I once overheard my coworkers talking about me and one was like, “-- keeps ignoring me.” “She’s not ignoring you, say her name before you talk to her, she’s got auditory processing disorder.” My coworkers training each other how to deal with me, lol.
This is me. I finally found something online that explained it perfectly - much better than I could - and sent it to my partner because he was getting really frustrated by me missing the first half of every sentence.
Recently my coworkers have been noticing that I am like this. They realize by my facial expression "you didn't hear me did you" I'm like nope. They don't get offended but they notice.
I relate a lot to the first part. Someone will say something and I'll immediately say "what?" And before they start saying it again my brain will register what they asked
@@Daniel-wu6pl it can b normal but if it happens so often it impairs ur ability to have conversations without doing this once or twice every time, then it could be APD.
I literally say I have auditory dyslexia and vocal dyslexia because I can never say words in the right order but I learned the hearing was APD and the vocal was something called spoonerism (after the person who discovered it)
That’s how I explain it to people. When- “Go to the door” sounds like, “drop to the floor.” It’s not a problem with hearing, hearing can be 100%, it’s a problem with your brain interpreting the sounds as the wrong sounds. Write it out and it can be read 100%. People looking when they speak to you so you can read lips and them making hand gestures like pointing is especially helpful.
This is also a reason I have to always have subtitles when I'm not wearing headphones because I cannot process the speaking fast enough and then start to get confused and miss out on a lot so it's better for me to just read
Same and my mum hates subtitles so I don’t understand what’s happening before seeing this video I just thought it was bad hearing even though I have been tested multiple times
If there is even a little bit of background noise happening in a movie or TV show, or background noise, I need to blast it on full volume to be able to make out the dialogue if there's no subs. I have great hearing, no mosquito sneaks up on me, so that is not the issue. It's super weird that some brains work like this.
Me too, my family was very annoyed at first when I turned the subtitles on for something in spanish cause it's our native language, but I'm like "I can't understand without subtitles and I also put english subtitles on english-language tv shows"... Fast forward to about five years later and everyone is so used to subtitles that they feel weird without them 😂😂, I turned them
Big recommendation. Buy a Bose Soundbar. My mom bought one for me and it has a speech mode and it makes it so much easier for watching movies and TV shows. Granted it is expensive, but it's a good investment. We actually have a first generation one from like 2012.
I didn't know this was a thing, I just assumed my brain is broken, I spend so much time trying to guess what people actually said because I know what I heard makes no sense at all
My husband says, "what?" and just responds a second later. I have gotten so used to it that I don't repeat myself when someone says "what?" Or "huh?". I just wait. The problem is that my mom is actually hard of hearing so when she says "huh?" She actually doesn't hear me and I look like a jerk because I just silently wait for a response.
I think the reason people say “huh” or “what” after someone tells them something and the proceeds to answer them is that we instinctively say that to let the other person know it was hard to understand, then our brains kinda put the pieces together and we answer.
That's actually the exact reason why we say "what" or "huh" or what ever. Our brains are sometimes "to slow" at processing informations so it does what usually is needs to do to be able to process the informations. So yeah, it's basically a reflex and it's totally normal.
What also happens to me is hearing the words but not processing the meaning. So I hear someone but it will be as if it’s a different language. I will need to actively refocus but often miss multiple sentences and have to ask them to start over. Or hearing someone fine but forgetting the first sentence instantly and not being able to concentrate on the sentences that follow because I try to remember the first one. (I am diagnosed with APD)
this is exactly what it's like for me, and I have to continuously ask people to repeat themselves until they start getting annoyed with me for asking them the repeat themselves six times in one conversation
My favorite is when you know the person is speaking words, you just don't understand them, like hearing a non-Romantic language. Things like these are why my mom used to joke that I was deaf without my glasses on. Masks are hard...
I have a harder time processing what people say when I take my glasses off, too!! I'm completely blind without them, everything is just blobs and shapes of color. I was always told that the reason why you have a hard time understanding what people say when you take your glasses off is because part of you interpreting what they say is by reading their lips. It rings true with me because I hate making direct eye contact and just stare at people's mouths.
This happens when I get overwhelmed and start to 'drift' as I call it. Happens more in stores or social situations, but like, talking and even written words just start to feel like nonsense.
That first part really stuck with me I'm constantly saying "What?" to people but once they are about to repeat themselves my brain clicks together what they said.
My sister has ADHD and this is a everyday conversation we have and in the end we just laugh bc no one know what’s going on 😂😂 I don’t have ADHD and your videos help me understand her better since it’s challenging for her to express it. Seriously I show her your videos and she say “now you know me better and I don’t know how to feel about it “ lol so ty!
Just to clarify: having ADHD is completely different from Auditory Processing Disorder. The two are not the same. ADHD is attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder, while APD is when your auditory cortex doesn’t function properly, making it difficult for your brain to process and interpret sounds correctly. Despite it being a form of neurodivergence, it is actually closer to being hard of hearing than it is to ADHD or autism. It is also very common for people with APD to have speech difficulties because they cannot hear words properly
@@Why_who_wherejust to be clear, autism is a spectrum, and though that might be your experience with your brother, that’s not everyone’s, and definitely wasn’t mine with my sister
@@michaelawhittaker5701people WITH ADHD...often DO have auditory processing problems because the brain says catch-up r tries to anticipate....this. was explained by a hearing auditory specialist as well as the mental health professional that diagnosed me w ADHD.
@@FlamingAngel2012 Huh. I never realized that. I was talking about Central Auditory Processing Disorder, which I have been diagnosed with. I never actually realized that they are 2 different conditions. Thanks for the new information! It was really interesting to get to know more about this!
I often ask “What?” but instead of listening, my brain gets it by the time the person is starting to repeat what they said 🫠 & I always thought that was normal, even to the extent of pretending to hear what the other person said to not say “What” too many times… I am shook to learn that this is a thing, thank you for this 🥺❤️
It’s not, don’t diagnose yourself with this bullshit. When you say what but then realise it’s just because different parts of your brain are working, and the What is a reflex
And what’s worse is when someone is telling you something important but you hear something else than what they actually said but then you realise that it doesn’t make sense so you ask them again and they just say “never mind” or “doesn’t matter.” Like it’s just so frustrating and I feel stupid asking people to repeat themselves everyone thinks I have something wrong with my hearing but I don’t, I can only imagine how frustrating it is for them though.
HOLY SHIT. That first verbal interaction struck me to my core. I thought I had hearing loss because I would often times have trouble understanding people. The interupting in the middle of my neurotypical character repeating themselves happens all day every day for me.
APD can manifest as a "delay" between the brain hearing the words and being able to interpret them. If you experience something similar, it might be a good idea to develop a habit of pausing before answering - like raising a "wait a minute" finger, or pretend to think about it. It would allow your brain to catch up, it saves on having to go "what?", and might make you appear intellectual instead of potentially annoying. 😁😉
Bro same. Cause I have this problem all the time and my sister makes fun of me for it and I never knew why I did it cause like I knew what she said but yeah my brain just did not process fast enough
I do this a lot. My husband thinks I’m not listening to him but I truly don’t hear or understand what he says sometimes. Or I hear something completely different. Thank you for this video. Now I know what it’s called and can get help.
I have apd and I relate to this 😂 I also tend to ask people to repeat themselves not necessarily because I didn’t hear them, but because I need time to process what was said and I can’t just stay silent for a bit without looking weird.
I can only watch TV with headphones of earbuds. Anytime I'm watching a show on the TV and it's not dead silent in the house I miss more than half of the dialogue.
I relate to this SO HARD 🤣. Often I have to try and deduce what people actually said cuz what I'll hear is *definitely wrong* (and often perverted, thanks brain!) or I'll just have absolutely no clue. And don't even get me STARTED on verbal instructions, my brain normally just goes "Um, wut? 👁👄👁"
Same as you except what I hear is non sensical and doesn't make sense in this space continium. "He was on the roof and the roof fell on him" "The ice cream is dead"
This is super relatable. I’m a line cook with APD, and it can be very difficult at times, especially when I get told specific instructions for making the meals. My boss would repeat them to me and I’d either have to repeat it back or write it down. Even with that, I’d still get the instructions wrong sometimes due to my APD, but it’s not bad to the point where the dish is ruined. I can tell that my boss gets tired of my constant repetition of the stuff I ask him, but he’s still willing to try and help me out as best as he can. I also have a hard time explaining stuff to the point of miscommunication. I know what I’m about to say, but it comes out wrong and I wouldn’t even notice until people would end up doing what I didn’t ask them to do and they’d tell me what I actually said. I thought I told them to do one thing, but it turned out I said it in a way that made it sound like I said something else than it did in my head, and that always makes me feel discouraged.
This is one of the big reasons I found it so hard to learn in school with them speaking I could heart them but it would take me too long to put meaning to the words they was saying
This is amazing! My parents recently told me that I’m diagnosed with APD. I really appreciate this and a lot of my daily struggles are making way more sense. 😂😅😊❤
I don't think there's a more demoralizing feeling than when you don't understand what a person says after the third time they've said it. Many times I've just given them a look and shook my head until they either explode on me or walk away.
It's because they are saying it in a muttered tone. Making them laugh changes that. For some reason I can understand more. Idk the science but works for me.
I’m sorry I feel that just feel horrible to first feel uncomfortable and second to just plainly wait for people to explode on you. That’s not good I would just say “I have hearing issues please speak up and slow down” idk this comment made me sad
I always thought I just had a hearing problem because I would say “what” too much or mistake words for other words and I would get yelled at and people would get frustrated that I didn’t understand but now I can show them this in hopes they can understand me now so thanks for this😊
I’m learning more about myself and tons of ah ha moments from this. So many oddly things I take for granted are just issues related to my adhd. Thank you!
HOLD UP I DO THIS ALL THE TIME, someone tells me something and i hear it, but my brain lags and im like “huh?” then i answer them before they repeat everything😭
i never realized i did this until my bf pointed it out. weird thing is, it doesn't seem to happen in a normal convo, only when someone randomly starts talking to me about something i wasn't expecting. i'm working on taking a second to process instead of saying what or huh bc i usually process it as someone repeats the sentence lol
Subtitles are a godsend. I get so lost in an episode without them and would need to rewind closer to ten times and episode. With subtitles on, that goes down to two or three times because they were talking too fast for me to read.
i don’t have apd but my mind can’t process speaking fast enough. i do have adhd and autism tho, so that’s the reason. people always think i’m ignoring them or being mean when i literally can’t process the words. when i’m watching a show i have to rewind it so i can understand what was said. one of the reasons i like kdramas, there’s subtitles so i can finally understand.
I've been like this my WHOLE LIFE too and remember getting to learn sign language for a song as a kid and FELL IN LOVE WITH IT and learned the whole alphabet like immediately and remember wanting to speak with ASL ALL THE TIME, but of course not being able to... Fast forward a gazillion years and here I am, only watch stuff with closed captioning whenever possible so I can 'hear it', still remember the ASL alphabet and trying to find an ASL class I can drag my 9 almost 10yr old to, and at 45yo myself I found out almost 3yrs ago I'm ausomely autistic!!! Apparently having apd is pretty common for us. On the other hand, what if all us APD peeps just heard a lot of BS early in life and we've just been trying to defend ourselves against it the best we can ever since? I'm starting to feel like that's a legit possibility.
Oh hey! I always go about saying my hearing is shite because I gotta ask people to repeat themselves three times, and yet my hearing during the auditory tests is always above average. Maybe I have this thing! Thanks for the helpful short
ahh, so thats what that is LOL. my friends love when i repeat back to them what i misheard, because usually its so absurd and out of place that it makes them laugh XD
This is why i have subtitles on and i lip read 😭 they always say im deaf. Even the doctor doing my physical said that "u said no hearing losd but you didn't hear what i said"
I did kindergarten twice because I have this. These moments happen so often and they can get frustrating on both sides of the conversation. Thanks for posting this 🧡
I agree, but I felt the video made it seem too normal lol like Id have preferred if there was a bit more info or a more specific problem; but then I also feel it wouldnt cover all the types of APD unless it was longer lol or a mini series? 🤔
Yeah but the most frustrating thing is when people say "Oh yeah I misunderstand people sometimes too." Okay but it's different...No actually the most frustrating thing is when my little brother makes fun of me because of it and then he tells me that I'm just making it up. Or when people say we just aren't paying attention to them.😖😡😓😢
@@jayray394 I’m not self diagnosing lol I’m just saying I’ve experienced what she describes in the video and I was unaware that it could be classified as a disorder. At no point did I say I thought I had it lol y’all are mean for no reason get a hobby
I definitely have this. Both the delay and the mishearing. It can be really annoying to constantly ask "What did you say?" so sometimes it can be easier to respond to the nonsense I do hear and people can repeat themselves when they are confused with how I responded
This is the whole reason I keep cc on everything. But I’ve learned if I just ask my husband “what did they say” enough, he turns them back on for me and complains less. Crazy.
@Miriam Svenson for some people, it's an annoyance because it does block some. For others, it might be visual processing issues. Luckily, both husband and roommate have ADHD, so all movies instantly get subs turned on.
@@beepboop7090 im the same with subtitles… stand up comedy is awful for this lmao. i always get the, “what are you laughing at?” and two seconds later “oh, haha”.
This!! And trying to explain to someone even after you finally “processed” it that the replay in your head isn’t making any sense either and you need them to restate it.
My mom got me an appointment to check my hearing because I couldn't understand anything, and we were so confused when we found out my hearing was fine lol
That reminds me of the time I had bad hearing due to the wax buildup in my ears as a child. Had to go to the doc and everything… hmmmm.. maybe I’ll go again 💀
I relate to this so much especially the last part because if something is repeated twice to me and I don’t understand it I’ll just say “okay” because I don’t want to come off as annoying
I’ve had to have someone say something to me about 7-8 times, just for me to act like I understand because I don’t think it’s worth it and I don’t want to be annoying.
Lol same. I just end up having to figure out what they said by the context of the ongoing conversation lol. (Sometimes I don’t even ask them to repeat it, cause I feel bad about making them repeat themselves lol. I’ve gotten really good at context clues because of it though lol XD)
@@lavasharkandboygirl9716 I’m so bad at communication lmfao .. Most people don’t realize it’s a learned skill, you get better by practicing more so if you can relate all you have to do is get out your comfort zone
Seriously, I can hear my kids conspiring from 2 floors away *while I have earbuds in* but I can't understand what someone 2 feet away is saying directly to me!? Wtf?!
This happens to me. I have good hearing but its understanding what people say throws me off a lot sometimes. I HEAR what they say but I don’t understand it or I misinterpret it.
Omg same. I even went to get my hearing tested because of this. Only to find out I had the best hearing they had seen in a while. I just suck at processing unless its the only sound coming in.
That buffering type processing ALWAYS happens to me!! I usually wait until the person is done saying it the 2nd time to otherwise i feel like more of an idiot 💀
Same. Also, why are the shows with bad subtitles (not in the right time frame) also the ones with the worst audio? I'm talking waves, birds screaming, boats rocking, leaves rustling, people talking in the background...and hey! let's have the person talking as fast and much as possible for ultimate clarity!
@@ThomasSawyers Yeah and people with ADD and ADHD should also just pay attention too? Do you know that the last D stands for Disorder? As in, affects daily life and causes problems that people without it don't have, disorder?
Started acknowledging there might be a problem when my friend told me "I have to go wash my dog's vibrator". I always take a minute to unscramble, but this time I realized the problem wasn't her.
When you say “what?” 12 times, because your curious what they said, and they say “never mind” like you did something wrong, and then you have to beg at their knees for them to tell you what they said.
@@gghhhhhhhhb8161 nah fr my sister does this all the time but claims she never mumbles then gets annoyed at people for not hearing her. girl for the love of god please speak upppp
Whoa my husband does this. He’ll often say “what?” and instead of immediately repeating myself, I have learned to pause a couple seconds. Then he’ll respond like he heard me afterall.
Exactly. I shouldn’t have to repeat myself 3 times just because you didn’t give yourself time to *actually* absorb what I said. Couple seconds usually does the trick for these people
@@audreywelsh9676 that's worded very rudely, it's not "giving themselves" enough time when their brains literally don't process it even when someone waits or repeats themselves 5 times
@@audreywelsh9676 If someone hasn't processed what was said, they can't know if they just didn't hear it, or that it wasn't processed. And the person you said "Exactly" to, waited a couple seconds for their husband to process, not the other way around. Your point was the opposite. There is no need to get annoyed by people who process slower, it is not a choice, do you think they don't have it hard enough without you blaming them for it?
Ever get that thing while speaking where for example instead of saying potato masher you say motato pasher I think it’s called spoonerism but could be wrong anyway yea dyslexia for speaking
That is such a good way to explain it!! I got diagnosed with APD late last year and ive always struggled to explain it to people who are curious! Tysm :D
Bruh what that's literally me 😭 I've always had so much trouble following directions if they are spoken to me, and when taking orders for my job I can't hear if any noise is going on around me. It's like I can hear but can't at the same time.
😭 same here, I get so overwhelmed while trying to help others at my job cuz I HeAr JUst MuMBLes I KnOw TheYre Words BuT I CAnt UnderStand Them nor get a grip of anything so I perish asking to repeat 😭
@@DaemonNighty sameee. I work at McDonald's currently and when I hear any sort of noise going on around me I will have the hardest time hearing what they say. The customers get so mad at me cause I'll ask them to repeat themselves :')
Sometimes I’ll miss what was said like 4 times and I’ll give up. At a certain point I’ll just smile and deliberately let myself get distracted so I don’t ask "what??"another 5 times 🥲 it’s like a word salad every time 😂 it happens waay too often
The first part where you say “what” before realizing what they said and automatically responding is also a symptom of adhd. The rest isn’t, but the initial struggle processing something small that you heard and understood but need a second to register can be from adhd.
When I was a kid I once had a lady who was watching me out of nowhere start yelling at me, and was telling me how rude it was that I ignored her when she was talking to me. Except I wasn’t ignoring her, and never even heard her talking to me. I was watching tv, and hyper focused at the time. It was such a humiliating experience because I really loved her, and thought she was so fun, and that forever changed the way I saw her, and also made me feel like I was terrible because I truly didn’t hear her, and something must be really wrong with me because I didn’t.
I was a really focused reader, and in first grade we'd always have a silent reading segment, and people would have to actually come up to me to get me to stop reading because I was so immersed that I tuned all sounds out.
I remember being 4 and my favorite older cousin accused me of not listening in order to get attention. I still remember how upset I was that he thought I was lying. Ever since then I've always told people that I have hearing difficulty even though I don't. But that was easier to explain and people wouldn't get angry with me
I genuinely thought it was not just normal but common to do this. I often in a conversation hear what they say and process it a few seconds later and I've seen some other people do this so thought "ah, the brain can't work perfectly everytime"
@@pil0tfisch439it happening all the time is not normal. Yes, it’s a thing that people experience and it’s not abnormal to have had lag time in processing things you hear. That doesn’t suddenly mean it’s not a disorder. Most things are disorders because of the frequency of the symptoms, not the symptoms itself. Everyone gets sad. Everyone has the ability to have something devastating cause them to have a depressive episode. Not everyone is clinically depressed. Lots of people get joint pain. Not everybody has arthritis. Please don’t minimise things simply because you misunderstand them. The body is an insanely complicated web, there are literally a trillion things that could go wrong with it. It’s really not that crazy that we learn of countless more disorders the more knowledgeable we become about ourselves.
@@Cas_Q but the thing is i do it for everyone i talk to. My mum would be like: Hey, can you get me some cough drops and then she doesn’t hear anything so she says it again and partway through the sentence im like “WHERE ARE THE COUGH DROPS?” and then my mum gets pissed off at me. Everyone always gets mad when i do it :((((((
My go-to when asking clarification is just to ask them to "start again" My go-to when clarifying is to very clearly restate the main word "the chips" and then say the sentence again "do we have any chips"
My mom used to be so upset at me when I was little and would miss people saying ‘hi’ to me, etc. It’d look so rude! 😭 Now I live on high alert just in case and listen to *everything* around me.
I will VERY VERY rarely have this but one thing I have all the time is when I'm speaking to someone and then catch myself silently repeating what I said to make sure I didn't make a mistake 😂
This is literally the reason I stopped repeating myself when my husband asks me what I just said. Nine times out of ten he will answer my question within 2 seconds.
Yeah, probably has a minor version of this like me. Sometimes when someone speaks to me I hear it but it's like I don't understand the words, like they said gibberish and then after a delay of a 2-3 seconds I suddenly know what they asked. It's weird xD
I have APD and that’s honestly so nice of you. It takes us about 2 seconds to process what people say and then half a second to respond. People repeating themselves just makes it more difficult
Auditory processing disorder isn’t like just a delay. It’s when a part of your brain doesn’t work correctly, so it can’t comprehend what is being said to you. It takes someone who has ADP longer to answer not because they pause and then answer, but because they need time to figure out what was being said. A lot of time they use “sounds like ____, but couldn’t have been, so it must have been _____ instead”
What this girl is experiencing can be caused by a lot of things including ADHD! If you’re already diagnosed with ADHD then that’s probably it, but you should definitely see your doctor if it’s happening often or it’s getting worse. This can be a symptom of silent migraines or seizures, or even brain tumors. please be safe ❤️
I just started crying seeing this since I had no idea I had this. We always assumed I had bad hearing due to some surgeries as a kid on my ears. Although hearing tests always said I was fine. People just assume I'm not listening to them or pretend to not listen. I have these things constantly throughout the day and it's exhausting trying to hyperfocus so I can properly understand someone. I have never heard of this.
It can be a scary realization. I hope you are able to take it with stride, and are able to overcome the initial struggles. Stay strong ❤️ you’ve got this!
Sometimes it can be caused because of ADHD or some other neurological problem so if you think you have it, it's probably good to go check with a specialist to get tested for this specifically.
i have a similar thing due to my hearing loss. sometimes i can kinda make out words and my brain tries to "fill in the blanks" which leads me to "hearing" something completely different than what was actually said.
i definitely understand this. i haven't been officially diagnosed but i deal with this everyday, especially thinking someone said something they didn't because it sounded phonetically similar
Bro this is my life pretty much all the time. When I was a kid I even went to go get my hearing checked because I thought it was an auditory issue. Then me and my parents found out what I really had was a processing disorder. For anyone else who struggles with this, you’re not alone. It’s so hard sometimes. Sometimes I really need subtitles, and I hate asking friends to put on subtitles for me. And in the past if I kept asking friends to repeat themselves so I could understand what they said they eventually gave up and just said “ugh. Never mind!!!” It just makes me feel even more frustrated with myself.
@@salemcrow5078 fr! Like, my mom could say something out of context from a show/laughing at show, and I'd be confused, then I'd ask her to explain. It felt like my brain just zoned out when she was saying the thing, so I ask her to say it again, then she gets frustrated with me and says something like "YoU sHoUlD hAvE bEeN wAtChInG tHe ShOw." I'm sorry MOTHER I have other things to do and I would like to know what has caught your interest so that I can use it later. So then I get mad and embarrassed and go do what I was doing. (I can't even stomp away or slam doors bc then my dad would hear, ask my mom what happened, mom would play the role of Poor Pitiful Mother, and then he'd go find me and whoop my a$$ without actually asking what had happened.) But then like a few minutes after she said the thing to me, in the middle of doing something, it'd click and I'll just start giggling. Then they give me weird looks like * I'm * the crazy one. And then she wonders why I'm scared to say things to her.
Man, this has created so many relationship issues, even though they know I have brain troubles. I know it's annoying and aggravating for the other person, but their not the only ones, I gotta deal with this brain. Stupid pink jello ass football causing me problems.
I hate when I'm walking somewhere noisy with my friends and they're talking and laughing about something and I get completely left out because I can't understand a single word they are saying.
Omg wow right so true and omg we're so quirky, weird how so many people have auditory disorders now all of a sudden because theyre too busy on their phones during the convo etc
@@lilblkrose oh wow so true, or it's almost as if you're romanticizing mental disorders, but nah nah I'm sure you totally have the thing that a very small percentage has, "so relatable omg, that's me too XD, guys guys look I'm interesting now" no you aren't:)
@@ThomasSawyers Weird how you're second guessing a random person on the internet who you have no idea about. Like how I can be making breakfast and not hear what my grandmother just said to me three seconds ago but ohhh I must be on a screen instead of just staring at the toaster!
WAIT. Why do I feel emotional? To be honest I've always felt stupid when situations like this happen to me. This makes me feel better to know this exists 🥺❤️
You are not alone, my dear. You are not stupid. In facr, you're probably more in tune than most. But people don't understand that hyper-attuned people have higher systems of filtration, and it's hard to sort out the valuable from the trash when there's so much noise.
I think i do this to do like a quick pause were i can process what was just said without lokking weird and not responding quickly like "normal" people would
It's not selective if I can't select it! My mum is the same. We've started saying that it's Dyslexic Hearing. Sometimes the words just get jumbled up 🤷
I didn't know this disorder existed but that's why I'm always patient with people because you never know how someone's hearing is or what they're dealing with.
Man I don’t even end up understanding a different but wrong sentence, it’s like I lose my ability to understand any language. It’s like hearing a foreign language when you know for a fact the person just spoke in your native one
Wait i do this so often. Like my mind cant process that someone is actually talking to me, but then when they say something and i ask them to repeat it, during the first word i understand the whole sentence
THIS IS ME!!! 🤣🤣🤣 I KNOW they didn't say, "The elephant is sucking an egg." So I ask again BUT I always tell my husband what I heard becasue it's usually funny. 🤣 but it's a daily issue
I'm like this with my lil sisters, I tell them everything I think they do and and then we all bust a guy laughing, but we believe my hearing/processing issues have something to do with ADHD or me just zoning out and not listening to parts of the conversation. lol. Because I don't.
Yeah I often tell people what I hear because it's usually funny but anytime I do it to my little brother just looks at me and it's like "maybe you should go see a hearing doctor" like bro I did.
I recommend searching up other symptoms of APD And if you are pretty sure you have it then consider going to a person that specialises in it They might have ways to make life a little easier for you!
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I once overheard my coworkers talking about me and one was like, “-- keeps ignoring me.” “She’s not ignoring you, say her name before you talk to her, she’s got auditory processing disorder.” My coworkers training each other how to deal with me, lol.
Yes. Saying my name first is soo helpful for me too.
Yo that’s so considerate actually like the ones who know are informing the others omg I want this
That's so sweet tho
This is me. I finally found something online that explained it perfectly - much better than I could - and sent it to my partner because he was getting really frustrated by me missing the first half of every sentence.
Recently my coworkers have been noticing that I am like this. They realize by my facial expression "you didn't hear me did you" I'm like nope. They don't get offended but they notice.
I relate a lot to the first part. Someone will say something and I'll immediately say "what?" And before they start saying it again my brain will register what they asked
love the pfp!
thats normal, this video is confusing
@@Daniel-wu6pl it can b normal but if it happens so often it impairs ur ability to have conversations without doing this once or twice every time, then it could be APD.
Then maybe you need to teach yourself to STOP before you open your mouth..process the information, then respond. It's rude to waste others' time
@@graws7009 hush
I used to call myself “audio dyslexic” and now I have a better term for what I experience
No way, I say that too!
I literally say I have auditory dyslexia and vocal dyslexia because I can never say words in the right order but I learned the hearing was APD and the vocal was something called spoonerism (after the person who discovered it)
That’s how I explain it to people. When- “Go to the door” sounds like, “drop to the floor.” It’s not a problem with hearing, hearing can be 100%, it’s a problem with your brain interpreting the sounds as the wrong sounds. Write it out and it can be read 100%. People looking when they speak to you so you can read lips and them making hand gestures like pointing is especially helpful.
Me too!
@@Bee___333 There's a word for the vocal version?? Thank you so much!
This is also a reason I have to always have subtitles when I'm not wearing headphones because I cannot process the speaking fast enough and then start to get confused and miss out on a lot so it's better for me to just read
Same and my mum hates subtitles so I don’t understand what’s happening before seeing this video I just thought it was bad hearing even though I have been tested multiple times
yeah, even if the tv is quite loud i still need subtitles if its not an isolated noise like with headphones
If there is even a little bit of background noise happening in a movie or TV show, or background noise, I need to blast it on full volume to be able to make out the dialogue if there's no subs.
I have great hearing, no mosquito sneaks up on me, so that is not the issue. It's super weird that some brains work like this.
Me too, my family was very annoyed at first when I turned the subtitles on for something in spanish cause it's our native language, but I'm like "I can't understand without subtitles and I also put english subtitles on english-language tv shows"... Fast forward to about five years later and everyone is so used to subtitles that they feel weird without them 😂😂, I turned them
Big recommendation. Buy a Bose Soundbar. My mom bought one for me and it has a speech mode and it makes it so much easier for watching movies and TV shows. Granted it is expensive, but it's a good investment. We actually have a first generation one from like 2012.
I didn't know this was a thing, I just assumed my brain is broken, I spend so much time trying to guess what people actually said because I know what I heard makes no sense at all
This happened a lot to me, and I'll be to afraid to ask what they said and just over think what they possibly said
Apparently one of the causes is brain damage, so we might have broken brains. But, it’s also not clear what actually causes it
I'll just assume I have something but don't get it seen since Healthcare I got sucks
It's not a thing..
@@shelldie8523
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My husband says, "what?" and just responds a second later. I have gotten so used to it that I don't repeat myself when someone says "what?" Or "huh?". I just wait. The problem is that my mom is actually hard of hearing so when she says "huh?" She actually doesn't hear me and I look like a jerk because I just silently wait for a response.
Massive Bruh moment
Oh I say “huh?” And then realise what someone says and my sister gets so annoyed at me for it
My little bro is the same way. Annoyed at first but I learn to ignore his “huh” and “what.”
I nearly always answer with
What ,oh , (answer)
It's a classic tactic for compulsive liars to gain a few extra seconds to come up with a lie
I think the reason people say “huh” or “what” after someone tells them something and the proceeds to answer them is that we instinctively say that to let the other person know it was hard to understand, then our brains kinda put the pieces together and we answer.
That's actually the exact reason why we say "what" or "huh" or what ever. Our brains are sometimes "to slow" at processing informations so it does what usually is needs to do to be able to process the informations. So yeah, it's basically a reflex and it's totally normal.
@@Sakrosankt-Bierstube, Sometimes I wonder whether it is APD or just slow processing speed that causes it. It may be both
What also happens to me is hearing the words but not processing the meaning. So I hear someone but it will be as if it’s a different language. I will need to actively refocus but often miss multiple sentences and have to ask them to start over.
Or hearing someone fine but forgetting the first sentence instantly and not being able to concentrate on the sentences that follow because I try to remember the first one. (I am diagnosed with APD)
this is exactly what it's like for me, and I have to continuously ask people to repeat themselves until they start getting annoyed with me for asking them the repeat themselves six times in one conversation
Fuck that literally is me maybe I should get tested hm
This is me 😂
@@alexsylling1449 same
I got tested for something like this but haven't been diagnosed-- this sounds about right tho
My favorite is when you know the person is speaking words, you just don't understand them, like hearing a non-Romantic language. Things like these are why my mom used to joke that I was deaf without my glasses on. Masks are hard...
I have a harder time processing what people say when I take my glasses off, too!! I'm completely blind without them, everything is just blobs and shapes of color.
I was always told that the reason why you have a hard time understanding what people say when you take your glasses off is because part of you interpreting what they say is by reading their lips. It rings true with me because I hate making direct eye contact and just stare at people's mouths.
Exactly. This happens to me all the time.
OMG!! Masks are a nightmare for me!
This happens when I get overwhelmed and start to 'drift' as I call it.
Happens more in stores or social situations, but like, talking and even written words just start to feel like nonsense.
This is something I struggle with. Sometimes it's just sounds, I know it's words but it's like I suddenly don't speak the language.
That first part really stuck with me I'm constantly saying "What?" to people but once they are about to repeat themselves my brain clicks together what they said.
I didn't even know this was a thing. I seriously thought it was just me.
I do this all the time!
Yep
Same do this all the time
Same
My sister has ADHD and this is a everyday conversation we have and in the end we just laugh bc no one know what’s going on 😂😂
I don’t have ADHD and your videos help me understand her better since it’s challenging for her to express it. Seriously I show her your videos and she say “now you know me better and I don’t know how to feel about it “ lol so ty!
Just to clarify: having ADHD is completely different from Auditory Processing Disorder. The two are not the same. ADHD is attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder, while APD is when your auditory cortex doesn’t function properly, making it difficult for your brain to process and interpret sounds correctly. Despite it being a form of neurodivergence, it is actually closer to being hard of hearing than it is to ADHD or autism. It is also very common for people with APD to have speech difficulties because they cannot hear words properly
@@Why_who_wherejust to be clear, autism is a spectrum, and though that might be your experience with your brother, that’s not everyone’s, and definitely wasn’t mine with my sister
@@michaelawhittaker5701people WITH ADHD...often DO have auditory processing problems because the brain says catch-up r tries to anticipate....this. was explained by a hearing auditory specialist as well as the mental health professional that diagnosed me w ADHD.
@@FlamingAngel2012 Huh. I never realized that. I was talking about Central Auditory Processing Disorder, which I have been diagnosed with. I never actually realized that they are 2 different conditions. Thanks for the new information! It was really interesting to get to know more about this!
I can literally have a conversation with someone and answer something, seconds after that, I have no idea what they were saying.
Sounds like adhd
Same.
I often ask “What?” but instead of listening, my brain gets it by the time the person is starting to repeat what they said 🫠 & I always thought that was normal, even to the extent of pretending to hear what the other person said to not say “What” too many times… I am shook to learn that this is a thing, thank you for this 🥺❤️
Bro same
It’s not, don’t diagnose yourself with this bullshit. When you say what but then realise it’s just because different parts of your brain are working, and the What is a reflex
Me too
You described this super well and made me realize i probably have the same condition
It is normal. Everything is not a disorder. Just a trick by big pharma to sell more drugs.
My husband says I’m deaf, but I have close to perfect hearing. This makes so much sense!
I THOUGHT THIS WAS NORMAL LOL
Me too. Had my hearing tested...perfect hearing! Thank God for my audiologist! I never would've known about APD if it wasn't for her.
Funny thing is I’m actually deaf
@@elenoarrose9755 lmao rip
People who watch a video and instantly think they have a disorde... should see a doctor yes, but it should be a psychologist.
And what’s worse is when someone is telling you something important but you hear something else than what they actually said but then you realise that it doesn’t make sense so you ask them again and they just say “never mind” or “doesn’t matter.” Like it’s just so frustrating and I feel stupid asking people to repeat themselves everyone thinks I have something wrong with my hearing but I don’t, I can only imagine how frustrating it is for them though.
HOLY SHIT. That first verbal interaction struck me to my core. I thought I had hearing loss because I would often times have trouble understanding people. The interupting in the middle of my neurotypical character repeating themselves happens all day every day for me.
Wait. This isnt normal?
APD can manifest as a "delay" between the brain hearing the words and being able to interpret them. If you experience something similar, it might be a good idea to develop a habit of pausing before answering - like raising a "wait a minute" finger, or pretend to think about it. It would allow your brain to catch up, it saves on having to go "what?", and might make you appear intellectual instead of potentially annoying. 😁😉
Can also be hearing problem, especially if in noisy environments
@@CrimsonCat87 huh. I definitely need to work on that
Bro same. Cause I have this problem all the time and my sister makes fun of me for it and I never knew why I did it cause like I knew what she said but yeah my brain just did not process fast enough
It can happen to neurotypical people from time to time but it shouldn’t be frequent (unless you suffer from exhaustion daily)
Aggaaggg. Yes. I get asked all the time, “how did you get that out of what I just said”
Y’all I don’t know! My brain just done did.
I love this comment.
Sometimes, I can feel my brain scrambling them around.
Like, I know that's not what you said, but this is what I heard.
Same!
I do this a lot. My husband thinks I’m not listening to him but I truly don’t hear or understand what he says sometimes. Or I hear something completely different. Thank you for this video. Now I know what it’s called and can get help.
I have apd and I relate to this 😂 I also tend to ask people to repeat themselves not necessarily because I didn’t hear them, but because I need time to process what was said and I can’t just stay silent for a bit without looking weird.
I tried to explain this issue to a hearing doctor and they thought I was insane... now I know what to tell them. Thank you.
Probably because it's not a hearing disorder; it seems more like a brain/processing disorder associated with neurodivergence
It's more brain than ear
you'll get better luck at a psychologist
Not a hearing disorder. You can hear fine, your brain is delayed in processing the sound. A hearing doctor will not be able to help you.
No you need hearing aid like me this is a fucking mockery of people she has a new one every other day
I'm so glad most streaming services have subtitles because of this. I simply can't hear it without them.
I literally need them too
I can only watch TV with headphones of earbuds. Anytime I'm watching a show on the TV and it's not dead silent in the house I miss more than half of the dialogue.
@@zankarren9476 same
Yeah I have APD and dyslexia so sometimes it helps and sometimes it just makes it more confusing. I often just have to watch the video over again.😂
My mom gets annoyed looking at the subtitles but it's hard to understand somtimes without them
I relate to this SO HARD 🤣. Often I have to try and deduce what people actually said cuz what I'll hear is *definitely wrong* (and often perverted, thanks brain!) or I'll just have absolutely no clue. And don't even get me STARTED on verbal instructions, my brain normally just goes "Um, wut? 👁👄👁"
Same as you except what I hear is non sensical and doesn't make sense in this space continium.
"He was on the roof and the roof fell on him"
"The ice cream is dead"
@@eureka2694 Oh, I get that too 😂. That's what I mean by "definitely wrong," it's either inappropriate or makes no sense--or both 🤣
This is super relatable. I’m a line cook with APD, and it can be very difficult at times, especially when I get told specific instructions for making the meals. My boss would repeat them to me and I’d either have to repeat it back or write it down. Even with that, I’d still get the instructions wrong sometimes due to my APD, but it’s not bad to the point where the dish is ruined. I can tell that my boss gets tired of my constant repetition of the stuff I ask him, but he’s still willing to try and help me out as best as he can.
I also have a hard time explaining stuff to the point of miscommunication. I know what I’m about to say, but it comes out wrong and I wouldn’t even notice until people would end up doing what I didn’t ask them to do and they’d tell me what I actually said. I thought I told them to do one thing, but it turned out I said it in a way that made it sound like I said something else than it did in my head, and that always makes me feel discouraged.
This is one of the big reasons I found it so hard to learn in school with them speaking I could heart them but it would take me too long to put meaning to the words they was saying
Uuuugh I'm like this too. I feel dumb as heck because it takes me a minute to absorb what a person has said.
Im glad you shared this. It happened to me exactly
I would draw almost all the time while listening to teachers talk and that seemed to help?? D:
This is just how it feels to have a second language
That happens to me too 🫠🫠
Lmao I always say “huh?” Or “what” then I respond. Thought it was normal lol
Same
It is normal, but with APD it is a lot more severe and happens more frequently
Or you only hear the ending and have to have them repeat what was said in the beginning so you can understand
Same!
Same
Omg I think I have this! I CONSTANTLY have this problem throughout the day omg 😭
This is amazing! My parents recently told me that I’m diagnosed with APD. I really appreciate this and a lot of my daily struggles are making way more sense. 😂😅😊❤
I don't think there's a more demoralizing feeling than when you don't understand what a person says after the third time they've said it. Many times I've just given them a look and shook my head until they either explode on me or walk away.
It's because they are saying it in a muttered tone. Making them laugh changes that. For some reason I can understand more. Idk the science but works for me.
That’s not APD though, that’s normal. People will say things in ways where you just can’t understand them and it does suck.
And they say it in the same tone and cadence everytime 😭 like just say it differently
I’m sorry I feel that just feel horrible to first feel uncomfortable and second to just plainly wait for people to explode on you. That’s not good I would just say “I have hearing issues please speak up and slow down” idk this comment made me sad
its so annoying when they get mad when i literally have no idea what they just said
I always thought I just had a hearing problem because I would say “what” too much or mistake words for other words and I would get yelled at and people would get frustrated that I didn’t understand but now I can show them this in hopes they can understand me now so thanks for this😊
I’ve gotten my ears checked multiple times bc of this, and was always so confused that my hearing was fine 🥲
Are you sure its this disorder? It might just be that you cant hear properly. If you wanna find out for certain you can always go to your doctor.
Self diagnosing lol
Me too, got tested for bad hearing and all. But no i have perfectly normal hearing... just can't consentrate on what people are saying 😅
@@isyougood yea I have gotten my ears checked multiple times too
I’m learning more about myself and tons of ah ha moments from this. So many oddly things I take for granted are just issues related to my adhd. Thank you!
HOLD UP I DO THIS ALL THE TIME, someone tells me something and i hear it, but my brain lags and im like “huh?” then i answer them before they repeat everything😭
i never realized i did this until my bf pointed it out. weird thing is, it doesn't seem to happen in a normal convo, only when someone randomly starts talking to me about something i wasn't expecting. i'm working on taking a second to process instead of saying what or huh bc i usually process it as someone repeats the sentence lol
Duh
Same
@@dreamcatcherismylifesuppor2348 ?
Yeah same
SAME
this is why I have subtitles on, literally nobody else understands why I need them I just do,.because of this
No, I'm pretty sure everyone here understands why you need them on
@@theonethatcan7780 I think they mean people in their day to day irl life, not specific this video
Subtitles are a godsend. I get so lost in an episode without them and would need to rewind closer to ten times and episode. With subtitles on, that goes down to two or three times because they were talking too fast for me to read.
@@theonethatcan7780 not in this video, people in my day to day life lmao
I have subtitles on too but the subtitles sometimes mess up, like when someone says "Get Oliver" the subtitles say "Get olives"
i don’t have apd but my mind can’t process speaking fast enough. i do have adhd and autism tho, so that’s the reason. people always think i’m ignoring them or being mean when i literally can’t process the words. when i’m watching a show i have to rewind it so i can understand what was said. one of the reasons i like kdramas, there’s subtitles so i can finally understand.
I've been like this my WHOLE LIFE too and remember getting to learn sign language for a song as a kid and FELL IN LOVE WITH IT and learned the whole alphabet like immediately and remember wanting to speak with ASL ALL THE TIME, but of course not being able to... Fast forward a gazillion years and here I am, only watch stuff with closed captioning whenever possible so I can 'hear it', still remember the ASL alphabet and trying to find an ASL class I can drag my 9 almost 10yr old to, and at 45yo myself I found out almost 3yrs ago I'm ausomely autistic!!! Apparently having apd is pretty common for us. On the other hand, what if all us APD peeps just heard a lot of BS early in life and we've just been trying to defend ourselves against it the best we can ever since? I'm starting to feel like that's a legit possibility.
Oh hey! I always go about saying my hearing is shite because I gotta ask people to repeat themselves three times, and yet my hearing during the auditory tests is always above average. Maybe I have this thing! Thanks for the helpful short
ahh, so thats what that is LOL. my friends love when i repeat back to them what i misheard, because usually its so absurd and out of place that it makes them laugh XD
Same! Omg. Wow just wow. Dam 90's missed this one when I was growing up
Yess same. My friends and I started a whole list of random misheard words
Right? People are much funnier in my ears.
same lol it gets really weird sometimes
Nice that your friends just laugh at it. My friends don’t even repeat for me and just say “Nevermind” which will actually annoy me. 😐
This is why i have subtitles on and i lip read 😭 they always say im deaf. Even the doctor doing my physical said that "u said no hearing losd but you didn't hear what i said"
😭
My most used word is huh? Even if I did hear you i would instinctively say huh
This is me too!!
😭😭😭 I was asked to get some tests done, one of which where I have to raise my hand.... N I failed miserably 😭
This has been my life. So glad there are people that go through the same thing.
This is me all the time. I never understood why I struggle to understand things sometimes.
I did kindergarten twice because I have this. These moments happen so often and they can get frustrating on both sides of the conversation. Thanks for posting this 🧡
I agree, but I felt the video made it seem too normal lol like Id have preferred if there was a bit more info or a more specific problem; but then I also feel it wouldnt cover all the types of APD unless it was longer lol or a mini series? 🤔
Yeah but the most frustrating thing is when people say "Oh yeah I misunderstand people sometimes too." Okay but it's different...No actually the most frustrating thing is when my little brother makes fun of me because of it and then he tells me that I'm just making it up. Or when people say we just aren't paying attention to them.😖😡😓😢
I- wait this is literally something I’ve experienced my whole life I didn’t know this was a disorder
You may just be a little slow, you have to be professionally diagnosed for this and it can take months
Not everyone self diagnosing themselves in the comments, y'all embarrassing fr
@@jayray394 the need for labels in our society is staggering. In 20 yrs everybody will be bitching that labels are used to oppress us again
@@subyouwont I can see this happening..oh no
@@jayray394 I’m not self diagnosing lol I’m just saying I’ve experienced what she describes in the video and I was unaware that it could be classified as a disorder. At no point did I say I thought I had it lol y’all are mean for no reason get a hobby
I definitely have this. Both the delay and the mishearing. It can be really annoying to constantly ask "What did you say?" so sometimes it can be easier to respond to the nonsense I do hear and people can repeat themselves when they are confused with how I responded
Saying what then answering instantly is so relatable
Someone: “What’s their name again?”
Me: “what?”
Them: What’s-
Me: “oh it’s Dylan”
Edit: lol thank for likes
Relatable UwU
I do this sometime
That's me constantly
I do this🥺. What does it mean, is something wrong with me?
@@ahsokatano5394 no nothing is wrong with you 😊 this video is about this it’s called APD auditory processing disorder
This is the whole reason I keep cc on everything. But I’ve learned if I just ask my husband “what did they say” enough, he turns them back on for me and complains less. Crazy.
lmfao I'm doing this whenever someone doesn't wanna have the subtitles on
@Miriam Svenson for some people, it's an annoyance because it does block some. For others, it might be visual processing issues. Luckily, both husband and roommate have ADHD, so all movies instantly get subs turned on.
@Miriam Svenson I have ADHD subtitles are incredibly distracting to me. I read them faster than they say the lines and have a hard time ignoring them.
@Miriam Svenson my point exactly!!
@@beepboop7090 im the same with subtitles… stand up comedy is awful for this lmao. i always get the, “what are you laughing at?” and two seconds later “oh, haha”.
This!! And trying to explain to someone even after you finally “processed” it that the replay in your head isn’t making any sense either and you need them to restate it.
People I know always asks me if I'm "deaf" or tell me to get my ears checked. I hope they see this.
My mom got me an appointment to check my hearing because I couldn't understand anything, and we were so confused when we found out my hearing was fine lol
Same for me still don't know what's wrong.
My mom did the same!
That reminds me of the time I had bad hearing due to the wax buildup in my ears as a child. Had to go to the doc and everything… hmmmm.. maybe I’ll go again 💀
Same for me, got a test for APD and I got that
same for me
I relate to this so much especially the last part because if something is repeated twice to me and I don’t understand it I’ll just say “okay” because I don’t want to come off as annoying
Okay, there is literally nothing more annoying than pretending to know what somebody said, it stunts the conversation and makes communication harder.
I’ve had to have someone say something to me about 7-8 times, just for me to act like I understand because I don’t think it’s worth it and I don’t want to be annoying.
Lol same. I just end up having to figure out what they said by the context of the ongoing conversation lol. (Sometimes I don’t even ask them to repeat it, cause I feel bad about making them repeat themselves lol. I’ve gotten really good at context clues because of it though lol XD)
@@lavasharkandboygirl9716 I’m so bad at communication lmfao .. Most people don’t realize it’s a learned skill, you get better by practicing more so if you can relate all you have to do is get out your comfort zone
I have never related to a comment more in my life
I’m just deaf as hell- takes my brain a second to put together what they said even after multiple repeats
The amount of times I say “sorry I just processed what you were saying” lol
Seriously, I can hear my kids conspiring from 2 floors away *while I have earbuds in* but I can't understand what someone 2 feet away is saying directly to me!? Wtf?!
That is ya momma instincts lol. You listening to them internally.
This happens to me. I have good hearing but its understanding what people say throws me off a lot sometimes. I HEAR what they say but I don’t understand it or I misinterpret it.
@@irrelevance3859 same, I want to go get this tested by a professional now lol. To see if I’m just slow or if I have something like this
yo me too
Omg same. I even went to get my hearing tested because of this. Only to find out I had the best hearing they had seen in a while. I just suck at processing unless its the only sound coming in.
I've always wondered why I can perfectly make out a conversation across the room but not even hear the person in front of me
I can eavesdrop so well but then im deaf af
Same lol
@@pinkfurryhat same
I really thought this was just selective hearing…
Fr
Damn this channel is making me learn more about my self
That buffering type processing ALWAYS happens to me!! I usually wait until the person is done saying it the 2nd time to otherwise i feel like more of an idiot 💀
What😭 this is literally me .. especially when watching shows or tv i NEED subtitles or else i wont be able to understand/ will mishear things
subtitles are like a blessing i swear
Hmm, ever tried paying attention?
@@ThomasSawyers …That’s not how it works?
Same. Also, why are the shows with bad subtitles (not in the right time frame) also the ones with the worst audio?
I'm talking waves, birds screaming, boats rocking, leaves rustling, people talking in the background...and hey! let's have the person talking as fast and much as possible for ultimate clarity!
@@ThomasSawyers Yeah and people with ADD and ADHD should also just pay attention too?
Do you know that the last D stands for Disorder? As in, affects daily life and causes problems that people without it don't have, disorder?
This is why I always watch shows/movies with subtitles lmao
Oh my god, all of your videos are so relatable.
Started acknowledging there might be a problem when my friend told me "I have to go wash my dog's vibrator".
I always take a minute to unscramble, but this time I realized the problem wasn't her.
When you say “what?” 12 times, because your curious what they said, and they say “never mind” like you did something wrong, and then you have to beg at their knees for them to tell you what they said.
They need to stop mumbling
@@gghhhhhhhhb8161 nah fr my sister does this all the time but claims she never mumbles then gets annoyed at people for not hearing her. girl for the love of god please speak upppp
listen the joke wasn't that funny for me to repeat it seven times. trust me nevermind
@@omimo12 i dont care how bad the joke was
say it again so i can still laugh when i hear it
I've hate it when I say "what?" ONE
ONE TIME. And they automatically go to "nevermind". Not even willing to repeat it a second time.
Whoa my husband does this. He’ll often say “what?” and instead of immediately repeating myself, I have learned to pause a couple seconds. Then he’ll respond like he heard me afterall.
Exactly. I shouldn’t have to repeat myself 3 times just because you didn’t give yourself time to *actually* absorb what I said. Couple seconds usually does the trick for these people
@@audreywelsh9676 that's worded very rudely, it's not "giving themselves" enough time when their brains literally don't process it even when someone waits or repeats themselves 5 times
@@audreywelsh9676 If someone hasn't processed what was said, they can't know if they just didn't hear it, or that it wasn't processed.
And the person you said "Exactly" to, waited a couple seconds for their husband to process, not the other way around. Your point was the opposite.
There is no need to get annoyed by people who process slower, it is not a choice, do you think they don't have it hard enough without you blaming them for it?
@@audreywelsh9676 what do you mean ‘these people’? Lol
@@audreywelsh9676 - Oh boy, you must be fun at parties.
I'm currently trying to get my mom to get me checked for this because I don't want to self diagnose but I'm like 90% sure that I have this
I remember one time my sister asked my to hand her her shoe and I thought she said flying poo😂
I HAVE THIS THIS IS SUCH AN ACCURATE REPRESENTATION. Also one way I like referring to APD is that it’s “dyslexia for hearing”
Ever get that thing while speaking where for example instead of saying potato masher you say motato pasher I think it’s called spoonerism but could be wrong anyway yea dyslexia for speaking
That is such a good way to explain it!! I got diagnosed with APD late last year and ive always struggled to explain it to people who are curious! Tysm :D
@@saturnlight939 yeah, I've basically forgotten how to say hand sanitizer, now by accidental habit I call it sand hanitizer
@@ItzameEmily lol this is a kinda weird one but I once saw someone named hentical tentai and now that’s the only way I can say it
@@saturnlight939 lol I love that 🤣
Bruh what that's literally me 😭
I've always had so much trouble following directions if they are spoken to me, and when taking orders for my job I can't hear if any noise is going on around me. It's like I can hear but can't at the same time.
Exactly like they're speaking words but you can't just interpret them 😭
If the directions are very long I think it is normal to need to write them down. Or repeat them to the other person to make sure you well understood.
😭 same here, I get so overwhelmed while trying to help others at my job cuz I HeAr JUst MuMBLes
I KnOw TheYre Words BuT I CAnt UnderStand Them nor get a grip of anything so I perish asking to repeat 😭
It's like the first few words are just gibberish until my brain finds the right frequency to decipher what is said
@@DaemonNighty sameee. I work at McDonald's currently and when I hear any sort of noise going on around me I will have the hardest time hearing what they say. The customers get so mad at me cause I'll ask them to repeat themselves :')
Sometimes I’ll miss what was said like 4 times and I’ll give up. At a certain point I’ll just smile and deliberately let myself get distracted so I don’t ask "what??"another 5 times 🥲 it’s like a word salad every time 😂 it happens waay too often
Bro why did I hear her say “did heather get the script” at first but then I looked back and that's not what she said
The first part where you say “what” before realizing what they said and automatically responding is also a symptom of adhd. The rest isn’t, but the initial struggle processing something small that you heard and understood but need a second to register can be from adhd.
It’s associated with ADHD but it isn’t caused by it.
When I was a kid I once had a lady who was watching me out of nowhere start yelling at me, and was telling me how rude it was that I ignored her when she was talking to me. Except I wasn’t ignoring her, and never even heard her talking to me. I was watching tv, and hyper focused at the time. It was such a humiliating experience because I really loved her, and thought she was so fun, and that forever changed the way I saw her, and also made me feel like I was terrible because I truly didn’t hear her, and something must be really wrong with me because I didn’t.
I was a really focused reader, and in first grade we'd always have a silent reading segment, and people would have to actually come up to me to get me to stop reading because I was so immersed that I tuned all sounds out.
I remember being 4 and my favorite older cousin accused me of not listening in order to get attention. I still remember how upset I was that he thought I was lying. Ever since then I've always told people that I have hearing difficulty even though I don't. But that was easier to explain and people wouldn't get angry with me
y’all just made me realize it’s my dad that’s the more neurodivergent parent💀💀💀 thanks
@@sarahfields3741i relate to you so much, I'm literally hard of hearing and I get accused of not listening even if I didn't hear them
My parents did the same thing
Honestly I’ve always thought of this as a superpower, like my brain can register info without me knowing/ thinking.
I learn new things about myself everyday watching your videos
I genuinely thought it was not just normal but common to do this. I often in a conversation hear what they say and process it a few seconds later and I've seen some other people do this so thought "ah, the brain can't work perfectly everytime"
This is normal. Not everything is a disorder
@@pil0tfisch439it happening all the time is not normal. Yes, it’s a thing that people experience and it’s not abnormal to have had lag time in processing things you hear.
That doesn’t suddenly mean it’s not a disorder. Most things are disorders because of the frequency of the symptoms, not the symptoms itself.
Everyone gets sad. Everyone has the ability to have something devastating cause them to have a depressive episode. Not everyone is clinically depressed.
Lots of people get joint pain. Not everybody has arthritis.
Please don’t minimise things simply because you misunderstand them. The body is an insanely complicated web, there are literally a trillion things that could go wrong with it. It’s really not that crazy that we learn of countless more disorders the more knowledgeable we become about ourselves.
@@Cas_Q but the thing is i do it for everyone i talk to. My mum would be like: Hey, can you get me some cough drops and then she doesn’t hear anything so she says it again and partway through the sentence im like “WHERE ARE THE COUGH DROPS?” and then my mum gets pissed off at me. Everyone always gets mad when i do it :((((((
My go-to when asking clarification is just to ask them to "start again"
My go-to when clarifying is to very clearly restate the main word "the chips" and then say the sentence again "do we have any chips"
My mom used to be so upset at me when I was little and would miss people saying ‘hi’ to me, etc. It’d look so rude! 😭 Now I live on high alert just in case and listen to *everything* around me.
I will VERY VERY rarely have this but one thing I have all the time is when I'm speaking to someone and then catch myself silently repeating what I said to make sure I didn't make a mistake 😂
My wife and I both deal with APD. A good chunk of our conversations go exactly like the one in this video lol
This is literally the reason I stopped repeating myself when my husband asks me what I just said. Nine times out of ten he will answer my question within 2 seconds.
Yeah, probably has a minor version of this like me. Sometimes when someone speaks to me I hear it but it's like I don't understand the words, like they said gibberish and then after a delay of a 2-3 seconds I suddenly know what they asked. It's weird xD
@@ChesterZirawin I feel that, it's like IRL lag.
Smart. I tend to answer questions like a split second after asking "What?"
I have APD and that’s honestly so nice of you. It takes us about 2 seconds to process what people say and then half a second to respond. People repeating themselves just makes it more difficult
Auditory processing disorder isn’t like just a delay. It’s when a part of your brain doesn’t work correctly, so it can’t comprehend what is being said to you. It takes someone who has ADP longer to answer not because they pause and then answer, but because they need time to figure out what was being said. A lot of time they use “sounds like ____, but couldn’t have been, so it must have been _____ instead”
I hate how accurate this is. good job
This sounds like me 😳 I miss hear things all the time I just thought I had bad hearing and my ADHD brain was trying to fill in the gaps XD
Same and then I seen this 😭🥲 I always assumed it was adhd or the fact that maybe my hearing is a little trash because I live a bass boosted track 😭
What this girl is experiencing can be caused by a lot of things including ADHD! If you’re already diagnosed with ADHD then that’s probably it, but you should definitely see your doctor if it’s happening often or it’s getting worse. This can be a symptom of silent migraines or seizures, or even brain tumors. please be safe ❤️
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@@lovleyloner1487 It probably is, different disorders can have symptoms in common 👍
About half of people with ADHD also have auditory processing problems
I just started crying seeing this since I had no idea I had this. We always assumed I had bad hearing due to some surgeries as a kid on my ears. Although hearing tests always said I was fine. People just assume I'm not listening to them or pretend to not listen. I have these things constantly throughout the day and it's exhausting trying to hyperfocus so I can properly understand someone. I have never heard of this.
It can be a scary realization. I hope you are able to take it with stride, and are able to overcome the initial struggles. Stay strong ❤️ you’ve got this!
Sometimes it can be caused because of ADHD or some other neurological problem so if you think you have it, it's probably good to go check with a specialist to get tested for this specifically.
i have a similar thing due to my hearing loss. sometimes i can kinda make out words and my brain tries to "fill in the blanks" which leads me to "hearing" something completely different than what was actually said.
i definitely understand this. i haven't been officially diagnosed but i deal with this everyday, especially thinking someone said something they didn't because it sounded phonetically similar
Bro this is my life pretty much all the time. When I was a kid I even went to go get my hearing checked because I thought it was an auditory issue. Then me and my parents found out what I really had was a processing disorder. For anyone else who struggles with this, you’re not alone. It’s so hard sometimes. Sometimes I really need subtitles, and I hate asking friends to put on subtitles for me. And in the past if I kept asking friends to repeat themselves so I could understand what they said they eventually gave up and just said “ugh. Never mind!!!” It just makes me feel even more frustrated with myself.
Dude holy shit I hate the "Ugh, nevermind" response
@@salemcrow5078 fr! Like, my mom could say something out of context from a show/laughing at show, and I'd be confused, then I'd ask her to explain. It felt like my brain just zoned out when she was saying the thing, so I ask her to say it again, then she gets frustrated with me and says something like "YoU sHoUlD hAvE bEeN wAtChInG tHe ShOw." I'm sorry MOTHER I have other things to do and I would like to know what has caught your interest so that I can use it later. So then I get mad and embarrassed and go do what I was doing. (I can't even stomp away or slam doors bc then my dad would hear, ask my mom what happened, mom would play the role of Poor Pitiful Mother, and then he'd go find me and whoop my a$$ without actually asking what had happened.) But then like a few minutes after she said the thing to me, in the middle of doing something, it'd click and I'll just start giggling. Then they give me weird looks like * I'm * the crazy one. And then she wonders why I'm scared to say things to her.
Man, this has created so many relationship issues, even though they know I have brain troubles. I know it's annoying and aggravating for the other person, but their not the only ones, I gotta deal with this brain. Stupid pink jello ass football causing me problems.
@@Game-Over-U-Tube "stupid pink jello ass football" lmfao! I'm stealing this quote now, ty
I hate when I'm walking somewhere noisy with my friends and they're talking and laughing about something and I get completely left out because I can't understand a single word they are saying.
I thought this was completely normal I've had this my whole life thank you for bringing it to my attention
Yeah same, I always got yelled at asking people to repeat things like 6 times and assumed it was normal
It happens to everyone
I hear what people say then play it back in my head to understand
Omg that first part is so me I felt that like a physical blow lmao thank you for raising awareness of it
Omg wow right so true and omg we're so quirky, weird how so many people have auditory disorders now all of a sudden because theyre too busy on their phones during the convo etc
@@ThomasSawyers It's almost like being aware of something existence makes it easier to get diagnosed and how to get help for it???
@@lilblkrose oh wow so true, or it's almost as if you're romanticizing mental disorders, but nah nah I'm sure you totally have the thing that a very small percentage has, "so relatable omg, that's me too XD, guys guys look I'm interesting now" no you aren't:)
@@ThomasSawyers Weird how you're second guessing a random person on the internet who you have no idea about. Like how I can be making breakfast and not hear what my grandmother just said to me three seconds ago but ohhh I must be on a screen instead of just staring at the toaster!
WAIT. Why do I feel emotional? To be honest I've always felt stupid when situations like this happen to me. This makes me feel better to know this exists 🥺❤️
You are not alone, my dear. You are not stupid. In facr, you're probably more in tune than most. But people don't understand that hyper-attuned people have higher systems of filtration, and it's hard to sort out the valuable from the trash when there's so much noise.
omg same- i have to ask about 3-4 times what they said
@@richardlepreux8489wow you explained that really well thanks
@@bunnym5617 I'm very glad that helped. 😀
I think i do this to do like a quick pause were i can process what was just said without lokking weird and not responding quickly like "normal" people would
My mom always referred to it as “selective hearing” but I’m like no I actually took a second to realize what you were saying
It's not selective if I can't select it! My mum is the same. We've started saying that it's Dyslexic Hearing. Sometimes the words just get jumbled up 🤷
I didn't know this disorder existed but that's why I'm always patient with people because you never know how someone's hearing is or what they're dealing with.
Man I don’t even end up understanding a different but wrong sentence, it’s like I lose my ability to understand any language. It’s like hearing a foreign language when you know for a fact the person just spoke in your native one
Wait i do this so often. Like my mind cant process that someone is actually talking to me, but then when they say something and i ask them to repeat it, during the first word i understand the whole sentence
THIS IS ME!!! 🤣🤣🤣 I KNOW they didn't say, "The elephant is sucking an egg." So I ask again BUT I always tell my husband what I heard becasue it's usually funny. 🤣 but it's a daily issue
I'm like this with my lil sisters, I tell them everything I think they do and and then we all bust a guy laughing, but we believe my hearing/processing issues have something to do with ADHD or me just zoning out and not listening to parts of the conversation. lol. Because I don't.
Yeah I often tell people what I hear because it's usually funny but anytime I do it to my little brother just looks at me and it's like "maybe you should go see a hearing doctor" like bro I did.
@@mickeywhite2563 I have APD and ADHD so it just is a combination of both it definitely makes somethings really funny.
I thought my hearing was just bad... But this makes so much more sense
I recommend searching up other symptoms of APD
And if you are pretty sure you have it then consider going to a person that specialises in it
They might have ways to make life a little easier for you!
I think I have this because I’ll magically understand a question someone said to me like 10 seconds ago
the second part (where she completely mishears it) always happens to me and my friends get so annoyed with me bc of it
This is great to hear about different processing challenges...thanks
"WELCOME TOOOOO YOU HAVE NOW DISCOVERED SOMETHING ABOUT YOURSELF THAT MAYBE A MENATL DISORDER" *jazz hands*
It's the maladaptive daydreaming meltdown all over again :')
I love that you're talking about a play in this though 😍