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- Recorded Friday 22 September 2023.
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Video Journal about life, growing food and flowers plus visits to horticultural shows, allotments and opens gardens. Trying to become fitter and healthier as I approach 50.
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Sean: Mid-life crisis or maybe just a bit of depression. I just had my 73rd birthday a while back. I thought 50 was mid-life and getting old, and yet here I am still doing what I was doing 23 years ago. Life is full of ups and downs, Making the best of whatever comes is the key to staying happy. I ate the last tomato from the garden yesterday. Right from the bush. it was small and barely ripe, but it was the one I will remember as the best of the season, despite all the others that came before. It is the little things that matter most.
Hello Sean, You are not alone. People look like they have everything but rarely do. Widowed for over 20 years, I've been very low and found pets give me daily love and responsibilities. Our four children are all grown up with their own lives. I have found a fantastic walking group, we walk, meet at a village hub afterwards for chatting, tea and cake. They also organise days out via a fantastic coach company. Life has dips and turns but you are the "captain of your ship" and deserve happiness. Look after your health and sleep when tired. It takes months but little steps and you will be fine again. A little dog might be a great friend for your walks and to cuddle at night. Kindest wishes 😊
Just watched your video, I known what it was like when I was in my fifty.. I had been on holiday abroad was involved in a bad accident, got Post Dramatic Stress.. Was in a bad way mentally, told counsellor " I didn't know which way to go ", it was like I was at a cross road. Took me over a few years to gain control.of my life with help from family. Also I had a great boss who who gave me moral support and kept my job open for me. You will get there. You are stronger than you think you are.😊
Dear Sean of 4 months ago, I see here the life is quite draining out of you and you fear it is age or a mid-life crisis taking hold of you, but now (knowing what we know) it seems quite obvious that the old doors were closing for a reason. The way was being prepared, slowly and surely. Your heart has been in Wales and and there it waits for you to discover it again, as your dreams will come true, and very soon at that. It will feel odd at first, being plopped down in a new home, and you will question yourself and question your energy, but you will ramble the hills and slowly come alive again. You will be home. It’s as if dear sweet Rusty knew he must stay long enough to see you safe, and then he could be at peace. So, don’t doubt the process, Sean. Don’t doubt yourself. You deserve good things, and good things are coming. ❤️
I just turned 60 . Worked construction my whole life. It's hard and I'm tired. I just want to walk away and go fishing. Hang in there friend. I can relate.
Hey Sean , well done for putting out this video. The first step telling someone /anybody what you're going through at this time is always the hardest. Now you have started talking dont stop, find a good listener, friend or family member to have a chat and cuppa tea with. It will help believe me, wishing you all the best.
Oh Sean, you sound very lonely, is there a way you could socialise more with people - perhaps share your allotment with someone else for help and company. Please don't worry about being 50. I am 77 and would love to be 50 again, I would love to live forever just walking my dogs and tending my little veggie patch. Perhaps a visit to the Doctor might help or perhaps some vitamin supplement. Your friendly videos keep us cheerful and entertained but you are on the other side of the camera and cannot feel our companship as we feel yours. Good luck at whatever you do next.
I agree. I’m over 80. I have 3 dogs plus my son’s big dog comes here during the week. I love gardening. I mow the lawn which is big and it’s about 4 k by the time I’m done. Sometimes people feel down when they have physical problems. I was having panic attacks a few years ago. Then I was prescribed medication for my thyroid and the panic attacks went. Maybe go to the doctor and explain.
I enjoy watching your videos. I get sick and tired of the scandals going on and learning about what you do on your allotment is a lovely break from that.
50 seems to be an oppertunity to hit the refresh button ...AT 53 I found myself divorced, and playing music in a Rock and Roll band for 9 years..playing 50s, 60s, 70s, music several nights a week... go figure.....not a direction I could of imagined I would do that late in life, but a childhood daydream, brought to fruition...you just never know where lifes path might go. Be open to new interesting things out there. Play on your stregnths.
You just have to find the joy in each day and not focus on the bad things, because you paint your world with your thoughts....look ahead towards the what ifs, and how you wiuld like to color your dream world and what's the next best step you can take today. I'm now 70 and living my best life each day. Got a garden that keeps me busy and my favorite tool of all time is the battery powered light weight weed eatter, best investment a gardener can get himself...and the dent you can make with it makes you sleep well at night. Keep going dream with your happy thoughts, and be greatful for everyday things, a roof over your head, a soft pillow, healthy food. And a cup o tea.... Keep going Sean, you're a good kind hearted spirit, thanks for sharing with us. Hugs.
Hi Sean from az...i was feeling totally unmotivated, even gardening held no feeling for me...watching you move to Wales and get your house together made me feel like cleaning! And watching you put in flowers has started me gardening finally after a few years So thank you for motivating me. This tape was 9mo ago. You are feeling much better and all of your followers are grateful for you taking us along on your days. So take a hug and make a cup of tea and enjoy this new time in life. So much in front of you coming and such good you've given us viewers. Hugs from Sue in Arizona
I think your life has changed for the better Sean since you posted this video.
I should rewatch it.
Here in USA, I feel much the same. As they say in Peanuts, ‘you’re a good egg Charlie Brown.’
Isn’t life full of surprises? Here I am as a fairly new subscriber I think maybe it’s about 5 weeks now and I’ve seen all the latest vlogs. The move from London to Cymru, finding out you have two adorable little cats and settling into a walking club along with a walk up the mountain… enjoying how you asked us all, “should I buy a electric kettle or not?” So to come across this vlog made me catch my breath a little bit. I’ll be honest my heart went out to you as I’ve only seen the happy positive side of you Sean, but I believe we all have the same thoughts and feelings when another mile stone birthday comes along. I think it’s just part of the human condition.
So often we do achieve our goals and wonder what next?But, life is so precious it’s best to treat it as the gift it is and see how it unfolds, feet face forward and although good to look back don’t stare for to long and embrace another day.
I was privileged to make 50 having survived an illness… you know the big one? I won’t mention. But I did and here I am aged 61 what a blessing! Don’t worry you’re not alone feeling down at times but never be shy to ask peoples opinions and talk. We can’t answer you straight away… but, we hear you. 😊
Hang on in there mate, you absolutely are not on your own . I’m nearly seventy,pretty fit ,my family are all ok and I live in a nice quiet village near york. With depression there is no logic and it can come to bite you periodically. Try and keep away from the media as much as you can,and as far as utube is concerned,be very selective and limit your contact with all the bad vibes on there. Try and have a bit more contact with other people ,just a few good friends that you can have a laugh with,because this world we live in now is totally crazy.
I’ve had many bouts of low mood and depression and I have just surfaced from the latest one . Just keep batting on buddy, and don’t neglect your rest . Very best wishes ,Richard.
I feel very similar. Reassuring to hear others feel the same. Thanks for sharing this x
Hi Sean, I am just turned 40 and diagnosed with incurable cancer, can I please interject and ask that you look less to how old you are/the future and change it to focus on the now, if there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s that the now is all we have xxxx
So sorry to hear that Sam. And yes I agree with what you say. Hopefully after my visit to Wales I will be in a far better position. Keep smiling.
Well said x
It's normal, I've been through it and need to move away from the madnessx
I've felt that way most of my life, everyone else seems to know what they're doing & I never have! I envy you reaching your goals as mine were just to survive & pay the bills, not very exciting at all.
Listening to this you were definitely ready for the move back to Wales, the mountain walking will make you feel better mentally & you'll lose weight at the same time.
Once you have an allotment you'll get into gear again & sorting the house & garden & a fresh new life for yourself & the cats will be uplifting in itself. 🤗
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Everybody might look like they have their sh!t together but they really don't. How many people do you know that split up and you were surprised? Most married people and those in relationships are unhappy in my experience. To everyone else, you look like you have your sh!t together even if you don't believe you have. I have so many people that envy my singleness (I'm divorced) and the fact that my time is my own. No in-laws, no family functions you hate etc. It can be a solitary life but if you can achieve peace and look forward to getting up in a morning, you are better off than any millionaire married to a glamorous wife, believe me
It will get better sending you a huge and have a nice cup of ☕️ ❤❤❤
I will turn 54 this year, 7 years ago I went to live in the forest with my partner in a small cabin, with solar panels, rain water, the best move in my life. I harvest wild plants, make soaps, tinctures, salves.
This is a time of heavy energies, but spring is coming and everything will be beautiful again because we are where we need to be.
Are you in the 🇬🇧? Your life sounds wonderful ✨️
@@sarahprice1375 No, I am in Croatia
Appreciate your honesty. It all starts there. You have a good mind and heart. It seems life is calling you to a new chapter. Blessings from Michigan U.S.
Hi Sean. I have watched a few of your most recent videos and since this one, you have made the choice to leave London. For me, 50 was great. I had come out of a very difficult time in my 40s with divorce, loss of career and everything I owned. In my late 40s fate had given me opportunities that I worked hard at and I bounced back. Now, at 55, I am alone (and happy with that) and have a job that I love, but with an employer who is demanding and inconsistent. I am considering leaving my job and working for myself, but it is a real risk. I admire the choices you have made in moving back to Wales. It might be the right choice or the wrong choice but you will make it work. When you hit 50 you don't matter to the world. Everybody wants a piece of you. You have responsibility with parents, children, friends and employers. There is not much left for you. Where you are in Wales looks idyllic. The calm will come over you. What you are looking for after 50 is peace. Peace of mind, peaceful surroundings and a peaceful life. I hope you find it. So glad to have found your channel. You feel like a kindred spirit
Sean, is there no other special person in your life. Or a circle of friends. Or a particular place you love to go to which does
your soul good. I know I’m happiest when I’m near water, anywhere on the coast, Cornwall especially. You’re obviously in a
very reflective mood, so hang in there. You have your two little cats who need you. My little rescue cat is always waiting on
the mat when I open my front door and greets me and I find it so heartening. Count your blessings & look for the positives.
This video was from last year. Life has dramatically changed.
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Thanks for the reply Sean, I didn’t know the video clip was an older one. The good news is that you’ve gone back to your roots:
new home, new start + new gardens to get your head round, new friends to make etc etc. All the best anyway. 💕
Sean…I know how you feel….18 months ago my husband died after battling Alzheimer’s for over 12 yrs…I cared for him at home , when that got too much for me,he spent over 6 yrs in a home, as anybody will know you go through this together it had a terrible effect on my health,I also needed medication and still do…That and the sad loss of my beautiful dogs due to old age put me in an awful dark place….we both had planned for a nice retirement together we had 2 yrs..some days I wonder if it is worth getting up..but I do!! Do hope you feel better soon ,if you need to…please get help x
Don't be lost, we have just come out of Covid, so people are all quite down. It's normal to feel like this after Covid. An honest diary vlog. You need to find some purpose, you're just having a dip. Power through it, don't fight it. Imagine you are river, old water goes out, new water comes in.
Sean, i wish i could give you a big hug. I think we all feel lost at times. For me i feel lost right before life takes another path. It can be very exciting if you lean into it and see where it takes you. Please remember you are loved. Mandi
Oh Sean. I was like this at 60 now I am 72..I think it is just loneliness. I say 'just'. It can be painful. You are not alone. Helping others really is a tonic.. You will feel valued again. There are people who would love to chat with you. Please consider this x
I felt no different at 49 than I did at 30. After passing 50 age seems to accelerate incredibly fast. I learned part of getting older is to accept less than when young. And getting through it.
Sean, same here I'm 54 in April and feels like I'm at a crossroads too. Enjoy nice walks in lovely Wales this spring/summer.
Feeling the same Sean, you're not alone.
There are points in our lives where it’s good to take stock and see if we need a change. I am a firm believer of paying attention to signs and wonders that may be pointing us in a different direction. Change is scary but also good for us. When we feel we are stuck in a rut, change directions. As I age I still want to be active and curious about life. I think the number of our age shouldn’t determine our relevance to living our best life. Thank you for saving those gardening vlogs. I have been enjoying them during a challenging winter. Soon we will all be out playing in the dirt! Take care.
Hi Sean. I probably don't qualify to give out life advice, being 26. But I can say it sounds like you need a change of scenery. I'd say getting out of London for a bit may do you some good. Somewhere quieter and more rural. Get an easy going, steady job that pays the bills where you can just go in, do your job, then go home. Post a good few videos as and when you feel like it without the pressure of feeding the TH-cam 'beast'.
Definitely don't close down the channel. I've watched a few of your videos (before you deleted them) and you're a very knowledgeable and passionate gardener, who's enjoyable to watch and listen to.
Hang on in there, keep doing what you do best (gardening) and things WILL get better in time 🙏
im sixty now sean and down the years occasionally felt the way you do now.i can guarantee you the human minds extremely resilient.point im trying to say is you will get better.
Sean you have to do what makes you happy , not to make others happy you have to come first , mid life crisis is only if you want it to be , don't think of anything other than what you want to do to make yourself happy , stay positive and you will be fine 👍
I’m also feeling lost…
IMO it’s not an age thing.
I do like this type of honest rambling video … it can help to get things off your chest. Also it can help others to feel like they’re not alone when they feel a similar way.
Big hugs to you & take care ✨
Your a remarkable man Sean. Maybe now is the time to reinvent yourself and go forward.
Sending you a hug, Sean. You've had a rotten time lately. Depression has a way of sneaking up on you. Some days, you just want to pull the duvet over your head. You need to feel valued. Be assured that you are. The control you had over your channel was taken off you and that must have been gut wrenching. Try to stick with the gardening...I find it so healing. You know that's true... it will help. Just remember that we all care about you. We love your videos and look forward to them. Don't give up making them. That will cut you off from us and it sounds like you need us at the moment to support and reassure you. We're here for you 🌺
Hello I am 72 and I remember turning 50. Yes I think your feelings are a part of the mid-life crisis but also from my own experience it does sound like clinical depression...I have it and I always thought that meant feeling sad and that was all, but no it's more about lack of motivation along with that tired feeling. It is amazing how this condition can affect people. Once my doctor gave me the medication for it, I immediatly felt like my old self. Hope this helps.Maria
No. It’s normal to few this way. The times are different. You’re fine and you are normal. I’ve been going through it. Same things… there’s nothing wrong with you! Im mid to late 50s. I hope the move was a good one for you. I think it was/will be. Im new, as you know. I think you’re on the right path. Give yourself grace.
Im catching up with your all wideos and admire your onestly about being down and seeing new ones up to date from wales you seem much happier I’m so glad and happy for you Thank you for sharing 🙏
I feel your are 'fatigued' mentally and physically. I know lots of people our age going through the same feelings and have been since 2021. I'm slightly older and female and hate the feeling of being 'useless'. However, I took the bull by the horns six months ago and set to with a new regime. Take quality supplements Vit D and B12 especially, hydrate hourly, exercise, intermittent fast to detox and have at least 8-9 hours sleep. Once a week, regardless of who is banging on the door, pull the shutters down and head off for a hike. There are thousands out there having the same feelings - you're not alone Sean. Just focus your mind and self nourish your soul. Sending a big hug.💚
I came across this . I turned 50 in “22 . Just thought….I can’t believe I made it to fifty.fifty ! The number alone seemed scary. And I thought,but I still feel thirty in my heart,my spirit. My body,not so. Also thought- there’s so much more I want to see and go to. Where’s those fifty years gone?
I do believe we hit a realisation. I believe as we go through life,we hit phases,our tracks change as we evolve through our life. A chapter even. Yes,there must be a fifties chapter. I went on a cruise and arrived back on my birthday. Maybe you need to do something on your birthday,fill your day with strictly something that gives you joy,some of your favourite things in life….im not hitting my bucket lists because ill health has made its mark and I have nobody much,their lives and lifestyle is very different and it would not be an enjoyment… one day I hope to just go on my own- this is one of my few aspirations because it would empower me. Sorry for the long remarks.hope its of some kind of useful ☺️
You are not alone in having these thoughts, life nowadays is more complicated than in the past. Jobs for life are rare and times are probably more uncertain than we care to admit. Life goes on and try to make the best of it
Ah Sean hope you feel brighter soon. Getting out of London might be key...new start, new people, new plot...maybe join village life to keep up from a social aspect. You can always pop back to events now and again...take care xxx😊
Sean, me again! Some other points I have observed at the moment too: most of us are upset, anxious and rather lost in the world at the moment with what seems to be happening everywhere, if we believe the media accounts. I have noticed the mainstream media have changed over the last few years and everything seems designed to engender anxiety and sometimes panic in order to be 'newsworthy'. My advice, apart from the dietary aspect, is limit your exposure to News and comment: find a community where people are kind and generous, they still exist, whether online or in person, and offer your help there. Either long distance, locally to where you are at the moment, or somewhere to move to. If each of us makes the best effort to help those in our community and environment, that is so positive, and really combats all the bad news stories which make us feel helpless and life pointless. I am working hard to engage with everyone I meet on a a casual basis and am finding such lovely people. Even if I can only cheer them up for two minutes, it is better than it was before!!
I ll never see 50 again I am 63 now I know where you r coming from I feel the world I live in now has left me behind don’t understand the world today it’s gone nuts
I’m moving too, just before I turn 66 this summer. My husband died two and a half years ago and it’s time for a change, a big one. I’m scared but kind of excited now too. I’m moving from my beloved South to Out West, a giant change. It’s time sometimes. Watching your move with interest and admiration. As you get older, it’s harder to make new friends, I find.
All the best with your move.
Aww dear Sean. I relate to every word you say but I turned 59 this year! After a 30 year career I'm tired and sick of groundhog day but still need the money and don't know what to do. Keep talking because there are more like you and I who feel lost and its good to know we're not alone and to share ideas...hey this could be the start of a new channel...the other side of the hill xx
You seem to be not at a crossroad of your life but a roundabout. Going round and round where you have been before and not knowing which exit to take or even if there is any. There are roads that lead off the roundabout but they are not marked so you are confused which one to take. What does your heart desire the most, take a road and see if it leads you there, if it doesn't U turn back to the roundabout. I was 59 this year and I have done this several times since I was 50 as I had to finish work (a job I really enjoyed ) due to medical issues. Hope you find the road you want
I found turning 50 quite a monumental thing. I really felt like my youth, which I was trying to cling on to, had finally gone and I felt / feel very conscious of my mortality.
We all have self doubt and some of us can be far too self critical. If you feel down and feel like you can’t be bothered, be comforted by the fact that it’s normal. I have to say it though, we have to dig deep. We have to find something in us so we can achieve something… anything… no matter how small. Tiny steps if need be. It’s so hard, but don’t make excuses and get on with it. Focus on what you’re doing and stop beating yourself up.
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Do what you feel is good for you maybe getting out of Lindon and been surrounded by rge countryside would be good as we get older I think we need the peace and quiet nobody can really tell what to do you will figure out for your self what ever that is
The purpose of the vid was perhaps to let people know who you are and as a start to reinventing yourself. Good for you either way. You show great courage.
Don’t worry about your age, you are still young! I think you have the symptoms of depression, maybe a visit to your doctor would help. You are such a sweet, gentle guy and I worry about you making ends meet with rent etc being so expensive in that there London! You have a big fan base already at your fingertips, you have already made a success of your channel, keep going, even if you change direction, we will follow you because we like YOU! x. PS Trevor Coult has just picked up about 50k extra subscribers in a couple of days by doing a few collaborations .🤔
What an honest video. It is important to talk about these feelings that so many of us have as we progress through life. Thank you.
Being is all there is, all else is an illusion 😊
Hi Sean,just watched your honest chat about reaching 50 years, i only found you couple weeks ago, an you living in Wales, so glad that you are feeling better,an returned to your Roots, i enjoy listening to your daily videos, as i also live alone family All grown, an now at 78 a Great gran mother, an yes some days can feel lonely, an i also have CFS, an Fibromyalgia, so it's a battle to keep positive, but my family are great support, however watching you pottering in your garden, putting plants in, an going to your allotment,or walks,brings interest to the day ,an i also potter in my garden, we on the other side of your cameras get so much from you being there Sean, i hope from our little comments,you realise how important you are to everyone. I hear you often mention you going to see or help a friend,so i find it comforting to know you are no longer alone. Take care Sean, i send you love an blessings from this lil granma. 😊
Yes I feel the same
I feel this too sometimes. Why don't you take a hike/walk in nature, spend some time journaling your thoughts and you will clarify your feelings and your plan for the future.! Also be patient with yourself. Everyone goes through slumps.
I never regret leaving London. [Baker St -'so many people but it's got no soul'] Going to a small town so you still have transport links etc and build/invest a network there is much easier and 'real'. Better to be a big fish in a small pond. Kind of like the TV show Cheers. A place where people know your name and you meet people everyday. 50 is nothing. Wait till you get to 60 :)
Sign up for Talking therapies through your GP surgery. You can do it for yourself. Helps you to focus on stuff and set up strategies to avoid this cycle of dips.Good luck Sean.x
48 and feeling the same, im tuning to vanlife when ive saved enough because if i dont i will sit in my house till im dead
50 is still not so bad, there is still time. Stay active, which you quite well!! Im glad your feeling better now 🍀🌟
I in the last twelve months, have felt the same on many occasions. I'm 53 and then out of the blue an opportunity at work came up, doing something i didnt think i would ever be interested in doing again, as an older man now i find the new challenge much easier than when i was a youngster. i started again if you like, maybe start again from new!.I think a new chapter may do you good, back to your roots. But dont ever fear you are very much appreciated and all the hours of pleasure you give us in you videos are too.
New subscriber here trundling through some of the old videos just enjoying hearing you talk. I like voices. And somehow there was something in yours that reminded me of that search at a crossroads; a familiar place. Made me think of an old song so I had to go listen to it and thought, yeah, it's that kind of time. The Change by Tony Joe White: it's a good time, it's a good thing, it's a change. Glad to know that your change has brought you round to your homeplace again.
I'm the same age as you Sean and feel the same. It seems fairly common amongst middle aged white men in particular. I take great pleasure from your videos so please don't get too down about life. You seem a lovely guy and sometimes it can feel like the world around you has gone mad. Stick to the simple pleasures mate.
Sean, just watched your honest and soul searching video. I felt very similar thoughts at your age, (I'm 61so a little older than you). I think we reach an age where we appreciate how precious life is and start to evaluate what is important. I don't have children or a partner so I think it is magnified, as you have time to soul search. I hope by returning to your roots you build meaningful connections with people nearby and having an allotment where there is aa community of like minded people. I find my yoga and gardening keeps me sane as well as my two cats. Sending you blessings 🐈🐈⬛🙂
Be happy and enjoy life age is just a number
Sean I've just come across your channel when you interviewed the lady living in a van many of us are re evaluating our lives ahead is just a number im 64 and sometimes add a year on you seemed happy at the seaside locations you seem a lovely man don't worry you have a way with people that they want to tell their story to you ,and speaking about how you feel is important and will help others speak out too ,it takes courage to ask for help
Just hold on in there Sean! Only I’m now 51 years years old myself, and the thoughts that your having or going through at this moment; is what we all unfortunately seem to have or go through at times.
Just try to remain positive, and positive things will happen mate!👍👍
Yes, so many people are going through this mental and physical 'fatigue'. Feeling lost and useless. Guess it's the aftermath of the past 2/3 years - we must care for and nourish our soul, put the mind on a higher plain to generate positive energy. Come on people, let's all try and do this and manifest better times ahead. 💚
Keep going Sean. What you’re saying is very relatable for so many people, so if nothing else take comfort that this is normal and will pass. Tracy x
Hey Sean. I lost my partner, my mum, my dad and also my best friend since i was 11 within 2 years of each other. Im an only child. Are you? I think we hit weird patches in our lives and need to start over and try and make our homes, wardrobes, lives, happier as we lose more and more people in our age group. You ARE cherished and you are a wonderful companion with your calm voice to many online. Maybe one day you could organise a meeting on the mountain and some of us could meet you in Wales on your mountain. I also had a very intense hobby thst i no longer have an interest in and need to reach out and do things. I have found my confidence went without a partner to share things with . Im also not worried about money in a big way as long as i can cope. I have 4 tiny dogs i rescued and have responsibilities to them but i think we sometimes feel MORTAL. You really are brave doing this and please know there are many strangers to you who are only words in print who do care. Ok? A rest and a refreshing peaceful life may be the breath of fresh life you need. Who knows? We dont know anything unless we try do we? Xx
Hi Sean , don’t give up . Came across your channel earlier in the year , as started to grow more veg etc in my garden . I am now 53 grrrr & have Cervical Spondylosis , one op already done & can not have another due to it being too risky , so in pain every day & its getting worse . Being 50 or in your 50’s really isn’t that bad , just take things as they come . Don’t be so hard on yourself either 😊
Know the feeling
Sean get three pages then on page 1 write everything you've done and don't want to repeat Then on page 2 write everything you never want to try Then on page 3 write everything you want to do or archive NOW burn pages 1 and 2 and keep page 3 and chase your dreams
sorry should have achieve my spelling terrible
Understand. Every ten years we re-evaluate how far we have got. We judge it on many factors including what we think others have got. However we don't know if they value what they have or are unhappy because they don't. Obviously we are all different. I can only talk from experience and say that even now, though content and happy with a lot of things, its like a report card which says....could do better. Except even teachers got it wrong because they were judging on their values not yours. What i am saying is that you can live alone and be happy as long as you value what you have. You can have everything you class of high value but feel lonely in a crowded room. You have to find your own way. Cast your bread on the waters and it comes back ham sandwiches. Meanwhile, enjoy. Xxx
Keep positive Sean. I’m sure that the vast majority of people have similar feelings at times in their lives, particularly as folk get older and realise that what was important to them before no longer is. Your disappointment of the situation with TH-cam, through circumstances, having been a major part of your life would affect anyone. You are not alone. I wish you well in all your endeavours and I look forward to seeing you in many more videos.
I think its your age. I'm 53 this year and decided when I turned 50 I'd spend 5 years to get ny shut together and called it 'fabby 55'. You're not old but you're not young and you're aware you've lived half if not more than half your life. We have to plod on.
You live in London a country I always seem to think of as kind of our mother country, as I know many of my ancestors came from England and let me tell you as I got older I became more interested in how our politicians act as they are supposed to be representing us and they are so corrupt it means only a person with no brains can avoid worry and concern for our United States. Some days I long for a time in my life where there was more innocence. Where it looked as if me, my children, my grandchildren seemed to have a future, now there is pressure and darkness all over the place. I should be trying to cheer you and here I am displaying my emptyness in so many things in life and money is always a concern.
It sounds to me that you need a change, so perhaps you should revisit leaving London. Due to a sad few years I left my hometown and started afresh - at 62, so you're still a spring-chicken. I think you should just go for it!! I feel your sadness ...
I hope you are feeling better now.
I think you are changing your blinkers, seeing life differently. Also if you are tired you may need to sleep more, if that is dofficult try less tea and coffee and i find magnesium and CDB oral oil so good. Try to get out a bit more. Yhe world is on s very odd vibe and things are difficult for so many. I think you are going through a change. Possibly revelations may be revealed to you, something about your true self or deep stuff that may need your attention. Take the very best care of your body and your mind space will follow. Good luck, remember doirs need to close for new ones to open.
Very best wishes.:)
Do you have clarity about what you'd like your life to be like? Before you can make your life what you want it to be, you have to be very clear about what the life you want looks like.
❤️ it will pass Sean, go back and watch that powerful video you did on how you healed your depression without drugs, put some of those things into practice, slowly slowly. A bloke once said “do a little and do it often” 😉 lots of love to you and I’m sure you’ll soon feel in a better place xx
Hugs to you Sean. You have a clean slate with the vlogs now. Dont beat yourself up. Do what you have energy for and dont second guess yourself. I always add up with my age. I gave up on worrying how old I was when I was 39. I was so tired and didnt feel well I was surprised I made it to by 40th birthday. After that I quit looking at the number and now dont even care what number I am. That was almost 20 years ago. Money wise I just hope to have enough to feed my animals and keep a roof over our heads. Be kind to yourself Sean. Hugs❤
Sean...you really need to see your Doctor to do blood work. It sounds like it could truly be a few things of possibility.
Thyroid, depression, low testosterone, low Vitamin D, which is all common at this age.
I'll be 60 in Jan & after a marriage dissolving & my kids grown... I truly didn't know who I was to be going forward. I had been this one person for over half my life.
It has been 8 yrs & I do have a few friends i socialize with, take care of my mom, piddle with my TH-cam channel, travel small trips, etc.
I really enjoy your channel & just enjoyed seeing the Sept tour of the garden.
Please see about yourself & I'm thinking in a short time you'll start to feeling better soon.
It makes me sad to see what you are going through Sean. .I think, as others have advised , that a trip to your Doc would be a good idea. .I think you do need some help of some kind . .I have a job to remember turning 50. I remember dreading getting to 40 but it turned out ok... Don't worry about being 50, it is just a number, honestly .... We all support you on here and want to see you doing your plots and sharing it all with us . I'm glad you shared this talk with us all.. Don't give up, we are all here for you ..
Sorry you’re going through a rough patch.I always look forward to your videos.
I'll be 49 in a few months. I know what you mean. I know exactly what you mean. It'll get better... I look to you for direction. Lead on
Ich mich auch.
I believe that we change every 7 or so years (a bit like the 7 year itch- its is a thing!) and so things change, we see things differently, we act differently and our hopes & dreams change, we need to welcome these changes and stary to look at what you would like to do, and what is feasible to do within your means, this is life as we know it! Autumn is also a time when animals are preparing to hibernate, i think us humans should do similar. The Country side is amazing, I could never live in a town, far to busy, Wales has lots to offer...apart from the 20 MPH debarcle! Take care Sean...just do what your body is telling you, & rest if you need to.....
❤❤ from Wales
Honestly I don't know when I last had my sh*t together. Was diagnosed with depression and also on the waiting list for ADHD assessment because I do things with hyperfocus and get bored half way through. I would go to your Dr Sean and see if they can help you. Sometimes it helps to talk it through with someone you don't know.
Take care Sean
Just watched this video and feel exactly the same. I'm a similar age to you and I see everyone around me appearing to have their sh*t together and achieving all of the expected milestones in life. I feel like I am drifing, life is passing me by and I feel lost and very tired. Went into the garden today and got my bare hands in the soil to connect with nature, trying to reframe my feelings and looking at everything I'm grateful for.
I secret is simple, don't let the old man in. Humour is a big help.
Hitting 55 tomorrow (Sept 26) and I completely empathize with your feelings over the last couple of years. I think a good portion has to do with the lockdowns that we have all dealt with as I don't really deal with people these days like I used to. Never had a huge social life but after 2 years of not really dealing with people at all I am finding a completely different type of loneliness than I have ever dealt with before. I also feel like at this age I am see the months fly by or I am more cognizant of not completing things more so than I used to. You definitely are not the only one dealing with how you are feeling.
This vid is a classic "brain dump" where you just dump all your thoughts in the open. i have been doing these lately as a result of my tinnitus which is getting me down.
I have been writing down my thoughts in the order I think of them.
I don't re read them but I find it cathartic to get them out of my head.
Can only suggest that you write down what you don't like about your situation and make a list of things that you do like or want in the future and form some kind of plan to get to where you would like to be.
It might be small things you change that lead to more positive thoughts, then at least you are the road to somewhere and not stuck at the cross roads wondering.
I would continue with your allotment without the filming, enjoy it for what it is and stick at it while you formulate a plan what ever that entails.
Anyway my 2 peneth.
Glad to hear from you as always. Loved your channel. It’s been a part of your life and your viewers for years. You’re bound to feel it as well as us viewers As an allotmenteer for 16 yrs I always feel it a bit harder to stay positive when the garden starts to fade slightly in autumn too Take care of yourself and if you feel like sharing your plots or need to chat we are here ready to listen ❤
Change of scene - a little holiday, come back, see how you feel and then make some decision. Sometimes a little breather puts things into perspective.
New to the channel so not as familiar with you as of yet. Is it possible to become involved in some sort of charity work where you could help others in person and meet and maybe get to socialize some. Even one day a week , for a few hours. While you do help others through your channel, social media relationships just can't be as fulfilling. Maybe a dr. visit wouldn't hurt. Depression is a very sneaky beast.
Sharing is the best medicine, we all miss you on the channel. You are a natural. Maybe a new plot away from London
your definately not the only one sean , i myself have ups and downs with my mental health as i have bipolar 2 im 43 im not sure what im supposed to be doing , i write myself lists of things to do as i most days feel lost if i dont , sending love and support and thankyou for sharing always about for a chat
Doesn’t matter what age you are you come across and sometimes feel lost. You have reached all your goals, then you will have to make different ones. If you feel lonely go out there and try and find someone. You have now moved to Wales, and making your home how you want it and your garden. Sit down and really think what will make you happy, what will fulfil your life. I’m in my sixties, love where I’m living and love my family, as for the future who knows, l like living in the present. How about doing mythology from Wales. People love that kind of thing. Beliefs through the ages. Druids ect. Any how, I’m probably on the wrong track, think what you like to do and go for it. One life. No rehearsals.