Thanks so much for watching!❔Are you ready to embrace aging, or are you still hoping to hold it off any way you can? (Or maybe something in between?) Up next, check out the first video in our spooky season series on the rise of the *Terrifying Teen Girl* (and what people are *really* so afraid of!) 📺 Watch here: th-cam.com/video/xwunxsUv79E/w-d-xo.html
I would also like to point out that just because you get older doesn't mean youth completely disappears. You can be older and still be young at heart and even in health if you prioritize it
Of course it is! I’m older and I make sure to offer advice to my younger cousins about college and the work force, so they won’t make the same mistakes I did😅
Debatable. There is something to be said for quitting while you are ahead and while we are living longer we are trading that long life for ever-mounting health concerns personal losses ,and autonomy .
@@celestialcircledanceno it's not debatable. Every setback you listed is not exclusive to aging. You can thrive at any age of your life and you can experience all the things you listed at a young age. The reality is, you didn't have to still be here.
Just in case there's anyone who's hovering around 30 feeling like they're never going to 'make it' (or any age for that matter). I thought I was 'past it' at 31, I thought I'd never meet someone, never 'make it' with my art etc. Anyway I'm 48 now and things are good, I didn't start making a living from my art until I was 40 - I know other artists who started way later than me. It's never too late to have a go at the thing you always wanted to. Also, yes, being in an older body is weird to get used to as you still feel like you should still be able to do the things you did at 20, but with the ageing comes more wisdom, less giving a crap what people think. I saw an interview with Jodie Foster recently who said 'Don't compete with your younger self' - and that's an AMAZING piece of advice. You'll totally lose yourself doing that. It's a huge cliche, but yes, growing old is a privilege.
In matriarchal societies older women were prized for their wisdom and experience - we should uncondition our minds to think a woman's worth diminuishes with age and embrace every single phase of our lives, including the later ones. They all bring challenges but they're all forms of initiation. And they all have perks, too.
I've never found aging to be scary in this way. Year after year I become wiser and more knowledgeable. I take pride in combatting closemindedness and have truly embraced the "wise old woman" archetype. Youths regular seek advice from me and consistently find themselves surprised by how useful the advice is, and eagerly come back for more advice. That is a downright joyous feeling and completely dwarfs any wrinkles.
no FR i've always thought of this idea but was waiting to get a lil older to start this lie bc it'll be more believable i think. i'm about to turn thirty....five :D that's how imma deal w thirty so imma feel real young again :D
I never had a perfect young body to mourn so there’s been no specific change I fixate on or am desperate to undo. I’m basically okay with looking like a woman my factual age. What I worry about is being dehumanized. I’m afraid of people looking at me and reacting like I’m a caricature from, like, Harry Potter - one of those characters who are treated as immediate objects of contempt and ridicule. There must be something dim or mean about them just because we think they look kind of dumpy. We talk about aging like it’s something you can do well or fail at, and you deserve credit or criticism depending on how it goes. I can adjust to looking different, but I do feel scared of gradually being seen as a failed woman rather than just an older one.
I watched this video just one week before I turned 42 and while any beauty regiments I might adhere are strictly over the counter, I find myself wishing more and more that I could return to being a kid with the knowledge that I have now so that I could have started doing more of what I loved when I had fewer responsibilities, when technology was too primitive to be distracting.
Notice these are all women in the clips? It's because there's an emphasis on being young and beautiful and desireable when it comes to women. How many successful older women actors get prime roles?
@@alienboy1322That’s more of a recent thing. The recent generation of actresses have been able to continue to get leading and major supporting roles without needing to fight for them to such a severe degree as actresses of the previous generations. That’s because our culture has shifted recently.
@@RachelNichols-writer They had to fight to keep working and not much work came for Gloria Swanson after Sunset Boulevard. Joan could only get hagsploitation stuff after Baby Jane. Katharine Hepburn or Ava Gardner were the rare examples of people continuing to get major work til the end of their career. But unlike Katharine, Ava rarely got awards attention.
Speaking of The Substance, Margaret Qualley's mom, Andie Macdowell, is more than happy to be getting old. Same with Justine Bateman, Jason Bateman's sister. I like seeing women who are comfortable with aging, especially if they're working in an industry obsessed with youth.
I find it strange in a movie about the danger of struggling to stay younger, Demi Moore is playing someone 10 years younger. She has to pretend to be younger, even in the movie.
I hate the solution is "living the best we could". The problem is most of us are not living the best we can, our lifes suck and on top of that we are aging and stuck even in a worse place while our options at everything fade away
I have pretty white streaks at my temples, little silver sparkles all through my brown hair, and a face I feel looks distinguished and mature. My mom hated and fought against aging, but I refuse to make myself that miserable. I'm embracing my crone phase as it comes. The fairy lights in my hair are my favorite part.
I've been going silver since the pandemic, was a waste of time and money doing my hair roots every 2 weeks. People compliment my hair all the time. Can't wait until it goes completely white - about half way there, the front is grey, back is still salt and pepper. 58 years old
I'm 55. The hardest thing for me right now, in perimenopause, is that I feel like my brain has simply stopped working. I don't mind the lines and gray hairs. I DO mind the extra weight. 🙄 But I really, REALLY want to be able to remember why I came downstairs, or that phrase, or that person's name. Oh, and I'd like my flexibility back. 😊
I agree,it does because we are reminded constantly of death... Yet ," it gives life meaning to know our days are numbered,our time is short" The quote is from Doctor Strange's The Ancient One it sticks with me always
My mother died before she turned 40. When i hit 40, i was so happy. I made it and have been the happiest ive ever been. I work in hospice so Ive seen ppl die right in front of me, and it makes me appreciate every day God gives me.
Likewise, I was at my happiest, absolutely, hands down, when I turned 40. When I turned 30 I felt old, when I turned 40 I felt young. I'm so sorry about your mother, though...
When it comes to aging, I am always grateful for having melanin, which helps keep a youthful appearance and less likely you are going blind, etc. I have always loved looking at the elders and seeing how great many of them look. And the more melanin you have, the more youthful your appearance generally.
I love getting older. I finally love myself, feel sexy in my skin for me, couldnt care less about the male gaze anymore. Getting older is not as scary as we are lead to believe.
I'm 58, people always say, you look younger than that. Not because I do look younger (I have silver hair), but because people who were 58 used to say they were in their 40s, instead of being honest of how old they actually were.
I'm glad that there is a conversation about women aging naturally, its so unhealthy to be obsessed with trying to look youthful. Hollywood especially is cruel towards older women. Gloria Swanson was absolutely stunning up until her 70s, but the whole premise of Sunset Blvd was how ridiculous, old, and delusional she was,(when she was likely only 50) So many women are caught up in the anti aging game, as in botox, surgeries, etc, and a whole new generation of young women are buying into this crap. As long as your body is healthy, and can still do most things physically, then thats a good thing to strive for, not looking younger.
I think a lot of the people who are afraid of getting old/looking old haven't personally dealt with the death of someone young in their life. When that happens and you keep getting older and think of that person who passed away too soon, you realize the privilege of aging and having experiences that person never got to have. I think getting older is special.
Awesome, I was awaiting to see this channel talk about the substance. Really enjoyed the perspective of the video! Whenever I hear people who are younger than me say: geez you are old! I tell them: If you are lucky you will get there.
Aging is just the visual sign of your slowly approaching death. 🙂 For real now, though. As someone who worries over appearing young as well I absolutely hate that it bothers me. Aging is the natural progression of life.And anyone who devalues me based on my looks isnt worth knowing anyway.
The funny thing about aging is that I don't always feel it.... Internally that is. I'm almost close to forty but deep down I feel like two kids in one trenchcoat.
Have any of you noticed that this quest for youth is incredibly costly? The media pushes us to "perfect ourselves" by buying yet another cream, a gym membership, some fillers, then some botox, wait, no, some major surgery costly thousands and thousands of dollars, so we keep on spending money until the end of our lives?
The only thing that is frustrating about aging is that we’re on the cusp of being able to edit DNA to not only extend life, but quite possibly achieve immortality (barring any unexpected accidents). But we might just miss it in our lifetime, and when it comes, it will absolutely be unattainable for anyone but the ultra wealthy. This keeps me up at night 😭
Lord of the Rings had an interesting angle on this subject. Sauron's One Ring delayed Bilbo's old age for 60 years. Gollum's lifespan stretched for hundreds of years while he had the ring all the while his mind was poisoned and body deteriorating to the point you could see his vertebrae through the skin.
Posting this on my 36th birthday, while me spending it being depressed is like... you're onto something 😆 i need to accept i can't turn back time, less stress of being older..
I have chronic illness that causes constant pain and extreme fatigue. Which is a shame because I just turned 50 and I’ve never felt this confident and secure in myself. I don’t want to be a 30-year-old again; I just want to be a healthy person of my age. Finally feeling settled in myself is a great feeling.
Aging is considering terrifying because youth is a prized commodity for men and their gaze. To no longer be youthful, is essentially the end of a woman's usefulness and or value according to men. When they stop making movies that present the biggest fear for women being her age and her decreased level of attractiveness, then these sort of films will cease to exist. I for one, welcome my age, it means I have seen the horrors of humanity and survived. But, it also means I must continue to watch it's stupidity. Double edge sword that.
Facing your mortality is different than dealing with the physical changes. A lot of the physical crap is secondary to the ridiculous ageist ideology that's everywhere making it seem like you're a wrinkled up prune at 30 or 40 which is absolute BS. I'm 42 and perfectly happy with my physical appearance. My mom passed in her mid 50s from cancer and still had her pick of the litter because she was timelessly and naturally gorgeous. Just to point out, unfortunately, WOMEN are by far the harshest critics of other women. I look at myself as being in my prime, baby! The painful part is seeing people you've known and loved your whole life pass away. Seeing my dad grow into a senior citizen means he's closer to the end and that doesn't even bear thinking about - I'm just not ready to face that yet. It's a dual edged sword with tons of pros but definitely some cons too.
I'm just sad that I'll be losing many of my student pricing privileges when I turn 30... I won't be done until I'm 31. It feels like I'm being punished for daring to finish an education later than expected.
I am mid 30’s still holding ageing by hair die, skin routine and sleep. Although the last part is hard lol. Thankfully haven’t resorted to Botox but I make no promises in case future me see this post
good luck with that. Once you hit menopause looking young is the last thing you care about, you barely have time to even think clearly, just struggle through day by day.
I am just saying in the moment, I know things will change with menapause. I know cause I don’t do well during time of the month but the women in my family have always dyed their hair including my gradmother who only stopped dying it when her dementia got in the way during the last years of her life. She lived till her early 90s. Right now I plan to keep dying my hair
While aging is inevitable, we can control our quality of life. How long we lived is not going to matter, but what we did with our time will matter. Also, I noticed that this video was geared to towards women getting older. Ladies quit letting self hating men with traumatic childhood issues, born into toxic masculinity, low self esteem and insecurity label you. Men with these poor qualities could never respect nor love you, because they don’t respect nor love themselves.
My father died at age 56. I look forward to growing old and experiencing life and getting opportunities that he didn’t have. Honestly, I don’t even think I’ll dye my hair when it goes grey, I think I’ll just let it happen
Death is scary but what's even scarier is the idea of losing those close to me, people AND pets. Maybe we all have our methods of trying to push those thoughts away.
I like the series where aging is not demonized, like Frankie and Grace! Even "Mom" explores some troubles that society makes us with aging, like diseases, finfding love or being invisible to people, and does it with healthy dose of humor. Frankie and Grace does not exclude older people as main character and does not make them invisible which is great! It's no all about 20 somethings!
Just a thought, some women look absolutely more beautiful at an older age. Vanessa Redgrave was very pretty young but, I have to say I think the much older Vanessa Redgrave was even more beautiful.
The problem with framing this as a psychological issue is that the solution seems like a purely individual one. This "self-help" mentality says its just a matter of changing the way one thinks. But that is really ignoring the huge weight of social pressure. How can one think positively about aging when your whole society is telling you it is a negative thing? Instead, we need to think of this issue more sociologically. The problem (and the solution) do not lie solely in individual psychology, but in society. We need social change at the structural level of society, such as through new social policies and cultural norms.
Social media and show-business has people living in a split reality - in real life, things get better when you pass 30. The ways women are treated because of the desirability of youth are just consolation prizes for being objectified. Once you let go of how you are physically perceived the appeal of chasing a youthful appearance disappears; most people have, they’re just not in the public eye.
When I was a kid I had female relatives who were stunning and whose whole identity was their looks. Then they aged and gained weight. Guess what? They became awful because they expected the same attention and privilege as before but didn’t get it. And they didn’t have much else going on. I decided to focus on my skills and becoming a better person. Do I feel good about now sagging flesh? Not really. But I also have an identity outside of my looks. And it’s kind of nice being invisible to most men. They made my life hellish when I was young and hot. There’s so much more to life.
Margaret Qualley, who plays Sue in The Substance, is turning 30 this year. The exact age society has conditioned women to believe they are becoming old hags. That's pretty hilarious
I'll be completely honest here. I don't see the ones who die young as the unfortunate ones, on the contrary, they were able to leave the party before it got lame. I really don't wanna live past my 50s, I actually find my 40s miserable enough, i'm not looking forward the "next level"... at all.
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve been kind of worried about aging myself. For the record, not all men turning into silver foxes, so us turn into potatoes.
We are aging better though. Especially in the 1970s. I am a year older than Redd Foxx when he canceled Sanford and Son. What woman now would dress ans let their hair grow grey naturally like the late Bea Arthur in Maude. Janet Jackson is now the same age as Esther Rolle when they first worked together on Good Times. 😮😅
When I see attractive rich people/celebrities talking about aging, I just keep scrolling. I am sorry, but apart from the fact that we are all finite organisms, the experience is incomparable.
Thanks so much for watching!❔Are you ready to embrace aging, or are you still hoping to hold it off any way you can? (Or maybe something in between?)
Up next, check out the first video in our spooky season series on the rise of the *Terrifying Teen Girl* (and what people are *really* so afraid of!) 📺 Watch here: th-cam.com/video/xwunxsUv79E/w-d-xo.html
Biden is 81 and is the current President while Trump is 78 and is the Republican candidate for president.
I would also like to point out that just because you get older doesn't mean youth completely disappears. You can be older and still be young at heart and even in health if you prioritize it
Just let me remind you one more time that aging is a privilege, not a curse.
Of course it is! I’m older and I make sure to offer advice to my younger cousins about college and the work force, so they won’t make the same mistakes I did😅
Debatable. There is something to be said for quitting while you are ahead and while we are living longer we are trading that long life for ever-mounting health concerns personal losses ,and autonomy .
Aging is natural. Nothing wrong with natural, leave it be
Heavy on the privilege.
@@celestialcircledanceno it's not debatable. Every setback you listed is not exclusive to aging. You can thrive at any age of your life and you can experience all the things you listed at a young age. The reality is, you didn't have to still be here.
Just in case there's anyone who's hovering around 30 feeling like they're never going to 'make it' (or any age for that matter). I thought I was 'past it' at 31, I thought I'd never meet someone, never 'make it' with my art etc. Anyway I'm 48 now and things are good, I didn't start making a living from my art until I was 40 - I know other artists who started way later than me. It's never too late to have a go at the thing you always wanted to.
Also, yes, being in an older body is weird to get used to as you still feel like you should still be able to do the things you did at 20, but with the ageing comes more wisdom, less giving a crap what people think. I saw an interview with Jodie Foster recently who said 'Don't compete with your younger self' - and that's an AMAZING piece of advice. You'll totally lose yourself doing that. It's a huge cliche, but yes, growing old is a privilege.
In matriarchal societies older women were prized for their wisdom and experience - we should uncondition our minds to think a woman's worth diminuishes with age and embrace every single phase of our lives, including the later ones. They all bring challenges but they're all forms of initiation. And they all have perks, too.
Kasi ung patriarchal ay shallow. Ang gusto lang nila physical looks
I've never found aging to be scary in this way. Year after year I become wiser and more knowledgeable. I take pride in combatting closemindedness and have truly embraced the "wise old woman" archetype. Youths regular seek advice from me and consistently find themselves surprised by how useful the advice is, and eagerly come back for more advice.
That is a downright joyous feeling and completely dwarfs any wrinkles.
At 60 I have figured out a way to deal with aging. I tell people I am 70 because while I am ok for 60, I am great for 70. Lol
no FR i've always thought of this idea but was waiting to get a lil older to start this lie bc it'll be more believable i think. i'm about to turn thirty....five :D that's how imma deal w thirty so imma feel real young again :D
@@grizzlyalmighty2 That's genius, I'll do that too!!!
I was thinking about doing this as well
I never had a perfect young body to mourn so there’s been no specific change I fixate on or am desperate to undo. I’m basically okay with looking like a woman my factual age. What I worry about is being dehumanized. I’m afraid of people looking at me and reacting like I’m a caricature from, like, Harry Potter - one of those characters who are treated as immediate objects of contempt and ridicule. There must be something dim or mean about them just because we think they look kind of dumpy. We talk about aging like it’s something you can do well or fail at, and you deserve credit or criticism depending on how it goes. I can adjust to looking different, but I do feel scared of gradually being seen as a failed woman rather than just an older one.
I watched this video just one week before I turned 42 and while any beauty regiments I might adhere are strictly over the counter, I find myself wishing more and more that I could return to being a kid with the knowledge that I have now so that I could have started doing more of what I loved when I had fewer responsibilities, when technology was too primitive to be distracting.
Notice these are all women in the clips? It's because there's an emphasis on being young and beautiful and desireable when it comes to women. How many successful older women actors get prime roles?
Does Kate Winslet count?
That’s mentioned in the video.
@@alienboy1322That’s more of a recent thing. The recent generation of actresses have been able to continue to get leading and major supporting roles without needing to fight for them to such a severe degree as actresses of the previous generations. That’s because our culture has shifted recently.
@@abandonedfragmentofhope5415 Gloria Swanson. Joan Crawford.
@@RachelNichols-writer They had to fight to keep working and not much work came for Gloria Swanson after Sunset Boulevard. Joan could only get hagsploitation stuff after Baby Jane. Katharine Hepburn or Ava Gardner were the rare examples of people continuing to get major work til the end of their career. But unlike Katharine, Ava rarely got awards attention.
Speaking of The Substance, Margaret Qualley's mom, Andie Macdowell, is more than happy to be getting old. Same with Justine Bateman, Jason Bateman's sister.
I like seeing women who are comfortable with aging, especially if they're working in an industry obsessed with youth.
I find it strange in a movie about the danger of struggling to stay younger, Demi Moore is playing someone 10 years younger. She has to pretend to be younger, even in the movie.
Also Margaret Qualley has prostetic breasts on her, and given her age and natural beauty we believe her body perfection, even in total fakeness
I hate the solution is "living the best we could". The problem is most of us are not living the best we can, our lifes suck and on top of that we are aging and stuck even in a worse place while our options at everything fade away
EXACTLY!!
I have pretty white streaks at my temples, little silver sparkles all through my brown hair, and a face I feel looks distinguished and mature. My mom hated and fought against aging, but I refuse to make myself that miserable. I'm embracing my crone phase as it comes. The fairy lights in my hair are my favorite part.
Thats a very pretty description. 😮
That's how me and my wife feel about the white in my hair. She says it looks like Christmas Tinsel and I'm inclined to agree.
I've been going silver since the pandemic, was a waste of time and money doing my hair roots every 2 weeks. People compliment my hair all the time. Can't wait until it goes completely white - about half way there, the front is grey, back is still salt and pepper. 58 years old
right like i'm 29 juuuuuust barely getting fine lines, when i do have wrinkles THEY WILL BE WELL EARNED AND IMMA BE SO PROUD!!!!! 😭
I'm 55. The hardest thing for me right now, in perimenopause, is that I feel like my brain has simply stopped working. I don't mind the lines and gray hairs. I DO mind the extra weight. 🙄 But I really, REALLY want to be able to remember why I came downstairs, or that phrase, or that person's name.
Oh, and I'd like my flexibility back. 😊
I tell people, “Today is the youngest you will be.” Go gather experiences so you have some great stories to tell later.
Love that! 🙂
I agree,it does because we are reminded constantly of death... Yet ," it gives life meaning to know our days are numbered,our time is short"
The quote is from Doctor Strange's The Ancient One it sticks with me always
My mother died before she turned 40. When i hit 40, i was so happy. I made it and have been the happiest ive ever been. I work in hospice so Ive seen ppl die right in front of me, and it makes me appreciate every day God gives me.
Likewise, I was at my happiest, absolutely, hands down, when I turned 40. When I turned 30 I felt old, when I turned 40 I felt young. I'm so sorry about your mother, though...
My great-grandma dided suddenly before turning 50. Hope I can go even sooner ;)
Betty White’s mother told her that when someone passes, you just say: “Now they know the secret.”
What does that even mean?
@@binarystar300 She says it in an interview and it’ll make more sense listening to the source
@@binarystar300probably the secret of what happens when you die
When it comes to aging, I am always grateful for having melanin, which helps keep a youthful appearance and less likely you are going blind, etc. I have always loved looking at the elders and seeing how great many of them look. And the more melanin you have, the more youthful your appearance generally.
I’m tired. When I was young was never “hot” and now I’m “old and over the hill” at 35.
I love getting older. I finally love myself, feel sexy in my skin for me, couldnt care less about the male gaze anymore. Getting older is not as scary as we are lead to believe.
I'm 58, people always say, you look younger than that. Not because I do look younger (I have silver hair), but because people who were 58 used to say they were in their 40s, instead of being honest of how old they actually were.
How refreshing. Keep saying stuff like this, it does so much good to younger women to hear this kind of thing.
I'm glad that there is a conversation about women aging naturally, its so unhealthy to be obsessed with trying to look youthful. Hollywood especially is cruel towards older women. Gloria Swanson was absolutely stunning up until her 70s, but the whole premise of Sunset Blvd was how ridiculous, old, and delusional she was,(when she was likely only 50) So many women are caught up in the anti aging game, as in botox, surgeries, etc, and a whole new generation of young women are buying into this crap. As long as your body is healthy, and can still do most things physically, then thats a good thing to strive for, not looking younger.
fr i became crippled at 26 idgamFFFF about ~AgInG~ YOU MEAN STILL BEING ALIVE?????????!!!!!!!!!!
I do celebrate every birthday but my body is breaking down and my parts are so outdated that they don't sell them anymore.
I think a lot of the people who are afraid of getting old/looking old haven't personally dealt with the death of someone young in their life. When that happens and you keep getting older and think of that person who passed away too soon, you realize the privilege of aging and having experiences that person never got to have. I think getting older is special.
Awesome, I was awaiting to see this channel talk about the substance. Really enjoyed the perspective of the video! Whenever I hear people who are younger than me say: geez you are old! I tell them: If you are lucky you will get there.
Aging is just the visual sign of your slowly approaching death. 🙂
For real now, though. As someone who worries over appearing young as well I absolutely hate that it bothers me. Aging is the natural progression of life.And anyone who devalues me based on my looks isnt worth knowing anyway.
The funny thing about aging is that I don't always feel it.... Internally that is.
I'm almost close to forty but deep down I feel like two kids in one trenchcoat.
Such an amazing video :) It's scary to age, but it's a privilege indeed!
I was really missing movie names under the clips this time :(
Have any of you noticed that this quest for youth is incredibly costly? The media pushes us to "perfect ourselves" by buying yet another cream, a gym membership, some fillers, then some botox, wait, no, some major surgery costly thousands and thousands of dollars, so we keep on spending money until the end of our lives?
The only thing that is frustrating about aging is that we’re on the cusp of being able to edit DNA to not only extend life, but quite possibly achieve immortality (barring any unexpected accidents). But we might just miss it in our lifetime, and when it comes, it will absolutely be unattainable for anyone but the ultra wealthy. This keeps me up at night 😭
Lord of the Rings had an interesting angle on this subject. Sauron's One Ring delayed Bilbo's old age for 60 years. Gollum's lifespan stretched for hundreds of years while he had the ring all the while his mind was poisoned and body deteriorating to the point you could see his vertebrae through the skin.
Why are the movie names not on the screen?? I would like to know what the clips are from.
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The list is in the description
Posting this on my 36th birthday, while me spending it being depressed is like... you're onto something 😆 i need to accept i can't turn back time, less stress of being older..
I have chronic illness that causes constant pain and extreme fatigue. Which is a shame because I just turned 50 and I’ve never felt this confident and secure in myself. I don’t want to be a 30-year-old again; I just want to be a healthy person of my age. Finally feeling settled in myself is a great feeling.
Aging is an honour and a gift. We won’t all get the opportunity to.
Aging is considering terrifying because youth is a prized commodity for men and their gaze. To no longer be youthful, is essentially the end of a woman's usefulness and or value according to men. When they stop making movies that present the biggest fear for women being her age and her decreased level of attractiveness, then these sort of films will cease to exist.
I for one, welcome my age, it means I have seen the horrors of humanity and survived. But, it also means I must continue to watch it's stupidity. Double edge sword that.
This just came out on my birthday! I am 26 and Brother remind me that I started the aging process 🙄.
Very well presented! 1992's Death Becomes Her is all the more relevant today.
6:29 ‘Sweat’ and ‘The Substance’ are like companion pieces on MUBI honestly.
Funny how the ad I got in this vid was the substance
Facing your mortality is different than dealing with the physical changes. A lot of the physical crap is secondary to the ridiculous ageist ideology that's everywhere making it seem like you're a wrinkled up prune at 30 or 40 which is absolute BS. I'm 42 and perfectly happy with my physical appearance. My mom passed in her mid 50s from cancer and still had her pick of the litter because she was timelessly and naturally gorgeous. Just to point out, unfortunately, WOMEN are by far the harshest critics of other women. I look at myself as being in my prime, baby! The painful part is seeing people you've known and loved your whole life pass away. Seeing my dad grow into a senior citizen means he's closer to the end and that doesn't even bear thinking about - I'm just not ready to face that yet. It's a dual edged sword with tons of pros but definitely some cons too.
I'm just sad that I'll be losing many of my student pricing privileges when I turn 30...
I won't be done until I'm 31.
It feels like I'm being punished for daring to finish an education later than expected.
I still show my student id and get low prices for museums and movies I am in my mid 30s and take some college classes
I am mid 30’s still holding ageing by hair die, skin routine and sleep. Although the last part is hard lol. Thankfully haven’t resorted to Botox but I make no promises in case future me see this post
good luck with that. Once you hit menopause looking young is the last thing you care about, you barely have time to even think clearly, just struggle through day by day.
I am just saying in the moment, I know things will change with menapause. I know cause I don’t do well during time of the month but the women in my family have always dyed their hair including my gradmother who only stopped dying it when her dementia got in the way during the last years of her life. She lived till her early 90s. Right now I plan to keep dying my hair
While aging is inevitable, we can control our quality of life. How long we lived is not going to matter, but what we did with our time will matter.
Also, I noticed that this video was geared to towards women getting older.
Ladies quit letting self hating men with traumatic childhood issues, born into toxic masculinity, low self esteem and insecurity label you. Men with these poor qualities could never respect nor love you, because they don’t respect nor love themselves.
My father died at age 56. I look forward to growing old and experiencing life and getting opportunities that he didn’t have. Honestly, I don’t even think I’ll dye my hair when it goes grey, I think I’ll just let it happen
Please do an analysis on The Substance!!!
Aging wouldn't be so daunting if I had the money to retire.
1:22 She was Delulu before the concept existed
I think the real scary part of aging for me is bodily weakness, health, and loss of vision and hearing.
Death is scary but what's even scarier is the idea of losing those close to me, people AND pets. Maybe we all have our methods of trying to push those thoughts away.
I like the series where aging is not demonized, like Frankie and Grace! Even "Mom" explores some troubles that society makes us with aging, like diseases, finfding love or being invisible to people, and does it with healthy dose of humor. Frankie and Grace does not exclude older people as main character and does not make them invisible which is great! It's no all about 20 somethings!
Just a thought, some women look absolutely more beautiful at an older age. Vanessa Redgrave was very pretty young but, I have to say I think the much older Vanessa Redgrave was even more beautiful.
FYI at 7:28 the dialogue cuts out
Isabella Rossilini was hot in that movie.
The problem with framing this as a psychological issue is that the solution seems like a purely individual one. This "self-help" mentality says its just a matter of changing the way one thinks. But that is really ignoring the huge weight of social pressure. How can one think positively about aging when your whole society is telling you it is a negative thing? Instead, we need to think of this issue more sociologically. The problem (and the solution) do not lie solely in individual psychology, but in society. We need social change at the structural level of society, such as through new social policies and cultural norms.
A body ache that lingers long after it should is not usually a sign of ageing, it should always be checked by a doctor
Social media and show-business has people living in a split reality - in real life, things get better when you pass 30. The ways women are treated because of the desirability of youth are just consolation prizes for being objectified. Once you let go of how you are physically perceived the appeal of chasing a youthful appearance disappears; most people have, they’re just not in the public eye.
we are an infinite consciousness - the vessel is temporality 💚
It's actually not healthy to think about these things
I think the whole ‘Witchcore’ and the whole empathy and sympathy towards ‘witches’ somewhere dilutes the whole ‘town shut-in cat lady’ stereotype.
Whats your problem with living happily alone with your five cats.
@@lexa2310 The problem is when society at large thinks it’s a problem.
@@PokhrajRoy. ....Oh. You we're talking in a positive way. I missunderstood you, thats on me.
Yeah, I agree.😅
@@lexa2310 No problem
The pros of aging is in the mind, it's being more mature and being comfortable as yourself. However, who doesn't want their 25 year old body back?
I think we fear aging because of how our society treats the elderly.
When I was a kid I had female relatives who were stunning and whose whole identity was their looks. Then they aged and gained weight. Guess what? They became awful because they expected the same attention and privilege as before but didn’t get it. And they didn’t have much else going on.
I decided to focus on my skills and becoming a better person. Do I feel good about now sagging flesh? Not really. But I also have an identity outside of my looks. And it’s kind of nice being invisible to most men. They made my life hellish when I was young and hot.
There’s so much more to life.
not me, a foreigner, reading, ''the honour of aging'' :))
Ah yes, only fitting to be watching this on the anniversary of my birth 🙃
It's the scary realisation that you are one step closer to death 😮
Where is 5:39 from?
Hacks.
Margaret Qualley, who plays Sue in The Substance, is turning 30 this year. The exact age society has conditioned women to believe they are becoming old hags. That's pretty hilarious
I'll be completely honest here. I don't see the ones who die young as the unfortunate ones, on the contrary, they were able to leave the party before it got lame. I really don't wanna live past my 50s, I actually find my 40s miserable enough, i'm not looking forward the "next level"... at all.
I rocked maiden. I rocked mother. I’m gonna rock crone too. ❤
Thank you so much for this video. I’ve been kind of worried about aging myself. For the record, not all men turning into silver foxes, so us turn into potatoes.
9:00 angelina jolie
Reason one: men writers
Reason two: men writers
Reason three: men writers
it's horrible all right and I would take the substance in a heartbeat!
If you saw that movie and still are able to say that, you're insane.
I wish I was an elephant. Elephants appreciate the older females in their group
We are aging better though. Especially in the 1970s. I am a year older than Redd Foxx when he canceled Sanford and Son. What woman now would dress ans let their hair grow grey naturally like the late Bea Arthur in Maude. Janet Jackson is now the same age as Esther Rolle when they first worked together on Good Times. 😮😅
Will you make a video about "Nobody wants this"?
Non POC problems
When I see attractive rich people/celebrities talking about aging, I just keep scrolling. I am sorry, but apart from the fact that we are all finite organisms, the experience is incomparable.
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Trump is 78 and Biden is 81. Enough said.
Biden is 81 and is the current President while Trump is 78 and is the Republican candidate for president.
Can you not? Quit making everything political.
That's the fault of the two major political parties. Not an issue in this video.
Stop eating processed food. And melanin helps
respectfully this video made me throw up
Jesus is the only way !
I know it wasn't meant to be, but this was so depressing. 😅🫣