Excellent! I dread attending funerals where every deceased seems to be immediately canonized. Never a word of encouragement to continue praying for their immortal soul or encouragement to have Masses offered in case they are in Purgatory. So sad for the deceased! My Jesus mercy on the poor neglected souls.
I hate the inclusion of hobby memorabilia around the coffin; football jerseys, car logos, guitars, whatever. Fine in their place but eternity is a long time to watch GAA.
Larry, Have a think about the implications of what you believe the transfiguration to be. Elijah and Moses appeared in physical form. So they were not conscious, disembodied, immortal souls. And do you not read where Jesus called this a VISION? The transfiguration is recorded for us in Matthew 17:1-13, Mark 9:2-13 and Luke 9:28-36. The preserved accounts tell us that Jesus took three of His disciples high on top of a mountain, where they saw Him "transfigured before them. His face shone like the sun, and His clothes became as white as the light" (Matthew 17:2). He then appeared to be having a conversation with Moses and Elijah. Luke records that they "appeared in glory and spoke of His decease which He was about to accomplish at Jerusalem" (Luke 9:31). Jesus told Peter, James and John to "tell the VISION to no one until the Son of Man is risen from the dead" (Matthew 17:9, emphasis added). So the disciples saw a vision of the future, not something that was actually happening in their time. We can also see this in the phrase "appeared in glory." The apostle Paul writes that at death a Christian's body is "sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory" (1 Corinthians 15:43). When Christ's followers are resurrected at Christ's return to earth, they will be "raised in glory." However, Christ's resurrection to His glorified form made Him the "firstborn from the dead" (Revelation 1:5). Since Christ is first, it is impossible that Moses and Elijah were resurrected to glory before Christ. This helps show that the transfiguration was only a vision of things to come. In a similar fashion to the book of Revelation, where the apostle John was given a vision of end-time events as if they were happening around him, the transfiguration gave Peter, James and John a partial vision of the Kingdom of God as if it were truly there. Christ had promised this vision six to eight days prior in Luke 9:27, where He told a crowd (which included Peter, James and John) that "there are some standing here who shall not taste death till they see the kingdom of God" (see also Matthew 16:28 and Mark 9:1). The Kingdom of God is not yet here, but everyone in that 2,000-year-old crowd has "tasted death." Christ's statement was fulfilled when three of His apostles witnessed the transfiguration on the mount, a vision of that same Kingdom.
@@willpeony5534I was at a funeral where they brought up a copy of his favourite sport's mag, a football jersey and ball, other paraphernalia I can't remember, but the crowning moment was when they brought up his favourite biscuits!
@crowbar9566 I've seen them where the grieved euligizer or -izers took turns bawling into microphone with varying degrees of I'll miss you X & I'll never get over loss of X to Gd if you exist how could you do this to me and X. Others eulegising suicide victims & the better place. It's a very sticky thing to deal with the berieved, in their grief they are likely forgiven but having a complete lack of sensure leads more & more to scandalous goings on & things being said from the Ambo in the Sacred space of our Churches, appearantly with the Priests approval.
I couldn't agree more with everything you say. People don't know what a funeral Mass is for because they have abandoned religious practice. I have told my family that I don't want them spouting nonsense about me on the altar at my funeral. I want them to pray for my soul
AMEN! I cringe when I think of my family members, fallen from the Holy Faith, entering clumsily, irreverent, awkwardly & pridefully, the holy sanctuary to draw all eyes away from Our Lord & draw attention to the details of my past life that'll give them the most amusement, while they should, instead, be imploring the Almighty from their pews to have mercy on my eternal soul. It's quite disturbing to consider, and a real probability.
I no longer attend funerals for this very reason. I instead pray for the deceased privately. I have instructed my family that when my time comes they will have a Latin Rite Reqrime Mass for me. I attended one last year and it was beautiful, the church was full to capacity and the priest told the congregation that only those who were in a state of grace should approach for Holy Communion and they were to kneel and receive on the tongue, about 1/3 Of the people received Holy Communion. Bless us O Lord
Let me say, shhh, very quietly, I was at a funeral recently and after the first half of the requiem Mass the priest, by earlier agreement, turned to the other side of the altar and said the rest in Latin. It's what the deceased would have wanted, and I'm sure she cracked a smile at how it was snuck in.
I warned my Executors that there is to be no eulogy at my funeral. There was none at my parents' funerals. Absolutely no silly things on my coffin either. Just a Holy Mass for my soul.
I’m a 76 year old woman living in the wilds of Canada. I grew up in a small Canadian town that, when I look back on it now, was a little Irish, Catholic enclave. It was wonderful. So as a young girl I was in the church choir and sang the Latin mass, and often enough sang the Requiem mass in Latin as well. Things have changed so much…..now we have a “memorial” for someone, 3 months after their death! And it’s really a party celebrating their life! Thankfully, I now have the most beautiful Nigerian priest in my little mission parish. He’s young, but traditional and I thank God for bringing me full circle, through all the antics of our church and our society to the real thing, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
We also have an African priest and he is very devout. When I was a child at school we were encouraged to donate our pennies to feed the black babies in Africa because some day they may be our priests. This is what we see today and these priests are strong and vocal in the faith. God Bless them and may they spread the fevor of the faith to all.
Oh my Jesus forgive us our sins, Save us from the fires of hell, lead all souls into heaven, especially those most in need of Your Mercy. Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in the hour of conflict, be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God restrain him we humbly pray; and thou, O Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God, thrust Satan down into hell and with him all evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls. Amen.
Fr thank you, I've said for about 5 years now that I want no eulogy when my time comes to die, I want a simple holy mass with old hymns like soul of my saviour and abide with me...want no bells and whistles and despite liking lipstick want no lipstick put on my coffin or anything of this world or photo of me a bible on my coffin I wouldn't mind or a rosary beads but that's it nothing else .I hope and pray that My wishes are carried out 🙏.
You brought a smile on my face when you said " much as I like lipstick, not on or in my coffin" I'm 79 now and I love lipstick. Been wearing it since I was 15. Agree with all of you comment. God bless.🙏
Great insight. We have lost the beauty of the Rosary Funeral Vigil/Wake when all the these things should happen, No Eulogy during the Requiem Mass. Bless you Father. Hit the nail on the head about the music.
Fr now I see that a eulogy does not belong at a Catholic funneral. Makes me sorry we had one at my son's mass when he passed away at 33 years old. Thank You
I've instructed my children in this matter. The Church has allowed this deterioration into modernist funeral masses to happen, now it seems we are to blame for it. We have to remove these errors bit by bit to get back to how it should be. Most families dread giving the speeches I'd imagine, as it is a very fraught time which usually ends in sobbing at the Alter. Secular music is cringy, compared to the healing balm of Sacred Music. The Diocese needs to issue a letter about the Funeral Rite and shake off whats creped into the funeral mass. Once thats made clear I think there shouldnt be any issues; The proper funeral mass with sacred music and confessions available for those who wish to receive The Body of Christ.
What a great video! Preach it Fr. Brendan! I have had people at funeral Masses argue with me because I would not allow a eulogy. The Mass has become a place where people have a platform to talk about the deceased and not worship God. We need to revisit the Church's liturgy and center it back on Christ. I've had absurd requests too- "My father was a Star Wars fan can we put a doll of Yoda on the altar with you?" People talking during and after communion, chewing gum in church, people bringing balloons in, couples cuddling and kissing, children snacking and on their tablets-it's all a tragedy.
Another dilemma with funeral Masses here in Australia is the people who come to communion. 99% of them are in mortal sin and haven’t been to confession, and only 33% of them are actually Catholic. The priest has no idea who is Catholic or not and inevitably gives the blessed Eucharist to heretics, non practicing Catholics etc.
That’s on the person and they will face the judgement for taking it when they weren’t allowed. The Priest has to trust people are being honest. The Priest has done everything he can if he says before to only receive if you are in a state of grace and that it is ok to not receive if you aren’t and not to feel pressure to come up when you aren’t prepared for it. What else is he meant to do? Ask people to take certificates to show they are Catholic and had their first communion and a letter from a Priest showing when they last went to Confession?!
This couldn’t have come at a more glorious time. I fought hard, tooth and nail with many prayers to have a fully reverent and Traditional Latin Mass for my father last year. We succeeded and our family was so blessed by having accomplished this despite the infighting from certain family members. I can’t thank you enough for this excellent talk of yours. I am considering passing this on to my family members in hopes that they will understand what I was fighting for and what I was fighting against and why. Thank you, thank you, thank you🙏🏻.
@@beefstew4698 The funeral Requiem Mass was done at the parish that was in the area where my father spent his last years in a place of full assisted care that helped us with his care. There was a Traditional Latin Mass of the Fraternity of Saint Peters church fortunately near by that was very accommodating and very pleased to help us out. We were blessed indeed. Be prepared to fight for it though if you really want it and see the necessity of it which Father Brendan explained so well. We are of Irish lineage. Father Brendan’s style of speaking really resonated with me and hopefully it will also with the rest of my family if I decide to share this video with them,
They might as well have gotten drunk and had a fight in the grave yard! As a deacon, I never eulogize the deceased but tell the congregation that our hope is to live eternally in the presence of God in his love. That they need to pray for the deceased purification to be free of worldly attachments so they can fully accept the love of God and love in return.
I cringe every time I attend Mass! I cringe at any and every contact with the modern Church. The whole thing has become a purgatory, with no solace or consolation whatsoever.
Absolutely agree with you Father. I am glad I have a church in my city with TLM and I have attended a few funeral masses of my fellow parishioners. The Requiem Mass is beautiful, with chanting, most of all, it is reverent. I have prepare a binder for my children to Follow my instructions, for my funeral. I pray that when that time for me comes. The TLM will still be allow and practice. Praise be to God !
Well said Fr Brendan, that was a very passionate and courageous talk, you are so correct about these eulogies, it takes from the sacredness and mystery of the liturgy. Tadhg.
In addition to what the father spoke to, here in the U.S., especially since COVID, many non-Catholics have started to forgo a funeral altogether, and instead have a "Celebration of Life" weeks or months later.
Thankyou Father, sadly as a child of the 80s i had no idea that the giving of the eulogy is modernist fluff. But now you've mentioned it my eyes are open, of course it is! I always thought the use of secular music at mass was in poor taste. And i hate hearing My Way by Frank Sinatra at funerals. Really? My Way? As a visiting african priest once said at mass "My Way" is the song sinners sing on the way to Hell.
My nearly 89 yr old Irish mother has expressly stated for years that there is to be no eulogising at her requium mass and if I'm still alive her wishes will be respected. She forbade them at my late brothers funeral mass last summer also. The post Mass reception is the proper place for all of the old songs and stories, the chapel is the place for worship and prayer. Sine.
It’s approved thank God… as caskets are so expensive. Though, the cremains are to be treated respectfully and given proper burial …no distributing to family members or turning into diamonds or splaying them over the Grand Canyon, etc…..
So basically we need to return to tradition. “In those times, the sacrament of Extreme Unction will be largely ignored.… Many will die without receiving it, being thereby deprived of innumerable graces, consolation, and strength in the great leap from time to eternity. - our lady of good success
Thank you Father, I am often also frustrated often with the "celebration of life ceremonies" that convey a severe lack of reverence for the dead and no prayer. What are the steps in restoring not only Catholic funerals, but the Mass as well in parishes? There has been so much compromise that many catholic liturgies have been historically watered down over time.
Good video and very true funerals now are very secular and non Christian they should be holy and solemn with reverence to the dead Funerals like the faith have been diluted and watered down . More modernism in the church , they are becoming tacky and circus like . Bring back reverence in the church , respect for the dead And boot out secularism , All Glory to God Pray for the souls of the dead and comfort for the families .
You are absolutely correct, Fr. Brandon. Priests and bishops should lead, not capitulate to the way of the misguided. The current culture has made all about the sinners rather than about God. Lord have mercy on our sinfulness.
As of late, I've become familiar with and in love with the tlm, I've also recently come to realize that eulogies are entirely inappropriate at Mass. Thank you Fr Brendan
Thank you, thank you, thank you! I was devastated at the funeral of my nephew who killed himself. No one was praying for his soul & they called it a celebration of life. 😭😥 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Lord have mercy on your dear nephew's Soul. So sorry for your loss. Your nephew is blessed to have you praying for him probably for as long as you live. Keep offering his soul to God , in Union with the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass being offered throughout the whole World. Be at peace. "Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit"🙏
Thank you, Father, for stepping up and speaking truth without fear of rejection. Your duty is NOT to codify God’s children into complacency. My husband & I have long been concerned by such terms as “they are at peace now”, or “he (or she) is in a better place”, or they “are no longer in pain.” Why have we embraced the Protestants philosophy of going straight to Heaven??? Have we forgotten that we are CATHOLICS? ….and what that means? God help us!
God bless you Father as always- A very honest/ brave talk, real danger in the church that in attempting to embrace those on 'the periphery', the church is confusing/ even weakening those who try their best within. Funerals are just one example. I think you are so right also about the dangers of the church just being another public space. I like also your points about the powerful culture, without being hard on 'them', media play an enormous role here- as someone who lived life in that culture for a long time, it is almost akin to an addiction. I wish you well in your ongoing work.
I pray to God that when its my time i hope who ever is there will pray rosary for me at my furneral instead of eulogy i would never have the audacity to even consider myself an important person we are all sinners and need all the prayers we can get especially durning time of Judgement . Yes it would be a great Blessing if our priests suggested rosaries and psalm and cancel the pub talk .God Bless Amen
The priest at my Latin Rite parish always says in his sermons during a Requiem Mass: "The Mass is for the deceased, the sermon is for the living." He then proceeds to talk about the four last things. Also, there is something to be said for having a cemetery just outside a church. It is real food for thought as one walks past the headstones on their way to worship. I believe that was the reason for the placement of those graves.
I never thought about that, but totally agree! Now, more often than not, the deceased are interred far from the Church building, where less thought, devotion & prayer might be offered for them.
When my father died, my sister gave a eulogy. We all contributed ideas for it, and I read over it the night before, and reassured her that it was very nice. But when it was given, it felt so out of place, and unnecessary because most of the attendees were close family members. When our mom passes, she wants a Latin Mass. I’ll do everything I can to make sure she gets it (and no eulogy).
Framed by those, like us, having human frailties eulogies at requiem mass can cause pain too. At the funeral mass of someone I knew, a legally divorced man whose only children were those he had with his estranged wife, many persons who played parts in his too short life were referred to and remembered. But not the very person with whom the dead man had entered into holy matrimony & who had given him his children.
Yeah! Specially in these crazy times we are living. People don’t go to confession and relatives believe that being “nice” is enough…incredible how people avoid reality and Truth…
And the poor souls are deprived of the prayers that could be said to shorten their time in purgatory. God forgive us! It’s said that the pains of purgatory are worse than the cruelest tortures on earth.
It is up to you ,our priests ,to specify what is and is not allowed at funeral Masses , Ye can not everyone knows what is and what is not appropriate, as for confessions ,it is difficult to go to confessions ,when the confessional in the Church is locked and used for storage. It is not right to expect a person to sit beside a priest in full view of all ,and confess ,Priests should consider older people ,who may have hearing difficulty, and would like a little privacy,as was afforded to people in the past. I keep you and all our priests in my prayers. ,A sinner ,
Yes yes yes “We have to look at it again” I would love to hear what a faith-filled funeral mass sounds like. Novenas culminating in reverent prayer and hope.
My moment of awakening was when I was reading a novel about a court case where the lawyer said "Even bad men deserve justice, maybe those most of all". I just applied that thought to last things.
Eulogies are Protestant . Symbols are Pagan . Priests need to make contact with their local humanist minster and start referring families on to him/her if its a service they require rather than a requiem mass .
Very well said Father. I wholeheartedly agree with you about eulogies at funeral Mass. Part of the issue I think is the lack of reverence for the sacrament and disbelief/doubt about the eternity of each and every soul. No one who has died, is dead. They are somewhere and in all probability most souls need prayer starting at the funeral Mass and continuing in our prayer life afterward
This is saddening but so true. I was just at a requiem Mass on Thursday now the Priest certainly kept it about praying for their soul but sadly the family have left the faith so it was a secular eulogy and secular music by fiddle and accordion that played with a couple modern hymns in between. As little children when we first lost family dad told us we don’t know if they are in heaven and they could be in purgatory so you pray and never stop praying till the day you die. Mum didn’t like us being told that so young because we cried but it sure stuck with us and we’ve never assumed anyone has gone straight to heaven. It’s alway puzzled me as a child when non believers around me would say ‘oh granny is watching from heaven’ etc my child mind couldn’t understand how you couldn’t believe in God but you believe in heaven…
I have attended more funerals where the eulogy is like a resume for a job application. The person reads off all the things the deceased person did and all the clubs they belonged to. Most have no mention of the deceased spiritual life... their example of faith that they showed to all who met him/her. At my mother's funeral, we shared a memory that expressed her deep faith and another that showed an example of the love she had for my dad and how it affected our lives. Many people, including very conservative priest thought that it was beautiful eulogy. If there is nothing you can say about your deceased loved one's faith during the Funeral Mss, you can tell the stories at the lunch after the burial.
@immaculataproductions Could you do an updated version of this video in light of what we saw at Shane McGowan's funeral (God rest his soul). It was more a concert gig than a funeral, and an example of the trend of symbols being raised on altar, no matter how inappropriate/offensive (eg Buddha and rock albums)
Thank you so much father for this talk. I really needed to hear this Gods honest truth of where we are. Its just getting more like a theater here in Nederland. Sorry to say.
In America, you see now, of course, among the protestants/fundamentalists, “A Celebration of Life,” for their deceased. I tell my (grown) children this seems a pagan practice, this video confirms my thoughts!! May the souls of the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen.
I told my family and relatives with this stupid modern mentality that when I die they should think as less as possible. Just send me to a Mass funeral and then to the cemetery. Forget about something else because any “idea” from anyone to “ honor” me will be more stupid and nonsense than the previous one. Just don’t think, do it as I said.
Thank you Father, I live in the UK and am fortunate to live 30 minutes away from an FSSP church (Shrine) which I attend daily. It now fills me with horror when I have to attend a NO Mass for the purpose of attending a funeral, wedding, Christening etc. I don’t believe that anyone can fully appreciate the extent to which the post VII church has proceeded to ape Protestantism Over the 60+ since, until they have separated from it. Sorry if this offends, but the truth must be spoken. I know you may disagree with me Father, but even so, I have taken great heart in what you have spoken today as it gives me renewed hope for the future of our true Church and what It actually is - The Mystical Body of Our Lord Jesus Christ
Thank you Father we need to hear these sacred truths. God must be so disappointed when he sees what goes on in his Catholic Church today. The Sacraments have been so badly abused. We need to get back to the Sacred. God bless you Father for speaking out.
A few years ago I witnessed the funeral of a gangster. The behaviour and items on display foral.displays in the shape of guns etc, many were hungover or high on drugs and many actually brought disposable coffee cups into the service if not actual pints, an extreme version of what you mentioned here father but clear evidence of how far things have fallen. Iit would be hard to see the person being buried that day as being the favourite of all those being buried on the planet as being in heaven given the life he led but that didn't seem to stop people referring to him being "up there" and "you're flying with the angles buddy" and that they'd "meet again "🙄 amazing faith given the circumstances 🤔
I have no time for eulogies I find it so difficult to tolerate at funeral Masses.. Pray for the deceased. I couldn't agree with you more Fr. Brendan . Once one family does it others seem to follow I heard one woman recently at her father's funeral thank his neighbours and said there was no need to talk about him they knew him.
Thank you Fr. Brendan for your example of fortitude. My own brother is a parish priest and has these "discussions" with parishioners all the time. He tries to explain the funeral rite and the necessary liturgical elements and how they beautifully express the faith. People don't get it, or even try too. But hold fast Fr. Brendan because what you have expressed is true!
Let's also bring back praying for the Poor Souls in Purgatory.
So very true Fr 💯
Excellent! I dread attending funerals where every deceased seems to be immediately canonized. Never a word of encouragement to continue praying for their immortal soul or encouragement to have Masses offered in case they are in Purgatory. So sad for the deceased! My Jesus mercy on the poor neglected souls.
I hate the inclusion of hobby memorabilia around the coffin; football jerseys, car logos, guitars, whatever. Fine in their place but eternity is a long time to watch GAA.
The immortal soul is not taught in scripture
@@geordiewishart1683 Elijah and Moses appear at the Transfiguration even though many years deceased.
Larry,
Have a think about the implications of what you believe the transfiguration to be.
Elijah and Moses appeared in physical form.
So they were not conscious, disembodied, immortal souls.
And do you not read where Jesus called this a VISION?
The transfiguration is recorded for us in Matthew 17:1-13, Mark 9:2-13 and Luke 9:28-36.
The preserved accounts tell us that Jesus took three of His disciples high on top of a mountain, where they saw Him "transfigured before them.
His face shone like the sun, and His clothes became as white as the light" (Matthew 17:2).
He then appeared to be having a conversation with Moses and Elijah. Luke records that they "appeared in glory and spoke of His decease which He was about to accomplish at Jerusalem" (Luke 9:31).
Jesus told Peter, James and John to "tell the VISION to no one until the Son of Man is risen from the dead" (Matthew 17:9, emphasis added).
So the disciples saw a vision of the future, not something that was actually happening in their time.
We can also see this in the phrase "appeared in glory." The apostle Paul writes that at death a Christian's body is "sown in dishonor, it is raised in glory" (1 Corinthians 15:43). When Christ's followers are resurrected at Christ's return to earth, they will be "raised in glory." However, Christ's resurrection to His glorified form made Him the "firstborn from the dead" (Revelation 1:5). Since Christ is first, it is impossible that Moses and Elijah were resurrected to glory before Christ. This helps show that the transfiguration was only a vision of things to come.
In a similar fashion to the book of Revelation, where the apostle John was given a vision of end-time events as if they were happening around him, the transfiguration gave Peter, James and John a partial vision of the Kingdom of God as if it were truly there.
Christ had promised this vision six to eight days prior in Luke 9:27, where He told a crowd (which included Peter, James and John) that "there are some standing here who shall not taste death till they see the kingdom of God" (see also Matthew 16:28 and Mark 9:1). The Kingdom of God is not yet here, but everyone in that 2,000-year-old crowd has "tasted death." Christ's statement was fulfilled when three of His apostles witnessed the transfiguration on the mount, a vision of that same Kingdom.
@@willpeony5534I was at a funeral where they brought up a copy of his favourite sport's mag, a football jersey and ball, other paraphernalia I can't remember, but the crowning moment was when they brought up his favourite biscuits!
YES!! Finally a priest talks about this.
Totally agree with everything you say. Bring back reverence to Catholic funerals.
A eulogy is not irreverant.
@crowbar9566 I've seen them where the grieved euligizer or -izers took turns bawling into microphone with varying degrees of I'll miss you X & I'll never get over loss of X to Gd if you exist how could you do this to me and X.
Others eulegising suicide victims & the better place.
It's a very sticky thing to deal with the berieved, in their grief they are likely forgiven but having a complete lack of sensure leads more & more to scandalous goings on & things being said from the Ambo in the Sacred space of our Churches, appearantly with the Priests approval.
At last a dose of reality at last.
Amen
I couldn't agree more with everything you say. People don't know what a funeral Mass is for because they have abandoned religious practice. I have told my family that I don't want them spouting nonsense about me on the altar at my funeral. I want them to pray for my soul
AMEN! I cringe when I think of my family members, fallen from the Holy Faith, entering clumsily, irreverent, awkwardly & pridefully, the holy sanctuary to draw all eyes away from Our Lord & draw attention to the details of my past life that'll give them the most amusement, while they should, instead, be imploring the Almighty from their pews to have mercy on my eternal soul.
It's quite disturbing to consider, and a real probability.
I no longer attend funerals for this very reason. I instead pray for the deceased privately. I have instructed my family that when my time comes they will have a Latin Rite Reqrime Mass for me. I attended one last year and it was beautiful, the church was full to capacity and the priest told the congregation that only those who were in a state of grace should approach for Holy Communion and they were to kneel and receive on the tongue, about 1/3 Of the people received Holy Communion. Bless us O Lord
great priest. see the difference. people were told and they reflected and obeyed
I appreciate what you are saying! Long time since I’ve heard a priest speak of four last things
Let me say, shhh, very quietly, I was at a funeral recently and after the first half of the requiem Mass the priest, by earlier agreement, turned to the other side of the altar and said the rest in Latin. It's what the deceased would have wanted, and I'm sure she cracked a smile at how it was snuck in.
I warned my Executors that there is to be no eulogy at my funeral. There was none at my parents' funerals. Absolutely no silly things on my coffin either. Just a Holy Mass for my soul.
I’m a 76 year old woman living in the wilds of Canada. I grew up in a small Canadian town that, when I look back on it now, was a little Irish, Catholic enclave. It was wonderful. So as a young girl I was in the church choir and sang the Latin mass, and often enough sang the Requiem mass in Latin as well.
Things have changed so much…..now we have a “memorial” for someone, 3 months after their death! And it’s really a party celebrating their life!
Thankfully, I now have the most beautiful Nigerian priest in my little mission parish. He’s young, but traditional and I thank God for bringing me full circle, through all the antics of our church and our society to the real thing, our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ.
We also have an African priest and he is very devout. When I was a child at school we were encouraged to donate our pennies to feed the black babies in Africa because some day they may be our priests. This is what we see today and these priests are strong and vocal in the faith. God Bless them and may they spread the fevor of the faith to all.
@@alicelynch6018 don't worry when the Africans become better educated these deluded brainwashed fools will disappear
Brilliant! You're so right Father!
Excellent talk. Fr Brendan is doing the undone job of the many silent bishops.
Oh if only this was said at world youth day!
Spot on Father! The eulogy is never about God or indeed the deceased but always about the person giving the eulogy
There’s no such thing as a eulogy to begin with
Oh my Jesus forgive us our sins,
Save us from the fires of hell, lead all souls into heaven, especially those most in need of Your Mercy.
Saint Michael the Archangel, defend us in the hour of conflict, be our safeguard against the wickedness and snares of the devil. May God restrain him we humbly pray; and thou, O Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God, thrust Satan down into hell and with him all evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls. Amen.
Fr thank you, I've said for about 5 years now that I want no eulogy when my time comes to die, I want a simple holy mass with old hymns like soul of my saviour and abide with me...want no bells and whistles and despite liking lipstick want no lipstick put on my coffin or anything of this world or photo of me a bible on my coffin I wouldn't mind or a rosary beads but that's it nothing else .I hope and pray that My wishes are carried out 🙏.
You brought a smile on my face when you said " much as I like lipstick, not on or in my coffin" I'm 79 now and I love lipstick. Been wearing it since I was 15.
Agree with all of you comment. God bless.🙏
Great insight. We have lost the beauty of the Rosary Funeral Vigil/Wake when all the these things should happen, No Eulogy during the Requiem Mass. Bless you Father. Hit the nail on the head about the music.
Nailed it, father! This could never be overstated .👍😎
Fr now I see that a eulogy does not belong at a Catholic funneral. Makes me sorry we had one at my son's mass when he passed away at 33 years old. Thank You
We need a true restoration
I've instructed my children in this matter. The Church has allowed this deterioration into modernist funeral masses to happen, now it seems we are to blame for it. We have to remove these errors bit by bit to get back to how it should be. Most families dread giving the speeches I'd imagine, as it is a very fraught time which usually ends in sobbing at the Alter. Secular music is cringy, compared to the healing balm of Sacred Music. The Diocese needs to issue a letter about the Funeral Rite and shake off whats creped into the funeral mass. Once thats made clear I think there shouldnt be any issues; The proper funeral mass with sacred music and confessions available for those who wish to receive The Body of Christ.
Sorry but dont agree. Nothing wrong with a wonderful Requim Mass and at the conclusion talk about Gods loyal servant for a few minutes.
What a great video! Preach it Fr. Brendan! I have had people at funeral Masses argue with me because I would not allow a eulogy. The Mass has become a place where people have a platform to talk about the deceased and not worship God. We need to revisit the Church's liturgy and center it back on Christ. I've had absurd requests too- "My father was a Star Wars fan can we put a doll of Yoda on the altar with you?" People talking during and after communion, chewing gum in church, people bringing balloons in, couples cuddling and kissing, children snacking and on their tablets-it's all a tragedy.
Excellent, I agree with you 100 percent.
Yes bring back all the Traditional Rites!!!
Bring back the Day of Wrath chant in the Requiem Mass, black vestments and candles.
Another dilemma with funeral Masses here in Australia is the people who come to communion. 99% of them are in mortal sin and haven’t been to confession, and only 33% of them are actually Catholic. The priest has no idea who is Catholic or not and inevitably gives the blessed Eucharist to heretics, non practicing Catholics etc.
That’s on the person and they will face the judgement for taking it when they weren’t allowed.
The Priest has to trust people are being honest.
The Priest has done everything he can if he says before to only receive if you are in a state of grace and that it is ok to not receive if you aren’t and not to feel pressure to come up when you aren’t prepared for it.
What else is he meant to do? Ask people to take certificates to show they are Catholic and had their first communion and a letter from a Priest showing when they last went to Confession?!
This couldn’t have come at a more glorious time. I fought hard, tooth and nail with many prayers to have a fully reverent and Traditional Latin Mass for my father last year. We succeeded and our family was so blessed by having accomplished this despite the infighting from certain family members. I can’t thank you enough for this excellent talk of yours. I am considering passing this on to my family members in hopes that they will understand what I was fighting for and what I was fighting against and why. Thank you, thank you, thank you🙏🏻.
Was this done at your father’s home parish?
@@beefstew4698 The funeral Requiem Mass was done at the parish that was in the area where my father spent his last years in a place of full assisted care that helped us with his care. There was a Traditional Latin Mass of the Fraternity of Saint Peters church fortunately near by that was very accommodating and very pleased to help us out. We were blessed indeed. Be prepared to fight for it though if you really want it and see the necessity of it which Father Brendan explained so well. We are of Irish lineage. Father Brendan’s style of speaking really resonated with me and hopefully it will also with the rest of my family if I decide to share this video with them,
@@anastasiajuneau9921 thank you for your wonderful post….I am also of Irish descent …God bless 🙏😎
Mary Irene
God bless you, and may your dear father Rest In Peace....Lord have have mercy....Amen..
They might as well have gotten drunk and had a fight in the grave yard! As a deacon, I never eulogize the deceased but tell the congregation that our hope is to live eternally in the presence of God in his love. That they need to pray for the deceased purification to be free of worldly attachments so they can fully accept the love of God and love in return.
Oooh I so agree with this....
I cringe every time I attend a funeral Mass as must times it is as you describe. Thank you Father for speaking out.
I cringe every time I attend Mass! I cringe at any and every contact with the modern Church. The whole thing has become a purgatory, with no solace or consolation whatsoever.
Another great priest to listen to is Father Mark Beard. God have mercy on his soul 🙏🏻
Well said father, Agree 100percent.
Absolutely agree with you Father. I am glad I have a church in my city with TLM and I have attended a few funeral masses of my fellow parishioners. The Requiem Mass is beautiful, with chanting, most of all, it is reverent. I have prepare a binder for my children to Follow my instructions, for my funeral. I pray that when that time for me comes. The TLM will still be allow and practice. Praise be to God !
In South Africa we still believe in the requiem mass and eulogies are now practised after mass during tea and cake
Fr Brendan , you hit the nail on the head!🙏📿⚓️
Well said Fr Brendan, that was a very passionate and courageous talk, you are so correct about these eulogies, it takes from the sacredness and mystery of the liturgy. Tadhg.
In addition to what the father spoke to, here in the U.S., especially since COVID, many non-Catholics have started to forgo a funeral altogether, and instead have a "Celebration of Life" weeks or months later.
Sound talk. Have to agree totally with you. The collapse of belief is the cause of all this.
The turning from God & deifying of man/self is at the root of this problem.
Spot on, Father.
Amen! God bless this holy and brave priest! Love it!!! 🙏🕯 Pray for the dead, always!
I agree Father Brendan ,I love your talks God bless you always ❤
Thank God for your honesty, Fr Damian.
Thankyou Father, sadly as a child of the 80s i had no idea that the giving of the eulogy is modernist fluff. But now you've mentioned it my eyes are open, of course it is!
I always thought the use of secular music at mass was in poor taste. And i hate hearing My Way by Frank Sinatra at funerals. Really? My Way? As a visiting african priest once said at mass "My Way" is the song sinners sing on the way to Hell.
I agree with your thoughts. Thank you for you courage.
My nearly 89 yr old Irish mother has expressly stated for years that there is to be no eulogising at her requium mass and if I'm still alive her wishes will be respected. She forbade them at my late brothers funeral mass last summer also. The post Mass reception is the proper place for all of the old songs and stories, the chapel is the place for worship and prayer. Sine.
Father could you give a talk about cremation and the church's position...Thank you
It’s approved thank God… as caskets are so expensive.
Though, the cremains are to be treated respectfully and given proper burial …no distributing to family members or turning into diamonds or splaying them over the Grand Canyon, etc…..
So basically we need to return to tradition.
“In those times, the sacrament of Extreme Unction will be largely ignored.… Many will die without receiving it, being thereby deprived of innumerable graces, consolation, and strength in the great leap from time to eternity. - our lady of good success
Absolutely excellent. I am so tired of going to canonizations.
Thank you Father, I am often also frustrated often with the "celebration of life ceremonies" that convey a severe lack of reverence for the dead and no prayer. What are the steps in restoring not only Catholic funerals, but the Mass as well in parishes? There has been so much compromise that many catholic liturgies have been historically watered down over time.
Good video and very true funerals now are very secular and non Christian they should be holy and solemn with reverence to the dead
Funerals like the faith have been diluted and watered down .
More modernism in the church , they are becoming tacky and circus like .
Bring back reverence in the church , respect for the dead
And boot out secularism ,
All Glory to God
Pray for the souls of the dead and comfort for the families .
I love your accent.
We are so lucky in our parish that we have such good priests and our bishop is excellent...
You are absolutely correct, Fr. Brandon. Priests and bishops should lead, not capitulate to the way of the misguided. The current culture has made all about the sinners rather than about God. Lord have mercy on our sinfulness.
As of late, I've become familiar with and in love with the tlm, I've also recently come to realize that eulogies are entirely inappropriate at Mass. Thank you Fr Brendan
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
I was devastated at the funeral of my nephew who killed himself. No one was praying for his soul & they called it a celebration of life. 😭😥
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Lord have mercy on your dear nephew's Soul. So sorry for your loss. Your nephew is blessed to have you praying for him probably for as long as you live. Keep offering his soul to God , in Union with the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass being offered throughout the whole World. Be at peace. "Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit"🙏
Thank you 🙏🏻 @@imeldataaffe433
AMEN well said.. We need to hear these videos fabulous content with a level head
Thank you, Father, for stepping up and speaking truth without fear of rejection. Your duty is NOT to codify God’s children into complacency. My husband & I have long been concerned by such terms as “they are at peace now”, or “he (or she) is in a better place”, or they “are no longer in pain.” Why have we embraced the Protestants philosophy of going straight to Heaven??? Have we forgotten that we are CATHOLICS? ….and what that means? God help us!
God bless you Father as always- A very honest/ brave talk, real danger in the church that in attempting to embrace those on 'the periphery', the church is confusing/ even weakening those who try their best within. Funerals are just one example. I think you are so right also about the dangers of the church just being another public space. I like also your points about the powerful culture, without being hard on 'them', media play an enormous role here- as someone who lived life in that culture for a long time, it is almost akin to an addiction. I wish you well in your ongoing work.
Amen Father. Funeral Ritual should be a Christian ceremony.
Well said 🙏
Well said and so true.
Thank you and God bless you Father 🙏🙏🙏
Amen...
I pray to God that when its my time i hope who ever is there will pray rosary for me at my furneral instead of eulogy i would never have the audacity to even consider myself an important person we are all sinners and need all the prayers we can get especially durning time of Judgement . Yes it would be a great Blessing if our priests suggested rosaries and psalm and cancel the pub talk .God Bless Amen
The priest at my Latin Rite parish always says in his sermons during a Requiem Mass: "The Mass is for the deceased, the sermon is for the living." He then proceeds to talk about the four last things.
Also, there is something to be said for having a cemetery just outside a church. It is real food for thought as one walks past the headstones on their way to worship. I believe that was the reason for the placement of those graves.
I never thought about that, but totally agree! Now, more often than not, the deceased are interred far from the Church building, where less thought, devotion & prayer might be offered for them.
When my father died, my sister gave a eulogy. We all contributed ideas for it, and I read over it the night before, and reassured her that it was very nice. But when it was given, it felt so out of place, and unnecessary because most of the attendees were close family members. When our mom passes, she wants a Latin Mass. I’ll do everything I can to make sure she gets it (and no eulogy).
A eulogy is Protestant anyway and doesn’t belong in the catholic liturgy
Framed by those, like us, having human frailties eulogies at requiem mass can cause pain too. At the funeral mass of someone I knew, a legally divorced man whose only children were those he had with his estranged wife, many persons who played parts in his too short life were referred to and remembered. But not the very person with whom the dead man had entered into holy matrimony & who had given him his children.
The worst is the automatic assumption the dead are in heaven at a funeral. From the family its misguided but from a priest it's shocking to hear.
Yeah! Specially in these crazy times we are living. People don’t go to confession and relatives believe that being “nice” is enough…incredible how people avoid reality and Truth…
Funeral isn't the place to say that someone might not be heaven. That should happen throughout the year at Bible study and other Church events
And the poor souls are deprived of the prayers that could be said to shorten their time in purgatory. God forgive us! It’s said that the pains of purgatory are worse than the cruelest tortures on earth.
It is up to you ,our priests ,to specify what is and is not allowed at funeral Masses ,
Ye can not everyone knows what is and what is not appropriate, as for confessions ,it is difficult to go to confessions ,when the confessional in the Church is locked and used for storage. It is not right to expect a person to sit beside a priest in full view of all ,and confess ,Priests should consider older people ,who may have hearing difficulty, and would like a little privacy,as was afforded to people in the past. I keep you and all our priests in my prayers. ,A sinner ,
@@ruthmaryrose Who said that the pains of purgatory are worse than anything on earth?! St Francis de Sales said the opposite.
Another reason why I go to the Traditional Latin Mass
Absolutely agree!
One need only look at the music selection for most funeral Masses. Nearly always secular songs, rare to find an actual Catholic hymn.
Yes yes yes “We have to look at it again” I would love to hear what a faith-filled funeral mass sounds like. Novenas culminating in reverent prayer and hope.
i think you are so correct
My moment of awakening was when I was reading a novel about a court case where the lawyer said "Even bad men deserve justice, maybe those most of all". I just applied that thought to last things.
I just read your comment first thing in the morning while rubbing my eyes, and saw 'Even bald men deserve justice'. 😂
@@lorddevonshire6382 Sorry, I meant even a Baldwin deserves hanging.
Spot on Father , reverence is greatly needed.
Interesting and concerning to hear what's tolerated in different dioceses.
You are right Father. No compromises because it will never stop at one small compromise.
Eulogies are Protestant .
Symbols are Pagan .
Priests need to make contact with their local humanist minster and start referring families on to him/her if its a service they require rather than a requiem mass .
Well said Father.
Thanks.
Very well said Father. I wholeheartedly agree with you about eulogies at funeral Mass. Part of the issue I think is the lack of reverence for the sacrament and disbelief/doubt about the eternity of each and every soul. No one who has died, is dead. They are somewhere and in all probability most souls need prayer starting at the funeral Mass and continuing in our prayer life afterward
Brilliant Fr Brenden,as usual.
So true.
This is saddening but so true.
I was just at a requiem Mass on Thursday now the Priest certainly kept it about praying for their soul but sadly the family have left the faith so it was a secular eulogy and secular music by fiddle and accordion that played with a couple modern hymns in between.
As little children when we first lost family dad told us we don’t know if they are in heaven and they could be in purgatory so you pray and never stop praying till the day you die. Mum didn’t like us being told that so young because we cried but it sure stuck with us and we’ve never assumed anyone has gone straight to heaven.
It’s alway puzzled me as a child when non believers around me would say ‘oh granny is watching from heaven’ etc my child mind couldn’t understand how you couldn’t believe in God but you believe in heaven…
I have attended more funerals where the eulogy is like a resume for a job application. The person reads off all the things the deceased person did and all the clubs they belonged to. Most have no mention of the deceased spiritual life... their example of faith that they showed to all who met him/her.
At my mother's funeral, we shared a memory that expressed her deep faith and another that showed an example of the love she had for my dad and how it affected our lives. Many people, including very conservative priest thought that it was beautiful eulogy.
If there is nothing you can say about your deceased loved one's faith during the Funeral Mss, you can tell the stories at the lunch after the burial.
Amazing! Thank you, Father. ❤
It has no place in the funeral rite. A lot of the time it's embarrassing. Its place is at the graveyard burial or crematorium.
@immaculataproductions Could you do an updated version of this video in light of what we saw at Shane McGowan's funeral (God rest his soul). It was more a concert gig than a funeral, and an example of the trend of symbols being raised on altar, no matter how inappropriate/offensive (eg Buddha and rock albums)
Thank you so much father for this talk. I really needed to hear this Gods honest truth of where we are. Its just getting more like a theater here in Nederland. Sorry to say.
Same in the USA. An abomination of desolation inviting God's wrath, rather than a holy sacrifice calling down God's mercy.
In America, you see now, of course, among the protestants/fundamentalists, “A Celebration of Life,” for their deceased. I tell my (grown) children this seems a pagan practice, this video confirms my thoughts!! May the souls of the faithful departed through the mercy of God rest in peace. Amen.
I told my family and relatives with this stupid modern mentality that when I die they should think as less as possible. Just send me to a Mass funeral and then to the cemetery. Forget about something else because any “idea” from anyone to “ honor” me will be more stupid and nonsense than the previous one. Just don’t think, do it as I said.
Thank you Father,
I live in the UK and am fortunate to live 30 minutes away from an FSSP church (Shrine) which I attend daily.
It now fills me with horror when I have to attend a NO Mass for the purpose of attending a funeral, wedding, Christening etc.
I don’t believe that anyone can fully appreciate the extent to which the post VII church has proceeded to ape Protestantism
Over the 60+ since, until they have separated from it.
Sorry if this offends, but the truth must be spoken.
I know you may disagree with me Father, but even so, I have taken great heart in what you have spoken today as it gives me renewed hope for the future of our true Church and what It actually is - The Mystical Body of Our Lord Jesus Christ
Thank you Father we need to hear these sacred truths. God must be so disappointed when he sees what goes on in his Catholic Church today. The Sacraments have been so badly abused. We need to get back to the Sacred. God bless you Father for speaking out.
100 percent padre!
A few years ago I witnessed the funeral of a gangster. The behaviour and items on display foral.displays in the shape of guns etc, many were hungover or high on drugs and many actually brought disposable coffee cups into the service if not actual pints, an extreme version of what you mentioned here father but clear evidence of how far things have fallen. Iit would be hard to see the person being buried that day as being the favourite of all those being buried on the planet as being in heaven given the life he led but that didn't seem to stop people referring to him being "up there" and "you're flying with the angles buddy" and that they'd "meet again "🙄 amazing faith given the circumstances 🤔
I agree. I’m musing for a while now, my own requiem mass, no eulogy.
Totally agree Father, but the decline is happening in many aspects of our faith, for example, handing out the blessed sacrament like sweeties.
I have no time for eulogies I find it so difficult to tolerate at funeral Masses.. Pray for the deceased. I couldn't agree with you more Fr. Brendan . Once one family does it others seem to follow I heard one woman recently at her father's funeral thank his neighbours and said there was no need to talk about him they knew him.
Thank you Fr. Brendan for your example of fortitude. My own brother is a parish priest and has these "discussions" with parishioners all the time. He tries to explain the funeral rite and the necessary liturgical elements and how they beautifully express the faith. People don't get it, or even try too. But hold fast Fr. Brendan because what you have expressed is true!
Well said
Outstanding comments and so rarely said about Catholic funerals!