If anyone wants to help me find and lock down a good woman, I’d reward that guy! My stuff doesn’t amount to jack if I don’t have anyone to share it with! Somebody help me, please.
@@ExTrimEast_kpop_loverwhat are you, a teenager? If you don’t care about trying to find a good woman who is wife material, you don’t have to listen, and change the video. He’s giving his best advice. These days good men are out there. But they can’t find a good woman. Because dating apps, higher standards and feminism ruined many women. Dating is at an all time low, and men are hurting so they’re going MGTOW, But there are still good women out there. Find a good church, high value women are going there!
Amen. Locked down a good one that I met at the gym right after covid. Now getting married Aug 2025. Keep your heads held high brothers. There are still good women out there.
Good women are fewer and fewer nowadays, just as good men are. Many young men feel disillusioned by the state of society and their perceived prospects of women. At times, it is a bitter fight for those last few "good women" out there. If you want her, and there are less and less of "her" each year, what makes you think all other men don't too? If a good woman is the 10% of women nowadays (realistically much less), then you need to be a 10% man. Only a good man will attract and retain a good woman. The degenerate decline of Western society puts pressure on both men and women to become in the small minority of virtuous people. If you're going where everyone else is going, you're going in the wrong direction.
Agreed. Finding a good woman will make you WANT to become the best version of yourself. Since the day I met my fiancee two years ago, I have improved in every aspect of my life. Turned my career around, got a lot more jacked, moved into a much better place with her, et cetera. Part of the reason for my working so hard is that I think she deserves the best, so I want to give it to her.
I was a virgin until 23. For the longest time I was stuck in the self-improvement trap. Watching pickup videos, NOFAP, you guys know the deal. Trying anything and everything to get laid. But then I met an incredible woman last year and we’ve been dating 14 months. Supportive, kind heart, doesn’t like to go out, doesn’t thirst trap, never makes me feel bad for working long hours, cooks when she’s off work, etc., Point is guys, if there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that to take your time choosing the right women to spend the rest of your life with AND once you do find her, lock her in. And also, don’t feel bad if you haven’t been laid yet or aren’t having casual sex. When I was a virgin, I thought I was missing out on so much, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized just how little any of that shit actually meant.
@@bekabeka71I mean you can meet women everywhere. If you see a woman giving you choosing signals approach her, and take her out on a date etc. If you see a woman you like, talk to her
“How can you expect god to put a good woman in your life if you yourself are not a good man?” - John Doyle. If you want a good woman, ask yourself if you are worthy of her right now? Are you emotionally consistent, reliable, ambitious, interesting? Yes, it’s a lot to ask out of yourself to be, but what else are you going to do?
Yes sir my friend you are absolutely correct. Meet my person at 29 and I'm in my 40s now and our relationship is stronger than ever. It's amazing to be honest as you grow and evolve together you delop an amazing bond. So your 100% correct & id advise you bros to try meeting some ladies in person and have an honest conversation. It's 50/50 and if she's a real woman she's down with that and it's also a quite simple way of seeing how much she values you. Lastly, i really liked what you said about the parents, as it's 1000% correct. You just gotta put yourself out there & remember the worst thing that can happen is they say no. Facts bro facts!!!
I found the best one, and I just hurt her really bad. I’m so disappointed with myself. I hope she doesn’t leave and I have to restart. But if it happens, I’m more prepared than ever to do big things again
Man this is a great message. You put into words something that has been on my mind. With all those red/black whatever pill nonesence and self improvement stuff. Just try and be a good man, be responsible and reliable, have fun and be genuine. That's all you need. Thanks man
First video of this channel I watched... Great solid advice and message that I came to realize with my own experience growing up and maturing( getting close to my 30's now).
I can't speak for other guys, but the reason I do self-improvement isn't for girls. I grew up having low self-esteem, and self-improvement let's me accept who I am. It allows me to have a sense of self-assurance that I am not completely lost.
@@TLife369no, because one can’t achieve what they can when they’re self esteem is high. I’m talking about inner peace. By one’s own standard, for one’s own life, it all improves when you don’t punish yourself just for existing. And there is no good reason why you would be worth punishing just for being you, that belief comes from a myth people are told about themselves in childhood.
this video made me reflect more on this woman i was dating. Lovely woman and i threw it away for being in my head and letting my anxiety get the best of me. She was one that loved me for who i was and the ambition i carry yet i thought otherwise of myself. To "self improve" and let fear consume me. I wish i never let myself and her down.. and to add on top of that, i always attracted the woman with tattoos and drama and i was a fool for falling for those types, always pushing away the good ones but my recent experience was a lesson and I'm glad i can reflect on it and heal.
Nailed it with a point on women having a good relationship with her parents . This is the most visible green flag and a red flag to be seen in a women accordingly,
It’s really refreshing to see an opinion that’s not bitter and crossed from past experience that makes guys think all girls are the same, because I recently just got done really wrong by what I thought was a good girl but really a narc who had her mental issues after trauma etc, and all these opinions saying bro you just gotta grind and say fuck all these girls they’re all the same you gotta just deal with the fact that life is shit etc, it’s a really dark way to think.. cuz you’re right and I find it really funny about how all these effort guys are preaching we should do nofap gym purpose etc etc etc, like bro you’re literally doing that because it makes you the best version of yourself for someone whose their best Version why else! I’m not saying that’s what will complete you or that it’s the only reason you do what you do, it really should be for you and from a place of self validation and fulfillment instead of looking outside of you for some chick that’ll soothe your ego. But come on the thought of doing your life the best you can only to be alone but at least you’re “stoic” is super depressing for no reason, women are awesome I honestly just believe the good kind are far and few between and rare but no guy should give up just cuz he hasn’t found that real self aware healed truly feminine girl yet.
27 and never really had issues finding both the good and the bad women alike. The problem I still have is maintaining polarity and feeling excited/attracted when relationships get comfy when living together. This is the stuff where there is literally no content, because most of the men talking online are single or in new relationships where they're not living together yet. That's the end game, and where most of the time things break down
paradoxically, male ejaculation is the attraction killer in relationships -- it basically demagnetizes you so the polarity is gone. see for example "cupid's poisoned arrow" by marnia robinson.
@@ToThePureAllThingsArePure definitely agree with that, but even abstaining from sex purposefully to rebuild that doesn't seem like a totally effective strategy either. Especially if the womans sex drive is high, dissatisfaction may creep in..
It’s hard. We’re literally breaking our biological imperative when practicing monogamy. It’s a head game. You have to want to want it brother. There are no instructions. Just you and your woman and communication. Good luck.
@@Sam-by3kk you drew the wrong conclusion that i was advocating abstinence as the solution. it's better for the man to learn non-ejaculatory copulation techniques like karezza or tantra. _the tao of love and sex_ by jolan chang is a good introduction to this, as well as the awesome medicine story _the orgasmic roots of pronoia_ by rob brezsny. separately, i've noticed religious couples often stay in love for years or even for life, even when they don't practice such techniques. simply having a partner who has the same higher goals as you will make polarity last longer. i think what often happens there is that lust is offered up to the higher power, and thus gets more easily transmuted into love.
Hmm I’m a woman but I found this comment interesting. I think there is such a thing as getting “too comfortable” and I think that’s where your issue lies. You might need somebody that’s always pushing you to do better. Boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and also living together (long story) but we’ve never gotten fully comfortable because we stay on each others asses. So far that excitement hasn’t really gone away and we’re still very much sexually compatible. I think you need to really find someone whose personality you find enticing and the rest kind of follows. Always try to learn new things about your partner and be open to the same. Kind of hard to lose attraction if you’re always being completely honest even when it’s uncomfortable. My bf and I just had a heated conversation about sexual needs and we’ve been at it like rabbits because we both like the challenge too be better. Trust me with the right person that excitement doesn’t really go away, the unpredictability of that has to be worth it to you though.
This is amazing advice. I had an open relationship with my ex-gf, closed on my end and open on her end and the more guys she saw on the side, the less she respected me. She went from adoring me and being excited to see me to hating the way I walked and breathed and talked until she finally just left me for one of her boyfriends. Don't be me
@@ElishaLong Looking back it was insane, I told myself that sex is just sex and that it wouldn't change anything in the relationship if she saw other dudes, that she would still just love me for me and they wouldn't change her
I'm 28 yo. Trying hard out there. Can't find a decent woman so far. I'd rather be engaged and proactive in the hobbies + social groups I'm involved in while being single.
"Would you date you?" Is the question you must ask, if you would say no. You need to improve for yourself, love yourself and then experience and enhance the love with that special woman. That's why in pre 2000 media it says not partner but "That Special one". Think about it. Great video bro, greetings from Arg🇦🇷
Am Kenyan, a very good woman but nowadays men just want to sleep around with many girls and its not a flex, am going to be single till God aligns me with a genuine and focused person. Goodluck to everyone!!
I'm in a rough spot. I found a great woman with good values and a similar mindset. She picked me up when I met her when I was in a dark place. I latched onto her and I love her. However, our upbringings were very different and her family has expectations and strong religious views. She is very marriage minded at this point. It will be 2 years this Fall. I am not ready, and feel like I have been backed into a corner where I'll be forcing an engagement and I feel like running. The lust has also died and I might not have gotten enough "rabbit" out of me in my teens and twenties. Just a rough spot where I gotta make a decision.
I completely agree especially with the women with tattoos thing. It is incredibly concerning and so unattractive and downright weird. Too many women now don't want to be feminine.
If your wife works, she will be less of a wife and mother. If your wife works, she will take the respect you get from being the sole breadwinner. If your wife works, i.e. competing in the rat race, she will be less feminine and more masculine. Why would you want any of this? A housewife can save you money by cooking meals, finding deals, cutting coupons, being thrifty/frugal, cleaning, doing admin/secretarial work for your business, gardening/growing food, raising chickens, doing the laundry, drying clothes on clothes line, sewing/knitting/making clothes, finding the best savings/checking accounts, finding the best credit cards, making sure bills are paid on time, cutting your hair,/the kids hair, making sure the lights are turned off, using energy saving products, helping clean/maintain the cars, being the nurse of the family, giving massages, crafting, making homemade shampoo, etc, etc, All of this adds up to tens of thousands of dollars in savings.
@@ItalianStallionTV live in the midwest. only have one car and small house. easily can support family of 3 or 4 on 50-60k. I know families with 5-6 kids here in South Dakota making it with one income.
@@mordecaimaxwell6376 Only a small minority of women are even capable of doing all the things I listed. How is that reducing a person to housebound work. Only elite women are capable of handling all of those things. Also, raising children and supporitng your husband is noble and dignified.
All of this is solid but i would advise against thinking a female putting you thru the ringer just to "prove " if you're worthy, as a healthy thing to go for. There is no need. You be you, she'll be her, bam boom. No need for games.
gentlemen, any idea to where can I find a good women? I mean specific places, I already got some ideas but let's collect and maximize our chances, I'll start : -Library - community fundraising events ( remember to be authentic, be genuinely intrested, don't go with the sole purpose to knowing your future spouse) - Volunteer Organizations ( be authentic, if you don't give a shit about volunteering just don't go. and btw if you don't give af about volunteering there's a problem) - Dog parks (not valid option if you have a cat or a pet-crocodile)
Don’t look for them man. Get like 1 or 2 girls to talk to but don’t expect anything from them. You need women to talk to so you don’t become schizophrenic like me. Now the next step is crucial. But for the most part you need about 6 good friends to create an environment of value. So just join a gang, or Bjj gym, or the AMA, or maybe like a police department in some rural town. Women flock like flies to shiet wherever there are groups of men A) men with money Or B) Men who can create social status at venues (basically a tiny gang or frat that goes out a lot) Even the most traditional of women are drawn out to go partying so they fit in. And you will inevitably run into these women at degenerate places like clubs. Trying to meet women in their own environment is just a waste of time tbh. Create your own attractive environment (charter a yacht every few months and split the bill with friends)
For the single guys out there, you can meet a good girl anywhere even in a club, but you must find them innocent and don’t let them have social media and you must be the leader
@@Duckonthepond if being a good man for yourself means your not a good man for her ?…. then she’s not the right fit mate, My girl is happy to let me lead the relationship but that’s one u need to decide for yourself
Alright well maybe I could of worded that a little better, let’s say as oppose to not “letting” her I say “guide” and make the young lady aware of the dangers of social media, I suppose you could call it advice and I advise my girl on what I think is best and always give my reasons , a woman appreciates when you tell her what you want .
Well the only thing I could say to that is, couples and marriages seemed to last a hell of a lot longer before social media 🤣 And With great power comes great responsibility.
Bruh… let me tell you this about the dual income. Forget about the dual income. Man’s job is to be the bread winner, you make the money, and you get to tell your wife to stay home and take care of the house and the kids and you get the say so all day. If you’re not on that level yet as a man, you have no business being with a woman. Period
There's about 1% out there worth anything if they aren't already taken. The best are going to be wifed up before 25, and they're going to stay married. If she is even decent looking, and for some reason not married by 28, there's probably something wrong with her.
i agree, my girlfriend totally changed my life for the better. She made me richer and happier, and now we have a son 3 month old. She helped me renovate my appartment, and helped with financial desicions that have made me about 200k.
@@baldviking3 dude i literally don't have social instinct and its psychologically proved And I don't have problem with girls, my online game is solid 8/10
In my opinion a man makes a good women the way you carry yourself, the way you make her feel, and the amount of time you spend with her, matter in order to keep attraction and her feeling influx. A women likes to dress in cute clothes and you have to let her embrace her femininity to the world you have to be strong enough to not get jealous and do ur own thing. A women is very intelligent and observant and she will know the balls of steel you carry.
I learned the hard way and I will never fall in love but I will still love a women with all my heart if she respects me even if it means a possibility of getting hurt in the future because what’s the point of not loving hard
It seems it all boils down to universal religious beliefs. All we have to do is humble ourselves and accept that the ancients got it all right with their common sense.
All throughout the old and new testament we as men are called to be in union with a woman (marriage). To become a Husband and a Father are some of the greatest ways to grow you faith and get closer to God
@@TheCrusader_ a respectable calling but “to be fruitful and multiply” is a command the Lord gives us as well. If you are being celibate for the Lord I wish you well on your journey 🙏🏻
@@shawn7587 I am celibate until marriage. They’re both good commands filled with their own hardships. Don’t get me wrong I hope I can get a good Catholic woman, but it will be fine if this isn’t the case.
I agree, except for the dating app thing. It's completely normalized today, you can meet all kinds of people there. And who says, thatthe girl you met at the supermarket is not on dating apps? Most likely she is or was. It is what it is
Dude you can find a good woman anywhere. Nowadays both man and woman can pursue a career and raise a family. A wife can raise kids and work a remote job. Like Eli said, stop going online for answers. Put yourself out there.
If anyone wants to help me find and lock down a good woman, I’d reward that guy! My stuff doesn’t amount to jack if I don’t have anyone to share it with! Somebody help me, please.
Hey Eli do you still go on morning runs with your girl? I'm just curious cause I'm going to start morning runs with my gf and the dog. I know you said it was really beneficial but I'm wondering if thar held up. Thanks for talking man we appreciate you 🤙
How to learn to have humor? I wanna learn how to use humor. Most of the time I laugh easily because I'm a smiling person, but the problem is I can't use humor. Could you give me some tips or advice?
Bro sometimes I think i am in a relationship and dont know, at the same time im not getting some...Im not looking my best either so I guess if i can remain single for now its fine
My recommendation is to branch out on the genres you make music of. Not a lot of women listen to hard rock or heavy metal...and that just may be repelling women.
@photographyenthusiast9941 That's fair. Most my hobbies are male dominated. Motorcycles, Mtn Biking, Dirt Jumps, Heavy Music, and Weightlifting don't tend to garner many woman. I do enjoy cooking, so that's a possible outlet. That is if woman even enjoy cooking anymore.
@@thedude8526 Some women still cook, though it seems most have resorted to the perpetual take-out option. Women like male dominated activities as well. I live in California and there are plenty of women into all those other activities. No luck at Church?
One not so small problem. Good women are extremely hard to come by these days, especially I'm the west. Long story short there simply aren't enough to go around.
Dude yes! 👏🏻I am so glad you've come to a lot of the same conclusions I have. We need normalcy and good people in our lives. Even a good woman may not be perfect but she can restore so much of your faith in humanity. That's been my experience at least. I seriously recommend you guys try dating OLDER women and maybe even TALLER women. Years ago I never thought I'd be dating a woman like that but here I am and she's one of the coolest, most understanding people I've ever met. Smoking hot too. Luckily I found that out after getting to know her, meaning she left a lot to the imagination, and I was pleasantly surprised when I first saw her naked. Taller/bigger women are attractive to me though, and the age is something interesting to me too, it's not a bad thing. I don't recommend dating someone you don't find attractive, I'm just saying you might want to open your mind more to the possibilities.
check this out… heard a rabbi talking …. Said that man and woman are no good for eachother. better off left alone….. but a husband cannot exist without a wife. a wife not without a husband
Nice video bro. I gotta ask, is it realistic to want a virgin woman in the modern day western world? I want someone who's pure and untainted if possible, but idk if it's even realistic nowdays.
I don’t think you’ll get punishment for choosing a wrong girl. That is just life, men sometimes just make ignorant decisions and the girl is responsible for her own decisions in the bad relationship like with Jeff bezos. We don’t know what they went through, but it’s not a “punishment”. Sometimes the girl also changes throughout the relationship and becomes bad, does that count as punishment for the man? No, it’s just life and the random, free flow of life
Good video, the 2 most succesfull guys in my 3k ppl hs were ~1m70 guys(one was fat) with incredible charisma. One is in Dubai now and the other is in middle management at 25 despite no college diploma. If you need a book its The art of seduction, some of the best seducers were short and ugly. Its a psychological game, physical attractiveness does work but its not even the most efficient method
I think when you hit 30 it’s time to be serious , the only issue in the west marriage and family value does not exist and women and men does not marriage because the whole culture and society in USA have taught them to be alone and the issue when you get married Becuase women are not conditioned to be with one guy for ever will ruin that marriage , but ideally when your 30 u must be married and have kids , that’s ur empire , otherwise what’s the point if u don’t have kids and legacy ? You be alone and be 50 and what ? Still alone and have no kids or nothing that’s a very sad story , when you have kids it’s time for you second chapter time to teach them about life and live life through them , the only issue west is screwed everyone sacred to get married and I don’t blame them why would you to a lady will make it worse for you ?
I'm not a good man, and I don't believe that I deserve a good woman. However, every man who gets married THINKS they found a good woman. Well it turns out that most of them are wrong, because over 50% of marriages end in divorce (the vast majority of which are initiated by women). As a man, divorce pretty much goes hand-in-hand with having your life upended, and even if your ex-wife isn't TRYING to be a vindictive bitch, divorce will cause you years of financial and emotional turmoil, especially if there are children involved.
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What a cringe video lmao
@ExTrimEast_kpop_lover says the K-pop lover lol you're the one thats cringe
If anyone wants to help me find and lock down a good woman, I’d reward that guy! My stuff doesn’t amount to jack if I don’t have anyone to share it with! Somebody help me, please.
@@ExTrimEast_kpop_loverwhat are you, a teenager? If you don’t care about trying to find a good woman who is wife material, you don’t have to listen, and change the video.
He’s giving his best advice.
These days good men are out there. But they can’t find a good woman. Because dating apps, higher standards and feminism ruined many women. Dating is at an all time low, and men are hurting so they’re going MGTOW, But there are still good women out there. Find a good church, high value women are going there!
@@ExTrimEast_kpop_loverDon’t ever throw shade at someone again with your channel name.
Amen. Locked down a good one that I met at the gym right after covid. Now getting married Aug 2025.
Keep your heads held high brothers. There are still good women out there.
Ayyyy😘😘😘😘😘😘😘congrats habibi
@@stephenwilliams9628 I am turning off my comment notifications if I ever see some gay shit like what you just said
She should keep trying to lock you down my brother,not opposite
Congratulations brother
Thanks man, sometimes its hard to believe but they are in the right places
Good women are fewer and fewer nowadays, just as good men are. Many young men feel disillusioned by the state of society and their perceived prospects of women. At times, it is a bitter fight for those last few "good women" out there. If you want her, and there are less and less of "her" each year, what makes you think all other men don't too? If a good woman is the 10% of women nowadays (realistically much less), then you need to be a 10% man. Only a good man will attract and retain a good woman. The degenerate decline of Western society puts pressure on both men and women to become in the small minority of virtuous people. If you're going where everyone else is going, you're going in the wrong direction.
Agreed. Finding a good woman will make you WANT to become the best version of yourself. Since the day I met my fiancee two years ago, I have improved in every aspect of my life. Turned my career around, got a lot more jacked, moved into a much better place with her, et cetera. Part of the reason for my working so hard is that I think she deserves the best, so I want to give it to her.
I was a virgin until 23. For the longest time I was stuck in the self-improvement trap. Watching pickup videos, NOFAP, you guys know the deal. Trying anything and everything to get laid.
But then I met an incredible woman last year and we’ve been dating 14 months. Supportive, kind heart, doesn’t like to go out, doesn’t thirst trap, never makes me feel bad for working long hours, cooks when she’s off work, etc.,
Point is guys, if there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that to take your time choosing the right women to spend the rest of your life with AND once you do find her, lock her in.
And also, don’t feel bad if you haven’t been laid yet or aren’t having casual sex. When I was a virgin, I thought I was missing out on so much, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized just how little any of that shit actually meant.
Where did meet her? Any ideas?
This comment has been up for four hours, are you still together bro?
@@bekabeka71I mean you can meet women everywhere. If you see a woman giving you choosing signals approach her, and take her out on a date etc.
If you see a woman you like, talk to her
@@interesting2491 Jealous much?
“How can you expect god to put a good woman in your life if you yourself are not a good man?”
- John Doyle.
If you want a good woman, ask yourself if you are worthy of her right now? Are you emotionally consistent, reliable, ambitious, interesting? Yes, it’s a lot to ask out of yourself to be, but what else are you going to do?
He’s so right about ambition. I’m a girl and dang it’s so attractive.
Yes sir my friend you are absolutely correct. Meet my person at 29 and I'm in my 40s now and our relationship is stronger than ever. It's amazing to be honest as you grow and evolve together you delop an amazing bond. So your 100% correct & id advise you bros to try meeting some ladies in person and have an honest conversation. It's 50/50 and if she's a real woman she's down with that and it's also a quite simple way of seeing how much she values you. Lastly, i really liked what you said about the parents, as it's 1000% correct. You just gotta put yourself out there & remember the worst thing that can happen is they say no. Facts bro facts!!!
I found the best one, and I just hurt her really bad. I’m so disappointed with myself. I hope she doesn’t leave and I have to restart. But if it happens, I’m more prepared than ever to do big things again
May God bless you and your loved ones, I pray it works out 💪
@@Stackmodechris thank you brother we’re back to buisiness
Man this is a great message. You put into words something that has been on my mind. With all those red/black whatever pill nonesence and self improvement stuff. Just try and be a good man, be responsible and reliable, have fun and be genuine. That's all you need. Thanks man
First video of this channel I watched...
Great solid advice and message that I came to realize with my own experience growing up and maturing( getting close to my 30's now).
Just at the right time brother. I was thinking about this as well cuz things are looking that way for me now. Just in time. Amen
I can't speak for other guys, but the reason I do self-improvement isn't for girls. I grew up having low self-esteem, and self-improvement let's me accept who I am. It allows me to have a sense of self-assurance that I am not completely lost.
Same
Why is low self esteem bad?
Bc woman don’t like it
Same, even when I was a loser I would still get female attention somehow so yea I only work for myself
@@TLife369no, because one can’t achieve what they can when they’re self esteem is high. I’m talking about inner peace. By one’s own standard, for one’s own life, it all improves when you don’t punish yourself just for existing. And there is no good reason why you would be worth punishing just for being you, that belief comes from a myth people are told about themselves in childhood.
I am going to go into a self-improvement phase not out of self-hate but out of interest in becoming who I am capable of being
always got a great message to say man love this
Im finally putting myself out there, going on dates and being more social than ever…It’s only a matter of time.
Thank you, this gave me some hope and i feel quite identified with all that you say and where you are coming from, thx again
this video made me reflect more on this woman i was dating. Lovely woman and i threw it away for being in my head and letting my anxiety get the best of me. She was one that loved me for who i was and the ambition i carry yet i thought otherwise of myself. To "self improve" and let fear consume me. I wish i never let myself and her down..
and to add on top of that, i always attracted the woman with tattoos and drama and i was a fool for falling for those types, always pushing away the good ones but my recent experience was a lesson and I'm glad i can reflect on it and heal.
“Artful form of cutting yourself” That’s a good quote
You really get us, women
Crazy this comes up😂I was thinking about it all day and I wasn't sure, but this confirms its👍🏽thanx man
Love your talks bro . So real and true
This is too good man, too good. keep it comin
Broke up with my gf three days ago. Meeting someone new soon, and taking it slow this time. Going for personality & future value this time
Why not remain single sorry for asking?
@@Asilentlearner43 Don’t be sorry. It can make life better. One of my goals is a family. Might as well try
@@Asilentlearner43Don’t be sorry. One of my goals is a family and might as well give it some effort. I could but a woman can make life better.
Exactly what my parents taught me and my siblings.
Thanks for speaking up about tattoos. I felt like it’s just me who cares that a girl doesn’t have tattoos.
Nailed it with a point on women having a good relationship with her parents . This is the most visible green flag and a red flag to be seen in a women accordingly,
It’s really refreshing to see an opinion that’s not bitter and crossed from past experience that makes guys think all girls are the same, because I recently just got done really wrong by what I thought was a good girl but really a narc who had her mental issues after trauma etc, and all these opinions saying bro you just gotta grind and say fuck all these girls they’re all the same you gotta just deal with the fact that life is shit etc, it’s a really dark way to think.. cuz you’re right and I find it really funny about how all these effort guys are preaching we should do nofap gym purpose etc etc etc, like bro you’re literally doing that because it makes you the best version of yourself for someone whose their best Version why else! I’m not saying that’s what will complete you or that it’s the only reason you do what you do, it really should be for you and from a place of self validation and fulfillment instead of looking outside of you for some chick that’ll soothe your ego. But come on the thought of doing your life the best you can only to be alone but at least you’re “stoic” is super depressing for no reason, women are awesome I honestly just believe the good kind are far and few between and rare but no guy should give up just cuz he hasn’t found that real self aware healed truly feminine girl yet.
Great video! Got dumped recently because I got fat and lost a good amount of ambition. Your videos are helping me turn this around. Thanks Elisha.
Gigachad vibes, His mindstet is at the right place.
27 and never really had issues finding both the good and the bad women alike. The problem I still have is maintaining polarity and feeling excited/attracted when relationships get comfy when living together. This is the stuff where there is literally no content, because most of the men talking online are single or in new relationships where they're not living together yet. That's the end game, and where most of the time things break down
paradoxically, male ejaculation is the attraction killer in relationships -- it basically demagnetizes you so the polarity is gone. see for example "cupid's poisoned arrow" by marnia robinson.
@@ToThePureAllThingsArePure definitely agree with that, but even abstaining from sex purposefully to rebuild that doesn't seem like a totally effective strategy either. Especially if the womans sex drive is high, dissatisfaction may creep in..
It’s hard. We’re literally breaking our biological imperative when practicing monogamy. It’s a head game. You have to want to want it brother. There are no instructions. Just you and your woman and communication. Good luck.
@@Sam-by3kk you drew the wrong conclusion that i was advocating abstinence as the solution. it's better for the man to learn non-ejaculatory copulation techniques like karezza or tantra. _the tao of love and sex_ by jolan chang is a good introduction to this, as well as the awesome medicine story _the orgasmic roots of pronoia_ by rob brezsny.
separately, i've noticed religious couples often stay in love for years or even for life, even when they don't practice such techniques. simply having a partner who has the same higher goals as you will make polarity last longer. i think what often happens there is that lust is offered up to the higher power, and thus gets more easily transmuted into love.
Hmm I’m a woman but I found this comment interesting. I think there is such a thing as getting “too comfortable” and I think that’s where your issue lies. You might need somebody that’s always pushing you to do better. Boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and also living together (long story) but we’ve never gotten fully comfortable because we stay on each others asses. So far that excitement hasn’t really gone away and we’re still very much sexually compatible. I think you need to really find someone whose personality you find enticing and the rest kind of follows. Always try to learn new things about your partner and be open to the same. Kind of hard to lose attraction if you’re always being completely honest even when it’s uncomfortable. My bf and I just had a heated conversation about sexual needs and we’ve been at it like rabbits because we both like the challenge too be better. Trust me with the right person that excitement doesn’t really go away, the unpredictability of that has to be worth it to you though.
This is amazing advice. I had an open relationship with my ex-gf, closed on my end and open on her end and the more guys she saw on the side, the less she respected me. She went from adoring me and being excited to see me to hating the way I walked and breathed and talked until she finally just left me for one of her boyfriends. Don't be me
What did you think was going to happen when you willingly cukc yourself
@@ElishaLong Looking back it was insane, I told myself that sex is just sex and that it wouldn't change anything in the relationship if she saw other dudes, that she would still just love me for me and they wouldn't change her
@@AnthroGuitaristgood thing you learned your lesson
@@AnthroGuitaristhope you change your ways and tell your future wife no to her stupid ideas
I’m halfway sorry about your stupidity. Now never do that again.
I'm 28 yo. Trying hard out there. Can't find a decent woman so far. I'd rather be engaged and proactive in the hobbies + social groups I'm involved in while being single.
"Would you date you?" Is the question you must ask, if you would say no. You need to improve for yourself, love yourself and then experience and enhance the love with that special woman.
That's why in pre 2000 media it says not partner but "That Special one". Think about it. Great video bro, greetings from Arg🇦🇷
Am Kenyan, a very good woman but nowadays men just want to sleep around with many girls and its not a flex, am going to be single till God aligns me with a genuine and focused person. Goodluck to everyone!!
I'm in a rough spot. I found a great woman with good values and a similar mindset. She picked me up when I met her when I was in a dark place. I latched onto her and I love her. However, our upbringings were very different and her family has expectations and strong religious views. She is very marriage minded at this point. It will be 2 years this Fall. I am not ready, and feel like I have been backed into a corner where I'll be forcing an engagement and I feel like running. The lust has also died and I might not have gotten enough "rabbit" out of me in my teens and twenties. Just a rough spot where I gotta make a decision.
For you younger guys you do need to pay attention to the family because you will be connected to them.
God bless brother, means a lot
0:34 To this day, I have no clue why Jeff traded someone genuine for a plastic doll
I’m too old to be playing this game man 😂. Gotta start all over in this game
Based.
We need to make basedbies.
I completely agree especially with the women with tattoos thing. It is incredibly concerning and so unattractive and downright weird. Too many women now don't want to be feminine.
so? why do you care? let other people express themselves how they want
@@user-sl4sx6dp4cit’s not expression, it’s a cry for help and a sign of no impulse control. That tat is gonna look terrible at 80
@@yellow_airman you sound so insecure
lol speak for yourself I love tats
it's subjective, i find women with tattoos to be so hot
This message needs to be broadcasted everywhere, but it wont because society doesn't promote happiness, it promotes achievements.
Keeping it real brother
06:30 had me dying bro. you're a funny dude
LMAO
If your wife works, she will be less of a wife and mother.
If your wife works, she will take the respect you get from being the sole breadwinner.
If your wife works, i.e. competing in the rat race, she will be less feminine and more masculine.
Why would you want any of this?
A housewife can save you money by cooking meals, finding deals, cutting coupons, being thrifty/frugal, cleaning, doing admin/secretarial work for your business, gardening/growing food, raising chickens, doing the laundry, drying clothes on clothes line, sewing/knitting/making clothes, finding the best savings/checking accounts, finding the best credit cards, making sure bills are paid on time, cutting your hair,/the kids hair, making sure the lights are turned off, using energy saving products, helping clean/maintain the cars, being the nurse of the family, giving massages, crafting, making homemade shampoo, etc, etc,
All of this adds up to tens of thousands of dollars in savings.
lmao you're deluded if you think you can survive on one income with today's inflation unless ur making 120k
@@ItalianStallionTV live in the midwest. only have one car and small house. easily can support family of 3 or 4 on 50-60k.
I know families with 5-6 kids here in South Dakota making it with one income.
or have your wife work and if she has a male boss that man becomes here alpha, not you. Shes working for his plan and not yours.@@ItalianStallionTV
@@ItalianStallionTV or have your wife work and her boss at work becomes her alpha and not you. She's surving his vision and not yours.
@@mordecaimaxwell6376 Only a small minority of women are even capable of doing all the things I listed. How is that reducing a person to housebound work. Only elite women are capable of handling all of those things. Also, raising children and supporitng your husband is noble and dignified.
All of this is solid but i would advise against thinking a female putting you thru the ringer just to "prove " if you're worthy, as a healthy thing to go for. There is no need. You be you, she'll be her, bam boom. No need for games.
Their relationship with their parents is paramount. Everything else is secondary.
gentlemen, any idea to where can I find a good women? I mean specific places, I already got some ideas but let's collect and maximize our chances, I'll start :
-Library
- community fundraising events ( remember to be authentic, be genuinely intrested, don't go with the sole purpose to knowing your future spouse)
- Volunteer Organizations ( be authentic, if you don't give a shit about volunteering just don't go. and btw if you don't give af about volunteering there's a problem)
- Dog parks (not valid option if you have a cat or a pet-crocodile)
Don’t look for them man. Get like 1 or 2 girls to talk to but don’t expect anything from them. You need women to talk to so you don’t become schizophrenic like me.
Now the next step is crucial. But for the most part you need about 6 good friends to create an environment of value. So just join a gang, or Bjj gym, or the AMA, or maybe like a police department in some rural town.
Women flock like flies to shiet wherever there are groups of men
A) men with money
Or
B) Men who can create social status at venues (basically a tiny gang or frat that goes out a lot)
Even the most traditional of women are drawn out to go partying so they fit in. And you will inevitably run into these women at degenerate places like clubs.
Trying to meet women in their own environment is just a waste of time tbh. Create your own attractive environment (charter a yacht every few months and split the bill with friends)
F. The normalization of dual income, if you own a home it is not needed.
For the single guys out there, you can meet a good girl anywhere even in a club, but you must find them innocent and don’t let them have social media and you must be the leader
@@Duckonthepond if being a good man for yourself means your not a good man for her ?…. then she’s not the right fit mate,
My girl is happy to let me lead the relationship but that’s one u need to decide for yourself
Alright well maybe I could of worded that a little better, let’s say as oppose to not “letting” her I say “guide” and make the young lady aware of the dangers of social media, I suppose you could call it advice and I advise my girl on what I think is best and always give my reasons , a woman appreciates when you tell her what you want .
Well the only thing I could say to that is, couples and marriages seemed to last a hell of a lot longer before social media 🤣 And
With great power comes great responsibility.
1:09 "Show me them tiddies...baby!"
- Brother Elisha in the year 2,024 After the Death of Our Lord Jesus Christ
True video. Funny thing too is that a lot of the red pill “gurus” are married or with long term girlfriends 😂 they just forget to mention that part
Bruh… let me tell you this about the dual income. Forget about the dual income. Man’s job is to be the bread winner, you make the money, and you get to tell your wife to stay home and take care of the house and the kids and you get the say so all day. If you’re not on that level yet as a man, you have no business being with a woman. Period
“ I have sisters I figured this shit out “ 😭😭
BROTHER, we GOTTA talk
There's about 1% out there worth anything if they aren't already taken.
The best are going to be wifed up before 25, and they're going to stay married.
If she is even decent looking, and for some reason not married by 28, there's probably something wrong with her.
That’s why I won’t settle for an average looking girl, the looks are everything for me
Hey Elisha, I just felt the desire right now to agree with you about tatoos, so I commented :-)
i agree, my girlfriend totally changed my life for the better. She made me richer and happier, and now we have a son 3 month old. She helped me renovate my appartment, and helped with financial desicions that have made me about 200k.
We gotta frickin talk
Brutheer
Amen Elisha! Although, I myself plan to go overseas to meet a woman. Western women are lost causes.
"Be social"
nah it's not in my nature and if i act social at first and then stop it will be incongruent
Cope. You are a human being - humans are social creatures. That's why you're watching this vid and commenting
@@baldviking3 dude i literally don't have social instinct and its psychologically proved
And I don't have problem with girls, my online game is solid 8/10
@@mrbullmrbull you are social with me right now - however surface lvl it may be. So no
@@baldviking3 i'm very comfortable with 1v1 interactions
5+ people and I'm out, don't want to be there
@@mrbullmrbull then you have the wrong idea of what social means. You described someone who is introverted.
Should a woman say that she loves you first? And how long should it take? If it still doesn’t happen after one year - is it okay?
In my opinion a man makes a good women the way you carry yourself, the way you make her feel, and the amount of time you spend with her, matter in order to keep attraction and her feeling influx. A women likes to dress in cute clothes and you have to let her embrace her femininity to the world you have to be strong enough to not get jealous and do ur own thing. A women is very intelligent and observant and she will know the balls of steel you carry.
I learned the hard way and I will never fall in love but I will still love a women with all my heart if she respects me even if it means a possibility of getting hurt in the future because what’s the point of not loving hard
It seems it all boils down to universal religious beliefs. All we have to do is humble ourselves and accept that the ancients got it all right with their common sense.
I recall seeing your TH-cam back fall 2019 talking about Jordan Peterson.
Amen brother
The demand exceeds the supply 9X
Does the Thumos Brotherhood discord have members in Edinburgh, Scotland? Can I join to meet people rather than for the challenges?
What's up man. We have a huge UK base
There are higher callings than getting married. The holy one never got married.
All throughout the old and new testament we as men are called to be in union with a woman (marriage). To become a Husband and a Father are some of the greatest ways to grow you faith and get closer to God
@@shawn7587 doesn’t matter. We were presented with an even higher calling than marriage. Which is celibacy.
@@TheCrusader_ a respectable calling but “to be fruitful and multiply” is a command the Lord gives us as well. If you are being celibate for the Lord I wish you well on your journey 🙏🏻
@@shawn7587 I am celibate until marriage. They’re both good commands filled with their own hardships. Don’t get me wrong I hope I can get a good Catholic woman, but it will be fine if this isn’t the case.
@@TheCrusader_ okay gotcha yeah I made the same decision, got married back in 2022 and it’s been a blessing ever since 👍🏻
Making a woman laugh will get you far. Stay strong kings 💪
"just find a good women mate" lol
I agree, except for the dating app thing. It's completely normalized today, you can meet all kinds of people there. And who says, thatthe girl you met at the supermarket is not on dating apps? Most likely she is or was. It is what it is
Would you say a good woman could be one in academia? I heard that only one person can pursue career, if it should work out ?
Dude you can find a good woman anywhere. Nowadays both man and woman can pursue a career and raise a family. A wife can raise kids and work a remote job. Like Eli said, stop going online for answers. Put yourself out there.
college (which is what I assume you mean by academia) is filled with vapid and shallow people too, you still need to be careful.
If anyone wants to help me find and lock down a good woman, I’d reward that guy! My stuff doesn’t amount to jack if I don’t have anyone to share it with! Somebody help me, please.
Only you can do it
@@isaac1674start appreciating brother
Am a good woman from Kenya
@@missup23 I don’t see any videos on your TH-cam channel. 🤷♂️
@@MetapaloozaShow I have no videos yet, I have a whack phone that's why, I would love to start a TH-cam channel and post videos!
Hey Eli do you still go on morning runs with your girl?
I'm just curious cause I'm going to start morning runs with my gf and the dog.
I know you said it was really beneficial but I'm wondering if thar held up. Thanks for talking man we appreciate you 🤙
Help with what bro?
@@ElishaLongHe was asking if it ‘held up’ (still continuing to go on morning runs)
We can't all make it
How to learn to have humor? I wanna learn how to use humor. Most of the time I laugh easily because I'm a smiling person, but the problem is I can't use humor. Could you give me some tips or advice?
It’s an intuition thing. Usually a mix of having good social skills and saying what comes to your mind without a filter.
Bro sometimes I think i am in a relationship and dont know, at the same time im not getting some...Im not looking my best either so I guess if i can remain single for now its fine
What
Yeah dude plenty of men wait til 30s
"What" lmao
In your solitude, forge yourself for the days to come.
I think it's too late for me. I'm 37 and haven't managed to find one that fits me.
My recommendation is to branch out on the genres you make music of. Not a lot of women listen to hard rock or heavy metal...and that just may be repelling women.
@photographyenthusiast9941 That's fair. Most my hobbies are male dominated. Motorcycles, Mtn Biking, Dirt Jumps, Heavy Music, and Weightlifting don't tend to garner many woman. I do enjoy cooking, so that's a possible outlet. That is if woman even enjoy cooking anymore.
@@thedude8526 Some women still cook, though it seems most have resorted to the perpetual take-out option. Women like male dominated activities as well. I live in California and there are plenty of women into all those other activities. No luck at Church?
It is important to your future.
One not so small problem. Good women are extremely hard to come by these days, especially I'm the west. Long story short there simply aren't enough to go around.
Needle meet Haystack.
Dude yes! 👏🏻I am so glad you've come to a lot of the same conclusions I have. We need normalcy and good people in our lives. Even a good woman may not be perfect but she can restore so much of your faith in humanity. That's been my experience at least. I seriously recommend you guys try dating OLDER women and maybe even TALLER women. Years ago I never thought I'd be dating a woman like that but here I am and she's one of the coolest, most understanding people I've ever met. Smoking hot too. Luckily I found that out after getting to know her, meaning she left a lot to the imagination, and I was pleasantly surprised when I first saw her naked.
Taller/bigger women are attractive to me though, and the age is something interesting to me too, it's not a bad thing. I don't recommend dating someone you don't find attractive, I'm just saying you might want to open your mind more to the possibilities.
Digging the camera angle here
check this out… heard a rabbi talking …. Said that man and woman are no good for eachother. better off left alone….. but a husband cannot exist without a wife. a wife not without a husband
Only 4 showed me. One wanted money.
I have 0
women are very simple as you say bro
if she's into you, you'll know
SHOW ME THEM TIDDAYS
Find a good woman today is impossible even if you try hard
What if there are no good women left
“Bruthurrr”
Could you please elaborate on not believing in 'out of his league' thing?
Where are they?👀
Gym, library, uni, friend circle, grocery store, church, museums, parks, outside.
Planet earth bro ez just approach bro
Nice video bro.
I gotta ask, is it realistic to want a virgin woman in the modern day western world?
I want someone who's pure and untainted if possible, but idk if it's even realistic nowdays.
What kind of answer are you looking for
@@isaac1674 Yesn't
I don’t think you’ll get punishment for choosing a wrong girl. That is just life, men sometimes just make ignorant decisions and the girl is responsible for her own decisions in the bad relationship like with Jeff bezos. We don’t know what they went through, but it’s not a “punishment”. Sometimes the girl also changes throughout the relationship and becomes bad, does that count as punishment for the man? No, it’s just life and the random, free flow of life
This is Jesus’ parable of the Sower.
Change laws and i might consider it
Good video, the 2 most succesfull guys in my 3k ppl hs were ~1m70 guys(one was fat) with incredible charisma. One is in Dubai now and the other is in middle management at 25 despite no college diploma.
If you need a book its The art of seduction, some of the best seducers were short and ugly. Its a psychological game, physical attractiveness does work but its not even the most efficient method
I think when you hit 30 it’s time to be serious , the only issue in the west marriage and family value does not exist and women and men does not marriage because the whole culture and society in USA have taught them to be alone and the issue when you get married Becuase women are not conditioned to be with one guy for ever will ruin that marriage , but ideally when your 30 u must be married and have kids , that’s ur empire , otherwise what’s the point if u don’t have kids and legacy ? You be alone and be 50 and what ? Still alone and have no kids or nothing that’s a very sad story , when you have kids it’s time for you second chapter time to teach them about life and live life through them , the only issue west is screwed everyone sacred to get married and I don’t blame them why would you to a lady will make it worse for you ?
Elisha what do you think about single moms? Red flag?
I'm not a good man, and I don't believe that I deserve a good woman. However, every man who gets married THINKS they found a good woman. Well it turns out that most of them are wrong, because over 50% of marriages end in divorce (the vast majority of which are initiated by women). As a man, divorce pretty much goes hand-in-hand with having your life upended, and even if your ex-wife isn't TRYING to be a vindictive bitch, divorce will cause you years of financial and emotional turmoil, especially if there are children involved.