I am so sorry for Queen. I dated a guy for a year plus and just one misunderstanding which I was innocent of, he moved onto another lady and in less than 6 months he married her. Unfortunately, his marriage ended within a year bc his wife passed. It was rumored she had AIDs, some said he was hitting her. I’m so glad that I never had kerewa with him bc we were in a Christian relationship. He accused me of dating someone else who was in church but I wasn’t, I never even liked the person he accused me of but as God would have it that’s the man I eventually married and I’m 11 years in marriage counting.
In this case, this man’s rejection of her is God’s protection over her life. Clearly, he is a very unkind human being. He will share that same unkindness with the woman he married. May she find peace, and understand that even without marriage, she is still a whole and full human being.
Do not be a housekeeper to a dating man, please, women, you are NOT HOUSEKEEPERS for men. This cleaning his place and cooking for him? Ladies, have your own place, whether it’s a rental apartment, condo that you own, house that you own. DO NOT BE DEPENDENT ON ANY ONE!!! Define in asking questions at the 6 month stage, if this is someone you feel good about, like, have that conversation re the type of relationship you want with NO KEREWA until marriage. Women don’t use up your self. If no commitment, please, NO INTIMACY, NO KEREWA!!!
A lot of young girls need mentors. An older woman to guide them in this dating streets. Some mothers are not able to equip their daughters with the required knowledge. Some of us are still making this mistake in our 40s! The advantage bad girls have us their experience makes them understand the psychology of men and they use it to their advantage. Let us older women help guide the younger ones, if they’ll listen
The guy is WICKED. Why did this girl not leave him after one year. Marriage isn’t everything ladies. Know your worth. He is a narcissist. He will meet his Waterloo. A man usually knows his plan after dating a woman by 6 months. Ladies, assess very well the man who is showing interest in you. Now a days, in the abroad, many women will let the man know her stand. If not interested in marriage…. END IT and DO NOT get intimate, no kerewa. Yes date around, do not sleep around. Yes ooo, DATE WITH A PURPOSE. Ask straight questions as Adewale said. Ask him specific questions re his plans for the future(including marriage). Assess the man and his family very well, if proposal is done after one year, please have a background check done on him and his family. Important! Brother Patrick I like what you suggested, if the lady has a good relationship with her father and brother, include them in assessing the guy before any engagement/marriage.
Seeing this on replay. Women, get an education for yourself, don’t invest in a man, by spending on them to build them up, then pay for his travel abroad and leave you behind. Ladies, ladies. Invest in yourself!! He is acting just like YUL!!!
One crazy pastor wanted me to cut my uncle, who is paying for me to learn a skill to marry him. Called it a waste that a husband and children are better but asked me to support him to get to his peak I have a child, the pastor was talking to me of allowing me train her that am spoiling her with washing machine and she is 5 also says he wouldn't look my way if I was struggling Called my baby daddy who tried killing me and my child under spiritual influence but Called my uncle who help me evil. I cut him off and stopped going to his church. Everything about him. The guy was discouraging me from learning more handy work. That I should use it to sell. I don't have time for craziness
Aunty B… some Pastor defined such a guy as padlock boyfriend. A man that locks away a woman for years and deprive her from meeting other potential suitor.
My mum prepared me to ask the specific questions when do you want to get married,that question i asked the question and this safe 10years of waiting because he got ten year after i got married,he divorced 20years after, i am 33years in my marriage and still counting
It was Pastor Bolaji that made that comment how his trying to make married people sleep with their spouse and single people from sleeping with each other 😂😂😂
I seriously blame the girl for dating that long on the assumption of marriage. The guy to me is Frank and not arrogant. If he didn’t promise and they didn’t have a talk on it why not ask or leave???
As we are giving daughter promise ring, let’s give to the sons too! Haba!!! Oga, there are still chaste men out there but very rare. When a girls sets the standard of no sex before marriage, it also helps to sieve out the wolves!
Very unkind man, his heart is empty! She dodged a big bullet! Don’t wait. If after one year of courting and there are no plans for marriage, END IT!!!!!
How long to date also depends on age that they started dating. If young then it will be longer. If both matured and professionals (already have careers), no time to check time! 1-2 yrs max!!!!
He' doesn't deserve her, this one na animal, you are very right Sister, long term relationship without marriage and when you get pregnant before marriage there is always issues later
Seven years relationship yet she doesn't know her stands, that's self inflicted injury, because she allowed her time to be wasted Upon zero chances .like the guy said he never promised marriage.
Is not very easy to leave especially when you are totally in and if you have been in for more years, the fear to loose everything and some boys can be manuplate alots, she can have her life back again, May God restore her wasted years
I blame her for not asking the man if he wanted to settle with her. From his response she would know. She spent too much time there without any leadway. The guy is egotistical and i feel he manipulated her because of her innocence and nativity.
When I was single, if I knew you were not good enough to be my wife, there is no way I would have dated you for more than 2yrs, infact I never introduced any lady I know I wont marry to my family, I can introduce to my friends but not family 😅😅😅
How can you date a man for good seven years? I don’t get how some people reason, before I got married as a man, I have never dated a lady for 3 years without knowing my fate/stand or where the relationship is heading to. I don’t even believe what this guy said anyway
Until you have dated anyone for 7 years or longer, you have no idea and have no right to ask that dumb question. What even gives you the assurance any relationships you have now is not ending by tomorrow? Wake up bro or sis, this is life and nobody is fully prepared for tomorrow. The one who has the power or obligation to propose should know better to avoid wasting the time of the other. This culture of buying time to find your choice while you're still relating with another individual you're not sure of needs to end. It's an evil culture
There is something called Platonic friendship, I think that is what the Kenyan girl means. I don’t know the real definition of bestie but in a platonic friendship, a male and female are just friends with nothing more, they could have good vibes, work together, or could be colleagues who get along well. Most platonic friends are friendships have existed even after both parties are married and their partners know each other. Not every friendship of the opposite sex leads to sex. and honestly, it ia not possible to have friends of one gender only.
![[Live] : ONE 168 วันนี้!! "โจนาธาน vs ซุปเปอร์เล็ก"](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/0jIN65KgJsI/mqdefault.jpg)
I am so sorry for Queen. I dated a guy for a year plus and just one misunderstanding which I was innocent of, he moved onto another lady and in less than 6 months he married her. Unfortunately, his marriage ended within a year bc his wife passed. It was rumored she had AIDs, some said he was hitting her. I’m so glad that I never had kerewa with him bc we were in a Christian relationship. He accused me of dating someone else who was in church but I wasn’t, I never even liked the person he accused me of but as God would have it that’s the man I eventually married and I’m 11 years in marriage counting.
When you don't set boundaries, standard and expectation, people will use you.
In this case, this man’s rejection of her is God’s protection over her life. Clearly, he is a very unkind human being. He will share that same unkindness with the woman he married. May she find peace, and understand that even without marriage, she is still a whole and full human being.
Do not be a housekeeper to a dating man, please, women, you are NOT HOUSEKEEPERS for men. This cleaning his place and cooking for him? Ladies, have your own place, whether it’s a rental apartment, condo that you own, house that you own. DO NOT BE DEPENDENT ON ANY ONE!!! Define in asking questions at the 6 month stage, if this is someone you feel good about, like, have that conversation re the type of relationship you want with NO KEREWA until marriage. Women don’t use up your self. If no commitment, please, NO INTIMACY, NO KEREWA!!!
A lot of young girls need mentors. An older woman to guide them in this dating streets. Some mothers are not able to equip their daughters with the required knowledge. Some of us are still making this mistake in our 40s! The advantage bad girls have us their experience makes them understand the psychology of men and they use it to their advantage. Let us older women help guide the younger ones, if they’ll listen
The guy is WICKED. Why did this girl not leave him after one year. Marriage isn’t everything ladies. Know your worth. He is a narcissist. He will meet his Waterloo. A man usually knows his plan after dating a woman by 6 months. Ladies, assess very well the man who is showing interest in you. Now a days, in the abroad, many women will let the man know her stand. If not interested in marriage…. END IT and DO NOT get intimate, no kerewa. Yes date around, do not sleep around. Yes ooo, DATE WITH A PURPOSE. Ask straight questions as Adewale said. Ask him specific questions re his plans for the future(including marriage). Assess the man and his family very well, if proposal is done after one year, please have a background check done on him and his family. Important! Brother Patrick I like what you suggested, if the lady has a good relationship with her father and brother, include them in assessing the guy before any engagement/marriage.
I appreciate your input. Thank you very much for these, wish your comment would be pinned so everyone sees these! Thank you and God bless you 🙏💖
@@rekiyaE You are welcome, and, God Bless you too!
I wish everyone dating will see this ladies do not sleep with the men. Date with the intention to get married if it does not work out you lose nothing
Seeing this on replay. Women, get an education for yourself, don’t invest in a man, by spending on them to build them up, then pay for his travel abroad and leave you behind. Ladies, ladies. Invest in yourself!! He is acting just like YUL!!!
One crazy pastor wanted me to cut my uncle, who is paying for me to learn a skill to marry him. Called it a waste that a husband and children are better but asked me to support him to get to his peak I have a child, the pastor was talking to me of allowing me train her that am spoiling her with washing machine and she is 5 also says he wouldn't look my way if I was struggling Called my baby daddy who tried killing me and my child under spiritual influence but Called my uncle who help me evil. I cut him off and stopped going to his church. Everything about him. The guy was discouraging me from learning more handy work. That I should use it to sell. I don't have time for craziness
Aunty B… some Pastor defined such a guy as padlock boyfriend. A man that locks away a woman for years and deprive her from meeting other potential suitor.
6 months dating . One year should be fiancé . 2 year mark married . Dating for 7years is wild
7 years of dating kwa? That is not courtship and that is not dating. Man drama is a special kind of headache for those who permit it. Tufiakwa!
Very useful episode!!!! Weldone B. I sent this video to my 19years old daughter, and she found it so useful. ❤
You teached people,how you want to treated! Three years is too much to stay with a man without proposal. Set your own time before you meet the man.
My mum prepared me to ask the specific questions when do you want to get married,that question i asked the question and this safe 10years of waiting because he got ten year after i got married,he divorced 20years after, i am 33years in my marriage and still counting
Please , help many with those questions ❤
Interesting topic, we women will never learn 🤷♀️
She dodged a bullet this guy is no good, karma is coming
I hope his karma takes a private jet
Exactly 💯
It was Pastor Bolaji that made that comment how his trying to make married people sleep with their spouse and single people from sleeping with each other 😂😂😂
I seriously blame the girl for dating that long on the assumption of marriage. The guy to me is Frank and not arrogant. If he didn’t promise and they didn’t have a talk on it why not ask or leave???
SMH 🤦🏾
7 years of what!! Boundaries should have been set
O ga o
As we are giving daughter promise ring, let’s give to the sons too! Haba!!!
Oga, there are still chaste men out there but very rare. When a girls sets the standard of no sex before marriage, it also helps to sieve out the wolves!
I like Patrick Ebosele statement!
Very unkind man, his heart is empty! She dodged a big bullet! Don’t wait. If after one year of courting and there are no plans for marriage, END IT!!!!!
Very important to access the family.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 you used me
How long to date also depends on age that they started dating. If young then it will be longer. If both matured and professionals (already have careers), no time to check time! 1-2 yrs max!!!!
He' doesn't deserve her, this one na animal, you are very right Sister, long term relationship without marriage and when you get pregnant before marriage there is always issues later
Seven years relationship yet she doesn't know her stands, that's self inflicted injury, because she allowed her time to be wasted Upon zero chances .like the guy said he never promised marriage.
Is not very easy to leave especially when you are totally in and if you have been in for more years, the fear to loose everything and some boys can be manuplate alots, she can have her life back again, May God restore her wasted years
I blame her for not asking the man if he wanted to settle with her. From his response she would know. She spent too much time there without any leadway. The guy is egotistical and i feel he manipulated her because of her innocence and nativity.
When I was single, if I knew you were not good enough to be my wife, there is no way I would have dated you for more than 2yrs, infact I never introduced any lady I know I wont marry to my family, I can introduce to my friends but not family 😅😅😅
Why date them if you won’t marry
He's just stating it exactly how guys really are. It's a bitter truth
Sadly not new. This is why my pops advised clarity on expectations.
It depends on the stage of their lives that they met.
Fantastic video
How can you date a man for good seven years?
I don’t get how some people reason, before I got married as a man, I have never dated a lady for 3 years without knowing my fate/stand or where the relationship is heading to.
I don’t even believe what this guy said anyway
Why did she wait around for so long? I don't get it...🙃 If he didn't promise her marriage at all, he's not obliged to marry her.
Until you have dated anyone for 7 years or longer, you have no idea and have no right to ask that dumb question. What even gives you the assurance any relationships you have now is not ending by tomorrow? Wake up bro or sis, this is life and nobody is fully prepared for tomorrow. The one who has the power or obligation to propose should know better to avoid wasting the time of the other. This culture of buying time to find your choice while you're still relating with another individual you're not sure of needs to end. It's an evil culture
There is something called Platonic friendship, I think that is what the Kenyan girl means. I don’t know the real definition of bestie but in a platonic friendship, a male and female are just friends with nothing more, they could have good vibes, work together, or could be colleagues who get along well.
Most platonic friends are friendships have existed even after both parties are married and their partners know each other. Not every friendship of the opposite sex leads to sex. and honestly, it ia not possible to have friends of one gender only.