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Can You Set Boundaries? | Fearful Avoidant Attachment
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I went from fearful avoidant to secure with the right partner and a lot of personal growth. Pretty awesome
Caroline My ex is FA and since our break he’s afraid to open up and trust. What did your partner give you that helped you the most in your journey from FA to secure?
Any tips?
I am so happy for you...
🍀I keep telling myself it's worth the hard work, if not at least I won't be in miserable relationships.
Great question did you ever get a reply or find the answer?
Fearful avoidant (in my opinion) is about authenticity vs connection. It’s an either/or. In childhood if I chose authenticity I was rejected. When I chose connection I had to give up my self. In healthy relationships authenticity and love go hand in hand. For me, it’s one or the other ☹️
abbey Crouse this really really resonated with me ❤️🌙
spot on for me as well, my ex was the fa
Same!! I totally feel where you're coming from
Yes, that was how I felt as a child, still do, comply or be rejected, no safe middle ground.
I tried having both recently and by attempting authenticity, I got ghosted lolololfml
Wow. Me. I give, give, give, give, give, and at the slightest inkling of possible rejection I close up.
Please make a video on how the fearful avoidant should approach liking someone and starting a relationship. Pretty please.
Yes!
Here is how I'm trying to do it..
1-Slowly. No shortcuts. No online dating. No chasing/forcing stuff - what will be will be. Give space and time, both to yourself and the other person.
2-Clearly. No hiding. No ambiguity. Taking time to understand my needs and communicate them well. Do it as many times as necessary - clearly (if not go back to step1). Listening is very important also. Ask for clarity from the other person as well - it's OK to do it! See if they back up what they say.
3-Lightly. Lessen the burden of expectations. Have fun. *Stay* in the present - it's good to have an end goal/plan but dont look too far / too often ahead - the best plans allow for flexibility and failure - failure can be a good thing! Allow a little silliness. BE KIND.. to yourself and everyone around you.
@@mrD66M this is perfect thank you!
Sometimes it's not from childhood .. it is also in an abusive relationship is where later on one develops this fear in future relationships .. space is a safety net but destructive as well .
Right. I developed this a few years ago after an abusive relationship. I was once secure.
Yes or both in my case
Yesss
I agree, my ex was in abusive relationships and has been sexually abused, its truly awful, I feel her pain.
Without boundaries the fearful-avoidant always tends to suffer in relationships. Ohhh
Also apparently without boundaries we tend to loose our sense of self.
Loose what they are feeling
What they are needing
And
It’s a coping skill for how they know
We tend to present both types of spectrum as a result because we are chameleons.
Don’t trust we are safe expressing our feelings, or any form of rejection
can go from so giving so loving, to being avoidant due to lack of trust.
Boundries are so important for sense of self / to also solve some of our core wounds, feeling unseen and unheard, mentally emotionally, Because they give give five, they feel they are in a one side relationship. They will get a bit of the connection I order to serve the other person. Unseen, unheard, unloved, distrust. Interesting. Hmm interesting.
When we set boundries it is the first time we are being seen and heard. So it’s important deliberetly
We need to communicate our needs early on, not when we get to the nth degree. We don’t like hurting people so we tend to
For you to get heard, you need to first know what your feeling and needing.
Like as soon as your around someone you care about it’s like you don’t exists, as if you had some
Need to know how to communicate in conflict.
The emotion we are experiencing through vulnerability, need to be able to be able to feel we can securely communicate our needs. If we have needs like support don’t say support, be specific, more validation, do the dishes. Etc. your doing this for you.
We abandon ourself to a degree when we go into a relationship, so we betray our own trust. So the moment someone betrays us like that, it’s extremely painful. This creates the codependent.
We can’t trust ourself to show up for our own needs in a relationship.
We need to know someone will not always be able to meet our needs. Our job is to communicate our needs clearly, and if needed take some time.
We need to be able to do self care in our relationships.
Great video!!!!
David Esposito Great points!
agree
Thanks Yous😏
Great notes thanks
Please make more videos on Fearful Avoidance... As a fearful, I genuinely appreciate it.
Me too... you are not alone. I crave deep connection however most of the closest relationships I have had in my life have not been safe therefore I have developed so much fear around them.
This is such a HUGE eye opener for me, I've never been able to figure out why I'm so hot and cold and why relationships are so painful. I feel like I can finally start healing those old wounds.
I used to think I might have BPD too. That's interesting. I only recently found out about attachment styles and that mine is Fearful Avoidant. I wasn't abused but I always felt I couldn't depend on my parents but had to as a child. I was always on my own. My mom is a dismissive avoidant and rejects feelings in general. My dad is a secure attachment but he was always overseas.
Overtime, I grew very closed off, especially as a teen. I didn't date till I was 21 but I could see from my friendships I was pretty demanding about spending time together. It made sense to me that if we were close, we should spend time together and I was careful not to ask everytime since they have other things to do or people to meet. However, if they would go on some time not asking to meet up or not responding to me, I would immediately feel as if they don't want to speak to me or that they do not see me as a friend. I would go through several instances just not replying to them or talking to them for long periods. I still struggle with the same issues.
Your videos have been very helpful :) very clear and concise with helpful tips
rejection sensitivity dyshoria
I'm not sure what my needs even are, so it is difficult to set up boundaries before i get to the point of exploding. good information in this series, thanks.
I'm not sure about what my needs are because I live in my head, oblivious to what I feel. I think my feelings, as opposed to feeling them - if that makes sense. Know anything about Emotophobia? This link explains a lot of what I had been trying to say to people/psychologists all my life, and is what led me to exploring attachment disorders. Hope it helps!
th-cam.com/video/aHiFnJ2Mx68/w-d-xo.html
Same..
Exactly, I've never even thought about it
Preach! 🙌🏼
If you get to the point of exploding, you probably know what you are exploding for. Just say/request what you are thinking inside (in a nice way).
Thank you for addressing this so clearly! I'm on the fearful avoidant spectrum and have fallen in love with a dismissive avoidant and have been triggered so much. My attempts at vulnerability and being open about my emotions, have resulted in them shutting down and stopping communication. It helps to understand the underpinnings of such an emotionally loaded dynamic.
As an FA, relationships with DAs are one of the most painful, second to a relationship with a narcissist.
There are ways you can express yourself that won’t cause them to shut down. You basically have to remove all emotion, present facts, and make requests in kind ways. There’s a video on YT that talks about how to interact with a DA as an FA…
I find those relationships with DA too painful for me. But it’s decent practice for attempting to communicate early, with less emotion, and better understanding.
I found your page about 2 weeks ago and haven't been able to stop watching since. You have helped me understand why I am the way I am. I'm a fearful avoidant. I grew up with drug addicts and a family of 7 siblings. I became the main care giver to my siblings till I was placed in care at 11. I never new what boundaries where until today. I have been destroying my own wellbeing for the past 24 years. Now I'm going to work as hard as I can to be true to myself. Thank you for the work you are putting into this world. You are amazing.
These videos about FA attachment style are so immensely helpful. Its a funny road I've taken to discover this, as my original search into attachment wounds was for my children and suddenly I'm having massive revelations about myself!
I actually stumbled on this after watching a series about the anxious/avoidant trap, believing that was the reason for struggling back and forth with my husband, but this hits the nail on the head so much more accurately.
I'm so grateful you're sharing this and I hope to dig in and find a bit more healing here. I've heard so many of these terms in counseling, about the stories we tell ourselves and boundaries, but somehow the way you've put it and the examples you've made are making it all make so much more sense to me.
Thank you thank you!!!
This made me cry. Thank you for your knowledge and kindness.
Yes it’s extremely painful I end up in such an emotional wreck in relationships or when they end and it then scares people off and makes me feel even worse.
I became this way being raised by a covert narcissistic mother. Attracted the same personality type in my marriage where any type of boundaries didn't go over well. I guess I need to hope to attract someone other than a narcissist to work on it. :)
Growing up when I would express my needs or feelings it was usually met with rejection in some way whether that with gaslighting or silence. My needs went frequently unmet and so I do not trust others in respecting me. There is a part of me that fears to be close to people for fear of being taken advantage of, and fear to stand up for myself as I fear I will be gaslighted again so it feels safer to just stay at a distance. I feel like I am living in a prison. At my job currently, 1 of my coworkers gaslights me when I am vulnerable and express myself and the boss just says that's just the way she is, and once again my need for support is not there which only reinforces that feeling of not having my need for support and safety being met. In the past 7 months, I have developed a severe fragrance/chemical allergy so my lungs close up around people who wear fragrance so even going on transit is anxiety-inducing so to think of getting another job feels scary to me not to mention new workplace people could be wearing fragrance again. I want to start a photography business however that entails working with people and because I have poor self-worth and weak boundaries I know that will result in me undervaluing myself and allowing others to take advantage. This is why I enjoy being alone so much because I do not have to worry about being around abusive or manipulative people. The relationships closest to me growing up have left me feeling very inadequate, not all but my ex best-friend and her family. When I would go over the father would approach me and want to pinch my cheeks in a rough way and when I would body language-wise appear put off he would say stop being so difficult and then he would proceed to do it and bc I was so young I let him bc I feared being ex-communicated with by my friend. She would gaslight me too when I would stand up for myself, say I was being too sensitive. Over time I just lost myself and stopped even standing up for myself so now as an adult I have so much fear around confrontation, expressing my needs and standing up for myself for fear of retaliation or being gaslighted. I want to have close relationships but also deeply fear them.
OHHHH MY GOSH!!! I was “ diagnosed as BPD “ and I am so not.. I don’t even meet the spectrum really but I am 100% FA TO the TEEEE. Your Chanel has changed my life and given me more clarity and healing than YEARSSSS of therapy.
Such a good video. While maintaining your own boundaries is critical to a healthy self, they also struggle with coping with the boundaries of others, which is essential to healthy relationships and somewhat to a healthy self as well. It would be great to have a video on how FAs can recognize and honor the boundaries of others and express reactions to them and healthy negotiating strategies.
I wonder how much being a child through a divorce can contribute to these issues. Seems like a lot. The push-pull for example, between two parents each going through their own issues, maybe each w a diff way of showing love, and you being in the middle of it too young to process everything. Feeling responsible. Feeling love yet seeing its painful side. Taking hyper control of your own life. You give up trust on a confusing outside world and only trust yourself, yet also year for love that might’ve been taken away as a kid w splitting parents, hence the swing between all-in and all-out. Great videos. Thanks!
Yup. My parents would give each other the silent treatment for about a month after each fight. I think I’ve been mimicking this behavior when I push people away and then go back.
Wow. Thank you for making this. For years both the avoidant and the anxious never fully fit me. I kept striving for self honesty and would often fall back on the anxious attachment even though many traits of the avoidant also fit me. More recently I discovered there is the fearful attachment. It fits me 100% oh gosh. Hurts now but I feel so relieved as I can work through it. A lot of books on attachment trauma do not include the fearful avoidant. Thank you tons for making this video and your others. Your time and energy spent on these is appreciated!
Avoidance is triggered by someone not respecting boundaries. You trust someone, and they violate that trust every time. Saying what I need has never mattered to anyone besides my kids.
I have listened to this about 59 times...I'm so glad that you understand this...bc i have it and still don't...but I know I run away...I run from intimacy, I run from vulnerability, from rejection, I reject authority, I hide away until the feeling of shame just goes away....and now I drink a hell of alot...it's fun but when it's over the shame is still always there...and what you said about the one mistake...it makes me feel so rejected and afraid that I couldn't stay even if I wanted to...and yes we struggle with trust and yes we struggle with abandonment...yes....yes...yes....but I'm scared as hell just thinking about healing from this...I don't really know how to communicate my feelings and needs...and the internal pain in itself is traumatizing....my heart hurt so much sometimes that I could barely even open the bottle to put the band aid on..and the greatest accomplishment for me is not pulling the trigger sometimes...and the anxiety that comes with this is something that I felt would never go away....I wanted to just say that yes you are right...this is my entire life...ty so much for this ..I'm a new follower and yes I'm in therapy bc I don't want anyone to worry.my spiritual practice has shown me new ways to cope and heal from this and other traumatic experiences from my early life...and I shall go on to help others who want the help bc I have learned that alot of ppl....don't.
What you said around the 3:50 mark brought back some of the coping mechanism. I remember now how whenever I was at home I stayed in my room to avoid my dad. I was using the same coping mechanism whenever my roommate would have company over, wow! There are many times when I have gone ghost for months.
This is me. I’m a mixture of fearful avoidant and anxious attachment style.
same
same
Same
Thank you I don't feel like I'm a bad person anymore.
Yes this is why I stayed single my whole life like nahhhhhh I’m good I dnt want these problems.
You are speaking directly to me!!!!! thank you for voicing this. I felt like I was going crazy because nobody understood me.
Pure gold! This helps so much!
I feel like you were talking to my soul!!! This is very well done..Never heard anything so profound so relatable to myself..I will never forget this video Thank you 🙏🏽 forever
I am with you completely on that. Being a highly sensitive person which I am unsure whether is a result of trauma or part of my DNA, which came first the chicken or the egg analogy, also are some people introverts bc that is their nature or is it a result of trauma in relationships? Ughhhhhhh
I was crying and had to pause this video a lot of times to lessen the intensity of my emotions. It's painful hearing someone talk about my childhood that accurately.
You are excellent! You are an excellent, clear speaker, with so much valuable information! Thank you so much!
In my opinion the "learn the way to communicate" is the most important part here. And this is because else, the fearful avoidant is not shy at all to nervously and constantly tell you "I don't like this", "I don't want this" or "I don't need this", and that is actually the way they communicate most often, pushing their partner away.
I was told I was a Fearful & I didn’t fully agree until I watched this video. I thought maybe I fluctuated between Fearful & Anxious, but now knowing Fearfuls don’t always have a wall up and that they pour in to their partners (practically their own detriment) now lets me know I fit the bill perfectly. Thank you for this video.
I get it now! Taking care of her needs all the time. But then I get pushed away/diminished/insulted so she can get time to herself but doesn't have to ask for it. I wish she knew that I am about to run away from this treatment.
4:24-5:15 the essence of a fearful avoidant
5:15 how it is triggered
You are probably the sweetest counselor on youtube. I can tell that you have struggled with assertiveness in your life as I have. The place where it shows up is in your sometimes indecisive word use. "Sort of like an enmeshment trauma" should just be "an enmeshment trauma" because that is what it is. "Sort of happens here" or "kind of" or "disappear a little bit" makes what you are saying sound less authoritative and makes you sound unsure. This is probably the best description of the fearful-avoidant I have heard.
Waaoo 2 words.. Thank You. You've expressed what I've been unable to express all my life. I can finally start my journey to recovery and acceptance.
For me as a kid I was trained not to cry, if I cried I was spanked so I would feel like crying more. I had to learn how to just shut off my feelings. My sister when I was 8 would give me hugs when I was sleeping, and it would make me uncomfortable, crossing my boundaries. It was completely innocent but these things have affected my attachment style.
Especially when I was in middle school, the only person I thought was my friend made me feel like I wasn’t human so I just shut down and stopped trusting everyone. I have some emotional trauma from that.
I’m not sure what my attachment style is but I know these things have affected me and whatever attachment style I might have,
What to do when I think I expressed myself clearly and vulnerable about how I feel, but I hear: do you know what? You just want to fight... ?? 🤷🏻♀️ then it starts a circle of defensiveness and rejection
I love these videos! I would love to see a lot more of them for all of the attachment styles, including secure. That way we can learn from both sides of the issue and get a better idea how to move toward becoming more secure and what a secure style looks like in relationship.
Thank you for your video. It is the first one I've seen so far that explained the fearful avoidant in a more comprehensive way.
I'm blown away by this. I read a book with a similar theme, and it was absolutely mesmerizing. "The Art of Saying No: Mastering Boundaries for a Fulfilling Life" by Samuel Dawn
I am still finding videos i haven’t seen and they are alllll helping me!
So,so,so helpful ! I’ve known I’m this type for some years but never found any information on how to fix it. Thank you!! I had several ‘ah ha’ moments, the kind I’ve been seeking for years. Thank you, thank you, thank you, I know how to forwards now it all makes sense to me!
You always explain everything so well, your videos have really been giving me clarity and helping me on my healing journey
Thank you! Your videos are helping me handle my now-identified core wounds and giving me the knowledge to communicate healthfully with my partner. The language and tools you give are helping people; you are appreciated!
Great video! It is helpful as I do need to work on boundaries and self care and self love and not neglect myself at the expense of meeting others' needs.
I think I am a fearful avoidant, this video has brean helpful. I had a childhood friendship that was important to me, we grew up together as children. In highschool that friendship suddenly ended as he would not see me anymore. We connected briefly after highschool when he needed a place to stay. I thought we were friends again. A year later he got married and did not invite me to the wedding. I felt a little betrayed. I wonder now in friendships if this might be partly why I am the way I am
I've watched so many of your videos and just bawled my eyes out
Amazing thank you! U have no idea how much peace of mind you have brought to me! Thanks again!
Omg this is me. Thanks for explainning what I need and should do, I really loved it.
I needed this ugh😭❣🥺 I'm a mix of anxious attachment and fearful avoidance😪 This helped so much❤❤❤❤❤
Amazing video!
Just heard myself in 20 minutes video...
Incredible insight!
Thank you for the video and the knowledge you share with us!
You are amazing and have such a clear way of expressing these topics that it is very easy for me to listen to. I’ve studied attachment theory for years and yet, you present it in a unique and compassionate way that touches me to the core.
Thank you very much.
Thanks for the video! I'm still learning more about my f-a attachment style. Learning boundaries, which can be challenging.
I love ds woman for the content she is putting out to us, she be blessed🙌
Wow. It's so nice to be understood. And now I can take the power back to work on myself, now that I can validate myself.
Thankyou so much! super helpful to identify these patterns and become aware of these dynamics! 🙏💝💎
Your video was fantastic. Thank you so much. I cant explain how much this has helped me 🙏
These videos are amazing, you are a wonderful lady. Thank you, x
Thank you this video is so important and informative to help me understand myself as a fearful avoidant. I am so grateful for this and I hope to practice some of the boundaries you have suggested for myself. I am looking forward to starting the work. I am feeling understood and I would like more videos from you 🤣 x
This is the best video so far. Some people think I am bipolar. They just don't accept that I have different thoughs
All these videos are so helpful!! Thank you!!🥰
This was an EXCELLENT VIDEO! I LOVE YOUR CHANNEL! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
Thank you very much for this information! You're a blessing!!
Wow this was excellent and so clear. Thank you, I hope you know how much you’re helping people ❤️❤️🙏
This is so GOOD!
This is so helpful. Thank you.
I felt so seen around the 12 minute mark when you mention the fact that FA tends to be confused with borderline. I actually had concerns I might be borderline but after talking to a therapist about this specific concern, she told me she thought attachment theory better explained things. I had to chuckle when you mentioned that because I have definitely lived that moment of confusion. I did end up preemptively (as in before meeting with the psychologist) purchasing a workbook for people with borderline and a lot of the advice and exercises and coping/deescalating/self-soothing strategies in it are great regardless of whether you're just FA or borderline or both, so I'm glad I purchased it. I guess the overlap between the two is considerable enough that a lot of the strategies for living with either issue are very similar.
God bless u for bringing ease to people
This is what my x has, I will check out your Personal development school. Thank you so much for helping me understand.
this is so insightful thank u!
I can't thank you enough for these videos. Being able to recognise what I'm feeling and going through is already making a huge difference. I'm dating someone long distance, which can be very triggering at times, but everything you are teaching me is helping me immensely. I'm learning to communicate my feelings, and stop myself from filling in the blanks with made up assumptions, and when I feel overwhelmed and can feel my 'flight mode' activating, I can take a step back look for what it is that I need.
My partner is more of a dismissive avoidant, and while he's self-aware, if I ask him what he needs from me he's not fully able to communicate this. Would you please make a video on what the partner of a DA can do to make them feel secure enough to move forwards? We were dating previously and I panicked when I found that we were on different timelines for committing, and I left him out of fear of rejection, so I think he might see me as at risk of abandoning him again.
Really helpful video. Thank you.
I’m crying 😿 thank you Thais 🙏🧡
Such an important video, thank you.
How do I talk about Fearful Avoidant to my partner without it seeming like I'm attacking her? I could show her this video, but since the problem is subconscious, I don't know how to introduce her to this idea?
Try to make her do a quiz to find out what attachment style she has. Say it’s something you find interesting and take the test with her. Don’t make her do it alone! Say you want to take it to learn more about each other so you can understand each other better. Us FA’s are usually pretty willing to do something that will make us feel more understood. Try to keep it light and fun and not make her feel like she is being attacked. After a week or so you can bring it up and show this video saying you found it interesting and you wanted to see her take on it. (I’m a year too late, but maybe someone else will see this and think this is helpful)
@@cpiek7611 Thank you for the reply, but I'm not seeing her anymore. We still communicate, she actually came back after no contact. She has done this 3 times. We still contact each other and she would probably see me again, but I don't see her anything more than just a good time, and since, I realized she is narcissistic. Funny, when in love, love is really blind and I didn't see it when I was with her, now I see it differently.
You have just saved my life❤️❤️❤️
Well said. Thank you.
Very well explained. Thank you.
So great. Thank you so much.
I felt so seen in the second half of the video!
Thank you for these videos really helpful
Thank you for this.
They may have survived their childhood but the trauma that they keep inflicting on themselves in adulthood is the same trauma that they inflicted on themselves as children. It is a continuation because it was theonly way they felt what they believed to be love.
I used to be more of an anxious attachment but after some relationships later in life I definitely feel like more of this type.. these videos are really helpful and it is very few and far between that you find advice for working through these issues instead of just leaving a relationship. As this type I have always felt I just have to leave but my partner is very receptive to positive communication and my needs when I can articulate them... Can you post more videos on how (examples/exercises) to figure out what you feel and how to set boundaries? I honestly have no idea what that looks or feels like!
I feel exactly the same!
I feel extremely understood.
wow story of my life this was so enlightening! how do you set boundaries or respond constructively if a fearful avoidant partner threatens to end contact or communication and shuts you out over a perceived offense?
Thanx so much for elaborating on this ☺️
Through out watching this i had šo many thoughts.
1. I think my cause for this attachment has been enmashment trauma, having to be the mediator and a shoulder between my grandparents awful relationship. I feared for their safeties too.
2. Ironically ive had some People suggest i had bpd. And while the emotion regulation and boundaries i relate to, i definitely have none of the addiction or self harming tendences. I dont want to Hurt myself, i want to protect myself.
I also have a question. How can A fearful avoidant know when their sense of needing to raise their boundaries is valid vs. when they are iņ high iindependency mode just mis reading the situation as threatening and the other parties needs/desires as untruthful?
I Wonder if this is where needing to trust your own abilities to keep your boundaries UP if the threat really turns out to be true comes in.i definitely feel like its easier for me to do from afar just removing myself from the situation than if i was face to face with it. I fear i might blow up instead of handling it properly.
But the question of feeling your sense of boundaries and a sense of threat being valid is often on my mind. It is hard to juggle between A healthy amount of boundaries And just keeping them high up all the time so we never make a mistake.
Yes I’m exactly the same. Definitely Fearful avoidant but have also been suggested BPD and often also questioned this myself. So I’d be very interested in that video please. I’ve ruined so many relationships because of this attachment habit / style. I can’t trust anyone and push and pull because I get so so scared of being hurt. I desperately want love and give everything and people please ridiculously but loose myself and my mind then sabotage. This is exactly me and I’ve often felt I can’t have a healthy relationship ever. It’s very very distressing 😢
I've discovered that I am intensely anxiously attached. And just ruined my marriage with a dismissive avoidant husband. I couldn't honor his boundary of just leaving him alone, because I felt so horrible at being rudely pushed away. I feel somewhat hopeless about ever having a loving relationship.
Thank you 🙏 you are truly a amazing and beautiful. It felt like you were describing me in this video!! 😍
Thank you ❤️
i wonder why i go through this in relationships when my childhood was nothing like that. I was bullied by my siblings and just rejected the idea of family and then i decided to disappear into the background.
Question: can you also Trust too much.. I always thought I didn’t trust at all but sometimes I think I trust too much?
Can you please do a video about Fearful Avoidants that develop from complicated grief and/or repeated adult trauma?
I’ve watching your videos lately.... A lot of interesting content. I been trying to do a self assessment based on my own experiences and my feelings and I can see myself “dancing all along the spectrum” . I can mostly relate with the anxious patterns, but also there has been times when I can see the fearful avoidant in me. Is that even possible? Or am I a walking emotional mess?? 😂. Regardless, I’m grateful for the content. Very helpful 💜
Thank youuuu
I fricking adore you and how much information you are sharing. I would love to work with you.
sometimes it can hurtful when you're meeting their needs but they never want to meet yours so it's not fair