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"The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self." - David Deida | The Way of The Superior Man
I'm not going to accept anyone in my life who plays this kind of games with me, women who "test" men are only good to be fucked and then completely dumped, of course noone wants a partner who is too reactive, because that's annoying, even friends who are too reactive to every single thing you do are annoying, a woman being indifferent to the fact that you earned a lot of subscribers isn't a girl who is "testing you" and who "needs your masculinity", she's just behaving in a completely normal way, I would react like that to my friends too, idgaf. A girl who doesn't do exactly what you want at all times isn't testing you, she's behaving like that because, well, what did you expect? she's a normal human being, not a fucking slave. If a woman shit-tested me, I would fuck her and then forget about her, and if all women were going to shit-test me, then I would treat all women like this, I would treat them as walking pussies, I wouldn't be interested in their personality because a human being who shit-tests others just can't have a good personality, PERIOD.
Bro you are my biggest insipation. You are helping me so much in every direction and Im so grateful for your videos. Keep up the great work man. Love from the Czech republic 🇨🇿
I always hear a lot of poeple say "this book changed my life" "read this book its a gamechanger" but I don't think any book, yes I mean any book, made as much of an impact instantly in my mindset regarding women as way of the superior man. Seriously, the second I finished reading it, all the chapters fresh in my mind, its like a lens was taken off of my eyes and I could see clearly. Like you mentioned, all the shit tests your girl throws your way, its just like the examples in the book, to a T, you look back and realize all the times you did the opposite, and in that moment facing the shit test, you navigate it the proper way, you INSTANTLY can feel the love and shift in your womans emotions. I don't honestly believe id have my girlfriend if I didnt read that book, those first couple dates we went on, if it was the past, I wouldve messed up so many times, but instead I lead, was decisive, present. Great video, I know it sounds like im glazing this book, but its a 10/10 for any straight man to read, actually it should be mandatory, and if you buy it and don't feel like it served its purpose for you, respond to this comment and yell at me.
Never needed a book to understand or allure women. The most powerful element a man can have to attract a women is not confidence, but an aura of mystery, in good or bad context a women will always look over her shoulder to something that isn’t familiar. If you’re confident it can be good for you but if you’re not you’d just be creepy. Always say less than you do and move slow with a purpose.
Dude trust me. Go for it but make sure it’s a girl who is not low quality. Make sure you choose a woman who chooses you. You will have an amazing experience and know what good love is if it is with a good woman. it is a challenge, but a beautiful challenge. But let’s say it does end up being unfortunate and you break up. You must use that energy and experience to grow tougher and stronger. Dont regret it, instead learn from it. It takes a long time yes but at the end of the day, you end up knowing how to find peace within yourself even after going through a very tough time. You will end up being a more experienced individual and you’ll be able to be a much better partner to your next girlfriend. Eventually you will find a girl who is your true love and you’ll be proud of yourself for how much you’ve gone through and stayed strong to be the person who you are in the future.
If u have been in a relationship prior to this, then u aren't fit for one now, if u have never been in a relationship yet, then let me just tell u the first relationship will nearly always be kind of a let down bc u don't even know what u really want
Mate just do it what's the worst that can happen she's say no I've had five people do that and I've learnt every time how to tweak it and that's why I'm so happy now
I don't know how I feel about women "testing" what kind of man I am. There are better ways to figure out a man's character than to play these little "games" with him. Feels childish and immature to me.
Bro absolutely love your stuff. Inspiring and very vulnerable how you share your stories so openly. Keep on crushing it bro, see you in the Brotherhood. - Tim
I definitely agree with the fact that you shouldn’t do what young Matt did because I definitely did every mistake in the book when it comes to dating. However, in my experience, when a girl likes me, she won’t throw these “tests” at you such as purposely leaving you unread to see what you’ll do. If that happens, to my younger guys, don’t respond or even entertain it. A girl who has to resort to that in my opinion doesn’t actually like you
I second this..if there is truly love between both parties shit like this won't happen to begin with. Any girl who does this kind of toxic stuff should be left alone immediately. It's a sign the relationship won't be healthy in long term.
Hey matt! Been watching your videos for a while and i must say, i really appreciate your videos and you as a person a lot. In fact, you inspired me to face my fear and start a youtube channel. You and your girlfriend have been like this dad and mom who knows how to make their children grow up true to their purpose and into strong and free adults. My gratitude is limitless since you are a huge part of my growth and i’m eager to watch you keep growing. :))
To be honest, you're not taking this right mate. I saw the reviews of that book on goodreads. Many are against what it's saying too. I don't know if reading it would be worth it; I'm already comfortable with myself. The point is, I think women who consistently take shit tests are toxic. No decent/kind/polite/secure women that I've ever seen has taken shit tests. Learn to read and understand people over time. Shit testing the person you love and respect throughout the relationship is a toxic and exhausting way to live not a peaceful and secure way. Don't know if the book is brainwashing you but be masculine (logical, calm, good decision maker) not to pass the shit tests. But to be good for yourself. Chose a partner who's smart and respectful enough in that way as well. Girlfriend taking shit tests and boy enjoying the he passed the shit tests is a pretty immature way to live. In conclusion, do what you're already doing but not to just pass the shit test but to be like that with everybody because staying that way will help you in many phases of your life. And THEN, chose a woman who doesn't do shit tests. If she really needs some love, a good woman will communicate it in a healthy and respectful way. Of course, if you're good to people no matter how harsh they are, they'll eventually calm down. This is not just with women but with anybody in your life. But this doesn't mean the other person being shitty is a good way to live. The second thing I'd say is that not everything is a shit test. If in a relationship, she's getting annoyed, there could be other reasons for it too. So, imho, I'd say just drop this idea of shit tests. Be a calm/strong human being in general, pick a calm/respectful partner for you as well, and just live life handling it accordingly.
Bro I haven't really been on youtube for a while (part of my self-improvement) and I remember being subscribed when you had 500 subscribers. It's crazy to see how much you've blown up and I'm really happy for you.
I have recently failed my first ever relationship, (currently 20yo) I started dating this girl from work and things were great at the start, she was loving and caring, and i passed a few tests. but as time went on, I started to struggle a lot with all of my insecurities and became less and less respected by this girl. obviously she ended up finding someone else and left me broken. Now i realize where I fucked up, and i wish I could have a chance like this with someone again, But the truth is that it is really hard for me to get into dating, since I was not even the one making the first move, and my confidence got a bit shattered by this. I hope I will have an other chance with someone, and i will keep my experience and this video in mind
Actually I really like one women at work and we don't talk match because you know we are busy doing the work we have to do. But we see each other all the time because the room were in is huge and so we watch on each other some time and you know I feel that she is looking and so on.But when I got a free moment I just go and sometime just hug here from behind and she acts shy and so one but the most important I notice is she blushes and smiles after that, you might think I scare her but deep down she just feel happy that I make some contact.
You sound like you are contradicting yourself. You say are a strong man but then you say you need your girlfriend to motivate and inspire you. If she knows this, doesn't that mean you failed her test? If you are dependent on her, then how are you strong? I think your girl is just being nice, when in reality most girls would not be doing what she is doing. It's true that every guy would love to have a girl in their life because it does motivate them and gives a spark to everything. But that's the problem. Girls already want you at the finish line, they don't want to support your journey. They want you to be strong and masculine before they will even consider being attracted to you.
Isn't that mind games? Bruhhh trust me if you are a high value man she wouldn't dare even to test you. Testing or mind games in my opinion are futile, you play games you can fkcin go.
Recently I've got some problems with my girl... idk if she's tryna test me or some sorta like that but sometimes it's like when we're in call she keep talking talking with some of her classmates or other dudes beside her... she've been posting her photos on insta tagging some other guys idk about along with me... hanging out with her female friends and male friends too.... see it's not like I don't trust her or anything and ik nothing's gonna happen but unfortunately the feeling of jelousness is eating me up inside... i can't even tell anyone cuz Id have much friends in my life rn... man im tryna grow better but shit like these holding me down... I can't even Focus on my daily routine... it's all getting messed up bro.
Guys, the theme is essentially some girls wants to be able to turn off their brain and allow their man to lead. (WIthin CONTEXT). You're going on a date, PICK THE PLACE. You want food, PICK THE FOOD. so on.
As his attorney, my client meant that you should take the littles, hurtles and challenges that can occur in your relationship as a test. Your reaction and how she responds to it will dertermine if you passed or not. Thank you for your comment, a claarification was indeed needed. Nah but jokes aside, your right right he could've framed it a little better but let's give him the benefit of the doubt I don't think his ill-intentioned.
Sounds like she depends more on you than you on her. What if you're moody and not willing to make her happy cause you have had a bad day? Will she break up for that alone?
If you are being moody then stop being moody. Control your emotions. Ik it sounds cringe as fu** but it is true. If you are having a bad day then just leave it alone, it will pass anyway.
Good advice for the dress part, if you tell her a reason why you chose the one you did that will make her even happier, you can throw in a little compliment there.
"The most loving women are the women who will test you the most. She wants you to be your fullest, most magnificent self." - David Deida | The Way of The Superior Man
The hard thing is finding a woman you think is worthy for this kind of effort and patience
Agreed. The women who are shit testing you are definitely not.
Do this for all women. Be a real man for all women
@@VortexxFXNo. Just No.
Woman starts doing this shit to me, I'm gonna just ditch her and find someone else. I don't have time to deal with bullshit drama like this.
I'm not going to accept anyone in my life who plays this kind of games with me, women who "test" men are only good to be fucked and then completely dumped, of course noone wants a partner who is too reactive, because that's annoying, even friends who are too reactive to every single thing you do are annoying, a woman being indifferent to the fact that you earned a lot of subscribers isn't a girl who is "testing you" and who "needs your masculinity", she's just behaving in a completely normal way, I would react like that to my friends too, idgaf.
A girl who doesn't do exactly what you want at all times isn't testing you, she's behaving like that because, well, what did you expect? she's a normal human being, not a fucking slave.
If a woman shit-tested me, I would fuck her and then forget about her, and if all women were going to shit-test me, then I would treat all women like this, I would treat them as walking pussies, I wouldn't be interested in their personality because a human being who shit-tests others just can't have a good personality, PERIOD.
Bois if she plays games, move on. A traditional and a true woman will not test you
Facts.
your editing style fits you well and adds to your content a lot
Bro you are my biggest insipation. You are helping me so much in every direction and Im so grateful for your videos. Keep up the great work man. Love from the Czech republic 🇨🇿
Appreciate you bro!
I always hear a lot of poeple say "this book changed my life" "read this book its a gamechanger" but I don't think any book, yes I mean any book, made as much of an impact instantly in my mindset regarding women as way of the superior man. Seriously, the second I finished reading it, all the chapters fresh in my mind, its like a lens was taken off of my eyes and I could see clearly. Like you mentioned, all the shit tests your girl throws your way, its just like the examples in the book, to a T, you look back and realize all the times you did the opposite, and in that moment facing the shit test, you navigate it the proper way, you INSTANTLY can feel the love and shift in your womans emotions. I don't honestly believe id have my girlfriend if I didnt read that book, those first couple dates we went on, if it was the past, I wouldve messed up so many times, but instead I lead, was decisive, present. Great video, I know it sounds like im glazing this book, but its a 10/10 for any straight man to read, actually it should be mandatory, and if you buy it and don't feel like it served its purpose for you, respond to this comment and yell at me.
100% brother. Thank you for this comment. It’s one of those books that should be read not just once, but many times over
Same brother. Read that book and the impact on my perspective was insane.
Never needed a book to understand or allure women. The most powerful element a man can have to attract a women is not confidence, but an aura of mystery, in good or bad context a women will always look over her shoulder to something that isn’t familiar. If you’re confident it can be good for you but if you’re not you’d just be creepy. Always say less than you do and move slow with a purpose.
She will test me?? Nah bro I will test her and see if she passes. Yall gotta wake up from that simping trance.
Im currently scared of starting a relationship with a girl due to the fear of her breaking up with me, i m fearful of that heartbreak
😢fr broo likee I'm tired of that
Dude trust me. Go for it but make sure it’s a girl who is not low quality. Make sure you choose a woman who chooses you. You will have an amazing experience and know what good love is if it is with a good woman. it is a challenge, but a beautiful challenge. But let’s say it does end up being unfortunate and you break up. You must use that energy and experience to grow tougher and stronger. Dont regret it, instead learn from it. It takes a long time yes but at the end of the day, you end up knowing how to find peace within yourself even after going through a very tough time. You will end up being a more experienced individual and you’ll be able to be a much better partner to your next girlfriend. Eventually you will find a girl who is your true love and you’ll be proud of yourself for how much you’ve gone through and stayed strong to be the person who you are in the future.
If u have been in a relationship prior to this, then u aren't fit for one now, if u have never been in a relationship yet, then let me just tell u the first relationship will nearly always be kind of a let down bc u don't even know what u really want
Mate just do it what's the worst that can happen she's say no I've had five people do that and I've learnt every time how to tweak it and that's why I'm so happy now
@@Vneosjwfknever give advice mate be a good boy and sit in the corner
Just bought the book can’t wait to read it
I don't know how I feel about women "testing" what kind of man I am. There are better ways to figure out a man's character than to play these little "games" with him. Feels childish and immature to me.
Love the work youre doing out here ❤❤
Bro absolutely love your stuff. Inspiring and very vulnerable how you share your stories so openly. Keep on crushing it bro, see you in the Brotherhood.
- Tim
Yes indeed she will
The realest man. Helping the community 💯👍🏼
I definitely agree with the fact that you shouldn’t do what young Matt did because I definitely did every mistake in the book when it comes to dating.
However, in my experience, when a girl likes me, she won’t throw these “tests” at you such as purposely leaving you unread to see what you’ll do. If that happens, to my younger guys, don’t respond or even entertain it. A girl who has to resort to that in my opinion doesn’t actually like you
I second this..if there is truly love between both parties shit like this won't happen to begin with. Any girl who does this kind of toxic stuff should be left alone immediately. It's a sign the relationship won't be healthy in long term.
Hey matt! Been watching your videos for a while and i must say, i really appreciate your videos and you as a person a lot. In fact, you inspired me to face my fear and start a youtube channel. You and your girlfriend have been like this dad and mom who knows how to make their children grow up true to their purpose and into strong and free adults. My gratitude is limitless since you are a huge part of my growth and i’m eager to watch you keep growing. :))
bro thank u so much for the lessons. i love how humorous you are while also providing real examples !
Literally saved me I think, thank you so much
To be honest, you're not taking this right mate. I saw the reviews of that book on goodreads. Many are against what it's saying too. I don't know if reading it would be worth it; I'm already comfortable with myself. The point is, I think women who consistently take shit tests are toxic. No decent/kind/polite/secure women that I've ever seen has taken shit tests. Learn to read and understand people over time. Shit testing the person you love and respect throughout the relationship is a toxic and exhausting way to live not a peaceful and secure way. Don't know if the book is brainwashing you but be masculine (logical, calm, good decision maker) not to pass the shit tests. But to be good for yourself. Chose a partner who's smart and respectful enough in that way as well. Girlfriend taking shit tests and boy enjoying the he passed the shit tests is a pretty immature way to live. In conclusion, do what you're already doing but not to just pass the shit test but to be like that with everybody because staying that way will help you in many phases of your life. And THEN, chose a woman who doesn't do shit tests. If she really needs some love, a good woman will communicate it in a healthy and respectful way. Of course, if you're good to people no matter how harsh they are, they'll eventually calm down. This is not just with women but with anybody in your life. But this doesn't mean the other person being shitty is a good way to live.
The second thing I'd say is that not everything is a shit test. If in a relationship, she's getting annoyed, there could be other reasons for it too. So, imho, I'd say just drop this idea of shit tests. Be a calm/strong human being in general, pick a calm/respectful partner for you as well, and just live life handling it accordingly.
God bless you brother❤
I don’t think I’m built for these. I can’t be the one that’s gonna make her life when she’s being shitty.
Thanks Matt ❤
bro popped up on my feed just when i needed this lol
I needed this
Bro I haven't really been on youtube for a while (part of my self-improvement) and I remember being subscribed when you had 500 subscribers. It's crazy to see how much you've blown up and I'm really happy for you.
Wow. What an episode, man. This was incredible. Thanks! I will remember this for when I get a gf someday. Also, I will buy that book 😉. Double thanks.
This vid is SPEAKING to me (as a guy in an LDR currently reading TWOTSM for the first time :)
There is no LDR, that shit doesn't work. Just drop her and find someone else. If I'm not having regular sex with a girl, there is no relationship.
Wtf I’m looking back and ur so fucking right 🤯
care to explain man. If not, that's fine. Keep it up, I believe in you.
Yep definitely 💯
Keep other wemen and better looking around and she will never try to test you because hard competition reminds her not to f-up
Johnny test lol 2:17, the wave of emotions was a really nice bit of the video
I have recently failed my first ever relationship, (currently 20yo) I started dating this girl from work and things were great at the start, she was loving and caring, and i passed a few tests. but as time went on, I started to struggle a lot with all of my insecurities and became less and less respected by this girl. obviously she ended up finding someone else and left me broken. Now i realize where I fucked up, and i wish I could have a chance like this with someone again,
But the truth is that it is really hard for me to get into dating, since I was not even the one making the first move, and my confidence got a bit shattered by this. I hope I will have an other chance with someone, and i will keep my experience and this video in mind
How did you fuck up?
Yeah I don't care about her tests.
She will test me?? Nah bro I will test her and see if she passes. Yall gotta wake up from that simping trance.
I failed every test with my ex, no wonder she left me
But I’m grateful for it because otherwise I would never have started self improvement
Actually I really like one women at work and we don't talk match because you know we are busy doing the work we have to do. But we see each other all the time because the room were in is huge and so we watch on each other some time and you know I feel that she is looking and so on.But when I got a free moment I just go and sometime just hug here from behind and she acts shy and so one but the most important I notice is she blushes and smiles after that, you might think I scare her but deep down she just feel happy that I make some contact.
Give ur life to Christ bros and sis❤
Big bro
What’s up Matt, thanks for this valuable video. May I ask what the text on your wall/poster says? Greetings from The Netherlands 🇳🇱
We want more videos like this! About the way how a man should be..
You sound like you are contradicting yourself. You say are a strong man but then you say you need your girlfriend to motivate and inspire you. If she knows this, doesn't that mean you failed her test? If you are dependent on her, then how are you strong? I think your girl is just being nice, when in reality most girls would not be doing what she is doing. It's true that every guy would love to have a girl in their life because it does motivate them and gives a spark to everything. But that's the problem. Girls already want you at the finish line, they don't want to support your journey. They want you to be strong and masculine before they will even consider being attracted to you.
0:05 What to do if I have the same situation but in reverse, she always text me why I don't respond in like 2 mins 😅
If you like her back then ask her out, she’s texting you first for a reason
I would tell her than I have some work to do, so she can see that I`m not wasting my time
What if you say red and then she wears blue? xD
Her loss bro
Isn't that mind games? Bruhhh trust me if you are a high value man she wouldn't dare even to test you. Testing or mind games in my opinion are futile, you play games you can fkcin go.
High value or not. A Woman is going to be a Woman in the end.
@@GioHimonPro well at least in this generation woman are indeed woman and I personally don't have time for games.
Bruh. He is testing for marriage not for hook ups. Big difference how you deal with woman when you want sex or marriage.
@@kayaanyadunath9863 so marriage doesn't include sex? That won't even be a relationship at all then. .
Matt please dont stop making the videos, youre probably the chillest and coolest self improvement content creator out there
Recently I've got some problems with my girl... idk if she's tryna test me or some sorta like that but sometimes it's like when we're in call she keep talking talking with some of her classmates or other dudes beside her... she've been posting her photos on insta tagging some other guys idk about along with me... hanging out with her female friends and male friends too.... see it's not like I don't trust her or anything and ik nothing's gonna happen but unfortunately the feeling of jelousness is eating me up inside... i can't even tell anyone cuz Id have much friends in my life rn... man im tryna grow better but shit like these holding me down... I can't even Focus on my daily routine... it's all getting messed up bro.
Sounds like she’s causing you stress more than anything, I’d suggest dumping her and focusing on yourself bro.
ditch that hoe dog……. foooo real
Guys, the theme is essentially some girls wants to be able to turn off their brain and allow their man to lead. (WIthin CONTEXT). You're going on a date, PICK THE PLACE. You want food, PICK THE FOOD. so on.
bro do you know Hamza? You two have a lot common your thinking, inspiring etc. No offense just curious
She will test you, your really have a terrible way of framing these things don't you your in a equal relationship this isn't the hunger games
As his attorney, my client meant that you should take the littles, hurtles and challenges that can occur in your relationship as a test. Your reaction and how she responds to it will dertermine if you passed or not. Thank you for your comment, a claarification was indeed needed. Nah but jokes aside, your right right he could've framed it a little better but let's give him the benefit of the doubt I don't think his ill-intentioned.
Sounds like she depends more on you than you on her. What if you're moody and not willing to make her happy cause you have had a bad day? Will she break up for that alone?
If you are being moody then stop being moody. Control your emotions. Ik it sounds cringe as fu** but it is true. If you are having a bad day then just leave it alone, it will pass anyway.
@@JoaquinEscalante-rq5bg Your comment is giving me "if you're homeless just by a house" vibe. And yeah, it is cringe. 🙄
Sounds like a burden and liability to me better off to get money and let them be
Good advice for the dress part, if you tell her a reason why you chose the one you did that will make her even happier, you can throw in a little compliment there.
Don’t use it negatively tards 🤣, pick one and give a positive reason, like hey, it matches your earrings, etc.
Thanks Matt ❤