I really empathize with Link getting emotional to the point of crying at the end. The conversation was clearly not to scold/accuse Link (the feedback was coming from a place of love) but to acknowledge an area of improvement, that you feel is a big part of your personality and with all honesty have good intentions with, makes you really vulnerable to the point of crying. Like Link said, it's not to make them feel bad about him or to be manipulative. Personally if I was in this kind of conversation I would have cried sooner.
Personally I think Twas a lil judgy. Rhett says everything he thinks as if it’s fact, and it’s sad to think Link now feels this is how everyone perceives him constantly. I highly doubt that’s the case, rather how Rhett perceives his behavior based on his own projections. Feedback, good, yes. But the laughing and confidence Rhett has almost made it feel condescending at times, as I’ve felt with Rhett toward Link before.
I think Link displayed a level of maturity that I'm not sure I would've been able to muster. I probably would've viewed Rhett's comments as hurtful criticism and shut the discussion down and missed the opportunity to know it was being told to me from a place of love and kindness not in an effort to point out my flaws. I have probably missed opportunities for growth by being very defensive throughout my life. Thank you for this podcast it was tough to watch but enlightening. It has the potential to help both Link and I.
@LunaMoonblood Link himself said it was helpful feedback and that he asked for it. He even said multiple times to not criticize Rhett or judge him harshly. But I'm sure you know better than Link himself cause you're obviously the armchair psychology expert here 🙄
I think Link handled this episode very gracefully. You can tell he’s really trying to take the things Rhett’s saying into consideration, he really cares.
I can feel the anger but yet him trying to control his emotions because I've went through this like a few times it feels like you're being talked down too and in a way you are
So much in the comments about Link doing an amazing job processing the conversation (and I agree), but can I shout out Rhett for speaking with such honest and gentle love? The way he picked his words with care but was direct and truthful shows not only how much he clearly loves Link, but also how much he respects him and trusts him to listen. He's a spectacular communicator. I understand why they're so good at maintaining relationships. People who can sit down and do this on the fly are rare beings.
I think if they had this conversation in private, Rhett may have gotten more confrontational. He seems really anxious that he may be wrong or out of line (which he isn't), perhaps due to the two-parter about Link's competitiveness.
@@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep It’s this perception of Rhett that causes him to feel anxious. From the impression I get, Rhett seems like the more gentle/socially aware/interpersonally effective one. So, no, in private, I think Link would’ve freaked out, not Rhett. Rhett is the guy who went from being yelled at by his neighbour, to exchanging Christmas gifts with them.
Link's constant reassurance that he's listening, that he wants the feedback, that he's open is just so vulnerable and mature. Honestly one of my favorite episodes.
He didn't seem very open to the feedback (except until the very end), shifting the blame to everyone else besides himself and insisting that he's just joking and that he's only making fun of himself. Only towards the end does it seem to sink in that his actions can be a burden to the people he loves around him.
@@hola542 a lot of that was to divert the flak that Rhett would have gotten like he did after the “competitive” podcast. Link wasn’t assuring Rhett that he asked for the feedback, he was assuring the audience
Big personal growth I saw on this episode. Actually teared up a little, felt really beautiful to be privy to a big personal development and personal responsibility. I feel like, Rhett & Link has helped me personally grow by watching and growing with themselves so publicly. Very good episode, I feel like Rhett should be proud of his personal communication, amd most importantly, Link should be proud of himself for his opened mindedness and desire for self growth. Great Episode!
This was a master class in how to have a tough conversation with someone you love. On one hand, you have an individual who feels comfortable enough speaking honestly about how actions he has witnessed makes him feel - but doesn't weave a tale of negativity. On the other hand, you have an individual who feels comfortable enough to actually listen and absorb what is being said, and not lash out. Neither of these things are easy and to be able to successfully navigate a conversation like this should be commended. If more people were able to communicate like this, imagine what the world would be like.
On one hand you have a narcissist and on the other you have a gullible rich child with zero memory. This was impossible to watch and I've watched thousands of hours of their content over the years. A true therapist's dream!!
It is a powerful thing to say. I hope one day he realizes he should have said that same thing to Angie when he went through the line a second time. If we can get mad at strangers and be rude to them, we can also apologize to them as well. I’ve had many customers apologize to me. I ALWAYS appreciate it a lot. It makes me feel safer and like they see me as a human with feelings. That’s always nice. I’ve apologized to people when I get mad or I am inconsiderate. Usually, I let them know it’s not their fault and they didn’t deserve to be treated like that. I let them know they deserve to be respected, and I that I wasn’t respecting them.
@@jeteaze A few weeks ago, I got into an argument with a mcdonalds manager while I was in the drive thru line. I was absolutely in the wrong. I remember calling my husband and telling him "I feel like shit, I was wrong, I need to go back and apologize". I did, I went in and I found the manager and I apologized. I had been a jerk for zero reason, and that's not on her.
@@Maggie365 It's a powerful thing to apologize when you know you have not treated someone the way you would want to be treated. How we interact with others has a cascade effect, and it seems there are many times now that we just "escalate", as they talked about here. That person then goes into a future interaction already in a defensive state, and then no one really listens to anyone, and next thing you know we are all at war. Good for you to try to keep some peace.
That Superman massage was such a beautiful analogy for Link it legit almost made me cry. At first I felt a bit bad for him because I was worried this would turn into Rhett and Jenna making him feel bad for something he was already embarrassed about but it actually evolved into a really beautiful conversation and I feel grateful that you shared it with us.
@@SimonVanliew26 Chase has been working with them since 2014, and Mythical was much smaller then, so he has probably spent a lot of one on one time with Rhett and Link. It is possible to have a good relationship with your boss, especially when the boss has similar interests to you (and is probably footing some of the bill. :P)
@@SimonVanliew26 It's very clear this isn't a "normal" workplace (in a good way), it would be different if a worker at subway was going on a trip with their manager, you know? The closest thing I feel like I can compare it to would be if a producer on a movie/tv show hung out with the director, which isn't that uncommon imo
The vulnerability, conflict, and discomfort in this episode was so incredible and almost beautiful. This was some tough shit to work through on the internet. Thanks Rhett, Link, and Jenna for this conversation.
@@angelparker6533yeah, once i discovered that could be possibility for me and doing my own research since, i'm mote aware how others might not have a diagnosis yet and are dealing with so much on their own... man, it's brutal.
As someone actively in therapy, this is a beautiful and eye-opening conversation, and I appreciate Link for sharing this with us. I think it's important to note that self-awareness can be difficult and hearing this feedback, processing it correctly, and learning from these experiences can take time but it doesn't mean you're a bad person.
I just want to say that Jenna handled the redirection to her toward the end so professionally. She established a clear boundary that she could only speak to this as his employee and that was the only input she was comfy giving. Boundaries like that are so important for someone who is as involved in their employers’ lives as Jenna has to be for her job. 👏
I really liked that Link said they were on the same side & asked fans not to pick a side. This was an interesting look at how relationships & people grow, change, & morph over time. Remaing in the relationship during that growth is a choice. Neither Rhett nor Link are right or wrong or better or worse than the other. None of us are perfect.... we're all human. ❤
As a shy person, I actually love interacting with people like Link, but I can understand where Rhett is coming from. I just wish Rhett would understand that his feelings of needing to “babysit” Link all the time is also something that should be worked on. The feeling of needing to “accommodate” Link in every social situation isn’t exactly fair. It’s as if he’s trying to protect his own image through what Link does. There’s a balance in a friendship/relationship - Link could “reel it in” a little, but the movie theater example didn’t seem fair to me.
I agree, it's just that when Link says things like he "likes to be handled" and that he "lets other people pick up the pieces," it is understandable why after nearly 40 years of friendship with Rhett and over 20 years marriage to Christy, Rhett and Christy have kinda fallen into the "babysitting" roles. Maybe Rhett and Christy feel they need to accommodate Link because Link expects to be accommodated.
It feels like he IS just being himself and whether or not they’re going to vibe with him or not is up to that person and right idk if it’s fair to him for them to think he shouldn’t be that way. It’s not harmful, if people like him or don’t then that’s what’s gonna happen.
@@halatiny6537 If you're going to expect others to pick up the pieces in social interactions from you "being yourself," then it's only fair that the people picking up the pieces get to tell you how they feel about being put in that position. I remember the guys talking about a time where Link was talking to a couple that asked Link about having kids. Link was "being himself," but later the couple told Rhett that Link's response to them was aggressive. I don't think it's fair to Rhett that he gets put in situations like that, where he has to answer for Link's behavior/interactions with people. I think what Rhett is getting at is is that he'd just like a bit more consideration on Link's part.
@@iva9427likes to be handled aka likes to do what he wants regardless of others feelings or lets other people pick up the pieces is both childish and slightly narcissistic. He doesn’t seem to have any regard for anyone but himself.
I relate SO much to Link on this one. Sometimes people interpret things I say in such the wrong way that I didn't intend and/or I offend/make people mad/uncomfortable without realizing it. It's incredibly frustrating and honestly kind of scary to not realize or perceive how you're coming across in the way that so many others do. I don't know, I've just always felt a commonality in personality to Link and this is a big part of it.
@@jeccdog7584 By "interpreting things in the wrong way," @ash meowed is saying that things are interpreted in a way that was genuinely not intended or anticipated. They say things that accidentally come across as offensive. I do the same.
I have really bad social anxiety and sometimes I feel more like link, trying to be myself and also being anxious about how I'm coming off I end up saying th3 wrong stuff
Makes me love Link even more. For being a human; for being a big boy while facing embarrassment; and for being so grownup while taking suggestions. One of my favorite episodes.
I think it’s important to acknowledge that a tendency to escalation could possibly be more of a trauma/anxiety response than a personality trait. We all have unique responses to stress due often to childhood experiences, and with work we can learn to take more control of ourselves in any given moment. Thinking ahead is good, but healing the parts of ourselves that respond frantically to certain situations is super helpful.
This really resonated with me... you're absolutely right. I probably would have reacted similarly in this situation bc of some things I've experienced in the past, I'd immediately go into fight or flight specifically fight
"A filter is an act of love." -Rhett McLaughlin The way that Rhett explains things and speaks to Link is so full of love and kindness, so many times it literally made me tear up 💚 Rhett your heart is so big! Good title for the next album lol 😂
It was awesome to see Link accepting critiques and displaying that he was understanding both why he felt why he did and why others around him would feel differently as well Rhett understanding that some of the issues he feels could be a product of his own personality as well. You can see how much therapy has helped both of them effectively communicate their problems with each other while ensuring that the other understands why they feel that way and that they actually understand and hear what is being said to them! Awesome to see this put out as an example of conflict resolution!
This episode increased my respect and adoration for Link tenfold. His ability to accept constructive feedback - even though it was a tough pill to swallow - and be graceful and willing to change was wildly impressive. It reflects enormous growth and emotional/personal maturity. So few people are able to invite personal feedback like that and be able to hear it, process it, and accept it. Many people would have just shut down or gotten argumentative. ❤you Link!
This was so cool to hear, bc I approach social situations like Rhett. I never understood those that have the Link approach, but for some reason I never stopped to considered that sometimes they genuinely don’t know how they come across. And to see how upset that made Link to realize, gave me a whole new perspective and so much more empathy for the Links of the world. Thank you guys for sharing this!
Absolutely agree, I'm more the Rhett in this scenario too and I often go straight to frustration in response - great to see both of them talk this difference through!
I am more Link. And I lost friends not knowing why. They just did not tell me and I did not know. It took me a loong time to understand a bit of it. And I never wanted to harm anybody or be rude ... This is the reason why I appreciate Rhett even more now.
I am Link. I have no filter and I say things before I even have a chance to think. I have always been told and perceive myself as honest and not caring what people think. I realized that it is not always fun whenever my sister, a grown married woman told me that she was nervous to tell me she was pregnant with her second child because she thought I would yell at her. I have had common threads like that of people telling me that I react that way. I realize that i do that now and try to be aware of it, but I find it so difficult to be someone different than who I am. That is an unconscious response I have to things, and I do it before I even have time to think. It is really hard to try and stop yourself. I relate to Link so much. I often will find myself in something like an argument where I can feel myself escalating it, but I dont know how to stop myself.
Totally cried. I hear what Rhett is saying. I understand Link. I think Link said it best when he said he was impulsive. Might be because he was an only child and didn't have to real back anything because he was the center of attention at home. Thats what he learned. He's friendly and if I could take a guess, he hates socially awkward silences. But LOVE the love in this between two best friends, having a great, and open conversation. Link, you made me cry. I love your personality and hope to meet you both one day! Thanks for sharing, y'all!
@@galaxygrl_o what? You realize almost every single person that reads your comment will take that in a wrong way? Maybe you should rewatch this episode and take into consideration how your words could affect other people. Maybe you didn’t mean in a negative way but how else is someone suppose to take that? And the comment you are commenting on has nothing to do with what you said? You completely turned the conversation into something that it shouldn’t have been. Not everyone reads social cues the same. Every one has a different personality and expresses themselves differently. Just because someone is different than you or similar to someone else on the spectrum doesn’t mean that they are or that other people should think that. Such a weird way to steer the conversation. Not a very healthy way to have conversations about social interactions
@@yungbootyheadmcgee Why should it be taken as rude to suggest someone might be neurodivergent? Only if you think being on the spectrum is a bad thing. Link clearly thinks differently than most people. That doesn't make him a bad person or the way he thinks a bad thing. So why would being neurodivergent be a insult? As someone with a host off neurodivergent close friends and family, I refuse to see it as anything negative as these are some of the best people in my world!
@@yungbootyheadmcgee no one took it the wrong way except you. He reminds me a lot of my cousin who doesn’t read social cues and he is neurodivergent. I have many other friends and family on the spectrum. If you think I meant it in a negative way there’s something deeply wrong with you.
@@galaxygrl_ I’m the only one who said something about it. And he reminds me of a lot of people that I know who are not neurodivergent. I have many friends and family that arnt on the spectrum. And do you not read my comments? I clearly said “maybe you didn’t mean anything by it and your intentions arnt to be rude…” So don’t start that shit with me. Saying something’s deeply wrong with me. It isn’t that serious and you don’t need to resort to belittling me
Something I think Link doesn't consider, and maybe the reason movie theater guy was so cold, is that his love of interacting with strangers is something that a lot of other people DESPISE. A lot of people are introverts, and one of the worst things that can happen to an introvert while they're in public is a stranger deciding to unnecessarily interact with them. His source of "feeling free" is many other people's source of intense anxiety. He might need to adjust his analysis of who he does that to so he's sure he's interacting with another extrovert.
Was definitely thinking this as an introvert - I am enjoying myself BECAUSE I'm alone, but some extroverts think they're rescuing me from it. We're all different and that's what makes life interesting, but also difficult haha!
Yes! Small talk with a stranger is fine, and considered super normal where I'm from. But as an introvert, I don't really want to get into a full on conversation with a stranger.
This is so true! I relate to this because strangers talking to me is one of the things I am most anxious about when I go out in public. I barely want to speak to people I like, so having complete strangers try to converse with me is so uncomfortable.
I have so much respect for both Rhett and Link in this episode. Rhett managed a difficult conversation gracefully and came at a problem he's been considering with lots of love and understanding, and Link listened and accepted criticism with openness and care for the people he cares about. Both sides of this conversation were so instructive for me, because while I would definitely be the Rhett in this particular scenario, I tend to be scared of having conversations like this regardless of what side I'm on. This shows how difficult conversations can really strengthen a bond when both people are committed to honesty with kindness.
Rhetts body language is so funny during Links story. He starts facing away from him, towards his cup like he's subconsciously trying to distance himself. 🤣
This is a rollercoaster of an episode lol. A favorite for me this year so far. Btw, I have a friend *exactly* like what Rhett is describing. Needing to almost track what your friend is doing in a conversation because you know they tend to be more... "loose" I'll say with what they bring up or say. I love them to death, but I absolutely get it.
As someone with AuDHD this was really interesting to watch. I've had a progression similar to what Rhett described where I used to be much more reserved and therefore didn't say much out of pocket. I feel like I'm going to cycle my whole life through "I want to make connections with people and be myself and that's okay" and "I hate myself/others and I'd rather be left alone because everyone prefers a lie". The first one sounds a lot healthier. The second one makes people like me more. No wonder so many people with these disorders off themselves-- it's either feel like you're living a lie or risk being constantly chastised. Therapy has helped me understand this, but there's no cure for these disorders. I hope that whatever is going on with Link, he's okay.
I really appreciate having gotten to hear this conversation, thank you so much for sharing it. This was such a beautiful example of great, healthy communication. I've always admired and respected you two endlessly for the way you communicate, but this was a level of rawness and unfiltered honesty that I didn't expect even from Ear Biscuits, and I appreciate it so much. That was such a valuable conversation. Link being so receptive to feedback, and Rhett being so constructive with his criticism, making sure Link didn't feel attacked, and going out of his way to ask Link how he was interpreting it was so wonderful to listen to. That last part, specifically, Rhett saying "tell me what you're hearing" (paraphrasing) stood out to me, I'm taking a mental note of that. That's such a great way to prevent misunderstandings and any hurt feelings or resentment stemming from them, it's brilliant. I strive to handle communication in my own relationships and learn how to express myself the way you guys do, this is so inspiring. Again, thank you so much for sharing. And Link, you really took all of that in stride. I think your willingness to grow and improve is really admirable and I respect you so much for it. You're a really great guy. Love ya!
From this psychologist mythical beast: Link you have strongly controlled your impulses for most of your life. As Rhett explained, he had been watching Link's "sky diving impulse" coming out more over the years. It's counterphobic and freeing for Link to let go. Biologically speaking it's very rewarding to get dopamine hits from wreckless abandon knowing that your close friends and family will help smooth things over.
It’s also extremely selfish because I’m sure everyone would love to be able to do that and say or do things with reckless abandon and have someone fallow behind and smooth everything over for you. It’s toxic and abuse behavior toward the people closest to you.
Link is so freaking loveable. He's lucky that whatever this thing is that comes out sideways sometimes is usually innocuous and he has a lot of people who know him well and love him (because he's so full of love) that help to mitigate the bits that come out sideways. I hope he can find a way to keep being this beautiful human that he is while also bringing a little more consideration to the people around him. I agree with Rhett that this could be something that makes him feel even more whole, ultimately.
This podcast episode, I feel, is an important one to watch and see instead of simply listening to it. Link's face when he takes in all of Rhett's information speak volumes about this whole situation. He really does care about bettering himself. I think it is great how these two best friends can communicate to eachother this way. It is why they are so easy to listen to and watch. You can feel their love.
This was such a healthy conversation that could have gone wrong very easily if the participants weren't so genuine with their feelings and responses. It's a masterclass in how to maintain a friendship. Rhett's a quieter, more introverted, introspective kind of guy, and Link is just out there - an unpredictable whirling dervish of enthusiasm and emotion. I'm only about a decade older than Link, and he's an attractive silver fox, but I think the feelings I have for him are oddly maternal - he's got such little brother energy. Link is child-like, in a really wonderful way; there's an innocence to him. His emotions may bubble right under the surface, his mouth may outpace his brain, and his lies may be laughingly unbelievable, but he has a genuine sense of wonder, a desire to be safe, loved, cared for and just be seen as a good person. At least once a week, I wish I could give him a hug. Today's podcast is a reminder to give grace to people who may be saying or doing something out of the norm, and to infuse grace into difficult conversations with the ones you love the most.
This was such a good episode of EarBiscuits. I’ve often heard it said that the best parts of us walk in step with the worst. In other words.. Link loves people, a lot. He cares what they think, hates being embarrassed, wants to take control of everything to make things the best they can be, not even for himself! But because he sees how to make things better for others. (Or how he thinks it’ll be better for others.) And all that love, desire to help, control, etc, is so easy to come out the wrong way. I know cause I have family members that are the exact same way. And in the end, I just want to remind everyone, Link loves people a lot. And I think we can all agree with love link back. 🤍
The worker immediately assuming Link was trying to get away with something instead of it being a simple misunderstanding also contributed to escalating the situation. Like Link paid for the pass and didn't know they were not transferable
1:09:30 I feel like he goes into self preservation mode because the situation is unfolding in an unexpected way. I'm like Link and I like to have thought through and planned situations out ahead of time, to have some control over my reactions in the moment. Because something is completely catching you of guard, and maybe is a little unfair, that's when I get defensive
The only thing I would say is you're only looking at it from link's point of view. She might deal with people constantly trying to do this; and possibly from an even more malicious standpoint.
I completely agree that Angie escalated first. If you can't do your job without making assumptions and accusing everyone who makes a mistake of doing something that you have to deal with regularly, you need to take time off or talk to your supervisor about a difference in roles, resources, or delivery. She absolutely escalated this first. I'm not saying Link should have responded in any way he did, but I completely understand why he did. She absolutely has the ability to do her job without making accusations or implications against potentially innocent customers. If she can't do that, that is her problem as an employee. If Link had made an honest mistake, the way she approached it from the start would be considered slightly unprofessional and abrasive. No she didn't "cause" his reaction.
I think conversations like these are one of the few, great aspects of the internet. This felt like one of those core bonding experiences with people that you kinda know but are the closest with, but in a magical instant everything changes and you become friends. On another note, I relate to Link's eccentric, unpredictable personality in social contexts, and I lived vicariously through him this episode. It's also so sad (and frightening) to think that there are countless people (especially people in power - mostly men) who live in that blurry zone of causing chaos, yet they do not have a support system built of people who really love them. I think that gives "loving each other" a whole new meaning. Thanks for being so honest
To be fair she could have used a little lateral thinking when she saw he was with a group of children. Was the card swapped? Maybe one of those kids is Michael? Is there a completely innocent explanation as to why this man has this young person’s card? They both handled it wrong but Link’s instinct about being cornered wasn’t totally off the mark..
Thank you!! People are driving me crazy saying that it was smart for her to immediately go the even slightly confrontational route instead of just considering ANY other possibility at all first? If you start accusing or implicating every single customer who might be making a mistake of violating a policy, you need a day off work!
I have to say this was a really tough episode to listen to - I am sure this is not the first time these two have had this discussion but it is the first time I have been witness to it. I couldn't help but feel sorry for Link - finding out something you doing is burdening others when that something is second nature, brings you joy and is well intentioned. That is a hard thing to grasp and makes you question your past experiences.. I had a great time doing this but did I ruin this experience for those around me.. that's a heavy thought and made me really uncomfortable listening.
Yea I agree. It’s not pleasant to be witness to someone’s faults being called out publicly even if there was an attempt to deliver it in a caring manner.
Hello Link! I'm a flight attendant, and during training we are taught about deescelating issues & confronting agitated guests. We are taught thoroughly not to embarrass upset customers, because often when people feel publicly embarrassed or humiliated, they enter their fight or flight mode. Ergo, more agitated attitude, arguments, and further making the issue even more uncomfortable, difficult, untimely, and sometimes even hostile. We are taught to politely listen to peoples concerns, speak to them personally in a quieter tone as not to embarrass them, and make them feel understood. She was trying to embarrass you, and it is not a professional or, frankly, smart response to handling guests. You're still good!
THANK YOU! Nobody is willing to hear me out that completely aside from the technical components of this argument or whatever, it was actively unsafe for this employee to approach a man with a concealed identity on a mountain like this. Even if she was worried for the child safety, under no circumstances should you approach somebody that you are "concerned about" like that. "It's her job" my ass. If she were my employee she'd get one warning and re-training, before becoming a fired former liability.
Rhett openly saying what could Link improve at certain soc.situations and not just throwing him overboard is the most "we are best friends" thing. Very few people are ready to give a feedback and in such a thoughtful way. And Link, not being happy but listening WITHOUT being "I did not REALLY want this but I will pretend that I am OK" is so very "my bestie I am listening because I know you, it is good for me and you are talking from the place of love and I know it is not easy for you too". Boys, I love you two.
I really appreciate your vulnerability Link! I have the same compulsion, actually. I like me and I like seeing other people react to me sometimes without regard for how it affects those around me. Not always a bad thing! Confidence is great. It's more fun alone tho hahaha
I think it's understandable for Link to feel defensive in an unexpected and stressful situation like that. It doesn't make him a jerk, It makes him human. It sounds like he had a fight or flight response to something that made him feel cornered and like he was being interrogated. He clearly understands that he shouldn't have reacted the way he did and I think this can be a good learning opportunity to be better prepared for such hiccups in the future.
This conversation is so helpful for me. Someone very close to me is a lot like Link, and this has given me a way to talk to them about a similar topic.
This was incredibly vulnerable and I feel like I shouldn’t have heard this conversation but at the same time I’m so glad I did. It was really nice to hear clear communication between the two of you. I feel like I learned something. Thank you for sharing
So many people have already stated what I'm feeling (much better than I could) so I'll just say thank you for allowing me to witness this conversation.
Wonderful episode ❤ I laughed so hard and then cried. I love how honest and open they are with each other. I love how Rhett never tried to make Link feel bad about himself while still telling him how he feels. And how open Link is to hearing hard things. Makes me love them even more!
This is truly the best episode ever because, to me, it's more real and honest and actually opens who you both are up more than an agreed upon topic that you can fluff out for an hour. Great episode!
As a person who leads with sarcasm more often than not, I can really relate to this episode. I wish I had someone like Rhett to share loving feedback with me about how it was making others feel, and I wish I was as mature as Link to know that conversations like this are essential to grow personally. I love you guys, and I'm on team growth with you all ❤
There has clearly been so much growth in how Rhett and Link can pass and accept constructive criticisms with sensitivity and grace. I appreciate you guys opening up so much, as you have been doing for years now. I'm learning a lot about communication and can also find points I relate to and reflect on myself. Therapy dupe!
This was such a helpful Ear Biscuit! I'm so much like Link in so many ways and this gave me some self insight. I've never had anyone explain things like Rhett has and it makes sense. He is saying it with such love. Thank you Link for being open to having this on the podcast. I know it couldn't have been easy to hear even if it was asked for. 💞
wow, this was such a vulnerable conversation we got to witness between two people that care and love each other. I've been the person on the receiving end like Link and the person in Rhett's situation, and as tough as it is in the moment, it strengthens the relationship. Love the jokes and silliness but hearing them unknowingly find themselves into a vulnerable, honest inteeractions is what makes this podcast so endearing.
The Superman analogy was profound. Like... Unironically. It really was. Also I relate to Link's minor shortcomings, but more so how he processes or "defends" himself. I do a very similar thing, and I tend to find retrospectively it comes off in a way I don't intend. When I do it, its so whoever I'm talking to understands what my thought process was and my motivation, not necessarily a defense of the action. But yes, as other comments here have said, towards the end Link made it clear he was listening and appreciative of the insight of his friends perception of him . And the ability to listen to (positive) constrictive feedback is something too many adults lack the ability to take in without shutting the other person down.
This ended up being one of my favourite Ear Biscuits. I love the honest conversation. You always make me reflect on my own life and relationships and that's what I love most about this podcast. Thank you for having such thoughtful conversations for all of us to listen to.
One of my favorite EB episodes to date. Love your friendship and ability to be honest with one another. That's the good stuff lifelong friendships are made of 🥰
I have 2 people in my life I am constantly concerned with in social situations because they behave this way. I love them dearly and I need them in my life, but it is so validating to hear other people talk about this so reasonably.
Started out fun and then became very therapeutic. Absolutely love hearing someone say something honest and then the other person listening without instantly becoming defensive. It’s human nature to defend yourself, but Link sat there listening and took it all in and came to a conclusion on how he could act differently or why he acts the way he does. I got completely absorbed in listening to two people in therapy session with Jenna as the therapist. Absolutely love watching and listening to these guys and hope they never stop. Much love to you all GMM!
This podcast was amazing. I feel like I have learned many life lessons with Rhett and Link over the years, and it's amazing to see the growth firsthand. Being human is weird, but we have to continue to talk about it. Thank you guys for this one, truly.
The honest conversation at the end, this is one of the reasons I love you guys so much. The world would be better if people could have talks like this. ❤
This was such a healthy and eye opening discussion. I listened on Spotify but knew I had to watch the video when it came out. I too, like Link, struggle with filtering my actions and while I don’t have a large internet audience, I also don’t have anyone honest enough In my life to have this conversation with me, so this really hit home. Also kudos to link for being so open and mature about this, Rhett too! It does take courage on both parts to both confront someone about their behaviour and how it makes you feel and to receive that criticism gracefully and sincerely. God I love mythical.
The title of this truly didn't prepare me the depth of this episode. It was so cool to see these two friends have such a raw and mature conversation. Thank you for sharing this!
Angie really did him a favor by just trying to get him to be honest but Angie didn’t exact go about it the easiest either tho, but legitimately this story could’ve ended up with link arrested 😂 Rhett is a great friend to him and it makes sense why they remain so close. Rhett needs to listen to links passions a little bit more because I knew how much he enjoyed scuba just by how much he talks about it, lmao. Really really healthy conversation between them. So nice to see friendship in action. Links openness and Rhett’s honesty are clutch.
@LunaMoonblood yeah he is. He’s honest with link, he’s coming to the conversation with love, he made link laugh despite it being a tough conversation, and he has no plans on abandoning the friendship despite links missteps. It’s weird that none of that is good to you.
@@emilydavis162 If she had been wrong and Link had made an honest mistake, we would have considered her behavior slightly abrasive and unprofessional. Nobody is saying she should be fired or is a bad person, or even that she caused his reaction, or that he should have reacted in the way he did for any reason. But it's the plain truth that she didn't best set this situation up for success. Is "equally efficient and kind" delivery her job? Honestly that depends most on whoever's supervising her hours and cutting her checks, not on our own, her, or R+L's perceptions of whether it "should be her job." Personally, I would prefer that my employees approach these situations a bit more gently and with more nuance, in order to reduce the likelihood of escalations, because you never know who is going to react like Link or worse. It's not about blaming her or trying to not hold Link accountable, In all honesty approaching it the way she did with a less innocently frustrated person than Link could have been physically unsafe for her or other customers. Being the slightest bit confrontational with a potentially dishonest man with a concealed identity at your job is just not the move in general. Especially while stuck on a mountain.
Honestly such a touching episode. I find that I have a lot in common with Link when it comes to social interactions so this really gave me some advice too. Especially about understanding when your strengths can be weaknesses.
Aww this one was tough. I appreciated how Rhett and Link managed not to argue while things were being said that could've been taken the wrong way if Link and Rhett didn't actually love and respect one another as much as they do. I have never had anyone in my life thar I could be that open and honest with that wouldn't lash out at me if I did so. I'm usually the nicer person in any friendship, the one that resolves issues, the peacekeepers, the negotiator but I think even I would've had a tough time hearing things that were expressed in this podcast. I'm glad Link knows he's loved and that no one wants him to change who he is just how he acts on occassionally. I have sometimes wondered if Link has mild ADHD because he gets so excited and animated in certain situations it sometimes feels like his good emotions are overriding his more logical thought processes. Sort of like when younger children are excited and uninhibited. That's not a bad way to be except in certain situations in other situations it's fun and it can be endearing. Don't be sad Link, people love you and you are most definately not a big baby jerk.
Great episode! Thank you Link, Rhett, and Jenna for your willingness to let us all listen in on this conversation. Wonderful to see an example of healthy and open communication.
This is such a beautiful episode on how to have a tough conversation with someone you love and link I would’ve cried and felt pinned to a wall if I were you but when you said “ I asked for this and I appreciate the feedback “ was so amazing! Thank you guys for being role models on how to give feedback and how to receive it 💜
I saw this episode at exactly the right time. I recently had a discussion with a friend that I'm still reflecting on, and the way that rhett and link talk to each other, how they're discussing this even if they don't see eye to eye, accepting criticism and showing respect for each other, is actually very valuable for me going forward.
That ending when Link says "And I'd like to apologize... to Angie..." killed me 😂😂😂 I loved that. Great episode. I learned that I think I have more in common with Link than I thought (including the ability to make good wrap-up joke) lol.
@@ilanam3398 Yes I agree. I love Link, but wouldn't describe him as self-aware. I think that was Rhett's whole point. He is unaware of how he comes off in social situations. I'm glad he's willing to listen and work on it though.
listening to the podcast version this morning, I knew I had to come and read the comments. I am definitely someone who has the same problem sometimes as link and I have talked about it with my best friend and other peopleclose to me. I have a lot of confidence, I don’t always think before I speak, I can come off a little aggressive, and I know that I have a disposition occasionally to hurt people from a lack of thinking! But If i have any advice, (especially as an empath) it’s just a matter of being more aware in the moment and taking an extra second to analyze the situation before making an ass of myself😂 (and maybe add some apologizing in there) best of luck Link, i’m with ya buddy❤
Well, that took a turn, didn't it? Half way through this I was about to go watch a movie and leave the rest of the podcast for another time but I'm so glad I didn't! Year after year these two set a great example of how friends should be. The way they interact with each other in such an honest, vulnerable way... It makes me want to be a better friend!
Honestly, I feel like Link handled this with a great deal of humility and grace. Without saying too much, as I obviously can't judge, I feel like I relate to Link in a lot of ways. I know they're both in therapy and incredibly open minded already. I'd love for them both to look into EMDR and have a discussion about it. It may not be for everyone, but in my case, it's really helped me connect the dots between where I came from and who I am today. Thanks once again for being open and sharing with us.
Can i just say that Link youre not alone. Im the exact same way and i notice it in every single episode of GMM i watch. Im sensitive and i have so much energy, i have so much love and although i have a heart of gold and i want peace and love, the first initial thing i say can make people second guess me. But if you truly knew me, how rhett knows you, people would know that were not mean, malicious or weird, we just have so much love and energy that we dont know what to do with it! I think Link you are a HSP Highly sensitive person, when theres so much to deal with in our lives and in our head, we become forgetful and clouded and easily overwhelmed. But our genuine caring personality is what makes us who we are. I think you are so strong and if you infact are anything like me (which i think u are) then you should be incredibly proud of yourself and never ever change who you are, it took me a long time to embrace who i was and the changes and the hyperness, the awkwardness and the rest of it, but it makes me who i am and it makes you who you are too. Im so happy you have such a loving friend and family, but please dont ever be upset or ashamed or hold back your real self. People will either love you or hate you and if they hate you then you werent meant to be in their lives anyway and its their loss as youre a beautiful and unique human being, i sense just how big your heart is and i think its beautiful. Thank you both for this episode its proven your strengths ❤ Been a mythical beast for 11 years now and watching GMM is what gave me the courage to stop Masking my "weird side" so thank you both ❤
when link starts to ask a question immediately when rhett finishes, then stops himself and says "im gonna take a breath here. thank you for the feedback." genuinely so inspiring...it's so easy to get defensive under this sort of criticism and he took it so well. what a role model
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Little Michael really went through a lot in this episode
Really though 😅
I think Big Michael (aka Link) went through a lot this episode too. Maybe he'll grow from it.
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The best part is "Angie's" coworker is gonna hear this and tell her there's a whole episode of ear biscuits all about her 🤣🤣🤣
Lmfao😂
😂😂😂TRUE😅
I really empathize with Link getting emotional to the point of crying at the end. The conversation was clearly not to scold/accuse Link (the feedback was coming from a place of love) but to acknowledge an area of improvement, that you feel is a big part of your personality and with all honesty have good intentions with, makes you really vulnerable to the point of crying. Like Link said, it's not to make them feel bad about him or to be manipulative. Personally if I was in this kind of conversation I would have cried sooner.
Personally I think Twas a lil judgy. Rhett says everything he thinks as if it’s fact, and it’s sad to think Link now feels this is how everyone perceives him constantly. I highly doubt that’s the case, rather how Rhett perceives his behavior based on his own projections. Feedback, good, yes. But the laughing and confidence Rhett has almost made it feel condescending at times, as I’ve felt with Rhett toward Link before.
@@ravenblue Sounds like you're perceiving Rhett's behavior based on your own projections 🙃
I think Link displayed a level of maturity that I'm not sure I would've been able to muster. I probably would've viewed Rhett's comments as hurtful criticism and shut the discussion down and missed the opportunity to know it was being told to me from a place of love and kindness not in an effort to point out my flaws. I have probably missed opportunities for growth by being very defensive throughout my life. Thank you for this podcast it was tough to watch but enlightening. It has the potential to help both Link and I.
@@ravenblue thats an area of improvement for rhett i agree im agreeing with everyone currently
@LunaMoonblood Link himself said it was helpful feedback and that he asked for it. He even said multiple times to not criticize Rhett or judge him harshly. But I'm sure you know better than Link himself cause you're obviously the armchair psychology expert here 🙄
I think Link handled this episode very gracefully. You can tell he’s really trying to take the things Rhett’s saying into consideration, he really cares.
I have had this conversation so many times, and I personally end up crying because I feel so bad. Link handles it really, really well.
I agree. And it might be hard to hear publicly without being defensive.
The edit did him dirty too. There was something said in the middle that made him really defensive
I totally agree, and I’ll also say my heart broke when you could hear the quaver in his voice at the end
I can feel the anger but yet him trying to control his emotions because I've went through this like a few times it feels like you're being talked down too and in a way you are
So much in the comments about Link doing an amazing job processing the conversation (and I agree), but can I shout out Rhett for speaking with such honest and gentle love? The way he picked his words with care but was direct and truthful shows not only how much he clearly loves Link, but also how much he respects him and trusts him to listen. He's a spectacular communicator.
I understand why they're so good at maintaining relationships. People who can sit down and do this on the fly are rare beings.
Agreed, 100%. You can tell they have lots of love for each other.
I think if they had this conversation in private, Rhett may have gotten more confrontational. He seems really anxious that he may be wrong or out of line (which he isn't), perhaps due to the two-parter about Link's competitiveness.
@@BonJoviBeatlesLedZep It’s this perception of Rhett that causes him to feel anxious. From the impression I get, Rhett seems like the more gentle/socially aware/interpersonally effective one. So, no, in private, I think Link would’ve freaked out, not Rhett. Rhett is the guy who went from being yelled at by his neighbour, to exchanging Christmas gifts with them.
@@wackybrattyx meanwhile Link is the guy who stopped listening to music because he had a fight with his cousin who also liked music lmao
Link's constant reassurance that he's listening, that he wants the feedback, that he's open is just so vulnerable and mature. Honestly one of my favorite episodes.
wait you're kidding right?! lmaooo
He didn't seem very open to the feedback (except until the very end), shifting the blame to everyone else besides himself and insisting that he's just joking and that he's only making fun of himself.
Only towards the end does it seem to sink in that his actions can be a burden to the people he loves around him.
The way you reassure people that you're listening is to listen, not to keep interrupting to defensively tell them that you're listening 💀
@@hola542 a lot of that was to divert the flak that Rhett would have gotten like he did after the “competitive” podcast.
Link wasn’t assuring Rhett that he asked for the feedback, he was assuring the audience
Big personal growth I saw on this episode. Actually teared up a little, felt really beautiful to be privy to a big personal development and personal responsibility. I feel like, Rhett & Link has helped me personally grow by watching and growing with themselves so publicly.
Very good episode, I feel like Rhett should be proud of his personal communication, amd most importantly, Link should be proud of himself for his opened mindedness and desire for self growth.
Great Episode!
This was a master class in how to have a tough conversation with someone you love. On one hand, you have an individual who feels comfortable enough speaking honestly about how actions he has witnessed makes him feel - but doesn't weave a tale of negativity. On the other hand, you have an individual who feels comfortable enough to actually listen and absorb what is being said, and not lash out. Neither of these things are easy and to be able to successfully navigate a conversation like this should be commended. If more people were able to communicate like this, imagine what the world would be like.
This stated my feelings perfectly!
On one hand you have a narcissist and on the other you have a gullible rich child with zero memory. This was impossible to watch and I've watched thousands of hours of their content over the years. A true therapist's dream!!
@@PriapismBoa is link the narcissist in this situation?
@@yumyuminmetumtumify Link is usually the one criticized for having a terrible memory. Not saying I agree or disagree, but just to clarify.
@@PriapismBoa i dont think rhett is a narcissist, seems quite empathetic to me. could be wrong though
"Well that's not fair to you, and I'm sorry" is one of the most honest and transparent things I've heard someone say. I'm loving therapy Link.
It is a powerful thing to say. I hope one day he realizes he should have said that same thing to Angie when he went through the line a second time.
If we can get mad at strangers and be rude to them, we can also apologize to them as well. I’ve had many customers apologize to me. I ALWAYS appreciate it a lot. It makes me feel safer and like they see me as a human with feelings. That’s always nice.
I’ve apologized to people when I get mad or I am inconsiderate. Usually, I let them know it’s not their fault and they didn’t deserve to be treated like that. I let them know they deserve to be respected, and I that I wasn’t respecting them.
@@jeteaze A few weeks ago, I got into an argument with a mcdonalds manager while I was in the drive thru line. I was absolutely in the wrong. I remember calling my husband and telling him "I feel like shit, I was wrong, I need to go back and apologize". I did, I went in and I found the manager and I apologized. I had been a jerk for zero reason, and that's not on her.
@@Maggie365 It's a powerful thing to apologize when you know you have not treated someone the way you would want to be treated. How we interact with others has a cascade effect, and it seems there are many times now that we just "escalate", as they talked about here. That person then goes into a future interaction already in a defensive state, and then no one really listens to anyone, and next thing you know we are all at war. Good for you to try to keep some peace.
@@jeteaze 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊 32:58 😊
That Superman massage was such a beautiful analogy for Link it legit almost made me cry.
At first I felt a bit bad for him because I was worried this would turn into Rhett and Jenna making him feel bad for something he was already embarrassed about but it actually evolved into a really beautiful conversation and I feel grateful that you shared it with us.
Chase watching this while packing for the scuba trip with Link he's been excited for: 😧
How much fun can you really have on your day off with your boss. Who only has you there for utility purposes and not to hang out.
@@BOOGiNS lol the fans of this show can’t imagine that the employees are actually employees and not besties with these millionaires.
@@SimonVanliew26 Chase has been working with them since 2014, and Mythical was much smaller then, so he has probably spent a lot of one on one time with Rhett and Link. It is possible to have a good relationship with your boss, especially when the boss has similar interests to you (and is probably footing some of the bill. :P)
@@SimonVanliew26 It's very clear this isn't a "normal" workplace (in a good way), it would be different if a worker at subway was going on a trip with their manager, you know? The closest thing I feel like I can compare it to would be if a producer on a movie/tv show hung out with the director, which isn't that uncommon imo
@@amandae8181 I mean, these guys are busy and the gmm cast is only there, when they need to make an episode..
It was kinda unexpected to hear this turn into a sort of intervention. It was almost upsetting at times, but ended up being very wholesome.
The vulnerability, conflict, and discomfort in this episode was so incredible and almost beautiful. This was some tough shit to work through on the internet. Thanks Rhett, Link, and Jenna for this conversation.
I agree.
totally relate to that “why am i like this” frustration cry. you’re a wonderful man, link. you’re loved by many for a reason 💗
Link I would have cried long before you in this conversation. You handled this with so much grace.
Agreed! I kinda was skimming the comments to see if someone else kinda felt the same way I did ❤😅
I'd feel absolutely awful. I kind of did in a second hand way
My perspective is that Link is an anxious person and it can come out as irritability/anger
This is how my anxiety presents itself. I hate that I react this way but I can’t help it.
Yup, right on the money. I deal with the same issue
I always assumed that he has the touch of tism
@@angelparker6533yeah, once i discovered that could be possibility for me and doing my own research since, i'm mote aware how others might not have a diagnosis yet and are dealing with so much on their own... man, it's brutal.
ADHD meds for Link?
(Yes)
As someone actively in therapy, this is a beautiful and eye-opening conversation, and I appreciate Link for sharing this with us. I think it's important to note that self-awareness can be difficult and hearing this feedback, processing it correctly, and learning from these experiences can take time but it doesn't mean you're a bad person.
I just want to say that Jenna handled the redirection to her toward the end so professionally. She established a clear boundary that she could only speak to this as his employee and that was the only input she was comfy giving. Boundaries like that are so important for someone who is as involved in their employers’ lives as Jenna has to be for her job. 👏
I really liked that Link said they were on the same side & asked fans not to pick a side. This was an interesting look at how relationships & people grow, change, & morph over time. Remaing in the relationship during that growth is a choice. Neither Rhett nor Link are right or wrong or better or worse than the other. None of us are perfect.... we're all human. ❤
S-tier Ear Biscuits episode. I laughed. I cried. I died inside.
As a shy person, I actually love interacting with people like Link, but I can understand where Rhett is coming from. I just wish Rhett would understand that his feelings of needing to “babysit” Link all the time is also something that should be worked on. The feeling of needing to “accommodate” Link in every social situation isn’t exactly fair. It’s as if he’s trying to protect his own image through what Link does. There’s a balance in a friendship/relationship - Link could “reel it in” a little, but the movie theater example didn’t seem fair to me.
I agree, it's just that when Link says things like he "likes to be handled" and that he "lets other people pick up the pieces," it is understandable why after nearly 40 years of friendship with Rhett and over 20 years marriage to Christy, Rhett and Christy have kinda fallen into the "babysitting" roles. Maybe Rhett and Christy feel they need to accommodate Link because Link expects to be accommodated.
It feels like he IS just being himself and whether or not they’re going to vibe with him or not is up to that person and right idk if it’s fair to him for them to think he shouldn’t be that way. It’s not harmful, if people like him or don’t then that’s what’s gonna happen.
@@halatiny6537 If you're going to expect others to pick up the pieces in social interactions from you "being yourself," then it's only fair that the people picking up the pieces get to tell you how they feel about being put in that position. I remember the guys talking about a time where Link was talking to a couple that asked Link about having kids. Link was "being himself," but later the couple told Rhett that Link's response to them was aggressive. I don't think it's fair to Rhett that he gets put in situations like that, where he has to answer for Link's behavior/interactions with people. I think what Rhett is getting at is is that he'd just like a bit more consideration on Link's part.
@@iva9427 exactly!
@@iva9427likes to be handled aka likes to do what he wants regardless of others feelings or lets other people pick up the pieces is both childish and slightly narcissistic. He doesn’t seem to have any regard for anyone but himself.
I relate SO much to Link on this one. Sometimes people interpret things I say in such the wrong way that I didn't intend and/or I offend/make people mad/uncomfortable without realizing it. It's incredibly frustrating and honestly kind of scary to not realize or perceive how you're coming across in the way that so many others do. I don't know, I've just always felt a commonality in personality to Link and this is a big part of it.
your first instinct is to think other people are interpreting things in the wrong way? i bet you're just saying things that offend people
@@jeccdog7584 By "interpreting things in the wrong way," @ash meowed is saying that things are interpreted in a way that was genuinely not intended or anticipated. They say things that accidentally come across as offensive. I do the same.
@@camf.8697 if people are often interpreting what you say wrong it’s probably a sign to communicate differently 🙏
@@jeccdog7584 Isn't that kind of the same thing?
@@jeccdog7584 I don't think this is always the case, although sometimes it could be true.
I feel like this conversation is peak social anxiety versus no social anxiety.
do you think link has social anxiety?
@@JazzK09 I think Rhett does (only bc I thought he said it before though, so that might be causing a bias in my read on the conversation)
@@Thetaybear107 Link has General Anxiety, though. And reads like it...
I have really bad social anxiety and sometimes I feel more like link, trying to be myself and also being anxious about how I'm coming off I end up saying th3 wrong stuff
There is NO WAY Link has social anxiety. That man is a social dynamo.
Makes me love Link even more. For being a human; for being a big boy while facing embarrassment; and for being so grownup while taking suggestions. One of my favorite episodes.
I think it’s important to acknowledge that a tendency to escalation could possibly be more of a trauma/anxiety response than a personality trait. We all have unique responses to stress due often to childhood experiences, and with work we can learn to take more control of ourselves in any given moment. Thinking ahead is good, but healing the parts of ourselves that respond frantically to certain situations is super helpful.
This really resonated with me... you're absolutely right. I probably would have reacted similarly in this situation bc of some things I've experienced in the past, I'd immediately go into fight or flight specifically fight
"A filter is an act of love." -Rhett McLaughlin
The way that Rhett explains things and speaks to Link is so full of love and kindness, so many times it literally made me tear up 💚 Rhett your heart is so big! Good title for the next album lol 😂
It was awesome to see Link accepting critiques and displaying that he was understanding both why he felt why he did and why others around him would feel differently as well Rhett understanding that some of the issues he feels could be a product of his own personality as well.
You can see how much therapy has helped both of them effectively communicate their problems with each other while ensuring that the other understands why they feel that way and that they actually understand and hear what is being said to them! Awesome to see this put out as an example of conflict resolution!
This episode increased my respect and adoration for Link tenfold. His ability to accept constructive feedback - even though it was a tough pill to swallow - and be graceful and willing to change was wildly impressive. It reflects enormous growth and emotional/personal maturity. So few people are able to invite personal feedback like that and be able to hear it, process it, and accept it. Many people would have just shut down or gotten argumentative.
❤you Link!
This was so cool to hear, bc I approach social situations like Rhett. I never understood those that have the Link approach, but for some reason I never stopped to considered that sometimes they genuinely don’t know how they come across. And to see how upset that made Link to realize, gave me a whole new perspective and so much more empathy for the Links of the world. Thank you guys for sharing this!
Absolutely agree, I'm more the Rhett in this scenario too and I often go straight to frustration in response - great to see both of them talk this difference through!
I am more Link. And I lost friends not knowing why. They just did not tell me and I did not know. It took me a loong time to understand a bit of it. And I never wanted to harm anybody or be rude ... This is the reason why I appreciate Rhett even more now.
I am Link. I have no filter and I say things before I even have a chance to think. I have always been told and perceive myself as honest and not caring what people think. I realized that it is not always fun whenever my sister, a grown married woman told me that she was nervous to tell me she was pregnant with her second child because she thought I would yell at her. I have had common threads like that of people telling me that I react that way. I realize that i do that now and try to be aware of it, but I find it so difficult to be someone different than who I am. That is an unconscious response I have to things, and I do it before I even have time to think. It is really hard to try and stop yourself. I relate to Link so much. I often will find myself in something like an argument where I can feel myself escalating it, but I dont know how to stop myself.
Totally cried. I hear what Rhett is saying. I understand Link. I think Link said it best when he said he was impulsive. Might be because he was an only child and didn't have to real back anything because he was the center of attention at home. Thats what he learned. He's friendly and if I could take a guess, he hates socially awkward silences. But LOVE the love in this between two best friends, having a great, and open conversation. Link, you made me cry. I love your personality and hope to meet you both one day! Thanks for sharing, y'all!
I honestly think he might be on the spectrum, and I’m surprised not a lot of people have said that
@@galaxygrl_o what? You realize almost every single person that reads your comment will take that in a wrong way? Maybe you should rewatch this episode and take into consideration how your words could affect other people.
Maybe you didn’t mean in a negative way but how else is someone suppose to take that?
And the comment you are commenting on has nothing to do with what you said? You completely turned the conversation into something that it shouldn’t have been.
Not everyone reads social cues the same. Every one has a different personality and expresses themselves differently.
Just because someone is different than you or similar to someone else on the spectrum doesn’t mean that they are or that other people should think that. Such a weird way to steer the conversation. Not a very healthy way to have conversations about social interactions
@@yungbootyheadmcgee Why should it be taken as rude to suggest someone might be neurodivergent? Only if you think being on the spectrum is a bad thing. Link clearly thinks differently than most people. That doesn't make him a bad person or the way he thinks a bad thing. So why would being neurodivergent be a insult?
As someone with a host off neurodivergent close friends and family, I refuse to see it as anything negative as these are some of the best people in my world!
@@yungbootyheadmcgee no one took it the wrong way except you. He reminds me a lot of my cousin who doesn’t read social cues and he is neurodivergent. I have many other friends and family on the spectrum.
If you think I meant it in a negative way there’s something deeply wrong with you.
@@galaxygrl_ I’m the only one who said something about it. And he reminds me of a lot of people that I know who are not neurodivergent. I have many friends and family that arnt on the spectrum.
And do you not read my comments? I clearly said “maybe you didn’t mean anything by it and your intentions arnt to be rude…”
So don’t start that shit with me. Saying something’s deeply wrong with me. It isn’t that serious and you don’t need to resort to belittling me
Episodes like this are the reason why this is my favorite podcast, I love it
Something I think Link doesn't consider, and maybe the reason movie theater guy was so cold, is that his love of interacting with strangers is something that a lot of other people DESPISE. A lot of people are introverts, and one of the worst things that can happen to an introvert while they're in public is a stranger deciding to unnecessarily interact with them. His source of "feeling free" is many other people's source of intense anxiety. He might need to adjust his analysis of who he does that to so he's sure he's interacting with another extrovert.
Lol yes, strangers talking to me is NOT my love language
Was definitely thinking this as an introvert - I am enjoying myself BECAUSE I'm alone, but some extroverts think they're rescuing me from it. We're all different and that's what makes life interesting, but also difficult haha!
Yes! Small talk with a stranger is fine, and considered super normal where I'm from. But as an introvert, I don't really want to get into a full on conversation with a stranger.
This is so true! I relate to this because strangers talking to me is one of the things I am most anxious about when I go out in public. I barely want to speak to people I like, so having complete strangers try to converse with me is so uncomfortable.
U belong in mental ward
"Who you are is something you have to consider" Rhett stop blowing my freaking mind with your insights!!!!
@LunaMoonblood P R E A C H
@LunaMoonblood Lmao, you’re all over the comment section. Are you ok? Rhett should get a restraining order.
I have so much respect for both Rhett and Link in this episode. Rhett managed a difficult conversation gracefully and came at a problem he's been considering with lots of love and understanding, and Link listened and accepted criticism with openness and care for the people he cares about. Both sides of this conversation were so instructive for me, because while I would definitely be the Rhett in this particular scenario, I tend to be scared of having conversations like this regardless of what side I'm on. This shows how difficult conversations can really strengthen a bond when both people are committed to honesty with kindness.
Rhetts body language is so funny during Links story. He starts facing away from him, towards his cup like he's subconsciously trying to distance himself. 🤣
Yeah seriously, Rhett's reactions as Link was telling the story had me in stitches haha
Rhett's advice about recognizing the sensitive situation and enter that situation with a different mindset is amazing.
This is a rollercoaster of an episode lol. A favorite for me this year so far.
Btw, I have a friend *exactly* like what Rhett is describing. Needing to almost track what your friend is doing in a conversation because you know they tend to be more... "loose" I'll say with what they bring up or say. I love them to death, but I absolutely get it.
As someone with AuDHD this was really interesting to watch. I've had a progression similar to what Rhett described where I used to be much more reserved and therefore didn't say much out of pocket. I feel like I'm going to cycle my whole life through "I want to make connections with people and be myself and that's okay" and "I hate myself/others and I'd rather be left alone because everyone prefers a lie". The first one sounds a lot healthier. The second one makes people like me more. No wonder so many people with these disorders off themselves-- it's either feel like you're living a lie or risk being constantly chastised. Therapy has helped me understand this, but there's no cure for these disorders. I hope that whatever is going on with Link, he's okay.
I really appreciate having gotten to hear this conversation, thank you so much for sharing it.
This was such a beautiful example of great, healthy communication. I've always admired and respected you two endlessly for the way you communicate, but this was a level of rawness and unfiltered honesty that I didn't expect even from Ear Biscuits, and I appreciate it so much. That was such a valuable conversation.
Link being so receptive to feedback, and Rhett being so constructive with his criticism, making sure Link didn't feel attacked, and going out of his way to ask Link how he was interpreting it was so wonderful to listen to. That last part, specifically, Rhett saying "tell me what you're hearing" (paraphrasing) stood out to me, I'm taking a mental note of that. That's such a great way to prevent misunderstandings and any hurt feelings or resentment stemming from them, it's brilliant.
I strive to handle communication in my own relationships and learn how to express myself the way you guys do, this is so inspiring. Again, thank you so much for sharing.
And Link, you really took all of that in stride. I think your willingness to grow and improve is really admirable and I respect you so much for it. You're a really great guy. Love ya!
What great friendship!
From this psychologist mythical beast: Link you have strongly controlled your impulses for most of your life. As Rhett explained, he had been watching Link's "sky diving impulse" coming out more over the years. It's counterphobic and freeing for Link to let go. Biologically speaking it's very rewarding to get dopamine hits from wreckless abandon knowing that your close friends and family will help smooth things over.
It’s also extremely selfish because I’m sure everyone would love to be able to do that and say or do things with reckless abandon and have someone fallow behind and smooth everything over for you. It’s toxic and abuse behavior toward the people closest to you.
Rhett's reaction to "This is little Michael's card"... I thought he was just gonna stay in the floor covering his face hahaha
Link is so freaking loveable. He's lucky that whatever this thing is that comes out sideways sometimes is usually innocuous and he has a lot of people who know him well and love him (because he's so full of love) that help to mitigate the bits that come out sideways. I hope he can find a way to keep being this beautiful human that he is while also bringing a little more consideration to the people around him. I agree with Rhett that this could be something that makes him feel even more whole, ultimately.
This podcast episode, I feel, is an important one to watch and see instead of simply listening to it. Link's face when he takes in all of Rhett's information speak volumes about this whole situation. He really does care about bettering himself. I think it is great how these two best friends can communicate to eachother this way. It is why they are so easy to listen to and watch. You can feel their love.
Everybody should have friends like Rhett. Having someone to turn to for constructive criticism (about anything!) is incredibly helpful and healthy.
This was such a healthy conversation that could have gone wrong very easily if the participants weren't so genuine with their feelings and responses. It's a masterclass in how to maintain a friendship. Rhett's a quieter, more introverted, introspective kind of guy, and Link is just out there - an unpredictable whirling dervish of enthusiasm and emotion. I'm only about a decade older than Link, and he's an attractive silver fox, but I think the feelings I have for him are oddly maternal - he's got such little brother energy. Link is child-like, in a really wonderful way; there's an innocence to him. His emotions may bubble right under the surface, his mouth may outpace his brain, and his lies may be laughingly unbelievable, but he has a genuine sense of wonder, a desire to be safe, loved, cared for and just be seen as a good person. At least once a week, I wish I could give him a hug. Today's podcast is a reminder to give grace to people who may be saying or doing something out of the norm, and to infuse grace into difficult conversations with the ones you love the most.
Very well written . Love these guys. Love you, too.
Beautiful comment ❤️
This was such a good episode of EarBiscuits.
I’ve often heard it said that the best parts of us walk in step with the worst.
In other words..
Link loves people, a lot.
He cares what they think, hates being embarrassed, wants to take control of everything to make things the best they can be, not even for himself! But because he sees how to make things better for others. (Or how he thinks it’ll be better for others.)
And all that love, desire to help, control, etc, is so easy to come out the wrong way.
I know cause I have family members that are the exact same way.
And in the end, I just want to remind everyone, Link loves people a lot.
And I think we can all agree with love link back. 🤍
The worker immediately assuming Link was trying to get away with something instead of it being a simple misunderstanding also contributed to escalating the situation. Like Link paid for the pass and didn't know they were not transferable
1:09:30 I feel like he goes into self preservation mode because the situation is unfolding in an unexpected way. I'm like Link and I like to have thought through and planned situations out ahead of time, to have some control over my reactions in the moment. Because something is completely catching you of guard, and maybe is a little unfair, that's when I get defensive
The only thing I would say is you're only looking at it from link's point of view. She might deal with people constantly trying to do this; and possibly from an even more malicious standpoint.
Ehhh her job is literally for this situation
I completely agree that Angie escalated first. If you can't do your job without making assumptions and accusing everyone who makes a mistake of doing something that you have to deal with regularly, you need to take time off or talk to your supervisor about a difference in roles, resources, or delivery. She absolutely escalated this first. I'm not saying Link should have responded in any way he did, but I completely understand why he did. She absolutely has the ability to do her job without making accusations or implications against potentially innocent customers. If she can't do that, that is her problem as an employee. If Link had made an honest mistake, the way she approached it from the start would be considered slightly unprofessional and abrasive. No she didn't "cause" his reaction.
I think conversations like these are one of the few, great aspects of the internet. This felt like one of those core bonding experiences with people that you kinda know but are the closest with, but in a magical instant everything changes and you become friends. On another note, I relate to Link's eccentric, unpredictable personality in social contexts, and I lived vicariously through him this episode. It's also so sad (and frightening) to think that there are countless people (especially people in power - mostly men) who live in that blurry zone of causing chaos, yet they do not have a support system built of people who really love them. I think that gives "loving each other" a whole new meaning. Thanks for being so honest
To be fair she could have used a little lateral thinking when she saw he was with a group of children. Was the card swapped? Maybe one of those kids is Michael? Is there a completely innocent explanation as to why this man has this young person’s card? They both handled it wrong but Link’s instinct about being cornered wasn’t totally off the mark..
Agreed!!!!!
Thank you!! People are driving me crazy saying that it was smart for her to immediately go the even slightly confrontational route instead of just considering ANY other possibility at all first? If you start accusing or implicating every single customer who might be making a mistake of violating a policy, you need a day off work!
I have to say this was a really tough episode to listen to - I am sure this is not the first time these two have had this discussion but it is the first time I have been witness to it. I couldn't help but feel sorry for Link - finding out something you doing is burdening others when that something is second nature, brings you joy and is well intentioned. That is a hard thing to grasp and makes you question your past experiences.. I had a great time doing this but did I ruin this experience for those around me.. that's a heavy thought and made me really uncomfortable listening.
Yea I agree. It’s not pleasant to be witness to someone’s faults being called out publicly even if there was an attempt to deliver it in a caring manner.
Hello Link! I'm a flight attendant, and during training we are taught about deescelating issues & confronting agitated guests. We are taught thoroughly not to embarrass upset customers, because often when people feel publicly embarrassed or humiliated, they enter their fight or flight mode. Ergo, more agitated attitude, arguments, and further making the issue even more uncomfortable, difficult, untimely, and sometimes even hostile. We are taught to politely listen to peoples concerns, speak to them personally in a quieter tone as not to embarrass them, and make them feel understood. She was trying to embarrass you, and it is not a professional or, frankly, smart response to handling guests. You're still good!
Very interesting!!
THANK YOU! Nobody is willing to hear me out that completely aside from the technical components of this argument or whatever, it was actively unsafe for this employee to approach a man with a concealed identity on a mountain like this. Even if she was worried for the child safety, under no circumstances should you approach somebody that you are "concerned about" like that. "It's her job" my ass. If she were my employee she'd get one warning and re-training, before becoming a fired former liability.
Rhett openly saying what could Link improve at certain soc.situations and not just throwing him overboard is the most "we are best friends" thing. Very few people are ready to give a feedback and in such a thoughtful way. And Link, not being happy but listening WITHOUT being "I did not REALLY want this but I will pretend that I am OK" is so very "my bestie I am listening because I know you, it is good for me and you are talking from the place of love and I know it is not easy for you too". Boys, I love you two.
I really appreciate your vulnerability Link! I have the same compulsion, actually. I like me and I like seeing other people react to me sometimes without regard for how it affects those around me. Not always a bad thing! Confidence is great. It's more fun alone tho hahaha
I think it's understandable for Link to feel defensive in an unexpected and stressful situation like that. It doesn't make him a jerk, It makes him human. It sounds like he had a fight or flight response to something that made him feel cornered and like he was being interrogated. He clearly understands that he shouldn't have reacted the way he did and I think this can be a good learning opportunity to be better prepared for such hiccups in the future.
This conversation is so helpful for me. Someone very close to me is a lot like Link, and this has given me a way to talk to them about a similar topic.
This was incredibly vulnerable and I feel like I shouldn’t have heard this conversation but at the same time I’m so glad I did. It was really nice to hear clear communication between the two of you. I feel like I learned something. Thank you for sharing
So many people have already stated what I'm feeling (much better than I could) so I'll just say thank you for allowing me to witness this conversation.
Wow what an episode, there hasn't been one this intense for a while. Few times there I wished I could just give Link a hug.
Wonderful episode ❤ I laughed so hard and then cried. I love how honest and open they are with each other. I love how Rhett never tried to make Link feel bad about himself while still telling him how he feels. And how open Link is to hearing hard things. Makes me love them even more!
This is truly the best episode ever because, to me, it's more real and honest and actually opens who you both are up more than an agreed upon topic that you can fluff out for an hour. Great episode!
This is such a good episode. Sending love to Link! It's a blessing and curse to be sensitive
"I won't dig a big hole"
No, just a medium sized one 🤣🤣
As a person who leads with sarcasm more often than not, I can really relate to this episode. I wish I had someone like Rhett to share loving feedback with me about how it was making others feel, and I wish I was as mature as Link to know that conversations like this are essential to grow personally.
I love you guys, and I'm on team growth with you all ❤
This was one of the most beautiful conversations and I'm so grateful you shared it with us
There has clearly been so much growth in how Rhett and Link can pass and accept constructive criticisms with sensitivity and grace. I appreciate you guys opening up so much, as you have been doing for years now. I'm learning a lot about communication and can also find points I relate to and reflect on myself. Therapy dupe!
This is the best example I’ve ever heard of a healthy discussion in a healthy friendship
I love this conversation. Link almost had me in tears. I love these guys.
This was such a helpful Ear Biscuit! I'm so much like Link in so many ways and this gave me some self insight. I've never had anyone explain things like Rhett has and it makes sense. He is saying it with such love. Thank you Link for being open to having this on the podcast. I know it couldn't have been easy to hear even if it was asked for. 💞
wow, this was such a vulnerable conversation we got to witness between two people that care and love each other. I've been the person on the receiving end like Link and the person in Rhett's situation, and as tough as it is in the moment, it strengthens the relationship. Love the jokes and silliness but hearing them unknowingly find themselves into a vulnerable, honest inteeractions is what makes this podcast so endearing.
The Superman analogy was profound. Like... Unironically. It really was.
Also I relate to Link's minor shortcomings, but more so how he processes or "defends" himself. I do a very similar thing, and I tend to find retrospectively it comes off in a way I don't intend. When I do it, its so whoever I'm talking to understands what my thought process was and my motivation, not necessarily a defense of the action.
But yes, as other comments here have said, towards the end Link made it clear he was listening and appreciative of the insight of his friends perception of him . And the ability to listen to (positive) constrictive feedback is something too many adults lack the ability to take in without shutting the other person down.
It will be hilarious if the next episode ends with a voicemail from "Angie" lol
Since Monday, I just want to gave Link a BIG HUG…
This ended up being one of my favourite Ear Biscuits. I love the honest conversation. You always make me reflect on my own life and relationships and that's what I love most about this podcast. Thank you for having such thoughtful conversations for all of us to listen to.
I've been Link, "Angie", Rhett, Christie, and Jenna in different situations and I loved every second of this episode!!!
One of my favorite EB episodes to date. Love your friendship and ability to be honest with one another. That's the good stuff lifelong friendships are made of 🥰
I have 2 people in my life I am constantly concerned with in social situations because they behave this way. I love them dearly and I need them in my life, but it is so validating to hear other people talk about this so reasonably.
Started out fun and then became very therapeutic. Absolutely love hearing someone say something honest and then the other person listening without instantly becoming defensive. It’s human nature to defend yourself, but Link sat there listening and took it all in and came to a conclusion on how he could act differently or why he acts the way he does. I got completely absorbed in listening to two people in therapy session with Jenna as the therapist. Absolutely love watching and listening to these guys and hope they never stop. Much love to you all GMM!
This podcast was amazing. I feel like I have learned many life lessons with Rhett and Link over the years, and it's amazing to see the growth firsthand. Being human is weird, but we have to continue to talk about it. Thank you guys for this one, truly.
The honest conversation at the end, this is one of the reasons I love you guys so much. The world would be better if people could have talks like this. ❤
This was such a healthy and eye opening discussion. I listened on Spotify but knew I had to watch the video when it came out. I too, like Link, struggle with filtering my actions and while I don’t have a large internet audience, I also don’t have anyone honest enough In my life to have this conversation with me, so this really hit home. Also kudos to link for being so open and mature about this, Rhett too! It does take courage on both parts to both confront someone about their behaviour and how it makes you feel and to receive that criticism gracefully and sincerely. God I love mythical.
Kinda shows how nice Link really is overall. This relatively minor thing made him feel so bad lol, its sweet.
The title of this truly didn't prepare me the depth of this episode. It was so cool to see these two friends have such a raw and mature conversation. Thank you for sharing this!
Angie really did him a favor by just trying to get him to be honest but Angie didn’t exact go about it the easiest either tho, but legitimately this story could’ve ended up with link arrested 😂
Rhett is a great friend to him and it makes sense why they remain so close. Rhett needs to listen to links passions a little bit more because I knew how much he enjoyed scuba just by how much he talks about it, lmao.
Really really healthy conversation between them. So nice to see friendship in action. Links openness and Rhett’s honesty are clutch.
@LunaMoonblood yeah he is. He’s honest with link, he’s coming to the conversation with love, he made link laugh despite it being a tough conversation, and he has no plans on abandoning the friendship despite links missteps. It’s weird that none of that is good to you.
@LunaMoonblood You’re weird and clearly projecting. Rhett is a great friend. Link has problematic interactions with people all the time.
It’s not her job to make a situation easy for a grown man who is obviously trying to lie
@@emilydavis162 If she had been wrong and Link had made an honest mistake, we would have considered her behavior slightly abrasive and unprofessional. Nobody is saying she should be fired or is a bad person, or even that she caused his reaction, or that he should have reacted in the way he did for any reason. But it's the plain truth that she didn't best set this situation up for success. Is "equally efficient and kind" delivery her job? Honestly that depends most on whoever's supervising her hours and cutting her checks, not on our own, her, or R+L's perceptions of whether it "should be her job."
Personally, I would prefer that my employees approach these situations a bit more gently and with more nuance, in order to reduce the likelihood of escalations, because you never know who is going to react like Link or worse. It's not about blaming her or trying to not hold Link accountable, In all honesty approaching it the way she did with a less innocently frustrated person than Link could have been physically unsafe for her or other customers. Being the slightest bit confrontational with a potentially dishonest man with a concealed identity at your job is just not the move in general. Especially while stuck on a mountain.
Honestly such a touching episode. I find that I have a lot in common with Link when it comes to social interactions so this really gave me some advice too. Especially about understanding when your strengths can be weaknesses.
This episode was all over the place. It was very raw and emotional, And it was oh so beautiful.
Aww this one was tough. I appreciated how Rhett and Link managed not to argue while things were being said that could've been taken the wrong way if Link and Rhett didn't actually love and respect one another as much as they do. I have never had anyone in my life thar I could be that open and honest with that wouldn't lash out at me if I did so. I'm usually the nicer person in any friendship, the one that resolves issues, the peacekeepers, the negotiator but I think even I would've had a tough time hearing things that were expressed in this podcast. I'm glad Link knows he's loved and that no one wants him to change who he is just how he acts on occassionally. I have sometimes wondered if Link has mild ADHD because he gets so excited and animated in certain situations it sometimes feels like his good emotions are overriding his more logical thought processes. Sort of like when younger children are excited and uninhibited. That's not a bad way to be except in certain situations in other situations it's fun and it can be endearing. Don't be sad Link, people love you and you are most definately not a big baby jerk.
Great episode! Thank you Link, Rhett, and Jenna for your willingness to let us all listen in on this conversation. Wonderful to see an example of healthy and open communication.
I love these kind of episodes - nothing but honesty and openness!
This is such a beautiful episode on how to have a tough conversation with someone you love and link I would’ve cried and felt pinned to a wall if I were you but when you said “ I asked for this and I appreciate the feedback “ was so amazing! Thank you guys for being role models on how to give feedback and how to receive it 💜
My favorite TH-camrs? Rhett and lil’ Michael
I saw this episode at exactly the right time. I recently had a discussion with a friend that I'm still reflecting on, and the way that rhett and link talk to each other, how they're discussing this even if they don't see eye to eye, accepting criticism and showing respect for each other, is actually very valuable for me going forward.
That ending when Link says "And I'd like to apologize... to Angie..." killed me 😂😂😂 I loved that. Great episode. I learned that I think I have more in common with Link than I thought (including the ability to make good wrap-up joke) lol.
link is so self aware and well spoken. i love you guys so much. i love these vulnerable episodes so much
well spoken? lol
How is he self aware? I think he's the complete opposite.
@@ilanam3398 Yes I agree. I love Link, but wouldn't describe him as self-aware. I think that was Rhett's whole point. He is unaware of how he comes off in social situations. I'm glad he's willing to listen and work on it though.
I listened this this episode and I knew I had to see everyone's reactions. Link got a good story, a free therapy session, and still got to snowboard
listening to the podcast version this morning, I knew I had to come and read the comments. I am definitely someone who has the same problem sometimes as link and I have talked about it with my best friend and other peopleclose to me. I have a lot of confidence, I don’t always think before I speak, I can come off a little aggressive, and I know that I have a disposition occasionally to hurt people from a lack of thinking! But If i have any advice, (especially as an empath) it’s just a matter of being more aware in the moment and taking an extra second to analyze the situation before making an ass of myself😂 (and maybe add some apologizing in there) best of luck Link, i’m with ya buddy❤
Well, that took a turn, didn't it? Half way through this I was about to go watch a movie and leave the rest of the podcast for another time but I'm so glad I didn't! Year after year these two set a great example of how friends should be. The way they interact with each other in such an honest, vulnerable way... It makes me want to be a better friend!
Honestly, I feel like Link handled this with a great deal of humility and grace. Without saying too much, as I obviously can't judge, I feel like I relate to Link in a lot of ways. I know they're both in therapy and incredibly open minded already. I'd love for them both to look into EMDR and have a discussion about it. It may not be for everyone, but in my case, it's really helped me connect the dots between where I came from and who I am today. Thanks once again for being open and sharing with us.
Can i just say that Link youre not alone. Im the exact same way and i notice it in every single episode of GMM i watch. Im sensitive and i have so much energy, i have so much love and although i have a heart of gold and i want peace and love, the first initial thing i say can make people second guess me. But if you truly knew me, how rhett knows you, people would know that were not mean, malicious or weird, we just have so much love and energy that we dont know what to do with it! I think Link you are a HSP Highly sensitive person, when theres so much to deal with in our lives and in our head, we become forgetful and clouded and easily overwhelmed. But our genuine caring personality is what makes us who we are. I think you are so strong and if you infact are anything like me (which i think u are) then you should be incredibly proud of yourself and never ever change who you are, it took me a long time to embrace who i was and the changes and the hyperness, the awkwardness and the rest of it, but it makes me who i am and it makes you who you are too. Im so happy you have such a loving friend and family, but please dont ever be upset or ashamed or hold back your real self. People will either love you or hate you and if they hate you then you werent meant to be in their lives anyway and its their loss as youre a beautiful and unique human being, i sense just how big your heart is and i think its beautiful. Thank you both for this episode its proven your strengths ❤ Been a mythical beast for 11 years now and watching GMM is what gave me the courage to stop Masking my "weird side" so thank you both ❤
this is one of my fav episodes
when link starts to ask a question immediately when rhett finishes, then stops himself and says "im gonna take a breath here. thank you for the feedback." genuinely so inspiring...it's so easy to get defensive under this sort of criticism and he took it so well. what a role model