Thanks for confirming what I felt was wrong but my husband and her say they are just friends but he has more conversations with her than me and he doesn’t see it. I’m so tired of this but I’m praying for this relationship would end.
Awe, hope its got better for you. I say start one of your own, see how hubby likes it if he can't demonstrate respect and regard for you asap or bounce the heck out.
@@tinaj9621I hope that God will reveal to you and your husband and his female friend that the covenant you and your husband made a vow to uphold til death is to let no man(no person) separate what he has joined. Forsake (abandon) all others. Some people did not study what it means to honor those words. Marriage you have to sacrifice yourself for the oneness of the unit. You cannot hold on to your old self. There is natural tension when one or both think they can be together as two separate entities be together and withhold things from their wife or husband. Marriage is not the place for doing what the right hand is doing the left hand doesn’t know. And the world will convince you to live in a manner that dishonors your marriage. And spouse have a hard time bullet proofing their marriage because they believe temptation will never get them. You have to have a soldier mindset when married in today’s world with so much negativity and provocative behaviors from both men and women we are forced to be around.
From an older woman s s point of view. I totally agree with speaker. There's no substitute for experience as having lived throught the ups and downs for a great number of years. No. 1. Living with someone, YOU see their weaknes. NO. 2. Who said familiarity breaths contempt. ?? Yes its true. No 3. Much easier being a friend why??you're not living with them. A true saying. Live with me to know me. beautiful old Irish poetry. Always a kind word for the stranger , but a sneer for the loved ones athone. Just renember and NEVER forget you should love YOUR own the best.
My dad preferred women as friends. I remember my mom crying & begging my dad to end this friendship w/a non-traditional college student friend of his. She came to our house a few times, eventually married. My parents eventually divorced & after my dad died, I found a picture of this woman holding a baby boy-yep! Dad’s friendship created my 1/2 brother!
Just tried to have this conversation with mine. Her response was "one bad apple don't make em all bad." I told her it wasn't about "jealousy" or "insecurity" but that it was simply about respect because if the shoe was on the other foot I know for a fact that there would be an issue. How do you address someone who chooses to be in the defense of the opposite sex rather than make the adjustment to maintain the integrity of the "main" relationship?
That my friend is a red flag, if your uncomfortable with your partner having opposite sex friends, your feelings should be priority not the friends. If communication about this fails for them to empathise. Find another that puts you first before you find out they have been unfaithful. Save your heart and soul the pain. 90% will cheat sooner or later.
Just a friend or defending a friend is a red flag. I told my husband I was uncomfortable with a "friend " and he told me I was over reacting and she was just cool to talk to I begged him to stop talking to her cause she didnt care about him being married or the fact I had just given birth to our 3rd child 4 days before. she even invited him to meet up with her to "chill" knowing I was in the hospital from having our baby and he was at the hospital with me. Less than a month later they was sleeping together at work. People will only respect your relationship and marriage as much as your partner does and when they see your partner don't set boundaries they will walk run and stomp all over your relationship and family without regard or remorse. It takes integrity and morals to honor your community to another so its important to know your spouse has those things otherwise you will end up with your world turned upside down
@@jasonbrowning546 @Shanita thank you both.. surprisingly enough an incident happened this weekend & short of a long story I’ve run out of patience.. not upset, not angry, none of that. simply grateful that I caught it when I did. 🙏🏿🙏🏿
I’m almost 26 and I never hear my peers, let alone anyone really, articulating things like this. But we all feel the same things. On such a deep level. This video validates and articulates feelings I’ve felt in previous relationships, and things I value more and more over time. I want to find and marry a man with integrity and honor and devotion who is on the same page as me on these topics, somebody I feel safe enough to give my whole life to 🙌 this was always missing in the past
This is the most thorough, indepth, detailed, list of rules for "close call friendships" that I have ever encountered! You did such an amazing job explaining this controversial topic. From the title, I thought the video would discuss the ways a spouse should be attentive. Pleasantly surprised. I wish you continued success!
I am not married, I am single and free BUT I am celibate. And I use some rules with male friends, to safeguard my celibate and single life. First rule for me is just like for married people: never be alone one-on-one hanging out(not even car rides!); I never talk about relationships issues with them (if they have significant other); I don't accept or favor gifts; I don't hug. I just pick public places for hangouts, often with other people/friends involved AND we talk about specific areas of interest (arts,books/literature) rather than emotional problems that we have with our other friends or significant others, and if they do have significant others, they have to ALWAYS include/invite/ inform them to spend time with us together!
An opposite sex "friend" will become the shoulder to cry on when things hit a rough patch in the marriage and then the devil will open up all the doors to infidelity and an affair. You're playing with fire by having "friends" of the opposite sex in the confines of marriage. I don't care if this approach sounds old school or if haters try and say to me that "you're just an abusive, insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative person for doing this. Don't you trust your wife?" You bet I do, but I also know that very rarely does a man stay "friends" with a woman who he doesn't have feelings for. And worse of all I can't help but feel those opposite sex "friends" are just waiting in the wings licking their chops for their turns just hoping your marriage will fail. So you bet I see any of these opposite sex "friends" in the confines of a marriage as a threat. I'm about to hit my 30s and still waiting for God's timing to bless me with the wife he has in store for me in His time, but I for one will be making sure I have no other friends of the opposite sex in the picture at all except her. Can't risk any temptations like this. A Christian marriage needs to be guarded/defended like your life depends on it because it literally does. And that means sacrificing existing friendships with the opposite sex so the devil can't tempt you with infidelty and having an affair. Sadly most of my millennial generation doesn't seem to understand this concept.
Christian Morals aside and strictly speaking biology, you need an abundance of females friends/connections around you before you can even get in the mindset that will attract the type of wife you want in the first place. Wives don’t just fall from trees. Once you get a wife, THEN worry about cutting off all relationships with the opposite sex…
Rarely is the friend waiting in the wings, I just put boundaries around the married friend. Usually, the married one is reaching out and telling the friend the husband or wife is 💯 ok with it. Most likely, the friend is being manipulated.
Thank you for this. It’s actually me that’s the problem in the relationship. I went looking for guidance and advice and this opened my eyes to how I might be wrong. Im going to try to be better to make my relationship work.
People need to hear this video . Opposite sex friends must be avoided in relationships. Your relationship with your spouse comes first any relationship that conflicts this must be ended . Also social media is very toxic for relationships.
@@DynamiteKid1224 just came out of a relationship when my girlfriend had about 4 guy friends. I was very uncomfortable with that . So I ended it . Its a very bad practice for women to have male friends. And this same girl wanted to get married. I told her any man sge dates thst knows she has male friends will never marry her or take her seriously.
@@scaldon2 I just got rid of 2 morons for flirting and dating my wife plus touching her. Deleted them & blocked them on Facebook, messenger, Viber, IG, mobile phone. O plus their workplace is now permanently closed! And all the morons are out of a job! That's karma working for me right there! So glad the lockdown came on my birthday too! I hope Covid19 stays at my area for good! Keep safe & God bless you! PS I'm planning to save up for a Glock & Taurus PT92. Thanks peace out!
Them going through that now with my wife and co worker with blocking me on Facebook and always following her and also he brought her clothes. I found the recipe. She always stuck up for him against me
@@derrickhenderson9704 yikes! That is not good at all. I would confront that guy if I were you & get police protection for you & your wife from him. Or better get a Glock and give him a warning shot. Actually I'm going to save up for a Glock for protection. Don't give up, go get your Wife back. Thanks & God bless you!
@@vishalaadith2657 AMEN! This also applies in reverse too. If you're a woman run from other men and be only with your husband, he's your friend and the world to you
Thing is we should be having this conversation with our spouses but we all have a spouse that is afraid of having this conversation because they say it’s controlling. I don’t look at it as controlling but as being wise enough to know if you’ve ever been in a serious relationship we know how easy it is to become attracted to someone else and loose interest in your current partner. People act like little kids treating their partner like it’s a toy and when they get bored they want the new toy they saw at work or at the bar or at Starbucks. And heart proofing your marriage is an issue then you probably should not be married to anyone. Satan comes as a wolf in sheep’s clothing. To steal, kill and destroy the marriage that God created.
So are you going to control everyone she speaks to? Like the guy from the office, the guy who changes her tire at the garage, the guy behind the counter at the bank. You're trying to control her. You can't control her every single second, you'll suffocate the relationship. If you don't trust your wife then why marry her?
AMEN! My husband thinks I am controlling him by telling him I want him to stop continuously texting his emotional affair partner because now he wants to be independent and not controlled And speak to whoever he wants even though it's leading us down a path of divorce and him choosing between her and i.....
Thank you for such a clear and articulate presentation of this topic. The wisdom in this video is going to help me honor and preserve the marriages of the people I care about. Thank you thank you thank you.
It’s important to have this conversation before even courting someone to make sure you’re on the same page. I personally don’t even believe in being friends with the opposite gender in marriage.
Thank you for the thoroughly explaining my partner has definitely crossed the lines with his female friend no boundaries were set that's very important.
Wow, you just described my marriage. My wife is a housewife and there is this neighbor that knows my wife loves small dogs , he knows it and guess what they discuss? Both relationships. What's interesting is my wife will not let me befriend that person's spouse and is very panicking when it comes to my arrival at home and the times. The minute this guy shows up in front of our apartment my wife becomes alive. We haven't had sex relations in almost 2 years. My next move is to get a private detective on this
Wow I feel bad for you . From what you describe she's definitely cheating on you . This is why boundaries have to be established before marriage. Like not allowing your spouse to have friends of opposite sex. Also alot of women have no respect for men . So it's best to choose someone that respects you above all . Sorry for what you are going through. Also she is wrong to withhold sex from you. Also are you and your wife Christians?
Thank you so very much. This is very practical. Please Sir kindly do a video on practical ways of setting boundaries with opposite sex in marriage. Thank you
In the confines of a relationship/marriage, the boyfriend/husband shouldn't have any female friends and the girlfriend/wife shouldn't have any male friends. Having friends of the opposite sex in the confines of a relationship/marriage is responsible for more infidelty and affairs (emotional or physical) than any other circumstance. Don't put yourself in this situation to begin with.
Thank you Hasani. I have seen a lot of married women who are ready to be open in thier relationships but the men aren't. In such situations, how can you rationalize when the women finally step out for emotional intimacy?
I don’t mind a guy having male and female friends but there is a level of deepness that shouldn’t be crossed between opposite gender friends. Never talk about issues in your relationship and keep the conversations surface level. Look down or away every few seconds. Respect the soul distance.
My husband sadly has that connection with other female DJs and I just wish they would just stop 😞 He says he loves me for me, but occasionally, I cant help but notice his attention always gravitates back to the female DJ(s) he would communicate with every day before we got married 3 years ago. I present my issues with them and tries to tell me they aren't into men, but then it makes it an excuse to the closeness they share and he continues to make her a part of his life apart from me when he's slept over their house before....
I had this conversation yesterday with my fiance hence being here we went of fun in a different city when we got there he had so may girlfriends they would hug while greeting eachother well I told him about how uncomfortable that made me and he said I can’t stop talking to my friends that I have known for years just because I am in a relationship with someone that broke my heart into pieces am I overreacting? Or maybe I am just jealous which is not good 😔
Jealousy is a natural emotion, you care about your fiance and want to protect your relationship with him. Hugging is quite natural when greeting people, was he introducing you to his girlfriends as well? He doesn't have to stop talking with them but realistically those relationships will fade away over time, or where they become your friends as well, out of respect for your relationship. Speak to him about this, it's better you try to resolve this now before the wedding.
It’s a no for me. He went from zero to 100 and didn’t offer you a compromise. He can still have friends but physical contact doesn’t need to happen to maintain a friendship. How would he feel if you had a group of me pressing their bodies on you for a hug?!
I also know for a fact so call "friends" would sabotage me in a new relationship for feeling envy that i rejected so many men proposals. They would be furious to see me happy with someone else.
Only speak to male neighbours if it concerns our children (which are friends) or if they need something from my husband and he is not home, i pass the message Other than that i speak to their wives. They are not even on my social media. Just the wives.
Getting advice from same sex friend will do the same thing what the opposite sex is doing. You partner will worse. My ex fiance female friend was giving advice to my ex fiance. I got worse.
How about when a married couple from my wife’s church is often inviting her to eat after church? Unfortunately I m not at home because I’m recovering from a stroke in a nursing home and have been living at the nursing home for about 4 years now?
@@FoxSleepingexactly - people put locks on their doors and don’t leave their handbags in their cars to be stolen but they are careless with their spouses heart ❤️
I would agree with him, you should have access to each other's accounts. It's a sign of trust. If there's nothing to hide, then what's the issue or problem?
The idea that your marriage is your primary relationship is a bit dangerous. My spouse is one of my best friends, and not the only one. However my other best friends are women. My relationship with my family is also very important to me. IMO it is very harmful to think your spouse is your only friend.
They got free will I have to trust and if he fuck up I get them all the fuck out...yes I did worst behavior to prove points....no friends come over but a few and one or two are just handsome and I'm blunt and him too but I flip the fuck out and so do he...then I apologize and tell em I'm sorry my moon Bounces and I'm not sure if it's cause I'm a Libra ...now listen Mr idk your name yet...i gotta go to sleep but I can't ....now what ?and him sleeping ...lots of loss of loved ones ...im behaving but I got trust issue
Easy solution to avoid all of this...if your married don't have opposite sex friends. At least never have opposite sex friends you ever spent alone time with or have private communications with.
Then you don't trust yourself and you don't trust your partner. Recipe for a failed relationship. If you don't trust your wife then why did you marry her.
@@CyrilSneer123 if you would be comfortable with your spouse having a private friendship with the opposite sex that is a major sign of a relationship heading for failure. Trust is established through wise decisions and choices which includes being refined in the way we move
This should be mandatory for all new couples. Would have saved me a lot of headache.
Thanks for confirming what I felt was wrong but my husband and her say they are just friends but he has more conversations with her than me and he doesn’t see it. I’m so tired of this but I’m praying for this relationship would end.
Awe, hope its got better for you. I say start one of your own, see how hubby likes it if he can't demonstrate respect and regard for you asap or bounce the heck out.
@@tinaj9621I hope that God will reveal to you and your husband and his female friend that the covenant you and your husband made a vow to uphold til death is to let no man(no person) separate what he has joined. Forsake (abandon) all others. Some people did not study what it means to honor those words. Marriage you have to sacrifice yourself for the oneness of the unit. You cannot hold on to your old self. There is natural tension when one or both think they can be together as two separate entities be together and withhold things from their wife or husband. Marriage is not the place for doing what the right hand is doing the left hand doesn’t know. And the world will convince you to live in a manner that dishonors your marriage. And spouse have a hard time bullet proofing their marriage because they believe temptation will never get them. You have to have a soldier mindset when married in today’s world with so much negativity and provocative behaviors from both men and women we are forced to be around.
How are things now?
Hope things improved- been there and know the pain. So sorry.
From an older woman s s point of view. I totally agree with speaker. There's no substitute for experience as having lived throught the ups and downs for a great number of years. No. 1. Living with someone, YOU see their weaknes. NO. 2. Who said familiarity breaths contempt. ?? Yes its true. No 3. Much easier being a friend why??you're not living with them. A true saying. Live with me to know me. beautiful old Irish poetry. Always a kind word for the stranger , but a sneer for the loved ones athone. Just renember and NEVER forget you should love YOUR own the best.
My dad preferred women as friends. I remember my mom crying & begging my dad to end this friendship w/a non-traditional college student friend of his. She came to our house a few times, eventually married. My parents eventually divorced & after my dad died, I found a picture of this woman holding a baby boy-yep! Dad’s friendship created my 1/2 brother!
Just tried to have this conversation with mine. Her response was "one bad apple don't make em all bad." I told her it wasn't about "jealousy" or "insecurity" but that it was simply about respect because if the shoe was on the other foot I know for a fact that there would be an issue. How do you address someone who chooses to be in the defense of the opposite sex rather than make the adjustment to maintain the integrity of the "main" relationship?
That my friend is a red flag, if your uncomfortable with your partner having opposite sex friends, your feelings should be priority not the friends. If communication about this fails for them to empathise. Find another that puts you first before you find out they have been unfaithful. Save your heart and soul the pain. 90% will cheat sooner or later.
Just a friend or defending a friend is a red flag. I told my husband I was uncomfortable with a "friend " and he told me I was over reacting and she was just cool to talk to I begged him to stop talking to her cause she didnt care about him being married or the fact I had just given birth to our 3rd child 4 days before. she even invited him to meet up with her to "chill" knowing I was in the hospital from having our baby and he was at the hospital with me. Less than a month later they was sleeping together at work. People will only respect your relationship and marriage as much as your partner does and when they see your partner don't set boundaries they will walk run and stomp all over your relationship and family without regard or remorse. It takes integrity and morals to honor your community to another so its important to know your spouse has those things otherwise you will end up with your world turned upside down
@@jasonbrowning546 @Shanita thank you both.. surprisingly enough an incident happened this weekend & short of a long story I’ve run out of patience.. not upset, not angry, none of that. simply grateful that I caught it when I did. 🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@ArmyDre1 so did you walk? or did she get "another chance"?
@Vinessa mae agreed..
I’m almost 26 and I never hear my peers, let alone anyone really, articulating things like this. But we all feel the same things. On such a deep level. This video validates and articulates feelings I’ve felt in previous relationships, and things I value more and more over time. I want to find and marry a man with integrity and honor and devotion who is on the same page as me on these topics, somebody I feel safe enough to give my whole life to 🙌 this was always missing in the past
This is the most thorough, indepth, detailed, list of rules for "close call friendships" that I have ever encountered! You did such an amazing job explaining this controversial topic. From the title, I thought the video would discuss the ways a spouse should be attentive. Pleasantly surprised. I wish you continued success!
Natural Born Curls thank you sis
I am not married, I am single and free BUT I am celibate. And I use some rules with male friends, to safeguard my celibate and single life. First rule for me is just like for married people: never be alone one-on-one hanging out(not even car rides!); I never talk about relationships issues with them (if they have significant other); I don't accept or favor gifts; I don't hug. I just pick public places for hangouts, often with other people/friends involved AND we talk about specific areas of interest (arts,books/literature) rather than emotional problems that we have with our other friends or significant others, and if they do have significant others, they have to ALWAYS include/invite/ inform them to spend time with us together!
You sis, are a girl’s best friend. ❤
An opposite sex "friend" will become the shoulder to cry on when things hit a rough patch in the marriage and then the devil will open up all the doors to infidelity and an affair. You're playing with fire by having "friends" of the opposite sex in the confines of marriage. I don't care if this approach sounds old school or if haters try and say to me that "you're just an abusive, insecure, jealous, controlling, manipulative person for doing this. Don't you trust your wife?" You bet I do, but I also know that very rarely does a man stay "friends" with a woman who he doesn't have feelings for. And worse of all I can't help but feel those opposite sex "friends" are just waiting in the wings licking their chops for their turns just hoping your marriage will fail. So you bet I see any of these opposite sex "friends" in the confines of a marriage as a threat. I'm about to hit my 30s and still waiting for God's timing to bless me with the wife he has in store for me in His time, but I for one will be making sure I have no other friends of the opposite sex in the picture at all except her. Can't risk any temptations like this. A Christian marriage needs to be guarded/defended like your life depends on it because it literally does. And that means sacrificing existing friendships with the opposite sex so the devil can't tempt you with infidelty and having an affair. Sadly most of my millennial generation doesn't seem to understand this concept.
Christian Morals aside and strictly speaking biology, you need an abundance of females friends/connections around you before you can even get in the mindset that will attract the type of wife you want in the first place. Wives don’t just fall from trees. Once you get a wife, THEN worry about cutting off all relationships with the opposite sex…
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Rarely is the friend waiting in the wings, I just put boundaries around the married friend. Usually, the married one is reaching out and telling the friend the husband or wife is 💯 ok with it. Most likely, the friend is being manipulated.
This is so powerful. Boundaries are so important in marriages.
Thank you for this. It’s actually me that’s the problem in the relationship. I went looking for guidance and advice and this opened my eyes to how I might be wrong. Im going to try to be better to make my relationship work.
Thaaank you for speaking the truth 🤔
People are using personal freedom as a scapegoat these days
People need to hear this video . Opposite sex friends must be avoided in relationships. Your relationship with your spouse comes first any relationship that conflicts this must be ended . Also social media is very toxic for relationships.
Well said & spot on!
@@DynamiteKid1224 just came out of a relationship when my girlfriend had about 4 guy friends. I was very uncomfortable with that . So I ended it . Its a very bad practice for women to have male friends. And this same girl wanted to get married. I told her any man sge dates thst knows she has male friends will never marry her or take her seriously.
@@scaldon2 I just got rid of 2 morons for flirting and dating my wife plus touching her. Deleted them & blocked them on Facebook, messenger, Viber, IG, mobile phone. O plus their workplace is now permanently closed! And all the morons are out of a job! That's karma working for me right there! So glad the lockdown came on my birthday too! I hope Covid19 stays at my area for good! Keep safe & God bless you! PS I'm planning to save up for a Glock & Taurus PT92. Thanks peace out!
Them going through that now with my wife and co worker with blocking me on Facebook and always following her and also he brought her clothes. I found the recipe. She always stuck up for him against me
@@derrickhenderson9704 yikes! That is not good at all. I would confront that guy if I were you & get police protection for you & your wife from him. Or better get a Glock and give him a warning shot. Actually I'm going to save up for a Glock for protection. Don't give up, go get your Wife back. Thanks & God bless you!
I just got a new friend that is female and I'm so glad I came to watch this. I love that I have this knowledge now so I can notice it in advance
@Koriander Yander lol ok
Brother run from other women, for God’s Sake
And be only with your wife, she’s your friend and the world to you.
@@vishalaadith2657 AMEN! This also applies in reverse too. If you're a woman run from other men and be only with your husband, he's your friend and the world to you
Thing is we should be having this conversation with our spouses but we all have a spouse that is afraid of having this conversation because they say it’s controlling. I don’t look at it as controlling but as being wise enough to know if you’ve ever been in a serious relationship we know how easy it is to become attracted to someone else and loose interest in your current partner. People act like little kids treating their partner like it’s a toy and when they get bored they want the new toy they saw at work or at the bar or at Starbucks. And heart proofing your marriage is an issue then you probably should not be married to anyone. Satan comes as a wolf in sheep’s clothing. To steal, kill and destroy the marriage that God created.
Exactly!
I hear you, going through same thing
So are you going to control everyone she speaks to? Like the guy from the office, the guy who changes her tire at the garage, the guy behind the counter at the bank. You're trying to control her. You can't control her every single second, you'll suffocate the relationship. If you don't trust your wife then why marry her?
I agree sis
AMEN! My husband thinks I am controlling him by telling him I want him to stop continuously texting his emotional affair partner because now he wants to be independent and not controlled And speak to whoever he wants even though it's leading us down a path of divorce and him choosing between her and i.....
Thank you for such a clear and articulate presentation of this topic. The wisdom in this video is going to help me honor and preserve the marriages of the people I care about. Thank you thank you thank you.
It’s important to have this conversation before even courting someone to make sure you’re on the same page. I personally don’t even believe in being friends with the opposite gender in marriage.
same
Thank you for the thoroughly explaining my partner has definitely crossed the lines with his female friend no boundaries were set that's very important.
Well said & spot on!
Wow, you just described my marriage. My wife is a housewife and there is this neighbor that knows my wife loves small dogs , he knows it and guess what they discuss? Both relationships. What's interesting is my wife will not let me befriend that person's spouse and is very panicking when it comes to my arrival at home and the times. The minute this guy shows up in front of our apartment my wife becomes alive. We haven't had sex relations in almost 2 years. My next move is to get a private detective on this
Wow I feel bad for you . From what you describe she's definitely cheating on you . This is why boundaries have to be established before marriage. Like not allowing your spouse to have friends of opposite sex. Also alot of women have no respect for men . So it's best to choose someone that respects you above all . Sorry for what you are going through. Also she is wrong to withhold sex from you. Also are you and your wife Christians?
@@scaldon2 save your money, your neighbor is digging her out
Thank you so very much. This is very practical. Please Sir kindly do a video on practical ways of setting boundaries with opposite sex in marriage. Thank you
This is exactly and precisely true
I begged my husband not to be friends with women. And he ended up cheating with one. 😡😢
Instablaster...
I’m so sorry, I completely understand.
If he wants to cheat you should let him
Bbbbb but that means your insecure!!!
Bull shit, his them right@@humansvd3269
100% spot on! Thank you for posting this.
After a few points I realize from my husbands behaviors he is ending our 25 year marriage. I was blind.
I wish my husband would spend time watching this video.
In the confines of a relationship/marriage, the boyfriend/husband shouldn't have any female friends and the girlfriend/wife shouldn't have any male friends. Having friends of the opposite sex in the confines of a relationship/marriage is responsible for more infidelty and affairs (emotional or physical) than any other circumstance. Don't put yourself in this situation to begin with.
Throw him away and get one that knows what's up and going to act right. YOLO
🙏Wisdom directly from the Holy spirit!
Thank you Hasani. I have seen a lot of married women who are ready to be open in thier relationships but the men aren't. In such situations, how can you rationalize when the women finally step out for emotional intimacy?
Am glad I listened in ..learnt alot
You speak in three dimensions. I don’t know how you do it but it’s effective.
I don’t mind a guy having male and female friends but there is a level of deepness that shouldn’t be crossed between opposite gender friends. Never talk about issues in your relationship and keep the conversations surface level. Look down or away every few seconds. Respect the soul distance.
TRUE!!!
This video is spot on
My husband sadly has that connection with other female DJs and I just wish they would just stop 😞 He says he loves me for me, but occasionally, I cant help but notice his attention always gravitates back to the female DJ(s) he would communicate with every day before we got married 3 years ago. I present my issues with them and tries to tell me they aren't into men, but then it makes it an excuse to the closeness they share and he continues to make her a part of his life apart from me when he's slept over their house before....
Awesome. Love it. Sharing 😊
Thanks for sharing needed to hear this 💯💯💯
Thank you God bless you Brother Amen. Glory to God Amen 🙏 🙌 ✨️ ❤️ 😊
Great information
🙌 ….Bravo!! Thank you for making this video!!💜
.thank you for sharing love this video
This is spot on love it. Straight truth.
Opposite sex people CAN NEVER BE JUST FRIENDS. THATS AN INVITATION FOR TROUBLE EVERY TIME. THATS A FOOLS PARADISE.
U are clever and honest. God bless u
This is really knowledgeable! Thank you!😊
How do you handle such things with your spouse when you discover that such a thing is happening?
Great question. I would like to know that also
Facts!
I had this conversation yesterday with my fiance hence being here we went of fun in a different city when we got there he had so may girlfriends they would hug while greeting eachother well I told him about how uncomfortable that made me and he said I can’t stop talking to my friends that I have known for years just because I am in a relationship with someone that broke my heart into pieces am I overreacting? Or maybe I am just jealous which is not good 😔
Jealousy is a natural emotion, you care about your fiance and want to protect your relationship with him. Hugging is quite natural when greeting people, was he introducing you to his girlfriends as well? He doesn't have to stop talking with them but realistically those relationships will fade away over time, or where they become your friends as well, out of respect for your relationship.
Speak to him about this, it's better you try to resolve this now before the wedding.
It’s a no for me. He went from zero to 100 and didn’t offer you a compromise. He can still have friends but physical contact doesn’t need to happen to maintain a friendship. How would he feel if you had a group of me pressing their bodies on you for a hug?!
He is wrong. My husband had alot of female friends and unfriended them when we started courting to protect me.
I also know for a fact so call "friends" would sabotage me in a new relationship for feeling envy that i rejected so many men proposals. They would be furious to see me happy with someone else.
@kar3n35 Exactly, this is another reason not to have opposite sex friends in the confines of a relationship/marriage
Red flags everywhere with my wife of 24 yrs. Once i started an investigation. It was my worst nightmare.
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I like that inappropriate behavior word.
This is wonderful and so needed thank you Hasani!!!
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how do you shift the vision of a person to feel ashamed of having multiple emotional affairs with different people from not feeling ashamed at all?
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Only speak to male neighbours if it concerns our children (which are friends) or if they need something from my husband and he is not home, i pass the message Other than that i speak to their wives. They are not even on my social media. Just the wives.
How can we encourage our spouses to implement these with us?
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Getting advice from same sex friend will do the same thing what the opposite sex is doing. You partner will worse. My ex fiance female friend was giving advice to my ex fiance. I got worse.
How about when a married couple from my wife’s church is often inviting her to eat after church? Unfortunately I m not at home because I’m recovering from a stroke in a nursing home and have been living at the nursing home for about 4 years now?
What's strange about that? Has she given you a reason not to trust her?
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I woulnt control a guy to friend or unfriend someone. But at first sign of cheating im gone.
@@FoxSleepingexactly - people put locks on their doors and don’t leave their handbags in their cars to be stolen but they are careless with their spouses heart ❤️
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I only dont agree to the point of his on having access to your partner's communication.
I would agree with him, you should have access to each other's accounts. It's a sign of trust. If there's nothing to hide, then what's the issue or problem?
Stay single LOL
It’s a tough world
And the internet and mobile phones have made it all the harder
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The idea that your marriage is your primary relationship is a bit dangerous. My spouse is one of my best friends, and not the only one. However my other best friends are women. My relationship with my family is also very important to me. IMO it is very harmful to think your spouse is your only friend.
No friends of the opposite sex, in a relationship with me.
They got free will I have to trust and if he fuck up I get them all the fuck out...yes I did worst behavior to prove points....no friends come over but a few and one or two are just handsome and I'm blunt and him too but I flip the fuck out and so do he...then I apologize and tell em I'm sorry my moon Bounces and I'm not sure if it's cause I'm a Libra ...now listen Mr idk your name yet...i gotta go to sleep but I can't ....now what ?and him sleeping ...lots of loss of loved ones ...im behaving but I got trust issue
This is me 😂I’m a Libra and I get so mad I explode when shit go down
Easy solution to avoid all of this...if your married don't have opposite sex friends. At least never have opposite sex friends you ever spent alone time with or have private communications with.
Then you don't trust yourself and you don't trust your partner. Recipe for a failed relationship. If you don't trust your wife then why did you marry her.
@@CyrilSneer123 Married 32 years. And happily at that. So....
@@CyrilSneer123 if you would be comfortable with your spouse having a private friendship with the opposite sex that is a major sign of a relationship heading for failure. Trust is established through wise decisions and choices which includes being refined in the way we move
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