Omg how did you know that I needed to hear this today?! I chose to prioritize myself and caused hurt feelings among my "friends ". I will not be mad at myself for this
There doesn't have to be a villain in our story. If I communicate an important need of mine and you tell me that you can't satisfy it, then it's called incompatibility, and neither of us is to blame.
@ Aaron Doughty I have witnessed your expansion and growth , both inward and outward throughout these past few years. Its awesome and inspirational !Some videos have really helped tremendously man , if you can do it , I can too!🦋💚✌🏼
This concept of "being bad" is spot on. I call this "trouble-making" with my client. If you're not emitting waves, people can't find you. Thanks for this!
Aaron, I am so glad I found your channel. I also grew up abandoning myself and scared of speaking up, because I essentially had to. It took me 36 years to finally "get it". And I resonate with everything you say.
Wow! This is exactly what I needed to hear ! This is of so much help for me to shift and realign on myself : "Trying to be a "good" person, I"m rejecting myself every single day" Thank you for this insights, Aaron . VERY helpful.
Wow.. what's good for them is to give them tension, by not solving their problems! That is EXACTLY what I recently learned from human design! Only took my 35 years to figure out lol
Currently watching and noticed you’re at 11k views, 11 hours ago on 11/11 ✨🕯️ And I’m nodding along in agreement because everything you’re saying is resonating with me in a most profound way. Gratitude for this poignant message. Thank you 🙏🏽
I was bullied by my siblings, mostly my narc sister who said "blackmail time" whenever I did or said something embarrassing. I want nothing to do with her after years of psychological abuse. I feel so free. 🕊️
I don't know if this helps in any way but I don't think you ever said anything embarrassing, you were just being truthful to yourself and your sister made fun of you because she could not understand or could not tolerate you being relaxed and true to yourself. In the same time, there isn't bad or right, the way I think is - is this helpful for me now or not, but something being good or bad is not realistic 😊 I had a similar sister, a bit of a psycho and makiavelic as well I think 🤗
Its all about embracing authenticity.I was always stopped from speaking my mind or truth near other people! Its no longer the case ..i be me..i don't care about the rest
This topic is so important ! Oddly when I confront another person which used to be real rare, I now don't apologize for it.. instead ill end it with I guess we will agree to disagree.. im not ok with what you just did / said..
I resonate with Aaron’s Dad as I too attracted a narcissist into my life as he did. So I get that he’d be the nice guy because I was the nice girl. However I no longer choose that. Not that I’m not nice any more but I know I don’t have to be nice all the time and it’s ok to be authentic, to say no and to stand in my own integrity with boundaries, morals and standards intact. I’m giving up abandoning myself as I’ve been doing it all my life. Becoming authentic, empowered with autonomy and vulnerability is a whole new way of life for me and I’m embracing it.
Every time there is a situation in my life, your video synchronistically show up. I well needed to hear that today, since I don't know what to do with the anger I've been feeling after a shitty relationship. Thank you for the wisdom, Aaron 🙏
Omg at first I was thinking nah, it's just that I wanted to be accepted. But when I look back, I see a pattern of me not wanting to become like a certain person. It can be one in my class or at work. Someone who reminds me of traits I see as bad, since I was a kid. And what's making me bitter is when people around me don't follow the same "high standards" as I do. But what it's really about, is that I'm jealous of people who are more "free". Plus it makes me ashamed for doing this to myself. As if I'm a weak person with no self respect. And it's true, because it drains me. It's a lot better today though, now I'm more of a bad (kind) guy.
Thank you, these videos are helpful! What helped me overcome the tension was to relax enough to be able to think and act in a place of peace when setting the boundaries (as opposed to anger or fear for example). From there it is possible to use humor to lessen the overall tension a bit.
…as a repressed polite people pleasing westerner….you need to integrate your shadow with a balanced expression of divine feminine (yoni) and divine masculine (linga) energies.
Oh, I don't have a problem expressing anger. My narcissistic parents were quick tempered and yelled alot. I can have a memory or feel used and I get angry. I can project it onto others if I don't work on it. As an empath as a child, I felt it was my fault if my family wasn't happy or was angry. And as an adult, my narcissistic family would try to make me feel guilty so I would do things to make up for it.
Summary: Being bad doesn’t mean committing crimes and killing people. The purpose of being a bad person to be magnetic is get in touch with that dark side of yourself not your shadow side. The dark side is our true selves and our shadow side is the repressed part of ourself that needs validation, love, and healing. Aaron is so right about everything to be magnetic you need to tap into your dark or bad side to be magnetic. From my experience I’ve been into touch with my dark side and use it with good intentions and it has changed my life. And also I take respect seriously if I feel disrespected by someone. I will unveil my dark side without apology. Because I am not putting up with disrespect. Don’t let people take advantage of you.
Hi Aaron, I want to share something with you and everyone as subscriber. From my experience I’ve been relying on utilizing the loving kindness meditation and it’s exactly like positive self talk except it focuses on being more kind, gentle, and compassionate towards yourself. And it’s super helpful to do shadow work as Pagan I like doing shadow with a deity like Morrigan the Celtic goddess. What does this have to do with feeling bad to be magnetic? From my experience I notice I embrace my bad qualities that it’s part of who I am as human, and that’s what make me who I am. When I use loving kindness meditation I allow, accept and release the heavy feelings inside of me and give love to the part of myself that needs love and validation.
I had a very controlling dad. Very. And two BPD cousins in the environment that I grew up in. So fawning. I have never wanted to be angry, because my dad was all the time when I was a child. I think I transformed my anger into self-destrutive urges up to the point where I have been suicidal ever since I was 13. I struggle with the urge to end myself a lot, even though I was in several therapies.
I'm not gonna watch but people love me because I'm good, like anyone, from any background, or they hate me because I am good,or my rewards for being good, being bad is definitely the wrong direction, BE GOOD!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I want to stop having to walk around eggshells with my dad. But the reality is my mom would suffer bc she is his emotional rock bc there are specific instances around money that he can't regulate himself. I would stop this pattern, and I try to not be part of the 'walking around eggshells part' but when my mom explains it as if 'its the kids that need it' or a situation around that, it helps, and I get asked stuff and I'm forced to lie when I dont want to, but I have to bc my mom suffers from her nerves and it is my dad's fault, but at the same time knowing how they grew up, you understand all their co-dependent patens from their respective families and why they are together....I just wanna move out to not have to walk around eggshells and lie anymore...so now I ask myself, why haven't I been able to accomplish that? Ive been facing my trauma, see what is blocking me from it, I'm at a loss where to go from here, and how to overcome any subconscious feelings I'm unaware of.... all I can think of is doing more meditation, guided ones
came here to feel ok. i’m losing hope. i just need a break. i quit weed a for good a bit ago after 6 years of non stop smoking because it would let me forget my trauma for a bit but it wouldn’t go away. (from 16-22). but now i feel it all. i’ve been suicidal daily for so long. i can’t take it anymore. i don’t know how much longer i can do this for. every day sucks. i have no hope. 😔i’ve been trying so damn hard and being such a good person for all this time but i can’t keep going anymore. when will i ever get a break? i don’t think i ever will
You'll never get a break until you get it for yourself. Forget others and focus on what you want. This is what I've come to realize from being treated the way I was. Understand your trauma then throw it away because it doesn't serve you. Offing yourself only gives satisfaction to your enemy, don't do it just out of spite for them (Better to be angry than depressed so get angry and do something about it). Express your emotions when you have to (not in front of others) and sleep on important decisions/don't be rash. Never compare yourself because nobody lives the same life (Deactivate social media/Turn your phone off if necessary). If you want to be good for someone/something, you have to start with yourself first. Good luck.
True that! Anger is motivating, & it is OK to be angry. Just as long as one doesn’t lash out at others. Many never had appropriate anger modeled, thus fear & suppress it!!!@@israelsalazar1371
I Need another word for that B word . All the like.. Narssacists are OK with that ! LoL so much "harder effort wise" so it probably HAS to tap into toxic & it's flow!! I right?? I'm just trying to write boundaries...cause feeling it isn't there at all. Not numb. Not dissociation. Just never assigned any. Familiar is "comfortable " . New is unfamiliar. Doesn't feel..like anything. That is not comfortable at times. Trusting self. Is the lesson I think
The b word is probably judging others and attention to that brings judging to you. Law of Attraction, Compensation, Cause & Effect, etc. I usually find a reason to feel sorry for them to activate my compassion and move them to a neutral category- especially when the Love category is closed to them inside me. The best reason I use is they're ill right now & need spiritual/Light help asap, like me😅 When we put them in our category, then the Law of Oness is fulfilled🫶🏾💫🌺
Fix people, be a people pleaser, stay on fight or flight mood, be a people giver, don’t have boundaries, be to good= ALL forms of inauthentic!! I love be who I am which is good and bad , and actually I really enjoy be in the negative polarity lol. Power comes for knowledge with universe-b not from good and love .
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Completely relate to you and all you are saying
7:36 -7:41 ouch! Many abandon themselves to dodge abandonment from others.
Omg how did you know that I needed to hear this today?! I chose to prioritize myself and caused hurt feelings among my "friends ". I will not be mad at myself for this
Same ! I needed to hear and integrate this today !
There doesn't have to be a villain in our story. If I communicate an important need of mine and you tell me that you can't satisfy it, then it's called incompatibility, and neither of us is to blame.
@LightIf can't or choose not to? Not everyone is fairness/honesty or love
@@Katrica670😢true
@ Aaron Doughty I have witnessed your expansion and growth , both inward and outward throughout these past few years. Its awesome and inspirational !Some videos have really helped tremendously man , if you can do it , I can too!🦋💚✌🏼
This concept of "being bad" is spot on. I call this "trouble-making" with my client. If you're not emitting waves, people can't find you. Thanks for this!
Aaron, I am so glad I found your channel. I also grew up abandoning myself and scared of speaking up, because I essentially had to. It took me 36 years to finally "get it". And I resonate with everything you say.
Wow! This is exactly what I needed to hear ! This is of so much help for me to shift and realign on myself : "Trying to be a "good" person, I"m rejecting myself every single day" Thank you for this insights, Aaron . VERY helpful.
This was a huge awakening
this is powerful. SO good
Wow.. what's good for them is to give them tension, by not solving their problems! That is EXACTLY what I recently learned from human design! Only took my 35 years to figure out lol
Currently watching and noticed you’re at 11k views, 11 hours ago on 11/11 ✨🕯️ And I’m nodding along in agreement because everything you’re saying is resonating with me in a most profound way. Gratitude for this poignant message. Thank you 🙏🏽
I was bullied by my siblings, mostly my narc sister who said "blackmail time" whenever I did or said something embarrassing. I want nothing to do with her after years of psychological abuse. I feel so free. 🕊️
I don't know if this helps in any way but I don't think you ever said anything embarrassing, you were just being truthful to yourself and your sister made fun of you because she could not understand or could not tolerate you being relaxed and true to yourself. In the same time, there isn't bad or right, the way I think is - is this helpful for me now or not, but something being good or bad is not realistic 😊 I had a similar sister, a bit of a psycho and makiavelic as well I think 🤗
@ Thank you so much for sharing. I really appreciate it. God Bless 🙏🏻
Its all about embracing authenticity.I was always stopped from speaking my mind or truth near other people! Its no longer the case ..i be me..i don't care about the rest
This topic is so important ! Oddly when I confront another person which used to be real rare, I now don't apologize for it.. instead ill end it with I guess we will agree to disagree.. im not ok with what you just did / said..
I resonate with Aaron’s Dad as I too attracted a narcissist into my life as he did. So I get that he’d be the nice guy because I was the nice girl. However I no longer choose that. Not that I’m not nice any more but I know I don’t have to be nice all the time and it’s ok to be authentic, to say no and to stand in my own integrity with boundaries, morals and standards intact. I’m giving up abandoning myself as I’ve been doing it all my life. Becoming authentic, empowered with autonomy and vulnerability is a whole new way of life for me and I’m embracing it.
Every time there is a situation in my life, your video synchronistically show up. I well needed to hear that today, since I don't know what to do with the anger I've been feeling after a shitty relationship. Thank you for the wisdom, Aaron 🙏
Soooo much sense right now! I am so going through this. Thanks Aaron. 🤍✨🤍✨🤍
A really really good aspect you mention about the word tension. Thanks for the whole intellectual and aligned journey
Omg at first I was thinking nah, it's just that I wanted to be accepted. But when I look back, I see a pattern of me not wanting to become like a certain person. It can be one in my class or at work. Someone who reminds me of traits I see as bad, since I was a kid. And what's making me bitter is when people around me don't follow the same "high standards" as I do. But what it's really about, is that I'm jealous of people who are more "free". Plus it makes me ashamed for doing this to myself. As if I'm a weak person with no self respect. And it's true, because it drains me.
It's a lot better today though, now I'm more of a bad (kind) guy.
Thank you so much for this video! I needed to hear it today!
Thank you, these videos are helpful!
What helped me overcome the tension was to relax enough to be able to think and act in a place of peace when setting the boundaries (as opposed to anger or fear for example).
From there it is possible to use humor to lessen the overall tension a bit.
Vulnerability &authenticity, Congrats 👏🎉❤JJ
The people pleasing attitude gets taken advantage of by a lot of people. Be kind, not nice
Truth
…as a repressed polite people pleasing westerner….you need to integrate your shadow with a balanced expression of divine feminine (yoni) and divine masculine (linga) energies.
You're very right. I hope people see you for who you are and not try to use you. You have a friend here if you need one😊.
You're very right, I can totally relate. I hope people see you for who you are and not try to use you. You have a friend here if you need one.
i love you bro,keep changing lives
Nice doing more events. Hard week for me being sick but you’ve been in my mind always proud of you brother
Very thoughtful provocing.
Thank you for this speech 😃🙏✊
Needed to hear this, amazing job Aaron ❤ very wise and insightful
Wow! I needed this. Gonna save this one and come back. I’ve been doing the frame technique and it has been amazing thank you!
Such a great time ❤ really needed this Thank you Aaron 😇😌✨️
Ive often thought of this but shrug it off as just feeling jealous and tell myself oh well its just who i am, the nice one.
I needed this. Thank you ❤
💯❣️💫 spot on for these times, Ego & the masculine🫶🏾
I needed to hear this one, thanks Aaron.
Screw the right thing, Just do the thing!
Powerful. Great thought, thank you!
❤ I need to be Bad, I’m to nice
Be too good bring you to no where! Be selfish so you will truly see who is important , YOU!
Thank you Aaron.
I was just thinking about this.
That was awesome! Thanks kiddo!
Thank you love this 🙏🦋💕
It’s honour to be the 1st to comment
Like this comment so that I can comeback and watch/remind myself of this video.
Soooo spot on. Wow !!!
I resonate with everything you said about growing up!!
Oh, I don't have a problem expressing anger. My narcissistic parents were quick tempered and yelled alot. I can have a memory or feel used and I get angry. I can project it onto others if I don't work on it. As an empath as a child, I felt it was my fault if my family wasn't happy or was angry. And as an adult, my narcissistic family would try to make me feel guilty so I would do things to make up for it.
You look good, dawg...😊
Thank you for sharing this video that was very interesting and great information. ❤
as a child, I always held my anger in, and took it out on myself when alone..keep digging A
Summary: Being bad doesn’t mean committing crimes and killing people. The purpose of being a bad person to be magnetic is get in touch with that dark side of yourself not your shadow side. The dark side is our true selves and our shadow side is the repressed part of ourself that needs validation, love, and healing.
Aaron is so right about everything to be magnetic you need to tap into your dark or bad side to be magnetic. From my experience I’ve been into touch with my dark side and use it with good intentions and it has changed my life. And also I take respect seriously if I feel disrespected by someone. I will unveil my dark side without apology. Because I am not putting up with disrespect. Don’t let people take advantage of you.
Thank you ❤
Thank you 🙏🌞🌈🩷💫🩷💫🩷
Narc mother and Narc husband. I am now with my soulmate. Life is good now.
I would love to attend one of your seminars. ✨✨
Still do .. love you ✨️❤️🔥🪶
Gratitude 😇
Hi Aaron, I want to share something with you and everyone as subscriber. From my experience I’ve been relying on utilizing the loving kindness meditation and it’s exactly like positive self talk except it focuses on being more kind, gentle, and compassionate towards yourself. And it’s super helpful to do shadow work as Pagan I like doing shadow with a deity like Morrigan the Celtic goddess.
What does this have to do with feeling bad to be magnetic? From my experience I notice I embrace my bad qualities that it’s part of who I am as human, and that’s what make me who I am. When I use loving kindness meditation I allow, accept and release the heavy feelings inside of me and give love to the part of myself that needs love and validation.
Damn I been doing this lately. And this is so true! 😮
I had a very controlling dad. Very. And two BPD cousins in the environment that I grew up in. So fawning. I have never wanted to be angry, because my dad was all the time when I was a child. I think I transformed my anger into self-destrutive urges up to the point where I have been suicidal ever since I was 13. I struggle with the urge to end myself a lot, even though I was in several therapies.
I now can see as an adult how smart this guy is.
Happy birthday Aaron wishing you a great day today and always 🥳 🎉 🪅 🎊 🎈 🎂 🎉
Preach bro preach
Ooo Aaron you manifested your dream to public speak you are so cute omg how inspiring I watch you since 2018
That was good one
That's a great documentary
Thank✨🙏🙏❤🙏🙏✨you!!
Bless you❤
I'm not gonna watch but people love me because I'm good, like anyone, from any background, or they hate me because I am good,or my rewards for being good, being bad is definitely the wrong direction, BE GOOD!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I want to stop having to walk around eggshells with my dad. But the reality is my mom would suffer bc she is his emotional rock bc there are specific instances around money that he can't regulate himself. I would stop this pattern, and I try to not be part of the 'walking around eggshells part' but when my mom explains it as if 'its the kids that need it' or a situation around that, it helps, and I get asked stuff and I'm forced to lie when I dont want to, but I have to bc my mom suffers from her nerves and it is my dad's fault, but at the same time knowing how they grew up, you understand all their co-dependent patens from their respective families and why they are together....I just wanna move out to not have to walk around eggshells and lie anymore...so now I ask myself, why haven't I been able to accomplish that? Ive been facing my trauma, see what is blocking me from it, I'm at a loss where to go from here, and how to overcome any subconscious feelings I'm unaware of.... all I can think of is doing more meditation, guided ones
came here to feel ok. i’m losing hope. i just need a break. i quit weed a for good a bit ago after 6 years of non stop smoking because it would let me forget my trauma for a bit but it wouldn’t go away. (from 16-22). but now i feel it all. i’ve been suicidal daily for so long. i can’t take it anymore. i don’t know how much longer i can do this for. every day sucks. i have no hope. 😔i’ve been trying so damn hard and being such a good person for all this time but i can’t keep going anymore. when will i ever get a break? i don’t think i ever will
Hang in there. ❤️
You'll never get a break until you get it for yourself. Forget others and focus on what you want. This is what I've come to realize from being treated the way I was. Understand your trauma then throw it away because it doesn't serve you. Offing yourself only gives satisfaction to your enemy, don't do it just out of spite for them (Better to be angry than depressed so get angry and do something about it). Express your emotions when you have to (not in front of others) and sleep on important decisions/don't be rash. Never compare yourself because nobody lives the same life (Deactivate social media/Turn your phone off if necessary).
If you want to be good for someone/something, you have to start with yourself first.
Good luck.
True that! Anger is motivating, & it is OK to be angry. Just as long as one doesn’t lash out at others. Many never had appropriate anger modeled, thus fear & suppress it!!!@@israelsalazar1371
I feel the opposite while I'm an empath and on the other side I am technically psychotic well since I was a kid
1:00, 2:10, 9:25
I Need another word for that B word . All the like.. Narssacists are OK with that ! LoL so much "harder effort wise" so it probably HAS to tap into toxic & it's flow!! I right?? I'm just trying to write boundaries...cause feeling it isn't there at all. Not numb. Not dissociation. Just never assigned any. Familiar is "comfortable " . New is unfamiliar. Doesn't feel..like anything. That is not comfortable at times. Trusting self. Is the lesson I think
The b word is probably judging others and attention to that brings judging to you. Law of Attraction, Compensation, Cause & Effect, etc.
I usually find a reason to feel sorry for them to activate my compassion and move them to a neutral category- especially when the Love category is closed to them inside me. The best reason I use is they're ill right now & need spiritual/Light help asap, like me😅
When we put them in our category, then the Law of Oness is fulfilled🫶🏾💫🌺
5:07 - 5:10
5:13 -5:16
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you can be yourself and not be magnetic
❤thanks friend
Where were you all my life??? 😭
Excellent
mmmakeshance 😅❤
can't believe that nobody talks about book Unveiling Your Hidden Potential
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By which author, please?😊
@@dricee8 it’s a scam. Rather go and search for Neville Goddard and his books
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why does everyone use the word narcissist
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what are you saying?
Sorry i like having a good moral code, and ill do the most i can to upkeep it.
Oh I'm angry constantly
First comment❤❤❤
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I embraced my anger and ruined my brothers wedding
Fix people, be a people pleaser, stay on fight or flight mood, be a people giver, don’t have boundaries, be to good= ALL forms of inauthentic!!
I love be who I am which is good and bad , and actually I really enjoy be in the negative polarity lol. Power comes for knowledge with universe-b not from good and love .
magnets are also repulsive 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️🧲
9. I live in an invisible prison made up of rage and grief and despair and trauma
He is 9:57 so 🥵 and smart. My god
Man I'm sorry, I disagree with you on that.
Man what happened to you!? You went full on grifter pop spiritual sell out -
Ignoring what’s going on in the world smh.
The disease to please is so unhealthy.
Why don't you do a few hundred more videos about being magnetic, mr magnetic! Magnetic man 😂
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some of us want to be left alone lolll
Keeping it real, he is..... 😍
socks to bed = mood solver better than weed🟪🎉😢😮😮😂
Nah, my feet want to be 🆓!