Every time I feel a pang of sadness or of guilt, I come to this channel. It has elevated my mood on countless occasions. Thank you to the entire team that are touching innumerable lives and changing them for the better.
Then you must be dumb asf 😂😂u do realize Alain speaks a lot of nonsense... If you have a problem with the comment dm instagram @kenyan.mugo I tell you why
Sounds nice but I really don't believe you could have a serious relationship with just anyone. Why not go and pick a random stranger in the street to love then? I think compatibility is both a prerequisite and the achievement of a relationship. You better not start a relationship with literally anyone but someone with whom it'll be easier (than with some others) to achieve compatibility. And compatibility is not even an all or nothing issue but a continuum. The higher it is in the beginning, probably the better (easier it will be to increase it) the product.
"You do not educate a man by telling him what he knew not,” wrote John Ruskin, “but by making him what he was not".. I consider The School of Life videos and materials my true education..I learned with you what matters in life, what is mature love, a proper prespective on history and politics, and the value of an uneventful day..Bless you for everything you did and do
This is so true. I have looked to and relied on this channel for a comprehensive guidance not just for my life, but my thoughts, emotions and the perception of my own reality. I am grateful to this for not feeling as lost as I would feel otherwise.
Agreed! But this essential distillation should be the beginning, not the end. Until a student has read the 5 million words behind these ideas, they may carry the Credos around in their mental pockets, ready to roll out at a moment's notice, but never fully understand them, their arguments, or applications. Part of what's wrong with our current education system is that we spend far too much time and effort simplifying things that shouldn't be simplified in the name of expedience. Some things (like education) just cannot be simplified without tremendous loss. Education is not about teaching facts, it's about building intellectual skills powerful enough to navigate this world in a productive manner beneficial to both the individual and his or her world. I love the work of Alain De Botton (especially on social anxiety) and would make a bunch of his work required reading if it were up to me. But we live in a corporately driven consumer society that espouses individualism over all else (for a reason one can only fully comprehend through the study of the arts) and until the people who study the arts can eradicate the notion that education = job, we're stuck with sound bites and prayers. You are miserable not just because your world doesn't revolve around you, but because you believe it should and continue to follow the prescription for success and happiness of those who have no intention of allowing you to actually obtain them because they would both come at a cost to the people in control.
Hamza Saleem the value of an uneventful day .. 3:25-3:40 and importance of mindfulness to ‘keep the ordinary coming’ ;| even if we have been thankfully been provided alternative explanations to normalcy throughout the video.
There has to be some overlapping common interests so that you at least have the notion of a common direction. But in the end growing together through communal interests is what synthesizes the compatibility. At least what understand from it
Christine, weirdly enough I've been coming across your comments on videos I've been watching...So many times that I told my friend about it. It's such lovely happenstance esp because we share a name. :-)
It's good that it helped you but believe this. You are not an idiot. You are not insane. You can unlock potential by believing in yourself. By believing you are as equipped as most people to get what you want from life. Crack on. Make some decisions, small ones at first, do them. Make bigger decisions, and so on.
This channel has deeply helped me in ways unimaginable. Thank you for reminding us that we are just mere human beings in such a weird yet beautiful world 🌟
Cheerful despair! Fake it till you feel it. I like to wear a serene expression on my face and I've come to really feel it, as walking, especially in nature, lifts my depression
"We don't count one bit in the grander scheme. That should be a liberation." I love this so much. I've tried to convey this sentiment to several people... for some reason, many find it quite frightening to think that, nothing actually matters. I realized when I was 20 that I'm a nihilist, and was maybe like 20 and 1/2 when I realized what a relief that is. That nothing matters. That I could fuck up monumentally, more than anyone had ever fucked up before in the world, and it wouldn't even matter at all. 100 years from now, no one will even know my name. I'm grateful for that. Still not sure how that terrifies people...
Thanks for putting this summary together. You have seen me through the worst time of my life, getting divorced, and you are still helping me to navigate my post divorce life. Your channel saved me from insane thoughts and anxiety on many occasions. To begin with, you helped me to feel less alone since you made me realise that my issues and my story are not unique. At the same time you helped me to understand my weaknesses and to work on them while remaining kind to myself. The concept of good enough in certain situations has prevented me from being too hard on myself, but still enabled me to extract the lessons. You also helped me to understand the importance of being single for an extended period of time to give myself a chance at feeling whole while I am alone (not lonely!). I now realize that this is a key component to a healthy future relationship. Lastly, you helped me to differentiate between people who are worthy of my love, energy and effort and people who are not. I have become more selective and that has been so empowering for me. I am a lot closer now and more appreciative of the people in my life that count. And I am sure I am not alone in any of this. I am sure your channel has helped countless people in countless ways. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you!
I don't know about you but, for me, learning to be okay with being alone (not lonely), and not settling has made it impossible to find someone to have a long-term relationship with.
The school of life has always been a huge comfort whenever I was feeling down. The coincidence of seeing in my newsfeed a portion of the london real video featuring Alain de Botton was so timely, that after watching the whole version, I had to revisit your channel and find this. Thank you so much for all the wisdom you are sharing with us. A timely reminder in trying times.
I love this channel! It's a very good source of self-assurance and revelation, thank you to everyone who is responsible for creating this great channela and all those who contributed to its growth.
I think the rules that will really stick with me are: 'we are all imperfect' and 'transcend yourself' because it reassures us that if we trip or fall in life, no one is looking and reminds us that we will mess up but that's okay☺
Of this video, the thing that I remember the most is that repetition is the way to live by these concept. Every morning just after I woke up and every night before I go to bed, I read 2 little textes to remember what is important in my life.
To be a “better” person I was yesterday. Better = less hubris in my self-awareness. Just love AdB philosophy. Goodness. Ruthless Authentic Accountability. Love it! And Thank you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
The calming voice of this man talks and talks... Then in the end the girl's voice always so abruptly comes in, manages to get me each time :D Awesome video.
I read many self help books and saw 4 years everyday min 3H self Help content. It was jus addiction I now understand. The rush of dopamine when watching and thinking the result it’s rewarding. But Starting any task there’s lot of frictions, mistakes, frustration & self help just teaches Always Be Positive and Hustle. So in that mentality, there’s no stopping and no resting and no introspecting on the negative thought. So lots of ideas or introspection of own self is lost and we just think inside a box what the industry lays. The Toxic of Self Help By James Jani Video portraits it very well and Now School of Thought’s Video I am Seeing and it gives lots of Good thinking outside the box what self help industry portraits. Journal, Meditation is very beneficial that is also I got when seeing those videos but it’s an addiction trap and it doesn’t teach about emotions and most time say ignore them that’s bad and I experience that. It is beneficial for short term but in long term lots of things accumulates and attacks together. And lastly asI said earlier, there’s always a rush to see new videos, read new books to improve but underline words are same and work is zero but we are thinking we achieved something.
I can't describe how thankful I am to the school of life.. I owe you a lot.. If I had enough money I would immediately donate it to you.. Thank you so much for your amazing work!!
The first rule of this game is that it is not a game. Everyone must play. You must love us. You must go on living. Be yourself, but play a consistent and acceptable role. Control yourself and be natural. Try to be sincere. ~ Alan Watts, from "The Book"
If British long suffering got frisky with Buddhist philosophy...I suspect their baby would be something like this gem. There are many people in my life that I think will benefit from this, so I have sent it off to all of them! Thank you for your work to help us all make life a little more livable.
We are perfect in our imperfections. They make us unique and give us an advantage over others that only you have. Learn to embrace your imperfections so that they work for you and not against you.
sounds american.....a win where noone is speaking of loss?....what drivel, perfect in our imperfections?!....well then let the paedophile, killer, drugged momma -killer free, to imperfectly be perfect again...point numb 9- the shit that comes out of our mouths usually isnt ours....
In times like these, I always watch videos from your channel. It gives me a sense of calmness, peace, and resilience when I watch your videos. Thank you for continuouly uplifting us with the great lessons you impart ♥️
please make a part 2 because it is much needed.. you have taught way more things and they need to be summarized too.. please make a part 2... please! very important!!
I've been subscribed to this channel for 4 years and I cannot describe how much it has helped me!!! I was already gaining precious knowledge when I started listening to the videos and then when I did therapy that knowledge was definitely expanded!!! Now I can see so many things under a different perspective regarding me and other people and this makes me feel soooooooo bliss!!!! It has been a very encouraging, engaging and enlightening experience!!! So thank you sooooooo much!!! I may not have mastered the 8 teachings of the schools of life, but I definitely understand them and I definitely try my best to apply them all the time!!! So thank you!!! GRATIDÃO!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love all of the rules but "know your insanity" particularly made me smile. I have indeed been finding beauty in the more _obscure_ parts of people. The ones they try to hide to fit the mold. It's marvellous.
Great video thanks The traduction in Arabic: *تقبّل غياب الكمال* نحن بطبيعتنا كائنات مغلوطة ومعطوبة. الكمال شيء بعيد عنّا.على الرغم من ذكائنا وعلومنا ,نحن جميعاً, عن قرب, خائفون, قلقون, مليئون بالندم, التوق واللغط .لا أحد طبيعي: الأشخاص الوحيدون الذين بالإمكان أن نعتبرهم طبيعيين هم أولئك الذين لا نعرفهم عن قرب بعد *الصداقة* الانتباه إلى أنّ كل واحد منّا ضعيف, غير منطقي و مخطئ هو شيء يدعو للتعاطف مع أنفسنا والسخاء مع الآخرين. معرفة كيف نظهر نقاط حساسيتنا وما هو معطوب بنا هو حجر الأساس للصداقة الحقيقية, والتي نتوق لها جميعاً دون استثناء ، إنّ حصول الأشخاص على الحياة التّي يستحقونها ليس بالأمر اليقين . يجب أن نتقبل مفهموم التراجيديا: الأشياء المروعة الاعتباطية التي من الممكن لها أن تسبب انهيار حياة معظم الناس, وهي بالفعل تقوم بذلك. من الممكن أن نفشل ونبقى بحال جيدة ولذلك علينا أن نأخذ وقتاً أكثر في الحكم ونسرع في التفهم,لذا كن لطيفاً *أدرك جنونك* ليس بإمكاننا أن نكون عاقلين تماماً, ولكنّه شرط أساسي للنضج أن نفهم مواضع جنوننا, نستطيع تحذير الأشخاص الذين نهتم لأمرهم بما يمكن لجننونا أن يجعلنا نفعل, في وقت مناسب ومبكر قبل أن نسبب ضرراً كبيراً، يجب أن نكون مستعدين لأن تكون لدينا إجابة جاهزة و ان لا نشعر بالإهانة إذا سألنا أحدهم (وهو ما يجدر به فعله) : 'ما هي مواضع جنونك؟’ معظم جنوننا يأتي من الطفولة , والتي بطريقة تختلف حسب وضعنا جعلتنا غير متزنين. لم يسبق لأحد أن حظي بطفولة "طبيعية"; هذه ليست بأي شكل إهانة لجهود العائلات. لا تهرب من احتمال كونك أحمق وكأنّه شيء مروّع وغير مسبوق، تقبّل اليقين بكل فضيلة, وبدون خجل. أنت أحمق ولكن ليس لديك أي خيار آخر ككائن بشري. نحنا على كوكب السبعة مليارات أحمق مختلف. تقبُّل حماقتنا يجب أن يعطينا الثقة أمام التحديات, لأن الخطأ متوقع فهذا يجعلنا مرتاحين مع أنفسنا, ومستعدين لمد يد الصداقة لجيراننا المعطوبين والمعتوهين بشكل مشابه. يجب أن نتغلب على العار والخجل لأننا وبالفعل تخلينا عن جزء كبير من كبريائنا *جيد بما فيه الكفاية* إنّ عكس الكمال ليس الفشل, بل هو تصالحنا مع فكرة أن, كلّ واحد منا, 'جيد بما فيه الكفاية’. جيدون بما فيه الكفاية كأهل, إخوة , عمّال وبشر. 'الاعتيادية' ليست مرادفاً للفشل. إذا فهمناها بدّقة, ونظرنا لها نظرة سخيّة ومتقبلة, فهي تتضمن أفضل ما في الحياة. الحياة ليست في أي مكان آخر; الحياة, بشكل كامل ومناسب, هنا والآن *بعيداّ عن الشاعرية* 'الشخص الصحيح' هو ابتكار قاسي. لا أحد بشكل تام 'صحيح' أو بشكل تام 'خاطئ’. الحبّ الحقيقي ليس مجرد تقدير للقوة, بل هو صبر وتعاطف بين نقاط ضعفنا المشتركة. الحبّ هو القدرة على استخدام المخيّلة لتحمّل اللحظات الأقل جاذبية للشخص ومنح درجة مستمرة من التسامح لهشاشتنا الطبيعية. ليس من المقبول أن نتوقع من أحد أن يحبّنا 'كما نحن تماماّ’ الحبّ الصادق يتضمن شخصين يساعد كلّ منهما الآخر على الوصول إلى أفضل نسخة ممكنة من نفسه. التوافق ليس شرطاً للحبّ; بل هو من نتائج الحبّ *اليأس المفرح* نحن تحت ضغط غير عادل وغير مبررلأن نبتسم. ولكن تقريباً لا شيء سيجري بشكل جيد تماماً: نستطيع توقّع الانزعاج, سوء التفاهم, غياب الحظ, والرفض. يجب أن يكون مسموحاً لنا بالسوداوية. السوداوية ليست غضباً أو مرارة, إنّها صنف نبيل من الحزن يظهر لنا عندما نتقبل أنّ خيبة الأمل تقع في قلب التجربة البشرية. بحالتنا السوداوية, نستطيع دون أي حنق أو حساسية أن نفهم أن لا أحد يفهم الآخر بشكل كامل, أنّه لا يستثنى أحد من الشعور بالوحدة وأنّ لكل حياة حصتها الكاملة من الألم. ولكن على الرغم من وجود الكثير ممّا يدعو للشعور بالحزن, لسنا ملعونين بشكل فردي أو خاص, وأمام هذه الخلفية من الظلام العديد من الأشياء الحلوة يمكنها أن تظهر بوضوح: يوم مشمس, سحابة عابرة; الفجر والغسق, نظرة حنونة. يمكن لك أن تيئس ولكن افعل ذلك بفرح, آمن باليأس المفرح *تخطى أهمية نفسك* لسنا مركز أي شيء, لحسن الحظ. نحن صرر ضئيلة من مادة متلاشية في زاوية متناهية الصغر من كون غير محدود ليس لنا أي وزن في المخطط الأكبر للوجود, هذا يجب أن يكون أمراً محررّاً لنا. يجب أن نكسب الراحة من الفكرة اللطيفة لعدم الأهمية التي يمنحها الاتساع اللانهائي : سرمدية لن يلاحظ فيها أحد, حيث الرياح تحت الصخور في الفضاء بين النجوم. التواضع الكوني الذي علّمتنا إيّاه الطبيعة, التاريخ و السماء فوقنا هو نعمة وبديل ثابت لحياة من الصراع المحمموم, غياب الهزل, والكبرياء و القلق المفرط ** نقطة أخيرة نظرياَ نعلم كلّ هذا. ولكن عملياً هذا النوع من الأفكار يشتهر بضعف قدرته على التأثير بسلوكنا ومشاعرنا. أفضل معارفنا مرسخة فينا وبنفس الوقت غير فعّالة بالنسبة لنا. ننسى تقريباً كلّ شيء. حماسنا وأهدافنا تتلاشى كما النجوم عند الفجر. لا شيء يبقى. لهذا السبب, علينا أن نذكّر أنفسنا ببعض الأشياء, ربما مرّة في اليوم, وحتماً مرّة في الأسبوع. 'المدرسة' الجيدة فعلاً لا تخبرنا فقط بأشياء لم يسبق لنا سماعها; يجب أن تهتم بعمق بتمريننا على أشياء معروفة نظرياً لكن منسيّة عملياً. لهذا يجب أن نبقي هذه القواعد في بالنا دوما
Thanks Salma. We desperately need this in Arabic. I submitted Arabic subtitles long ago for another great video (a country you can be proud of) but it never got published. I think many are willing to do this for free if they only let them.
I want to just say thank you to everyone who puts time into these videos. You guys help me through so much everytime I see another one. Like it says it the video I'll always need to remind myself and watch regularly but every video I feel closer to being the person I want to become. I appreciate every moment and thought put into these beautiful films. 💛💛
Petition for making this the front video on the main channel page. It is most likely not needed and has already been decided by the team behind this channel but i think it sums up very well the theme of this channel.
What I call the "Paradox of School of Life" is that the people who need this advice the most are the ones least likely to watch this and receive it. The channel keeps talking about humility and accepting that you are not that great, when in reality most viewers need the opposite (a self-confidence boost.) You cannot bring people down to earth when they already have the humility to watch TSoL.
Happiness and confidence are slightly deceptive; if you were to repeat what Tsol says you would want to be taken seriously, and would be anxious to hear what others think about the ideas you bring up. A confidence boost to do something you dread, has as many answers; "but a few questions", "Why don't you go and ask the most beautiful girl you know on a date?"
Teaching humility isn't just about bringing people down to earth, it's also about convincing the people on earth that earth isn't such a bad place to be. Someone who thinks they're perfect and someone who despairs at the fact that they're not, both suffer from the same problem.
I think you need to dig deeper. Humility, and understanding that indeed, all humans are imperfect, and in a very real, societal as well as cosmic sense, not of it really matters, is critical. However, so is the flipside: the kindness, forgiveness & grace that we should extend to not only others, but ourselves as well. Acceptance is the key to confidence. I think you may view 'confidence' and 'self-esteem' as derivatives of comparison; you're using societal measuring sticks to judge whether or not you should feel good about yourself. This is one way to go about it. I think the School of Life though, encourages us to think of it differently; to treat everyone, ourselves and others, essentially the same. To understand that our yearning for these things is simultaneously understandable as well as foolish. To let go. And to be at peace with that. I think that's where true love (self-love as well as love for others & the world) comes from. Do I think everyone can receive this type of information and take it, on balance, as truth, immediately? no, of course not. But the funny thing is, I couldn't have, even a few short years ago. That doesn't mean these people you talk about who need a self-confidence boost will always need it, or those who could stand to bear some humbling won't understand this later on. Again, hoping for that might be hoping for life to be what you think it should be, rather than as it is. Let things take their course.
@@sebastianelytron8450 To someone who thinks they are perfect: "accept that you are NOT perfect" To someone who feels bad because they are not perfect: "ACCEPT that you are not perfect" If you let perfection into your life it will become the source of all your troubles. Stop thinking you must be perfect. How are you supposed to ever be confident when your standards are so impossibly high that you will never reach them without deluding yourself? People don't need a confidence boost from a youtube video, they need to learn to stop relying on youtube videos for confidence boosts.
Once again, School of Life, you have nailed it‼️ Brilliant and RIGHT ON‼️ Outstandingly said‼️ I did the cheerful melancholy today❗️ And sometimes, not so cheerful melancholy. Kind of got up on the wrong side of the bed, and continued my entire day on that track. However, it was a big plus for me and my consciousness, that I am now aware of accepting myself in this condition, instead of wishing it away or blaming myself for putting friends, coworkers through my trials and tribulations. Now at home, 10 PM getting ready for bed and having just listened to Tara Brach, another spiritual teacher, I say to myself, it really wasn't that bad. You didn't yell at anyone..... I was aware all day that I should be careful with others because I could feel the vulnerability of being in that position, and I was uncomfortable but sane. Come on in melancholy and park for a day, and let's see if I can keep calm and loving to myself, and others. AND GUESS WHAT, I mostly did. It's just me and my mind which constantly is putting me down, and that's the main party to whom I need to observe and care for, it's all right little darling, I will be there for you, (MYSELF)❗️☮️☯️💟
The funny thing is, we become professional overthinkers, without even having experiences to prove those thoughts. We think we know, because we have feelings and those tend to act as a morning fog, dissipating rather quickly.
Alain de Botton has done it again... Distilled the wisdom of the ages to the points that practically matter in regard to modern daily (sane) life... It's absolutely the best we flawed beings can ever hope to achieve in our lives.
The Credo of the School of Life (1) Accept imperfection (2) Friendship (3) Know your insanity (4) Accept your idiocy (5) Good enough (6) Beyond romanticism (7) Cheerful despair (8) Transcend yourself
Thank you School of Life and thank you Alain de Bouton! for the calm and resolute kind leading towards much more sain inner-life for each and every one!
Can you do a video on painful memories? I constantly have flash backs to dumb things I’ve done or said or mistakes I’ve made and they can feel physically paralysing
Disagree with 5 pretty fundamentally. Telling yourself you're good enough is only really a prescription when you are in the depths of vicious self criticism. Good enough doesn't really inspire an endeavour to improve. 'doing my best' is a term off the top of my head that although is relatively soothing and blunts despair, also holds yourself to an honest and intrinsic yardstick. Although that being said, I am an idiot. 😉
This "good enough" thing can be interpreted in many ways. It basically means that there is nothing wrong with you and, from there, you can move forward: improve yourself not because you are flawed, but because you want to grow and learn.
@@XaviOvf Yes, but sometimes there IS something wrong and you should recognize it and change it - both for you and for those around you - not accept it and feeling as if what you're like is entirely uncontrollable and set in stone. Being at peace with who you are is only beneficial if you're an anxiety-ridden overthinker. Unfortunately, most people who are at peace with who they are aren't the ones that should be.
Perfect timing. Staying with my roommate during this COVID-19 period has driven me mad, real mad, for the very first time in many years. Up until now, I used to always seem myself a "nice person," which tends to be more like a "perfectly kind person" in my ideal. Because of this perfectionism, I always suppressed my anger. By not expressing or even allowing myself to experience anger, it manifested itself in the form of grief. Up untill now, I had never been angry at the virus, the government, or people around me. I was just so sad. But this doesn't have to be the case anymore. If I'm angry at someone, I'm going to acknowledge that anger. I will embrace my temper, my scornful words, and my nasty tone. This is what I really feel in the moment. I am going to honour my feelings. And yes, I have never felt as humane as I am feeling now.
People refrain from talking about their flaws and tragedies of life. Alain de Botton has been like a group therapy kind of thing for me. Not only the School of Life but each one of his talks and ideas has been a blessing. I read the comments and assure myself I’m not alone.
'The one is an invention" We all have more than one, the one. Love is really about 2 people coming together to become the best versions of themselves. Growing and becoming stronger together!
I can't tell with proper words how much The School of Life has helped me in the most everyday problems of my life but I would love to share this amazing content to many others to help them, the problem here is that they don't speak English and I'd appreciate a lot to The School of Life if they can put Spanish captions so in that way so many people could get the opportunity to understand such helpful and wonderful content. Thanks again.
Which of our eight rules appeals most to you? Let us know in the comments. Be sure to subscribe to the channel and turn on notifications to ensure you don't miss our next film.
To never, ever follow life & health advices from anonymous and dubious people on the Internet, unless they are professionally certified for such matter.
@@geoleo965 Well, that is a fallacy. Certification is a shortcut but doesn't ultimately prove legitimacy rather their argument and evidence to support it. Hence, Bankers during the 2008 financial cash and rule 1 imperfection and 4 idiocy. - From anonymous
Hard to put into words just how much this channel has helped me. May we all find encouragement in discovering how to best manage this thing called life.
One of those things we seem to only get when we get old. We may not be able to put it into these words, but we start to act on this in our 60’s. Would be so cool to have people embrace this when teens.
No selfhelp book has ever helped me as much as school of life's videos
100%!!!
90% of selfhelp is bullshit.
I feel the same way. I owe virtually all of my emotional maturing in the past 3 years to my being a regular consumer of TSOL content
4 fewer rules than Jordan Peterson and 2 less than the Bible..
@@John-ic6zo There might be less of them, but they are of better quality, even though I very much like Mr. Peterson's talks.
Every time I feel a pang of sadness or of guilt, I come to this channel. It has elevated my mood on countless occasions. Thank you to the entire team that are touching innumerable lives and changing them for the better.
Then you must be dumb asf 😂😂u do realize Alain speaks a lot of nonsense... If you have a problem with the comment dm instagram @kenyan.mugo I tell you why
@@kenyanmugo5224 It takes one to know one ...
Yes. Same
Summary:
1. We are imperfect,
2. (True) Friendship,
3. Know your Insanity,
4. Accept your idiocy,
5. Good Enough,
6. Beyond Romanticism,
7. Cheerful despair,
8. Transcend yourself.
9. Greetings from Uganda :)
@@top_nigerian_news Cheers! #StaySafe
Cheers from Mexico!
@@paperandpavement Thank you and #StaySafe in there.
Greetings from the UK 😁
@@yosemitysam4962 :D :D Thank you. #StaySafe
“ Compatibility isn’t a prerequisite for love; it is the achievement of love”
@Selenophile Excellent quote, by Alain De Botton.
the most beautiful one hehe
arrange marriage then?
Also came away with that.
Sounds nice but I really don't believe you could have a serious relationship with just anyone. Why not go and pick a random stranger in the street to love then?
I think compatibility is both a prerequisite and the achievement of a relationship. You better not start a relationship with literally anyone but someone with whom it'll be easier (than with some others) to achieve compatibility.
And compatibility is not even an all or nothing issue but a continuum. The higher it is in the beginning, probably the better (easier it will be to increase it) the product.
I find this channel so reassuring in that I am not the only idiot and failure in the world.
Funny...
Failure is an opportunity for an education. 😇😎😈
@Reggie Cyde I outlined your mom.
rex harrison 6:13-6:15 Anxious pride. Hmm..
Believe me u are not 😁😁😁
“You ARE an idiot” why does that sound like such a compliment with his voice
Because it's not an insult
Because you're being told you're an idiot by somebody that is aware he's an idiot as well. And that's okay
Because it's the tone that makes the music. :)
Cuz we r all Idiots!
Because it assures us that we all are and we are not alone with our idiocy - which is a relief.
"You do not educate a man by telling him what he knew not,” wrote John Ruskin, “but by making him what he was not"..
I consider The School of Life videos and materials my true education..I learned with you what matters in life, what is mature love, a proper prespective on history and politics, and the value of an uneventful day..Bless you for everything you did and do
This is so true. I have looked to and relied on this channel for a comprehensive guidance not just for my life, but my thoughts, emotions and the perception of my own reality. I am grateful to this for not feeling as lost as I would feel otherwise.
Agreed! But this essential distillation should be the beginning, not the end. Until a student has read the 5 million words behind these ideas, they may carry the Credos around in their mental pockets, ready to roll out at a moment's notice, but never fully understand them, their arguments, or applications. Part of what's wrong with our current education system is that we spend far too much time and effort simplifying things that shouldn't be simplified in the name of expedience. Some things (like education) just cannot be simplified without tremendous loss.
Education is not about teaching facts, it's about building intellectual skills powerful enough to navigate this world in a productive manner beneficial to both the individual and his or her world. I love the work of Alain De Botton (especially on social anxiety) and would make a bunch of his work required reading if it were up to me. But we live in a corporately driven consumer society that espouses individualism over all else (for a reason one can only fully comprehend through the study of the arts) and until the people who study the arts can eradicate the notion that education = job, we're stuck with sound bites and prayers. You are miserable not just because your world doesn't revolve around you, but because you believe it should and continue to follow the prescription for success and happiness of those who have no intention of allowing you to actually obtain them because they would both come at a cost to the people in control.
Hamza Saleem the value of an uneventful day .. 3:25-3:40 and importance of mindfulness to ‘keep the ordinary coming’ ;| even if we have been thankfully been provided alternative explanations to normalcy throughout the video.
U do realize that this guy speaks a lot of non sense right? 😂.. if you got a problem dm Instagram @kenyan.mugo
@@codacreator6162 this is really good! screenshotted it lol
I have said it before and I will say it again: "This is one of the Best Channels on TH-cam."
What other best channel you know .. I am looking for one...🐶
@@gowthamuknown Teal Swan is my fav Channel. Do check it out.
Absolutely On Point.
Challenging Conventional Inertia thoughts...Practical genius level Sigma stuff. 🙌🙏
This is the best example of how good the Internet might be if it's used for good purposes.
“True love isn’t an admiration for strength, it is patience and compassion for our mutual weaknesses” 🧡
Touche!
4:21 "compatibility isnt a prerequisite for love. it is the achievement of love." So this is where i have been going wrong...
Christine Gitau this stopped me in my tracks too.
There has to be some overlapping common interests so that you at least have the notion of a common direction. But in the end growing together through communal interests is what synthesizes the compatibility. At least what understand from it
@kshiftkometh
Hi!
Do you have any evidence for this idea?
Christine, weirdly enough I've been coming across your comments on videos I've been watching...So many times that I told my friend about it. It's such lovely happenstance esp because we share a name. :-)
@@krystinegitau93 🤩😘
This channel was what aided in starting my process of recognizing and growing from my mental breakdown last season.
Such good news for u that there was this life line. Hope u r doing well.
It's good that it helped you but believe this. You are not an idiot. You are not insane. You can unlock potential by believing in yourself. By believing you are as equipped as most people to get what you want from life. Crack on. Make some decisions, small ones at first, do them. Make bigger decisions, and so on.
@@mesolithicman164 um.....wow...your solo right. ?
This video is a hug from a loving comforting wise mind. I am glad to be a student at TSOL.
This channel has deeply helped me in ways unimaginable. Thank you for reminding us that we are just mere human beings in such a weird yet beautiful world 🌟
Same.
Cheerful despair! Fake it till you feel it. I like to wear a serene expression on my face and I've come to really feel it, as walking, especially in nature, lifts my depression
"We don't count one bit in the grander scheme. That should be a liberation."
I love this so much. I've tried to convey this sentiment to several people... for some reason, many find it quite frightening to think that, nothing actually matters. I realized when I was 20 that I'm a nihilist, and was maybe like 20 and 1/2 when I realized what a relief that is. That nothing matters. That I could fuck up monumentally, more than anyone had ever fucked up before in the world, and it wouldn't even matter at all. 100 years from now, no one will even know my name. I'm grateful for that. Still not sure how that terrifies people...
We crave to leave a legacy. We yearn to create an everlasting impact
In loneliest nights of self doubts and painful silence, I come to this channel to talk to even if am mostly listening
Can’t thank you guys enough. You kept me alive. If it wasn’t for your videos I wouldn’t be here. I’m very lucky
Thank you, thank you, thank you for your beautiful channel. Your videos are a blessing. Have a beautiful day.
Alain de Botton and The School of Life are such underrated geniuses!! Thank you for the kind and inspiring messages.❤
Thanks for putting this summary together. You have seen me through the worst time of my life, getting divorced, and you are still helping me to navigate my post divorce life. Your channel saved me from insane thoughts and anxiety on many occasions. To begin with, you helped me to feel less alone since you made me realise that my issues and my story are not unique. At the same time you helped me to understand my weaknesses and to work on them while remaining kind to myself. The concept of good enough in certain situations has prevented me from being too hard on myself, but still enabled me to extract the lessons. You also helped me to understand the importance of being single for an extended period of time to give myself a chance at feeling whole while I am alone (not lonely!). I now realize that this is a key component to a healthy future relationship. Lastly, you helped me to differentiate between people who are worthy of my love, energy and effort and people who are not. I have become more selective and that has been so empowering for me. I am a lot closer now and more appreciative of the people in my life that count. And I am sure I am not alone in any of this. I am sure your channel has helped countless people in countless ways. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you!
I don't know about you but, for me, learning to be okay with being alone (not lonely), and not settling has made it impossible to find someone to have a long-term relationship with.
The school of life has always been a huge comfort whenever I was feeling down. The coincidence of seeing in my newsfeed a portion of the london real video featuring Alain de Botton was so timely, that after watching the whole version, I had to revisit your channel and find this. Thank you so much for all the wisdom you are sharing with us. A timely reminder in trying times.
Alain writes so beautifully. I'm grateful for his existence.
“ Compatibility isn’t a prerequisite for love; it is the achievement of love” - This really Blew my mind. :)
Rule number 9: go out there and start implementing it
Coronavirus. Ight imma stop you there
Farhad 1448 HAHA
@@Far-cw8sh 😄
you dont apply it. you understand it.
Youre doing it already, but need a reminder every know and then
Great list, particularly accepting idiocy. Embracing it is important to learn, grow and develop. As Socrates said "I know that I know nothing"
This is why i love these guys ,the clarity that brings after listening you is impeccable.
I love this channel! It's a very good source of self-assurance and revelation, thank you to everyone who is responsible for creating this great channela and all those who contributed to its growth.
“Despair, but do so cheerfully”: with hope and gratitude for everything life offers. ❤😊
1. Accept imperfection
2. Friendship
3. Know your insanity
4. Accept your idiocy
5. Good enough
6. Beyond romanticism
7. Cheerful despair
8. Transcend yourself
I’ve rewatched this video a lot of times for more than a year. It keeps me on track when I find myself getting lost from time to time
I think the rules that will really stick with me are: 'we are all imperfect' and 'transcend yourself' because it reassures us that if we trip or fall in life, no one is looking and reminds us that we will mess up but that's okay☺
1.Frantic jostling 2. Humourlessness 3. Anxious pride. Wherever you see immediately run! or Laugh! :))
Thank goodness for this wisdom and that I have the fortune to have it in my life!!
Thankfully to live in a world where "The school of life" exist, free and easily available, thanks!!
Public service:
1. 0:36 - Accept imperfection
2. 1:05 - Friendship
3. 1:45 - Know your insanity
4. 2:30 - Accept your idiocy
5. 3:13 - Good enough
6. 3:41 - Beyond romanticism
7. 4:28 - Cheerful despair
8. 5:30 - Transcend yourself
cant forget to subscribe
Of this video, the thing that I remember the most is that repetition is the way to live by these concept. Every morning just after I woke up and every night before I go to bed, I read 2 little textes to remember what is important in my life.
To be a “better” person I was yesterday. Better = less hubris in my self-awareness.
Just love AdB philosophy. Goodness. Ruthless Authentic Accountability.
Love it!
And Thank you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻
AdB?
cannabisdeathmorbs Alain de Botton
☺️☺️
The calming voice of this man talks and talks... Then in the end the girl's voice always so abruptly comes in, manages to get me each time :D
Awesome video.
"The School of Lofe ahs produced 500 films and written 5 Million words..."
Heck yes, let's celebrate!
"...this is an enormous problem."
Oh...
Shame that all their great messages portray people in such a negative light.
Cosmic humility, well said. Great video, thank you.
"True love isn't merely an admiration for strength. It is patience and compassion for our mutual weaknesses."
I read many self help books and saw 4 years everyday min 3H self Help content. It was jus addiction I now understand. The rush of dopamine when watching and thinking the result it’s rewarding. But Starting any task there’s lot of frictions, mistakes, frustration & self help just teaches Always Be Positive and Hustle. So in that mentality, there’s no stopping and no resting and no introspecting on the negative thought. So lots of ideas or introspection of own self is lost and we just think inside a box what the industry lays.
The Toxic of Self Help By James Jani Video portraits it very well and Now School of Thought’s Video I am Seeing and it gives lots of Good thinking outside the box what self help industry portraits.
Journal, Meditation is very beneficial that is also I got when seeing those videos but it’s an addiction trap and it doesn’t teach about emotions and most time say ignore them that’s bad and I experience that. It is beneficial for short term but in long term lots of things accumulates and attacks together. And lastly asI said earlier, there’s always a rush to see new videos, read new books to improve but underline words are same and work is zero but we are thinking we achieved something.
"Despair but do so cheerfully"
Laughs in depression
said by a person who doesn't know what despair is
@@jcjs33 despair can be different for everyone tho
@@jcjs33 you dont even know this person so dont assume that
despair is a state of mind, depression sticks with you and has to be fought on the long term
This comment was hilarious, truly a good joke
I can't describe how thankful I am to the school of life.. I owe you a lot.. If I had enough money I would immediately donate it to you.. Thank you so much for your amazing work!!
When mr. deButtoin says "return here often" I actually feel like I'm entering a cozy room in my house that only I know about
I am the sanest person I know .. and yet I seek out my mistakes and interrogate myself rigorously... but with compassion and integrity
The first rule of this game is that it is not a game.
Everyone must play.
You must love us.
You must go on living.
Be yourself, but play a consistent and acceptable role.
Control yourself and be natural.
Try to be sincere.
~ Alan Watts, from "The Book"
He also said to see beyond the game. Also he said that it is the game and not to take it seriously.
@Reggie Cyde Sounds like you don't know Alan Watts
@Reggie Cyde That's alright. Your loss not mine.
YES
If British long suffering got frisky with Buddhist philosophy...I suspect their baby would be something like this gem.
There are many people in my life that I think will benefit from this, so I have sent it off to all of them! Thank you for your work to help us all make life a little more livable.
We are perfect in our imperfections. They make us unique and give us an advantage over others that only you have. Learn to embrace your imperfections so that they work for you and not against you.
sounds american.....a win where noone is speaking of loss?....what drivel, perfect in our imperfections?!....well then let the paedophile, killer, drugged momma -killer free, to imperfectly be perfect again...point numb 9- the shit that comes out of our mouths usually isnt ours....
One Of The Best TH-cam Clips Ever! I took their recommendation and revisit this at least 4 times a year.
In times like these, I always watch videos from your channel. It gives me a sense of calmness, peace, and resilience when I watch your videos. Thank you for continuouly uplifting us with the great lessons you impart ♥️
please make a part 2 because it is much needed.. you have taught way more things and they need to be summarized too.. please make a part 2... please! very important!!
Here after a break up. I still love her. But, I’m feeling a little better now!!
I've been subscribed to this channel for 4 years and I cannot describe how much it has helped me!!! I was already gaining precious knowledge when I started listening to the videos and then when I did therapy that knowledge was definitely expanded!!! Now I can see so many things under a different perspective regarding me and other people and this makes me feel soooooooo bliss!!!! It has been a very encouraging, engaging and enlightening experience!!! So thank you sooooooo much!!!
I may not have mastered the 8 teachings of the schools of life, but I definitely understand them and I definitely try my best to apply them all the time!!! So thank you!!!
GRATIDÃO!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love this channel; it is special and distinguished to me. The speaker's voice is deep, warm. Finally, the content is wise, and educative. Thank you.
I love all of the rules but "know your insanity" particularly made me smile. I have indeed been finding beauty in the more _obscure_ parts of people. The ones they try to hide to fit the mold. It's marvellous.
9. Appreciate death, just as light cannot exist without the dark, neither can life without a darkness to compare it to.
“Ordinary is not a name for failure”
Thank you thank you thank you
Great video thanks
The traduction in Arabic:
*تقبّل غياب الكمال*
نحن بطبيعتنا كائنات مغلوطة ومعطوبة. الكمال شيء بعيد عنّا.على الرغم من ذكائنا وعلومنا ,نحن جميعاً, عن قرب, خائفون, قلقون, مليئون بالندم, التوق واللغط .لا أحد طبيعي: الأشخاص الوحيدون الذين بالإمكان أن نعتبرهم طبيعيين هم أولئك الذين لا نعرفهم عن قرب بعد
*الصداقة*
الانتباه إلى أنّ كل واحد منّا ضعيف, غير منطقي و مخطئ هو شيء يدعو للتعاطف مع أنفسنا والسخاء مع الآخرين. معرفة كيف نظهر نقاط حساسيتنا وما هو معطوب بنا هو حجر الأساس للصداقة الحقيقية, والتي نتوق لها جميعاً دون استثناء ، إنّ حصول الأشخاص على الحياة التّي يستحقونها ليس بالأمر اليقين . يجب أن نتقبل مفهموم التراجيديا: الأشياء المروعة الاعتباطية التي من الممكن لها أن تسبب انهيار حياة معظم الناس, وهي بالفعل تقوم بذلك. من الممكن أن نفشل ونبقى بحال جيدة ولذلك علينا أن نأخذ وقتاً أكثر في الحكم ونسرع في التفهم,لذا كن لطيفاً
*أدرك جنونك*
ليس بإمكاننا أن نكون عاقلين تماماً, ولكنّه شرط أساسي للنضج أن نفهم مواضع جنوننا, نستطيع تحذير الأشخاص الذين نهتم لأمرهم بما يمكن لجننونا أن يجعلنا نفعل, في وقت مناسب ومبكر قبل أن نسبب ضرراً كبيراً، يجب أن نكون مستعدين لأن تكون لدينا إجابة جاهزة و ان لا نشعر بالإهانة إذا سألنا أحدهم (وهو ما يجدر به فعله) : 'ما هي مواضع جنونك؟’ معظم جنوننا يأتي من الطفولة , والتي بطريقة تختلف حسب وضعنا جعلتنا غير متزنين. لم يسبق لأحد أن حظي بطفولة "طبيعية"; هذه ليست بأي شكل إهانة لجهود العائلات. لا تهرب من احتمال كونك أحمق وكأنّه شيء مروّع وغير مسبوق، تقبّل اليقين بكل فضيلة, وبدون خجل. أنت أحمق ولكن ليس لديك أي خيار آخر ككائن بشري. نحنا على كوكب السبعة مليارات أحمق مختلف. تقبُّل حماقتنا يجب أن يعطينا الثقة أمام التحديات, لأن الخطأ متوقع فهذا يجعلنا مرتاحين مع أنفسنا, ومستعدين لمد يد الصداقة لجيراننا المعطوبين والمعتوهين بشكل مشابه. يجب أن نتغلب على العار والخجل لأننا وبالفعل تخلينا عن جزء كبير من كبريائنا
*جيد بما فيه الكفاية*
إنّ عكس الكمال ليس الفشل, بل هو تصالحنا مع فكرة أن, كلّ واحد منا, 'جيد بما فيه الكفاية’. جيدون بما فيه الكفاية كأهل, إخوة , عمّال وبشر. 'الاعتيادية' ليست مرادفاً للفشل. إذا فهمناها بدّقة, ونظرنا لها نظرة سخيّة ومتقبلة, فهي تتضمن أفضل ما في الحياة. الحياة ليست في أي مكان آخر; الحياة, بشكل كامل ومناسب, هنا والآن
*بعيداّ عن الشاعرية*
'الشخص الصحيح' هو ابتكار قاسي. لا أحد بشكل تام 'صحيح' أو بشكل تام 'خاطئ’. الحبّ الحقيقي ليس مجرد تقدير للقوة, بل هو صبر وتعاطف بين نقاط ضعفنا المشتركة. الحبّ هو القدرة على استخدام المخيّلة لتحمّل اللحظات الأقل جاذبية للشخص ومنح درجة مستمرة من التسامح لهشاشتنا الطبيعية. ليس من المقبول أن نتوقع من أحد أن يحبّنا 'كما نحن تماماّ’ الحبّ الصادق يتضمن شخصين يساعد كلّ منهما الآخر على الوصول إلى أفضل نسخة ممكنة من نفسه. التوافق ليس شرطاً للحبّ; بل هو من نتائج الحبّ
*اليأس المفرح*
نحن تحت ضغط غير عادل وغير مبررلأن نبتسم. ولكن تقريباً لا شيء سيجري بشكل جيد تماماً: نستطيع توقّع الانزعاج, سوء التفاهم, غياب الحظ, والرفض. يجب أن يكون مسموحاً لنا بالسوداوية. السوداوية ليست غضباً أو مرارة, إنّها صنف نبيل من الحزن يظهر لنا عندما نتقبل أنّ خيبة الأمل تقع في قلب التجربة البشرية. بحالتنا السوداوية, نستطيع دون أي حنق أو حساسية أن نفهم أن لا أحد يفهم الآخر بشكل كامل, أنّه لا يستثنى أحد من الشعور بالوحدة وأنّ لكل حياة حصتها الكاملة من الألم. ولكن على الرغم من وجود الكثير ممّا يدعو للشعور بالحزن, لسنا ملعونين بشكل فردي أو خاص, وأمام هذه الخلفية من الظلام العديد من الأشياء الحلوة يمكنها أن تظهر بوضوح: يوم مشمس, سحابة عابرة; الفجر والغسق, نظرة حنونة. يمكن لك أن تيئس ولكن افعل ذلك بفرح, آمن باليأس المفرح
*تخطى أهمية نفسك*
لسنا مركز أي شيء, لحسن الحظ. نحن صرر ضئيلة من مادة متلاشية في زاوية متناهية الصغر من كون غير محدود ليس لنا أي وزن في المخطط الأكبر للوجود, هذا يجب أن يكون أمراً محررّاً لنا. يجب أن نكسب الراحة من الفكرة اللطيفة لعدم الأهمية التي يمنحها الاتساع اللانهائي : سرمدية لن يلاحظ فيها أحد, حيث الرياح تحت الصخور في الفضاء بين النجوم. التواضع الكوني الذي علّمتنا إيّاه الطبيعة, التاريخ و السماء فوقنا هو نعمة وبديل ثابت لحياة من الصراع المحمموم, غياب الهزل, والكبرياء و القلق المفرط
** نقطة أخيرة
نظرياَ نعلم كلّ هذا. ولكن عملياً
هذا النوع من الأفكار يشتهر بضعف قدرته على التأثير بسلوكنا ومشاعرنا. أفضل معارفنا مرسخة فينا وبنفس الوقت غير فعّالة بالنسبة لنا. ننسى تقريباً كلّ شيء. حماسنا وأهدافنا تتلاشى كما النجوم عند الفجر. لا شيء يبقى. لهذا السبب, علينا أن نذكّر أنفسنا ببعض الأشياء, ربما مرّة في اليوم, وحتماً مرّة في الأسبوع. 'المدرسة' الجيدة فعلاً لا تخبرنا فقط بأشياء لم يسبق لنا سماعها; يجب أن تهتم بعمق بتمريننا على أشياء معروفة نظرياً لكن منسيّة عملياً. لهذا يجب أن نبقي هذه القواعد في بالنا دوما
Thanks Salma. We desperately need this in Arabic. I submitted Arabic subtitles long ago for another great video (a country you can be proud of) but it never got published. I think many are willing to do this for free if they only let them.
I don't know Arabic but good work!
' The next step is to subscribe and return here often" that made me smile.
I love this channel so much!! "We can overcome shame and shyness bc we have already shed so much of our pride."
I want to just say thank you to everyone who puts time into these videos. You guys help me through so much everytime I see another one. Like it says it the video I'll always need to remind myself and watch regularly but every video I feel closer to being the person I want to become. I appreciate every moment and thought put into these beautiful films. 💛💛
0:37 Imperfection
1:04 Friendship
1:45 Know your insanity
2:31 Accept your idiocy
3:13 Good enough
3:43 Beyond romanticism
4:29 Cheerful despair
5:29 Transcend yourself
Petition for making this the front video on the main channel page. It is most likely not needed and has already been decided by the team behind this channel but i think it sums up very well the theme of this channel.
What I call the "Paradox of School of Life" is that the people who need this advice the most are the ones least likely to watch this and receive it. The channel keeps talking about humility and accepting that you are not that great, when in reality most viewers need the opposite (a self-confidence boost.) You cannot bring people down to earth when they already have the humility to watch TSoL.
Happiness and confidence are slightly deceptive; if you were to repeat what Tsol says you would want to be taken seriously, and would be anxious to hear what others think about the ideas you bring up. A confidence boost to do something you dread, has as many answers; "but a few questions", "Why don't you go and ask the most beautiful girl you know on a date?"
Teaching humility isn't just about bringing people down to earth, it's also about convincing the people on earth that earth isn't such a bad place to be.
Someone who thinks they're perfect and someone who despairs at the fact that they're not, both suffer from the same problem.
@@joez6235 I fail to see how the same piece of advice could apply to two people with extremely different outlooks on life??
I think you need to dig deeper. Humility, and understanding that indeed, all humans are imperfect, and in a very real, societal as well as cosmic sense, not of it really matters, is critical. However, so is the flipside: the kindness, forgiveness & grace that we should extend to not only others, but ourselves as well. Acceptance is the key to confidence. I think you may view 'confidence' and 'self-esteem' as derivatives of comparison; you're using societal measuring sticks to judge whether or not you should feel good about yourself. This is one way to go about it. I think the School of Life though, encourages us to think of it differently; to treat everyone, ourselves and others, essentially the same. To understand that our yearning for these things is simultaneously understandable as well as foolish. To let go. And to be at peace with that. I think that's where true love (self-love as well as love for others & the world) comes from.
Do I think everyone can receive this type of information and take it, on balance, as truth, immediately? no, of course not. But the funny thing is, I couldn't have, even a few short years ago. That doesn't mean these people you talk about who need a self-confidence boost will always need it, or those who could stand to bear some humbling won't understand this later on. Again, hoping for that might be hoping for life to be what you think it should be, rather than as it is. Let things take their course.
@@sebastianelytron8450 To someone who thinks they are perfect: "accept that you are NOT perfect"
To someone who feels bad because they are not perfect: "ACCEPT that you are not perfect"
If you let perfection into your life it will become the source of all your troubles. Stop thinking you must be perfect. How are you supposed to ever be confident when your standards are so impossibly high that you will never reach them without deluding yourself?
People don't need a confidence boost from a youtube video, they need to learn to stop relying on youtube videos for confidence boosts.
I meditate while i listen to these videos and they are helping change my life. Thanks 🌺
Definitely one of the most valuable videos ever! Thanks for all the wisdom you've shared with us. I'm so grateful for finding your channel.
Once again, School of Life, you have nailed it‼️ Brilliant and RIGHT ON‼️ Outstandingly said‼️ I did the cheerful melancholy today❗️ And sometimes, not so cheerful melancholy. Kind of got up on the wrong side of the bed, and continued my entire day on that track. However, it was a big plus for me and my consciousness, that I am now aware of accepting myself in this condition, instead of wishing it away or blaming myself for putting friends, coworkers through my trials and tribulations. Now at home, 10 PM getting ready for bed and having just listened to Tara Brach, another spiritual teacher, I say to myself, it really wasn't that bad. You didn't yell at anyone..... I was aware all day that I should be careful with others because I could feel the vulnerability of being in that position, and I was uncomfortable but sane. Come on in melancholy and park for a day, and let's see if I can keep calm and loving to myself, and others. AND GUESS WHAT, I mostly did. It's just me and my mind which constantly is putting me down, and that's the main party to whom I need to observe and care for, it's all right little darling, I will be there for you, (MYSELF)❗️☮️☯️💟
Wouldn't it be wonderful if these were shared and taught at school
I simply love the voice of this man you (School of Life) uses in your videos...
The funny thing is, we become professional overthinkers, without even having experiences to prove those thoughts.
We think we know, because we have feelings and those tend to act as a morning fog, dissipating rather quickly.
Trust me mate you dont overthink. You underthink. Hence your constant spamming comments.
I’m so grateful for the existence of the school of life making the world a better place
Me: A problem
School of life: iT All BeGiNs In ChiLDhoOd
lmao carl gustav jung disappearing it
Adler: ummmm.... I don't think so....
Hilarious 😅....but it's true lmao
@Reggie Cyde Everybody is toxic!
LMAO
Oh School of Life what a WONDERFUL gift you are to us!!!
Wise words, thank you 🙏
This channel is a beacon in every sense to human kind
Haven't watched it yet but I approve
Dickhead post. At least you can do ONE thing right!
@@JohnVKaravitis Haha no clue what you're on about but have a good day
It means you have so much trust to TSOL or you've watched most of its 500 videos. haha
Alain de Botton has done it again... Distilled the wisdom of the ages to the points that practically matter in regard to modern daily (sane) life... It's absolutely the best we flawed beings can ever hope to achieve in our lives.
The Credo of the School of Life
(1) Accept imperfection
(2) Friendship
(3) Know your insanity
(4) Accept your idiocy
(5) Good enough
(6) Beyond romanticism
(7) Cheerful despair
(8) Transcend yourself
Thank you School of Life and thank you Alain de Bouton! for the calm and resolute kind leading towards much more sain inner-life for each and every one!
Can you do a video on painful memories? I constantly have flash backs to dumb things I’ve done or said or mistakes I’ve made and they can feel physically paralysing
One of their videos with the seemingly harsh title 'don't worry, no one cares', might touch this topic a little
Thank you for bringing hope in the lives of countless people all around the world. Love from Pakistan!
Disagree with 5 pretty fundamentally. Telling yourself you're good enough is only really a prescription when you are in the depths of vicious self criticism.
Good enough doesn't really inspire an endeavour to improve. 'doing my best' is a term off the top of my head that although is relatively soothing and blunts despair, also holds yourself to an honest and intrinsic yardstick.
Although that being said, I am an idiot. 😉
This is the comment I've been looking for.
It is basically.. nobody is good enough... everyone is broken, healing, imperfect and an idiot.
This "good enough" thing can be interpreted in many ways. It basically means that there is nothing wrong with you and, from there, you can move forward: improve yourself not because you are flawed, but because you want to grow and learn.
@@XaviOvf Yes, but sometimes there IS something wrong and you should recognize it and change it - both for you and for those around you - not accept it and feeling as if what you're like is entirely uncontrollable and set in stone. Being at peace with who you are is only beneficial if you're an anxiety-ridden overthinker. Unfortunately, most people who are at peace with who they are aren't the ones that should be.
@@user-qb4id8zn3h I couldn't have said it better. 👍
Perfect timing. Staying with my roommate during this COVID-19 period has driven me mad, real mad, for the very first time in many years. Up until now, I used to always seem myself a "nice person," which tends to be more like a "perfectly kind person" in my ideal. Because of this perfectionism, I always suppressed my anger. By not expressing or even allowing myself to experience anger, it manifested itself in the form of grief. Up untill now, I had never been angry at the virus, the government, or people around me. I was just so sad. But this doesn't have to be the case anymore. If I'm angry at someone, I'm going to acknowledge that anger. I will embrace my temper, my scornful words, and my nasty tone. This is what I really feel in the moment. I am going to honour my feelings. And yes, I have never felt as humane as I am feeling now.
I love how the whole point of the video was, that I should subscribe to your channel😂😂😂
People refrain from talking about their flaws and tragedies of life. Alain de Botton has been like a group therapy kind of thing for me. Not only the School of Life but each one of his talks and ideas has been a blessing. I read the comments and assure myself I’m not alone.
I absolutely love this and replay it often. It's a wonderful reminder that we all struggle ☺️💖
'The one is an invention" We all have more than one, the one. Love is really about 2 people coming together to become the best versions of themselves. Growing and becoming stronger together!
1:38 - "Slower to judge, and quicker to understand." Too bad most of the world doesn't do that.
I can't tell with proper words how much The School of Life has helped me in the most everyday problems of my life but I would love to share this amazing content to many others to help them, the problem here is that they don't speak English and I'd appreciate a lot to The School of Life if they can put Spanish captions so in that way so many people could get the opportunity to understand such helpful and wonderful content. Thanks again.
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Love the last one :)
To never, ever follow life & health advices from anonymous and dubious people on the Internet, unless they are professionally certified for such matter.
@@geoleo965 Well, that is a fallacy. Certification is a shortcut but doesn't ultimately prove legitimacy rather their argument and evidence to support it.
Hence, Bankers during the 2008 financial cash and rule 1 imperfection and 4 idiocy. - From anonymous
Friendship, cheerful despair and cosmic humility. Thanks a lot for all the clarity and consolation!
@@MrMisanthrope_ With that logic, then we shouldn't trust doctors.
Hard to put into words just how much this channel has helped me. May we all find encouragement in discovering how to best manage this thing called life.
1. (0:38) Accept Imperfection,
2. (1:03) Friendship,
3. (1:45) Know your Insanity,
4. (2:31) Accept your idiocy,
5. (3:13) Good Enough,
6. (3:42) Beyond Romanticism,
7.(4:28) Cheerful despair,
8. (5:29) Transcend yourself..
These videos make me feel normal and grounded. I love it.
If you really want to be brief you can summarise these eight rules into just three words:
Lower your expectations! 😉
This is why School of Life is my favourite channel. Thanks for your videos.
I’d replace the “idiot” part with an acceptance that we are all ignorant about something. Or just add it in.
True
The idiot part is the best bit
I've listened to this three times in a row and shared it with everyone I love. This is beautiful!!!
This video truly challenges my vocabulary
One of those things we seem to only get when we get old. We may not be able to put it into these words, but we start to act on this in our 60’s. Would be so cool to have people embrace this when teens.