AITA For Telling My Husband That His Affair Child Is Not Welcome In Our Home And If He Wants..
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Story: AITA For Telling My Husband That His Affair Child Is Not Welcome In Our Home And If He Wants Custody He Will Have To Move Out?
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NTA. he's lucky that the wife is even still married to him despite the affair child and she's worried about being TA lol
The husband sounds like a child, upset that she's not taking in the child, upset that OP isn't going to lose any sleep over a divorce, upset that he didn't wake up in time for his flight because he was up late playing video games. Sounds like all this situations are self created. He's never going to get a divorce and choose the child because he's comfortable in his current situation with his very tolerant wife. His life would fall to shambles if he got kicked out.
Nta at all. Not your child not your problem. Its his problem.
Nta, though I do feel sorry for the child but, if you listen to the last part of the story he missed his plane because he overslept. She is putting bounderies because she knows if she doesn't, she will be the one talong care of the child as he won't/ can't. Also, there was a line which said he wasn't ready or didn't want the parenting responsibility. Those are 2 red flags so why should she take care of someone elses shit? Nta for those reasons
There are more than red flags. A woman with dignity would have left him right then and there.
NTA. You read him the rules and gave him an easy out at the first hiccup instead of becoming a doormat who lets her own emotional needs fall by the wayside. Good. Not enough people do that.
That poor child.
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NTA and spirit animal status
Wtf... Why is she still with him?
DAMN, OP!!!! I wanna marry you. You're one of a few people who actually mean what they say. Hubby's affair partners kid IS NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY.
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She could do better , she should just dump him
I don't understand these kind of couples, if you need marriage counselling everytime that kid is discussed then how many time are they going to get it. Men who don't have stable jobs and can't keep their pants zipped are just a liability, I would die single but never stay with such a man
You have your own life to depend upon and rely on you do not need your husband and that illegitimate child of his ruining your life just because your husband couldn't keep his tail between his two legs and especially the cheaters baby mama as well if she's going to jail and she did something bad why she's being sentenced then she should have thought twice and then asked for the kid I know it's not the kids fault but I believe that that kid should have just gone to the parents of the cheater baby mama that's going to jail State who cares how far away it is because in the end if your husband is being naive and pinning this life on you then it is better to get a divorce and just take him in a special every penny out of his pocket
You put up with the cheater and want to blame the child? Total AH.
not her responsibility... I wouldn't stay with someone like this but seriously you and her husband are the AH, she is a doormat
@@KS-cl8br I am not sure I understood what you said. It’s not a matter of being her responsibility. It’s a matter of accepting that a man can cheat on you, have a child and you are ultimately punishing the child. In my opinion, you either accept none of them or you take the full package. Does it make me an AH?
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This whole thing sounds very annoying and toxic, but but if you being with someone’s going to prevent them from being with their child, then just let them go. The child is more important than you.
No and he is free to leave whenever he wants
Definitely the AH, that kid didn't ask to exist. Clearly OP did not ever actually forgive their husband.
Poor kid. OP needs therapy too.
The OP has all the issues with their husbands behaviour, but expects the husband to be the one to file for divorce because SHE's unhappy, but he clearly wants to stay married? Get over yourself, if you want to be divorced you've gotta be the one to file.
For sure the AH. OK file for divorce. That kid didn't ask to exist & she's making that kid fatherless. Either be ok with the affair & accept it or don't be & move on but don't sit with him & threaten him for being a dad to a child he made. Very selfish.
Lmao if the father wants to be a father then it’s his responsibility to leave not the women’s lol maybe listen to the story before u comment
Yeah she is the a**hole. That child did nothing wrong. Children shouldn’t have to pay for the sins of their parents. He did the cheating, not the child. Maybe she shouldn’t stay with him in the first place if he cheated and then proceed to make the kid suffer because of it. This is messed up wtf is wrong with people.
She gave him conditions he accepted. So everything is on him. He decided to stay knowing his child would never be welcome at his house. He decided that his child should move because he really doesn't care for the child. If he doesn't care for his child why should op?
@@Monster-ks2yx no she CHOSE to stay under the condition the kid goes, she gave him an ultimatum; an innocent child or her. I stand by what I said children shouldn’t have to pay for the sins of their parents. Yeah he chose to cheat, and that was a really horrible thing for him to do to her, but if she can’t stand being around the child, she shouldn’t be with the cheating husband any longer. Rewarding the husband by staying with him and casting out the child and punishing them.. it Sounds like great logic to me.
And if that’s true and he did decide to stay with the wife and leave the kid essentially then they both deserve each other because they’re both not good human beings. It’s that kind of talking, “why should I care for a child if somebody else doesn’t?” is really scary.. You should maybe rethink some of your values and strengthen your moral compass a bit in my opinion.
she should have the B child in her home, her funds time and energy should go to the kid
@@violetyivy8333Wow you are a dumbass.
Kind of an asshole. The way she feels about her husband and the resulting affair-child suggests that she has not processed whatever emotions she was left with after he had the affair. If the genders were switched, there is no way a man would be able to say to a woman "give up the baby you gave birth to or move out". The situation sucks, but that child has done nothing wrong and deserves to have access to both of his parents. It seems the woman is projecting a lot of anger onto the child, and I can understand that the child is a constant reminder of the husbands infidelity, but that really suggests she has not processed the emotions and is unable to truly forgive the husband, the marriage seems unsaveable.
The husband absolutely did wrong in cheating, of course, but the one being punished is the child, not the husband, and that is the asshole part.
YTA. Sounds like you wanted to divorce him but want him to file not you
it sounds to me like she’s telling him to make a choice and deal with the consequences of his actions. he’s trying to have the cake and eat it too, that’s not how mature adults do things. he should grow up and make a decision. the wife is nta, she isn’t trying to MAKE him stay or choose her and her kids. she’s literally just allowing his free will.
@@sunny.sun00telling him to make the choice? No, She’s making him pick between an innocent child and her. The kid shouldn’t have to pay for the sins of their parents. If she can’t handle someone who cheats then she should be the bigger person and leave the relationship. Punish the cheating slime bag, not an innocent person. She is 100% TA (along with the husband) and she knows exactly what she is doing. It’s messed up. She should grow up and not have a personal vendetta towards someone who didn’t even do anything to her. She should’ve left the moment she found he was cheating. This is ridiculous
@@violetyivy8333 right so you’re acknowledging he has a choice to make.
@@sunny.sun00I’m not going to respond to what you said, read my comment again. Seriously
@@violetyivy8333 nah. i just think it’s funny ur that pressed🤣 i got my opinion and im sticking to it, you got yours. calm down. go breathe some fresh air.