorant, facial products, make-up should be contained in your room where you get dry and dressed.
I hope this is not bombarding you, I guess what I am trying to say is now that you have decluttered your beauty products SO WELL, the next step is to organise them. I find it easy to decide how to organise by asking... Where do I use you? Or where else do I already store products of a similar purpose? Or where do I always go to look for you and why are you not being stored there ?
5. Take out the trash from the project you are tackling, just like you did in this video. Don't let the trash and charity bags pile up for days that turn into weeks. And eventually just return back into your house for you to have to remake all those decisions you've already made.
6. Make running to the charity drop off point a habit. Just get used to driving there . This is often the most difficult part. Actually getting rid of it. Make that charity trip a habit.
Simply Libby ONE DAY at a time. As you can see, all my points of advice are things you are already doing. Keep pulling different techniques at different times through the project and you will develop your own style of decluttering and looking after and loving all the things you have deliberately chosen to keep in your home and your life. You are doing brilliantly. I am so inspired by you and your journey. Decluttering is therapy and the weightlessness it brings is addictive. Don't rush it and do make the most of it to get the most out of it xxx so excited to see another video from you. Well done you should be super proud of yourself ❤ Emma
Thank you for these great suggestions. I will use some to further my declutter in progress❤
Definitley not bombarding me! I love these suggestions!! Thank you for taking the time to be so kind❤️
The way your fur babies were always beside you when you were upset. 🥺
Arent they the best?! 😭
You are doing it! One hallway, one shelf, one day at a time. Marie Kondo - her folding method is terrific. Finding joy - as you said that could change every day. But look what you did....you cleared a hallway! Great job....keep going and breathe deeply.
My issue with Marie Kondo's method is I am more utilitarian about things or when I think about getting rid of something my brain goes "well, I'll keep it for this occasion" Work clothes don't bring joy but I need them
With my sons baby clothes, I gave them all to a former student who was having a baby and literally had nothing. She was so thankful and honestly it made it so much easier to give to someone who truly needed it.
As another single mom I am sobbing right along with you when you talked about nobody else having the memories of all the stages of your child. I so recognize that, thank you for giving me the words for those feelings. Also totally with you about the depression/joy thing. A lot of declutter coaches want to say "when in doubt, throw it out" BUT for me, when in doubt, I keep it (for now). Because I can't trust my own feelings half the time. I definitely declutter in layers so maybe next time it will go. Or the time after that. I refuse to put more stress on myself by making decisions that can't be reversed. Once I started being gentle with myself about that, decluttering actually got easier for some reason. 💕
You are such a loving person. I love how the pets are trying to make you feel better! So adorable!
They are so sweet to me 😭 thank you!
I felt you when you were talking about letting go of your sons baby clothes. I went through the same feelings, hanging on to a lot of newborn clothes because my mother had knitted so much for her grandchild. Love in every stitch. At the age of 40 I was loathe to let them go but realised I would not now be having another child. I eventually donated the items to a friend who worked for a charity sending baby clothing to Belarus. I thought they were made with love, I let them go with love and hopefully the mother who receives them will feel that love too. It was a huge step. However I did it. I am now at another phase. It took me ages to let go of my daughters clothing when she died some years later aged 16. My husband died two years ago now and I am just starting the declutter and removing his clothing and items bit by tiny bit. My life is starting a new chapter, me and my dogs. We all experience so many changes in life, it takes courage to let go, but we must to help ourselves thrive in new environment. Clothing holds so much attachment and memories. Great job and video. Thank you for sharing.
I get it with the baby and kid clothes but I have to say that I finally jumped in and got rid of most of them. I saved a few favorites. I brought most of them to a kid’s clothing resale shop. They give “credit” on new (used) clothes in my kid’s current sizes. I have also sold some on Marketplace and donated a bunch. It FEELS SOOO good to have the space! I know it’s SO easy to buy clothes really inexpensively at the resale shops, garage sales, or on Marketplace. I even got to test this out three years ago. My youngest two children, out of five, are adopted. When my youngest was 10 years old, we got a call that her newborn baby sister needed a foster home. We took her in and she was with us for three months. We had nothing left for a baby and my adult daughter put out the word that we needed baby stuff, and it absolutely poured in! Between that, and picking up some things at the resale shop, and on marketplace, I had no problem clothing that sweet baby girl. And it didn’t cost very much!! So, as far as saving clothes for another child, consider the space that you’re saving, essentially space that you’re having to pay rent on. You’ll be much better off in the long run to be able to have a smaller space and not store all the clothes and buy things in the future for a new baby. Your kitties are adorable!!
Well done!!!! Just subscribed. great to see a normal woman with a normal house, thank you x
I know I’m 2 months late but I’m an overly sentimental mom. My husband and I lost a child to brain cancer at 17 months old. We kept a few pieces from each size that meant something special to us including blankets and then we donated the rest to women and children’s shelters because some of those women left with nothing to save them and their babies so it gave me comfort to help another mama and not just go to a goodwill. ❤
You could make a quilt out of the clothes of your child that are too small for him but you can’t say goodbye to. Thank you for this video, honest and just how it is. You did a good job 💪🏼👌Cheers from the Netherlands.
I just recently became aware of your channel. I truly appreciate someone with a real declutter and not a staged one. Very relatable. I know you’ve had lots of ideas about the baby clothes, but I am a seamstress and think a quilt with your favorites would keep you warm for years to come. If you can donate that would be nice but don’t feel guilty if you chose not to. You don’t owe it to anyone. Take care of your own heart ❤️.
Your son is very lucky to have such a loving mom.
I love this concept of decluttering one garbage bag at a time - I'm going to use this! Thank you ❤
I just came across your video, it's hard to let things go when they are your childs but what you have to remember is you will always have the memories in your heart ❤and nobody can ever take the memories away from you,I do understand as a mother myself but doing a little at a time is easier every time you do it. Well done to you sweetheart with love all the way from England😘
You did an amazing job - just amazing. Marie Kondo also adds - things that bring you joy - and things you need! You don't have to donate the broom because it doesn't make you want to dance with joy - but she would like us to respect the items we do have and treat them well. I find when you have too much it's difficult to care properly for all you have - especially when it gets to a place where you have so much you don't know what you have. Personally, I think you ought to just hold on to the fabulous job you did in your hall and keep on telling yourself how wonderful and capable you are 😊
Thank you so much for making and sharing this video. You being so honest and transparent is changing so many people’s lives! I have gone through depression in many periods of my life, so I really relate to what you’re going through. I think that letting things that does not fill a purpose in your life now is good. If things are hard to part with, then just wait. Time really is a friend when it comes to decluttering. Am excited to follow you further. Love from Norway ❤️
With your sons baby clothes you can make a blanket/ quilt or get someone to make it. That can be a memory of all of the times. My mom did this with our shirts from schools and special things we were apart of during school.
you did amazing!! remember this is a process. When stuck, continue with random stuff that does not make you go into a spiral of memories.
I suggest listening to Dana K. White, especially on the container concept. Her way of decluttering without emotion getting in the way is genius and oh so helpful!
I love Dana K White. She's not a minimalist, because that's too much. And she's more practical than Marie Kondo. I read the intro to Kondo's second book where she talks about how she threw out her hammer because it didn't bring her joy and then broke the heel of a favorite pair of shoes trying to use it as a hammer! I decided she was a moron. Dana has no-nonsense compassion, which I love
@@jenniferpearce1052 lol what the hell this is hilarious ahahahahahahahahah
I find having less brings me joy . It’s the less stuff and the mental space it uses to control it given back . Suffered with anxiety myself has taken years to get to this point but i wish I’d learnt it earlier .
Same! Feel much less anxious with lots gone to donations for charity. Still trying to declutter clothing ❤
WELL DONE YOU ON DECLUTTERING YOUR SON'S CLOTHES!!! I'm seriously meaning that from the bottom of my heart, well done.
I'm not a single mam, so I can't fully understand your difficulty but there was a time in my life when I kept all my kids clothes (I have a now 9 year old boy and a 8 year old girl). But one day I just thought to myself if I keep it all nothing is really special. I worked through it, it took a long time, not because of how much there was but having to deal with the emotion to go along with it. I ended up keeping just the really special, their first outfit, first shoes, their christening outfits and the outfits that they wore when they were page boy and flower girl to my brother's wedding.
I totally agree. The declutting never ends. I have OCD and it is so overwhelming and time-consuming. I love your kitties. The dogs are so cute, too. I have 3 cats.
Hahaha..Marie Kondo method. I too suffer from depression. If i followed her method and kept only what brings me joy...id have my bed and my dog lol
I feel you! Chronic depression since childhood means very little actually brings me joy. That said, I get emotional about skin care stuff bc it represents non optimal nap self care. Mental health is weird!
Thank you for allowing us into your space and openly sharing you have depression...i was recently diagnosed with depression also...and yep every day brings new challenges...conrats to you...
Hello from Maine! Great job!! You will be able to breathe so much better now! I love animals, but I cannot deal with their dander anymore! I loved how patient your dog was with you. Just sniffing everything. Thank you for the motivation to get my own hallway clean lol Have a great day!!
i don't do "bring joy". especially not for bathroom items. for me it's do I use it, do I like it (fits well, like the scent etc)? that takes care of most choices. clothes don't bring me joy. they are necessary. the things that bring me the least joy are the things I have to keep - dress clothes or work clothes. whereas I need to keep basic everyday stuff, so I go for how does it fit? have i grabbed it recently or never do. I also found that it helps to have a bin near by for donation throughout the year. then when I'm getting dressed and I see something and think "i hate that", in the bin it goes! no extra thought needed.
i heard someone say "if I get rid of it and regret it, can it be replaced in 5 minutes for $5?" so inexpensive easy to replace things can be gotten rid of more easily. Something your child wore or made, can't be replaced, so it needs more thought.
my kids have save boxes, i have saved a few clothing items from each stage. I eventually valued the space more than the need to keep the clothes, so I consigned them. but I have pictures of them in the clothes I like. and one baby dress does hang on my 11 year old's wall :).
Yes I struggle with all of the above so I can tend to horde. I moved from a large house to a small flat and had to get rid of half of my stuff. Started by getting rid of duplicate items, items that you no longer use or ware donate. Keep items you love then when you are about to move relook at the items to see if there is anything else you can do without. It worked for me a cleared a huge amount but like you I have not tackled the toiletries this has given me the nudge to get on with it. Good luck with your new move xxx 📦📦
i actually don't do the Marie Kondo thing. I am sentimental and like everything brings me "joy". I have to use the no Mess Decluttering Method by a Slob Comes Clean. no emotions to overcome. Good job and Good luck!
Hi, you are doing great getting started. Saw this on another channel with a person struggling with memories attached to clothes and not being able to let go. She took a picture of the item as a keepsake, but let go of the physical object; maybe that could help?
My son And daughter are 15 and 12 and I’m just going through and getting rid of baby clothes. It is so emotional. I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s hard to separate the memories from the actual items. My best advice is to go at a pace that’s comfortable for you. Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel or what time frame you need to follow. For me as I starting letting go some items it got easier. I’ve paired it down to my my favorite pieces and still have way too many bins! At least for my own goals. Good luck and stay strong ❤️
Aw, you don't have to explain that feeling of wanting to hold onto every precious memory/moment. I'm the same way 💙 I might not need to keep these clothes because I have my beautiful boy but, my heart runs on the lyrics to Don't Throw Out My Legos 😢 Would you consider, maybe, getting the items turned into a beautiful quilt? It could be yours until he's grown up and then you can gift it to him. That's what I'm thinking of doing 🥰
I also have depression and instead of thinking if sth brings me joy I usually ask myself if it makes me feel a little better. For example, I have candles in my room , and I light them when I want to make my room feel cozy. Of course those candles don’t bring me enough happiness to cure depression but they make life suck a little less so I keep them and use them
Keep what you really like, and will use. What I do is for instance stuff like extra soaps...put everything "in the front" even stack them on a shelf counter cabinet etc. where you see it front and center and don't buy new until you use it.
Also sort by category for time of use.
Morning. Night. "Sick". Etc
I'm super proud of you❣️ I am also suffering from depression and I'm also super sentimental. It's very difficult and I understand!!! Great job!!!
Gah! Thank you so much ❤️ you got this as well, friend!!
Also! Re: baby and kid clothes, consider keeping one or two things you or he really loved from that size. I do this with clothes for my girls. The rest I sent to a local baby and mom cafe, so I knew all of it was going to good homes. That helps the process of letting go.
The Marie Kondo method really helped me grapple with my emotional connection to my stuff. In terms of toiletries and products, it's less of a 'spark joy' thing than a 'will this get used' thing. Doing KonMari forced me to confront whether or not I would use something. If the answer was no, it was simple to toss. If the answer was yes, I had new incentive to use it more often, which frequently did end up sparking joy. I hope this helps? I know you're going through such a tough time. Blessings and good vibes.
I like the Dana K. White method of decluttering because it takes the emotions out of the process. I could never grasp the Marie Kondo method because few items "spark joy" especially when depressed
I have always been the same way with my son's clothes. Of course, he's 37 now, but sometimes I still ask him to give me a shirt he really loves when he's gotten tired of it. As for baby clothes up through high school, I just paired them down to the really special ones. What I brought him home from the hospital in, his first church suit, etc. I keep everything in an old suitcase I bought when he was about 5. Now he has a son of his own...... I still hold those little clothes of my baby & cry. You cry if you need to, Momma. Those clothes hold a ton of memories. I was a single mom, too.💖💖💖
clothes has no memorys your heart has ,all the joy of his every step of the way all stored inside you not in your boxes , keep all the love there and declutter
you'll always have the memories ❤ ik personally getting rid of the sentimental is hard but maybe turning some of his old clothes into a blanket works for you or framing some of it so you can keep it and honor that time but not feel the pressure to keep all of it. it takes time and is a process ❤✨
So impressed and proud of how strong you are!! Inspirational xxx
Thank you! ❤️
Hi lovely, new subscriber here. Im in a similar situation as yourself so glad to find inspiration. Your doing amazing and already ive seen great recommendations in the comments. Looking forward to following your progress. ❤
I don't think about the item giving me joy anymore. I get too emotional about stuff! I think about the space. If I get rid of this will I have space to line things up or will it be easier to find things. That gives me joy. Having a place for everything now gives me joy now. Feeling less anxiety about the clutter and mess, create space for joy. I felt your sons clothes tho, it's so hard!
I use the, if i haven't used it in a year, its gone method. I also dont want to spend my whole weekend cleaning so i try to keep things simple. You will find what works for you 😊 try different things.
You did a fantastic job, and you have the love and support from your furry babies: ❤
Keep one baby outfit and donate the rest he has grown out of. Okay, when I was in the midst of a move from America to Australia, I had a year to go through all of my household goods, books and more. I ended up giving away ninety five percent of everything away to my daughters, a former sister in law and a dear friend. The books and a few things I was keeping were shipped overseas where my husband paid for the customs. The last three percent was donated, recycled or trashed with two percent coming with me in my luggage. It was not an easy task but I found it helped to lay everything from my various rooms on the living room floor to sort through. Being able to see it all was a huge help. And after eight years of living down here, my husband and I are prepping to move to a new apartment home. I am going through all our stuff and asking my husband's opinion on what he wants to keep from his things.
love you Libby your a brave and amazing woman hugs from your Scottish Mum xXx
Thank you! 🥰 I appreciate you!
My yearning to go to Scotland has been so intense lately lol
I look at a lot of things I have and break it down to "want" vs. "need". It is easier for me to donate items when I remember there is someone who needs things I am no longer using. (For example, I donated a huge amount of beloved clothes and shoes that didn't fit or I no longer needed since I retired and were impossible for me to wear - shoes- dues to physical issues.) It is hard but many of your belongings are "things" that are cluttering your life and stopping you from moving forward. Good luck!
For the soaps maybe ask your local women's shelter.
For your son's clothes: make a large box with the most special clothes from all stages. Then make a second one with all the clothes that are not that soecial but that you still wanna keep.
I don’t use the Marie Kondo method. It absolutely overwhelms me but I know it does work for a lot of people. I like Dana K. White’s methods. It’s really straightforward. 😊
Take a couple of items from each year put them aside and have somebody make you a memory quilt out of them.
I too had a very bad time giving my daughters clothes away she is 16 now. I put my absolute favorites in 2 totes and one day I will have a quilt made. ❤ also the soap and items you have bought but don’t use…find a woman’s shelter to give them to. That will make you feel good! You are doing an awesome job! ❤
One bag at a time is a great way to regain control of your home and mental health. Good start keep going.
Keep the things that makes your lite easier instead of what ”sparks joy”.
This too shall pass. Look at your blessings in the small stuff , and they will grow. You are on your way!
I'm a single mom myself. My daughter is now 33 and married. I can totally relate with you on many levels.
Maybe take different stages of life with the items, and make a video explaining what was going on at the time. And save a few favorites. I saved my daughters take home outfit and her favorite outfit when she was growing up. The video helps a lot. The items may be gone but the video is what I enjoy. Memories that would not be triggered without the items. Or maybe it would but I can always relive watching the video.
Hi darling! I am 59 and I too only had one child and wanted to hold onto his clothes because I felt they were a piece of him and memories of him. However I finally did go through them I think when he was 13??
Suggestion get one bin a large one if you want and keep only the most special ones and put only will fit in that bin. I did that and as the years went but I went through it every so often and got rid of more but by bit.
You are doing great kudos! 💜
Great job!! Nice to see you working in an area other than the kitchen.❤
Right!? I live cleaning the dang kitchen 🤣
Found your channel today and I'm feeling your gentle soul ❤. Regarding your question, I wouldn't try the Marie method. I love Dana K. White principles. She has a channel if you'd like to see. For sentimental clothes like your son's, similar to what others have already said picking one or two of specific stages, taking pictures, even a video that you can keep just to yourself if you want it private, where you show yourself each of your sons piece of clothing, that could be another way to "store" the memory. Kind of like a "haul" video of your son's clothing. 💕
This is just so honest and real ❤
Thank you ❤️
You can always put a set in those hollow picture frames (google Framing Clothes) and some people do them really nice for inspiration and after that the rest can be donated or maybe frame a few keep a few (per age group as mentioned in comments) and donate the rest
Your pup is unusually tuned into your feelings!
I pray for your happiness.
Love the one bag at time.Hubby just retired after about 45 years of 10 hour physical work.We just tore down metal shed,had to cut to haul and the big frame...Lots of work.We did a bit each day..Next a new Amish barn coming.Taking it slow and getting rid of more stuff!
Instead of asking if something brings you joy, consider more if it gives you negative feelings. There is no reason to keep things that remind you of times you hated, people you no longer like, or make you feel fat, ugly, uncomfortable, or guilty... even if its a thought like "this would be great if I were... neater/thinner/younger/smarter/whatever". I struggle with knowing how much I spent on something that I don't want to keep. But then I think of it as I'm paying rent to store that thing I don't even want and I would rather something else in the space it occupies. In my opinion, the only good thing about the Marie Kondo way is gathering like items together before deciding what to keep and what to purge. Its much easier to declutter is you see you have 3 of something that 1 would be sufficient. Big decluttering like this is hard, but it teaches you so much about acquiring things and helps you make better decisions about what comes into your home going forward.
Keep going and pushing thru this is the memories thats keep ing you attached
If you don’t use it… lose it. I know it is hard but it’s the only way to get rid of the clutter! And great job! Keep going😊💕I used to keep all of my daughter’s clothes too. I have three daughters. I decided to keep some very special pieces (1st birthday dresses, baptism hats, and first shoes, etc)and donate the rest.
I also cried when I let go of their things. You are crying because that time in your life with them at that age is over. Your son is only nine so you have a lot more time with him and you need space for his current clothing💕
My daughter is almost an adult now and time does fly❤❤❤ but keep the clothes that mean absolute most to you and give the rest away because trust me when I say looking at the pictures from when she was little, brings back all the memories. I have also been a single mom from before she was even born, and that was a gift in its own way.❤❤❤
12:07 - Love these channels for more simple methods of cleaning / decluttering
Clutterbug (4 types of organizations)
Minimal Mom (Do you want the clutter or prime real estate
Carla Project (one item, one section at a time)
That Awkward Mom (do what works for you)
I love KonMari but Honestly these 4 other women have been very helpful with finding other ways to declutter, teaching on container methods, on method to focus one piece of a time, finding out ones way of cleaning / organization, whether one wants the space or the clutter... they really help put things into perspective if you haven't seen their channels I highly recommend them.
Overly sentimental person here. I had a really, really hard time giving away my kids baby clothes. I did allow myself to keep certain pieces. Things I would maybe want to pass to my grandchildren. I have heard of people having quilts or stuffed animals made from old baby clothes they were attached to. I am glad your video popped up for me to watch. I liked and subscribed.
I saved a few things from each size my baby’s was in and I still have them I’m never letting go of them every time I see them I cry so I understand but that’s what helped me get ride of a lot of them and get through them frl❤❤❤❤
I really like decluttering videos, and honestly one of the most common items people hold on to are baby clothes. I think it's understandable why. You aren't being "overly-sentimental" just regular "sentimental" which in itself is not a bad thing to be. Sounds like things have been really rough, too. Give yourself credit. Anyway, for extra sentimental items you don't have to get rid of everything, and the things you do decide to get rid of, you can take pictures of. Something tells me that with or without the clothes, you will still have all those memories - but having photos on your computer to look through never hurt ;) Best of luck to you!
I suggest you keep two pieces from each age , and be smart picking the unique ones so his kids can be blessed using them 👍🏻including the penguin hat ..so cute, he still needs you and you still adore him 🤎🙏🌹and he will always be your baby
I loosely follow Marie Kondo. I suggest, rather than “bring you joy”, that the items you keep “serve their purpose”. Do you use them on a regular basis and are they in good repair/usable condition? My snow blower does not bring me joy in the nice weather, but it serves its purpose when it needs to. A piece of clothing that fits me and I wear on a regular basis is a keeper, as well as the old concert T-shirt that makes me smile whenever I see it. Good luck with your declutter journey! Keep in mind that it takes time and be kind to yourself along the way.😁
I'm a sentimental keeper of birthday cards, etc. Baby clothes. Hard to get rid of things. Even clothes, if someone I care about gave it to me as a gift, I have a hard time getting rid of. Then, nowadays, everything everything is so much more expensive, hard to get rid of things you paid hard earned money for. Bottom line, think real hard before you buy things. Use to be brought alot of craft things, and never had no time to relax, and make anything. What was I thinking, 😢. Old clothes, I need to purge, gain alot of weight. Lol but its really not funny. Trying to lose,its hard. Love watching you declutter, it inspires, me to get rid of things. Have a wonderful blessed day. 😊
Hi from the 🇬🇧 My mum always put soap in her knickers/nightie drawer, i always thought that was a bit bonkers, I'm now 58 and do exactly the same lol.... makes everything smell gorgeous
I allow myself one small bin of the kids' stuff, and one small bin of my own mementos. Start with a bin size you're comfortable with and shrink it down over time. As far as Marie Kondo goes I couldn't get with the sparking joy thing, but decluttering in categories worked great for me. I know you said you have a deadline for decluttering because you're going to move, but don't be too hard on yourself. Maybe map out time each week to work on areas or categories and know you'll likely need to go over the same areas and categories multiple times before you're done. You got this though. One day at a time. One step at a time. Perhaps also keep track of how many loads of stuff go to charity, or the dump, or wherever. It felt good at the end of my decluttering to say we did 16 carloads to Goodwill, 7 carloads to a women's shelter, over 180+ online sales, etc. Seeing what you accomplished helps along the way.
Thank you, friend, for the great advice!! ❤️
Celebrate the small wins they gice you momentum. And when you observe the feeling when you see an empty space or box acknowledge the feeling embrace it.
I suggest creating a memory bin. Pick your favorites from your son's clothes to put in it, along with other special mementos. 💖
Let it go! I also held on to my son’s clothes for years. Why?Why?Why? So, being over sentimental also…I kept three most loved articles and donated the rest. Yes, let someone else use and make memories with it. ❤ Decluttering will pay off as you progress. But letting go is the healthiest. Also…winning idea!!! Take photos before you donate. There will be your personal memories. Visualize YOUR future. What do YOU really want? Dwell on that. Let it go! This advice is shared to you by a 73 yr old who has seen and experienced much of what you are going through. Blessings and strength to you.
Thank you soooo much! I definitely know that in the future, I will kick myself for keeping so much stuff I dont need lol