Reasons A Parent Can Lose Custody

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  • @Healthnut1909
    @Healthnut1909 4 ปีที่แล้ว +238

    I wish lawyers and judges were educated on covert narcissism and learn to recognize the signs. Too many children being put in dangerous situations

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Good idea, healthnut. Thanks for commenting.

    • @Madmok128
      @Madmok128 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      They do!

    • @christyepperson8805
      @christyepperson8805 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Seriously! It's so difficult to prove this and they are such experts when lying to the court. I hate lying.

    • @MiguelGonzalez-ko1ow
      @MiguelGonzalez-ko1ow 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      What happens when the father is being abusive and mother is trying to protect his children

    • @jaypuck6912
      @jaypuck6912 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      With respect, the word "narcissist" is thrown around way too much.

  • @msfittherapist
    @msfittherapist 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    He's a narcissistic sociopath and has said he doesnt want to be a parent...so why force visitatiin when its obviously not in the best interest of the child when he will not feed, not give bedtime, not provide safety...in this case i want and understand the importance of co-parenting but why do we as the parent have to wait for "something to happen" to a child before the courts listen or understand...and thats the tip of the iceberg in my case...
    We teach kids to stay away from harmful situations.
    .so what is the system teaching? Nothing...just addding to another generation emotional and unstable abuses we as parents are trying to TRULY avoid and not as a control tactic...

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If he truly doesn't want anything to do with his children, then the kids will pick up on that and they should not be forced, Ms. Fit Therapist.

    • @violeturviolet5
      @violeturviolet5 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV
      Recently on the news the crazy narc x who was allowed visitations decided to chain his 3yrs old to the child care seat engulfed the car with gasoline and burned her alive a he ran to a near by pond and saved his own life NOT EVERYONE DESERVES THE RIGHT TO A VULNERABLE CHILD JUST CAUSE THEY ARE THE DONOR....🤔🤔🤔

    • @selinallano9147
      @selinallano9147 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Man.. You said a mouthful right there!!! Im in the same situation and i wholeheartedly agree with you on this!!

    • @selinallano9147
      @selinallano9147 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@violeturviolet5 This is the story that haunts me when i think about parents who hurt the kid as a form of punishment to the other parent. Heartbreaking

    • @user-bd4bo4tb8u
      @user-bd4bo4tb8u 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Do you really need to ask that question? Most people are decent and fair and care about their own children. For most of us, it never crosses our minds that a man we love would be any different. Then it happens and your world and world,view are destroyed.

  • @emelle285
    @emelle285 5 ปีที่แล้ว +206

    you both have way too much focus on normal people custody problems. Do a video of one parent doing everything right and healthy, and the other parent being an abusive alcoholic.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      There are so many scenarios, em elle, sorry you have had to go through this.

    • @simplyshannon3478
      @simplyshannon3478 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      em elle this is my issue as well. Adding sexual abuse, along with physical, mental, emotional abuse, and substance abuse...yet he has more money.

    • @lindsayfarr8978
      @lindsayfarr8978 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      cooperating with a drug addict... I would love that video

    • @matthewlove6678
      @matthewlove6678 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      But your answers obvious and there is no reason they would waste there time and effort you clearly have flaws or you wouldnt make such a remark

    • @DimitriTheBarbarian
      @DimitriTheBarbarian 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Karol Palazej thank you that's good info

  • @Mbspitz851
    @Mbspitz851 5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    If the other parent is a narcissist joint custody only maintains the unhealthy dynamics of the narcissistic parent. From the child's point of view the narcissist makes sure that you are belittled and he is the good strong parent and the child has to listen to that parent and not the other parent. In many cases the other parent is healthy and has no idea this control tactic is being used.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mary Spitz, co-parenting can be a challenge and more-so with a person who has mental problems. Over time, the child will see what is happening. Thank you for watching.

    • @zofiaelfsberg3452
      @zofiaelfsberg3452 ปีที่แล้ว

      This is what im going thru but it will work out 4 the best im determent ❤❤❤

    • @garenhuddy1981
      @garenhuddy1981 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@LiveOnPurposeTVyea by then it's too late and the child has severe issues

  • @davidflash603
    @davidflash603 5 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    Rule 1. Dont have kids or get married in the USA. Take your labor to another country and get a passport.

    • @davidflash603
      @davidflash603 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Karol Palazej What they say and do are two different things. Watch the Coach Greg Adams channel. Then sit in on family court.

    • @melyssasmagictouch
      @melyssasmagictouch 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm just curious about a couple of things, that I'm hoping you might be able to touch on. Every decree seems to end with a Children's Bill of Rights page that lists everything that you should not do or discuss, etc., with the child. And, in my opinion, a lot of those "things" are very important, if not detrimental in terms of appropriateness at the very least. So my question is, at what point do you hold the other parent accountable for breaching the child's bill of rights? And, realistically speaking, is it even possible to do so?
      Any parent can say or do whatever they feel like or deem appropriate at the time (or always, for that matter), but what exactly can be done about it, and how? It seems to me that, unless a bystander hears or sees it for themselves, or if it is miraculously caught on tape in some kind of way, there is absolutely no way to hold a parent accountable for such. I would very much like to know what your (both of you) take is on this matter, as well as, if it is (if at all), something enforcable. How does one prove that. And I'll be honest, I feel that a breach of that particular bill is a form of child abuse; whether it be verbal or emotional. To me, they both go hand in hand. How exactly do you protect your children from that,? And, how exactly do the courts receive &/or respond to such acts?

    • @joepaquet4332
      @joepaquet4332 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Karol Palazej This is not reality and based on a pattern of your comments you must be a pro-legal troll

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      David Flash, sounds like you have had a negative experience.

    • @joepaquet4332
      @joepaquet4332 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The NH family courts regularly award a pathogenic parent custody in the face of evidence so that the industry can ride their behavior to the bank for as long as possible. If you have enough money you can buy your way out.

  • @cakesinthecity
    @cakesinthecity ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I lost custody because we agreed amicably that he would have the kids full-time while I went to nursing school for one year, and then he decided to change his mind about giving them back and it’s been hell on earth for all of us ever since.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry. Seems this could be addressed in court to get a more equitable arrangement.

  • @somchai272
    @somchai272 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I want to thank you so much for providing this information. I just wrapped up a 15 months custody battle. Needless to say it's been the most emotion period of my life. Gotta wait about 2 weeks for the decision but I feel confident in our case. We established domestic violence, medical neglect (my wife took our daughter out of the country,18 months after not seeing her her teeth are black) and educational neglect. In 18 months of school she was absent 21 days and tardy 57 times! All the while I never knew she was back in America.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kanyarat Baker, good luck to you and your case. Glad you have contact with your daughter again.

    • @oneloveoneheart3563
      @oneloveoneheart3563 ปีที่แล้ว

      Females are really weird to me now!

  • @dougfoster445
    @dougfoster445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I have primary custody of my 11 year old but we pretty much let her choose when she goes to moms. But I actually support her doing it 😂. Mom also can call me and say “can I get her this weekend?” And I totally support it. This actually works better for us than when we enforce the order. She didn’t like going to her house at all when we went by the court schedule. 2 years ago we decided to try to just let her tell us when she wants to spend time with mom and she actually spends more time with her now than what the court called for. This only works of both parents act good though. I definitely wouldn’t advise it if there’s conflict with custody as it’s very easy to manipulate the situation. I learned this very early on. All it took is for me to say “baby your going to moms tomorrow, I’m really gonna miss you” and the child reacts by not wanting to leave me. I recognized this is unhealthy and really didn’t mean to cause the reaction, but I recognized it. Now I give my daughter a healthy heads up “babe, don’t forgot tomorrow moms gonna pick you up from school, don’t forget she’s been wanting to goto the park with you so bring good shoes” - “ok daddy!” Amazing how much kids react to us as parents even if we don’t directly say something to them. Non verbal communication is a very real thing.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Doug Foster, I am glad you are working together on this. Your child will benefit from it as she sees people communicating and working together. You are giving your child a valuable gift.

    • @jessicaedwards524
      @jessicaedwards524 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's so great you both can do this. In the past, when my son was 3, my ex used to try to make the exchange difficult, basically by doing the opposite of what you do.

    • @chynabarnescb
      @chynabarnescb ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Because you mature… I wish it was more people like this

    • @kevboost
      @kevboost ปีที่แล้ว

      How did you get custody?

    • @dougfoster445
      @dougfoster445 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kevboost The way I won custody is I kept at it...Don't ever ever ever make it personal with your ex...Always be the nicer person and more mature person but make sure you have boundaries...The true way to win custody is a marathon, not a race....Consistency is key. Always be available for your child. Know the doctors your child goes to. know the teachers. Know their best friends. Know your kids birthday. In most cases, doesn't matter how good you are because if your ex is also good and you guys get along then it'll probably be 50/50...Which, trust me, is a good thing cause your kid needs both parents. A lot of bitter moms understand that 50/50 only works when both people get along so they'll purposely make it difficult for co-parenting just so in court they can say "I NEED FULL CUSTODY CAUSE WE CLEARLY CANT CO-PARENT" and she'll probably try to blame you. That's why I say ALWAYS be very reasonable even if it's not in the court order..For example, if I was ever running like 2-5 minutes late, my ex would be a huge deal about it and point to the court order...On the other hand, when SHE was late, I didn't make a big deal because i'm reasonable....That is how you win. When you have your trial, you show judge that you can't co-parent because she makes things difficult and that you are the more reasonable person that is going to do whats right for the kid AND also ENCOURAGE the other parent to have a relationship with the kid.

  • @Myfartslinger
    @Myfartslinger 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Thank you for your insight. I have been binge watching your custody videos. Next Thursday I go to court for the primary custody of my almost five year old daughter. I am terrified. She is my world. Obviously, there are many details at play here, but at the end of the day, I just want what is best for my little girl. I will give you an update after the hearing...positive thoughts and vibes, please!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      B B, positive vibes are going out. You have your heart in the right place, what is best for your daughter.

    • @Mrs.LeahBaker
      @Mrs.LeahBaker 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Update? How did it go?

    • @Myfartslinger
      @Myfartslinger 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Mrs.LeahBaker Long story short, we came to an agreement and we share custody. It was a long road, but I’m so glad to no longer be on it. Thanks for asking!

    • @Mrs.LeahBaker
      @Mrs.LeahBaker 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Myfartslinger that’s great!! I’m so happy for you!! Mine is Tuesday... I know what you mean about long road. That’s seriously amazing!

    • @Myfartslinger
      @Myfartslinger 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mrs.LeahBaker best of luck. We went to court for one day and then the day before the second hearing, we came to an agreement. I don't know your story, but I hope everything works out! I know you must be anxious.

  • @1thedarox
    @1thedarox 5 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Can you please address corrupt judges in custody cases? How can you obtain justice when the judge is bias, falsified court documents and won't allow you a change of venue.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You may need to seek the advice of an attorney who can help with your individual situation.

    • @davidflash603
      @davidflash603 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      All judges are corrupt. Dirty attorneys with a dress. The dirtier the judge the more money everyone makes.

    • @sandyesingh2597
      @sandyesingh2597 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yes. Corrupt judges is a problem. They ARE biased.

    • @armancha23
      @armancha23 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I agree, I might have a judge who sides with mothers when fathers rights are continually being violated against the parenting plan with documentation.

    • @simplyshannon3478
      @simplyshannon3478 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      1thedarox oh my God girl..I’m telling you. Fayetteville North Carolina is the most corrupt place on earth. My ex who was recently charged with 5 felony sec offenses against my daughter, and a charge against my youngest son for forcing him to blow into his breath-o-lizer actually got custody of the same child he is in court with?!?! Wtf? They used a fake Facebook page that I proved wasn’t me against me, and my dead boyfriend. Smh it’s insane

  • @christyepperson8805
    @christyepperson8805 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Can't love this enough! Thank you for addressing Parenatl Alienation and focusing on the children and not either parent. They need both parents.

  • @bullishzig
    @bullishzig 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Please do more videos on Father's with custody and the mother being the abusive party.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Mark Zeigler, thank you for the suggestion.

  • @milesholloway6031
    @milesholloway6031 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Mom left the state with kids and I have joint and legal custody. Have seen them since July. This video is good. Waiting for court date. Hope the judge sees the same thing and enforce or change custody to me for my kids sake. Kids needs both Mom and Dad.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree, Simeon Holloway. I hope you see your children soon. Thank you for watching.

    • @robynedward125
      @robynedward125 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It depends if the other parent is being phyiolocially more damaging and lying about the other parent and abuse. It's difficult

    • @mrsc7500
      @mrsc7500 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Simeon Holloway sorry bro.. my wife was going to leave the county with are 4yr boy.. but a quick call to my attorney stop ✋ that... hang in there!!!! everything will come ur way.. just stay positive bro👍👍👍

    • @milesholloway6031
      @milesholloway6031 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mr S C That’s good news! Will do! Thanks !

    • @raeo7963
      @raeo7963 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What happened at your court date

  • @lydiahubbell6278
    @lydiahubbell6278 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I bent over backwards to cooperate and be accommodating, but truth didn't prevail. My case is straight out of hell. I am praying my daughter will stay alive until she is 18 she she will be free. The best liar won...

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lydia Hubbell, I am sorry to hear this, I wish everything was fair in the world, sadly it is not.

    • @nashonnebryant3458
      @nashonnebryant3458 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      How did he win?

    • @lydiahubbell6278
      @lydiahubbell6278 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nashonnebryant3458 he erased me from my daughter's life.

    • @lydiahubbell6278
      @lydiahubbell6278 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @MadeintheImageofGod cooperating and communicating are necessary to a healthy parenting relationship. I was not so compliant with demands of strangers but I was reasonable. I had no idea what was going on. I thought it was weird to request court orders to keep me from saying anything negative and to support my daughter's school experience. I had not anticipated making any negative remarks other than calling him out on lies. And I supported her school experience in every way, but he lied and sent emails to the school saying I encouraged Dilara to misbehave at school. Court orders are dangerous things.

  • @LivingBGLegend
    @LivingBGLegend 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I like these guys... I’ve wasted a lot of time watching Rogan and Bobbie related videos but these are the ones that directly affect me, I’m sure they help others as well.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Living Legend, thank you, honored to be on your team.

  • @DW-ug5tb
    @DW-ug5tb 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I would love for you two to represent me in court. The mother of my kids has alienated me from my two girls and I dared not fight her. I didn’t want to hurt the kids during a stressful situation. But I can promise you, with what your saying, I could get my kids back in a positive environment and give them the best life and I would continue to allow my children see the mother.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I believe you, Joseph Roach, seek out good counsel where you are at.

  • @sexy198933
    @sexy198933 6 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I disagree with children needing both parents. My child’s father has done more mental health damage to our daughter being around her father than being with him. Not every father can be a father. And the courts need to be reformed to accommodate such non physical abuse to a child.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yours is a difficult situation, Jamela Sullivan. We wish every parent could have the child's best interest at heart and the majority do. Thank you for being there for your child.

    • @ytcensorship8180
      @ytcensorship8180 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@princeofdeath6058 I would say not every mother is automatically a good mother.In my experience I can admit I'm not perfect dad and I learn in a process but definitely I am not as bad as my wife describe. I don't judge every parent but in many cases many many women think they crystal clear and the fault is always on the other side never in the middle.

    • @princeofdeath6058
      @princeofdeath6058 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ytcensorship8180 thats how women thinks, in their head 'omg hes perfect ill marry him!' When he asks the big question. Sad thing is most females go into a relationship with a guy they hardly know, and fail to realise guys always show their best traits to attract a woman. Its a womans responsibilty to figure out whether a guy will be a good or bad father before opening their legs and giving him access to impregnate them, not just for herself but for the child she will bear.

    • @michele3326
      @michele3326 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      prince of death it’s not always her fault for opening her legs. My ex got me pregnant on purpose and without my consent to trap me. Now he body shames my daughter as well as talking bad about me to her. She can’t stand him. Now after telling her he wants nothing to do with her 2 years ago, he’s trying to get custody. Sometimes it’s the guy that sucks.

    • @robynedward125
      @robynedward125 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree with u on that one mentally their father is trying to brainwash the kids my mother told me and no child support I gotta keep looking for a better paying job, my ex is while on the path to have his rights removed big time. Neglecting our children needs Horrible it breaks my heart it truly does.

  • @ClaireWill71uk
    @ClaireWill71uk 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My son a victim of kidnapping and parent alienation, has breached court shared custody, and taken my grandchildren from their mother because she had a new sibling last month, and in his mind no other man can raise his children.
    Court is today, 5th March 2020.... yet he claims he will refuse to return the kids, and leave the state.
    The Hague, International social services, are aware this is occurring... I’m horribly concerned this history will repeat again...since it’s a norm for the family I married to remove children from biological parents and adopt them under duress, by new step parent often more than one.
    Thank you for the insight.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are welcome, Claire Will. Best wishes to you and your family during this time.

  • @Renofirefly30
    @Renofirefly30 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This will actually help me write my motion for sole legal custody. My ex is so concerned with being the fun parent that he isnt being a parent. he makes demands on me in regards to our son because 'its his right' 🤦‍♀️ our son got arrested for a assaulting my husband and my ex is mad i took our sons xbox away.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ctrl Alt Delete, it sounds like your son needs more parenting, glad you are setting the standard.

    • @Renofirefly30
      @Renofirefly30 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV he certainly does. My son stole his phone back out of a dresser before he went to his dads. my ex is ignoring my calls and text messages. Ive had to put security cameras all over my house inside and out.

  • @Ash-gc6kj
    @Ash-gc6kj 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thank you so so so much for these videos. They are very helpful and so very true. There is no win or lose. And this is where so many people get so focused on is winning or losing instead of what works or what’s right.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      So true, Ashley Adams. Glad you have found this in your life.

  • @l.p.904
    @l.p.904 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wish these informative videos were available back when my X was trying to take custody after our "amicable" divorce.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      l. p. I hope things turned out well for you, share away with anyone you know who may be able to benefit.

  • @lornamadden1099
    @lornamadden1099 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    So I have followed you for years and have always valued your parenting advice ,
    who knew I'd be here taking advice for this .....I'm a year into a seperation for my four children's dad ,
    it's been very difficult, I am so thankful for your video this is so valuable for people like me thank you for sharing ❤

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I am so sorry. I wish your family well.

  • @caseymyslive7632
    @caseymyslive7632 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is the other reason I don't want a divorce the kids are part of my world too. I love you guys.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm honored to have you here on the channel, Casey Myslive.

  • @thinktasha8299
    @thinktasha8299 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    If the mother is a narcissist and she's manipulative and verbally abusive to the father, how can the father work with that??? He can have all of the confidence in the world...but that won't change the mother.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Think Tasha, you are right, we need to get clear with what we have control over and focus on those things.

  • @downhomegirl5
    @downhomegirl5 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My EX completely abandoned my son through tremendous sickness he would say to him... Your not sick, nothing's wrong with you. Real P.O.S.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Truth Seeker, sorry to hear about the abandonment. I am glad you are there for him.

  • @jasminrodriguez2779
    @jasminrodriguez2779 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    They don’t care about the kids! I loss my house, my kids just because I sent the form I suppose to fill for spousal and child support to a wrong place and the oficial didn’t get it. They give to my husband everything listed on his divorce demand. They sent me to live in the street with no money! No a single dólar. I did not have place for me which means for the kids neither. Never work in this country for 17 years so impossible to rent with no credit history. I was in the street with just visitation. So , they doesn’t Matter the kids will loss their mom! What matters is paper and documents and that is it!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm so sorry. I hope this can be helped. There are services that help people such as you get established. I have seen it in action. There are classes you can take. Check at a woman's shelter.

  • @mistyflores3176
    @mistyflores3176 4 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I don't understand how women or even men try to keep the kids away from a father [mother] who desires to be with their kids. Like that's ridiculous!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Misty Flores, kids are used as pawns and it isn't fair to them.

    • @christyepperson8805
      @christyepperson8805 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Its truly evil but happens very often.

    • @193rdsfs
      @193rdsfs 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@christyepperson8805 cause the other parent can get more money for support too

    • @yasidigonzalez3640
      @yasidigonzalez3640 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      What do you do if the mother is addicted to meth, should visitation still be allowed

    • @mjennifer142
      @mjennifer142 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@yasidigonzalez3640 hell nnnoooo

  • @threeicys
    @threeicys 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I agree with em elle. Family Law attorneys and judges need to be educated in types of abuse and the effects on child development. Also to be trauma-informed. After a three-year-long battle, I just lost custody of my son. The main reason is that they perceived my daughter's choice not to see her father as my manipulation. I was respecting her choice and requested that decision be made with her therapist's recommendations. She has PTSD because of him and has been in trauma therapy. He is the main character of her nightmares. But none of this was taken into consideration. So now my autistic son is traumatized again by the judge giving his father total control and custody. He has no intention of keeping my son in contact with me or his siblings. his siblings testified against their father in open court. Who's interest was served in this ruling?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you can have contact again with him.

  • @PurpleApe14
    @PurpleApe14 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Kids need both parents if both parents aren’t toxic. No child should be exposed to a toxic mother or father. Period.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      AprilMichelle, the safety of the child is what is important. Always.

  • @anjelawilliams6012
    @anjelawilliams6012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have a four year old son. The father and mom l, half brother have been alienated from his life. Sacramento, Ca family judge granted us visits with the child, right after that, his sister who has legal guardian ship moved to Georgia, or Oklahoma and has made my son unavailable to visit his other family for the last 3 1/2 years. The sister who has custody of my son is purposely braking the parent/child bond. My four year old son has no one to enforce his visits or speak up in his behalf. The father and I tried to enforce through the family court and the courts said there isn't anything they can do, that the mom dad would need to hire an attorney/ private investigator to enforce . Parents do not have a physical address for the legal guardian and parents are homeless experiencing a financial hardship. So my son's sister lies and tells the courts that the parents abandoned or doesn't hear from the parents. It's a shame that professionals do not go to child's school, to speak with children in private away from abusive/alienating custodel parent.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Anjela Williams, it is a huge problem and I am sorry your family is going through this heartache.

  • @kristiekogutrodriguez496
    @kristiekogutrodriguez496 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My ex husband has made false allegations against me saying I would harm my daughter. I had to go through all kinds of groups and have not seen my daughter in 3 years. He lies to my daughter making her think I don’t want anything to do with her. I had to pay 4500 for a risk assessment that’s taken 9 months for this man to go through everything, it’s almost done and I hope it works in my favor. My ex husband tells me that my daughter doesn’t want to talk to me and he’s not going to force her

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kristie Kogut Rodriguez, I am sorry you are having to go through this. I hope you prevail.

  • @Havi71599
    @Havi71599 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    God is all you need to resolve the most gard problems in our lives

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Havi Wisdom, I am a man of faith and God is a big part of my day.

  • @MsGidgets
    @MsGidgets 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    How do you prove that you're not abusive and neglectful? My ex has submitted an alternative parenting plan and it is full of false and misleading Statements.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Talk to an attorney who deals with these issues, Gidget Dupree-Hunnicutt. They will know how to push back with the courts.

  • @justinthebeau2590
    @justinthebeau2590 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    One of my friends has an 8 year old son he won custody 2 years ago after he divorced his wife after she ended up on disability. He refuses to give her partial custody because she can't can't take care of herself so how can she raise/support a child

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't know the details, but I wouldn't count out a disabled person. You might be surprised what they can do.

  • @sunshineintuitivehealing4793
    @sunshineintuitivehealing4793 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    What do you do when the other parent is toxic?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Hi Kali Caldwell, get clear on what you control, and that is not the other parent. Since you have no control over them, you can spend less time thinking about them and focus on what you can do.

    • @jesseskellington9427
      @jesseskellington9427 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bill Eddie has alot of great techniques. That has helped me with my toxic/stressful/high conflict x-wife. Let me know if to those techniques helps you out too 😊

    • @mnvlwilson
      @mnvlwilson 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bro this the question

    • @ladythumper7169
      @ladythumper7169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      You know my husband's going through a crazy custody battle the mother tested positive and also is putting the father out to be the bad guy she's embedded a lot of things in the kids head but I've been catching myself just looking into a lot of research and I mean it's obvious that the other person is very toxic I say to my husband don't worry about that let them be them what you can worry about is yourself make sure you just provide a very comfortable loving home for when that child comes with you you can't change that other person what you can do is change the characteristics in yourself if you catch yourself I know sometimes we need to have a mirror in front of our faces but if you catch yourself doing the same things or certain things that the other parent does such as pointing the finger when you look in the mirror all you can do is look at yourself stop looking at them and look at what you need to do real quick to change to make a huge change for your child let's not worry about another person being toxic trust me my family is definitely going through it and I haven't been to church in many years but I'm doing what I need to do for my family start going being a solid foundation for my husband my children and my stepchild it's easier to love then to deal with the hate for me and my case I'm not perfect nor is my husband and his ex but what I can do is do my best to provide a home for all of us it's time to grow up and get right so let's not worry about anybody being toxic just take a look in the mirror......

    • @Al-lf1dm
      @Al-lf1dm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV thinking less doesn’t remove the toxic influence that parent brings to the child. A child doesn’t need a toxic parent.

  • @PetalsPrince
    @PetalsPrince 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hope this comment will be noticed and replied to. I have a situation that has gone on for many years now, and at this point, I want to get out of the house, and I'd hope for my younger brother to aswell. My father hasn't been the best person. He has threatened to shoot our dog in the head once, hes pinned me down and twisted my arm. Although that was for safety reasons, I feel that I shouldn't have been pulled and tossed onto the floor like that. Ever since 6th grade, he has emotionally drained me over my grades, and I have been criticized a bit, which has been a major putdown for me. I'm currently in 11th grade, and continue to suffer from depression since then. I'm not the only one who puts up with this. My mother has been emotionally drained because of him, as now I see her cry almost everyday and feel miserable with him. I tried so hard, from calling CPS to going to the hospital with hopes I can get away from my father. The hospital couldn't recommend much but just tell me to hang in there and maybe my dad will change, but he never does. As for CPS, my parents said so much, primarily my dad, that he convinced me it wouldn't turn out well if I left, so I told CPS the minor things that would prevent the situation from going down any further. Recently I've come to such a bad point to where I can't handle seeing my mother miserable, wasting years of her life with him and weakening herself emotionally and physically, and my brother who will become just like him… He's honestly not a father to me. He may care, but he doesn't know how to be a good father honestly. From what it seems, hem ay RARELY get physical, but he often seems to be what's called an "energy vampire". Just draining me and my family bit by bit. God, he even abused our dog, which is why we had to give him away with this bad environment. It's better than being shot in the head in the woods. My god… I need some advice. Who do I reach out to? Are there ways I can still stay in my current town? Is moving in with my friends family or even my boyfriends family an option if they approve? I'd appreciate some advice as soon as you may be able to respond.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aouleria, thank you for watching and commenting. My apologies for not getting back sooner - I'm backed up on comments. I am unable to help you much because you are a minor. However, I will tell you that we do have a free 25 minute call available with one of our Live On Purpose coaches. Your mother would have to be the one to schedule the call and be there for the call. Please consider talking to her about it. If this is something she or the two of you do, think about or write down what you want to discuss and keep it concise and to the point - time is very limited! In the meantime, have a conversation with your mother explaining your desires. If you want to move out, ask if you can live with grandparents, uncles/aunts, or any other relatives if possible. The second choice would be with a friend, but however you do it, everyone has to be on board with you living with them. You may also want to talk to the school counselor. They are equipped with knowledge of how to help in a variety of ways. Best wishes to you and your family.
      Almost forgot! To schedule the call, have your Mom go to DrPaulJenkins.com/breakthroughcall

  • @wmomma
    @wmomma 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just found out that my ex-husband's new wife is pushing and shoving my 12 year old son and they also left my 15 and 12 year old kids home alone unsupervised for 24 hours so they could go to a friend's beach house. He never contacted me for right of first refusal. Now I have to file contempt charges. Wish I didn't have to. But, this behavior is concerning and affects the kids

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bolo4 Momma, abuse is not tolerated or acceptable. Sorry you are going to need to go through this.

  • @malurobles4704
    @malurobles4704 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I am a parent going through parental alienation. their father and new step mother have done everything use the court system to have my children. right now they used false allegations of sexual abuse. later my son confessed to being coached.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Malu Robles, this happens all too often and the outcome is never good. I am sorry you are having to go through this.

  • @Ribka105
    @Ribka105 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    In other words, you are saying that a child needs to be abused. There's a problem with your mental health, guys. On the contrary, the child MUST be isolated from the abusive parent in order to preserve his life, mental and physical health. You do not even understand how dangerous, destructive for a child to communicate with parents who are narcissists, psychopaths, sociopaths. Develop yourself, stop indulging in abusing children!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ribka105, I am sorry you took it that way. Abusing children is never acceptable in any way. Please take a look around my channel and see that I am trying to help parents raise their children in a healthy, positive, loving environment.

  • @tacticalshortpants4238
    @tacticalshortpants4238 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What if one of the parents is a drug addict and has a history of domestic violence and abuse who has been to prison for domestic violence (strangulation of the other parent?)
    My girlfriend is dealing with her child's father, and he is a very violent person (got released from prison and immediately went back to abusing the mother) she has left the situation and now has a restraining order against him now, but fears he may continue the cycle of abuse on the child...
    Both of us believe it is in the best interest of the child for us to remove him from her life entirely and raise her in a violence free environment...

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tactical Shortpants, seek the advice of an attorney who knows the laws and how to present your case in court. Keep it to the facts without making any judgments, let the judge do that.

  • @killuafurude
    @killuafurude 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    When the father doesn't try to talk to their son but only take them but you can't allow it for the child's safety, does that still equal alienation? He still said in court I didn't let him talk to him. And he didn't ask to talk or see him during the first month until court. The judge said I violated an order. I didn't have a lawyer.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      What evidence did he have that you didn't allow him to talk to your son? Hopefully you can work this out.

    • @killuafurude
      @killuafurude 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV I don't think so, before the hearing started the judge said I violated the order. I asked for an extention so I could get a lawyer the judge decided we go on with the hearing. During the hearing his lawyer asked if I let him talk to him. He was allowed to. He sent me links to videos, he said I was bsing with his family's life that I didn't want to talk on the phone. He could of texted me to ask to see our son. On stand I answered no if he's seen or talked to our son. He saw our son on his birthday. I found lawyer, I had question about how the hearing had gone but said we can't change what happened, to focus on what's next and my questions wasn't answered about whether if I was alienating... We have nothing planned out for the mediation, I don't know how to prepare.

  • @johnnyabbott4251
    @johnnyabbott4251 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My children are around their mom, and stepfather. She has sole custody. CPS was called out on them. Come to find out after CPS question my kids, and they told the they was being whipped by the step dad, and step dad smokes crack, my youngest found needles in her room for heroin, they jump from house to house, not being in a stable home, and my son is cutting his arm's, and it's all on record!
    But some reason they want remove my kids! I go to court to get a summons for sole custody, and go against her rights! "As I should knowing their wellbeing is at a risk!" I go get a process server, they can't find her! I drive their old nieghborhood, I can't find her, I try by mail, and it goes straight back to the postal service!
    I keep my cool, I try other ways! But no one not even a judge, or cop can do to find her to remove my kids.
    I love your videos, but Im feeling all my rights is removed!
    If you are reading this please help? What can I Do?I'm running out of patience, and this is literally going beat me to the ground!!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      How frustrating, Johnny Abbott, to say the least. I wish I could find her for you. Don't give up please, we are pulling for you to be able to find her quickly.

  • @a-trapp3660
    @a-trapp3660 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can you do a video about court battles over a toddler for the best interests for a toddler and everything. It’s so much harder when a child is young

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Alydia Delarosa, it seems to be difficult no matter the age. I will add this to the topic list, but I am not able to get Sid for videos any longer.

  • @ThisSheetB4RealYo
    @ThisSheetB4RealYo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So helpful and good. Got my case in 8 hrs. Thx for your insights

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Glad you found the video useful, ThisSheetB4RealYo. Thank you for watching.

  • @cruzbedreamin3700
    @cruzbedreamin3700 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Either you in or out!!

  • @ausndalt1
    @ausndalt1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My brother sent me this link to your video. You are talking about everything that happened to me. I can’t find an attorney that doesn’t want to be friends with the Judge because everyone that lives in the small town has to eventually go in front of that judge again. It’s not fair that I never had a chance. I wish you would help me see my son again. I was given the advice to wait until her turns 18 but it’s so hard to wait. I miss him so much.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      L Wms, thank you for watching, and I appreciate your brother sending this video to you as well. I am sorry that you can't see your son right now - that is heart-breaking. Unfortunately, I cannot give legal advice. I do have other child custody videos; here's the playlist if you would like to check those out: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd.html. Best wishes.

  • @MinnesotaLiz
    @MinnesotaLiz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Do you need a degree to be a custody evaluator? I need to know! I 100% found my calling after just dealing with one. She was completely biased on mom's side. It's heartbreaking to watch good father's in pain!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Minnesota Liz, check in your state. States have different regulations. Good luck! Your passion will help many people.

  • @josdiaz5295
    @josdiaz5295 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I wish all of this was true, then the courts would have granted my husband primary custody. We've gone through... alienation, non-cooperation, humiliation, coercion, false accusations in court (luckily, that went in our favor because we had all the evidence), but you name it and we went through it. We have all the proof of everything being false or being done towards us and my husband was still and is still being pushed aside. I guess it's just the luck that some might run into because we haven't had any except for catching her on perjury trying to get full custody by default claiming she couldn't find where the non-custodial parent was and we proved it to the magistrate and it went in our favor but that was the only thing we got.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am sorry it hasn't worked out for you. Don't give up.

    • @josdiaz5295
      @josdiaz5295 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you, you should see the file I have organized for my husband. He keeps trying with his daughter because his son is going on 19 but we've stopped going to court. I think that maybe the right legal representation would have helped in our situation. Sadly, his daughter has gone down a dark path and the mother just refuses to do something to help her. It's to the point that his daughter doesn't live with her mother, she lives with her grandmother. It's a sad and complicated situation but he still tries, even though we don't go through the courts anymore. It's bad because I see that he's just not getting anywhere with it. Thank you for your response though.

  • @jessicaedwards524
    @jessicaedwards524 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    In the 1st part of this video you mention not alienating the child from one parent/not following court order.
    In our case, my son's father and I had a court order but he was shortly thereafter incarcerated for robbing 5 pharmacies with a gun for narcotic painkillers. He has spent the last 10 years in prison and was released last week. He tried getting our son the day after he was released, but I refused saying we needed to ammend our agreement. My son does not know him and I do not feel my son is safe with him for overnight visits yet. I believe initial supervised visits and possibly some parenting classes would be best.
    I am nervous about what the judge is going to say though since technically we have a court order from over 10 years ago. What are your thoughts/professional opinions on this?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The parenting plan was made on information at the time. If there is new information, that should be taken into account.

  • @Antoniosanchez-li9mv
    @Antoniosanchez-li9mv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m dealing with someone that harbors all my past mistakes and failures . I understand she can not help the negative feelings she has towards me . I am a great father and I am being punished and kept from Their well being , I don’t want to drag this into court but that decision will be new to our children, for us the parents have experience from our previous marriages. She had full custody and I had joint but with the petitioner title on my behalf. I’m up against someone that delights herself by making me suffer . A good parent would not interfere with a child’s right to have both parents in their lives. Never give up is my new way of waving my banner of peace not war. The children are always the ones who suffer the most .

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish you the best, my friend. I hope she can understand how this could be painful or made easier for the kids.

  • @Molzhon93
    @Molzhon93 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My ex-wife has custody of our daughter in California while I live in Florida. Since the divorce, she has filed restraining orders against two different men my daughter viewed as father figures. One of which was driving drunk and crashed the car with my daughter in the car. All of this under the mother's "watchful" eye. I had just requested to get my daughter for Thanksgiving break for a trip to New York. She's allowing me 3 days... 3 days to go pick her up from Cali, fly to new york, and bring her back. This would be my first time seeing her in two years. I need help. Would this be a substantial case to reopen a custody battle? I want my daughter, and I honestly feel her mother's lack of vigilance is dangerous.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Brandon, thank you for watching, I hope you found something useful in the video. Unfortunately, I am unable to give specific legal advice as I come to the table with a psychologist's perspective. Your case does seem substantial due to the danger your daughter has been in. It might be time to consider obtaining the help of an attorney. We do have more child custody videos on this playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd.html

  • @heatherann4390
    @heatherann4390 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It should be whats in the best interests as a family as a whole unit.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Heather Ann, I agree, it would be nice if that were the goal.

  • @lucyjohnson1087
    @lucyjohnson1087 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Would you consider myself being a “control freak” if I asked the father of my child to pass a drug test? He has my son supervised now and I would like him to pass a drug test before having him unsupervised because of his previous drug problem.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No, Lucy Johnson. That could be a very reasonable thing, and something that is required often in court cases such as yours.

    • @jessicaedwards524
      @jessicaedwards524 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Can you request in court that drug screens be performed intermittently over a long time frame? My ex spent 10 years in prison for robbing numerous pharmacies at gun point to obtain narcotic painkillers. When my son does start over night visits I would feel MUCH BETTER knowing he was at least clean when he picked him up.

  • @johnejonesea7448
    @johnejonesea7448 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My daughter left her husband because of physical and mental abuse of the children. She tried several times to get him into counceling but he refused to go. He was charged and convected of child abuse. He continued to abuse during probation. She left him to protect the children. She's has had them for three years and the children are doing much better. Her husband has taken her to court to gain custody. He lied to the court about several things. One child even harmed herself before going to visitation and two times was admitted to the hospital mental ward for obversation. The hearing will be in a couple of months. The question is how does she prepare.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      JOHN JONES, my heart goes out to your daughter and her children. I sincerely hope they can all stay safe. We have a child custody playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd.html, but beyond that I am unable to give specific legal advice. I hope she can find resources in her jurisdiction. Best wishes, and thanks for watching Live On Purpose TV.

  • @whofarted2903
    @whofarted2903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just be so very careful with who you have your children to

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes!

    • @whofarted2903
      @whofarted2903 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Live On Purpose TV I learned this the hard way Doctor unfortunately for me

  • @penelope-oe2vr
    @penelope-oe2vr 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    DON'T participate in any arguing, bickering, and discuss nothing personal. Its ONLY about the child. Do your own part to follow the orders, and be the best parent you can be. If the other parent isn't doing right, it will show. And don't make it a war about winning. Just be a parent. Document everything! I am disabled, and he makes 100k a year. I have maintained custody despite dozens of false cases. I also represent myself in court. The judge understands I don't have the budget for a lawyer. As long as I'm doing right...nothing to worry about. I encourage her to go, because good or bad she needs to know who her father is.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      penelope 2232, wow, it sounds as though you are clear on what you control and what you don't. You deal with what you can and trust. Good luck.

  • @cruzbedreamin3700
    @cruzbedreamin3700 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I think it’s more important to focus on what the child needs instead of the partner break up. Who raised y’all ? It’s the child’s life is what’s more important!! The whole thing about what you guys are looking up is being a parent to a child!!! Who tf raised y’all to accept that being a single parent is okay!!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The breakup does affect the kids. No matter what.

  • @atstar8136
    @atstar8136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Be proactive....im always in constant fear ... but don't care anymore

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      at Star, I understand how wearing it can be on an individual.

  • @codystewart5578
    @codystewart5578 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What I do? My mom's took temporary custody of me and my girlfriend kid after lying that my partner was suicidal and tried to kill kid. Hearing for protection order and temp custody are soon

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cody Stewart, good luck, I hope the truth prevails.

  • @PacmanBonez
    @PacmanBonez ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How does exposing small children ages 1 and 2 to a paramour affect anything ???

  • @emilylimpias9279
    @emilylimpias9279 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    hi, my name is emily limpias, im 14 years old. and i would like to stop seeing my father. he has 40% custody while schools in session and 50% in summer. and i have been wanting to be taken out of my dads care since i was about 5-7 years old, due to a mentally and physically abusive step mother, he married when i was 5, before it was just me and him, i told my dad about how i felt so many times and he made no change. he didnt care to help me in the situation i was on, i have childhood trauma now. i am depressed, i have trust issues, and panic attacks atleast once a day. he picks me up from my mothers house every wednesday, and everytime i have expressed i dont want to go to his house, he threatens me and says he will call the police and make my mother step dad and i miserable. i would like to just not get out of my house and stay safe in my mothers care, i do not feel safe at his house due to his girlfriend, they are on and off, she is bipolar and depressed and she is crazy. she has broken into our house and my father and her fight. all day everyday. she is 28 and my dad is 40. i feel like my father doesn't love me. because he used to care about me, and how my day was, and how my moms was. but now he picks me up and takes me home and i go in my room all day. he doesnt care anymore. and he focuses on my 7yr old brother and 8yr old sister more then he does me. he punishes me for things my siblings do and when my brother hits and kicks me and he doesnt care. i act much older then i am, due to trauma and needing that maturity throughout the years. i get mistaken for an 18 year old by people i just meet. i feel like i had no childhood and i was just unhappy. i never had fun as a child. everytime i brjng up me not feeling loved at my fathers house he laughs in my face. i dont feel safe and i am unhappy at my fathers house, but im scared to do anything. any advice for me and my situation?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      emily, this is sad. I can hear the sadness and my heart hurts for you. How long do you have to go to your dad's? Could your mother petition the court? Focus on the safety and security you feel with your mother when you are in these situations and seek counseling.

    • @emilylimpias9279
      @emilylimpias9279 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      MadeintheImageofGod thank u so much for the helpful advice

    • @emilylimpias9279
      @emilylimpias9279 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Live On Purpose TV i go every wednesday and every other weekend. my mom and him have fought for custody for years. he hasnt played child support in over a year and im scared if i go to court he will win! and i have been in and out of counseling but it never seems to help me. ive stopped trying because i feel sorry for wasting my moms money

  • @lindsreese2054
    @lindsreese2054 6 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Can you make a session about how to deal with co-parenting when the other parent is flirting and still talking “couple family talk?”
    (And yes... many direct “turn down” conversations have been made over the last decade.)
    Example: When I try and co-parent he sees this as an “in” to be a couple and happy family again and then takes it out on my child and I when he realizes I am only interested in talking about my son. Makes co-parenting difficult and my 10 year old son confused. I thought it might be a good idea for a clip?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      How frustrating for you, Lindsey Aka Reese. I will consider this topic for a future video. Thank you for watching.

    • @sidunrau7880
      @sidunrau7880 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      co-parenting would be an excellent excellent topic. It is one of the most difficult things, and it sometimes leads to horrible after money. Sometimes you, though, it can lead to beautiful friendship and healthy relationship between the children and both parents.

  • @vybzmusiq7964
    @vybzmusiq7964 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Awesome Video!! I'm Using Some of These Pointer's For My Custody Battle!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      My best to you and your children, Vybz Musiq.

  • @cgah6690
    @cgah6690 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Keep teaching the public. Thanks guys.

  • @MJKsFan
    @MJKsFan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dad was arrested in front of the children due to domestic violence and our 16 and 15 year-old minor children do not wish to go back to that house because they do not feel safe. My son composed an email telling his dad that he did not want to go back to the house. I supported my son's desire to compose the email. Will I be accused of alienating the children from their father?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      MJKsFan, Supporting your son with HIS decision is different that bullying or putting undue influence on him to make the decision. That is alienation. Listen as your son expresses his feeling, leave yours out in regards to his father.

    • @MJKsFan
      @MJKsFan 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you for your reply! I've encouraged him to talk to his dad and tell him how he feels.

  • @jonahdav9589
    @jonahdav9589 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my wife took the kids, then said I abused them when I have not. Now DHS is involved. She told me if it went to court she would make it ugly. May God help these children.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am sorry you and they are having to go through this. Your children's needs should be paramount.

  • @annecarroll3429
    @annecarroll3429 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    can a non custodial parent arbitrarily change visitation time at the last minute without giving child some notice and considering the child 's feelings?.. what can custidial parent do to protect the child in this example?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      anne carroll, keep documentation. If it becomes a pattern there might be some recourse. Talk to an attorney who knows the laws where you live.

  • @christinaadams8549
    @christinaadams8549 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Evaluators for families who have suffered domestic abuse should be different than evaluators of the average angry divorce. It is detrimental to the entire situation when people like the two of you are charged to make decisions in dangerous situations. You're both completely oblivious to real life situations in a situation where the abuser is simply playing the courts for power and control. The judicial system has failed the real battered woman!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christina Adams, I am truly sorry that you have experienced abuse. Abuse in any form is not acceptable, and Sid and I would never condone it. The judicial system is flawed, unfortunately.

    • @jt_6178
      @jt_6178 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christina Adams this is exactly what’s happening to me.

    • @micfail2
      @micfail2 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Christina Adams you are allowing your own personal experiences to cloud your judgment. It is a statistical fact that women are four times more likely than men to commit domestic viølence, and they are an order of magnitude more likely to abüse children. It is very easy to *claim* that you are being abüsed, if we handled things the way that you are advocating for then we would have a system that would encourage people to lie in order to gain an advantage, and that is already something that we have a serious problem with in our system.

  • @gmk2417
    @gmk2417 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have a question. What if the father has sole and legal custody with visits under his discretion for the mother and just pleaded guilty to domestic violence a few months ago and is on probation and his girlfriend is violent too ? Can that cause the father to lose custody? Mother is stable remarried and has full custody of her other child

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      It certainly would raise some flags. You might want to see if some amendments could be made to the order.

    • @gmk2417
      @gmk2417 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for the advice! :) I will most certainly take that highly into consideration.

  • @brandonharvey7939
    @brandonharvey7939 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    imagine telling a grown man or woman which of their immediate family members they may associate with, speak to, live with, or have any relationship with of any kind. Imagine telling them what specific address they must live at and with whom they must reside with. A republic cannot by its very definition assume that power over a class of persons because it has explicitly denied them their rights to democratically elect their representation in the republic or participate in it in any way, shape or form.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      There is a lot in this one comment.

    • @brandonharvey7939
      @brandonharvey7939 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV There is a lot in taking a child from their parent. Its a life altering decision that nobody has the the God given authority to make but the legal community does it all day long as routine practice in this nation so carelessly. It is an intolerable act of violence that you've all become numb to. Ask the American People to democratically decide whether government should possess the power to take our kids from us and see what they say. You only get away with it because the majority isn't aware of it.

  • @fffrfrw
    @fffrfrw ปีที่แล้ว +1

    But, do you not think that it is this disgusting legal system, that allow the alienating parent to keep alienating for months or years and the victim has to go through years of pain, hurt to at least to say 'I love you ' to his own children.
    These law makers are the real abusers and they and their children must rot in hell.
    If there are simple rules for each parent to have at least a legal minimum time to spend time with their children
    ( At least in a contact center) .But, instead these so called law makers make a system of making money out of these problem.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      I find it appalling when any parent tries to keep the other away except in cases of abuse.

  • @monagordoa9095
    @monagordoa9095 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Is Parental Alienation a form of Child Abuse?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Abuse is in the definition. Hope that helps, mona gordoa.

    • @robynedward125
      @robynedward125 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes it and It's happening in my situation I wish I had contact with my ex or was allowed so I could bug his mother place and put up a video camera to catch him in his lies and manipulation and abuse towards our kids and then some.

  • @jessicavictorio955
    @jessicavictorio955 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I left my husband then he came to my house he lie to me he ask to see our son for a couple hours and he never come back so he fell the divorce papers and he ask for a full custody he don’t let me see and call my son so he never help me on 4 years we only been married 3 months so I know him he is very bad person I’m scare of lost my son and never see him so all he wants is not to pay the child support so what I can do in this case

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am not sure what your options are and where you live. Seek the advice of an attorney and see that you an do.

  • @sharonwelch2843
    @sharonwelch2843 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am the stepmom and the other parent is violating the court orders and making false statements of abuse. This is hurting the children. How can we work to help the children even when their mother is not allowing them to go to school and counseling?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sharon Welch, I sympathize with your situation, however I am unable to give specific legal advice. We have a child custody playlist, if you want to look for more information there: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd.html. Otherwise, I recommend speaking with legal counsel.

  • @freaky_jsn_killr1364
    @freaky_jsn_killr1364 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thankyou for these videos. I've moved within a mile of my children. I changed jobs, I have a new house. When I reached out to my x for more time with my children she shut me down, took away any extra time I was having with them at the time. We're are on our way to the meditators meeting because she will not negotiate or give me more time. I'm nervous, I've done my positive loving homework, I just want to be in their lives. Please, any advice on going into this meeting is appreciated!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Freaky_Jsn_Killr 13, I hope my response isn't too late; I have many comments to get to! While I cannot give specific legal advice, we do have more videos about child custody on this playlist: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd.html
      Best wishes to you and your children.

    • @Mgoblue1023
      @Mgoblue1023 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey - I know it’s been a year plus but I am in the same boat. Moved close, etc… but she is so rigid / black and white when it comes to scheduling I’m afraid if I take her to mediation she will start spewing lies and make my situation worse. What ended up happening in your case??

    • @freaky_jsn_killr1364
      @freaky_jsn_killr1364 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Mgoblue1023 well,, exzactly what you described and with covid everything was by phone. It was extremely difficult. Know what your kids want more than anything else.

  • @WarmongerYT
    @WarmongerYT 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I have 2 children. Ages 13 & 10. I have been married to my husband/ their stepdad (or Dad as they call him,being as he's the only Dad they've ever known) almost 8 years now. I left my kids biological father when my youngest was 13 months old. He has not seen the kids for almost 9 years. His mother has had them at her house a few times & he seen them then once but he didn't even come to his mother's house specifically to see them, he showed up because his great grandmother had just passed& he showed up with a girl he was dating for 2months (while he was broken up with his off again,on again girlfriend of 9 years) & the girl's 2 small children, one of whom called him Daddy Infront of my 2 kids.(Again he had only been dating this new girl for not even 2months) So aside from seeing them then, Had not seen them& had not tried to see them aside from making 1 phone call/voice mail in that 9 years saying he missed his son on the voicemail & didn't say a word about his daughter. I digress , up until about 5 months ago (October 2020) he finally decided it was convenient for him to see his 2kids. I agreed (bc I don't believe in keeping children from parents out of spite. Unless of course the child(ren) would be in danger) I agreed he could come down to our daughters 10th bday party. But if he came to her birthday party on 9/02/20 then he would need to also come to our son's birthday party 2 months later on 11/08/20 - he didn't. But point being he has now seen them =4x. He came to her birthday party & came down in December to take them to eat in the town we live in. I brought our daughter up twice to meet up with him(&my son also came on the 2nd time) & his on again, off again gf the first time they were arguing & yelling Infront of us(my daughter&I) . Then the second time I brought both kids up to his house& his gf showed up &we were all outside& they were cussing&yelling at each other infront of all of us( she's was&is currently pregnant with their second child together &they were currently broken up). So 4times he's seen them all together. Twice he came down& twice I brought them up: both of which I couldn't believe the screaming,cussing&fighting Infront of us! He has never paid child support. For his daughters 10th bday he gave her $50 & for his son's birthday (that he didn't show up for) he bought him a $130 Carhartt jacket(well I ordered it&he paid for it) I called him&asked him if we could sit down&talk sometime in the near future about Child support &he got mad& called me "a stupid b*tch" &hung up. Later we talked &he said he talked to his Mom (whom is a pastor)& That he "shouldn't have to pay for a kid if you don't see them" I said that's been 1000% your choice. Just because a person decides to emotionally & physically abandon their children doesn't mean they also can financially abandon them also(even though he has for 9yrs). So he has been now paying me $200 per month for both/2 kids. So a $100 per kid per month. Which is comical. For 4months now. That pays for a few days of groceries. 🚩 He is a self employed painter &he makes decent money , especially considering he has VERY little bills. However he has no bank accounts & has only filed his taxes 2x since I left him(in 2012)& of course being self employed says he makes a lot less than what he actually does. He has a house that he finally almost has paid off. He got it with his ex-wife when he was 19 years old,he is now 38. His house payment is $220 a month. He has recently bought a cheap vehicle. So has liability insurance. &Is even buying a cheap house with his brother to fix up to sell. My husband is a licensed pipe fitter & a licensed inspector. He makes $40k - $50k per year. I believe my kids bio dad said he put down $30k on his taxes he filed last year. Our rent for our 3bedroom house is $950/mo , car payment$320, & of course electric$185/mo , wifi (kids have to have for school wifi) $100/mo, &phone bill$105/mo& groceries of course. So I'm wondering how to go forward filing for support. The reason I haven't for so long is because he's always said "If you file for child support, I'll file for split custody or full custody" which is absurd. I'm also pretty sure going 9 years without anything more than 1 phone call to the mother of your children surely would be considered abandonment? He is a stranger to both my kids, they don't know him.& The 4x since September 2nd 2020 of seeing them(today is January 25th 2022) it was uncomfortable for them but I encouraged them to be friendly&try to get to know him. They've seen him 4x now & 2 of those we had to leave after not even an hour of being there because of his ex girlfriend (ex at the time)& him cussing & arguing literally right Infront of us. Smh. * Oh & also his off again,on again girlfriend &him have a 5 year old son together & have another baby on the way together. Their 5 year old son they lost to DHS for drugs& after 2+ years having DHS involved, he was able to finally pass a few drug tests & she signed over custody to him because she had failed a drug test again &signed custody to him so that the child wouldn't go into foster care. Smh. I apologize this is so long. Just had to give some background info. I'm just no longer scared of his threat of getting the kids if I file Child support. I think or at least hope a judge will see through him. I don't want to ruin his life. I just want some help. Why is he so special he should he not have to pay child support? He makes in reality $800- $1,100 per week. $100 per kid per month is nothing. Especially when he hasn't paid me a $1 in 9 years. Personally I would like to receive $500 per month I feel would be fair especially for 2kids. We live in Arkansas.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I would talk to support enforcement in your area. They have the best information of what is expected and how to go about getting it. Might be tough with his self-employed situation but maybe a lien could be put on the house. Seek legal advice, I am not a lawyer or licensed in Arkansas.

  • @Bmike8732
    @Bmike8732 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hello well I have my son 50 50 but the child accidentally cut himself on a piece of glass, and the mother was very mad, now can I lose custody because of this?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Accidents happen and people know it, Money Machine. Keep calm and she will cool down.

  • @kylegalliart1352
    @kylegalliart1352 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can the living situation or condition of a home be a factor in deciding child custody?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes, but the bar is pretty low. Is it clean, is there a sleeping place for children, a safe place to play, etc. Doesn't have to be anything fancy.

  • @lindaasulin7200
    @lindaasulin7200 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wat if the other parent is an addict and they caused so much pain that the child doesn’t want to c them anymore?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      Hopefully the wishes of the child will be taken into account by the evaluation.

  • @Iambrilliant683
    @Iambrilliant683 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I really enjoy these videos that feature Sid.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hello Amanda, isn't he great? Thank you for commenting.

  • @janetadongo688
    @janetadongo688 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Would my ex girlfriend get back at me in one way or the other or even legally even when I support my child but she won't let me see my son?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  ปีที่แล้ว

      You should have access through a parenting plan.

  • @TheNightmareTroll
    @TheNightmareTroll หลายเดือนก่อน

    my daughter said lies about abuse and now they taken them both!!

  • @gil-juniorriseabovebetraya5972
    @gil-juniorriseabovebetraya5972 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello everyone can someone enlightened me with what i can do if exwifes bf dont let me talk to my daughter even when it is important because its cutting into there time but what i did before just call and ask for my daughter to b put on the phone amd thats as much contact with mother. And i have only happen to need to call her twice in almost one year. So i dont try to waste or abuse this communication option so i can use it dor emergencies but the bf instead threatn me to not do that at all

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gil-Junior RiseAboveBetrayal, maybe something could be written into the parenting plan that allows quick conversations when the child is at the other household? See what an attorney has to say.

  • @robynedward125
    @robynedward125 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Healthnut you have a point about narrascist I'm up against one I'm going through it now not honest ppl pathological liars I find it very tough to take hugs the court doesn't recognize character flaws It's incredible how they fall upper the radar with abuse and neglect if it's more emotional abuse hugs your not alone It's amazing how the real them comes out when u start fighting back and saying no.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Robyn Edward, thanks for your support of our community.

  • @v0id0fstars
    @v0id0fstars 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My ex was abusive but i never once took his rights for his son away or kept his son from him and gave him full visitation freedom. But he didnt have the car to get him and i didnt have access to one enough to bring our son to him all the time. He got mad at me and the last time my son was brought to him he refused to give him back and still wont give him back and i now have to go to court to get any custody of my son. I didnt want to restrict custody from him at all, i just miss my son. We are unmarried and no custody or child support has been established yet. Any advice? I just want to see my son again. Hes a year old.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I would definitely get legal help from someone who is familiar with the laws of your state and keep showing up to see him, V0id of Stars. Good luck.

  • @yourfriend4170
    @yourfriend4170 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What do you do when other parent is keeps ignoring your messages even with court parental app and not following court documents?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Gulvira T, that is something out of your control. Figure out what you control and focus on that.

  • @DeepWebDiary
    @DeepWebDiary 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I enjoy your videos a lot. Thank you for your work.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      You are welcome, spcbell3246. Thank you for watching.

  • @ataye1
    @ataye1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ok what do you do when you already been to court and the child father has liberal visitation and the mother gets mad a year later and decide she don’t want you seeing the child

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      ataye1, unfortunately I cannot give specific legal advice. I recommend seeking an attorney's assistance. That being said, I have several videos on my child custody playlist that might be useful in regards to your mindset, attitude, and outlook: th-cam.com/play/PLq2mRDkHEBPBhTE4dbqLMBrRk8Uop0jgd.html
      Thank you for being here on the channel.

  • @decisive007
    @decisive007 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if a child doesn’t want to go to his mom because he was abused, not feed and got beaten? And father tried everything to make his son to go to his mom? Please answer

  • @enoliaritabile9898
    @enoliaritabile9898 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Can you please help, my ex wanna pay lobola (negotiations) to my child and take him to stay with him full time.. Can you please tell me the disadvantages of it , and if my child is not happy do I have a right to take him back ?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Enolia Ritabile, we cannot give you legal advice, you need to talk to someone who knows the laws where you live.

  • @mizzteareacts9397
    @mizzteareacts9397 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    We are in a custody battle he filled a emergency motion for primary custody. I have been texting him every day to talk to my kids and he won’t reply or let me !! We have the motion hearing in Wednesday! What do you think about that? My kids haven’t been without me for more than 3 days .

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      MISS TEA, hopefully this can be brought up before the judge. Good luck.

  • @selinallano9147
    @selinallano9147 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im sorry but in my situation i have to look out for the safety of my child first and foremost. No father should ever go on social media bashing his 13 year old son knowing he can't defend himself. Im not giving my child to someone who told the world my son is the cause of his misery and makes him wsnt to harm himself. Especially if he said his mind goes to deep dark sinister things when he's alone.. Ive seen too many tragic stories where one parent will kill the child to get back at the other parent or because of a custody battle. I would not be able to live with myself knowing there is cause for concern and still send him anyway. Not only that, my son said he doesn't feel completely safe when he's with his father.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I hope the court listens to what your son has to say, Selina Llano. Thank you for being there for your child.

    • @selinallano9147
      @selinallano9147 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you. The day i became a mom, i made it my responsibility to protect my child by any means necessary.

  • @sonicmax7
    @sonicmax7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What do you do if the a parent is verbally abusive to the other parent in front of the child and does it very sneaky ways

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      sonicmax, ask if their intention was to (fill in the blank). They will back track and if not, it will be on the record.

  • @Lizzard2060
    @Lizzard2060 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My Daughter was trying to call all the shots. We had to talk about that she is entitled to her feelings/opinions AND I don't get to make that call and we (Dad and I) would talk about it in court with a judge and all. We compared it to kids at her age. I said she would eat pastry strudels everyday if I never made her have oatmeal or granola. She said the "fine, I may not know everything". I said "you would play minecraft all day long and never do anything". She kinda nodded like "Okay, maybe" face. She says "Maybe half the kids in my class play FortNight all night long and do don't their homework bc their parents are too busy to spend time with them". These are married parents and the kid's are really just left to their own to video game all night long. This is Elementary School!!! I'm like why not just turn off the wifi? or unplug it? I was like "You know I know where the computer plugs in and the breaker box is right?". . . "Yeah, Mom, I know".

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I love the communication you have going with your daughter, Elizabeth Becker. This will pay off ten-fold in the future you have with her. Awesome.

  • @tappure
    @tappure 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My little girl was sexually assaulted. In family court no one cares at all. Yes the stepdad is facing charges. How ever in family court judge won’t do anything about it. Big part I’m guessing is do to I’m my own lawyer

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Such a tough thing to hear. I wish the best for you family and your daughter.

    • @tappure
      @tappure 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you for that. The information in a lot of theses videos have helped me a lot. With my up coming court case. Over custody. Hope you an you family have a happy an safe new year 🙏

  • @adrianarandavlogs
    @adrianarandavlogs 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My ex is not following his parenting agreement for the week. What can I do?

  • @juliefulton1188
    @juliefulton1188 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My daughter right now is going through a child custody battle right now and right now he gets to make all the decisions on this case because he's the one took her to court for it

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Julie Fulton, I hope there is a good judge that can look at the case with impartiality. Good luck.

  • @phish_1
    @phish_1 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh yeah!
    Children are swinging when the parents are divorced!
    😂😂😂

  • @HauntedNightFall
    @HauntedNightFall 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    what if one parent is aleinating themselves by chouce as in they are choosing to not be a part of the childs life even if the other parent tries to get that pare t to participate?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      hawkeye harley, thank you for watching. Please remember: we need to get clear on what we control and what we don't. You may want to try writing down what you control and what you'll find is that you don't control the actions of the other person. We can invite and persuade, but we can't force. Always focus on your actions and your child. If you believe there is an unmet need, find a way to meet it without the other parent if they are not willing.

  • @christinagebhart8175
    @christinagebhart8175 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My soon to be 14yr old son told Dad that he doesn't wish to finish out his Summer he told dad he didn't want to attend Gay Pride, and Dad told son you don't get a Choice, and not respecting Son boundaries. I've been trying to stay nurtral as Possible, and deep Breath but how am I so post to Force my 6ft tall over 200lbs son. There's a lot more going on such as being restricted on asking to eat at Dad, Dad has Text Son Thew Fb to take his Medicine which is a narcotic to treat ADHD. I will be self respecting myself I wasn't born with the Golden Spoon. I got my son Counseling when he started Self inflicting pain he was hurting himself red flag so he's told his Counselor I don't feel safe at. I'm doing my best to Educate myself in Protecting my Child. I've had son for 9 yrs and well senses he droped us off am in Oregon and just trying to Protect ourselves

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Christina Gebhart, please keep documentation and follow through, your son may be big, but he needs protection and respect.