what's it like being married to a Japanese woman as a foreigner?
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i asked a married foreign man living in japan as to what's it like being married to a Japanese woman
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I love how understanding he is about his wife's family. It's usually like that everywhere hahah
Thanks for having me on your channel. It was good meeting you. All the best!
Was nice chatting with you
I lived in Japan for over 10 years and my wife's Japanese. We've been married now for 13 years.
My Japanese in-laws have been nothing but wonderful to me.
In fact, my Japanese mother-in-law told me that when she was a little girl, she wanted a Black doll so bad that she colored one of her White dolls brown.
So she's always had a fondness for Black people.
ayoo hahahah
Your in-laws are most definitely exceptions to the rule
@@ParisAlxandr Yeah, I'm very blessed.
My Japanese family really does love me, and I them.
僕と僕のフィアンセは少し同じですけど時々で俺の日本語の経験が難しい思う。N4とN3の証明書が必要んです。ビザの為にだよ。😅もし、俺の日本語は違うたら、正解教えてください。📖😎
@@Ogre745 あなたたちはふつコミュニケーションでなんの語でか?
Jerry's face when Sharon said "give the wife all of the money". 💀 priceless
What a great and enlightening interview. I loved your reaction regarding the husband handing over his paycheck and accepting an 'allowance' from his wife!
The lifetime contract is similar to a government job in Brazil. Once you are in a government position (from the guy who cleans the street to a judge) you have 2 to 3 years of 'experiencie' probation and then you are 'stable' for your life, meaning you can't just be fired (there are specific laws that determines what can get you fired). To get a job in government you must pass specific exams for the job, and depending on the position you might compete with 100k people for 100-200 open position. Interesting that they apply it there in Japan's private market.
I know how difficult a marriage with foreigners is, but in my opinion, knowing the husband/wife's language is important for communication. For example, someone who only speaks English and Korean will communicate with the Japanese wife's family , as?
I’m married to a Japanese lady. My father in law is amazing. I love her family. They’re so interesting and completely Japanese. They just think I’m quirky and slightly mad. 😂 I think my father in law is just pleased his daughter found someone and is happy
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I remember Sharon. He used to make really cool videos about South Korea. I wish him all the best.
Hi, K, how is it going? Amazing interview , the guy gave us a very good rundown on being married to a foreign woman, quite impressive. Good job.
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keep up the good work😇fan from Kenya
Maybe my wife (and her family) is different in more ways then i realized because MY experience living in japan and married to a Japanese wife is a bit different from what was stated in this interview (and also similar in some ways). But i definitely respect his experience, its only natural for people to experience things differently despite being in similar circumstances!!!!!!! Its an eye opener for me to hear his story though, thats what makes this interview so great for me!!!
What’s different and what’s similar?
@@joseph3036 My parents in law have been very welcoming and very accepting of me. From the beginning (even before we had a child together), my in laws was super excited to teach me the old time Japanese customs that was popular during their upbringings. Their way of teaching me was to invite me to part take in those activities. I guess that was also their way of opening up to me and allowing us to become closer despite the language barrier.
Within my first year of living in Japan, my father in law and I traveled to Kyoto on new years day to visit the temple that his ancestors are buried at after we prepared and ate mochi. He also been somewhat like my advisor on my business ventures ever since I arrived. Because of this I never felt like I wasn’t accepted fully. Im not sure if Sharon doesn’t feel fully accepted by his in laws (or if thats just a belief he has about in laws in general) but thats definitely not a feeling I’ve experienced since moving here.
Off topic but somewhat related, majority of the time I feel accepted as a foreigner in Japan. For the most part Japanese people have a strong sense of showing respect- its kinda embedded in their culture and def reflected in their language as well. While learning Japanese foreigners should learn keigo (masu and desu) form of saying things in order to show respect, appreciation and to talk respectfully to someone you are not that close too. People use keigo when they talk to me even though Im a foreigner. Having said that, no country is perfect so theres definitely flaws to living out here as a foreigner as well.
It’s true that when men graduate in Japan they typically commit (long term) to a particular company and there is definitely this concept of a working man in Japan who provides financially. But my wife sees marriage as a partnership- two people being in it together- so we both contribute equally. We both help with the responsibilities of raising our son and we always divide the bills amongst us equally (except of rent which I voluntarily cover). We have a shared bank account but we also have our separate bank accounts that we manage independently on our own. She believes it’s too much emotional stress when one person shoulders the financial and/or parenting duties on their own. Just about everything is 50/50. So like Sharon's wife, my wife doesn’t ask me to give her my salary so she can allocate my earnings.
My father in law is a small business owner who found success by taking risk. My mother in law worked with him to build that business so unlike Sharon's wife, my wife always encourage me to take risk with my business and not to limit myself to working for one company long term. my bad i wrote a book but i felt like adding details and some examples was necessary.
Very insightful. I can't imagine working my butt off and I have zero say on where my money goes. You sir are one of the most understanding people I know. Not for me, but glad it seems to working out for you.
Can’t agree / relate to this dudes assessment. I’ve been married to a Japanese woman for 11 years and lived in Japan for ten of those. My in laws have been amazing, accepting, and always made me feel part of the family. Have a bunch of mates married to Japanese women here, all of them have the same experience w good in laws. I’m sure there are a bunch of people who are still a bit backwards / old style like any other nationality but I personally haven’t seen it.
Great interview ! Keep up the good work
Wow that was another great interview bro!!!
I remember a Chinese American on my ship, when stationed in Japan, found it weird that people in the US wait a few years before getting married. He got married to his wife after 2 months of dating her and had 2 kids with her. Some guys were on his side and others thought he was crazy. He said the same thing as the guy in the video.
@k Explorer You are the best street interviewer I've seen on Asian topics. Great job with this channel. But maybe i missed it bjt where is this guy originally from?
There were some good gems 💎 in this video I appreciate the info 💪🏾😎
quickly go to thank those jews.............!
Wotching from Africa bro keep grinding 🎉
It was nice to see Sharon here 🥰
great video but man this guy is looking clean and fresh !
Great Interview!
this guy seem like a well balance person.
He is mature
In contrast, I'm savage. I would not marry such a person who'd want 100% of my earnings and then give me pocket money like a chump. Just no, stop it right there.
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damn he got married im sorry to hear that my condolences
Every person is diffrent its not always about cultures you can get married to anyone as long as your both happy together then the relationship will last forever as long as you both love eachother ofcourse theirs good girls out their in every country its all about the principles such as how they percieve life if they got a good heart thats a bonus
This good guy has plenty good advices to offer just here
The first guy kinda looks like Nacho from Better Call Saul
Sharoona!
What country is he from?
Interview très intéressante, le gars a vraiment pris le temps de réfléchir au mariage, aux différences culturelles, aux difficultés qui peuvent découler d’un mariage inter-racial. Je considère que le mariage est un challenge peu importe d’où l’on vient, sa religion, sa culture, est on prêt à faire des compromis pour la réussite de son couple ? ? (Attention il n’est pas question là d’accepter de la violence physique ou verbale, ou de compromission avec de la tromperie !)
My friend an attorney married a Japanese woman and that marriage made him an alcoholic.The divorce saved his life.Big risk if you marry a different culture.
when i asked her dad for her hand, he told me. you are a very very kind man. i should have ran man. now it is too late. i should have heeded the warning. just saying...
Is that a bruise?!
I wonder how tall are you ? You seem Hella tall
6'1 or 6'2
@@MHG796 & you don't feel bad for being taller than almost everyone in the country? You don't feel like a predator? I love Japanese women, but if I was that tall why would I need to? I don't like people like you changing their culture deliberately & not caring about it.
So being tall makes you a predator? You want him to cut himself in half to make you happy and respect their culture?@@To411u
i need to marry a japanese women, i am reckless with money
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You should react to the tyre nichols case where some black police officers beat him mercilessly and he died as policing in Korea is very different would be interesting to see the reaction and thoughts on this issue as even the FBI and the president have talked on this issue
He's 100 percent right ur father in law is suppose to hate u despite of race
can you do a video about a foreigner being married to a Korean woman please!??
Working on it
Give the wife all the money tf
Yes, that is the way it works in Japan; and then she gives u an allowance, typically 200$ for the whole month
He looks Mexican or something like that.
What is your youtube channel?
Whenever the setup is like this, where the man is a foreigner (especially darker skinned) and the woman is Japanese- she is on the losing end. She’s got nothing to gain from being married to such foreigner. Japan is a great country with a great culture and has an amazing society, anyone who gets to marry one of theirs is a benefit only to the foreigner.
Why does that matter if you love the person? You have a small mind
You're funny
As soon as he said stable job, i was out 😂
They are kind of passive in relationship, if you know what I mean 😎 I think if they got ok income Japanese women just want to live alone. They will move to work in small towns because it is much safer for women. You know what I mean.
What’s it like being married to a black person?😅😅
Same as Korea too
A man should be in control of his own money. A man is to wear the pants in a marriage not the woman. I feel bad him.
I get the feeling that he's not accepted by his in-laws because he's brown.
IF he was white, the story would be different.
I somewhat feel the same.
brown? wash tou glasses he is not brown
Yep white savior complex i call it
You could be right. My brother is married to a Japanese woman. Her dad is pretty cool towards his son in law. We are African American.
who cares at least he has a lady he comes to every night, he doesn't sleep with his in-laws does he
He didn't even give their daughter a wedding, and he wonders why he's not accepted by her parents lol
watch the video again, he says thats common in japan and korea, they sign papers then ceremony later, it was not entirely his decision, it was mutual
It was a mutual decision, and its common in japan so idk what you mean. This is not the west
It takes time sometimes. My husband is Korean, we have been married for 3 years and we're going to have our ceremony this March finally. Keep in mind that, with covid, planning a ceremony has not been easy for many married couples. Especially if she wants to have it in Hawaii. I'm sure they need to save a lot of money first.
@@Raphanne I'm happy for you! Best of wishes!
@@puppyoverload5145 West or not, parents with daughters always want to see their daughter as a bride. Parents want to show off their daughter as "married" as well. Especially in asian cultures. They want to invite everyone to show them how great and amazing their daughter wedding is etc. Family is more involved in the marriage than their counterparts in the West. So that's why I said they might feel some type of way about their son in law not giving them that opportunity to feel proud and see their daughter as a bride. Just because they didn't make a scandal about it that doesn't mean that's not how they might feel about it.
A lot of Japanese woman like foreigners
Not true.
Great topic. Please contact me if you’re ever in Osaka. I’d like to expand on the interviewee’s commentary.
Many Japanese women love foreign men and Japanese men doesn’t like that.
You are wrong.
Statistics show that the percentage of Japanese men marrying foreigners is higher than that of Japanese women marrying foreigners. According to 2019 statistics, 70% of international marriages in Japan were couples between a Japanese man and a foreign woman.
Is that what you tell yourself to feel better
Go out or else u will die lonely dude
@@asdfghjjhgf The difference is most Japanese men in interracial relationships are with Asian women, so most people don’t even notice he is dating a foreigner. While Japanese women usually date foreigners who look ‘foreign’, thereby causing more attention.
Ah the Charisma Man myth, that's cute!
Japan needs Islam..
Lmao
What the reason?
No it doesn't, Japanese women wear Kimono's they don't wear Burqa's or Hijabs.
Exactly 100%
mmmmm That guy is very sus!
Yeah something off about him