The 5 Reasons Why Foreigners Should Not Marry Japanese Women
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ค. 2024
- ★Recommended videos: Japanese Wife's Instruction Manual | 妻のトリセツ★
• Japanese Wife's Instru...
★Patreon (Meshida: Special Funny Videos for members!!)★
www.patreon.com/meshida?fan_l...
★Podcast (Why Why Japan)★
open.spotify.com/show/0e30DJB...
★The Truth About Japanese Wives | From Girlfriend to Master★
• The Truth About Japane...
The 5 Reasons Why Foreigners Should Bot Marry Japanese Women...
===============================
00:00 Opening
00:59 Introduction
01:16 1. Evolve like pokemon
02:15 2. Wife = Employer
03:33 3. Japanese Wives Dream
05:25 4. Allowance
06:33 5. Sexless Marriage
==============================
★Writer★
・Meshida
・Lie （Assistant writer + English teacher）
/ tokyo_lie
★Meshida (Comedian)★
▪facebook▪ / meshidacomedy
▪twitter▪ / meshidacomedy
▪Instagram▪ / meshida_comedy
【English Standup Comedy Show in Tokyo】
★Standup Comedy Events in Tokyo | Funny Japan Project★
▪facebook▪ / funnyjapanproject
▪meet up▪www.meetup.com/Tokyo-Live-Eng...
▪Instagram▪ / funnyjapanproject
★My Japanese Perspective★
（English Standup Comedy Show in Tokyo）
The show will take place in Asakusa, Tokyo's traditional entertainment district. There will be a 30-minute welcome session with a drink, followed by a 60-minute comedy show on Japan. After the show, feel free to hang out at the bar, make friends, and drink for another 30 minutes or so.
www.airbnb.jp/experiences/44832
#meshida #japanesecomedian #japanesewife - ตลก
![BOWKYLION - เจ้านายคะ (work-life imbalance) [Official MV]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/6bFj8G2pOi4/mqdefault.jpg)
Disclaimer: every thing he says is the truth he just had to say it was a joke so Japanese women don't murder him.
🤫🤫🤫🤫🤫
😂😂😂😂
well, based on what my girlfriend told me, most of what he said, if not all, are correct~
0:50😂🔪🩸⚰️
So that his *wife**
Think I cracked up too hard when he said, "We Japanese men are okay with it, because we're masochists"
haha same here XD
Red pilled japanese man! You don't see this very often. Welcome to the club MGTOW.
Sad, sad.
Yet a Catholic priest is a perfect sexless life.
It explains all the Shibari/BDSM/Bondage porn though lol
This is not a joke!!!!!!!! I was dating a Japanese woman for ten years before we got married, and I lived in Japan with her, we were married for ten more years and when this guy said they turn into monsters, he was not joking, and after we had our son, who is now six years old, she became even worse!! In the last two years of our relationship, I had enough, but I didn't want to divorce her as I believed we could work out our differences! I adored my son and he loved me very much, but my wife was jealous of our bond!!! One morning I drove my wife and son to his school and left the car with her, as I had to take the train to work, I said goodbye to my son and told him I loved him very much and I would see him when I got home that evening as always, and he said the same. I also said goodbye to my wife and she said the same with a smile. When I got home that evening, I was devastatedly shocked to find that she had left me and kidnapped my son😱😭 she had also taken the car and everything in the apartment! She had also canceled the apartment agreement!! And everything that she had done is legal in Japan!! I had done nothing to warrant such an attack!! I could not work as a teacher anymore because I was so devastated at losing my son, I couldn't stop crying at work, as missed him so much! I had to go back to England!! I am saving as much money as possible to go back and find my son, as he must be also devastated!! It was an evil act, as far as I'm concerned!! So make sure that you check all the laws in Japan before getting married to a Japanese woman!!!
That's such a heartbreaking story. I hope you find your son.
I think you should kick her ass for kidnapping your som
Jesus, I am sorry you and your son have had to go through all of this, what a nightmare. I hope you are able to reconnect, this is heartbreaking.
I honestly don't know what to say, but what happened to your son and you is just an evil act.
I hope you'll be able to see your son again.
Smh women can be evil incarnate regardless of where they are from or what their race are.
This is not a joke, everything he says is true, if marriage is so unfair for most men in the west, being married to a Japanese woman is literally HELL on earth.
I am Malaysian born Chinese. Japanese women are pretty. In general Japanese people are well mannered and kind.
Her father, becomes your father in law
Her mother, becomes your mother in law
Her brother, becomes brother in law
Her sister, becomes sister in law
Your wife, *BECOMES THE LAW*
hahaha😁
God damn that's clever
😄😄😄😄😄😄😆😆😆😆😆😆😆
This sounds like marriage anywhere else.
Your husband is under the law
"In western countries, married couples are a partnership."
Meshida, this was your best joke!
lol!
@@Meshida Is it common in japan for partners to stab you in the back? Sometimes literally?
Yeah, a partnership that is 90/10. Ninty percent hers, ten percent the man's.
Too bad he's wrong about American woman in thay case lol
@@sbyrstall Wow that's a really good deal. I get to keep $20 a paycheck on a six figure salary. You're a genius!
This is hilarious (and true!). I taught Business English in Tokyo for many years (eg. Sony executives). My male students loved to complain that the "allowance" from their wives was too low. Their wives didn't give them enough drinking money! LOL
I was married to a Japanese woman and experienced all of this while living in Japan. Everything he says here is a fact. Dating is fine, but marry a Japanese woman at your own peril!
hahahaha. REally? Its that bad?
Who the f*ck dates one without the intention of marrying. Dude is wasting someone's time and life. What a disgusting thing to do!
"We Japanese understand it and can accept it because we are masochists." Pure gold!
good reason to not go in japan.
Japan's gender wage gap is at the bottom of the OECD.
Japan is famous for being a male-dominated country.
Because of the large wage disparity between men and women, men are forced to live a life in which it is difficult for women to be independent.
This TH-camr makes statements that are typical of a selfish Japanese man.
In order to "prevent Japanese women from being stolen away by foreign men," they use a lot of hateful expressions that demean Japanese women.
That definitely was hilarious 😂
@@ChrisHeart-kr1uq wtf
why suicide in japan are rare to be seen nowadays?
"In Japan, we still have a slavery system and that is called Marriage..." That one killed me🤣🤣🤣
Arigato!!!
I mean it’s not too different in America now if you get married or have a kid all the girl has to do is simply leave you and she still gets everything from you and she doesn’t have to give you anything either girls commonly get with young rich kids (such as basketball players) because they don’t know how things work and they can easily get they’re lives paid for while doing what they want
@@TrippieMint So sad 😥. People are using other people as objects...
@@dimspj2179 yea the worst part is that there’s nothing they can do except not get into that situation but people would shame you if you did that
Isn't this like deafult marriage in general? I mean I live in eastern europe and getting married also isn't on my list yet
So true!!! 😂. Thanks for posting this!!!
The thing is Japan is a polite society. Western people confuse politeness with submissiveness. And then get horribly surprised 😂
My wife is an Osaka girl and she was laughing all through this video saying "true" "true" - now I'm a little scared. LOL
hahaha😁
🤣🤣🤣🤣
brace yourself. lmao (he's a goner)
"Why are you running?"
There is an exception to almost every rule: maybe, you're lucky!
Marrying my Japanese ex-wife was the worst mistake of my life. But a friends Japanese wife seems to remain nice even after having children.
My wife (From Tokyo) said to me,"You treat me like a maid." I replied,"If you were the maid I would have fired you after the 1st week." It went down hill from their
hahaha😁
alpha move
@Y grinding along. I remember her saying one night," Fine cook your own meal"! So I did. She was not happy. I remember the female friend that introduced us telling her," He is an American male. He can take care of himself." The wife still doesn't get it.
@@vincentamella5682 I like how you say "the" wife and not "my" wife xD
@@lars9168 Because it is illegal to call them 'the ol' ball-N-chain' now! LOL
Outstanding, very enjoyable thank you!
Thank you for the very interesting insights !! And also presenting this topic in a very funny way. I am very interested in watching more of your videos !!!! :)
You are not a comedian, you are telling the truth to all the world!!!
TSSHHH THEY WILL HEAR YOU!
All comedy is based off truth and suffering
@@ChaosAngel667 I think he's dead by now. He spoke the unforgivable
I always say "keep the change" after sex ,,, ATM :D true for all woman
The Bad thing is that the truth IS funnier than fiction.
30 years married to an Osaka woman. The kids are all grown now, but I am suffering from severe PTSD. Thank you for the good laughs!
What is you experience from day cero to this day? I wanna know what strategie you use to keep your sanity.
It's kind of scary how every "trending" video of Japan involves putting it down in some way 🤨It's literally the complete opposite with midlestrn/hspanek cultures.. of which the latter gets praised to no end. I'm sensing some kind of intentional degradation towards Asian culture by the ones in charge of YT🤨This is just downright creepy and disgusting.
@@Exdonn I'm mean your not wrong nor right. I saw videos on TH-cam downgrading white, black, Hispanic and other cultures getting downgraded but it depends if you firstly search it up or not and then TH-cam bonn you with it.
@@Angel-re3is Um, no. I never said I searched any of this up. If you read my comment I literally said "trending", meaning it just popped on my page without me ever looking it up. And BTW, I've looked up hspanek/midlestrn themes occasionally. So by your point I would at least see 1 negative video on hspanek/midlestrn culture. So far 0 to none. Unless I search it up of course. But again as I am repeating myself, I watch Japanese videos occasionally and am recommended nothing but negative videos about Japan. This NEVER happened with hspanek/midlestrn. It doesn't matter your "opinion" and "what you think you know." I'm talking about what I'm actually experiencing myself.
@@Exdonnyou’re thinking too hard. I see your point but it’s the algorithm. I rarely get negative Japanese stuff unless it’s about history but I get tons of “negative” stuff about western women and people without searching it up. I could look up an Elden ring video and a couple videos down would be a video about how western women filled full of marshmallows. Speaking from experience in America at least people here are constantly spitting in the wind. It’s sad.
Meshida, thanks for video. Very helpful. I had no clue about that
This is very informative and hilarious! Thanks so much my friend!😁👍
I worked on the JET (Japan Exchange and Teaching) Programme. I asked the girls in my class if they wanted to grow to up to be like their mothers ... all the girls raised their hands. I asked the boys if they wanted to be like their fathers ... none raised their hands.
Hey man I heard of JET what is it exactly ? Are you teaching English? I’m American and want to experience Japan even though I’m scared of work culture heard it’s crazy crazy
@@kawaiihikari0 Skip Japan, too expensive. Second, you're honestly better off going to a cheaper asian country and just finding a girl there that speaks Japanese EVEN IF what you desire is a Japanese-speaking Asian girl because you're an Otaku. I'm fluent in Japanese and lived there and can tell you Japanese women HATE otaku, utterly HATE them. Whereas you can find Chinese, Filipina, and other girls that love Japanese anime, probably can speak some with you (if that's what you're into), and you will generally get along with them much better. I married a Chinese woman who respects me (but I do have to put the foot down when she goes into tiger mom mode to ensure that is only directed at the children, but that's frankly the mother instinct ALL women have, if you don't make them shut-it-off when they talk to you it will be a problem), and while I might prefer Japanese language (it's easier on the ears), everything else is 10x better. Plus you can live in parts of China for $200/mo rent ($300/mo due to US dollar inflation) with no contracts, my entire living costs were like $550 a month, maybe you'd need like $700/mo now, I lived for years while doing remote American work making multiple times that. Lived like a king. In Japan you'd need like $4,000 a month to live in a major city. But it is pretty fun. I would just go on vacation trips to Japan (only like $300 flight from my part of China to Japan) several times when the urge hits me. Find a job that you can do remotely in America. Heck there are call center jobs you can do for like $18/hr in the USA REMOTELY, so then do it from China where $18/hr ($3,000/mo) makes you richie rich.Heck you could work part-time, just 20 hours call center in the USA and make $1,500 a month which is easily enough to live like a king in much of Asia.
On a side note, (if you're still listening), I'll just say if you like anime, even just a LITTLE bit, that is strike one with many Japanese women, if they catch you watching certain types of anime, they will FREAK OUT on you. And if you're a christian it's strike two. When some Japanese female colleagues heard that I watched some popular shonen anime (if you watch DBZ, Naruto, etc. KEEP IT A DANG SECRET) it nearly cancelled out my good rep as Shacho, some mockingly called me the "Otaku Shacho". And even before that, it seemed like only the gyaru type girls were the only girls with decent english willing to speak (others too shy and poor english). It's much harder to go after the shy, modest, conservative types (you have to be able to speak FLUENT Japanese because their english SUCKS) that I would want there because Japanese nationalism is really weird compared to other countries. I disliked most Japanese women because they are so dang materialistic and godless. There are more christian trad wives in China where christianity is persecuted, than Japan where christianity is just mocked and non-existent as one Japanese friend told me, "you Americans killed christianity here" and told me how Hiroshima and Nagasaki were the christian refuge cities where christians hid for centuries from shogunate persecution and that the USA wiped out virtually all of Japan's christians and the Enola Gaye used the largest church in Japan to drop the bomb. Anyways, long story short, get a wife from a neighboring country, and if you like the japanese langauge just find a chinese, korean, taiwanese, thai, filipina, indonesian, or other wife that speaks japanese (studies it, or so forth). I'll admit Japanese is the most beautiful language of the region, but slap it on ANY of the women of neighboring regions (and I've dated most of those I listed) and they far exceed Japanese women. But darn if I don't prefer it. But if you want a shy, conservative girl (ASK them if they like America and if they say "Yes" RUN AWAY, very far away, the proof is when you follow up with "why?" and their answers are always materialistic bad stuff, like celebrities, money, fashion, etc. the correct answer is for them to shrug and say "I don't know", but "no" is better than "yes" but may cause problems if you try to bring them to the USA later since they don't like it).
@@kawaiihikari0 I see you work in IT, and have a good income. Save up like $50k bro and you can live like a king elsewhere for a few months or years and make a killing just doing remote IT work. I'd recommend China, Philippines, Thailand (great beaches), or other Asian locations. Japan and Korea got great cultures to suck you in but the women have issues and the living costs are just too dang expensive for foreigners, especially rent. In Japan the landlords often will reject foreigners altogether, they are even allowed in their advertisements to say "no gaijin" or "no filipinos" or "no africans" (landlords can openly discriminate on nationality and even on race though they usually will frame it around nationality to avoid getting labelled a racist but it's legal regardless). Many landlords generally view gaijin as unstable tenants, which is generally true. Korea is worse as they tend to require all tenants give them huge deposits up front (like $40,000 to rent an one bedroom apartment) unless you find a rundown place or look far outside the city centers. I found it cheaper to just negotiate with hotels for long-term stays (i.e. pay for 30 days at a time) than to get an apartment but it makes you feel like a permanent outsider until you can get a girlfriend to jeonse with you. Pretty crazy. Like to just RENT a 2 bedroom apartment under jeonse system you have to put up $80,000 and then live there "rent free" for two years as your landlord pays YOU back after 2 years. It's really weird. It's virtually impossible for foreigners to get a loan for jeonse in order to rent an apartment, you basically have to be rich enough you could just put the money down yourself or are willing to put a house down as collateral, you almost always have to have a wife or girlfriend do it for you. So yeah, that's why Korea and Japan suck as far as rent/living costs for foreigners. I liked Korean women more than Japanese women, but Japanese nightlife/cities more than any other. But Korea itself is so dang depressing after a while and I broke up with my korean ex because she became an alcoholic (they are like the irish of asia, love soccer, drink tons of beer, but with endless sad songs playing instead of upbeat pub songs) and didn't date others because the american-crazy girls are all materialistic and not my type while the ones that dislike America and are better women (conservative, patriotic) tend to be sometimes strongly anti-american due to US troop issues (lots of clubs there with "No Americans Allowed" signs or "No Foreigners Allowed" when I was there while others had policies of not letting you in if you don't speak Korean, though honestly I regret ever going to Korean clubs as the women in them are trashy just like in US clubs, I found better women ironically in their PC cafe's playing starcraft with them, haha) and their families were often a bit less accepting as Korea has a lot more ethnonationalism and "mixing blood" is frowned upon. One time I was standing in front of my hotel trying to get my girlfriend to come in with me and a korean grandma went out of her way to bump into me very forcefully. Ultimately skipped out on that and married a great Chinese woman, total trad wife. Hong Kong, Taiwan, Singapore are great too, they are all used to foreigners and you won't meet as many people that treat you like you're different especially if you speak Chinese with them, I often felt like "one of them" (but I am fluent) and treated respectfully by their parents whereas Korea and Japan you are ALWAYS foreign to them and often looked down on by parents (unless they are western-crazy families who are materialistic scum that you don't want to marry into). Met her in one of the more christian cities there (she wasn't herself yet, but her sister and aunt were christian so she was open to it though her parents are still sort of noncommitted pagans). Basically if you want a tradcon wife with a conservative patriotic family yet still welcoming to foreigners you have to look outside of Japan and Korea oftentimes because ethnonationalist ideas are often interwoven into their form of tradcon. Hope I helped. I noticed the kek which is why I bring that stuff up.
@@TexanIndependence dude I read every word… thank you for this advice. So actually I’ve been talking to Chinese women. Well like 20 of them messaged me and so far only thing we can do is voice chat. But better than texting. Anyway I was talking to this one and she is by far over 10 years old than me I’m 21. But seems like she is in the right mind not materialistic at all and loves the same things I do nature, food, music, and more other intimate things I guess. So she has me kinda wanting to go to China (I know some of their culture from having international students from Korea, Japan, and China) and I love their food and their culture is very nice as well. (Really just want to leave the U.S. to an Asian country) and she wants me to go. She doesn’t want to go to the U.S but rather stay in China. Not sure if it’s weird she is 37 😂 and again I’m 21. (I dated an American women at 18 she was 38) I want a women who is more traditional and respectful as she seems to be and we have talked about these values and told her what I would accept and not accept 🤷🏻♂️ so I turned my eyes to China and currently I’m learning Chinese first tones and then pinyin. I have a teacher and everything and she is helping me with 5 words a day 😂😄. You said in China even part time you could live comfortably which is crazy I live in Southern California sooo expensive. But I have a question 🙋♂️ you said getting a remote job. I have IT experience of 5 years with more advanced things like networking but I don’t mind to do a more basic job if it means a life in China and a possible relationship. The main pint is to escape CA. And learn the language because I think it’s very fun the whole learning process even though it’s very hard. So how do I even get there as far as a visa? Work visa? And you said work for a U.S. company and then move to China? Wasn’t sure what you meant as far as that because that’s another thing I need to secure. A lot of remote jobs are within the U.S. unless I target the few that are abroad somehow haha. What are the steps? Cause I didn’t understand on my part.
@@TexanIndependence also she is Buddhist unfortunately.. I am a Christian man. So although it may be difficult maybe I can show her god through actions. Just has to be a way where it’s not offensive or pressuring 😂 but for work that’s the main thing man. And learning the language at least I’m learning hsk 1-3 and I’m hoping to become at least close to fluent doesn’t even have to be that. But I think more learning will come while being in the country if the mother tongue.
I'm married to a Japanese woman. She's not quite a "monster wife." However, she does have her moments with our kids, and depending on the situation, I'll either defend her or our kids. My best advice I heard from other foreigners is, "Study her mom." The advice is mostly true. Other than that, as a husband, you need to have a back bone and don't always put up with that behavior. Marriage is a foundation; not one person over another.
thanks for sharing your ideas!
Well said, Manuel! Single men looking to marry a Japanese woman, "STUDY HER MOM." She is the woman your wife will grow into. This might be true for other cultures, too.
My Japanese wife has a strong personality but I am just as stubborn as she is, if not more. We may butt heads every now and then, but we get along fine for the most part and always work together when life gets hard.
@@Meshida Great video, by the way. You had me laughing my lungs out.
Tell that to the Charizards out there.
@@JohnMiller-zr8pl you got point 👍
When law system come bargaing in i don,t think there will many things to do ☕
advice I got from a friend who's from Japan while I lived there for 4 months in 2019: "dating japanese girl just fine, marry one and you regret for life" seems like it holds true based on this video lol
I have no idea why TH-cam put this video in my recommendations list. But it was both very funny and insightful to watch. 😊👍
I love how after he says "this is a joke, don't be upset" he just starts spitting straight facts XD
for real! Man, that was good. Definitely worth sharing.
"in western countries. married couples are a partnership. " Oh my sweet summer child...
🤣
Yes, this was Meshida's best joke!
total wrong & failed thoughts
I'm currently learning/studying Japanese and this was mad hilarious!!!😂😂 Thank you for the warning, Meshida-Sama😂😂😂
What he said is a bonafide fact! I and many of my friends experienced this......and I have many stories just like his over the last 40+ years. It is so true it seems it is programmed to happen every time. Would I do it all over again? No. NO.
Thank you for creating this channel. It's really cool that you're producing content in English. Very funny.
This I can confirm. My wife is Japanese, I'm Mexican. Completely different lifestyles. She was like a innocent girl when we were dating, then when we got married. She became Big boss mama bear. It was a struggle since she wanted most control of our finances, which was fine as she barely spent anything on herself and more towards our daughter's, but she was always asking for my paycheck stubs, and decisio making around the house. After about 8 years, she realized our way of lifestyle is a bit more loving and more partnership rather than dominance. Our marriage is still great and has vastly improved, especially when we moved back to California, and we love our daughters very much. I guess she felt like she needed to show her prowess in Japan so she can be a traditional Japanese wife/mother.
I hope good luck to u and pray for your daughters best wishes and good luck : )
My man, you are a better man than I am. I would have gone buying a cigarette pack long ago.
@@xminusone1 there was a guy in my family who would regularly do that. He had a wife and family and would go out for a pack of cigarettes and disappear for years. But he would come back, and be taken back. Those were different times.
lol never would have worked with my wife if she was that controlling. So I ask women this all the time, if you don't trust your husband to protect you, your home, finances, etc.,
Why On Earth Did He Marry YOU????
> I guess she felt like she needed to show her prowess in Japan so she can be a traditional Japanese wife/mother.
I need a clarification here. To my understanding traditional Japanese wife is submissive to her husband but still capable of defending her home and children from robbers and the like. Is this not true? Or did it go out of the fashion along with naginata as a marriage gift?
A Japanese woman once told me that everything in Japan is a lie, but she was also a scammer... I like to imagine that was the one true thing she ever told me lol
So kawaii is a lie?
@@kazumakiryuu2668 not for simps
@@kazumakiryuu2668 Your favorite movie, even if it's "based on true story" is fictional. It doesn't matter as long as it still makes your day. The important part should be that the person cares enough to make you happy. Like when a husband meets his in-laws even if he genuinely hates them. It's cuz he cares for the wife's happiness. It's silly to downplay his effort just because it's a lie.
You've given me answers all right; but they were all different. What I want to know is, out of all the stories you told me, which ones were true and which ones weren't?.... My dear Doctor, they're all true. Even the lies?....Especially the lies.
Thank you Meshida, I have really had a good time watching this video.
Amazing!!! Very funny!! 😂
I know an American man who lived in Japan, married a Japanese woman, and he described it just like this, but he wasn't laughing so much.
hahaha😁
He is a masochist so he is happy
I am an American man who lived in Japan and married a Japanese woman. None of this is a joke.
Chinese women same problem
On retainer I can't take the mental abuse anymore
This is all true in Japan, and only in Japan. My Japanese wife and I got married in America and for the first 10 years it was a normal western marriage, but once we moved to Japan, my wife immediately went into full oni-mode!
you on her turf now bruh
She's soo wild at the bed? like oni?
Is she freaky??
Yea. Like, how far does she squirt now vs in America?
You should keep her for she is a wise woman. She knows when to hold her cards close to her chest until they will give the greatest advantage on the battlefield of marriage.
Is she related to Yamamoto Kansuke by chance?
Brilliant! 笑わせてくれてありがとうございます。
oh good stuff keep it up amigo!
Hearing a housewife being a yakuza boss makes the premise of "The way of the house husband" even funnier, because it's about a male yakuza who manage his household while his wife is the breadwinner of the family.
I love that show 🤣
“I need more feminists in Japan!” So he can be a househusband 🤣🤣🤣
He doesn't know Feminists don't work and want free money, abortion free, drugs and look like men!
@@eduardosotelo4663 That's the sad part!!!
@@eduardosotelo4663 and they hate men
Thank gawd Korea even started a show that is called house husband :)
Tell me that after they become feminists
Lol this is funny to me as an Indian. Since most Asian countries share the same culture, I can totally relate to this. Even in Indian marriages, in some communities, the wife is the boss of the house and every expense needs to be approved by the wife - In our culture she is the manifestation of Mahalakshmi, the deity of prosperity and happiness and the husband is the manifestation of Mahavishnu - the solver of problems lol. In other words, she is the foundation and the root that makes and maintains the home, its ambience and provide good nutrition for everyone. Whereas he is responsible to provide the finances for this and remove obstacles that arise. This requires both to be disciplined - and women in our cultures are generally more disciplined about everything after marriage than men - who are still childish and carefree lol.
Marriage is more than a romantic union in our cultures. Since they are an economic unit in society and are responsible to ensure their kids grow up to be smart and responsible, the husband and wife have responsibilities they must follow and they change as the family grows and evolves. This is not so much in western marriages - used to be in the 50s and 60s, but not anymore since they are a highly individualistic society whereas we are a collective society. So I can totally relate to the culture shock lmao.
Excellent comedy -- based on facts taken to the extreme. Wonderful.
I spent many many years in Japan while in the military. Had coworkers who were married to local women. Everything this man says is true...all of it.
hahaha😁
I agree!
Still its the same for all woman on the world its not only there dude
@@MrWarbrute no not at all, compare this to how women are treated in the entire Middle East.
@@Angel333xx i only meant who is the boss in the house.
"Unlike America Japanese society isn't controlled by the deep state, our society is controlled by house wives... House Yakuza" lmao that was great
Arigato!
The housewives are the Japanese Deep State.
commenting just to add engagement.
funny and really cool and unique seeing a Japanese comedian
That was a great video!
I've been married for 17 years like this and living in Japan for the last 11 years. I can confirm all of this--he is a comedian, but he is not joking. And it's all done without any yelling or arguing. Some of you out there are boyfriend/girlfriend with a Japanese woman, thinking that your relationship will be the exception once it progresses to marriage. Consider this fair warning from this comedian and myself...
Sounds to me like your wife has confiscated both your kin tamas and locked them away in a jar somewhere. My condolences
Yeah. I have heard from a Japanese co-worker that if a woman is a housewife, the salary of the husband can be sent directly to her bank account. The company where the husband works also regard it as wage paid for both of them as if both are working for such company.
I don't know if it was because of lost in translation but it sounded ridiculous to me.
I thought all marriages are like that?
That’s more of a “let’s discuss this while we are dating” because if the guy isn’t cool with it, they need to talk. I definitely wouldn’t be good with my wife taking most of my finance without a thorough discussion of where it’s going.
That’s more of a “let’s discuss this while we are dating” because if the guy isn’t cool with it, they need to talk. I definitely wouldn’t be good with my wife taking most of my finance without a thorough discussion of where it’s going.
Comedian: tells truth
Also comedian: "for legal resons it's a joke"
Thank you for the good info.
Thank you for your pokemon lesson..loved it❤😂
This applies to all Asian women. Once married, your world will change, and sometimes overnight. Believe it!
-Naruto Uzomaki
Never compare a Thai woman to a japanese woman. Thais only want your money!!!
This applies to ALL women.
Asia is a big place and it's not the same everywhere. I can assure you there are big differences between all Asian cultures. I've dated women from the Philippines and Indonesia so I can at least confirm that they are very different. Plus women in Indonesia are not all the same for instance there's a lot of cultural differences just traveling from one island to the next, so don't try to lump all Asian people together.
it's not a good idea to befriend an asian.
A friend of mine once introduced me to a Japanese girl who was a graduate of a Geisha school in Japan. I asked myself then, what would life be like marrying a sweet Geisha girl specifically trained to provide companionship and comfort to her husband? Would I live in paradise forever thereafter? Never did it occur to me that a sweet girl like her could turn into a Yakusa boss after marriage! Glad, I didn't find out. BTW, the Yakusa Boss wife applies to so many women, not just the Japanese. I know, because I have lived on 3 continents, and those "Yakusa wives" are everywhere!!!
i don't get it, so is it better to date for the rest of my life and not marry or should i find the right person to marry, I'm lost
@@IIIISai Do whatever you wish its your life
@@MarvoloSalazar alr
@@IIIISai honestly marriage is only good if you are a girl or if you want to raise a family. But if your a guy it's more disadvantages than advantages. (Again unless u want a kid then having a permanent partner is important for the kids).
@@citizenterra LMAO!!! How about you explain this to the women! even with kids they divorce us at a 70% to 80% rate! I guess women arent as concerned about that as you are!
The Pokémon evolution analogy is just pure brilliance, even choosing Charizard was a good move
I don’t know anyone who is married to a Japanese woman, but I did have a friend when I was a kid who’s mother was native Japanese. I remember her being very sweet and kind and the family seemed really happy. Even the dad, he was great. She had an obsession with strawberries, probably never had them before she arrived in the states I guess. I loved the way she couldn’t say “strawberries”. It came out as “Stadabeddies”.
Random fact: Japanese Strawberries are delicioulsy sweet
I'm married with a Greek woman and it's the same as Japanese women damnit
When I was married, my wife said that I should give her my paycheck. She continued saying that all of her friends get their husbands paycheck. I gave her the check and also all the bills, car payments, insurance, mortgage, power bill, water bill, ect. She said, "I don't want all these bills, I just want the paycheck! You pay these bills!" Lol!
Lol wait how did u pay then
She gets the money from him. She gives him what he owes. But it's gotta be legit. Asians are brutal esp the women they really are the head of the house doesn't matter how they look usually frail weak small in stature and submissive they will change after marriage despite lookin the same only you will change physically lol.
I had to wait until I got my next check. She just kept the cash and went to the casino.
The start of this comment, "When I was married," being past tense makes a lot of sense after reading it.
@@jessehorner4972 uhhh.....why did you let her go to the casino?
I feel like this is one of the reasons why marriage and birth rats are declining in Japan
Sounds like good advice!
😎🤙
He is not paid by the government to dissuade you from marrying Japanese women. It's 100% real talk. Sometimes I just sit and watch my Japanese wife without her knowledge and think to myself : " Who is this person and what has she done with my sweet wife?"
Man, the one that made me laugh out loud was the part where you said that "Japan still have a slavery system, it's called marriage"
😂 I love it!
"He's been disappointed by love too many times and has grown cynical"
We are legion.
Expect us.
hahaha😁
Wow this is educating 😅
Excellent !!!
A Soviet joke: A man should get married three times.The first wife is Jewish: there will be connections, a career and they bring up children well. Then get divorced and marry a Ukrainian woman, 15 years younger than you:they are funny, cook well, love sex-there will be a few happy years.And then get divorced and marry an Estonian woman-they take good care of the grave.
Very funny! But Jesus did not approve of divorce.
@@garryferrington811 Great point! Just have all three at the same time ;) (I'm not a Christian btw, just some humor).
@@ricanteja this optimizes the process:a Jewish woman, leaving, will take everything; a Ukrainian woman will kill for infidelity;and an Estonian woman will take care of the grave
My parents said marry jewish. I didn’t listen and missed out on all 3 wives.
@@garryferrington811 I am a Christian, but also a mathematician: it has not been proven that all the prohibitions announced by the church came out of the mouth of Jesus + it is not a fact that in modern conditions, he would not have formulated them differently.
White guys who've never been to Asia: "Damn, I want an asian wife, they're so pretty, loyal and feminine!"
Me, a veteran of the Chinese dating market: "Oh you sweet summer child"
Can you tell me your tales, so I'll know what to avoid or recognize?
@@elvismartinez9067 I mean, my experience is mostly limited to China, so if you're going to say, Japan or Thailand your mileage may vary, but a lot of what Meshida-san said rang true for me here as well. One thing I noticed was that long term ladyfriends in China, whether wifed-up or not, very quickly enter wife-mode where they will nag incessantly about everything. Very strong keep-up-with-the-Joneses mentality too. Many Chinese people come from poor backgrounds, others are spoiled rich kids, both care a LOT about money, specifically what you can do for her with that money. This may come off as thrifty sometimes, but mostly cause she wants you to save up for an even nicer gift for her. Sex ed is nonexistent and sex is generally taboo, so you have a lot of clueless girls doing the starfish and the occasional nympho where you wanna get tested afterwards. There's a ton more....
@@elvismartinez9067 Oh, and if you're tall and conventionally handsome, your SMV goes up to a ten here with your gwailou face (sadly I'm short and stocky so that didn't happen for me lol). They say a lot of white guys got yellow fever, but there are definately a LOT of Chinese girls with white fever. I guess if you're going to a large city in China and not looking for anything too serious and don't mind taking the lead in everything you might have a good time (just don't let the girl know where you live, trust me). In smaller cities girls will be more conservative and while they might put out, they'll assume you're being serious and if you dump her you might find her dad and his work buddies outside your house one day looking pissed.
@@SwedishSinologyNerd So what is stopping you from thoroughly training your Asian wife in the art of sex?
Experienced the same with Vietnamese lol, started very naive then got red pilled real quick and actually enjoying celibacy and it's freedom, which is the most precious gift a man can possibly have.
Thank you: I enjoyed this very much. I have lived in Japan for almost 40 years and now live half and half in Japan and Europe. Of course I have Japanese close women friends, but I have been careful not to marry. Many foreign men I know in Japan married to get a visa but 永住者/permanent resident without marriage is best!
When I was first in Japan (1984) there was a comic magazine about a dreadful middle -aged wife "Obatarian" - and I understood the danger of marriage. At first I worked as a 英会話/English teacher and there was a class of older housewives. One lady told me that she was very unhappy because her husband had retired and was now always at home. The ladies taught me their Japanese word for such a retired husband - 粗大ゴミ/oversized garbage.
Now I am in my seventies, and many of my Japanese friends are of the same generation. Many of them are really happy couples, still enjoying their lives together - maybe more than my Western friends in Europe, where so many are divorced. Everyone, man or woman, Japanese or foreigner, is an individual so every relationship is different. My experience is that Japanese women are still kind to me, even after almost 40 years - but I've not married ....
Jigolo.
The "not married" part is the KEY 🔑😂
Dude, you nailed it 😂. Made my day, cheers!
The Yakuza boss joke is no joke at all!
I remember a foreign lady who married a Japanese man abroad, she was so shocked by how much his family ruled over him and how every family reunion ended up with all the women talking about the family money and plans while all the men where in a different room watching football.
hahaha😁
@The God Of Manga Ya it's a pretty asian thing..However Indian girls don't wanna be housewives at all nowadays (atleast the ones who are able to make it to good colleges), don't know about Pakistan..
my ex chinese was like that too ,, horrible
@@Variable_Degree_Series this is so true. Girls are suffering from woke culture and feminism
@@Amitmondal-rx1ho not everything is woke culture just because you don't like it.
It's no joke. Everything he says is true. Not just sexless either. No kissing/ hugging or affection of any kind. I regret marrying a Japanese woman. And what's worse is the fact that the divorce system doesn't allow for joint custody of your kids. So your wife will take everything and your children. The husband gets no rights to see their own kids! Because of that I'm stuck in a F'd up relationship until my daughter is older.
I am sorry to hear that..such are so , especially nowadays.. the aspect of divorce system in Japan is cruel I know, and parent alienation to the child, especially from Japanese family members, that when they are older the effects have caused issues for the child and is difficult for them to connect emotionaly with their gaigin father.. I know this.. basicly, Japanese phycology is very different and difficult for us gaigins to grapple with. Just keep the heart open and loving always, but with care and caution..lol.. Wish you luck on your journey.
I'm sorry. Stay strong brother!
Stay strong man, same here, cause here it's like if you move to far away shared custody is over! 🥃🚬😮💨
it's not just the Japanese women, don't marry any woman in general, the same thing can happen to you in the West. Maybe in the Phillippines, marriage is better because in there divorce is illegal and cheating is a crime.
I would like to speak with you about this in a PM if you are able. I am in a similar situation and really have no one to talk to out here.
Not a dealbreaker. You're a funny guy, Meshida
I had no idea. Great educational vidro 😅
This perfectly explains Goku and ChiChi's relationship in DragonBall. ChiChi was very sweet and compassionate when she was younger but became a monster after she got married and had kids.
Well you're not wrong 😳
To be honest it wasn't until after Gohan was kidnapped by Piccolo and Goku was dead for over a year that she really took the turn.
Damm, after all these years.......
At least Bulma and Vegeta have a "better" relationship lol
Goku was too irresponsible as a father too tbh
@@YoJoRockThaBeat thats because Vegeta just ignores Bulma...hes still scared of her though
The part about the women turning ferocious is very true lol. My mom is extremely tiger mom and I thought she was always that way as I was growing up, but according to my dad she started off as a cute, shy girl. For me, my parents introduced me to a Japanese girl, now my wife, who originally started off cute and gentle, is now constantly yelling at me, criticizing me, dictating the bank account despite I'm the only one working, and basically controlling my life. Just as Meshida says though, its kind of expected so it never bothered me lol. I have western friends married to Japanese women and are constantly complaining to me about their marriage problems. There's a saying in my hometown that Japanese women are katana wrapped in silk and it's very true, but I love them to death for it.
Lol
Weak
@@nobody_in_particular754 It’s gap moe I guess? 😅
Actually, controlling the finances/expenditures was considered the women's job for centuries, particularly among the samurais. You are the mistress of the house in the most traditional sense.
This is just depressing bro pls stop 💀
You such a funny guy Mishida San😂❤ I love it! New Subscriber here.❤
I’d love to see the culture shock of experiencing Mediterranean women.
“The passion, the adorable curiosity, the magnificent cuisine!”
“Ah, now I understand why mental asylums were invented.”
Hey, were not all like that. I'm more of the shy kind
@@shadowsinmymind9 Literally all, no exceptions
;)
Absolutely true. My niece (English) went to study in Japan, married a Japanese man. When I met her 11 years later in Japan I could see she had been coached by her Japanese mother in law. The husband defined modern slavery. No wonder salary men die at their desks.
Bruhh f*ck 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 rip to them tho but bruhh😂😂😂😂
Wtf, so basically a foreign woman marries a Japanese man and then his mother coaches her on how to enslave her son?
Whoa, so the mother in law instructed her daughter in law how to exploit and run her own son? That's taking it to another level.
Why men find it difficult to hand over all money to wives? What are you hiding her from, side chick? Gambling? 😅 As a woman, I will tell you guys a trick: if husband her all his money, she will spend it much carefully because its her money now, she would be strategic with it😂 and we only think about what benefit the kids, husband not myself.
@@AudieHollandmarriage in Japan is like teamwork, the wives barely spoil herself and she spends money that benefits all the member👍 It is collectivism not individualism like the West
Reject anime stereotypes, embrace rough truth 😔
Anime, film, music often express fantasy of human and our desire in life deep down😂
@@FaQUE-hg5tl you know, I'm already into yanderes for the very long time
Goku and ChiChi enforce this stereotype
Ever heard of yanderes
@@BraveFencerI love those kind of girls personally.
🙇♂️ thank you for your advice
I like your sense of humor and jokes. I bestow on you . Meschida. :D
Once upon a time, a Prince asked a beautiful Princess...
"Will you marry me?"
The Princess said "NO!"
And the Prince lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles with pretty girls and went fishing and raced cars and played golf, and went to girly bars and dated women half his age and drank beer, whiskey, and milk from the carton and NEVER HEARD ANY BITCHING and went to rock concerts and kept his apartment and his favorite clothes and never got cheated on while working and all his family and friends thought he was cool as hell and had tons of money in the bank, and scratched his balls without criticism and left the toilet seat up goddamnit.
hahaha😁
Crimson capsule crew.
That seems to have slowly gotten oddly personal before the end…
He died young and happy
He was secretly married to his right hand and sometimes his left hand! Only he never told you! He knew you would be jealous!
My ex-wife was Chinese. It was the same. I put up with it for 20 years waiting for the woman I married to come back. It just got worse, and when I lost my job it was divorce. Now I live separately and have 50% custody of the children, and I am so happy to be out of that hell hole!
In a similar situation. I can empathize.
Similar thing happened to me with my Chinese ex-wife. I was and ATM and when I got very sick and couldn't work, the divorce came shortly afterwards.
Obvioiusly 'the woman U married' was just a PERFORMANCE designed 2 trick U 2 rob U, etc.
What is the age gap between you two?
Maybe you thought you were marrying that "Asian submissive woman".
Maybe "Asian submissive women" is a myth created by Western men who can't compete in the marriage market back home and took advantage of their socio-economic status to get wives in Asia
As an Asian man with a French wife i see this an absolute win because i know all the kind of the shit that an Asian wife would do when I was a student. Its funny because almost every foreigner male is blind, literally when it comes to dating Asian women.
진짜 존나게 부럽네
Don't equate Japanese women, with all other asian women... xD
Thank you for the heads up
I actually had a beautiful Japanese college professor explain this very thing to me when she learned I was dating one of the Japanese girls in the class. The single most important thing I learned in college
Wait what? Elaborate please.
Storytime.
Explain the beautiful Japanese college professor. We , at the comments community want to hear about her.
@@be_real_n_Original she was a lovely woman, early to mid 30s, spoke good if accented English, had long black hair cut around the small of her back, pretty face, thin, good figure, wore tight office lady style skirts usually dark colored, with white lose fitting blouses. she was a good teacher. rather tall for a japanese woman, and she liked tall high heels making her appear to be around 5'7ish... its amazing how much i remember about her a quarter of a century later.
@@arizona_anime_fan How did her explained this to you?
This is so true no joke, My wife is Japanese I literally became an ATM the day I got married, she’s always nagging me to give her all my salary and I can’t remember the last time we had sex after our first child, the affection is gone even sometimes the respect too, I want to leave this poisonous life even if it means not seeing my son…
you are the real slim shady
@@TheBillaro This is a very common problem among expats in Japan. Many English teachers and IT workers have this happen.
So have a girlfriend on the side.
YIKES! Good luck man, that is scary
This comment just turn into a r/story LMAO
Good job i love it
One of the best videos I have seen about Japan lol This guy is so funny.
My uncle married a japanese woman and I can say with confidence that this video is 100% accurate
Then talk to your aunt and tell her that she should love her husband and stop trying to control him. He deserves an equal say in finances and the household. It's abusive of her to try to control her husband like that. People wouldn't accept this if it were a husband controlling a wife. We need to stop accepting it if it is a wife controlling a husband.
Curious how many people actually had a conversation with their Japanese girlfriend before marriage to discuss their expectations or just went in thinking it'll all be good cause she's a "nice Japanese girl" and it's going to be better than dating an American.
They can tell you everything you want to hear and once that paper comes out she changes her attitude completely.
@@johnston31684 once you stamped your fingerprint, you lose your human rights muahahahahhahahahhahahaha
@@FatBunny168 if she can't understand than marriage would never happen
I had many discussion with my ex before marriage. We met while in a language school in France. This was a work trip for me. While we dated, I had to regularly go to other locations/countries for work. She was fine with it, but once we got married, it was no longer acceptable. I switch to a position I would be home every day, except a three or four nights twice every three months. That seemed to still bother her. Once I retired and was home regularly, she left.
The sex issue changed overnight the moment we got married and had our first child. It went from daily, to once every couple months, and even that she made it out like that was too much.
She was very traditional in front of others, but like mentioned in the video, at home completely a different person.
Expectations? You're deluded. You are expected to do everything. *Do not get married!*
I love the thumbnail.
Comments are more informative than the video itself thanks got new experience from comments😂
As a foreigner who married a Japanese woman this is surprisingly accurate lol
"Japanese women, don't get mad, its only a joke" But there is some truth in EVERY joke!
hahaha!
S you are right Japanese women don't get mad, because women are already mad
I guess he had to cover himself for HIS wife
It's the perfect system.
"It's a joke!" he says. "LOL, but it's true!!!" the others say. "But we said it was a joke, so it's okay, they aren't allowed to be mad about it."
So then, if a woman comes in to say "Hey, maybe this isn't okay guys" everybody can point and say "See! The woman is too sensitive, that proves it! Sheesh. Can't take a joke at all!"
So the women have two choices: stay silent and let the echo chamber resound with agreement, or try to chime in and be ridiculed as proof for speaking out. 🤷🏻♀️
cant beleive this fool just said that.. lol
25 years into the relationship with my now Japanese ex-wife. I gave her the baby and did my job and the tyrant emerged! This video was very funny and cut very close to home for sure. It is not far off in describing a certain sets of housewife behavior (in my experience and observation).
Why ex-wife ? Something happened ???
Just your thumbnail made me laugh already 😂
This isn't all that different from marriage in the West. The biggest differences are housewives are an endangered species, and Western men usually wait till after the divorce to give their wives all their money. On behalf of your wallets Japanese men have my condolences.
Ahahahahahahhahahahaa. Western men wait til after divorce to give their wives all their money?! I have a payday coming then. 😀😀😀
I am very happy with my beautiful Japanese wife, she really is perfect, all she wants to do is make me happy. In fact the biggest argument is when I do housework, she says it makes her feel like a bad wife. Yes she manages the money, but she is very good at it. I honestly could not be happier, she is beautiful, sexy and the love of my life. We have one son live in Yokohama and have been married for twelve years.
Good for you my friend, I wish you and your wifey a happy eternity together! 🙏🏻
Um... wanna help a brother out... ahem. lol
There're exceptions to everything. In fact this doesn't apply to only foreign men
but all men Japanese or other wise.
Japanese women are especially coy and cute and never show their true color
until they literally hook you into marriage. But they are scheming and shrewd
not very communicative (which can be said on both sexes of Japanese society).
She manages the money? How much of a beta little soy boy are you brah? Lmao
Marriage is a death trap whatever the culture for many people. I recommend that people don't do it conventionally,it just ain't natural.
i love it!
how my freinds marriage of 10years went in the usa
1 spent all his money
2 did not do any of the house work
3 always yelled at him for not making enough money
4 always complained he slept to much *worked 2 fulltime jobs*
5 always insulted him and made me feel worthless
the divorce was brutal but once it was over he felt like he was in heaven
told me if ever mentions getting married again to beat some sense in to him ^_-
I had a Japanese girlfriend for a few years and she was absolutely fantastic. But I think you're right. I saw the signs. She would scrutinize every charge on the phone bill. "This 2 dollar tax makes no sense. Why do they charge $2? Is that a mistake? Can you call the phone company?"
We need her in congress
All women can recall every single detail, no matter how small, and use it against the man, even if its 20 years later. Women have that as a super power.
@@McRagtime i don't think it's insignificant if they can manipulate their husband and live a comfortable life as a boss in a household 💀
@@fauzanree1983 Manipulation isn't a good or healthy tactic to use.
@@TheShiningEnergy i never said that it is.
しらない間に離婚された問題が一番怖いと思う。I think the scariest thing about marriage in Japan is that you can be divorced without your knowledge or consent. All your partner has to do is fake one signature and then hand the paper to the city hall. You'll lose complete access to your children, because Japan does not have joint custody laws. This is partly why men here fear their wives so much. If you are foreign and your visa depends on your marriage status, then you will be forced to change your visa status or face deportation.
Really! No need to personally show up in court? Interesting...
But it is certainly a crime to fake a signature? And it's not that hard to prove a signature to be fake, is it?
An instant divorce may have downsides if you have children, but apart from that I'm very positive about it!
(In Switzerland you can delay a divorce for two years for no reason. My Japanese ex-wife ruthlessly exploited that stupid law.)
@@employee8449 Since this means your abusive partner can ruin your whole life without any warning I see nothing positive about it. Just handing in a document at the town hall is enough. There is no court case unless both parties take it to court, but that is unusual. Faking a signature is obviously a crime but it's impossible to prove and no one is going to take such a case to court. Besides signatures are nothing compared to Hanko, or personal seals in Japan. And anyone can use your personal seal on a document if they have it. I'm sorry you had such a hard time getting divorced. International marriages are certainly very complicated and have poor legal protection.
@@darkjapan Why does being on your own again after divorce necessarily ruins your life? Because you have to pay a lot? Or is there a social stigma?
I understand there are complicated cases, mainly if you have children or also if you own a house. But if one partner decides to break up, the relationship is over anyway. Obviously, consent is preferable. But if your partner is toxic, why should you not want to break up and get divorced?
My ex-wife kicked me out of my apartment because I lost my job. Obviously, this was the end of our relationship. But she then delayed the divorce to get more money.
That was very annoying, but it didn't ruin my life. Never getting divorced would have ruined my life.
@@employee8449 I think you answered your own question. You lose your home, your children, your visa status and most likely your job too. Many people will put up with a bad situation to protect their children from abuse.
I'm really sorry about what happened to you, and I can see how a quick divorce would seem appealing in that case. But divorce should be a consensual thing and that consent should be more thoroughly verified than just a Hanko.
@@darkjapanAgreed. Of course it is terribly wrong if a Hanko that is safe and easy to fake serves as the sole proof of concent.
Still, I think divorce should be easier under Swiss law, especially for childless couples.
Just one more question: How hard is it to get divorced under Japanese law if you decide not to fake a Hanko?
This is so true, your ur documentary are so true
Been married 55 years to a Japanese woman. Most of what he said are true to some extent. Still do not regret my marriage.
I wish my husband would say that about me
Masochist!
Cross your fingers if you wrote this comment while threatened by your wife
Cause you are masochist ?😂