@@niflashabry976 Nifla, the oNLY way to get rid of it that I know is to create some content, hit "post" and then do it about 50 more times. It eventually goes away.
thank you for this great video. I hate and feel uncomfortable when people from real life know me on social media, I live in small city and I feel im watched all the time so I closed them all. I again opened new access and still face same issue. also my content and my original photos got stolen so many times even tho my acc is written. I really don't know what to do
I searched to solve this issue because social media have a huge significance nowadays and really can help me with my career and personal life, I wish I could fix this but nothing is working for me.
You don’t. You just do it. Confidence is built from doing something over and over. No one starts off confident. And if you try to fake it, you’re shooting your self in the foot. Just be authentic. And grow confident over time.
Can I sell social media templates as group of bundle collections from my own website for very low price (like just for 2 dollars)? Will it helps me to make money? Waiting for your reply...
Just do the math. How many $2 templates do you have to sell to make the money you want? Can you sell that many consistently. Can you drive that much web traffic to your site?
I needed this. I’m a woman with soooo much potential, I almost feel like the world is waiting on me and I’m stepping in my own way. Thank you so much for this.
It worked for me. That and the commitment to publish 1video a week for 1 year. If I hadn't put that stake in the ground and treated it like a job that first year - I wouldn't be where I am today on YT.
I’m so scared too comment on a live stream and posting videos and I’m scared of my favorite youtubers deleting my comments and live comments when they go live on TH-cam
In general I don't comment to youtube content, but this video is really inspiring for me because I realise that all these social media apps can be used as tools get and give constructive information, even if they can have side effects, I think it depends by the content you consume. Thank you for the advices.
Thank you for this video. I wanted to promote my business on my Facebook, but I was so conscious of what each and every one of my friends think. I went on a deleting spree of my friends list, then I went into a panic mode. What have I done? I am so insecure. Thank you for saying this.
When I watched this I got a bit less fearful...!! Reason I'm scared is because I don't have copyright yet. So I'm so afraid someone might steal my work....!! Might claim it's actually there's or I was drawing a for them....??
I’m so glad I found this. I had no clue this was a real thing until I just youtube’d what I felt… had no clue there was a community of people that felt the same way.
I lliked alot of what he said. I have severe social anxiety pretty bad and I love to dance,but find it so hard to do it infront of people unless I've been drinking at a club. I even make dance videos almost everyday, then look at them and end up deleting them instead of posting because I don't like and feel like i would get bad comments or a negative response. I especially have a hard time posting more feminine dances even though I enjoy both feminine and masculine dancing. I'm hoping to be able to overcome this in the future. I may try watching this video everyday to get me out of my shell and my comfort zone and just go for it. Thanks. And thank you to all the comments with similar or relatable stories.
Phillip! (great name btw!...;-) Just do it. Life is short. Be authentically you. There are ALWAYS haters in life, but mark my words the ADMIRERS will out number then 100 to 1. I have faith in you...(thanks for the awesome comment!)
I totally agree and that is what I always tell others: Look up to influencers and successful people not to compare yourself to them, but to be inspired and motivated by them. Thank you for your video. Subscribed!
I have this but for LinkedIn. I’m an accounting uni student and whilst my peers and network get into internships with business leaders, I get into lesser known companies that I truly have interest in. But since everyone else gets into the high-end internships, I find it super awkward to post my achievements. It’s so ridiculous, I should be excited and pleased but I am just anxious and insecure…
I have simple advice: JUST START. It gets easier every time you post - nd with every post the previous ones become less important. The fear is of the unknown. When the posts become "real" the fear dissipates.
I pulled off of social media due to a VERY serious stalking issue. It started on social media. That is where my anxiety stems from. I'm worried it will be that one random unhinged creep that will find everything they can about me and show up at mine and my family's homes AGAIN. The worst is knowing that I didn't put any personal info on my old accounts and now most platforms pressure you to do just that.
You said, "people don't watch you as much as you think they do, and most of the time, they may not even notice it" speaking about why people fear posting. While that may be true to a point, what happens when you try to run for public office, or want to do something no one's done before, or hold position of authority? At that point they start watching, and you've graciously supplied them with all of your social media presence over the years for them to pour over, misconstrue, take out of context, and who knows what else. I don't know what I may want to do down the road, but I'm pretty sure it's easier to forego replying to someones controversial post, or grouping myself in with an organization that avows ideas I may, at the moment, agree with, or even post something I may think is harmless and trivial at the time, and avoid having to explain that in a congressional hearing, or in a job interview, or from a news anchor during an ambush interview. I suppose for most people, it may never be an issue but we're creatures of change. What I like now may, and likely will change down the road. I could read a compelling article, do my own research or, in a group discussing with my friends, change my stance on a big issue. It just seems like a risk that's not worth taking in the long run. Even posting here might scream "this guy doesn't really suffer from this or he wouldn't be writing this", but it just occurred to me, I referred to myself as a guy, and 10 years ago, who would have thought that statement would be controversial?
I always take the high road. Thank them for the comment. Ask if they have anything valuable to share with the community. Then forget it. No one wins in a troll arm wrestling contest.
I love that you respond to comments! My fear is that the people I know will be judging and watching vs. strangers. Coworkers finding out etc. not everyone sees the “TH-cam” version of me which is still me just not me my estranged family members know. I’m trying to focus on my why though and sharing to be helpful to others.
I feel you, I don’t care strangers seeing my content, I’m scared of people I know see me trying and what IF I don’t succeed, that I would be lame. But no because when I see other people posting content and putting themselves out there, I have nothing but utter respect for them because they are courageous and are out there chasing their passion. So I like to think of it that way
Hey @ambermariemalone! Thanks so much for checking out my video! I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment (and I respond as often as I can - with 500 videos posted it's hard to keep up now!_). Keep tuning in!
Posting content after a 30 year professional career made me feel like EVERYONE was watching and judging - but I get soooo many old colleagues telling me they admire what I'm doing...so I must be doing something OK...all we can do is try out best with the best intentions of putting something of value out to help people. If you do that, you are a winner, IMHO.
i just posted a video on instagram after watching this video. i am panicking but trying to internalize everything you have said just to calm me down. i hope it goes well. thank you Philip.
The first ones are the hardest. It gets easier and the more you do the less important each one is - volume makes the pressure less. It’s weird but it works.
you better have fear one misstep can end your life marriage reputation and whatever dumb thing you post is out there forever for you kids kids to see be smart be afraid
It’s crazy how many agencies that do amazing work for brands have almost no social at all! They are sitting on gold and don’t know what to do with it. 😂 guess it affects us at all levels
Inspiring video that encourages to step outside of your comfort zone and not be in fear of posting. You have to remember that you or your companies success shouldn't be held up by naysayers and negative comments to your post. Be true to yourself and you will find that there are many that are in the same boat as you and have the same thoughts and will be encouraged by what you are posting.
I just posted a video on my channel and I feel like I'm having a bit of a panic attack. This happens every time I post anything resembling my actual real life personality, which can be big. I feel like I have to scale myself down and water myself down for TH-cam and I feel that I can't share my opinion. I don't want to just be someone who relays information though, I want people to see who I am and be authentic because I think people will relate more. It's SO difficult. I've trashed videos I've spent days working on out of fear and anxiety. Thanks for posting.
Hi Brittney - thanks for commenting and sharing so honestly. I checked out a few of your videos and I think you can easily - and comfortably - amp up your personality. You're fun! When you get more relaxed in your commentary its more entertaining. When you tyryto be too formal (or 'professional' - whatever that is) it gets a little dry - you're doing great! Just keep going!
Helpful video! Philip I beg you, please make a video on how a designer from a 3rd world country can work with international clients and set his career up. I think this will also help people who want to leave freelancing websites.
Trust me, I feel like an outsider posting a lot of crazy comments in the past. That hasn't done anything especially the things that I don't like which is why I don't want people to know about what I was doing in my past history.
you are my go to guy whenever i have an interview .. and i have one tomorrow .. have a like on this video, while i rewatch some of your old ones to get back into the mindset :)
@@PhilipVanDusen Well maybe you can give me a hint .. in my opinion it went great .. i was in there with the manager and the CEO for about an hour and a half .. they asked me mostly business and finance questions for a design job.. but i think i did good, i had a project ready to present to them and they were like wow this is great we are really fascinated by this you are the first person to do this on an interview .. they asked me some personal questions and design questions for like 20 minutes and then he said 3750 + bonuses .. as a junior i said yes that sounds awesome .. when i do i start. he said we will contact you by email, it was nice to meet you ... and dear Philip that was a week ago .. no email nothing .. what do i do .. btw thank you for suggesting i have something to present them i think that helped me a lot.
@@DaRKHuNTeRMK It sounds like it went well - as good as could be actually. A week isn't that long. They might be interviewing other candidates for a couple weeks and then make a decision. Don't freak about about it. You might shoot them a nice casual email thanking them again (hopefully you sent a thank you email immediately afterwards) for the great interview and maybe offering up a small additional thought or insight into something they said - or asked you. Then asking when they expect to making a decision. It's not too much to follow 1x week for 2-3 weeks. If you don't hear back after that - let it go and move on.
@@PhilipVanDusen thanks for the answer .. its much appreciated. i actually did a rough UX sketch for their product ... should i put down the UI and wrap it with a nice mockup, send it that way as a.. "im interested in this position" or is that too much before i even have a job ?
Hey Philip, Thanks for mentioning this fear. It's horrible in my case, First I don't find what to post, and second I become restless after posting. I think feeling like this Being an Actor is really unusual!
Ajeet, I come from a family of actors and I can tell you you guys are a very sensitive group. My answer is post often and then move on to the next. The more you post the less each one matters in the long run. Good luck!
Trust me I overthink and feel uneasy even after posting something I like on whatsapp😭
😅
@@PhilipVanDusen is it a psychological thing? Is there any way to get rid of it...would be great if you let me know....😣
@@niflashabry976 Nifla, the oNLY way to get rid of it that I know is to create some content, hit "post" and then do it about 50 more times. It eventually goes away.
@@PhilipVanDusen Thanks alot...will try that.
omg i feel you. i start to get anxious everytime :((
thank you for this great video. I hate and feel uncomfortable when people from real life know me on social media, I live in small city and I feel im watched all the time so I closed them all. I again opened new access and still face same issue. also my content and my original photos got stolen so many times even tho my acc is written. I really don't know what to do
I searched to solve this issue because social media have a huge significance nowadays and really can help me with my career and personal life, I wish I could fix this but nothing is working for me.
Thank you for this. I really needed it.
Thanks you … that was very helpful
the fear now starts to become a big problem to me, i think it has come a mental illness or something in me :((
This is a legit fear of mine! Lol
how can i fake being confident while being authentic and vulnerable at the same time? genuine question 😣
You don’t. You just do it. Confidence is built from doing something over and over. No one starts off confident. And if you try to fake it, you’re shooting your self in the foot. Just be authentic. And grow confident over time.
@@PhilipVanDusen Thank you so much 🙏
Can I sell social media templates as group of bundle collections from my own website for very low price (like just for 2 dollars)?
Will it helps me to make money?
Waiting for your reply...
Just do the math. How many $2 templates do you have to sell to make the money you want? Can you sell that many consistently. Can you drive that much web traffic to your site?
I needed this. I’m a woman with soooo much potential, I almost feel like the world is waiting on me and I’m stepping in my own way. Thank you so much for this.
You go girl
I can perfectly relate to your comment
You rock Lydia! You can do this. Face the discomfort. ALL real growth happens OUTSIDE you comfort zone.
So relatable, i started to post few weeks back, it was scary at first but it get easier over time :)
Did you end up going for it?
I really like the tip imagine yourself one year from now and people are loving your content
It worked for me. That and the commitment to publish 1video a week for 1 year. If I hadn't put that stake in the ground and treated it like a job that first year - I wouldn't be where I am today on YT.
I’m so scared too comment on a live stream and posting videos and I’m scared of my favorite youtubers deleting my comments and live comments when they go live on TH-cam
In general I don't comment to youtube content, but this video is really inspiring for me because I realise that all these social media apps can be used as tools get and give constructive information, even if they can have side effects, I think it depends by the content you consume.
Thank you for the advices.
Glad you got some great value Adrian! Thanks for watching my friend.
Thank you for this video. I wanted to promote my business on my Facebook, but I was so conscious of what each and every one of my friends think. I went on a deleting spree of my friends list, then I went into a panic mode. What have I done? I am so insecure. Thank you for saying this.
Same I block people before I post on my story. Smh
Lmao I did the same 😅
Story of my life XD🤣
Why do I relate to this so much 😭
Hey Gallivante! Thanks so much for checking out my video! I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment. You can do this.
I needed this because I been afraid to post more of me thank you Sir
When I watched this I got a bit less fearful...!! Reason I'm scared is because I don't have copyright yet. So I'm so afraid someone might steal my work....!! Might claim it's actually there's or I was drawing a for them....??
Dashia, You don't need to formally file for copyright any more. After you create it, sign it, date it and publish it it is automatically copyrighted.
I’m so glad I found this. I had no clue this was a real thing until I just youtube’d what I felt… had no clue there was a community of people that felt the same way.
I lliked alot of what he said. I have severe social anxiety pretty bad and I love to dance,but find it so hard to do it infront of people unless I've been drinking at a club.
I even make dance videos almost everyday, then look at them and end up deleting them instead of posting because I don't like and feel like i would get bad comments or a negative response. I especially have a hard time posting more feminine dances even though I enjoy both feminine and masculine dancing.
I'm hoping to be able to overcome this in the future. I may try watching this video everyday to get me out of my shell and my comfort zone and just go for it.
Thanks.
And thank you to all the comments with similar or relatable stories.
Phillip! (great name btw!...;-) Just do it. Life is short. Be authentically you. There are ALWAYS haters in life, but mark my words the ADMIRERS will out number then 100 to 1. I have faith in you...(thanks for the awesome comment!)
I would love to watch your dancing videos 😍
I totally agree and that is what I always tell others: Look up to influencers and successful people not to compare yourself to them, but to be inspired and motivated by them. Thank you for your video. Subscribed!
I have this but for LinkedIn. I’m an accounting uni student and whilst my peers and network get into internships with business leaders, I get into lesser known companies that I truly have interest in. But since everyone else gets into the high-end internships, I find it super awkward to post my achievements. It’s so ridiculous, I should be excited and pleased but I am just anxious and insecure…
I have simple advice: JUST START. It gets easier every time you post - nd with every post the previous ones become less important. The fear is of the unknown. When the posts become "real" the fear dissipates.
I pulled off of social media due to a VERY serious stalking issue. It started on social media. That is where my anxiety stems from. I'm worried it will be that one random unhinged creep that will find everything they can about me and show up at mine and my family's homes AGAIN. The worst is knowing that I didn't put any personal info on my old accounts and now most platforms pressure you to do just that.
You said, "people don't watch you as much as you think they do, and most of the time, they may not even notice it" speaking about why people fear posting. While that may be true to a point, what happens when you try to run for public office, or want to do something no one's done before, or hold position of authority? At that point they start watching, and you've graciously supplied them with all of your social media presence over the years for them to pour over, misconstrue, take out of context, and who knows what else. I don't know what I may want to do down the road, but I'm pretty sure it's easier to forego replying to someones controversial post, or grouping myself in with an organization that avows ideas I may, at the moment, agree with, or even post something I may think is harmless and trivial at the time, and avoid having to explain that in a congressional hearing, or in a job interview, or from a news anchor during an ambush interview. I suppose for most people, it may never be an issue but we're creatures of change. What I like now may, and likely will change down the road. I could read a compelling article, do my own research or, in a group discussing with my friends, change my stance on a big issue. It just seems like a risk that's not worth taking in the long run. Even posting here might scream "this guy doesn't really suffer from this or he wouldn't be writing this", but it just occurred to me, I referred to myself as a guy, and 10 years ago, who would have thought that statement would be controversial?
How do you handle mean rude comments? Aka Trolls
I always take the high road. Thank them for the comment. Ask if they have anything valuable to share with the community. Then forget it.
No one wins in a troll arm wrestling contest.
I love that you respond to comments! My fear is that the people I know will be judging and watching vs. strangers. Coworkers finding out etc. not everyone sees the “TH-cam” version of me which is still me just not me my estranged family members know. I’m trying to focus on my why though and sharing to be helpful to others.
I feel you, I don’t care strangers seeing my content, I’m scared of people I know see me trying and what IF I don’t succeed, that I would be lame. But no because when I see other people posting content and putting themselves out there, I have nothing but utter respect for them because they are courageous and are out there chasing their passion. So I like to think of it that way
Hey @ambermariemalone! Thanks so much for checking out my video! I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment (and I respond as often as I can - with 500 videos posted it's hard to keep up now!_). Keep tuning in!
Posting content after a 30 year professional career made me feel like EVERYONE was watching and judging - but I get soooo many old colleagues telling me they admire what I'm doing...so I must be doing something OK...all we can do is try out best with the best intentions of putting something of value out to help people. If you do that, you are a winner, IMHO.
i just posted a video on instagram after watching this video. i am panicking but trying to internalize everything you have said just to calm me down. i hope it goes well. thank you Philip.
The first ones are the hardest. It gets easier and the more you do the less important each one is - volume makes the pressure less. It’s weird but it works.
Not necessarily social media. But finalizing the book and cartoon series gives me a little anxiety.
Just do it. Then move on to your next project. Volume not perfection. Everyone has a little anxiety - everyone! It's normal. Work PAST it.
you better have fear one misstep can end your life marriage reputation and whatever dumb thing you post is out there forever for you kids kids to see
be smart be afraid
Helpful, thanks.
Thanks @alinao625! You can do it! Just start.
It’s crazy how many agencies that do amazing work for brands have almost no social at all! They are sitting on gold and don’t know what to do with it. 😂 guess it affects us at all levels
I know, you're right. It TOTALLY blows me away that agencies don't do more. (Practice what you preach anyone???) But hey, more space for me...;-)
Very inspiring Phillip. Thank you!
You are very welcome
I struggle with even MAKING the content!!! I have no problem editing and posting it's make the content I struggle to do😭
Starting is the hardest part. But if you do, and are consistent. The results are massive.
Inspiring video that encourages to step outside of your comfort zone and not be in fear of posting. You have to remember that you or your companies success shouldn't be held up by naysayers and negative comments to your post. Be true to yourself and you will find that there are many that are in the same boat as you and have the same thoughts and will be encouraged by what you are posting.
I just posted a video on my channel and I feel like I'm having a bit of a panic attack. This happens every time I post anything resembling my actual real life personality, which can be big. I feel like I have to scale myself down and water myself down for TH-cam and I feel that I can't share my opinion. I don't want to just be someone who relays information though, I want people to see who I am and be authentic because I think people will relate more. It's SO difficult. I've trashed videos I've spent days working on out of fear and anxiety. Thanks for posting.
Hi Brittney - thanks for commenting and sharing so honestly. I checked out a few of your videos and I think you can easily - and comfortably - amp up your personality. You're fun! When you get more relaxed in your commentary its more entertaining. When you tyryto be too formal (or 'professional' - whatever that is) it gets a little dry - you're doing great! Just keep going!
Helpful video! Philip I beg you, please make a video on how a designer from a 3rd world country can work with international clients and set his career up. I think this will also help people who want to leave freelancing websites.
Great idea. I'll see what I can do.
Awesome points. Would make a great poster to have on the wall. Thx for the video.
Great idea!
this is so timely. thanks a bunch!
After watching this video.. idgaf again I'm going to post as I like...
Absolutely Ralph, do it.
Taking notes! 😁 👏👏
Boom!
4:31 Did you say Terror Barrier or Terreberry? @SteveTerreberry will like it! :D
Terror barrier.
Trust me, I feel like an outsider posting a lot of crazy comments in the past. That hasn't done anything especially the things that I don't like which is why I don't want people to know about what I was doing in my past history.
Hey Alexander Parada! Thanks so much for checking out my video! I appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment. Keep tuning in!
@@PhilipVanDusen To be honest, I'm no saint for all those things that happened
Thank you so much! I absolutely needed this encouragement.
Good video, play back 1.5x ;) Thank me later
Not an uncommon practice by MANY on YT in general- thanks for the comment Arch.
@@PhilipVanDusen ty for the content
@@ARCHJOLTZ Thanks Arch - let me know if there is any content you'd like to see me do.
you are my go to guy whenever i have an interview .. and i have one tomorrow .. have a like on this video, while i rewatch some of your old ones to get back into the mindset :)
Best of luck! HOW DID IT GO?
@@PhilipVanDusen Well maybe you can give me a hint .. in my opinion it went great .. i was in there with the manager and the CEO for about an hour and a half .. they asked me mostly business and finance questions for a design job.. but i think i did good, i had a project ready to present to them and they were like wow this is great we are really fascinated by this you are the first person to do this on an interview .. they asked me some personal questions and design questions for like 20 minutes and then he said 3750 + bonuses .. as a junior i said yes that sounds awesome .. when i do i start. he said we will contact you by email, it was nice to meet you ... and dear Philip that was a week ago .. no email nothing .. what do i do .. btw thank you for suggesting i have something to present them i think that helped me a lot.
@@DaRKHuNTeRMK It sounds like it went well - as good as could be actually. A week isn't that long. They might be interviewing other candidates for a couple weeks and then make a decision. Don't freak about about it. You might shoot them a nice casual email thanking them again (hopefully you sent a thank you email immediately afterwards) for the great interview and maybe offering up a small additional thought or insight into something they said - or asked you. Then asking when they expect to making a decision. It's not too much to follow 1x week for 2-3 weeks. If you don't hear back after that - let it go and move on.
@@PhilipVanDusen thanks for the answer .. its much appreciated. i actually did a rough UX sketch for their product ... should i put down the UI and wrap it with a nice mockup, send it that way as a.. "im interested in this position" or is that too much before i even have a job ?
This guy looks like John P0desta.
Why post in the first place. I opted out
Bob- I don’t blame you- it ain’t for everyone. Nor does it have to be.
Thank you for this video. This helps a lot.
Really good advice.
Hey Philip, Thanks for mentioning this fear. It's horrible in my case, First I don't find what to post, and second I become restless after posting. I think feeling like this Being an Actor is really unusual!
Ajeet, I come from a family of actors and I can tell you you guys are a very sensitive group. My answer is post often and then move on to the next. The more you post the less each one matters in the long run. Good luck!
What do I need to start ..like a go pro set up ..and 🎤 mic sound .. how do I get good sound..
Do I Do it live .. or Record it then post it...?
Much needed pep talk!
Love this ! 🥂✨
So glad!
Thank you for this! ❤
You're so welcome!
We are all winging it! Solid advice here.
Thanks Emma!
Thankyou Philip!
You're welcome Juice!
Thanks
No problem
I have no clue who you are but your words are amazing !!
Analias, You're very welcome. Be sure to check out the other videos in my catalog. There's tons of great stuff there!
@@PhilipVanDusen i sure did haha you’re amazing! 🙏🏽
Nobody cares😂😂😂 Thank you very much!