“historically, poor people have always imitated the fashion of the rich. But because your socioeconomic status comes preloaded with specific cultural, stylistic and taste based contours, poor people always wore rich clothes wrong. The colours got louder and the labels more pronounced. Fashion became a way to display wealth for people who didn’t really have it, driven by a deep seated impulse to prove to everyone you made it out of the hood. So when gucci became ghetto, the rich had to switch up their styles again, to protect themselves from appearing cringe. So the rich, for the first time ever, became demure and differential to differentiate themselves from the great unwashed. Being demure became the new form of performative status denial” This part really struck me as great writing
"With the separation of church and state and the emergence of quasi-religious mother figures like Taylor Swift an Ru Paul, morality got decentralized, now instead of having one divine entirety, we have multiple divas shouting their user commandments at us all at the same time."
It is endlessly interesting to see the same reoccurring behaviors, habits, attitudes, and mentalities be expressed and named in new unforseen ways generation after generation. I wonder what the behavior of "being demure" will be labeled in a decade+.
Well you don’t win a prize for burying your head in the sand it’s not a flex to be close minded. Plus your commenting on a video on a social media platform so I think you do understand a lot
You had me googling ‘performative status denial’ like it was a real sociological term ffs. About time people start quoting your videos in their PhDs like an academic
thanks for enlightening me, as I'm realizing I am indeed "old" and pop references are slipping away like sand from my palm, leaving me alone with a feeling of wonder and sorrow.
I didn't even know such word as 'demure' existed. So huge respect to Frankie - it seems that he can allow himself to be, at least to some degree, immersed in the current and latest social-media-driven issues present at the boundary between individuum and society, without any hindrance to the mental fortitude required to obtain the original, removed and distanced bird's-eye point of view.
Trying to be Demure in Oxford Witnesses gave a description of Frankie being the total opposite of demure after five hours in the "The Four Candles" Wetherspoons in Oxford city centre. "I blame the intemperance and my impression of Borachio, That caused me to somersault out of the premises at 1:15 a.m. I thought I could have turned down the free Jägerbombs and bottles of Desperados, but I was too polite to refuse."
right now, for me, this is the best channel on YT. you sir, are a genius. the writing is brilliant. just shared on FB. 67 here, in northern california.
an old boss of mine went on to work on metallica's tour after his business went to shit, he said it was exciting for a short time but then it became group therapy style drinking sessions with the other lorry drivers, all sorts of "why are you moving your leg like that?", got a bit much for him...
I’m wayyyyyyyyy outside the age group who may be doing this. This is the weirdest understanding of demure I’ve ever heard. Like, not being seen or taking pics / videos of yourself or participating online would be the most demure you could be. I was in secondary school in the 80s (talk about weird), so no shade here. Good video, fascinating.
"Demure" is simply a Gen Z/Gen Alpha aesthetic that is understated, and like the video said "a heteronormative reconfiguration". It's importance is that it's redefining casual and semi-casual wear in the mid 2020's to finally form an abrupt difference in fashion eras. The last big fashion era was 2015 to 2024. Now it will be 2024-future. Demure is a rejection of wild and daring style, much like the 1980's completely clawed back the wild fashion of the 1970's. "If I saw someone in bright retro neon of the Covid era right now, that wouldn't be very Demure. It would give me 'the ick' and be giving desperate..."
Idk what it is about this guy, is it his overanxious attempts to employ dead pan humor or am I just enjoying the candid temper tantrums mid monologue? Either way, this is premium spectrum content. Bravo sir.
Hey, i learned a new word! 🎉 Thanks, and please do more of these! ❤ Edit; Hey, i watched this video x2 and i learned even more about this word! 🤩 Edit#2; Hey, i watched this video x3 now and I’m learning more and more about ‘Demure’ … i’m also starting to realize Frankie’s state is rather demure in itself, whilst on the other hand i’d have to confess ; my own state might be best described by using an antonym of ‘Demure’ 😅
Iki is the demure of whatever-century Japan. The rising middle-class was banned from wearing china silk and brash colors of the noble classes. So they wore Sad Beige Mom, and raw silk, in weights that were more expensive than satin, but looked like peasant linen.
Demure I know, deless I understand.
underrated
FOR THE WIN
Boo. Boo I say. Boo.
"That's no longer nonchalant, that's chalant." - pure poetry
true wordsmith hahaha
Now I wonder what "mure" means.
“historically, poor people have always imitated the fashion of the rich. But because your socioeconomic status comes preloaded with specific cultural, stylistic and taste based contours, poor people always wore rich clothes wrong. The colours got louder and the labels more pronounced. Fashion became a way to display wealth for people who didn’t really have it, driven by a deep seated impulse to prove to everyone you made it out of the hood. So when gucci became ghetto, the rich had to switch up their styles again, to protect themselves from appearing cringe. So the rich, for the first time ever, became demure and differential to differentiate themselves from the great unwashed. Being demure became the new form of performative status denial”
This part really struck me as great writing
Very demure
deferential*
"There is nothing more deceitful than the appearance of humility". Jane Austen.
i’m humble af
Perfect Jane Austen quote as this was filmed in Bath, England
I’ll Google it … I’ve always known it to be true of myself and have articulated it with councillors but no one understanding me
The quiet ones are always the worst!
"Performative Status Denial"
*chef's kiss*
that was so good
frankie getting real with this one
"Demure" sounds like an adult website category tag...
sounds like a cheese or yogurt or something... "mmm, its dem-ure"
@meskahmusic Are there any demure porn films or pictures? What exactly would that look like and what would one imagine under this category?
You're just pornbrained buddy
lots of kissing and missionary - very vanilla, very pure
Sounds like the manure
The framing and setting of these shots and “extras” is brilliant.
Trinity College, Dublin , Iveagh Gardens (formerly UCD, Earlsfort Terrace and Oxford...
"With the separation of church and state and the emergence of quasi-religious mother figures like Taylor Swift an Ru Paul, morality got decentralized, now instead of having one divine entirety, we have multiple divas shouting their user commandments at us all at the same time."
What?
@@sempi8159 th-cam.com/video/0szxT756ID8/w-d-xo.html
@@sempi8159 04:26
brilliant isn't it
Taylor swift and rupaul way better spiritual figures than pope francis so im glad we finally switching for the better, after 2k years of horror
The music is amazing. Very special composition
thank you! I made it an hour ago 🙃
Thanks for explaining demure, i was living under a rock
The vast majority of people over the age of 20 don't follow dumb Internet trends.
Thanks for mentioning rock, I was living under demure.
I hope it’s a nice rock.
Say hi to the bugs for me
@@tiotom9217 i am not even 20....i am 17 lol
"only a tiktok trend could mobilize us enough to care about anyone other than us" word
So the new demure, is giving the appearance of being unremarkable in a manner that suggests your exceptionalness.
welcome back James Joyce
That "like them" as the people politley avoided breaking the shot was truly adorable
Thank you. I am enriched, edified and emboldened. On to winter.
🔥
This was surprisingly very stimulating for the pleasure and humor centers of my brain
Surgical precision with these descriptions and analyses, respect
This ‘comedy’ is quickly becoming some of the best intellectual material on TH-cam. Bravo man!
Man this is so well written, such good, on point ideas
It is endlessly interesting to see the same reoccurring behaviors, habits, attitudes, and mentalities be expressed and named in new unforseen ways generation after generation. I wonder what the behavior of "being demure" will be labeled in a decade+.
He is so spot on to a terrifyingly accurate level.
The emotions you put into every scene really speak to me. Its like i can feel what youre feeling
In order to obtain true freedom and understanding one must embrace both the brat and the demure within themselves
Embrace? How about just getting it out of oneself. That's not a real self.
So, the mure is the debrat?
I dont understand how social media works and i do not want to know
Well you don’t win a prize for burying your head in the sand it’s not a flex to be close minded. Plus your commenting on a video on a social media platform so I think you do understand a lot
@@Glissycat *you're
It’s better off this way. You’re cooler for not knowing.
Think of drones in an ant colony but instead of chemical scents they use tik tok.
@@Glissycat Look at you
There’s talent right there. Great writing and social commentary. Hard work has gone into this.
Couldn't agree more
You had me googling ‘performative status denial’ like it was a real sociological term ffs. About time people start quoting your videos in their PhDs like an academic
It is now...
Per formative status denial = slumming
@@boyruns me lowkey (I live in my art studio)
thanks for enlightening me, as I'm realizing I am indeed "old" and pop references are slipping away like sand from my palm, leaving me alone with a feeling of wonder and sorrow.
I didn't even know such word as 'demure' existed. So huge respect to Frankie - it seems that he can allow himself to be, at least to some degree, immersed in the current and latest social-media-driven issues present at the boundary between individuum and society, without any hindrance to the mental fortitude required to obtain the original, removed and distanced bird's-eye point of view.
The proclaimed demure is both demure and non-demure until the views are counted
Schrodinger's demure?
At the gates of the afterlife, Anubis will weigh the demure of your soul
I thought that's what kids just called Demi Moore these days, to save time! I am so emberrassed
This is one of the best in the series, not demure, yet very mindful
"are you tapping your foot?"
Continues tapping
is foot tapping demure?
Only if it is done quietly.
dude was tripping balls and was trying to act sober haha
Trying to be Demure in Oxford
Witnesses gave a description of Frankie being the total opposite of demure after five hours in the "The Four Candles" Wetherspoons in Oxford city centre. "I blame the intemperance and my impression of Borachio,
That caused me to somersault out of the premises at 1:15 a.m. I thought I could have turned down the free Jägerbombs and bottles of Desperados, but I was too polite to refuse."
Thanks algorithm. I liked this.
The background music is really good, well done
the princess pink traineys were a demure choice, bang on
"Acetic aesthetic" 🔥🔥🔥
This isn’t a Yt video…it’s a Phd dissertation
right now, for me, this is the best channel on YT. you sir, are a genius. the writing is brilliant. just shared on FB. 67 here, in northern california.
dude, welcome to Oxford!
Hope has been fizzling away since Gen X, and as one, I appreciate this man's presentation very much.
the timing of the smash that like button was *chefs kiss*
3:15 is where it's at then the like button lights up which I didn't know was in the bounds of demurality
🤓 I'm gonna be that guy. TH-cam highlights the subscribe or like buttons whenever someone in the video mentions it.
@@ProStateExaminer heartbreaking.
The intro was a personal attack!
The like button glowing at 3:15
a fashion trend for your very state of mind. fucking dystopian.
an old boss of mine went on to work on metallica's tour after his business went to shit, he said it was exciting for a short time but then it became group therapy style drinking sessions with the other lorry drivers, all sorts of "why are you moving your leg like that?", got a bit much for him...
Haven't heard anyone say "web 2.0" in ages.
Dude - that was brilliant!
Thank you!
I had no idea what everyone was on about regarding 'demure'.
I'm 58 and well need I say more?
Cheers!
Frankie sure isn't demure when he's usually sitting uncomfortably close enough for butts to touch next to each and every scene NPC.
The guy with the random tie
what will the youths think of next, incredible times to be alive
We have people in our schools on all fours actin like dogs and cats. So, don't know... 😂
I still have no idea what it is
wow frankie, you really are the cultural critic of our time
You my man are a genius! I LOVE this! I am a 55 yr old recluse - and you just prove my purpose in same! 🤣
Love this stuff man really unique. You have a gift!
I cannot recall a single thing he said, but it was entertaining
At one point he mentioned something about a path wearing itself
The participants acted like people in black and white footage.
I had no idea what this was until now, thanks Frankie 😂😂
This is so profound and amazing.
Like Dolly said, it takes a lot of time and money to look this demure, honey.
Great work. Mind you, I first read the word "demure" in a Sunday magazine supplement about lingerie in 1989.
always so topical
I’m wayyyyyyyyy outside the age group who may be doing this. This is the weirdest understanding of demure I’ve ever heard. Like, not being seen or taking pics / videos of yourself or participating online would be the most demure you could be. I was in secondary school in the 80s (talk about weird), so no shade here.
Good video, fascinating.
"Demure" is simply a Gen Z/Gen Alpha aesthetic that is understated, and like the video said "a heteronormative reconfiguration". It's importance is that it's redefining casual and semi-casual wear in the mid 2020's to finally form an abrupt difference in fashion eras. The last big fashion era was 2015 to 2024. Now it will be 2024-future. Demure is a rejection of wild and daring style, much like the 1980's completely clawed back the wild fashion of the 1970's.
"If I saw someone in bright retro neon of the Covid era right now, that wouldn't be very Demure. It would give me 'the ick' and be giving desperate..."
You are a funny guy! If you ever do any chat vids again I would love to see you talk with Shite Guides (when he is back in the country) or Mike O.
„At some point between starting up and selling out, we somehow lost our way“
This man deserves his tv show 👌🏼
Always brilliant.
I'm just here for the demure (mindful) pink shoes.
I demur to this whole thing
Your the best creator
Demure Pups for Frankie🐶😍🙌❤️💖
You can be anything you want to be as long as you have the right hashtags under your post
Now I understand why my 13 year old son kept asking me if I was demure and mindful 😂 it was driving me crazy. Thanks for the explanation
Absolutely Genius.
I like how tight you sit next to them on the bench
You're getting deep bro
I can't take much demure of this.
It's so nice to see benches with no armrests in the middle out in the wild.
Idk what it is about this guy, is it his overanxious attempts to employ dead pan humor or am I just enjoying the candid temper tantrums mid monologue? Either way, this is premium spectrum content. Bravo sir.
Ok, but I am loving your pink sneakers!
Highly intelligent video
We love what you do
5:05 mans checking his bmi. Good video
That’s chalant. I’m stealing that.
Hey, i learned a new word! 🎉 Thanks, and please do more of these! ❤
Edit; Hey, i watched this video x2 and i learned even more about this word! 🤩
Edit#2; Hey, i watched this video x3 now and I’m learning more and more about ‘Demure’ … i’m also starting to realize Frankie’s state is rather demure in itself, whilst on the other hand i’d have to confess ; my own state might be best described by using an antonym of ‘Demure’ 😅
I appreciate this dedication to talking utter bolloks for a long time
This is a riot 😂, thank you!
This totally rad.
Iki is the demure of whatever-century Japan. The rising middle-class was banned from wearing china silk and brash colors of the noble classes. So they wore Sad Beige Mom, and raw silk, in weights that were more expensive than satin, but looked like peasant linen.
Late to the party, but this is gold
4:19 How did he travel back in time AND find the 15 year old Cillian Murphy?
luv your rants 🥰
do you post the scripts for these videos anywhere? I would love to read what is basically a short essay at my own pace
He posts them on his onlyfans.
sign me up!
You can access the subtitles on YT.
This cat is great!
your videos are so cool
Ahh...fishnets will stay in the dresser for special occasions 👍Meanstoanend
Why hasnt the daily show swooped this guy up?
Would be interesting to know the goth girl's takes on Brat summer and the "demure" trend.
Who cares
@@ashgonza92 She sure wouldn't.
No, it would not. She is a poser, like 99.99% of kids that think they are Gothic. Goth is a music thing, not a look.
@@clvrswine the sole criteria for being goth is being good at makeup now
very mindful, very demure