As someone that is experiencing my brother having his first psychosis (we still don’t know if it is schizophrenia or bipolar) I feel so happy that he has his friends that are still around during this time. This was very good for me as a family member to take part of. Thank you for your honesty and comfortable way of talking.
Thank you for the video and insight. Honestly, as someone who is trying to help/support a family member (husband) through psychosis and schizophrenia right now, this was hard to take in. Just being totally honest. It goes against everything in me to think that I should just walk away and let them face the consequences of their choices. Their choices to not seek help/treatment. My husband is gone, mentally, emotionally, he isn't the person I knew. I don't know if he ever will be again, but the thought of that is devastating. I can see what you're saying about letting people come to their own choices, because then it will actually mean something, and it will be what they want. But what if those choices are always "no"? My husband went 20 years without treatment. And what i've been told is that the longer you leave this condition untreated the worse it can become. When you love someone, it is really, really hard to stand by and watch them deteriorate, without them even realising it. And it is really, really hard to walk away.
I went untreated for 5 years before I had a third episode. First hospitalization after third episode, I was still trying to get out of the hospital fast as possible without getting treated. Finally I sought help when they discharged me twice, and I went back in a third time because I couldn't take the voices. I would suggest fostering a relationship with them which allows them to consider your suggestion as possible routes to take. I value some loved one's opinions about what to do and not. I don't completely and blindly follow or listen to them, but I consider it and adjust myself to see for myself if it is right for me. Are there any individuals they value opinion of enough to alter their behavior? If so I would try to foster relationships with them in order to reach a place where all three of you can be on the same level and respect. I do not know the details of your situation, and my opinion might not be the right one anyway, but I feel like I needed to trust someones judgement before I could take their advice in life, and that came by me taking a step to clear up my relationship with my sister for example. I hope you are able to help your husband by showing them that the life you once knew was beautiful and valuable enough to revisit now that it has been 20 years in the past. But also, sometimes people drift apart, they lose ability to function in the same capacity, do we force them to be back or do we live with who the person is now? I am told 5 more of these episodes and I would act like an 80 year old at 35. But I have accepted that fact and am taking steps to ensure my loved ones are taken care of when I lose the ability to function in this capacity. I hope they still surround me with love, but I would understand if they can't. It's not a burden anyone should have to take on by guilt. Hopefully they choose to be around me however I am in my limited capacity, understanding I cannot be. a person who I was in the past. Thank you for tuning in and a great comment. Hope things get easier for both you and your husband.
@@MargeReese Hi Marge. I'm sorry your son and you are going through this. I just wanted to let you know that the situation with my husband's condition got a lot better. First it got worse, and I ended up, with the support of mine and his family, choosing to force help on him. This was a really hard decision, and scary. But the outcome has been so positive. He is my husband again, it almost seems unbelievable. He is on medication now, and I believe that has made a complete difference. I hope this helps you in some way, and your son can also find the help he needs.
I’m 99.9% sure my ex has schizophrenia, but I’m not a licensed clinician so I obviously cannot diagnose him. I’m not saying this to be judgmental or flippant, I am extremely worried about him and his future. He already doesn’t take care of his personal hygiene, he’s living in a van, he got a puppy that was just a few days old and didn’t even have her eyes open, but he doesn’t even have enough money to feed himself and doesn’t eat. He was wrapping her in a cold wet towel trying to warm her up. I’m like… You can’t wrap a puppy in a cold wet towel. It’s gonna make her colder. His grip on reality is completely slipping. For a long time I thought that he was just a mean, purposefully manipulative person with narcissistic personality disorder, or possibly even sociopathy. But that would not explain a decision as ridiculous as getting a newborn puppy that you have no idea how to take care of and don’t have the funds to care for properly. He doesn’t see these things as a problem. He just says that at least she has a chance with him. I guess he got her from somebody who is even more down and out than he is. 😢 I don’t think he will ever admit to people what is actually going on because he thinks they will use it against him. His parents are Pentecostals so they won’t get him any medical help. They don’t believe in psychiatry. It’s so sad… 😞 But I can’t let him hurt me anymore, and he does hurt me often by saying really crazy things and then sobbing and screaming at me. he often times thinks that I say things I don’t say. He will ask for clarification, but it’s in a very accusatory way so things get so combative I can’t even remember what I said because he’s so amped up. He erroneously takes this to mean that I am secretly sneaking subliminal messages in between my words - either on purpose to mess with his head or on accident because I am actually confessing things. I am not saying the things he thinks I’m saying. I don’t have this problem with anybody else. Never have. I pray that there is a solution for him. It’s just so hard helplessly watching somebody you love fall apart and they don’t even seem to know it.
My son suffers from persucatory delusions that he is going to be murdered by a group that is after him. He does not have any recognition that he is in psychosis after 6 months. Im trying to assure him he is safe. I dont know how to get him to willingly examine his ideas.
Yes, I have been on medication and just had two recent episodes. I consulted with my psychiatrist and decided I was going to try an increased dose. So far back out of it with the new dose. I will make a video of what I did including medication to come out of it and how it helped soon.
Love that you're using your life experiences to help others ❤
As someone that is experiencing my brother having his first psychosis (we still don’t know if it is schizophrenia or bipolar) I feel so happy that he has his friends that are still around during this time. This was very good for me as a family member to take part of. Thank you for your honesty and comfortable way of talking.
This is so important! Thank you so much for posting this!
Thank you for the video and insight. Honestly, as someone who is trying to help/support a family member (husband) through psychosis and schizophrenia right now, this was hard to take in. Just being totally honest. It goes against everything in me to think that I should just walk away and let them face the consequences of their choices. Their choices to not seek help/treatment. My husband is gone, mentally, emotionally, he isn't the person I knew. I don't know if he ever will be again, but the thought of that is devastating. I can see what you're saying about letting people come to their own choices, because then it will actually mean something, and it will be what they want. But what if those choices are always "no"? My husband went 20 years without treatment. And what i've been told is that the longer you leave this condition untreated the worse it can become. When you love someone, it is really, really hard to stand by and watch them deteriorate, without them even realising it. And it is really, really hard to walk away.
I went untreated for 5 years before I had a third episode. First hospitalization after third episode, I was still trying to get out of the hospital fast as possible without getting treated. Finally I sought help when they discharged me twice, and I went back in a third time because I couldn't take the voices.
I would suggest fostering a relationship with them which allows them to consider your suggestion as possible routes to take. I value some loved one's opinions about what to do and not. I don't completely and blindly follow or listen to them, but I consider it and adjust myself to see for myself if it is right for me.
Are there any individuals they value opinion of enough to alter their behavior? If so I would try to foster relationships with them in order to reach a place where all three of you can be on the same level and respect.
I do not know the details of your situation, and my opinion might not be the right one anyway, but I feel like I needed to trust someones judgement before I could take their advice in life, and that came by me taking a step to clear up my relationship with my sister for example.
I hope you are able to help your husband by showing them that the life you once knew was beautiful and valuable enough to revisit now that it has been 20 years in the past. But also, sometimes people drift apart, they lose ability to function in the same capacity, do we force them to be back or do we live with who the person is now?
I am told 5 more of these episodes and I would act like an 80 year old at 35. But I have accepted that fact and am taking steps to ensure my loved ones are taken care of when I lose the ability to function in this capacity. I hope they still surround me with love, but I would understand if they can't. It's not a burden anyone should have to take on by guilt. Hopefully they choose to be around me however I am in my limited capacity, understanding I cannot be. a person who I was in the past.
Thank you for tuning in and a great comment. Hope things get easier for both you and your husband.
I TOTALLY get it! I'm going through a similar situation, with Mt homeless son.😢💔💔💔 Refuses treatment and choose to be homeless 😢😭😭
@@MargeReese Hi Marge. I'm sorry your son and you are going through this. I just wanted to let you know that the situation with my husband's condition got a lot better. First it got worse, and I ended up, with the support of mine and his family, choosing to force help on him. This was a really hard decision, and scary. But the outcome has been so positive. He is my husband again, it almost seems unbelievable. He is on medication now, and I believe that has made a complete difference. I hope this helps you in some way, and your son can also find the help he needs.
I’m 99.9% sure my ex has schizophrenia, but I’m not a licensed clinician so I obviously cannot diagnose him. I’m not saying this to be judgmental or flippant, I am extremely worried about him and his future.
He already doesn’t take care of his personal hygiene, he’s living in a van, he got a puppy that was just a few days old and didn’t even have her eyes open, but he doesn’t even have enough money to feed himself and doesn’t eat. He was wrapping her in a cold wet towel trying to warm her up. I’m like… You can’t wrap a puppy in a cold wet towel. It’s gonna make her colder. His grip on reality is completely slipping.
For a long time I thought that he was just a mean, purposefully manipulative person with narcissistic personality disorder, or possibly even sociopathy.
But that would not explain a decision as ridiculous as getting a newborn puppy that you have no idea how to take care of and don’t have the funds to care for properly. He doesn’t see these things as a problem. He just says that at least she has a chance with him. I guess he got her from somebody who is even more down and out than he is. 😢
I don’t think he will ever admit to people what is actually going on because he thinks they will use it against him. His parents are Pentecostals so they won’t get him any medical help. They don’t believe in psychiatry.
It’s so sad… 😞
But I can’t let him hurt me anymore, and he does hurt me often by saying really crazy things and then sobbing and screaming at me. he often times thinks that I say things I don’t say. He will ask for clarification, but it’s in a very accusatory way so things get so combative I can’t even remember what I said because he’s so amped up. He erroneously takes this to mean that I am secretly sneaking subliminal messages in between my words - either on purpose to mess with his head or on accident because I am actually confessing things. I am not saying the things he thinks I’m saying. I don’t have this problem with anybody else. Never have.
I pray that there is a solution for him. It’s just so hard helplessly watching somebody you love fall apart and they don’t even seem to know it.
My son suffers from persucatory delusions that he is going to be murdered by a group that is after him. He does not have any recognition that he is in psychosis after 6 months. Im trying to assure him he is safe. I dont know how to get him to willingly examine his ideas.
Hi Moji , can one suffer psychosis even when on medication?
Yes, I have been on medication and just had two recent episodes. I consulted with my psychiatrist and decided I was going to try an increased dose. So far back out of it with the new dose.
I will make a video of what I did including medication to come out of it and how it helped soon.
Thank you Moji. God bless you !!
So you have psicotic episodes and still smoke up? Bon voyage…..
I personally do not, but I know of people that do. And its their choice to take part in it or not.
@@lettersfromschizophrenia yeah its a fact. Only can control one self.