To whoever is reading this. Look at you, you wonderful human being. You survived all the trauma people put you through. You have every right to not be great, and yet here you are. I’m proud of you. ❤ Sharing this bc it might help someone. The abandonment wound from my father, projected me into deep limerence. I figured out I gaslighted myself to keep the story that my dad loved me. I now have accepted that that was not love, but abuse and neglect. Instead of gaslighting myself I sat with the feelings of shame “he saw me in pain and did nothing, so that must mean I’m worth less”. I realised he probably did the best he could, and it was not about me at all but accepting this hard reality freed me from the broken story I was telling myself to avoid feeling the anxiety, hurt and toxic shame. Hope this helps. ❤
I had same story with my father. But this pattern has been repeated throughout my life in my all relationships. I always fall in love with abuser men who neglect me and abondon me finally. It makes lots of separation anxiety and depression. I found it so hard to change the subconscious pattern.
Thank you for sharing these videos. Being an adult that suffers abandonment issues from childhood trauma and married to a narcissist it’s uplifting to know that there’s hope if I do the work. We can all heal.
Congrats, Candace You have been a catalyst in my healing process. I'm walking through a long overdue divorce and reawakening my spirit. It has truly been a process which has forced me to trust self and source. All I can say is...THANK YOU..and holy crap, what a ride. Narcs gotta go.
100K, I love that you mentioned organically! Yes, because you are a *genuine* person, we recognize and see your shine. Keep soaring high, I am rooting for you and your life to be more and more embellish of love, light and happiness xo
My Father was the King of showing what he called "Tough Love, Son". Seriously crown his ass. That was his way of not needing to mirror, as I can see now he abandoned himself and thought that was the best way to parent. And now I can see he got that from his Mom, who abandoned herself, after she gave up on her dreams after having her first kid.
This is very simple WHAT IS TRUE OF THE INTERNAL IS MANIFESTED IN THE EXTERNAL. When we ignore AND NOT ACKNOWLEDGE our own INNER CHILD issues emotions feelings Etc. Then we also ignore and we cannot possibly ACKNOWLEDGE OUR OWN PHYSICAL CHILDREN! With loving kindness and acceptance! IF YOU NEGLECT THE SELF YOU NEGLECT EVERYONE ELSE!
If you are going against the grain of your upbringing and you don't accept those issues that you have attributed meaning to like rejection and abandonment and things that cause the unauthentic then they become places of resistance , they all require processing in order for you to move forward you need to accept the rejection and abandonment as well as the unauthentic both internally and thereby externally. Treat them with love and kindness give them their own space and let them transform into healing, as rejection transforms into acceptance and abandonment becomes " i will never leave you or forsake you" and your own unauthenticity linked to these issues becomes authenticity. Then you can extend your authentic acceptance and availability to others without Being internally triggered by external sources. As those issues now are no more.
I love that I found such an amazing and informative video that hit so personally. But even better that it includes the message of Gods love. Thanking Him right now for inspiring this creator & leading me to this video.
Truth! As a Family Physician I see cycles of trauma daily. Abandonment at Birth allows the Embrace of Universal Love🌈All things are possible if we live the Authentic Divine Design of our unique Life! Thank you for speaking candidly, Doctor Kenna
I've just come to the realization that I must be a bad person or something. Every friend or partner has left me never to look back. I have literally no one. It must be me. I've been so good to do many and it's never been enough. I must just be that terrible that no one ever truly cared about me. I'm 38. If I was gonna find someone who stuck around I would've already. I was completely authentic. I just give up at this point
Thank you , you always come around when I need you xx you make me feel better about my insecurities of how people treated me and knowing deep down it was them not Me
Candice 😍⚡️As usual spot on ! Your candid way of explaining these heavy concepts is your greatest strength in this . Thank you thank you thank you You have played a huge role in my healing journey mostly bec you are so relatable !🤲🏻‼️that is really a huge deal for this stubborn gal !
i do have some childhood wounds but i think what’s triggering me the most right now is two particular events where I self sabotage in 2021 plus a lot of little scattered events since then. I self sabotage because I was overwhelmed with the responsibility which now I feel like a real failure. which now I have so much anxiety to even try new things because the moment it doesn’t pan out the way I intended it to, i feel deeply ignored, punished and ostracized
But what if I don’t think it was my fault. What if I know that both my parents were hardcore drug addicts. I’m just afraid of being let down by my significant other
Is there a way to heal from being adopted at birth? I am very sensitive about rejection, I’m a pleaser and often feel I’m never enough - which of course leads to a lot of anxiety as I am getting older. I love your videos! Please keep them coming…. You are definitely helping me (and no doubt, many people!) see thru a different lens! Thank you and stay you!
Awwww thank you so much!! Yes, you absolutely can heal. The symptoms you are talking about are so universal no matter what the cause/ I would suggest my emotional rehab course or some coaching if that is possible for you!! X
Sorry I don’t understand why you have trauma from being adopted. It means someone want you so much so they adopted you. It’s much better then baological parent who tell you they regret to having you and making you guilty to even been born. Making you think that you have to babysit your immature parent for the rest of your life just because they gave birth to you
Hi Candace! Quick question - even if a little complex. How do I get over a BIG fear? I’ve tried submitting my dissertation (to graduate!) 3 times and got rejected every time. It wasn’t good enough. It all started with a huge burnout in 2020. Now, I’m starting my fourth project. I need to get over the fear of not being able to concentrate… or whatever it may be that’s happening? I just cannot focus. I set time apart… and just sit there, worrying. It’s been 3 years! I’m so afraid of failing and keep wasting time. Any advice? Thank you SO much for your extraordinary work.
O.K So I Decide To Do Shadow Work. And I Bring Up Buried Unhealed Wounds. Is Not Some Toxic Emotional Debris Also Going To Show Up? You Know Long Festering Hurts Are Not Going To Be Pleasant. (Not All Sunshine And Roses) So What If Those Around You Use That Against You. To Criticise, Judge, Reject And Condem You All Over Again. You Are Cherry Ripe For Some Invalidation Treatment. And You Feel Like You Made A Mistake To Want To Heal And You Want To Turn Back. I Mean Is There A Safe And Pleasant Way To Heal? So You Don't Scare The Horses.
But what if your authentic self is selfish and not a nice person 🤷♀️ I guess I’m unsure who I am without being my people pleasing self cause when I try not to people please I get feedback I’m selfish
To whoever is reading this. Look at you, you wonderful human being. You survived all the trauma people put you through. You have every right to not be great, and yet here you are. I’m proud of you. ❤
Sharing this bc it might help someone. The abandonment wound from my father, projected me into deep limerence. I figured out I gaslighted myself to keep the story that my dad loved me. I now have accepted that that was not love, but abuse and neglect. Instead of gaslighting myself I sat with the feelings of shame “he saw me in pain and did nothing, so that must mean I’m worth less”. I realised he probably did the best he could, and it was not about me at all but accepting this hard reality freed me from the broken story I was telling myself to avoid feeling the anxiety, hurt and toxic shame. Hope this helps. ❤
I had same story with my father. But this pattern has been repeated throughout my life in my all relationships. I always fall in love with abuser men who neglect me and abondon me finally. It makes lots of separation anxiety and depression. I found it so hard to change the subconscious pattern.
Congratulations beautiful Candace! People are beginning to realize how important your work is. I love the "truth bomb"!
Yay! Thank you so much!!
Thank you so much! I'm 21 and I'm trying to heal my abandonment wounds. It's scary but I need to do it for my own wellbeing.
Thank you for sharing these videos. Being an adult that suffers abandonment issues from childhood trauma and married to a narcissist it’s uplifting to know that there’s hope if I do the work. We can all heal.
Congrats, Candace
You have been a catalyst in my healing process.
I'm walking through a long overdue divorce and reawakening my spirit. It has truly been a process which has forced me to trust self and source.
All I can say is...THANK YOU..and holy crap, what a ride.
Narcs gotta go.
I completely understand! Now is time for you and God! 🔑✨
So relatable, may you live your best life ever!!!
100K, I love that you mentioned organically! Yes, because you are a *genuine* person, we recognize and see your shine. Keep soaring high, I am rooting for you and your life to be more and more embellish of love, light and happiness xo
Thank you so much!!!✨
Congratulations. You deserve it. You have changed my life and I will never stop being grateful.
Congratulations on 100k and thank you for these videos! You're helping us so much on our healing journey. ❤️
Awwww yay! Thank you so much 😊
My Father was the King of showing what he called "Tough Love, Son". Seriously crown his ass. That was his way of not needing to mirror, as I can see now he abandoned himself and thought that was the best way to parent. And now I can see he got that from his Mom, who abandoned herself, after she gave up on her dreams after having her first kid.
Wonderful awarenesses!!!
Candace, your videos have brought me from the brink of self destrucion. Thank you so much for your wisdom and understanding.
This is very simple WHAT IS TRUE OF THE INTERNAL IS MANIFESTED IN THE EXTERNAL.
When we ignore AND NOT ACKNOWLEDGE our own INNER CHILD issues emotions feelings Etc. Then we also ignore and we cannot possibly ACKNOWLEDGE OUR OWN PHYSICAL CHILDREN! With loving kindness and acceptance!
IF YOU NEGLECT THE SELF YOU NEGLECT EVERYONE ELSE!
If you are going against the grain of your upbringing and you don't accept those issues that you have attributed meaning to like rejection and abandonment and things that cause the unauthentic then they become places of resistance , they all require processing in order for you to move forward you need to accept the rejection and abandonment as well as the unauthentic both internally and thereby externally.
Treat them with love and kindness give them their own space and let them transform into healing, as rejection transforms into acceptance and abandonment becomes " i will never leave you or forsake you" and your own unauthenticity linked to these issues becomes authenticity.
Then you can extend your authentic acceptance and availability to others without Being internally triggered by external sources. As those issues now are no more.
Sometimes I think we go more deep than needed
I love that I found such an amazing and informative video that hit so personally. But even better that it includes the message of Gods love. Thanking Him right now for inspiring this creator & leading me to this video.
Truth! As a Family Physician I see cycles of trauma daily. Abandonment at Birth allows the Embrace of
Universal Love🌈All things are possible if we live the Authentic Divine Design of our unique Life! Thank you for speaking candidly, Doctor Kenna
I've just come to the realization that I must be a bad person or something. Every friend or partner has left me never to look back. I have literally no one. It must be me. I've been so good to do many and it's never been enough. I must just be that terrible that no one ever truly cared about me. I'm 38. If I was gonna find someone who stuck around I would've already. I was completely authentic. I just give up at this point
Congratulations!!!
Right timing as usual!
This video soothed and validate me.
It was never our fault.
Thanks you Candace 😘
Never your fault ❤️
You are a saving grace, i needed to hear this, thank you for your contribution to this world❤
Again, you nailed it Candace, I do recommend your channel to everyone because you know your shit.
Thank you , you always come around when I need you xx you make me feel better about my insecurities of how people treated me and knowing deep down it was them not Me
The best video on the topic so far, thank you
Thank you. Have a great day!
Candice 😍⚡️As usual spot on ! Your candid way of explaining these heavy concepts is your greatest strength in this .
Thank you
thank you
thank you
You have played a huge role in my healing journey mostly bec you are so relatable !🤲🏻‼️that
is really a huge deal for this stubborn gal !
Congratulations! 🎊
You’re brilliant, you described my entire life and numerous relationships.
I’d rather leave than be rejected…it literally hurts!
i do have some childhood wounds but i think what’s triggering me the most right now is two particular events where I self sabotage in 2021 plus a lot of little scattered events since then. I self sabotage because I was overwhelmed with the responsibility which now I feel like a real failure. which now I have so much anxiety to even try new things because the moment it doesn’t pan out the way I intended it to, i feel deeply ignored, punished and ostracized
This was definitely a truth bomb. Loved every second. Thank you, Candace.
Congratulations!! I’m so happy for you! Now onto the next one. It’s crazy that you released this when… it happened in a huge way for me the same day.
Well done!
Congratulations I'm happy you love doing what u do.
That's so brilliant thank you so much!
Super!
Oh so abandonment becomes like a good sign then, like a level up
Thanks so much Candice-youre the besr!
Congratulations and THANKS for such good and life changing content 🙏🎉🥳
thank you for the clarity, i'm applying it TODAY
Have we already mentioned DIVINE TIMING? As usual. And Congrats for this milestone. I love that for you dearest Candace! 💚💚💚
Oh my God !!!!!! Had to listen again ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
A very cool accomplishment, congratulations.👏💐😊
❤ this describes me
❤️❤️
Thank you
Congratulations 🎉
🌻🌻🌻Thank you for sharing this 🌻 🌻 🌻
THANKS ❤
Thank u candace..❤️
Thanks
So, how to resolve the pain/wound of rejection we experienced in the past?
About that “my authentic self” stuff, I have no idea who that is.
But what if I don’t think it was my fault. What if I know that both my parents were hardcore drug addicts. I’m just afraid of being let down by my significant other
Signed me up. How do I come and talk to you
Is there a way to heal from being adopted at birth? I am very sensitive about rejection, I’m a pleaser and often feel I’m never enough - which of course leads to a lot of anxiety as I am getting older. I love your videos! Please keep them coming…. You are definitely helping me (and no doubt, many people!) see thru a different lens! Thank you and stay you!
Awwww thank you so much!! Yes, you absolutely can heal. The symptoms you are talking about are so universal no matter what the cause/ I would suggest my emotional rehab course or some coaching if that is possible for you!! X
Sorry I don’t understand why you have trauma from being adopted. It means someone want you so much so they adopted you. It’s much better then baological parent who tell you they regret to having you and making you guilty to even been born. Making you think that you have to babysit your immature parent for the rest of your life just because they gave birth to you
How do I get rid of this feeling?
5:30
Hi Candace! Quick question - even if a little complex.
How do I get over a BIG fear?
I’ve tried submitting my dissertation (to graduate!) 3 times and got rejected every time. It wasn’t good enough. It all started with a huge burnout in 2020.
Now, I’m starting my fourth project.
I need to get over the fear of not being able to concentrate… or whatever it may be that’s happening? I just cannot focus. I set time apart… and just sit there, worrying. It’s been 3 years! I’m so afraid of failing and keep wasting time.
Any advice?
Thank you SO much for your extraordinary work.
6:16
O.K So I Decide To Do Shadow Work. And I Bring Up Buried Unhealed Wounds. Is Not Some Toxic Emotional Debris Also Going To Show Up? You Know Long Festering Hurts Are Not Going To Be Pleasant. (Not All Sunshine And Roses) So What If Those Around You Use That Against You. To Criticise, Judge, Reject And Condem You All Over Again. You Are Cherry Ripe For Some Invalidation Treatment. And You Feel Like You Made A Mistake To Want To Heal And You Want To Turn Back. I Mean Is There A Safe And Pleasant Way To Heal? So You Don't Scare The Horses.
You need a safe place to begin.
But what if your authentic self is selfish and not a nice person 🤷♀️ I guess I’m unsure who I am without being my people pleasing self cause when I try not to people please I get feedback I’m selfish
Ur amazing haha :))
💜💕🙏🏻
Please take a deep breath, calm down and slow your rate of speech. It's very stressful listening to you 😢 I didn't make it to the end
Maybe you should just watch it a few times to catch it all. I had to do the same
Ah! She's a spiritual coach, (New Age?) not a qualified therapist. Wish she lower her voice. I couldn't listen to all of it.
Glad I discovered your channel & your social platform 🤍💖