Point is you the girlfriend aren't going to be the one to heal him. Childhood trauma or not. For him to deal with those emotions in front of you (women) will change the relationship dynamic. Therapy from a pro not from an opinionated gf. Two unhealed ppl can't fix it, and won't be able to see the outside perspective without indirectly incorporating internal issues. Give the space 😌🙏🏾
@@ForrestMaris-xt5rxWhat I assume or think is non of your business. I’m entitled to what I say. Ppl are so weird on the internet . Go do something positive with your life.😂
Absolutely correct. I always got the " what are you thinking" all the time when I was dating my daughter's mom, as well as "how was work " when it's the same thing every day. It was like being interrogated by the cops. It was basically because I worked around women.
@@patricewilliams2998maybe he was dealing with childish delusional women like the women In the video who couldn't even shut up long enough for this fine queen to make her valid point 😂 Who wants to deal with a childish women like that who needs excessive attention like a child, then project and call the man childish for not talking to them when in reality he knows who he's dealing with so knows talking just gon lead to more bull, some people want communication but not mature enough to shut up long enough to actually listen and only listen to respond and not understand That is energy consuming to deal with when you have real bull going on in your life so makes perfect sense and man who can see all that coming rather side step it who wants to talk to someone who just going to bring more problems instead of solutions? Ain't nobody got time for all that 🥱
@@patricewilliams2998 you know you just contradicted yourself right? "Disrespect begets Disrespect" but then you tell them to respond to the Disrespect respectfully. 😂 this is why we don't listen to yall
Nah man, leaving your girl in the dark and not communicating 4 simple words “I need some space” isn’t understanding your man. It’s displaying poor communication skills.
Facts meanwhile chick in the background not listening to a the gems shawty dropping she listening to respond not to heard an gain understanding. What’s the point of having 2 ears if u not gon use em
@@jeremyhood1660 you didn’t watch and listen, she said why are you nagging him all day, saying why you are you quiet, you’re assuming this “man” in your head didn’t say i want space. Every man knows saying i want space doesn’t always work which is why the woman in this scenario is nagging ALL DAY. A woman’s duty is to cater and take care of her man, so she should already know my man just got off work lemme make sure the place is clean room looks and smells good, fresh meal made him, etc.. it’s common sense for a women who’ve been raised around women that know the root of a woman’s place to help guarantee a long lasting healthy relationship. A man shouldn’t be telling a woman how to be a woman. which is her point.
How about not date him. Relationships are about communication not ignoring the other person you are in a relationship with. Its not how men are wired it's how people who are scared some way angry some way hateful some way hurt some way etcetera. They don't need to be in a relationship definitely.
When you really know somebody sometime is not necessary to talk to understand him or her, some people don't like to talk to much because it's make them feel more emotional and it's just don't match with there personality, every relationship are differents@@QuantezWatts
@@QuantezWattsI don't necessarily disagree with what she said, but if she caveated this by saying "once he's ready, then he'll talk to you" then I'd completely agree. Maybe she does say that and the video cuts off. But if she didn't, then this just sounds like enabling men to not communicate and bottle everything up. Which is funny since a lot of them will complain that nobody cares about them or their problems. Yet when their lady shows any concern, now they're Nagging Nancys. Then again, this is the red pill community where these losers think sharing your problems with your woman will make her not respect you 😂
@@Vertekmaster I believe most men are crybabies and want everything in their lives to go how they want it to go and when it doesn't they lash out negatively or try to evade the conflicting issue. Not implying that I am %100 correct just what I've noticed my entire life and though I still sort of look like a teen I'm 39 years old. Society has made people spoiled crybabies in reference to relationships especially men I believe men just throw even more heartless ridiculous tantrums and most don't even understand that they've adopted it through monitoring or unknowingly interacting within social media or social influence.
That's the secret. Find a wife who has brothers. My wife has brothers as well. And that's exactly what it is. We always come talk eventually. When we are ready to talk. It's hard for a man to speak when we are furious. It takes time to decompress. And when we do. We come and talk. The best way I can describe it is the Hulk. We can't talk in Hulk mode. We gotta wait till Bruce Banner comes back.
That last part so true… and I’ve seen other people comment “ men want to be alone but we don’t want to be by ourselves” there’s time when I just wanna sit and be silent while I watch something or play a game but I’d still love for my girl to be there with me just while she does her own thing too..Shia said some shit like the ministry of presence sometimes is all someone needs
A lot of times with my wife I sit quietly thinking about things that have nothing to do with her, and her participation often times throws off how im navigating my thoughts. Lots of back and forth about this concept to the point I had to say. "Look you dont want me always participating in the kitchen while you cook right?, My thoughts are my kitchen." She got it at that point. 8years together.
How about not date him. Relationships are about communication not ignoring the other person you are in a relationship with. Its not how men are wired it's how people who are scared some way angry some way hateful some way hurt some way etcetera. They don't need to be in a relationship definitely.
@@QuantezWatts Yes it is. Men want peace when having dealt with stress or a busy work day. Women are the ones who want to talk about everything and their "feelings"! Give me two hours silence and peace and I'll talk to you when I'M READY!
@@eddiewinehosen6665 Speak for yourself first of all. You definitely are single and should be or deserve to be. Just because a person goes to work, has a stressful day, or does something during the day doesn't give them the right to ignore their significant other or furthermore nothing should make them even want to ignore their significant other. All women are different and a woman talking to you is usually her checking on your well-being somehow etcetera. Have fun being single.
@@QuantezWattsOh man, what they say is true. As a man, when I have a bad day, I try to take some time to calm down and relax my mind. I taught my wife that if she sees me calm, she will not talk to me. Rather, she will come to me calmly and sit in my lap unless I am ready for her. This is called emotional intelligence, and you need it in your relationship with your wife.
" I'll tell YOU when Im ready to come out of MY CAVE ". " Dont try and be a Bear Whisperer and THINK you can comprehend and try to poke me with a stick " - A Bear .
Not everything needs to be talked about. Silent is calming and relaxing, sometimes staying in the house quiet, is the most peaceful thing we can give to each other.Plus image how many people he had to talk to today at work, how many problems he had to solved. They need space, peace and good wholesome food and some affection. sometimes a late night sandwich.❤🙏🏾
I'm a woman but I am also like this. When I'm upset just leave me alone. I don't wanna talk I want space. A LOT of women have such a hard time just leaving you tf ALONE. Everything must be made about them especially if they are the one who pissed you off in the first place and if you get mad about it suddenly youre treating them badly and THEY are a victim.
@@ioo15yearsago57 why? What it is in you that must be mean? And saying that about yourself is defeatist, it suggests you believe it's something out of your control and will never change. No hate, tough love. Being mean isn't natural.
She's absolutely right, my man is a truck driver after driving from 12 to 14 hours, he still try to either play online games together or watch a really good show together, however always falls asleep so I whisper "I love you so much, goodnight "and hang up, I mean be understanding of their feelings too
I disagree, sometimes when I'm on the phone talking and get tired I start to fall asleep, I can still hear and remember but my response tends to come when I wake up. I'm sure he heard it and is now used to hearing it and it brings him comfort before he goes into deep sleep. I would really appreciate that type of sentiment. I'm usually remembering some kind of nagging question though instead of something affectionate...@@ThePeople-z9o
She is so speaking facts 💯 Let that man come to you when HE'S ready. We are supposed to make a safe place for him just as much as we want him to be our safe place. The girl in the background is exactly why men hate expressing themselves to us.
Men need time and introspection… no one is coming to save us or bail us out… sometimes we need quiet and focus to figure the best way out or through. Sis hit the nail on the head.
Facts...Thank you Queen for understanding that we sometimes need that time and space,not that we be pouting and acting childish. We just try to maintain our Sanity.(Speaking for myself)Winning Season...God bless you 🙏 Queen 😊
@sandirichard5461 NO OFFENSE, BUT DO YOU KNOW WHEN TO BE QUIET, ..... OR LEARN TO LISTEN AND LISTENING TO LEARN? HOW COULD YOU WHEN YOUR LOQUACIOUS OR VOLUBLE...?
I learned to let them be !! Dont add to what they already going through be their peace 💯 percent not they headache. I promise you ,you go find you some business around the house or make some dinner . Eventually he will come and vent to you in a very humbled way 🙏🏿 ❤ .
One person's comments hit it right on the nail head. Sometimes we just want to be left alone. But we don't want to be alone. Let us process. Men don't always talk about their problems. They think about it. Then we try to come up with solutions. The best thing a woman can do is allow us Men to be Men. Don't take it personally. But instead be supportive. Because at the end of the day. Every decision that we make. Is it in behalf of the people that we love. Because a real man is always putting the people that he love first So chill.
The worst situations are when a female tries to block a man from leaving the house when he's clearly angry or disappointed. Ladies, you must understand that a man has to sit and talk with himself before he can sit and have a talk with you.
Exactly. Especially if he's mad at her. He's more than likely trying to calm down first so he can have a rational conversation because he doesn't wanna go berserk on the Broad.
Men have a lot on their minds. So many are under such a heavy load. I’ve met so many men ( especially doing rideshare ) who were exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed and hurting. Just listening to them made my heart ache.❤️🌹
Women that want to be the men have no clue the dues that have to be paid , if they knew they wouldn't want to be equal. The world is rough on man- no breaks no sympathy and nobody coming to save a man
She's 100% cutting her off because they don't understand what she's trying to tell them and give them good information instead of bad if you've been getting them toxic information they would have yeah girl you right but she giving good info and they can't take it
Facts growing up my dad tried to make me me understand that expressing your feelings and talking about stuff is the best thing you can do especially with the woman your in a relationship with but I still find myself shutting myself out and not wanting to talk to people about my problems or what I’m feeling
Yes! Great communication is so key.. sometimes when you shut down and you don't want to talk.. it could be taken in the wrong way.. sometimes it's ok but all the times could be taken as careless or nonchalant.. in fact some people do it and use it as mental abuse.. ignoring their spouse to get out of something or to teach them a lesson.. because of the many reasons it could be, it is so important to keep God in your marriage.. he knows the things unspoken and he sees the hurt that's unnoticed.. he'll bring you together and make everything make sense 😊
Love her message. It’s exactly what we need sometimes. Just to be left alone for a few tics. Trying to pressure us to talk about it only compounds the frustration. Just give us the space we need or try another method of comforting that doesn’t involve asking us what’s wrong.
Me and my woman practice full transparency. We are always being vulnerable and expressing our boundaries and letting each other know where our energy is at so we know how to treat each other . And part of that is in fact space to feel our emotions and articulate how we feel . And while we wait for that to happen we cater to each others needs . But we are a rare breed in the relationship world
Sounds like a woman who has already failed but is wise enough to learn from her mistakes or the mistakes of others. A big part is listening and actually acting on what was said.
That's mainly what the alone time is for, at least for me, to wind down so i can talk about it later and have a calm and understanding mind when we talk
When a man is comfortable and ready to talk to you, he’s gonna talk to you. It’s not your job to force him to communicate when YOU want him to. Be patient, and bring him peace in the meantime. Sometimes you get what you want faster that way, rather than just nagging and being annoying. It’s that simple.
Women rarely feel the weight of the world in the way men do. Men are wired to perform that mental meditation while we digest the information, situation, etc. We need that time to get our sh together, formulate a plan, and muster up the courage to face it. And it doesn't have to be a major episode in life, we could just be digesting last week's episode of The Boys. Either way, let us be quiet.
What?? Lies! Women go thru alot too. Do yoh understand that the female is stronger of both sexes. Women have monthly menstrual cycles accompanied with cramps. She still goes to work with it, grocery shop, cook clean, take care of the kids, even while sick with the flu and etc. We push out humans. When a man is sick, he acts like a damn baby. He can't do shit for himself. I absolutely hate that these young girls and women are being programmed to believe that they can't have an opinion or voice anything, for fear that she may upset him or push him away. First of all, it's not just how they're wired! Oftentimes, it has alot to do with how they were raised, been exposed to as a child. Stop coddling these got damn boys/men. Live your life and dont get involved with an emotional immature unattached man!!! I feel sorry for women like this.
@SupaStar100 Didn't say it was easy, just said it was different...women have the golden parachute if things go wrong...men...there will always be advocacy groups and/or men available to save you. There are no saviors for men. That's a different sort of weight when life gets real.
She's spitting facts ladies. We Men are not built the same as you. Silence is integral to our beingness. Trying to force us to "open" up is not the move.
When my wife is mad at me she stops talking. When I'm mad at her I stop talking . It bothers her for me to stay quiet when I'm the playful one . When she's quiet I usually know why . My wife will come up to me kiss me and say she's sorry .. sometimes all that does is make it worse because I know it's not sincere. Let us both sit in silence so we don't try to wreck each other's ego and pride trying to prove who's right.
Honestly she gave women the cheat code to ME not even going to say every man. But if I'm quiet like I tend to get at times and my lady comes up and starts rubbing my feet . I don't think I'd ever let her go especially if she knows how to give me my space she's my queen.
It’s best to just leave us alone. Don’t try and pry into our heads. Keep pushing and something that has nothing to do “with you” might become “all about you”.
I tried doing this & was constantly rejected.. Just to find out it wasn't me. His problems were deeper than what I could help him with 🤦🏽♀️ even though I was hurt in the process, I pray for his healing..
@@rashadbey359 Remember the women that really don’t care about men will always reveal themselves. The misandrist in them won’t give them peace unless they reveal the deeply innate hate for any boy or man or male’s in general that they have.
She understands the difference between a man being quiet because he was taught that showing emotion is weak and a man who just needs his space. Well said
Men are directly taught no such thing. It’s indirectly learned through observing how women react to emotion in men and how they will ultimately use it against them. EVERY man I’ve ever spoken to about this has learned the hard way.
I agree on both ends if I ask and he doesn’t want to talk I give him his space. If you don’t ask they say you don’t care🤷♀️. I do the same I like my quiet time it keeps me at peace.😊 I think it’s the timing and the way you approach the situation.
That lady n the backround is the prime example of what she talking about 🔥🔥💯
Right!!
Also not everything stems from childhood like background chick was implying
🎯🎯🎯🎯 Exactly stfu!!! She talking... just rude
Fr, u can really hear the rocks in her head when she talks
Point is you the girlfriend aren't going to be the one to heal him. Childhood trauma or not. For him to deal with those emotions in front of you (women) will change the relationship dynamic. Therapy from a pro not from an opinionated gf. Two unhealed ppl can't fix it, and won't be able to see the outside perspective without indirectly incorporating internal issues. Give the space 😌🙏🏾
😂🤦🏽♂️
She knows, she understands. You can tell she was raised by a great father!🙌🏾
Don't assume that it's gross
Well, she's not black, so yes, you are probably right. Her father was probably present in her life.
Well, she's not black, so yes, you are probably right. Her father was probably present in her life.
@@ForrestMaris-xt5rxWhat I assume or think is non of your business. I’m entitled to what I say. Ppl are so weird on the internet . Go do something positive with your life.😂
@@JustinWaddy-vc4miOf course. I really appreciate the positive comment. I can’t stand these keyboard warriors!
“Rub my feet” and “Sit on my lap while playing a game” would definitely make me feel better if i’m down 🎯💯🎯
Nah really tho
Siting on my lap while I'm playing madden will fuck me up
Nah don’t sit on my lap while I’m playing the game.
😂or JuZ🧠that would B totally fine🤣
Absolutely
Women can't stand silence but men need it
I think that's a lot more true than we even know 🥱
FACTS
Absolutely correct. I always got the " what are you thinking" all the time when I was dating my daughter's mom, as well as "how was work " when it's the same thing every day. It was like being interrogated by the cops. It was basically because I worked around women.
Can't even debate this fact of life if they wanted to.
Women better learn to respect it
“Men want to be alone,
But we don’t want to be by ourselves.”
-Patrice O’Neal
The original Godfather of the redpill!
No, when I want my space, I want my space alone 😂😂 like no one can hear me when I start talking to myself alone
Black Phillip 🙌
"You could be around, like... hiding in the vents or something"
Dang it, I wanted to lettem know they could be in the vent lol @@Tj_1988
She not only Spoke on it.... she gave Alternatives and Solutions!👑💯👑
#SALUTE 🫡
Preach and Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤
Bullshit, she can't CHANGE that man. That's the problem. She ain't spoke on shit....don't rub my feet and I don't play games.
.....and that's how teachers should teach.
I was constantly disrespected and I didn't have anything nice to say in return so exercised my right to remain silent 😔
Leaving will do more talking than anything that comes out your mouth anyway
Disrespect begets. Disrespect. Learn how to communicate without being nasty.
You should have left her a** instead of continuing to put up with her BS and disrespect.
@@patricewilliams2998maybe he was dealing with childish delusional women like the women In the video who couldn't even shut up long enough for this fine queen to make her valid point 😂
Who wants to deal with a childish women like that who needs excessive attention like a child, then project and call the man childish for not talking to them when in reality he knows who he's dealing with so knows talking just gon lead to more bull, some people want communication but not mature enough to shut up long enough to actually listen and only listen to respond and not understand
That is energy consuming to deal with when you have real bull going on in your life so makes perfect sense and man who can see all that coming rather side step it who wants to talk to someone who just going to bring more problems instead of solutions? Ain't nobody got time for all that 🥱
@@patricewilliams2998 you know you just contradicted yourself right? "Disrespect begets Disrespect" but then you tell them to respond to the Disrespect respectfully. 😂 this is why we don't listen to yall
A woman who can keep a man’s peace is priceless
Preach 🙏🏽
Thank you 🙏🏻
Amen!!!!
and rare.
WORD!!!👏👏👏🖒
Protect this woman at all cost.
She droppin gems and they still wanna back talk.
The incessant nonsensical balk talk....
They're making her case. They're the t type of women she's talking about!😂😂
Preach and Facts 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤
She actually took time to understand men💯🙏🏾#BlessHerSoul
Nah man, leaving your girl in the dark and not communicating 4 simple words “I need some space” isn’t understanding your man. It’s displaying poor communication skills.
@@jeremyhood1660Listen to this pick me 🤣
She did bro you right ‼️ Most don’t
Facts meanwhile chick in the background not listening to a the gems shawty dropping she listening to respond not to heard an gain understanding. What’s the point of having 2 ears if u not gon use em
@@jeremyhood1660 you didn’t watch and listen, she said why are you nagging him all day, saying why you are you quiet, you’re assuming this “man” in your head didn’t say i want space. Every man knows saying i want space doesn’t always work which is why the woman in this scenario is nagging ALL DAY. A woman’s duty is to cater and take care of her man, so she should already know my man just got off work lemme make sure the place is clean room looks and smells good, fresh meal made him, etc.. it’s common sense for a women who’ve been raised around women that know the root of a woman’s place to help guarantee a long lasting healthy relationship. A man shouldn’t be telling a woman how to be a woman. which is her point.
Silence goes a long way with a guy who's deep in thought
Ain’t nothing worse than trying to think through some plans or some potential problems and ya lady pestering you with a bunch of questions.
Amen
She spoke some bars." They need their space. They dont always want you in their fucking face". Facts.
Ya 'erd
How about not date him. Relationships are about communication not ignoring the other person you are in a relationship with. Its not how men are wired it's how people who are scared some way angry some way hateful some way hurt some way etcetera. They don't need to be in a relationship definitely.
When you really know somebody sometime is not necessary to talk to understand him or her, some people don't like to talk to much because it's make them feel more emotional and it's just don't match with there personality, every relationship are differents@@QuantezWatts
@@QuantezWattsI don't necessarily disagree with what she said, but if she caveated this by saying "once he's ready, then he'll talk to you" then I'd completely agree.
Maybe she does say that and the video cuts off. But if she didn't, then this just sounds like enabling men to not communicate and bottle everything up. Which is funny since a lot of them will complain that nobody cares about them or their problems. Yet when their lady shows any concern, now they're Nagging Nancys.
Then again, this is the red pill community where these losers think sharing your problems with your woman will make her not respect you 😂
@@Vertekmaster I believe most men are crybabies and want everything in their lives to go how they want it to go and when it doesn't they lash out negatively or try to evade the conflicting issue. Not implying that I am %100 correct just what I've noticed my entire life and though I still sort of look like a teen I'm 39 years old. Society has made people spoiled crybabies in reference to relationships especially men I believe men just throw even more heartless ridiculous tantrums and most don't even understand that they've adopted it through monitoring or unknowingly interacting within social media or social influence.
Growing up with brothers, I learned this quickly. I offer favorite food, hugs and space.
That's the secret. Find a wife who has brothers. My wife has brothers as well. And that's exactly what it is. We always come talk eventually. When we are ready to talk. It's hard for a man to speak when we are furious. It takes time to decompress. And when we do. We come and talk. The best way I can describe it is the Hulk. We can't talk in Hulk mode. We gotta wait till Bruce Banner comes back.
@@therealsyxx Beautifully Stated!!!
Tay, You are an Angel Of Mercy…
@@therealsyxx real
@@chuckblue4632 all Tays are. She reminds me of it's Tay Tay baybee
That last part so true… and I’ve seen other people comment “ men want to be alone but we don’t want to be by ourselves” there’s time when I just wanna sit and be silent while I watch something or play a game but I’d still love for my girl to be there with me just while she does her own thing too..Shia said some shit like the ministry of presence sometimes is all someone needs
A lot of times with my wife I sit quietly thinking about things that have nothing to do with her, and her participation often times throws off how im navigating my thoughts. Lots of back and forth about this concept to the point I had to say. "Look you dont want me always participating in the kitchen while you cook right?, My thoughts are my kitchen." She got it at that point. 8years together.
God bless you guys
💯💯💯
🔥 analogy and 🔥 couple 👑👑🫡 best of luck! I believe I just found My ForLifer 🗣️💯👑🧘🏽♂️✅
I’ve looked at it that way before but never tried to express it and communicate it to someone else like that
Good communication skills are SO key! Good on y'all for gettin' 'It'.
A woman that all men need ❤❤❤❤
Facts
Well said, she must be protected at all costs! 🙏🏽
The only kind of woman men need 👌🏾.
All those women are long gone, they're in relationships already and your never gonna see em online
Big facts 💯
Smart lady. Someone is lucky to have her. God bless her.
She's attractive but because she's speaking facts she's beautiful!❤
FACTS
Exactly sista! Thank you! Exactly how I feel! She said it perfectly! We need more women like this with this mindset!
This lady understood the assignment. Much respect
She giving them gems, and they just wanna talk they way out of a blessing.
Well said. Even the fool is considered wise when he is silent when the time calls for it.
She nailed it . 10000% where is full video pls
She a real one for this.
How about not date him. Relationships are about communication not ignoring the other person you are in a relationship with. Its not how men are wired it's how people who are scared some way angry some way hateful some way hurt some way etcetera. They don't need to be in a relationship definitely.
@@QuantezWatts Yes it is. Men want peace when having dealt with stress or a busy work day. Women are the ones who want to talk about everything and their "feelings"! Give me two hours silence and peace and I'll talk to you when I'M READY!
@@eddiewinehosen6665 Speak for yourself first of all. You definitely are single and should be or deserve to be. Just because a person goes to work, has a stressful day, or does something during the day doesn't give them the right to ignore their significant other or furthermore nothing should make them even want to ignore their significant other. All women are different and a woman talking to you is usually her checking on your well-being somehow etcetera. Have fun being single.
@@QuantezWattsOh man, what they say is true. As a man, when I have a bad day, I try to take some time to calm down and relax my mind. I taught my wife that if she sees me calm, she will not talk to me. Rather, she will come to me calmly and sit in my lap unless I am ready for her. This is called emotional intelligence, and you need it in your relationship with your wife.
" I'll tell YOU when Im ready to come out of MY CAVE ". " Dont try and be a Bear Whisperer and THINK you can comprehend and try to poke me with a stick " - A Bear .
A Bear = Me
Man or the bear
@@tentaplayz3691I choose bear because men are scary 🤓
@VloneKid25 Yeah, scary until you need some d$ck, attention, and provision.
Golden quote of all male lead relationships.
"that just how they're wired" FACTS
Yo this sista needs to be protected at all costs.
Fax💯
CAN THEY CLONE THIS WOMAN SO WE CAN HAVE A WOMAN LIKE HER
BIG FACTS BRO!!
Yeah. My son needs a wife.
@@suped1981 🤣🤣🤣🤣 YOU FEEL WHUT IM SAYIN DAWG🫵🏿
Who is she?
@@sowhat... LISTEN TO WHAT SHE SAID
Thank you finally someone took the time out to understand us, give her her flowers 🌷🌹 and crown her 👑💖🙏🏾
Listen to this sister has given women the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
@@richardhadley2195 No
Not everything needs to be talked about. Silent is calming and relaxing, sometimes staying in the house quiet, is the most peaceful thing we can give to each other.Plus image how many people he had to talk to today at work, how many problems he had to solved. They need space, peace and good wholesome food and some affection. sometimes a late night sandwich.❤🙏🏾
physical beauty topped with that emotional intelligence is what every man wants
I'm a woman but I am also like this. When I'm upset just leave me alone. I don't wanna talk I want space. A LOT of women have such a hard time just leaving you tf ALONE. Everything must be made about them especially if they are the one who pissed you off in the first place and if you get mad about it suddenly youre treating them badly and THEY are a victim.
Same
Damn victimhood NPC's
Especially if I start speaking imma say something I dont mean
Man if this ain’t my gf 😂
@@ioo15yearsago57 why? What it is in you that must be mean? And saying that about yourself is defeatist, it suggests you believe it's something out of your control and will never change. No hate, tough love. Being mean isn't natural.
She's absolutely right, my man is a truck driver after driving from 12 to 14 hours, he still try to either play online games together or watch a really good show together, however always falls asleep so I whisper "I love you so much, goodnight "and hang up, I mean be understanding of their feelings too
I promise he didn’t hear you sis 😂
@@ThePeople-z9o I promise he did sister, for he said it back as he always do
Go bless both you & your man sister. This is amazing to read. A woman who understands how to love a man, is a gift from God. 🙏🏾
Based off what you wrote, he’s his own man.
I disagree, sometimes when I'm on the phone talking and get tired I start to fall asleep, I can still hear and remember but my response tends to come when I wake up. I'm sure he heard it and is now used to hearing it and it brings him comfort before he goes into deep sleep. I would really appreciate that type of sentiment. I'm usually remembering some kind of nagging question though instead of something affectionate...@@ThePeople-z9o
She is so speaking facts 💯 Let that man come to you when HE'S ready. We are supposed to make a safe place for him just as much as we want him to be our safe place. The girl in the background is exactly why men hate expressing themselves to us.
Men need time and introspection… no one is coming to save us or bail us out… sometimes we need quiet and focus to figure the best way out or through. Sis hit the nail on the head.
Facts...Thank you Queen for understanding that we sometimes need that time and space,not that we be pouting and acting childish. We just try to maintain our Sanity.(Speaking for myself)Winning Season...God bless you 🙏 Queen 😊
You can tell she been around her father a lot ❤ she understand very well about men’s mental health.
A talkative person can't relate to a person that don't gossip blessings
I’m loquacious but I’m not a gossip. They’re not synonymous.❤
@sandirichard5461 NO OFFENSE, BUT DO YOU KNOW WHEN TO BE QUIET, ..... OR LEARN TO LISTEN AND LISTENING TO LEARN? HOW COULD YOU WHEN YOUR LOQUACIOUS OR VOLUBLE...?
@@BayouBarbie504lo what?😭
@@tentaplayz3691just look it up lil bro, google is not hard to navigate
This woman is 100% correct protect this woman at all costs👍👍👍👍👍
She is fine and smart
😂😂😂😂 that was a good laugh
@@elevatedgame3016no, you’re the joke if you think she isn’t well above average in both categories.
@@elevatedgame3016 what's funny?
Facts. Beautiful…
Who is she? I’m tryna find out lol
She is absolutely correct. Give him some space, and give him lots of love.❤❤❤❤❤
Wow it’s crazy how simple it is sometimes and this WOMAN just hit it 🎯
A woman that actually understands something about men instead of rambling about what they think they know. A rare gem indeed.💯❤️
A woman that gets it! 👍
The Woman in this video is speaking straight Facts about this for real 🏆🐐🎯🙏❤
PREACH. Men actually say a lot when they are quiet. Respect his space and recognize his and your boundaries.
The woman at the end said “well look at children” 😅 she wasn’t understanding the knowledge being dropped
She didn't want to understand
She was tryna find ways to exclude her significant other from it. "Well he had a good childhood so all of this excludes him"
Sometimes I just wonder if they want babes to raise and seek it through a man. And conflate every thing a man does is comparable to a child.
It seemed like she was unwilling to accept it. It didn't fit in her worldview, so she deemed it unhealthy and wrong.
This is the woman a man needs meanwhile the girl that is trying to over talk her is the problem.💯
If he is playing a game.......STAY OFF DA LAP!!! 😂
She was doing well lol
IDK about that. Depends on the game lol. If she aint careful she's getting that "ring ding ding I kill the pussy like she a rookie" type shit lol.
If she sits on my lap, I'm gonna save the game. Then SHE is gonna be the game. 😂
A woman must learn what save points are
It depends... If we just doing nothing on the game then ass cheeks on our lap definitely won't bother us. If we doing something serious tho then dont
Sheesh shout out to you and your mind and other women that feel the same way 💯 big facts.
I learned to let them be !! Dont add to what they already going through be their peace 💯 percent not they headache. I promise you ,you go find you some business around the house or make some dinner . Eventually he will come and vent to you in a very humbled way 🙏🏿 ❤ .
@@sandrajohnson8227 I strongly agree
OMG!!!! Thank you! This is so true
100000%
She knows whats up .. i love her attitude and everything
One person's comments hit it right on the nail head.
Sometimes we just want to be left alone. But we don't want to be alone.
Let us process.
Men don't always talk about their problems.
They think about it.
Then we try to come up with solutions.
The best thing a woman can do is allow us Men to be Men.
Don't take it personally.
But instead be supportive.
Because at the end of the day. Every decision that we make. Is it in behalf of the people that we love.
Because a real man is always putting the people that he love first
So chill.
She right! Quiet with action and less mind games
The worst situations are when a female tries to block a man from leaving the house when he's clearly angry or disappointed. Ladies, you must understand that a man has to sit and talk with himself before he can sit and have a talk with you.
Exactly. Especially if he's mad at her. He's more than likely trying to calm down first so he can have a rational conversation because he doesn't wanna go berserk on the Broad.
i love you for saying this.. , like you really know how men are for real for real.
Men have a lot on their minds. So many are under such a heavy load. I’ve met so many men ( especially doing rideshare ) who were exhausted, overwhelmed, stressed and hurting. Just listening to them made my heart ache.❤️🌹
Women that want to be the men have no clue the dues that have to be paid , if they knew they wouldn't want to be equal. The world is rough on man- no breaks no sympathy and nobody coming to save a man
This Is A Treasure! She "GETS IT", Men Function Different Than Women And They Simply Don't Wish To Believe This. I'm With This Young Lady 100%
If you make a man feel comfortable..even if he doesn't wanna talk he will eventually open up if you provide a calm and open space for him to do so
She's 100% cutting her off because they don't understand what she's trying to tell them and give them good information instead of bad if you've been getting them toxic information they would have yeah girl you right but she giving good info and they can't take it
Yep! 💯
Facts
Facts growing up my dad tried to make me me understand that expressing your feelings and talking about stuff is the best thing you can do especially with the woman your in a relationship with but I still find myself shutting myself out and not wanting to talk to people about my problems or what I’m feeling
Yes! Great communication is so key.. sometimes when you shut down and you don't want to talk.. it could be taken in the wrong way.. sometimes it's ok but all the times could be taken as careless or nonchalant.. in fact some people do it and use it as mental abuse.. ignoring their spouse to get out of something or to teach them a lesson.. because of the many reasons it could be, it is so important to keep God in your marriage.. he knows the things unspoken and he sees the hurt that's unnoticed.. he'll bring you together and make everything make sense 😊
I wish I could like your comment a thousand times 😊❤
The one in the background is the classic example of" listening to respond,instead of listening to learn"
Love her message. It’s exactly what we need sometimes. Just to be left alone for a few tics. Trying to pressure us to talk about it only compounds the frustration. Just give us the space we need or try another method of comforting that doesn’t involve asking us what’s wrong.
The fact shes advocating for men is beautiful, her character is everything . Very intelligent woman
Me and my woman practice full transparency. We are always being vulnerable and expressing our boundaries and letting each other know where our energy is at so we know how to treat each other .
And part of that is in fact space to feel our emotions and articulate how we feel . And while we wait for that to happen we cater to each others needs .
But we are a rare breed in the relationship world
Sounds like a woman who has already failed but is wise enough to learn from her mistakes or the mistakes of others. A big part is listening and actually acting on what was said.
She definitely has a point; … however as men we still need to actively learn to communicate better if were to have meaningful in depth relationships
probably one of the best responses in this comment section cuz alot of people mostly men be projecting
This cannot be stressed enough! Each have to find that balance and give each other that respect.
That's mainly what the alone time is for, at least for me, to wind down so i can talk about it later and have a calm and understanding mind when we talk
When a man is comfortable and ready to talk to you, he’s gonna talk to you. It’s not your job to force him to communicate when YOU want him to. Be patient, and bring him peace in the meantime. Sometimes you get what you want faster that way, rather than just nagging and being annoying. It’s that simple.
I’d marry that woman rn. She understands and that’s really all we ask as men.
Women rarely feel the weight of the world in the way men do.
Men are wired to perform that mental meditation while we digest the information, situation, etc. We need that time to get our sh together, formulate a plan, and muster up the courage to face it.
And it doesn't have to be a major episode in life, we could just be digesting last week's episode of The Boys.
Either way, let us be quiet.
What?? Lies! Women go thru alot too.
Do yoh understand that the female is stronger of both sexes. Women have monthly menstrual cycles accompanied with cramps. She still goes to work with it, grocery shop, cook clean, take care of the kids, even while sick with the flu and etc. We push out humans. When a man is sick, he acts like a damn baby. He can't do shit for himself. I absolutely hate that these young girls and women are being programmed to believe that they can't have an opinion or voice anything, for fear that she may upset him or push him away. First of all, it's not just how they're wired! Oftentimes, it has alot to do with how they were raised, been exposed to as a child. Stop coddling these got damn boys/men.
Live your life and dont get involved with an emotional immature unattached man!!! I feel sorry for women like this.
This so accurate
This is the truth.
Untrue! Being a woman is not a cake walk. We just make it look easier than it is.
@SupaStar100
Didn't say it was easy, just said it was different...women have the golden parachute if things go wrong...men...there will always be advocacy groups and/or men available to save you.
There are no saviors for men. That's a different sort of weight when life gets real.
She's spitting facts ladies.
We Men are not built the same as you. Silence is integral to our beingness. Trying to force us to "open" up is not the move.
Damn she real asf, where can i find a woman like her ?
This is a beautiful and intellectual woman. This is what we men need and would do everything for.
When my wife is mad at me she stops talking. When I'm mad at her I stop talking . It bothers her for me to stay quiet when I'm the playful one . When she's quiet I usually know why . My wife will come up to me kiss me and say she's sorry .. sometimes all that does is make it worse because I know it's not sincere. Let us both sit in silence so we don't try to wreck each other's ego and pride trying to prove who's right.
You're more worried about your pride and ego. No wonder you have a shit relationship.
Honestly she gave women the cheat code to ME not even going to say every man. But if I'm quiet like I tend to get at times and my lady comes up and starts rubbing my feet . I don't think I'd ever let her go especially if she knows how to give me my space she's my queen.
This is the woman every man need
It’s best to just leave us alone. Don’t try and pry into our heads. Keep pushing and something that has nothing to do “with you” might become “all about you”.
She cracked the code
She exactly knows what men need and how to respect them
Wise woman beyond her years, smart with beauty.
This girl really knows what tha fuck she talkin about bro for real for real
This is a "REAL WOMAN". Thank you Lord for blessing me with one just like this.❤❤❤❤❤
This is the kind of woman we want, she so smart💯
My Ex used to use me being quiet to start arguments I'm glad I walked away from her bs
She understands us men she a rare breed
Every man ain’t the same. Some just talk too much about any and everything!
You don’t even gotta rub my feet. You can just sit there, and show me you see me. You feel me.
Pure truth I'm a talkative but never really talk-active, the talker me only comes out while I'm stressed talking is a good stress reliever
Daaamn!!!!! THANK YOU!!!!! This woman is a treasure.
Preach My Sister..PEACE & LOVE....
I tried doing this & was constantly rejected.. Just to find out it wasn't me. His problems were deeper than what I could help him with 🤦🏽♀️ even though I was hurt in the process, I pray for his healing..
Its rare for a woman to look AND think so good
She is the one im looking for
Her friend talking is the ones we get
I think a lot of females need to watch this video it's facts straight fire 🔥
She is correct ive been married for 28 years together 32
Congratulations I've been married two and together four. You and yours keep the love strong.
Can’t ask for peace and cause chaos.
Random ahh comment
I agree. Women do cause chaos.
@@rashadbey359 Remember the women that really don’t care about men will always reveal themselves. The misandrist in them won’t give them peace unless they reveal the deeply innate hate for any boy or man or male’s in general that they have.
@@rashadbey359but hes so true ngl
A man that wants peace never creates chaos
Somebody's lucky to have her in their life 🙏🏾
She understands the difference between a man being quiet because he was taught that showing emotion is weak and a man who just needs his space. Well said
Men are directly taught no such thing. It’s indirectly learned through observing how women react to emotion in men and how they will ultimately use it against them. EVERY man I’ve ever spoken to about this has learned the hard way.
This woman must be protected at all costs!❤
white knight simping at it's best
I agree on both ends if I ask and he doesn’t want to talk I give him his space. If you don’t ask they say you don’t care🤷♀️. I do the same I like my quiet time it keeps me at peace.😊 I think it’s the timing and the way you approach the situation.
This goes for anything, a lot of the time no one cares about what you say, it's all about how you say it
Preserve this woman at all cost!