Heartwarming moment mom with dementia bursts into song after recognizing her son
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ม.ค. 2021
- In this sweet, heartwarming video, a mother with dementia suddenly recognizes her son and bursts into song after the joyous realization.
Sebastian was walking with his mother Ingrid in Australia when he had to explain he was her son.
The mother and son were strolling along a footpath when Sebastian asked his mum if she knew who he was.
'You're a lovely carer,' said Ingrid while holding onto his arm.
'What if I told you I was your son?' asked Sebastian.
The mum was confused, thinking her boy was a minder with the same name. She didn't believe him at first, and said that he merely looked like her son Sebastian.
Her eyes lit up when she realized the truth and she sang a rendition of Vera Lynn's We'll Meet Again, edited to praise her boy and express her love for him.
'Ingrid wants to meet Sebastian some sunny day, some sunny day, because Ingrid love Sebastian very much,' she sang.
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She remembers the most important thing. That she has a son called Sebastian and she loves him very much...
I cried in your comment yes it's true ..thats one very important to her...her son Sebastian which she never forget the name
Oh my heart! 😢
And that she will see him again some sunny day ❤ after all this, theirs no body with flesh to deteriorate! Just their sunny day.
@@downzy007 Life is so transient and it is for this very reason we must cherish every moment with our loved ones🙏🏿
@@daniellalino yes, this life is but the soul carrys on.
My dad had dementia. A few weeks before he died he said he was 24 years old I was 8. Everyday at 1pm he would take his keys to go get me at school. The day before he died in 2013 he asked the nurse for his keys, it was raining and he needed to get me because I might get sick walking in the rain from school. I graduated 22 years ago.
Thanks Pippa.your story makes a grown man cry.
Love to you.
This made me cry
His best activity with you stayed in his memory forever
Felt like reading a heartwarming story 🥺 ❤ he loved u so much ,rip 🙏
I wonder what made him think about that particular moment. Probably because he cherished those moments with you so much and even with a horrible disease those memories of you stayed with him forever
I would be crying the whole time. Sebastian is a stronger man than most.
Im sure he does cry at times. But at this stage, Im sure he's super thankful/happy for connecting with her like this too
Crying is not a sign of weakness though.
I layed besides the bed of my mom for a year in hospital because she had cancer.
Always smiled when i was with her.
Cried when i came home every single day. Behind closed doors.
She died last year.
@@yevgeniyaleshchenko849 it's not but it still takes strength to hold it in is the point
he must have cried during the initial phase of her illlness
now it seems he has come to terms of her sorry condition
He's not just her son, he's her sun.
This👍🏼
@@Lubabalo. Its a twist on Shakespeare, Hamlet ;)
❤
Deep
Damn 😢
That was beautiful 🙏❤
I'm not rich but I feel like a millionaire having both my parents around.
And you are$
Enjoy it friend
Well said and so true my parents are no longer with me 💜
You are absolutely a millionaire. I’d give every possession I have to have my dad back for just a minute. With the way you realise their worth you deserve their presence 🙌
I feel the same my friend , and fear the day they will pass so bad it’s crippling me .
The strength of this man to smile through something this painful... Stay strong Sebastian.
I know this would kill me inside.
Well you have no choice but acceptance. She may not have her memories but as a son you have memories of all the back aching things mom did for you. And now it's his turn to pay some of it back. it is what it is. Atleast they can share a 🙂
@Cian MacGana ah.. Yes. There's that optimistic one.
@Cian MacGana you're dumb as shite, lol it must suck to be you darling. Clearly you didn't watch the full video or appreciate beautiful moments like this you sad sad individual.
Its more for her I think.
How lucky she is to have such a sweet and caring son!
He's not her son... he's... SEBASTIOOON
❤️💯😊✌️
Its not about luck, its about education
The fact that she thought he was a "lovely carer" even before realizing he was her son tells us everything about how he treats her. She obviously raised him well. 💖💖💖
You can tell by the look in his eyes he's using all his strength to savor the moment and not cry. What an amazing man
Aye
I'm not as strong 😪 or amazing for that matter lol
Factz
True
Ahh yes another internet body language expert 😂
She doesn't recognize her son's face but remembers the song they used to sing together. Music is really powerful.
Yes it is.
I used to play Elvis for my mom and even in her last months she tapped her feet to the rhythm. Yes music is powerful.
It truly is. I used to work in a long-term care home. There was a lady their with Alzheimer's. She hardly talked, only had a few words and phrases she used. Very deep into dementia. But if you say her in front of a piano, she could play beautifully. It was amazing!
@@ngerstner753
That is so amazing..
music transends all form of communication and memory.. it's like the sense of smell.. and may link to nostalgia. these are just my opinion on the matter
I lost my maternal grandmother several years ago. She had dementia and didn't recognize who I was until she almost passed and called me Nathan and held my hand. One passing moment of clarity. I HATE this disease so much..
Ah my gosh, I'm in tears. My mum is at the beginnings of her journey with dementia. Strength to you Sebastian.
@iamiamiamiamiam Strength to YOU, my friend! My mom just ended her journey with dementia. It was rough, but there were so many precious moments I wouldn't change for the world. Keep your head up! Just said a prayer for you and your mother. ♡
My mom is too
Hang in there brother, she loves you with all her heart! - don't let the sadness get to you - cherish every moment you have left, parents are the best gift the world could give....
Imagine holding your mom’s hand and she doesn’t know you 😔😭❤️ please love your parents
Imagine that and them not having dementia. My parents have never known who I am just an image that they project on to me.
Yesss Lordddd 🙏🏾 Amennnn
My mom had dementia for about 15 years. I lived by ... It didn't matter if she didn't know who I was, I knew who she was.
@@ThomasDoubting5 huh?
It is heartbreaking 💔
This was three years ago. My mother by then had moved deeper into dementia, the last part of it. I walked into the lounge of the care home, where she was slumped in an armchair, and the music began playing Glenn Miller's 'Moonlight Serenade'. I raised her out of her chair and held her while the other residents sat staring, all of them somewhere on the road to nullity. I didn't care. I was with my mom, holding her close, the two us swaying together until the song finished. I think she liked that, the music and the holding, although she didn't know who I was. That was fine, I understood that. Robert, UK.
Sending g you a virtual hug!
What a beautiful memory of dancing with your dear mother -- thank you for sharing! Yes, when hearing music, singing or playing an instrument, one goes in our minds to a "different place" and wonderful memories are refreshed and created.
Hey you are amazing
@2eleven48 🤗 these memories are priceless 🤗 wishing you and your family the very best 🤗
My mother passed away in August 2020 at 90, the last ten plus years of her life were a slow decline cognitively. It was an odd blessing that when my father passed away 7 years before, she didn't feel the sting of his sudden loss. In my last conversations with her she was able to recall her oldest memories and I know things like music sparked those memories. I liked those moments very much even though I knew she had no idea who I was. My parents lived a long time and I can't get too upset about that but it's never easy. Best wishes all.
No one will ever love you as much as your parents. I learned that at 28.
I learned that at like 10
Heartbreak huh ? Yea me too. Women dont look at their partner the same as parents. The only unconditional love is parents love and no other.
Not true always, but yeah mostly! :)
@@salonez91 well my mother tried to kill me ,,, if parents around the globe actually loved their kids they would be better parents and there would not be so many damaged people,,most parents fail.
Sebastian is a top bloke! And it’s easy to see what a wonderful Mum Ingrid was for him.
Even if she couldn't remember him fully she remembered the song she named him after and had that moment with her son. Beautiful
Exactly!
She did not name her son after this song. The song is called "We'll meet again"
She just had some fun and used his name in the song.
@@SirMrShanks "We'll meet again". That is so sad.
@@wilsonchu4173 wow I never thought of that in that context. Wow.
😊😊
This is funny but at the same time incredibly sad.
Yep.
Indeed.
He is making the best of a very difficult situation and doing it spectacularly.
And Beautiful 💕
Yes we know.....they call that “the long goodbyes” ❤️😔😔😔
I almost guarentee he got in the car and cried his eyes out after this, I respect him for being so positive and on his mothers level.
It doesn't get much rougher than dementia.....
I miss you Nan.
Yeah I have a friend who had a grandfather with aggressive dementia to the point where when he had his episodes and couldnt recognize his family he would get violent and belligerent with them. but when he was able to remember them he was the most caring and sweet man....... Just seeing my friend go through that alone was really rough and hard to witness. Dont wish dementia on my worst enemy.
When she started singing you could see something connected and even though it was slight but I could sense in his voice he just wanted to let out his tears and hug his mother but he had to keep his posture. It's very hard but when these little sparks of connection happen it all makes it worth it.
How did Sebastian keep his cool. I'd be bawling my eyes out.
Im crying from here
@Cian MacGana, what does have to do with anything? I
@Cian MacGana, wow, you are a sad person. Must really suck to be an immature grown up.
yess...I'm still wiping tears...got my daughter in here clowning me
i can feel the sadness in sebastian's eyes
What is beautiful is that even though she doesnt recognize him you can tell she is really enjoying being with him. Life is remarkable.
Yeah my mom would be the same way. She would subconsciously recognize us but couldn’t acknowledge why (sometimes)
As a caregiver of my mom who had dementia, I van testify that finding humor and joy in these interactions are needed in otherwise. heart breaking journey. I remember my mom, who had Alzheimer's Disease looking at me and said "You know, like you.", with a smile on her face and a cheerful tone in her voice. My response was "I like you too, Mama!" My mom passed away 20 years ago, but I carry her in my ❤ heart. She was the best mom ever for me!💋
She looks so young. Too young to have dementia.
@@sarashepard7504 My wife sadly passed away from this terrible illness a few weeks ago and she was in her early 50's when it took hold. Music was the thing she could react to more than anything. She did not have a grey hair on her head or hardly a wrinkle on her face, so young.
@@kaymccastle1154 Makes me miss my own Mom with dementia. She passed away 2 years ago. She had a caregiver, we did not look anything alike we both had long hair and brown glasses. My Mom was always calling her Nancy. One day Mom looked at her and said "I love you Nancy". The girl her face turned all red and told me I am sorry. I said oh heck no, don't be sorry she thinks I am here 24/7 and if it calms her down then I am all for it.
My heart breaks for Sebastian, I cannot imagine how very painful this is for him & his family, but this is just the sweetest video of his Mom singing a song about him🥰🥰🥰🥰
That look/ slight grimace he gave the camera towards the end. He nearly lost it. Bet he went home and bawled.
when they started singing, it's like she was completely normal again. But knew it was fleeting.
Its a terrible way to lose someone. My dad had dementia for almost 5 yrs before he died... Lovely video...
My mother died of Alzheimer's a few years ago and I can attest to the fact that having a parent not know exactly who you are is one of the most heartbreaking, unsettling experiences you can ever have. It really must have been wonderful for him to have that moment of recognition from her.
🙏
She didn’t recognize him but the fact that he continues to love her, respect her and treat her with dignity says so much about what type of mother she was. It has to be difficult for him knowing that she doesn’t recognize him.
@Ocean Sky Like you do not understand, she does not understand. She has a completely debilitating access to her memories sense of self and history, its like forgetting how to boil a kettle you know you need to boil it but you just do not know where to start.
@Ocean Sky she can't make the connection between the information
All the kinds of "easy" Brain functioning that we have..she is losing it
@Ocean Sky keep quiet!
@@adithyahk Well, that was incredibly rude. They simply asked a question because they're not familiar with how dementia works. It's better to ask a question so you can learn than to stay quiet and ignorant.
He isn't treating her with dignity. People with dementia are unable to give consent to be exposed on You Tube. I actually think this is appalling.
My mum had dementia. RIP. She didn't recognise me, but like Sebastian's mum, knew she had me and my name. Just didn't believe this older person was her daughter. Remembered me as a 7 year old.
Allah yarhamha🤲
❤️🙏🏻
🙏🏾
Same here, she usually thinks my daughter and I are just nice ladies who take care of her.
Rip
I took care of my Aunt for some years after my Mom passed away. Anytime someone said I love you to her, she would always say, yeah and smile, all of her life. She was in a nursing home during Covid, so I had to visit her on video. When we were finishing our last video, I said, I love you Aunt Bebe ... She said, I love you too ... I got a chill and knew that was a bad sign, I could feel it. She passed away 2 days later, 2am in the morning. She just closed her eyes and went peacefully, the nurse thought she was asleep at first. I think she did not want to be there without family.
I remember my Mom during her first year of dementia in a wheelchair. She was watching a baseball game on TV of the Oakland A's. I happened to be at the game and was caught on TV talking to a press person with their camera man filming. When I was at home later in the day, my Dad told me my Mom saw me on TV and blurted out "There's Tommy!". She had a tremendous singing voice. She did not sing much at church because she told me once that she thought it hurt others feelings (women) as her voice was like an angel amongst lowly mortals. 😇
People who didn't experience this situation cannot understand how it hurts when your own mom doesn't recognize you...
everyday, my grandma called me by a different name. But she says she misses Annie, and thats me😔
😑😑😑
yes
New phone who dis
I literally couldn’t imagine this 😢
We need to find a cure for dementia. Nobody should have to endure this, or their loved ones. It’s sweet but it also breaks my heart.
I hope one is found before I need it.
@@MrsFlax-iu3ro learn a language, play table tennis, do stuff that challenges your mind. Studies worldwide have shown this will fight off dementia.
A high intake of foods with alkaline always does the trick in terms of diseases
@@BludINFAMOUS none of that works , my Grandad was incredibly active , worked in his garden , did crosswords , loved long walks but NONE of that staved off Dementia , it's a cruel disease and can take anyone at any older age and btw most of the people I know who got it were incredibly intelligent people with very active lives, it was so sad to see them completely lose their minds, they were engineers, doctors, teachers and musically gifted.
Yea, its really hard to because its neueodegerative. There's very little u can do bc not only do nerve cells not reproduce, but even if we could replace with healthy cells, wont restore memory.
How painfully beautiful.
You can tell she was a wonderful and caring mother to have raised such a kind son
Dementia steals the memories, but it can’t steal the love - that’s forever. This was a beautiful, heartbreaking/heartwarming example. ❤️
It sure is. ❤
I’m glad it never really wins. Love is too powerful.
Ah that's actually amazingly put. Well said👏
Amen!!!!!!🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌺🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔✝️✝️✝️✝️🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇
Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this.
This dude is the real MVP. I don't know how he has the strength to deal with that. I'll never forget the moment my grandfather (who im named after) looked me in the eyes and said " I know I should know who you are but I don't" some of the worst pain I've ever felt. Wishing this guy and his mum all the best.
Damn 💔💔
Poor granpa.he knew he was having dementia
Amen!!!!!✝️✝️✝️🔔🔔🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🌺🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇🦇
Ah man I’m sorry to hear that. Dementia is such a horrible disability, but although it changes your mindset and how you think, it would’ve never changed how his heart remembered and loved you. Never forget that man ❤️
Is this disease permanent
I loved this video. It brought tears to my eyes. She loves her Sebastian. Amen.
i completely lost it at the "we'll meet again". What a scary illness...but they are both taking it in a great way. Strong people.
In my dads final year of dementia I flew home to see him. On leaving he said to me “I love you” and they were the last words he ever spoke to me. He soon lost the power of speech. I hold those 3 words close to my heart. I feel honoured to have had him as my Dad. He was a loving father and a gentleman. 🤗
U just made me... very happy
Bless your heart.
I wish you a very happy life and for it to be stress free
Wow! That will stay with you for the rest of your life. This also happened to me. My mother was suffering not from dementia but from liver failure and because the liver was not cleaning out the toxins in her body, they affected her brain. In her final days, she didn't remember me, but as she was going into a coma, she said my name when she looked at me and those were her last words. I'll hold on to that forever.
I got chills all over my body when i read this and got em again while im typing this...
Gosh she is so young. She could remember so many things but didn’t recognize her son in person. Dementia is very strange.
She probably remembers him a lot younger, so that is why she kept looking at him saying you look like him, but she did not think it was him. I wanted him to ask her how old her son was. She is so young looking. I lost my mom to dementia, one year ago, and it is a terrible to watch someone that you love so much, slowly disappear.
@@Pascals_Wager I was thinking the same thing...wow
@Mark Haywood Oh wow that is really sad, I cant imagine the way they feel
@@Restrictedeightteen the only blessing with dementia, is the patient is often the last to know. They might experience some confusion, but most of the time they are in their own little world, oblivious. My mum has dementia and I used to work with dementia patients before my health go too bad
@Mark Haywood omg! 😥.. thank you for explaining the process tho..😢
This is what the caring process should be like. Fun and joyous. I know how hard it is, but I wish for more moments like these ❤
Sebastian please start a utube video journal. The love & relationship❤️ you have for your Mumsy needs to be shared its beautiful.
My dad had dementia and Parkinson disease when I was 14, I had to take care of him like he was a toddler because he had difficulties using the toilet. eating, bathing , getting dressed, and sometimes he would of attack me cuz he was confused, I left for medical school when I was 19 and everyday he would be so happy to hear my voice, he began calling me daddy cuz he thought I was his father and every time I came home for break he be so excited to see me, I always brought him gifts, Unfortunately he died 2 years ago, but I missed him so much man, Just saying this to anyone who parents might have dementia at a young age, I know it is difficult but u can do it, be patient and show a lot of love ccuz when u lose them it really hurts
Edit- Thank you for all the kind sentiments , didn't expect for this comment to reach so much persons, I hope can inspire anyone who is currently dealing with a similar situations.
Sorry to hear hear that man I hope you are well.
You made me cry man....
@@zeryus99 me too, VonDice sounds like a great son
only my heart knows how much i respect you .i am unable to express it in my words !
the devine will always take care of you
Bless u bro
As the son of an Alzheimer’s victim, (miss you, Dad), this touches me deeply. Never take your parents for granted!
Or your children. Life throws all sorts of punches.
My close friend just lost her mom to Alzheimer’s she and her sister are both susceptible to it from both sides of the family...and her brother-law is showing symptoms......this could be very very sad💕
I was 15 when I had to take cere of my father I was heavily suffering from depression I couldn’t give the care he or any dad deserved I couldn’t take care of myself let alone my father I could never forgive myself for not taking care of him properly not giving the love he gave me now he passed I miss him everyday 😭
Please keep with check ups!! 🥰
So true
What a beautiful woman.
I’m a grandson who takes care of his grandma w/ dementia. This... is a lot. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for caring for her!
What a wonderful grandson you are 😘
You're an insparation
Bless you brother!,you will be rewarded in Heaven!
hugs to you.
She may have had dementia but she still lived and remembered her son, his name, their song. He lived in heart and memories
Ya... She may not recognise him... But she remembers him and cherish the moments with him...
What a lovely mum-child pair!
There's nothing more scary that losing your memory.
This man is stronger than Thor! Lots of love & respect to him.
Nice pic
@@matr8851 pull anywhere 🙂
@@matr8851 lmfao
@@tayokarate I see you have been taught well. Your next lesson will be to know when to pull out....before it's too late.
@@PhoenixWrightAceAttorney lol that's too late I didn't learn that lesson and now I got some kids
My grandma who had dementia passed away not long ago. She was really lost and I know she didn't remember who I was at all, she just knew I was someone she loved and who loved her back. The moment I cherish the most is being in the car with her and we were both just quiet, and she just grabbed my hand and told me "thank you for everything you do for me, it means a lot to me, I love you" and in that moment I knew I had her with me for 5 seconds, I know that was her speaking to me directly. I miss her so much but I'm happy she's resting now and not locked away in her own head
JEEEZ, I WASNT EXPECTING A ROUND 2 OF FEELS 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 😭
What a beautiful story...
I am so sorry. My grandmother also had dementia that got bad before she passed. It’s a terrible and cruel thing. I am so glad you got to have that moment and I send you my love 🖤
Thank you so much for the replies guys, lots of love and strength to you too, it definitely an awful disease, hope it gets eradicated in some future
May she Rest In Peace
I'm sure she was a wonderful mom and gave Sebastian all the love in the world ❤
He'll have beautiful memories of he and his Mum❤
My dad had dementia the last 3 years of his life,he couldn't talk in the end,just mumbled whispers .Every now and then,he would suddenly remember our names ,and ask questions about any of my missing siblings,then as quick as he remembered,he would forget again,always treasure your family.
RIP and so sorry for you and your families loss ❤️
Awe so sad. Sorry for the heartache and the Loss of your father. May he rest in heaven. While you remember all the wonderful memories of your father. I lost my father when I was only 16 its been 29 years and it still seems like yesterday.
Same happened with my nan. Didn’t know who anyone was for 5 years and continuously asked who we were and only remembered people from her childhood in Ireland. She passed away during lockdown and None of our family were able to see her for months before she died and I wasn’t even able to go to the funeral. Dementia is terrible and I wouldn’t wish it upon anybody.
@@Joeavfc1 That's So Sad. I'm sorry you had to go through that and not be able to go to her funeral. She's not far from your side as I'm sure she's watching over you! May she rest in Heaven
How sad for Sebastian, she obviously was and is a lovely woman and mother
I think Sebastian looks quite happy to me just being with her mummy
How sad for his mother, being put on You Tube with dementia, where she cannot be consulted about it and give her informed consent. Some people want to be remembered and seen at their best, prior to getting ill.
@@bingonamo7520 STFU is this not a beautiful moment?
Every parents and children must have a song to remember and bond them together
She’s so young to have dementia. I can’t imagine what he’s going through too. So sad.
Ignorant comment..
@@user-oi5wm1od2k do one Dionne, loser.
It’s not ignorant, I myself thought she looked young. She looks like she could be my mother. I couldn’t imagine what he’s going through, he seems young too. Late 30s maybe maybe 40s. It’s just sad 😔
I was just thinking the same. Damn. Most likely early onset. That is heartbreaking. I work in therapy and the youngest person I worked with dementia was 42!!!!! Brain injury from serving in Iraq. 😔 💔
Sadly, my mom got it at just 53. It's been 10 years now. She's still here, but it has gotten worse recently.
That man is the strongest and bravest man ever, I know I would fall apart if that was Mum. Such an amazing video
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You can tell he has a really tough time keeping it together.
I'm sure he does sometimes.
Such a fitting name for a wonderful son. Sebastian means “One who commands respect by virtue of age, dignity, character, or position.”
I hope she's doing well, she's a beautiful mother.
When my mom didn't know who I was, I think I cried for like two days straight. I was her primary caregiver. It was the most horrible thing to see this amazing woman just...disappear.
Aye
My grandmama raised me and so many members of our family for 4 generations. She was the village mum and the best caregiver ever. She never said no to anyone who asked for help. She started showing signs 13 years ago and it was so mild back then, now she barely speaks, can’t walk or do anything for herself and when the day came that she didn’t know who I was the words “I don’t have a grand daughter broke me in 2 even though I knew it was coming. I thought I had prepared myself for it but nothing can actually prepare you for hearing something like that. She’s going to be 100 this year and the entire family says she’s going to make it but none of us can go have the big celebration we’ve all been looking forward to because of Covid 😔💔
@@dejavu103 I pray for her bro
@@normanalvarez5751 thank you 🙏🏾
@@dejavu103 sending you my prayers right now ❤❤
0:49 The way she was gonna say "I just haven't seen Sebastian--" but then switched to "I haven't seen *_you_* in a long time,"... Ouch 💘 right through the heart
That was a magical moment!! Bitter sweet.
Yes 😭
The saddest part is he visits her everyday 😢
What an awful thing dementia is,bless her and her son
These are friends. Seb lives in a different country. Her daughter was filming and lives very close. ❤️
Sebastian it's very nice of you to leave the video up and leave the comments open. Sometimes we need a pick me up. There's a lot of love in this video.
Thank you.
That video, what a treasure !!!
So priceless
Mumsie must have been fun
Singing with Sébastien as a kid , now she even remembers the whole song and even added their names into song
Thanks for sharing this beautiful event
My mom was killed in a hit and run accident 2 months ago and tomorrow is my birthday and as sad as this is I envy this man. What I would do to see and hold and hear her even if she didn't know who I was. I'm writing this crying on a public bus. Thanks for this video.
My younger sister was killed in a car wreck just before Christmas and my mother died 4 weeks later from a broken heart.. just one minute..one minute with the two of them together with me to really tell them how much I love them and would miss them would be worth all the material wealth in the world.. I've learned never take life for granted because it can change in a heartbeat..
Happy birthday dude, take care and stay strong
Happy birthdayy💛💛 I know its an extremely tough time for you.. but keep being strong, things will get better.
Praying for you sweetie
And Happy Birthday. I promise you everyday will not hurt this bad.
I lost my mom in 2017 I was 14 at the time. Man the things I would do to just hear her voice one more time...
I feel the same 🙏😔💔
Lost mine half a Year ago and iam 37yo ... think about her every single Day ... i hope for you and everyone else that we can get over it some Day ...
Pray for her, and stay faithful in our Creator Allah, by Allah we all will meet again on the day of judgement,
We will all one day experience loss of a very beloved person the best thing we can do is not to make them worry :)
You must live and find happiness use the pain to find your purpose in life and the people you will make your family one day,
so you can be the one people look up to like you did your loved one who was lost so tragically.
They would be so proud of you to know that you loved them so much as to grieve them.
You will again one day....
I know that moment of clarity meant the world to him.
I'm a 51 year old man and this made me cry...... what an awesome son you are.
It's obvious they sang this as he grew up, "we will meet again someday". It's almost as if they were solidifying a promise and it's so eerie in this situation. But lovely ♥️
Yes 👍🏾
your face is eerie
Three days before my dad died of vascular dementia, we were reciting the poem to each other he taught me when I was 2 and a half. Well actually the first paragraph of the circular novel by James Joyce, "Finnigan's Wake". I've never read the whole thing.
So sweet - they’ll meet again and again, like 50 first dates! She must connect already on some level. (My mom used to do this, so sweetly asking as I was in her kitchen, “ hello, can I help you with anything?” - Her ever Polite way of asking who are you and what are you doing in my kitchen) and answering with big smile “you’re kidding!” When told she”s my mom. This woman does not look old . Cherish the lovely memories, Sebastian, and much thanks for sharing this precious clip! Your mom will likely keep the ability to feel and express love til the very end! ❤️
My grandmother had dementia... when my mum got remarried, right in the middle of the vows she pipes up and goes “I’m at a wedding? Who’s getting bloody married?” Made everyone chuckle.
Sometimes she’d have day in which you’d think nothing was wrong. I miss her ☹️
my gran has dementia too.. she thinks my grandfather is still alive and talks to him to come out of the photos he's in... it's heartbreaking at times
Sending love ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@akuagawe1480 hug and love her as much as you can. It saddens me but when we lost her I hadn’t seen her for 2 months.
Too busy with my own meaningless life.. I regret it so much
He is strong.
I always say this the hardest thing in life is to grieve someone while they are a live 😔
He seems amazing. This is heart wrenching.
She couldn't believe this grown man was her little boy Sebastian, although she admitted that he looked similar. What's most heartwarming is that even without recognising him, just the mention of her son made her visibly happy. She may not know he's standing right beside her, but there is no question that she loves her son to bits!
So wait her memory stopped at a certain period of time? She always thinks her son is still little?
@@jamesethan3749 someone explained in much better explained reasonings for this but basically the Dementia starts where the short term memory is stored in the brain but the long term memories and precious, special ones are all outside of the hippocampus and outside where the Dementia starts to spread.
So she doesn't remember the last couple times she saw him when she remembered him but she remembers the longterm memories like when he was a child or graduations or marriage etc.
So in her head, with no short term and only long term, it makes her feel like she hasn't seen him in forever and brings on a lot of various, strong emotions of longing or grieving him like hes been gone for years
@@308AlYsSa0034 Awful. Thanks for the explanation
@@jamesethan3749 usually short term memory goes, and long term memory remains, I had a patient that was always cuddling a blanket that she thought had her baby son in it, :>) but he was all grown up-
My Dad never forgot me but he died of stroke but did have dementia
If you’ve ever loved a person with dementia you know how precious these moments of recognition are. 💕
That first scary time when they say I've a daughter with your name but I never see her. Is the most heartbreaking.
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That true my grandad thought I was his son and the end he said my name that made me cry cus for years he thought I was my dad and at the end he remembered me still cry thinking about it
@@kingket4 Bless you, in the end you had your reward for loving him.💔
I hope I never have to know :( dementia runs in my dad's side of the family and I'm so, so afraid I'm going to find out, possibly sooner than I otherwise would. He also suffered a severe brain injury way before I was born that he's barely gotten treated and his memory is getting worse and worse over the past year or so. It's terrifying. I think my parents have been trying to hide how bad it is, but I'm nineteen, and I can tell it bothers my mom. We don't have a great relationship but it's finally looking like it'll get better and I just want more time to love him and heal with him. I want him to see me get married someday. I'm trying to talk him into getting treatment and having his brain checked up on- I remember reading an article about TBIs causing a higher likelihood of early onset dementia or something.
Enjoy those moments, knowing she loves you always
What a wonderful memory that he’ll be able to cherish.
My mother had frontal lobe dementia. She became ill very young and passed away 3 years ago from complications of the disease. Her and I had many many moments like this. Unfortunately I really wasn’t prepared for the complete depletion of who she was. Little by little she would forget words, how to shower, brush her teeth, how to eat, who we were... then to walking, talking etc. it’s a devastating disease, I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy.
@ Christian Nelson
Very sorry for your loss.
Your Muslim Afghan brother here
Lost my dear sweet cousin to it. He was set for retirement, then it hit. Unfair, cruel disease. But, his wife, family, everyone worked hard to help him and he was cared for so well. Sorry for your loss.
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Yes I work in a dementia "care" home...it's scary and distressing how young some are.... particularly when their own mother's come in to visit them.
@@drinking_master yes, my mother was 50 when she started to show signs. But the type of dementia she had has been known to affect people in their 20’s and even some younger than that. So many people think dementia is just an “old” people’s disease. Beware, it is not!
This is actually so sad. Sebastian is a wonderful and caring son with a loving heart.
No my friend it is heart building. You don't know how big your heart can grow when you practice love.♥️🙋🙏💐
It hurts to watch these more than the happiness when she recognizes him.
What a wonderful Son..Stay strong for her Sebastian ...
The saddest day for me was when my father who had Alzheimer's couldn't say my name to me but he could if i wasn't there...i lost him 13 years ago and i miss him every single day...
amy pendry Your comment touched me 🙏 And i am sorry 4 your loss 😔
@@Leyla7292 Thank you!!
You haven't lost him. If you look up at night. Out of all those stars out there. One is your dad. Who's left the light on. Cheers.
Am sorry lost my mom 9 years ago
@SuperFluffy79 ❤️❤️❤️
I lost my Mom eight months ago to dementia. She raised me to become a musician which after years of schooling I did. This video crushed me but thrilled me as well.
Play harder than ever! Play David and touch people's souls with your music🎼🎶🙏👏
Music and lyrics seem to remain in the memory long after facial recognition and normal vocabulary have gone. That's what I noticed with my Mum anyway.
May the lord bless you and give you peace in your heart.
Hope you are coping well, rip to your mum
I can't imagine how painful this is for him.
Two weeks before my dad died from Alzheimer’s, my mom was trying to get my dad to go to bed but he refused saying he had to come to my house. He was so adamant that my mom FaceTimed me to tell him I was okay and that I loved him very much. That was the last time I spoke to my dad.
Sorry mate , my condolences
So sorry for you brother.
Condolence... 😢😢😢
Condolences to You!
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As someone who isn't a stranger to this I find 0:15 specially heartwarming. Stops, looks at him, thinks: "he does look like my son but it can't be, my son is a kid! This is a grown man! The resemblance is uncanny though" *laughs her ass off*
Best wishes to both of them
I thought the same thing
I haven't cried in 17yrs but this day will make me cry
“I haven’t seen you for a long time, my son” breaks your heart 💔
Sebastian, my man. You are a king. Stay strong
When she realized it really was her son she was just so happy to see and be with him.....I bet that song was something that they sang together when he was a child. that was so endearing.
The song is definitely an anchor. When he started singing it with her she knew even though she still didn't recognize him. She followed her logic since she couldn't trust her memory. That's why she asked him if he knew her name. Once he answered she was reassured that he really is her son.
@@Decimation1030 the song would be more of a trigger than anchor. It jogged her memory
I do not believe she came to recognize him in this video.
I don’t think she recognised him. She thought he was joking around and just playing along.
@stewarttaylor9756 exactly. He knew too that she still didn't recognize him.
15 years ago, my grandpa was on his medical bed in their home and had roughly a week to live...he had dementia for some time by then and my grandma was always by his side to comfort him and hold his hand...we lived next door and I came over often to see him, one time I was standing there and he looked up at my grandma with the most heartfelt and loving eyes and said "I don't know who you are, but I know I love you..." he then gave her a big smile. He passed away the next day peacefully...I'm crying while writing this and it's hard to type :(
I cried reading this bro,
I’m genuinely sorry, I los Tb my mom to cancer when I was 8 I’m 20 now,
Just now your loved man and it’s impossible to 100% move on but healing comes through only with pain coming out slowly over time
So sorry for your loss, I have tears in my eyes from reading your message. Life is about making memories that last forever and that's all we have at the end. Take care
( Mike Carroll) Feel you homie.
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What a beautiful story that made me cry. Thanks for sharing! 💚
You can tell she is a sweetest soul…
So special for her son to have a sing along with his Mom. She knew all the words. Nice time.
Karen Tate
So wonderful that he has this memory on video!
@@mernafrederick5153 Amen!
There`s some hope... Elon Musk and the implant called Neuralink that`s an upgraded version of Deep Brain Stimulation technology that`s about 30 years old.... Neuralink could make spinel injured people walk again, bladder control etc.. turn off or bypass brain disease Parkinson, Alzheimer's etc... physical/mental illnesses like Anorexia, OCD, suicidal thoughts, self harming.... etc.... Neuralink could copy a persons consciousness/memories enough before its taken away by brain disease and stored in an unused/undamaged/disease free part of the brain....
Sometimes u gotta laugh to get through the pain....😔💔 my grandma passed after having dementia smh, she stopped recognizing me months before she left...but the last secs of her life i walked up to her and Ik she recognized me... I pray for Sebastian
dude. why did you say smh
@@cyx7784 Ikr, I don't understand it.
"Sometimes you gotta laugh to get through pain" ... :.that's poetry.
@@cyx7784 smh can be used as an expression of sadness
I visited my dad on a Wednesday with my two children. He was nonverbal at that time. We all held his hand and kissed him. I truly believe he knew us that day. He passed on the following Friday.
Nothing can stop the bond of Mother and Son. Not even Dementia.
this dude appears with superhuman strength both physically and mentally
all kids and parents should have a song to sing to.. for moments like this.. 😊
Agreed 🥲 my mother has severe Dissociative identify disorder, and extreme chronic depression coexisting is extremely difficult since I have touches of the same. But whenever she sings a phrase or so of "you are my sunshine" I just want to sink into a puddle and cry.
Well for my household a drunkard dad and yelling mom will bring out the memories
Was about say this
remembers the song, but not the person - weird disease
Reminds me of the movie Coco with the song Remember me
This is so lovely and sad. I began to lose my mother to dementia more than six years before actually losing her two years ago. Who knew that dementia takes your loved one away twice.
Very true. My dad had early onset dementia. He had a terrible car wreck. The drs. said the head trauma advanced his dementia. He lived 7 months like that before dying. He was only 69.
@@ginacox9652 so sorry to hear that. That is incredibly young. That is also what struck me about this video. This lady doesn’t even look like she’s in her 60s yet.
She know her Sebastian 😍😍😍😍🫂🫂🫂 just beautiful, she still there she just gets lost sometimes. 🤲🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
This one hit right on my heart. My grandmother who lived and raised me got dementia a few years back. She would forgot little things and the dementia kept advancing and she started to forget our names or who we were. Now, every morning is a reintroduction to who I am. Like meeting a new person. She’s still alive but her memory is completely gone.
Was beautiful how during the song she asked what her name was and almost had a moment of normality because she knew her name she was testing him
Made me think she was in her early mother years. The way she said, "What's my name?", and her reaction to his response. Like a mother teaching a toddler.
@@ganjadan7600 yes. Going through the same with my grandma (aachi), she asks what's my name, what's my brother's name?. Then when we tell, she reassures herself coz she is forgetting it and is trying to remember it so hard.
It's very painful to see the person who brought you where you are, forget reality and turn into someone completely new.. love you grandma
@GanjaDan thanofully she is still has a joyous life.
My father didn’t have dementia, he had throat cancer that took his voice , while he could talk I begged him to tell us or write down the story of his life or anything he wanted us to know . He refused because he swore he wasn’t going to die . Then he had a stroke and then covid hit . He did not understand why wouldn’t come into the hospital and would be sitting in the window waving us all to come in . Broke my heart into pieces to see such a strong man brought so low . We were able to get him home but since the rehab facility we sent him to did ZERO!!! Rehab w him he was almost completely unable to communicate besides yes or no shaking his head . Trapped in his broken body I watched as he slowly gave up on communicating w us . He couldn’t write anymore either and the electronic voice simulator wouldn’t work because of the huge tumor on his neck . We will never know many things about his childhood or what his final wishes were . I would just look at him crying and say I’m sorry dad I don’t know what you are trying to tell me . He passed while we were all around him looking out his front window, my younger brother gasped and grabbed him and then out a wail and he was gone . The whole room erupted in a sea of tears as we tried to get my brother to let go . I was standing there silently pouring tears frozen in that moment . Picking my dad up w the sheet he was laying on only took me and my brother . In 4 years cancer took a 250 lbs man who worked out every day of his life ( even after cancer ) and left us with a husk of the man we knew . It was devastating loading my deceased fathers weightless body into the ambulance. The worst thing is the trauma of his passing makes it so hard to forget and remember who he was . I threw all of the pictures of him while he was sick away and never want to see them again just in an effort to save the memories of the man he was .
I had to watch the same happen to my 38 year old husband when our son was almost 2 (not complaining, I am grateful to have taken care of him). I am so sorry you and your family and your dear dad had to go through it too. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤ To help dull the horrifying traumatic memories of watching my frail withered husband (who was a competitive Taekwondo athlete just a year earlier) suffer and die from cancer, I did Faster EFT- it really helped. I was able to stop seeing him die over and over in my mind so vividly and get some relief and rest. There are free youtube videos by Robert Smith (not Robet Smith of The Cure) doing Faster EFT with people to help them with traumas. I got enough out of the videos to follow along for myself. I hope you feel some comfort and healing❤ Hugs
Hey David, it must have taken so much out of you to write this and so much out of you to go through this. A lot of time death brings so much trauma. The brain revisits the whole scene like a movie over and over again. The pain is excruciating. I hope you heal slowly as much as you can and life brings you joy in its full form again one day. You sound a like a brave human . May you and your family get the strength to deal with your terrible loss. There are strangers sending love your way through your comment ❤️
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Sorry for your loss and not being able to see your loved one. Sadly, it is a all to common theme of understaffed, poorly trained) when it comes to nursing homes and the like. My father had dementia and when it came time to placing him in an memory care unit it was a hard decision as I had been taking care of him but he was a large man (6' and 215 lbs) and he slowly lost his ability to walk and then my mother who was diagnosed with Parkingson's started really showing signs of demintia, turns out she never had Parkingson's and I could no longer take care of him at home. When I had to break the news to him that he would be going to a new place and that other people would help take care of him, he said to me I want you to be my nurse, crushed me. I still visited him four days week for a couple hours and before he was dropped and broke his hip. At least I did get a chance to be with him during his hospital stay but only got to talk with for a few days but the pain got bad during a position change and the had to up the meds (never forget hearing my Dad repeatedly calling out "farmboy, farmboy, sock it to me" as they where giving him the morphine. Spent a total of 16 days watching my father at his bedside not being able to eat or drink. I only left to eat and had my brother bring extra sets of clothes for me. The nursing staff show me how to take care of him, and I spent the time listening to his favorite singer, Eddie Arnold and re-telling him all the stories he used to tell up unitl 12:02 am when I held his hand and he took his last few small breaths. I too find it hard to look at pictures of my father during his illness as it is still to hard see. I can still rember his voice and smile everytime I went to see him. I started out the begining of my visits with guess what? And he would ask what and I would reply I love you, which would make him grin, then I would end my vist with the same question and reply I would see him the next day. I hope you and your family can find peace.
I’m sorry David.
So much love there ,I’m so glad your mom remembers you Sebastian .❤X
Living with a father with this condition is one of the most cruel things that has happened to me and my mother. To everyone that has encountered this disgusting disease in one of your family members… stay strong, one day at a time, most importantly share love whenever you can.