This man is wise. Call it old fashioned but old fashion WORKS for a reason. I'm not religious but I respect this man's message because it's not only backed by empirical evidence but it pushes discipline which is hella lacking in this tech era with short attention span. I'm buying his book to support. RESPECT.
Great interview. Great insight. God set it up a certain way to make it work he revealed it by His Word. The tuff part is to apply it and flesh it out. Society has and will continue to go against the Word. It's a war and constant battle. God knows best and revealed how to abtain the abundant life.
Ur so right boys always get told by fathers how to dlerp eith girld or to start by dating multiple girls to see what they like or not get hurt and then the problems develop that we hace today
Why do blk men always get upset with blk men who try and make the blk family and community better. Stop whining and stop blaming others and be accountable & listen for a change....smh
well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
Been faithful for 10 years now, cheated at the very beginning saw the pain in her soul never did it again!!! You have to really love her fellas it's not that hard!!!
This man changed my life. Literally. I'll die before I allow another man to waste my time again. And you can thank Tony Gaskins for that. He and the good Lord above gave me the strength!
Tanisha Hatchet Period! I Started to explain to some of these men that feel that its a male bashing interview or that he’s stuck up but I just realized they aren’t ready for the message that he’s trying to express and me telling them in a different way is no better than this God-fearing man is trying to explain it.
Kanika Haggins save your energy queen lol these little boys are too comfortable occupying grown men bodies with the IQ level of a child! Living worldly and being influenced by society is fun to them! I couldn’t even get through the interview because this wise man was surrounded by ppl who just couldn’t grasp what he was saying! I pray that wisdom finds these lost souls and keep it pushing!
i dont mean to be so off topic but does anybody know a way to get back into an Instagram account..? I stupidly lost my account password. I would love any assistance you can offer me!
I never thought I would agree but I believe what he is saying about sex being a plus and not a priority. If we think about our most valuable/important relationships, they are with our mother and father or even siblings. Family first and those relationships don't involve sex at all. Real love does not NEED physical activity. Sex is definitely a plus and not a priority.
Lust is not like thirst it can't be quenched... The gems this man dropped! It's so refreshing to see someone with advice with Christ as their foundation.
Charlemagne.... He’s obviously still guilty over his past infidelity and it’s really showing it’s face in this interview. Trying to catch or shame this man whose being transparent and only trying to educate. Even envy kept it 100. Shoutout to this WISE King ! I personally am encouraged by this interview.
just imagine how much stronger the black community would be if we all took our relationships/marriages seriously. That alone would strengthen us in so many other ways. The gov broke us down by breaking up our household 1st. Treat your husband/wife like the kings/queens they are. This right here was a powerful message! Black Love still exists and is amazing!!! #FaithfulChallenge
Until she gets tired of him for something that prob wont be his fault. His father had a divorce after 25 yesrs so that should speak volume. I respect his views but it doesnt mean his wife will remain happy with him from a lack of pure excitement. It happens.
The purpose of marriage isn’t for our happiness or lust. The purpose of marriage is to spread the kingdom of God. We reflect all of what God is(the father, son and Holy Spirit) in our families as one unit. Knowing the real purpose of marriage and fulfilling it gives us a small glimpse of the love God has for us and it’s beautiful.
The goal of the devil is to break up the family unit and destroy our kids and he is always busy. As men and women we need to know our roles in the household. When God created Adam and Eve he gave Adam specific instructions on how to be a kingdom man and Adam was to relay that message to Eve. Not trying to write a book and I’m not perfect but I try.
Amen Sir!!!! And many people have not arrived to this understanding. Part of it is that people need Christ in the center of their life. And when one surrenders their life to God, they'll realize the truth.
Envy agrees because he knows what its like when lust takes over. Not to throw his past mistakes back in his faces but that past experience and learning from it gives him greater insight to what exactly this man is saying. I’m really proud and happy for Dj Envy
At least u proud of him .. shit I changed for a female and was loyal for multiple years and didnt get no where for it .. it's all about the woman allowing her man to grow and respect him for it .. I've been through hell changing to be like this man but not getting it back makes me want him to talk about the females that play games with good dudes ,
@@johng6316 but maybe it’s because you already cheated and she just couldn’t move past it. Have you tried being a better man for a good woman from jump yet? Before deciding it’s not worth it to be good?
He sums it up perfectly at 52:18 Emotional intelligence, unconditional love, respect AND faithfulness. It's nothing that the bible doesn't already say but WATCH how God blesses your life when u do what u are SUPPOSED to do 🙌🏾👏🏽 if u dont believe it, try it.
thats a lie, well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
Charlemagne is making a lot of ppl mad in this interview but I think he was needed. He represents how much push back the TRUTH gets when ppl don’t want to be accountable
The only man on social media who gives godly relationship advice that I follow. The rest of them don’t bear the fruit that would allow me to feel comfortable with the advice given. Most just do it for the attention and amens from women. This man, he bars none and it’s not to hurt but to edify and grow!! Congratulations on this new journey!! 🍾🎈🎊🎉 God bless!
I don't like Char neither however, I see him asking questions for the majority of the broken men that outweighs us good men. Also, I do believe the way he speaks he doesn't know how to get his thoughts out in a respectful way. That's his downfall, so like we all have. I maybe wrong, most of his questions are good but delivered in a wrong way.
I love this show, but I really wish Charlemagne took this interview seriously and asked more thought out questions. Tony came with real, unadulterated wisdom and Charlemagne just wanted a comedy show. There were several times where wise thoughts were cut off and Tony was interrupted for some silly, vulgar, unnecessary comment. We didn’t need Charlemagne to tap dance because this message was powerful enough on its own!! Lastly, Tony is totally correct about our specific criteria. What does a millionaire want with you if you are struggling to get by? When we fixate on the wrong thing, we may get that but then discover hidden agendas. If a man with that kind of money wants you, you better check that he doesn’t want to just control you and have you as a pretty pet. When we lead in love, and live with purpose our criteria will be more realistic for lasting, healthy, loving relationships. Still thank you all for having Tony on here! 🙌🏾
Girl when Tony made an example of men calling their women their rib but treat them like their pinky toe and this idiot Charlemagne really interrupted him to ask how do men treat their pinky toe. I was almost DONE at that point but wanted//needed to hear the rest of the wisdom Tony was trying to convey
Tishun NIKCO if you want to hear some real wisdom: Before a woman looks for a man and a man looks for a woman, find God first and then you’ll see how beautiful love can be.
positive does always mean real. well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
I'm sure he skipped over that. CTG is the type of person who would use parts of the bible to validate his poor behavior when it's convenient. This is why it's important to read for yourself, because ppl like him will have you believing anything to push their own worldly agendas.
Tony impacted my life a few years ago. I am so thankful he uses his voice to help people. He doesn’t come across as those fake hotep men that suppress women he actually wants us to be better and walks the walk he talks. Hope his platform continues to grow and grow
Charlemagne was in denial for majority of this interview. I understand that he’s trying to focus on the positive, but acting like the negative doesn’t exist is delusional. Yes, there are positive marriages. Yes, there are couple who don’t promote threesomes and cheating. However, the images being pushed to our youth are usually one man with multiple women and the women either being okay with it (I.e. threesomes) or fighting each other over it. Let’s be REAL!!
The Queen Po he prolly cheating on his wife. Cause he actions are speaking for him. That’s what happens when a REAL MAN in your presence! He bothered by his greatness! 🧐😉
Right!!! Excellent point. You can't fix a problem if you deny that it's there. It's the same thing as racism. If you are overly positive and ignoring evidence and continue to say "I don't think this is happening anymore because I don't see it", you will NEVER get to the root of the problem.
Exactly and his past is an example of that. He thinks just because HE doesn't cheat on his woman anymore, that means the images have gotten better. NO, your wife just gave you an ultimatum and YOU decided to get your act together. Simple. Stop playing stupid.
@@torrenaflowers9701 -absolutely! Tony has a calm presence and is clearly the alpha male in the room and charlamaine or whatever his stupid name is, is bothered to his core! You can see it in his body language and grown boy responses 😅😅😅
charlemagne demons manifested in this video. When truth hits you at a time when you have not fully given up the old you. It becomes uncomfortable. charla was uncomfortable
@@bbhalocapricorn2321 Charlemagne is double-minded right now. He has one foot in being faithful in his relationship and the other foot in fulfilling his fleshly desires on the side. He's trying to justify his point of view which is false. Self-control is not easy to some people but it's attainable.
I see a lot of comments against Charlamange. But I'm glad he asked the opposing questions (the bonehead approach) because most men think like him. Truthfully, Charlamagne is living the principals that Tony speaks on lol. Tony answered each question with wisdom and ease. Just my perspective.
well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
@Kairel Mcleary Barnes you are very ignorant with no kind if substance behind what you are saying but you expect a man to take you serious with an attitude like that. How old are you? For real
MegaJesusisGod that should tell you something. Men aren’t supposed to be influenced by a woman. The real purpose for marriage isn’t our happiness or lust it’s to spread the kingdom of God. As men and women we need to know our roles in marriage.
This interview pulled a heart string. A decade ago, I bounced relationship after relationships destroying everything in my path. I took 4 years off with no serious relationships and no quick fixes. It was me by myself and my pet (that was my company). I went to movies by myself, hung out by myself and did New Years Eve TV Twilight Zone marathons because I knew it was me that had the problem and recognized it. After much quiet time and counseling (pastor and professional) I was able to date and recognize a healthy relationship. I wish I would of done this in my 20's but its never too late.
This interview was AMAZING! BLACK LOVE does exist ! I wish more men thought this way. A lot of men treat good women like we are disposable. Cherish us, be faithful to us and love us we good women do the exact same for you. Still waiting for my KING ; He is out there somewhere I believe it .
Stephanie Avila women treat men like they’re disposable all the time. The way the game works is women have options and men have to make options for ourselves which is why we have to deal with multiple women. Women can break up with a man and have another within the hour. As a man if I’m not constantly engaging women then I won’t have a woman; and a man can’t invest his all in one woman because said woman never invest her all in him.
Alot of our men grew up in a single parent household or a broken home so they didn't have the model relationship to look up to. You're not born a wife and husband. It's something you are taught or learn. Every marriage is different and nowadays it's so overrated. These men are married but living like they are single. Got side kids and girlfriends. It's already not a big option of men out there anyway. Either married, gay, and in jail
When did Love become corny and unpopular? People can be so insecure about love that their wounds are highlighted because of the way they're so defensive and downplays the power of love.
Thank you! How is love corny?? Or a man treating his woman right a simp!?!?! The sad part is its women on here agreeing wit the salty ass men in the comments. Love never goes out of style.
@@brittanymosley3649 you are being typical which most women are. Just because you feel a certain way about something doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way. Everyone is not gonna agree with you and that is ok.
@@BIGNOSEPOPPA the problem is you're using the excuse of an opinion to hide the fact that treating someone right in a relationship is ALWAYS GOOD and the right thing to do. You have some insecurities yourself but that's ok too
I see so much of my personality type in Tony Gaskins lol. On a subject I’m passionate about, I cannot be diverted with humor. I’m the biggest kill joy when I’m here for the facts. Introverts.
Why is Charlemagne so combative and saying things contrary to what Tony is trying to say? It’s like he’s committed to playing devils advocate throughout. It’s like he doesn’t want to agree with anything he’s saying which is annoying because I know Charlemagne is smarter than what he is acting like here.
Not combative CTG is pointing out how one sided this young mans opinon is about relationships. Just because you wanna brag about your numbers and your homies numbers doesn't make you an expert.
Lately I’ve been annoyed with their interviews but I think Charlemagne is asking questions that other ppl listening would ask. Not for his purpose but for the listeners perspective.
YouWhoKnowKnewNot well if your on the side of what’s right...how can you not be one sided? Right is right and wrong is wrong...this man has admitted all his wrongs but he’s on the other side now and working to bring other men over to that side...
I love my husband! This show just makes me more appreciative of what I have! 4 years to forever😍! Love is out there, just be patient and wait for God to set it up! Love, Blessings, & Peace everyone!
Making love isn't strictly in the bed and in sexual intercourse. Making love is an all day, everyday, 24/7 endeavor. I'm seeing more men practice semen retention and promote love making that isn't triggered mechanically but spiritually. This is dope.
Don't downplay the beautiful thing that is sex just because someone wants to say I love you with their body doesn't mean they are evil or only concerned with body
@@camwilson2583 not downplaying it. just saying that there's a synthesis at play and in motion. looks. touches. words of edification. kisses. adoration. etc. all day, everyday. a full course meal and desert. keep it healthy. keep it lasting.
Pure rubbish... YOu just made zero sense.. so what about the women .They just sit there like a stone and let the man foreplay you? get out of here with your feminist BS
I am sold!! This is a mature MAN! I am sure several of the women he "ran through" are calling bullshit on this dude...but I can admire how hard he worked to be a MAN....A DAM GROWN MAN!! I AM SOLD TONY!! #helpthesemalesbecomeMEN
"Work through your brokenness." Growing together in the relationship, doing the hard work isn't easy but it yields so many rewards even if it's sheer Understanding.
That’s his job though, to get the truth out of ppl not just agree with everything they say. Some of this does sound generalized and crazy. He knows someone who had sex with 600 women 😳 common now lol
Get married. I don’t think people understand how the destruction of the family structure has affected not only black people but the entirety of our society. Husbands love your wives
So disappointed at Charla’s input during this conversation. For you to say that you are an advocate of #blackmendon’tcheat you totally mocked and through off the true message of this conversation.
It’s about time Tony is on here this a real dude here I already know this about to be a influential interview! Watch, Learn, and Listen 🤔 Enjoy the day y’all peace!
At 9:20 i truly agree what he says about man hating on him cause of what he's saying but doesn't it says in the bible when you're a man you put childish ways away so why are man hating on him when all he wants to do is for men in general to become more mature
EXACTLY, Unfortunately The Breakfast Club aside from DJ Envy who I'm not a fan of show their asses in this interview and also showed that this topic is way too mature for the immature likes of annoying ass Charlemagne and the idiot Angela Yee
This interview was so good & refreshing. A lot of men don’t realize all they can get from a woman by just doing right. I wish the focus wasn’t only on cheating because there are so many other issues in relationships other than that. We all could be faithful but still not meeting the needs of your partner. That Nikki Giovanni interview clip was major key for me... then as TG broke her words down.... I felt that shit on another level.. DEEP!!!!
I wish a lot of young men AND women would listen and hear, what this man says! My generation (post- Millennial generation or "iGeneration") would be so much happier if we could truly understand what it means to be in a relationship. 52:24
42:13 - "If you are not happy being single, then that means you are desperate for love."
Take notes, everyone.
Facts
This man is wise. Call it old fashioned but old fashion WORKS for a reason. I'm not religious but I respect this man's message because it's not only backed by empirical evidence but it pushes discipline which is hella lacking in this tech era with short attention span. I'm buying his book to support. RESPECT.
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Yes old fashion is wisdom. Just stick to the principles and you will be happy no matter what.
My sentiments exactly! Loved this interview
Great interview. Great insight. God set it up a certain way to make it work he revealed it by His Word. The tuff part is to apply it and flesh it out. Society has and will continue to go against the Word. It's a war and constant battle. God knows best and revealed how to abtain the abundant life.
Yes old fashioned is the way to go
" You should not ride or die for anyone except Jesus"
A word!!!!
...and what if one is atheist...just curious...
@@RW38762 still applies
@@RW38762 Exactly!
Would that be the white man's Jesus, that was sold to black people? If yes. NO THANK YOU! Im not riding for him.
@@ezravonhindenburg1240 he lost me when he said ride for Jesus
Woo, we need more beautiful black men like him to educate the youth...
"Lust is not like thirst it can't be quenched "- Tony Gaskin SO TRUEEEEEE
Realist comment ever!
I learned how to sleep with a woman before I learned how to treat a woman, I agree that there is a brokenness is passed down to men
Ur so right boys always get told by fathers how to dlerp eith girld or to start by dating multiple girls to see what they like or not get hurt and then the problems develop that we hace today
“No amount of money can buy character” I felt that 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
KITTEN MAYZ 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
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KITTEN MAYZ Damn Skippy
Amen!
Why do blk men always get upset with blk men who try and make the blk family and community better. Stop whining and stop blaming others and be accountable & listen for a change....smh
Agree
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well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
because a black man's priority should be a bachelor first and foremost
His wife is one bless women. I love to see a black man in this type of maturity. Many blessings to him and his family. I will be buying this book
Been faithful for 10 years now, cheated at the very beginning saw the pain in her soul never did it again!!! You have to really love her fellas it's not that hard!!!
I can respect that.
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Charlemagne is not mature enough for this convo
AT ALL, he cheated on his wives for years.
Exactly
Charnese Williams lol
He's so dumb, he needs to leave the show
He annoys me!
This man changed my life. Literally. I'll die before I allow another man to waste my time again. And you can thank Tony Gaskins for that. He and the good Lord above gave me the strength!
God wants the best for us.
Same
Amen!!!!
If you can’t comprehend what this man is saying both men or women. This ain’t for you and you ain’t ready emotionally, mentally and spiritually!
Tanisha Hatchet Period! I Started to explain to some of these men that feel that its a male bashing interview or that he’s stuck up but I just realized they aren’t ready for the message that he’s trying to express and me telling them in a different way is no better than this God-fearing man is trying to explain it.
Kanika Haggins save your energy queen lol these little boys are too comfortable occupying grown men bodies with the IQ level of a child! Living worldly and being influenced by society is fun to them! I couldn’t even get through the interview because this wise man was surrounded by ppl who just couldn’t grasp what he was saying! I pray that wisdom finds these lost souls and keep it pushing!
Tanisha Hatchet nope
LOVE IS A GIFT FROM THE MOST HIGH, AND WE MUST TAKE CARE OF LOVE. LOVE IS LOVE AND LOVE IS ALL. GOD IS LOVE AND LOVE IS THE LIGHT.
i dont mean to be so off topic but does anybody know a way to get back into an Instagram account..?
I stupidly lost my account password. I would love any assistance you can offer me!
I never thought I would agree but I believe what he is saying about sex being a plus and not a priority. If we think about our most valuable/important relationships, they are with our mother and father or even siblings. Family first and those relationships don't involve sex at all. Real love does not NEED physical activity. Sex is definitely a plus and not a priority.
WOW!!!! YOUR WORDS JUST HELPED ME!!!!
Perfectly said
🗣If you're reading this don't forget to thank God for waking you up this morning💯
Yes aman
AMEN
Every single day ❤🙏🏽🙌🏽
You ain't lying!! Yess
Amen
Lust is not like thirst it can't be quenched... The gems this man dropped! It's so refreshing to see someone with advice with Christ as their foundation.
Charlemagne....
He’s obviously still guilty over his past infidelity and it’s really showing it’s face in this interview. Trying to catch or shame this man whose being transparent and only trying to educate. Even envy kept it 100. Shoutout to this WISE King ! I personally am encouraged by this interview.
Sonya-Marie Samuel Yes. Poor Charlemagne. Written all over his face. 🙏🏾
We’re all good at saying let’s keep it real, but you expose people with the truth it will hurt. Truth hurt!!
A whole interview bigging up integrity. 👏🏾 A lot of people don’t even believe in it anymore.
just imagine how much stronger the black community would be if we all took our relationships/marriages seriously. That alone would strengthen us in so many other ways. The gov broke us down by breaking up our household 1st. Treat your husband/wife like the kings/queens they are. This right here was a powerful message! Black Love still exists and is amazing!!! #FaithfulChallenge
His wife is blessed.
word
Until she gets tired of him for something that prob wont be his fault. His father had a divorce after 25 yesrs so that should speak volume. I respect his views but it doesnt mean his wife will remain happy with him from a lack of pure excitement. It happens.
@@Flexx155 smh
Until she find out he got aids for sleeping with 100 women 🤷🏾♂️
I thought the same thing 😂
The purpose of marriage isn’t for our happiness or lust. The purpose of marriage is to spread the kingdom of God. We reflect all of what God is(the father, son and Holy Spirit) in our families as one unit. Knowing the real purpose of marriage and fulfilling it gives us a small glimpse of the love God has for us and it’s beautiful.
The goal of the devil is to break up the family unit and destroy our kids and he is always busy. As men and women we need to know our roles in the household. When God created Adam and Eve he gave Adam specific instructions on how to be a kingdom man and Adam was to relay that message to Eve. Not trying to write a book and I’m not perfect but I try.
Bro say it for the folks in the back!!!
3drhodes yes, exactly.
This is straight FACTS 💯💯💯
Amen Sir!!!! And many people have not arrived to this understanding. Part of it is that people need Christ in the center of their life. And when one surrenders their life to God, they'll realize the truth.
Envy agrees because he knows what its like when lust takes over. Not to throw his past mistakes back in his faces but that past experience and learning from it gives him greater insight to what exactly this man is saying. I’m really proud and happy for Dj Envy
At least u proud of him .. shit I changed for a female and was loyal for multiple years and didnt get no where for it .. it's all about the woman allowing her man to grow and respect him for it .. I've been through hell changing to be like this man but not getting it back makes me want him to talk about the females that play games with good dudes ,
@@johng6316 cuz this dude is fool of himself. You know dude is getting pussy left and right saying all the right things they wanna hear and shit.
@@johng6316 but maybe it’s because you already cheated and she just couldn’t move past it. Have you tried being a better man for a good woman from jump yet? Before deciding it’s not worth it to be good?
People really don't like correction when they are still practicing their wrong.
dee jay that's deep! U ain't lying
woah, that's powerful, so true!
He sums it up perfectly at 52:18
Emotional intelligence, unconditional love, respect AND faithfulness. It's nothing that the bible doesn't already say but WATCH how God blesses your life when u do what u are SUPPOSED to do 🙌🏾👏🏽 if u dont believe it, try it.
thats a lie, well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
47:11 "Let a person's character be their currency" Amazing!
Charlemagne is making a lot of ppl mad in this interview but I think he was needed. He represents how much push back the TRUTH gets when ppl don’t want to be accountable
Tony is a wise, wise man! We need more like him.
The only man on social media who gives godly relationship advice that I follow. The rest of them don’t bear the fruit that would allow me to feel comfortable with the advice given. Most just do it for the attention and amens from women. This man, he bars none and it’s not to hurt but to edify and grow!! Congratulations on this new journey!! 🍾🎈🎊🎉 God bless!
RC Blake’s is another one that bear good fruit
@@tracey5215 yes both of these together!
@@ShyBabyxoxo don’t forget The Shumake way too
Also Sealz The Man. All 4 of these teach congruent messages. Each of them are great.
Charla is trying to be disruptive but Tony is so good natured its not working.
He was allowing the devil to use him.
Thank you for stating that. He schooled them !
No weapons formed!🙌🏾
thebrwnhippie why is he like that, childish
I don't like Char neither however, I see him asking questions for the majority of the broken men that outweighs us good men. Also, I do believe the way he speaks he doesn't know how to get his thoughts out in a respectful way. That's his downfall, so like we all have. I maybe wrong, most of his questions are good but delivered in a wrong way.
His eyes are beautiful 😍 and he’s dropping knowledge. Real and honest love isn’t respected anymore.
sad that most guys in the comment section and women dont respect this guys words
You'd be his side chick huh? Lol
Charlemagne tried to call him ugly which I thought was weird
I'm a guy and like what he saying... nothing wrong with his message.
I love this show, but I really wish Charlemagne took this interview seriously and asked more thought out questions. Tony came with real, unadulterated wisdom and Charlemagne just wanted a comedy show. There were several times where wise thoughts were cut off and Tony was interrupted for some silly, vulgar, unnecessary comment. We didn’t need Charlemagne to tap dance because this message was powerful enough on its own!! Lastly, Tony is totally correct about our specific criteria. What does a millionaire want with you if you are struggling to get by? When we fixate on the wrong thing, we may get that but then discover hidden agendas. If a man with that kind of money wants you, you better check that he doesn’t want to just control you and have you as a pretty pet. When we lead in love, and live with purpose our criteria will be more realistic for lasting, healthy, loving relationships. Still thank you all for having Tony on here! 🙌🏾
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Girl when Tony made an example of men calling their women their rib but treat them like their pinky toe and this idiot Charlemagne really interrupted him to ask how do men treat their pinky toe. I was almost DONE at that point but wanted//needed to hear the rest of the wisdom Tony was trying to convey
Tishun NIKCO if you want to hear some real wisdom: Before a woman looks for a man and a man looks for a woman, find God first and then you’ll see how beautiful love can be.
I wish Charlamagne wasnt there. He interrupted the flow of the conversation. Tony was talking and he kept cutting in with foolishness
Tasheena Smith I swear
I totally agree
Tasheena Smith 🤣🤣🤣
Totally!! He was so annoying
He's a grown boy who is lost and don't wanna be found.. A sad soul indeed
How could you dislike this positivity
They're not disliking this video, they're disliking themselves.
They like the message but cannot live the lifestyle.
positive does always mean real. well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
@@aalphasplatt1153 !!!+q
His message won’t reach everyone and that’s okay it will reach those that it’s supposed to reach
Amen, we are all at different seasons
Exactly
Amen, so much truth
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The vows says "Forsaking ALL others, as long as you both shall live". So it does say No CHEATING.
Come with the facts!
I'm sure he skipped over that. CTG is the type of person who would use parts of the bible to validate his poor behavior when it's convenient. This is why it's important to read for yourself, because ppl like him will have you believing anything to push their own worldly agendas.
Exactly!
Tony impacted my life a few years ago. I am so thankful he uses his voice to help people. He doesn’t come across as those fake hotep men that suppress women he actually wants us to be better and walks the walk he talks. Hope his platform continues to grow and grow
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Please breakfast club, keep THIS energy or more of it, accountability, better examples, uphold and uplift positivity with your influence fam.
Charlemagne was in denial for majority of this interview. I understand that he’s trying to focus on the positive, but acting like the negative doesn’t exist is delusional. Yes, there are positive marriages. Yes, there are couple who don’t promote threesomes and cheating. However, the images being pushed to our youth are usually one man with multiple women and the women either being okay with it (I.e. threesomes) or fighting each other over it. Let’s be REAL!!
The Queen Po he prolly cheating on his wife. Cause he actions are speaking for him. That’s what happens when a REAL MAN in your presence! He bothered by his greatness! 🧐😉
Right!!! Excellent point. You can't fix a problem if you deny that it's there. It's the same thing as racism. If you are overly positive and ignoring evidence and continue to say "I don't think this is happening anymore because I don't see it", you will NEVER get to the root of the problem.
Exactly and his past is an example of that. He thinks just because HE doesn't cheat on his woman anymore, that means the images have gotten better. NO, your wife just gave you an ultimatum and YOU decided to get your act together. Simple. Stop playing stupid.
@@bbhalocapricorn2321Exactly.....He WAS bothered by his greatness.....that's the Cancer in him....jealous and annoying by nature!!!!
@@torrenaflowers9701 -absolutely! Tony has a calm presence and is clearly the alpha male in the room and charlamaine or whatever his stupid name is, is bothered to his core! You can see it in his body language and grown boy responses 😅😅😅
charlemagne demons manifested in this video. When truth hits you at a time when you have not fully given up the old you. It becomes uncomfortable. charla was uncomfortable
hope smith said the same thing. No fools over here. Peep that too huh
@@bbhalocapricorn2321 Charlemagne is double-minded right now. He has one foot in being faithful in his relationship and the other foot in fulfilling his fleshly desires on the side. He's trying to justify his point of view which is false. Self-control is not easy to some people but it's attainable.
Yes! A hit dog will holla and Charla was def hollering! This interview had him feeling some kinda way!
He definitely was uncomfortable lmao.
@@ew0711 😂
Charlamagne is doing the most in this interview. I think he should have chilled a bit. This is a good topic that deserves a mature discussion.
I see a lot of comments against Charlamange. But I'm glad he asked the opposing questions (the bonehead approach) because most men think like him. Truthfully, Charlamagne is living the principals that Tony speaks on lol. Tony answered each question with wisdom and ease. Just my perspective.
well for those who think this is a mature conversation, in my opinion what make it not mature that he never mentioned how women need to take accountability because women chose the fixer upper, project men, women try to fix abusive males with 5 kids and with 4 different females and not even taking care of them. But yet they still choose them males. Then after choosing the type of male thru out their 20s early 30s 3+ kids later now want a good man. Who want all of that baggage after all she went thru. Now all of a sudden she is like there are no good men . No its the men YOU choose. Also dont say he wasnt like that in the beginning, it was signs for the most part. Then if we put women on a pedestal they will cheat. Speaking of cheating women cheat just as much as men if not more because the women me cheat with do yall ever take in account that that woman most of the time has a husband or bf. Its females that break men and cause men to lose everything or what have you. But we cant say anything about women messing over men. We gotta shut up, move on and man up. But society act like men dont get broken, good men get messed up by female but we cant talk about that because society will look down on us. So please stop acting like the women are the victim because women also cheat, get caught, sabotage the relationship/marriage , play the victim and divorce. But men cant speak on that. LETS KEEP IT REAL!
@Kairel Mcleary Barnes you are very ignorant with no kind if substance behind what you are saying but you expect a man to take you serious with an attitude like that. How old are you? For real
Men have the Power and Women have the Influence. 🙌🏾I love it.
It's true Eve influence Adam to eat the fruit
MegaJesusisGod that should tell you something. Men aren’t supposed to be influenced by a woman. The real purpose for marriage isn’t our happiness or lust it’s to spread the kingdom of God. As men and women we need to know our roles in marriage.
This conversation has struck a nerve with Charlemagne
Victoria Curry right!!!
This interview pulled a heart string.
A decade ago, I bounced relationship after relationships destroying everything in my path. I took 4 years off with no serious relationships and no quick fixes. It was me by myself and my pet (that was my company). I went to movies by myself, hung out by myself and did New Years Eve TV Twilight Zone marathons because I knew it was me that had the problem and recognized it. After much quiet time and counseling (pastor and professional) I was able to date and recognize a healthy relationship. I wish I would of done this in my 20's but its never too late.
Congrats 👏 on your growth. Hope you're still going strong today
Extremely proud of you. Especially for you self awareness, discipline, & resolve.
This interview was AMAZING! BLACK LOVE does exist ! I wish more men thought this way. A lot of men treat good women like we are disposable. Cherish us, be faithful to us and love us we good women do the exact same for you. Still waiting for my KING ; He is out there somewhere I believe it .
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Something like tat
Stephanie Avila women treat men like they’re disposable all the time. The way the game works is women have options and men have to make options for ourselves which is why we have to deal with multiple women. Women can break up with a man and have another within the hour. As a man if I’m not constantly engaging women then I won’t have a woman; and a man can’t invest his all in one woman because said woman never invest her all in him.
Alot of our men grew up in a single parent household or a broken home so they didn't have the model relationship to look up to. You're not born a wife and husband. It's something you are taught or learn. Every marriage is different and nowadays it's so overrated. These men are married but living like they are single. Got side kids and girlfriends. It's already not a big option of men out there anyway. Either married, gay, and in jail
The men that usually think this way y'all don't usually find them attractive..Women want all the wrong men to be the right men
He who does not know God does not know love for God is Love. You can’t discuss love without discussing God fully.
So true....
Amen
When did Love become corny and unpopular? People can be so insecure about love that their wounds are highlighted because of the way they're so defensive and downplays the power of love.
I LOVE THIS 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Some people think love is corny some don't. Everyone is entitled to their own feelings. Everyone is not gonna view the world the same way you do.
Thank you! How is love corny?? Or a man treating his woman right a simp!?!?! The sad part is its women on here agreeing wit the salty ass men in the comments. Love never goes out of style.
@@brittanymosley3649 you are being typical which most women are. Just because you feel a certain way about something doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way. Everyone is not gonna agree with you and that is ok.
@@BIGNOSEPOPPA the problem is you're using the excuse of an opinion to hide the fact that treating someone right in a relationship is ALWAYS GOOD and the right thing to do. You have some insecurities yourself but that's ok too
My favorite Breakfast Club interview so far. HANDS DOWN.
I see so much of my personality type in Tony Gaskins lol. On a subject I’m passionate about, I cannot be diverted with humor. I’m the biggest kill joy when I’m here for the facts. Introverts.
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💯 A WORD!
Tony got my life all the way together! 😭 I needed this today cause Lord knows...#BlackLove
How we going to make this work babe?!
for real ❤
Yes I’m looking for a black wife as most black men. I want you to know most of us view you as a Queen regardless of what the media says
If I could only find a man who thinks and act like this, happiness could be obtained.
word 😂i nice wake up call this morning
Anybody notice Charlemagne is EXTRA defensive?! 👀
Because he so guilty and only going on 3 years of no cheating after 21 years
Yes!
Christopher Chesler Yes! Hella annoying.
Yes! And supposedly a self proclaimed ex cheater. Acting like an imbecile as wise as he is. His inner demons were shaken up lol
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Why is Charlemagne so combative and saying things contrary to what Tony is trying to say? It’s like he’s committed to playing devils advocate throughout. It’s like he doesn’t want to agree with anything he’s saying which is annoying because I know Charlemagne is smarter than what he is acting like here.
He probably still feels guilty about how he dogged his wife. Like the old folks say "a hit dog will holler".
CCmysmile true...DJ Envy cheated too but I like his attitude about it in the interview. He owned it and agreed with what Tony was saying.
Not combative CTG is pointing out how one sided this young mans opinon is about relationships. Just because you wanna brag about your numbers and your homies numbers doesn't make you an expert.
Lately I’ve been annoyed with their interviews but I think Charlemagne is asking questions that other ppl listening would ask. Not for his purpose but for the listeners perspective.
YouWhoKnowKnewNot well if your on the side of what’s right...how can you not be one sided? Right is right and wrong is wrong...this man has admitted all his wrongs but he’s on the other side now and working to bring other men over to that side...
42:08 "You are not ready for a relationship until you are 100% happy being single" #NuffSaid
I love my husband! This show just makes me more appreciative of what I have! 4 years to forever😍! Love is out there, just be patient and wait for God to set it up! Love, Blessings, & Peace everyone!
Charlemagne really irritated me in this one 🙄
True
He wants to do wrong; I don't envy his partner.
KITTEN MAYZ I thought I was the only one. He really disagreeing with everything this man says.
Yee said, “you gotta see his throwback pictures.” 😂😂 Yee be funny asf in that corner! She’s super slick!
Making love isn't strictly in the bed and in sexual intercourse. Making love is an all day, everyday, 24/7 endeavor. I'm seeing more men practice semen retention and promote love making that isn't triggered mechanically but spiritually. This is dope.
Don't downplay the beautiful thing that is sex just because someone wants to say I love you with their body doesn't mean they are evil or only concerned with body
Pele Kama I want to like this 100 times!! 🙌🏾
@@camwilson2583 not downplaying it. just saying that there's a synthesis at play and in motion. looks. touches. words of edification. kisses. adoration. etc. all day, everyday. a full course meal and desert. keep it healthy. keep it lasting.
@@PacificMoceans completely agree with you thank you for explaining that have a beautiful day!
Pure rubbish... YOu just made zero sense.. so what about the women .They just sit there like a stone and let the man foreplay you? get out of here with your feminist BS
I am sold!! This is a mature MAN! I am sure several of the women he "ran through" are calling bullshit on this dude...but I can admire how hard he worked to be a MAN....A DAM GROWN MAN!!
I AM SOLD TONY!!
#helpthesemalesbecomeMEN
Just followed him on FB 💪🏾🙌🏾
Charlene hasn’t cheated for 2 years. His application still being reviewed
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That’s why he sounded so ignorant during this interview. He barely stopped cheating 10 minutes ago.
Desire' Harris he annoys me. He’s actually unattractive. The two don’t mix 👀
Lol Yeah I feel you. Being annoying at that level would make anybody unattractive to me
Desire' Harris which is why his body count is low and he keeps tranquilizers on stash
Charlemagne was not focused for this. He’s younger self came out in this interview. This was embarrassing
yeah he was goofy
He mimicked the mindset of kids now adays. Charla was the bad cop.. Got to be able to get your message through the static
Sometimes you have to dumb down the delivery so the message is still received. People aren't as intelligent as they used to be.
Well said!
I felt the same way. He was responding like he wasn't married.
I don't think Charlamagne was mature enough for this conversation.
Exactly
he was so goofy lol
true
I was thinking the same thing. Don't get me wrong he has his moments where he drops seeds.
Exactly agreed 💯
One of the best interviews, in my opinion. Love that his wisdom didn't get drowned in the polemics.
I agree
I don’t normally trust “relationship experts” but I like this guy a lot. He gives great relationship advice
Really appreciated the honesty about the impact it has on women--numb, anxious and suffering from low self-esteem are forms of emotional abuse.
I’m so glad Tony Gaskins is on this platform. He is preaching Jesus and authentic love all in one. I’m here for it 🙌🏾
"Work through your brokenness." Growing together in the relationship, doing the hard work isn't easy but it yields so many rewards even if it's sheer Understanding.
He must be stepping on Charlamagne's toes because he is acting out today.
Ass acting all the way out!! Lol
He's so annoying lol
This the most I EVER heard Envy speak. Lol
Brotha is dropping gems on here....I feel him.
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I feel so proud like I know Tony personally!!!! Go Tony!!!!!!!
yeah cause we've seen him when he just started on TH-cam
Me tooooo
@@nikkyshamz2696 It's so awesome, I've been watching his older videos on TH-cam for a long time, he helped me through a lot
@@BriaBarrows Right! It's awesome to see him here now
Charlemagne "Don't say a couple of years Envy.. It was a decade ago!" 😆
Dude I never expected you to be on here.
I support you great black man. All love
@@tiredox3788 I want to like and dislike the comment at the same time
I was saying the samething
My guy🔥
I listen to Tony Gaskins every day but you guys have to get Eric Thomas up on here! Law of attraction
BLIND VISION A must to get Eric Thomas on here!!
Eric Thomas definitely should be on the Breakfast Club. He’s the best out!
surprised e.t. hadnt made an appearance yet!
JazGreenTLK Yes he is so amazing! I listen to him at least once every day as well I honestly listen to him more than Tony!
anomalient yes yes yes! Maybe we need to tag him in this! LOL
I literally rolled my eyes everytime Charlamagne talked. Shut up bro
this is way too deep and I'm glad breakfast club brought him on. Great interview !
Charlemagne was openly aggravating this interview
12:40 he might feel attacked. Look at justice4closure on IG
Ama. K Ows couldn’t agree more
True😂
Kay Pee every interview
Yesss!
He's been consistent for years Tony deserves all good fortune & things to come to him man #Period💯
It’s clear Uncle Charla was speaking from fear and skeletons.
Right!!!
Yup 😂
"Let a person's character be their currency." I love this!
“Pleasure doesn’t lead to happiness, pleasure leads to pain.”
Charlamagne really annoyed me this interview
He dont wanna piss off the folks that are offended and "shamed"
Me too
Me too! He was to busy looking for lies than be able to listen to wisdom.
yes! He was being kinda rude
That’s his job though, to get the truth out of ppl not just agree with everything they say. Some of this does sound generalized and crazy. He knows someone who had sex with 600 women 😳 common now lol
You know who is awesome, read the first word in this sentence.
Awwweeee 😍
Men have Power, Women have influence
Get married. I don’t think people understand how the destruction of the family structure has affected not only black people but the entirety of our society. Husbands love your wives
So true!! Too many single parent homes and broken families
Bring him back to talk about his new book with his wife “ A woman’s Influence “
So disappointed at Charla’s input during this conversation. For you to say that you are an advocate of #blackmendon’tcheat you totally mocked and through off the true message of this conversation.
Agree he was aggravating af...
He's allowing the devil to use him as a vessel to cause distraction.
It’s about time Tony is on here this a real dude here I already know this about to be a influential interview! Watch, Learn, and Listen 🤔 Enjoy the day y’all peace!
"Men have power, women have influence" So true!!!
Tony Gaskins is loved. He is a man of faith and blessed. We love him!!!
My boy Tony Gaskins...will always support you bro. Keep up the good work!
At 9:20 i truly agree what he says about man hating on him cause of what he's saying but doesn't it says in the bible when you're a man you put childish ways away so why are man hating on him when all he wants to do is for men in general to become more mature
He was too real for this show, specifically Lenard...
EXACTLY, Unfortunately The Breakfast Club aside from DJ Envy who I'm not a fan of show their asses in this interview and also showed that this topic is way too mature for the immature likes of annoying ass Charlemagne and the idiot Angela Yee
Angela Yee was very mature
He’s just awesome! Giving out gems for free.
Thank you
Tony Gaskins
They’re gonna hate if you were apart of the in crowd as well.
Keep doing you
Promoting positivity
One of the BEST interviews I’ve watched. The wisdom and calmness is out of this world!!
I love love Tony Gaskins. He’s so humble. His words are soooo encouraging.
This brother is full of wisdom. I really admire him.
This interview was so good & refreshing. A lot of men don’t realize all they can get from a woman by just doing right. I wish the focus wasn’t only on cheating because there are so many other issues in relationships other than that. We all could be faithful but still not meeting the needs of your partner. That Nikki Giovanni interview clip was major key for me... then as TG broke her words down.... I felt that shit on another level.. DEEP!!!!
One of THE best interviews I've listened to on relationships in years. Well done my brother. God will continue to reward you for your good work.
"Stop calling your woman your rib, then treating her like your pinky toe." 💯 😂😂😂
I wish a lot of young men AND women would listen and hear, what this man says! My generation (post- Millennial generation or "iGeneration") would be so much happier if we could truly understand what it means to be in a relationship. 52:24