I really hate that that first bridezilla called her a "best friend" and then proceeded to nitpick everything "wrong" with said best friend. That's not your best friend, you're a terrible friend and bride, and honestly the "best friend" deserves waaay better.
I don't understand people who put looks above true friends. Those kind of friends are hard to find. My BFF died about 10 years ago, and I'd give anything to laugh with her and have fun again like we used to. She was a big girl, but her heart was even bigger. I have no friends now, and I'm so lonely it hurts to live some days.
The bride is not a true friend. She's a fake friend. All she is concerned about is herself. I hope her friend finds out and drops her like a bad habit. I would be petty enough to show up at the wedding looking sexy AF! I would even hire people to follow me around at the reception taking only pictures of me. Yeah I can be a very petty potato!!
@LazyIRanch I'm sorry for your loss, don't give up. I'm 53, my BEST friend is very big, but not only do I love her for who she is, SHE loves herself! She knows she's big and owns it. But she's so much fun AND I trust her with my life! There's no judgment between us and never has been through the years. This girl is going to regret her behavior one day, but it will be far too late. Hearing her say how she "ruined" the prom pictures made me sick. I bet 10 years from now she'll look at those pictures and think, God I miss that girl, she was the sweetest friend I ever had. PS: you'll make a new friend, please remember, she wouldn't want you to be sad!
I was removed as a bridesmaid once, and I was totally not mad. My friend had found out about a month before her wedding that the groomsman I would have been paired with had died in an accident overseas. This was a very good friend or cousin of her fiance, so they were dealing with the grief and reeling from the suddenness of it all. No idea what the "right" move would have been on her part, but she called me in a panic that this tragedy had occurred and asked if I'd be ok with not being a bridesmaid, because they were not going to replace his position (UNDERSTOOD). I bowed out and never worried about it. But, yes, like you said, life or death - not a bridezilla decision/move.
I agree with you. I don't think it was meant as a slight towards you. Maybe she asked you because being her friend, you might understand and show compassion. If she asked someone else to drop the position they might be offended.
You are a sweet, thoughtful friend who has emotional maturity! You are sensitive to your friend's grief and you lessened her worries by letting her know that you understood completely that the unforeseen tragedy required a change in plans. Your friend is lucky to have such a kind friend as you!
I'm so sorry this happened to your friend and her now family, but you're a beautiful human being for understanding the pain and grief your friend/her hubby was going through. You supported her in a different way. Much Love!😘💖🫂
It would have been nice if they still honoured his place. This happened to me and I walked down the aisle by myself with what have been his flower. It was sweet. Lovely.
That first bridezilla talking about “my wedding being perfect”- ANYTIME the focus is that strong on the wedding day, the relationship usually is shit and doesn’t last 🥴
Yeah it does seem that way. I know people that have had over-the-top, Pinterest weddings and it doesn’t last. My husband and I wore jeans and tees to run down to the courthouse and get married. Fifteen years later still happy that he’s my person. Having those memories can be amazing and fun to look back on, but that relationship is more important than that one day.
It's so true! I wanted to elope so bad, but my husband really wanted a wedding. So I planned one since it was so important to him. It was an outdoor ceremony and the most common comment we got was how much fun it was. It was a short outdoor ceremony in a pretty Chapel courtyard and a big dance party reception with snacks and cake. No seating chart. I let everyone pick where they sat. It was really simple compared to a lot of over the top weddings that are so common today. We've been happily married for 13 years. And as much as I did enjoy our wedding, I still think eloping is the way to go lol
Yup a family member of mine did a big one and honestly it was supposed to bigger than it was but some tings couldn’t happen so there’s that…… Later like a year or so found out he was unfaithful and not treating her right I was young and blind so I believed her (her mom raised me) but when I got older her brother told she been doing the same thing probably even before her husband 🤷🏽♀️😩
Easy to see why, really. I mean, if you've been obsessing about that ONE day for your entire life, everything after is going to seem kind of a let down afterwards, surely? If you're willing to throw genuine friends under the bus for the sake of this one day because it truly is the most important thing in the world to you, your one "perfect" day, then chances are you're gonna get itchy once your relationship no longer has this end goal to work towards, and you're gonna break up, and probably start the cycle again so you can be all about having a wedding day again.
i feel SO BAD for this "best friend"; she actually loves the bride and thinks they are friends. it's pretty clear she only kept her "friend" around to feel better about herself. run, girl. this bride is toxic.
Either that or it's purely because the bigger friend has more money so gets used as a meal ticket in exchange for them 'putting up' with having her there.
I cannot even understand how disgusting people like this bride are.. What you said just hurts my soul.. To think of how she will feel when told, "THANKS FOR THE THOUSANDS NOW SIT IN THE 5TH ROW!" Uggghhh
I love how Charlotte tries to turn it around and says "YOU'RE UGLY on the inside", but actually that still implies that being fat is ugly and that is just something that should be subjectively determined (who we find attractive and who we don't), but it is in fact fed to us through all sorts of channels that being fat equals being unattractive, while this has to do with fashion and has not always been the standard at all times all across the globe. And what to you may be "bigger arms" to another person may be a normal size. Imagine telling someone you didn't want them as your bridesmaid bc you didn't like their face, their freckles, or god forbid, "you'd be the only 'darker' person in the bridal party" yikes
@@Ruby-yn5fpYour comment is the perfect example of "overthinking". The bride called the friend ugly. Charlotte called the bride ugly on the inside. There was in no way any "complicity" in thinking the friend was ugly just for being larger on Charlotte's part. As a matter of fact, Charlotte says pretty much the same as your comment. Your internalizing someone else's thoughts and issues. The big question is: Why are you taking it so personally? 🤨
Seriously! I was a bridesmaid at my cousin's big beautiful wedding, and I was delighted that her MOH was her best friend since childhood, her BFF is lesbian and not at all feminine. Honestly, I can't even remember if she wore a dress, I'm thinking she wore something different than us bridesmaids and maybe not even a dress but everyone looked nice. NOBODY CARED! We were just all happy that my sweet cousin had a wonderful wedding with all her loved ones around. My cousin looks like Selma Hayek, and her dress was gorgeous so nobody was even looking at the wedding party!
People like that usually keep their gross side hidden until something happens like this where they feel like it's "their day" and they're entitled to "full control".
She's good at faking it. She probably doesn't have too many friends though. Her spouse is probably as crappy of a person as she is or will likely leave her or cheat on her.
I recently directed a community theatre production of a play set in 1830 with a diabetic in the cast and I argued with them that they had to keep the pump on. They didn’t want to ruin the historical aesthetic and I didn’t want them to die. I even created pouches for the pump in her costume, and when it beeped on stage we arranged to hide lollies there in case of any future need. Because it’s not that hard to value someone’s health over an aesthetic. Some people are just dumb in the face
Funny how the ugliness inside a person works its way out to the physical (how long it takes depends on the amount of ugliness inside) so that it becomes plain as day to everyone just by looking at them.
True! And adversely, I've known some internally beautiful people who had terribly self destructive lifestyle habits but still miraculously dont deteriorate physically any quicker than anyone else...beautiful on the inside leeches to the outside too!
What Charlotte said in this vid just shook a memory loose... an analogy my mom told us as kids. She said (verbatim;) “sometimes a plain box wrapped in brown butcher paper and tied with string contains a fortune of rare jewels and amazing treasures while another gift box that’s beautifully wrapped with ribbons and bows will surprise you by being completely empty... or worse!” Mom was great observer of the human condition; a rare combination of both inner and (being a straight-up doppelgänger for Rita Hayworth) outer beauty. She was also very kind but humble, constantly down-playing a MENSA-level intellect. Most importantly she proved that “common sense” isn’t as “common as it’s name suggests. *You schooled us very well mom; RIP*
People that think a friends size ruins ur wedding or group pictures don't deserve to have friends... That is absolutely disgusting. My friends are all shapes and sizes and the pictures are all beautiful cause when i look at them i see myself and those closest to me all wearing my favorite colors and having the best most loving and fun day ever. ❤
My best friend was about 250 lb when I got married, you better believe she was my maid of honor. I let her pick out what ever dress she wanted to wear. It was more about the marriage and not the wedding for me and my husband. We just celebrated 27 years in July.
My niece was just like this for her wedding! We were all different heights and sizes and all she cared about was our comfort. We ended up with a beautiful 2 piece set that worked well with all of our different figures. We had two-tone wraps so MOH had her wrap adjusted differently than the rest of us (think black with the champagne top edge folded to show, and reverse for us bridesmaids). My sister however, was a MOMZILLA. 🙄🤦♀️
Listen, I sorta get being worried the type of dress wouldn’t look flattering on the bridesmaid, but you don’t think about dropping them! Pick a dress that’ll be flattering for them so they feel as good as they do you for being there, and if that style conflicts with another’s body type, then just get different dresses that flatters everyone in the same/similar color. That is what the sales people are for, to help we stuff like this. This is why when I’m having a wedding I’m having all my bridesmaids have their own style of dress (maybe ask if they can keep similar length ones but that I don’t care as much) just in the same color. There! No issue! No need to drop someone! If the bride really cared, she would’ve come up with solutions, not immediately thinking dropping her out.
I had a dear friend who was in home hospice care at the end of his life. He had heart and lung issues because he was a lifelong firefighter. He said most firefighters who live to retire end up having these issues, and they knew it going in. When I'd visit him and ask how he was, every single time he's laugh and say, "Beats the alternative!" As I get older and I deal with a health issue, I always remember that it beats the alternative and of his gratitude for making it that far and having so many people who loved him. I always wanted to do something for him, but I could never think of what until one day I had an idea. I went to a bakery and got a gorgeous chocolate layer cake, with chocolate icing and curls and just so damn much chocolate. I went over and said that sometimes you couldn't think of what to do for a friend, but there was always chocolate. He said he wasn't eating much lately as he didn't have much of an appetite, but he was going to have a slice of that cake AND a glass of milk. He didn't quite finish a whole slice but he enjoyed the heck out of it. We all had some: his wife, the home care nurse, various kids, and nieces and nephews who stopped by. We sat around, talking and eating cake. It was a wonderful day of almost normalcy. His widow stopped by a few days after he passed. She had been taking care of all the paperwork needed after a spouse passes. She hadn't wanted to go home quite yet, because the house felt empty. We sat in my living room and talked about him and we were both crying and I wished I had some chocolate cake. Then I realized I had something as good if not better: kittens! I was fostering a litter of orphaned kittens for a rescue, and they were in that wonderful wobbly learning to play stage. I went and grabbed a box, filled it with 6 kittens, some yarn and toys and piled them on the couch between us and we played with kittens for a couple of hours until everyone wanted a nap. With sleeping kittens piled on us, we talked about how wonderful her husband was. The next week she stopped by again. She'd been at the funeral home picking up his death certificate and she had to step outside for a few minutes to compose herself. She was the only visitor there and her car was the only one there in the whole visitor parking lot. She sat in her car with the door open having a bit of a cry when she felt something on her foot. She looked down and there was a fluffy 8 to 10-week-old kitten. There was nothing around but other parking lots - not even grassy areas or anything. She picked the kitten up, walking around looking for other kittens or a mama cat or anything but she couldn't find any other kittens. She took the kitten inside, got the paperwork and a cardboard box for the kitten, and came to my place. She told me the story and said she was bringing the kitten to me but then she thought maybe it was a sign from her husband - maybe he was sending her some companionship when she needed it. She had the kitten in the box and asked me if it was a boy or a girl. I opened the box to the fluffiest most adorable male tabby kitten. I laughed and said if her husband had sent her a kitten - or been reincarnated as one - he'd want it to be one with a full head of luxurious hair (he had been bald and made a LOT of bald jokes). She laughed and laughed, and then named the kitten after him and he was a great companion - and so spoiled, as he should be! Growing old is a privilege and someone choosing to spend their last days with you is even more so.
I can’t wait to get old and lose every last ounce of tact I even possess. My grams was epic eating Jell-O shots, eating cool ranch Doritos and drinking Mountain Dew in her 80s. She also told people they were getting fat or if an outfit was ugly. It was glorious.
The first lady, oh my goodness. What an absolute monster. “Don’t tell me I’m being shallow just because my best friend’s body disgusts me so much I don’t want people to see me standing next to her but I’ll still take her money.”
Speaking of tacky, I had 20 women RSVP to my bridal shower, hosted by my friend's grandmother who prepared PLENTY of food for that many people, and literally one person showed up. One. It was humiliating. Half the people said they "forgot," the other half had random excuses why they didnt make it. It was a very painful, lonely time in life. Needless to say, I drank two bottles of champagne by myself that day!
Karma WILL get the 1st bridezilla! She'll wish she had a friend like that girl when she gets older, but she won't and she doesn't deserve to! Ever! She's disgusting.
@lindahind2205 exactly 💯 It will always be the other person. She really needs to take a good look at herself. I bet she deleted all the responses to her post that she didn't like... sad.
That they do. They also serve as a lesson NOT to be like them. Better to just enjoy your wedding than be a Bridezilla or a Groom Kong and risk losing all of your family and friends or even your wedding and fiancé all together. 😊
In my part of the country, giving gifts in weddings is frowned upon. It is always mentioned in the invitations "please don't bring any gifts and embarrass us!"
Hmmm, idk I remember hearing that most people's love languages are based on how they show you love not the other way around. So if someone often gives complements or gets more hurt by insults than most ppl they probably have "words of affirmation". And someone who buys alot of things for people probably has "receiving gifts" right?
That part is legit though. Google the six love languages and you'll find that the one they're talking about is called Receiving Gifts. There's no such love language as Giving Gifts. That said, just because that's your love language doesn't mean you should weaponise it or use it as an excuse to request gifts. That's not in the spirit of the love languages.
Hey Charlotte, as a big girl I just want to thank you for your reaction to the first bridezilla. I struggle with my self esteem so it's nice to hear people you look up to talking like this. So thank you and love you!
Honestly, any half decent person has the same opinions as Charlotte. You don't *ever* need to thank anyone for simply not discriminating or judging you for your weight; that's just basic decency. You have just as much right to exist, be happy & love yourself as ANYONE else. x
@@charitygoldart I think this depends entirely on where you grew up. Where I live you get ridiculed a lot, even by adults when your still young, for your weight. But thank you for your kind words
@@melissaoderso249I’m sorry people have been that way to you. That is so dehumanizing and you do not deserve it. Your existence is beautiful, you are a beautiful human being! People make me so mad with how shallow they are. That’s definitely coming from some insecurity within themselves.
Thank you all so much for your kind words. You made me cry happy tears and brightened my day. I hope you all have a blessed life because you all deserve it with such beautiful souls. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Receiving gifts is NOT a love language, giving gifts is. If you want to throw an expensive wedding pay for it yourself!! I had a blue and white dress from Ross and a courthouse wedding and hubby and I were(still are) happy.
They kind of go together as the way you both express and feel love, but I'm going to go out on a limb and say this couple has no idea what their actual love language is, they're just saying it's gifts because they like to get stuff.
Mine was a bridesmaid dress in white. $62 dollars. Still looked beautiful even in pictures and the whole wedding including the food, venue, etc was $1500, including the $800 photographer. I did a lot of the stuff myself, including my bouquet. You can have a charming, small wedding and it still look great. I am in no way upset with how it turned out. We wanted a day to spend with friends and family and that is what we got.
Recieving gifts can be a love language in the way if how a person feels loved- but not the caveat of expensive gifts. Some people love gifts, but any! A little trinket you saw at a shop that reminds you of them, their favourite snack, a heart shaped rock you found on the beach, etc. If they're mad at gifts that aren't several hundred dollars, it's not about the act of giving them a gift. It's just about the material stuff
The first store really ticked me off. I’m a VERY overweight woman and was the largest women at my best friend’s wedding, let alone in the bridal party. She had no problem with my size and had me in all the pictures. I wasn’t the maid of honor because her best friend from childhood was ( we met in college), but I was what her mom called the maid of honor part 2😂.
I wish Charlotte could sit down in person with these entitled little brats and give them the business! So disappointing that these people walk among us.
Short of someone proposing at your wedding, I will never get the "take attention from me" argument. I got married 3 months after my sister, and she was nothing but loving and supportive. My brother had a destination wedding 1 week before my first wedding anniversary, and me and my husband just laughed and joked that it would double as our very own anniversary trip. Theres plenty of love and attention to go around!
I think that's so cute that you and your husband joked that it was like your anniversary trip. I want to be able to make cute jokes like that with my partner if I ever find someone.
"It's a privilege to grow old!" Amen! I don't understand why people hate getting older. I've already lost 20 people out of my graduating class and we're celebrating our 20 year reunion this year. I almost became one of them. Yet here I am, 38 and loving it!
exactly. i lost my son 33 feb 2/22 and i would give anything for him to still be here to grow old along with me. i lost my husband days after he turned 47 married nearly 26 yrs. i lost my mom when i was 3 days shy of 18 she was 42 she would have loved to grow old and seen me married and met her 4 grandkids. i am so disgusted by these bridezillas and bet the vast majority of them will end up divorced anyway because they are terrible ppl and those perfect photos won't mean shite anymore.
Well... I have death anxiety 😂 I started freaking out every year in the weeks leading up to my birthday when I was around 5 or so... Can't be explained why. I think I'm just defective 🤣
What’s “tackier” than having diabetic/medical supplies being shown up in wedding photos is having an ambulance show up in your wedding photos due to DKA!
Yup! We are currently planning our wedding and my mother-in-law is diabetic in addition to other health issues. I will personally make sure she is okay throughout the day. Not only do I care about her generally, but it’s also important she has a great day. Yes it is our wedding, but it is also a family event. There will be people will health issues or mobility issues, kids who might run around and, well be kids. These are the people we care about and who care about us, whether they are “perfect” or not!
I had a backyard wedding. I wanted it to be a celebration not an event. The only thing that bothered me that day was that we had set up tables and seating and I explicitly explained that while I understood it was warm no one was to eat inside the house because we have animals and I didn't want to risk them getting out or eating human food. My husband's sister decided to ignore that one rule and ate with her 4 messy children inside my house and tried to leave without cleaning up after herself even after using my actual dishes and not the ones provided. I was pissed. To this day we don't really get along I find her very inconsiderate
They say "When people show you who they are -- believe them!" She showed herself to be self-centered, lazy, and inconsiderate. Who'd want to have a relationship with someone like that? :)
They're awful, aren't they? When I got married, all I cared about was that my loved ones were there, happy, and having a good time. I didn't even think about their weight or hair colour, because they're people - their characters are far more important - and I love them for who they are! These bridezillas will have a rude awakening one day when they're older, bigger, and greyer... I kinda hope karma pays them a visit and they're treated the same way they've treated others... You must have your first anniversary coming up (or you celebrated recently) - congratulations! 🥂 Wishing you many more years of happiness 💕
I got married in May and none of this ever crossed my mind. Everyone looked great. The only person who stole the show was my father because he looked amazing. I told him I walked him down the aisle and allowed him to give me away lol
Story one happened to me. A friend I considered family thought I'd bring down the mood in her wedding with my blindness and told everyone this. To not hurt my feelings she told me she thought I was too poor and "sick" to be her bridesmaid. I revel in cutting her out of "family only" events.
I am so sorry this was done to you. It's a horrible way to treat anyone, especially someone you consider a friend. It sounds like you still have contact with her. I hope you found a better friend since.
Same. Only I was a teenager and super close to my cousin (the groom). The bride to be told me I'd be a bride's maid. Then she decided I was going to do a reading. I got to the church and suddenly I wasn't doing a reading and she started screaming at my mother and me. Turns out she had already picked someone else for the reading and planned this all. I haven't talked to them since that moment. It's been years. They've got a kid going into college now. Now I'm the one engaged. Feels weird.
My sister who is disabled was left out of her best friend's wedding party "for her own sake." The friend passed it off as not wanting to put too much pressure and such on my sister, but I'm very suspicious that that wasn't the real reason. Especially because she didn't even ask my sister if she thought she could do it 🙄
One of my dearest friends was morbidly obese. That never had anything to do with my love for her. I loved her for who she was inside, not her outsides. She died way too young and I miss her. I would never have treated like that bridezilla in the first story. That’s not a friend, that’s a user!
That first bride is the absolute worst. I sincerely hope that bride told her how she really felt and the friend took her money, her loyalty, and her friendship elsewhere. Bride is a terrible human.
Grey hair story: She just nonchalantly mentioned their "monthly bridesmaid agenda" meetings. That's insane! Maybe if all your bridesmaids are local, but like, what could you possibly have to meet with them about on a monthly basis that a group text can't handle?
I think the whole idea of a 'Bridesmaid agenda' is bonkers. When my best friend got married, I had already started getting grey hairs, she literally didn't care as long as I was there. As it dang well should be.
@@strawberrykatnzAnd it shouldn’t matter! So many people don’t even live long enough for grey hair so we should own it with pride. I didn’t think I would and I’m looking forward to it if I get there
Those monthly agenda meetings will create more stress and more grey hair! I started getting grey when I was 20 and decided that I wasn’t going to spend my life coloring it. Some of my friends when they were older went and got professional coloring that was very natural. One friend told me that I would look younger if I dyed my hair, but she used box mixes and her hair is a strange unnatural orange with missed spots but everyone is to polite to point that out. I still get compliments on my shiny hair and because of the pandemic, many had decided to quit coloring it as their hair had grown out. It’s a personal decision and frankly don’t care what people do to their own hair.
I honestly hate the whole gift thing at weddings. Many of my friends had their weddings in college and I was poorer then poor. I joked with her that my presence was the gift 😂
Besides, according to etiquette experts, guests have one year after the wedding to send a gift. How does she know the ones who "show up empty-handed" haven't sent, or made arrangements to send, a really nice gift? I think it's tacky to bring a gift TO the wedding, then someone has to deal with it, figure out afterwards how ti will go where it needs to go.
My father in law, a retired cop, stepped up and said he would be in charge of "wrassling wedding gifts and ensuring they were delivered to our tiny house". I trusted him, and because of our jobs my late husband and I married in a town neither of us was from. dad in law pulled in grooms side of the family to help, people i barely knew, and after our honeymoon my in laws had everything waiting for us to open at-home, and money was locked away safely. Yes some folks arranged gifts to come in advance like etiquette recommends, but reality is, when all are traveling they carry the gifts with them.
I think some of my wedding guests didn't bring gifts. They took the time and energy to be there, before the wedding day, during, and after. I know it's cheesy, but that really is a gift! I think most people were very generous, but if you can remember a wedding gift at all years later it was either a REALLY special one or your life is pretty lame, IMO. Then again, we got married at 35, so we were far enough into our careers and maturity to prioritize and not spend money we shouldn't... I can't imagine a much younger version of me would have been as responsible and reasonable... Which is probably why I had to wait so long to get married 🤭.
Where I am from, gifts are given at the WEDDING SHOWER, not the ceremony, for logistical reasons. Many couples depart the wedding and go straight to the honeymoon. That makes it fall on other people to secure, transport, and hold anything brought to the ceremony until the couple returns.
My friend's daughter was the complete opposite of a bridezilla. The wedding was outside. They served some nice food before the ceremony. The bridesmaids dresses/outfits were all different but using the same color. The girls were all shapes and sizes, including one who was pregnant. Their 3dogs were included, wearing adorable clothes. Everyone had a great time and the pictures are amazing.
Same thing with mine, minus the dogs, although I would have loved to include pups in my wedding. I didn’t have any at the time, or I definitely would have
Same!! And for favours we made a donation to a couple of special charities in their honour, so we left everyone a personalised hand written note explaining that and a pin badge for their charity. I wanted my special day to be a celebration of love and to me love is caring for those who are vulnerable!
Thank you for this, I financially struggle to feed myself every week, so this kind of 'faux pas' attitude makes me feel like the only reason people want friends is to give them gifts. Charlotte's attitude will make me rethink accepting any wedding invitations on the future. If you feel I am terrible person because I can't afford a gift what are we even doing?
@@bethsweeney715 Just the fact that you are there to spend my special day with me is enough and if someone NEEDS a gift, they don't know me and are not worthy to have me there.
The body shaming was horrible. I have experienced this from someone we had been "best friends" for 13 years or so I thought. I was devastated and and starved myself to the point I was hospitalized just because of one heartless azzhat that was telling mutual friends that she was embarrassed to be seen with me. It sucks😢
I got married 7 years ago under a tent in my inlaws backyard and it was amazing. Got my dress from anthropologie on sale for $400, a friend baked a cake and my sister in law took pictures on her phone. My husband made a dance mix based on Whitney Houston and we had whole foods cater lunch. It was just the best and the whole wedding was like $3000 and that was for the tent, chairs, linenes, food, beer and wine. If we had more money at the time i wouldve had more flowers/ decorations and a photographer but for the most part i wouldnt change a thing ❤ we were young and happy and there was so much love under that tent on a drizzly afternoon in april.
Sounds perfect! We are planning our wedding at the moment and I would totally jump on the opportunity to have a backyard wedding if someone in the family had one available 😋
As the mother of a type one diabetic, we view her tech as an extension of her skin. We are proud that our kiddo finally has the confidence to wear hers in a visible location…and Mama Bear comes out if anyone messes with that!
My mother-in-law lives with us and she is diabetic among other things, wearing a sensor on her arm. I learnt so much about diabetes from living with her and also got kind of excited a few weeks ago when I saw a young woman at the gym wearing a sensor on her arm. The more we are exposed to people who need (medical) devices - be it sensors, hearing aids, walking sticks, etc - living normal lives unapologetically, the more normalise it will become and society can hopefully be more inclusive.
It boggles my mind how many brides would rather have "perfect" looking photos rather that being able to recognize their loved ones and have them look like themselves. I dont give a shit what you look like as long as you look like yourself and hopefully you've got a genuine smile on your face. I had a backyard wedding in july and people asked me if they were allowed to wear shorts, i said i don't care what you wear as long as you don't show up in a wedding dress, let people be comfortable and they will have a much better time
There is a big difference between "getting married" and a "wedding", if you are more worried about the "wedding" than you are about "getting married" your marriage is already in trouble. A wedding is a few minutes out of your day that only you care about, your marriage is the rest of your life (hopefully) and should be the focus of your attention and concern. Blowing up friendships, family and your relationship with your fiancé over a few minutes of pomp and circumstance going to leave scars that will last far longer than your feeling special will. It isn't worth the long term pain.
I decided to stop dying my hair and just let it go grey. Everyone was shocked. Why? I'm 53, I've earned every grey hair on ky head! The last story is ridiculous. The month I got married we had a wedding every weekend. It was so much fun.
Good for you!! I love grey hair, I always smile when I see people rocking it and hope that it's a sign that they know their worth and beauty. Loving yourself is so valuable ❤
well entitled people don't think that way. they believe they are the best and the world owes them everything! i had a co worker that was like this thankfully she left. my Grandma died and this coworker said I couldn't go to the funeral because I didn't let them know in time. i called 4 days ahead of time. i was mad like wtf who does that. alot of other workers couldn't stand her. she's finally gone and we all are Happy.
@@funnyusername8635 I'm just saying, bare minimum: send it to them through the mail. Otherwise, I would definitely have some petty revenge and keep the gift for myself. My message to them would be: "You were being a dick, so I'm teaching you a lesson, you entitled, obnoxious, ungrateful brat."
Thank you for acknowledging that some people don't get to be old, I had cancer at 13. My Mum use to try to dye her white and grey hairs but doesn't now. Growing old is a privilege, ageing is a privilege. Just like every scar I have, I will be proud to have wrinkles and white hair
Can I just say that it's perfectly fine to, ya know, NOT have strapless dresses at your wedding? You can literally pick any other style of dress, accessories, etc to flatter everyone. People don't have to have bare collarbones to make your wedding pretty.
I totally agree and want to add that I have definitely seen a fair share of 'plus size' people totally pull off a strapless dress (because you know, there's some boobage there to keep it up) as opposed to small-boobed me who totally needs straps to keep clothes from floating down to the waist 😅 so 'big arms' is definitely the wrong thing to worry about when it comes to strapless dresses!
I had strapless dresses at my wedding, but the bridesmaids could choose if they wanted straps on them. The design came with both. I don't see what the big deal is with that. I had five bridesmaids and three of them chose the straps, two of them didn't. Everyone looked great. And to be honest, if I'm looking at someone's wedding picture, my eyes go first to the bride then the groom, then a quick glance at the bridesmaids. The last thing I'm thinking about is symmetry with the dresses or the color of someone's hair. smh...
At one time, virtually all Christian churches forbade strapless, off the shoulder or even sleeveless dresses during church ceremonies. The shoulders were always to be covered in church.
I wouldn’t give it a second thought my answer would have been don’t worry about the wedding go be with your loved one. I would be asking about grams and offer to save some cake for the friend. I know cake doesn’t fix the hurt of losing someone but it’s a small gesture that you are being thought of.
What if the relationship is only a month old ? It's her business, I wouldn't impose but, if my lifelong best friend ditched me that day for a maybe husband to be, I would be mad and I don't care about weddings that much.
First story is the reason I was afraid when my niece asked me to be her MOH. I was terrified that she would be worried about me ruining her photos. Obviously my niece didn’t give one shit what my body looked like. She wanted me to stand up for her. Period.
I asked my niece if the outfit I chose for her wedding was okay and she replied without even looking. "I don't care what you wear. Wear ratty sweats if you want. I want you there." I am glad both you and I have nieces who know people matter more than pictures.
The story about the dying relative shows what a POS the bride is... She didn't even ask if her friend was ok or express any form of concern. They're losing a loved one and she couldn't care less! Not everybody will make it to your wedding - that's just life. Vehicles break down, people get sick, things happen. Unless they're a key part of the wedding, it's not the end of the world. When I was MoH for my best friend, I booked a few days off before the wedding in case we needed to run errands, fix anything, etc. The day before the wedding, I was round at her house when I heard that my young nephew had been in an awful accident and had been airlifted to hospital. My best friend has been my best friend since kindergarten and her parents passed away when she was young, so I was giving the speech from the bride's side of the family on the big day, making my attendance important. Yet, as soon as I got the call about my nephew, my amazing best friend (who had spent so much time, effort and money on this wedding) immediately put my nephew first and said "if you need to go, it's ok - I understand - some things are more important". THAT is a *real* friend! I spoke to my sister and made sure she had support, kept in contact with my family throughout, and still attended the wedding, but the fact that my best friend's first thought was for my nephew, and not her wedding, is *why* she's my best friend. She even asked the vicar to include a prayer for my nephew's full and speedy recovery. Your wedding is your big day - but it's not an earth-shattering event for everyone else... Handle it the way my best friend did and you'll have friends forever. Handle it like a Bridezilla and you'll only have your spouse in your life... If you don't get divorced...
I agree. Your friend handled it really well. She also seems to have a decent amount of empathy, maybe partly due to her own experience with personal loss. I hope your nephew is ok.
@@moonhunter9993She really is one the most amazing people - I feel incredibly lucky to call her my friend 💕 Thank you for asking about my nephew. He was badly burned and had to have several major operations, but he's doing really well now. As he's still growing, he still has ongoing treatment once a year, but it's not stopping him from living life to the fullest. We're all really proud of him 💖 Wishing you all the very best ❤
I missed a coworkers wedding because my boyfriends grandfather (who raised him) died. A year later, I married that boyfriend, and my coworker begged for an invite for her whole family (10 seats). It was a small wedding, so I could stretch the budget ($45/head). She didn't come, no explanation. I asked her about it when I got back to work, she said I didn't come to hers, so it was only fair. I want to mention she is 10 years my senior and it was her 2nd marriage. Edit: The funeral and wedding were on the same day and 2 hours apart.
What an absolute asshole, I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope your marriage has been an extremely happy one. (And I won’t straight up wish I’ll for her……but I don’t really wish her much happiness.)
Because of health issues I wasnt able to visit my friends wedding. She brought me cake the day after, showed me all the wedding pics and her husband showed his wedding suit to me. Those are real friends❤❤❤
I was a bridesmaid six times in the '80s and '90s. Got those dresses to prove it😂 Here's the thing. None of the weddings I was in had the drama of so many weddings these days. Once, I walked down the aisle with my ex boyfriend whose wife was sitting in the pew with their 10 day old child. I felt terrible for her but I just did it becausemy ex and I, well, our heights matched. It was something I did for my friend. Other than feeling bad for his wife I just did what my good friend asked me to do, no drama an it was over in less than a minute. Maybe I just picked better friends or maybe it was a different time when you didn't spend the cost of two houses for a wedding and reception. The one chick whose friend was too big and didn't want her in her wedding party should be shoved into the decorative fountain, which I am sure she will have.
Ah the 80s. I got married in 1987. My not at all froofy sister wore a puffy pink dress. When we cleaned out Mom's attic ( AKA the archives) we found the abomination. She (all 5' 3" of her) MADE us take it to the dump. I said she was depriving some Goodwill shopper of a great Halloween costume.
One of my really good friends from high school that came to my wedding was a college student at the time, but something we had always done together was custom make our cosplays. When I told her that our honeymoon would be Disneyland (husband had never been and I was raised on Disney) she decided to make us these beautiful custom Mickey Mouse ear headbands. They were gold with silk flowers in our wedding colors and I just about cried when I saw them. Still one of the best gifts I’ve ever received, thank you Chloe ❤
Also wedding gifts can be services. The last 3 weddings i went to I couldn't afford a gift so i either live-sketched the couple at the alter (both couples i did that for got the sketches framed because they loved them so much) and for one wedding i cropped and edited old photos of the bride's deceased father so she could have a memorial plaque of him at her wedding. There are ways to provide meaningful gifts or services as long as you clear it with the couple first.
Because it's ok for fat women to have fat purses but heaven forbid that fat people are also fat in your wedding photos. I am a fat woman, and I would seriously have torched this friendship to the ground if I found out that is how this friend feels about me.
Sometimes it takes everything in me not to yell “I had to wait for the goddamn Supreme Court to give their permission to marry my wife after being together for a decade, and when we did get married, we did it without families there because they’re the physical manifestation of Florida’s Don’t Say Gay bill, and you’re out here acting like this?” Like Charlotte said, it’s a privilege to be able to do this shit easily. Ugh.
My wife and I have this convo so often! 💜🏳️🌈 We got married with just best friends because our families loved us BUT just couldn’t attend a gay wedding.
This!! It’s amazing simply to have a person you care so much about, and who cares so much about you, and be able to freely celebrate that in the company of people who matter.
@@purplekristen2932 As a gay trans enby I have to say, people who won't attend your wedding because you are both the same gender don't actually love you.
I 36 F, started to go grey a tiny bit in high school and covered it for years. The last 10 years have been really tough and stressful so it has really taken off. My amazing husband husband has always said whatever I've chosen to do with my hair is beautiful. When I became really depressed in general 2 years ago I let it grow out and he told me (and continues to say) that he absolutely loves how I look with all my "fairy strands of wisdom glitter" I love all things fairy, so he picked an amazing way to describe it to make me feel beautiful.
I recently heard someone say "women ni longer get married for the marrige, they get married for the wedding" and these stories are the perfect embodiment of that 😂
*That first girl.* I've never been the type of girl to fantasize about my "dream" wedding, but her situation gave me the only scenario that I could possibly consider: my perfect wedding would have the people who I love the most who are still living by my side in my photos sharing in my joy, not "perfect looking" people who I have lukewarm feelings for at best filling out my photos and bridal party.
I am known in my family for dressing...unusually. So when my niece got married I asked her if the outfit I sent a picture of would be okay for me to wear her wedding. I don't think she even looked at the picture. She replied back immediately with "I don't care what you wear. You can wear ratty old sweats if you want. I just want you to be there." She didn't choose her bridesmaids' dresses, just told them all the color scheme was shades of purple and to choose anything they liked that was purple. She had a really good grasp of the purpose of a wedding, which is to share your happiness with the people you care about.
It is so easy to solve the wedding gift issue: if you are so sensitive about whether or not someone brought a gift then write on the invite "please no gifts, your presence is all that is required." She said it herself she can afford the wedding and it is all about love.
At my reception my new Mother-In-Law set up a money tree without telling anyone. As we were well off we didn’t need money, nor would we ask for money, so the tree was way out of line especially knowing that most of the people there don’t make near what we did. I immediately grabbed the tree, returned their money with a huge hug and thank you, all while handing them another drink and explaining what happened. Needless to say, my new Mother-In-Hell (I mean mother-in-law) was never invited to our events again with out close supervision. Don’t ever ask people for something you don’t need and don’t be disappointed when you don’t get anything, just go earn it yourself.
Is it a family tradition on your husband's side? She shouldn't have put it there without asking, but I'm curious if it's part of the family tradition. My family's tradition is a money dance. I can't tell you how many people were asking me throughout and after the wedding why I didn't do the money dance. Many were looking forward to it and were disappointed.
Our best friends got married two week after we did, and it was the best thing ever. Getting to plan and celebrate each other, it was a month full of celebrating and parties! We love having those memories with them.
I’m from a small town in Oklahoma, and it’s actually pretty normal to not bring a wedding gift, unless you are an older or well-off family member. We also have very small, cost effective weddings. It’s also normal here to not have alcohol or even dinner after the wedding. Our family receptions are usually cake, punch, and hand made mints. After the reception anyone who wants to party goes to a bar and pays their own way. Weddings don’t have to break the bank to be fun and beautiful!
I"m in my late 60s. When I was younger I did the hair-coloring thing, but a few decades ago I decided I no longer wanted to invest the time. I've embraced the gray, and get compliments on it all the time on my hair. If someone asked me to have my hair colored for their event, I'd tell them, "I wish you well, but I have other plans."
Good Morning Besties!! And I do feel privileged to be 54. None of my siblings made it this far. Being old is a badge of honor and (hopefully) wisdom. I earned ever single gray hair!
That's how I see it too, I love my grey hair! I inherited my mom's hair, so like her, I have pure white streaks framing my face, kind of like Lily Munster (hey, I always thought she was pretty!). I've had people ask how I was able to completely remove my "natural" color to get those bright white streaks. I smile and say, "Oh, my mom did it!" It takes temporary color well, like hair chalk, so that's something fun I couldn't do when my hair was dark brown. I'm sorry you lost your siblings at such a young age. I'm the youngest of four, so I'll likely face losing my sisters first because they are 15 and 17 years older than me so they are in their late 70s.
I have MS. Imagine someone telling me, “you cannot use cane walking down the aisle.” I feel privileged that I’m not at a bad state with my illness. Grays are a badge of honor.
Just loss a beautiful friend just after her 50 birthday I'm going to be 55 in November I'm bald but do have some gray facial hair I've lost alot of friends never made it to 50 so it's a big deal
Growing old is a blessing. I hope I can live long enough despite illnesses to get gray hair. People really shouldn't take life for granted. You are not promised tomorrow.
I was a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding.She said we could wear any style of dress we wanted but it had to be the same color. Some girls picked strapless, halter top and off the shoulder dresses. I am top heavy, so I chose a dress that allowed me to wear a regular bra and I was comfortable in. We enjoyed ourselves, pictures turned out beautiful, and nobody's feelings got hurt. I'm surprised she didn't suggest that her BF get weight loss surgery before her wedding. SMH
The bride that was shocked because her bridesmaid had grey hair is absolutely baffling me. I'm thirty as well and started to get grey hair with eighteen. It's just how it is sometimes.
I'll never understand people! I had a classmate in HS who was very handsome, and he had some grey hair his senior year. I saw him 20 years later at the class reunion, and his thick, beautiful hair was pure white! Talk about a silver fox! 😍
@@elysegnade9967 I love white hair, I think it's gorgeous. My favorite musician from the 80s, Nick Lowe, is now 74 and has had beautiful white hair for decades. I got to meet him 21 years ago, and was mesmerized by his beautiful hair. He wrote the perfect song for a wedding reception back in the 1970s called, "I Knew the Bride (When She Used to Rock and Roll). The music video is very funny, and sweet. I highly recommend that Charlotte and Mike have this song played at their wedding reception! This video is about 40 years old, but Nick's hair was already going grey. th-cam.com/video/Kn1CXbf2xF8/w-d-xo.html
I saw my first gray hair at 19. I finally decided about 4 years ago that the silvery look I was trying to achieve was in letting my hair go naturally silver. Now, after a bout with chemo, I even have curls!
If any of these “friends” asked me to NOT be their bridesmaid I would be so relieved!! I don’t think most people are sitting around worried about whether or not you choose them (obligate them) to be in their wedding. We literally only had my sister and his brother in our wedding party just to avoid drama.
What kills me about the first bride with the bigger friend is that there are many people who are larger due to genetic conditions. Not all people who are large are that way because they ate too much, or ate the wrong things. This bride is taking advantage of her "friend" for her money. She never once mentioned giving it back or feeling bad about taking it and breaking any possible agreement there was regarding being in the wedding.
The only thing better than social media/wedding drama is Charlotte's version of social media/wedding drama. Those dramas with Charlotte is the most funny thing ever. 😂
it already started as shitty as possible... what a terrible, TERRIBLE person and friend! I do hope this kind of person ends up as alone as possible, DIVORCE!!!! At least now I understand why the family is not helping, she must be insufferable! Just to be clear, I don't wish her loneliness because of her per se, but because NOBODY deserves to live with someone like the first Bridezilla.
I read a bunch of wedding etiquette books before my wedding, and they said wedding gifts are not required. Of course, personally I would never not give a wedding gift.
Yes, they aren't required, but I'd feel weird not giving something. I did go to one wedding where we didn't bring a gift. We were poor, I was pregnant, and the guy whose wedding it was had cost us a lot of money. I felt zero obligation to bring a gift to that wedding.
I have never actually left a comment on a TH-cam video before, but I wanted to take a moment to express my admiration for your channel. It's truly delightful to have a place to visit and enjoy your videos. In a time where most videos are laden with politics and unsettling global events, your channel serves as a wonderful escape from all the chaos.
I was a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding, she asked me to hide all of my surgery scars for her wedding. They are on my shoulder and back which were visible in the dress she chose for me to wear. I told her get over it or I’ll not be in the wedding. The audacity…
I got invited to my friends reception during a time i was in college and couldn't afford, I made twin plushies (from a comic series not well known) of matching wedding colours. Yes It isn't a lot of money but was time and something that you can't get unless you made it or get it commissioned. They absolutely loved their gift.
I started going gray at 18. I’m 35 now and stopped coloring my hair 7 years ago to let it gray naturally and I absolutely love it. And all the time and money I won’t have to spend over the course of the next several decades is a plus!
My cats know EXACTLY when my downtime is, as soon as they hear "heeey everybody.." they come running to chill with me and miss Charlotte on the couch 🙈😂 been enjoying this content for quite some time now ❤️
Just pay her back, and hopefully the friend gets the hint on just how awful a person she is. She shouldn't have accepted the money in the first place knowing she wouldn't be in the wedding. Some people are just disgusting human beings.
I feel like I've learned so much about the world and weddings with these videos. Here, as far as I know from the weddings I've been at, gifts aren't really a big deal at all. None of the weddings I've been to has had a gift table or any of the sort. Bridesmaids and groomsmen and all of that isn't a thing either, though some has started to implement it more and more now. So now, if i ever visit a US wedding, I know what to do and not to do 😂
This is the third time I've heard of someone getting offended over someone's diabetes equipment. So bizarre to me the things people get upset over, lol.
the lack of empathy borders on the sociopathic... and the entitlement is mind-boggling. If I heard of a friend doing this or having something like that done to them, I would intervene: I would totally blast a person with the reality check they need.
Does the bride not realize that Type 1 diabetes is autoimmune and that any children she has with her husband could have the same disease? These control freaks are going to have a rude awakening when life doesn’t always get what you want.
It’s also pretty telling that she asked it to be REMOVED, when it could just been hidden by another person or accessory placement!? Like, put some fake flowers on it or hide it with your arm, it’s not that difficult if truly bothered her! Seems like she just didn’t really like op in the first place
@@kaynebula2093Why would a couple of bumps under the dress need to be hidden? No one is going to look that closely at the photo and even if they did, no one would care. If fact no one, except maybe immediate family, would even care enough to look at the photos more than once.
Our wedding was fairly small, mostly his family because mine lived 3,000 miles away. I was SO excited just to be getting married, that I could not have cared less about any of the details. All of this "I have been dreaming about this since I was a little girl." bs is ridonkulous. Half of the people who get married end up getting divorced, so why get your knickers in a knot? (We are still married, fortunately!)
I like to say I'm grateful to have heard more about marriages than weddings growing up. Threw my wedding together in 4 months, but we're only getting out of this marriage in body bags.
The one about the grandma, as soon as the bride said she would come up with a reason to not attend her friends wedding my immediate response was "bold of you to assume you'd get invited" and I love how the response was similar XD
I like how that one bride wanted to be anonymous but then proceeded to tell all the details that went on in the conversation with her friend 😂 I think the grey haired friend may know it's her 😉😂
The first one…. I LOVE how she is all about dreaming this day and such bla..bla..bla. As someone who’s been married for almost 30 years. Honey you have a long road reality and things don’t always go as planned! It’s not all about the cake, the flowers, the dress, the BMs, etc…. It’s all about those who are with you for the long haul in life and not just family. Trust me a day will come when you wish you had a friend like that later in life when a life altering event happens and you need a friend. Trust me I would know!!! I wish I had a friend like her!
IDK, RSVPing with an invitation to all your wedding dates set for that year would have been just the right amount of petty, even if you had to renew your vows ;-)
My sister is getting married next month and im a type 1 diabetic 25yrs in dec! She asked my opinions on the bridemaids dresses to make sure i could access my insulin pump easliy and wouldnt restrict the canula.
I’m in my 50s. It was considered in bad taste to bring the gift to the wedding. In those days, most stores that had a registry. It was a service the store offered to wrap and “send” the gift. They had courier that took things and delivered. I don’t think I will ever accept gift tables at weddings. I had no gift table; when a gift table is put out at a wedding it is seen as asking for gifts. Prior to the wedding, along with the send ahead option, there are plenty of opportunities - taking it your self, showers, and engagement parties. I used to have a book on manners - Emily Post or such, that contained all these rules.
You ever meet someone who is visually beautiful but as they show their true colors to be hateful selfish rotten etc, that they then appear ugly af even visually? That's what the first horrible friend of a woman reminds me of. Ew. Also, love you to pieces Charlotte! ❤
It makes me so mad to hear these brides complain about their friends for such pointless reasons. I'm getting married next fall. I don't have a lot of people I'm close to but I was lucky enough to have two very special people to be in my bridal party. Unfortunately, one of my best friends took his life 4 days ago. Now my wedding is just a painful reminder, like everything else. These people are scared of their friends ruining photos because of their bodies and hair? They should feel truly blessed that they have these people in their lives who want to experience their wedding with them.
Oh my goodness, I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. My heart is truly with you - I have had friends who have died by suicide, and the pain can be unbearable. My thoughts and heart are with you and his loved ones.
My favorite wedding of all time was plain, simple and the reception was a potluck square dance. Just real people enjoying this special day and sending them off into married life.
I can relate with someone "stealing her thunder" for the wedding. My now husband and I were together for 7 years when we got engaged. Took a while to finally get around to planning the big day, but we ended up deciding on our 10 year anniversary day for the wedding. It was for early November, I always wanted a fall wedding and loved the idea of having our anniversaries (dating and marriage) be the same. My husband's aunt lost it! Her only son got engaged shortly before we started telling family the date we chose and were planning their wedding for January, after our proposed date. She freaked out, called us every name in the book, and said we were tacky etc etc. I told her to go fuck herself because my life didn't revolve around her son and she should be happy for her nephew. We already had a son together, she had made comments in the past about having a child out of wedlock. Fast forward a few more months, and my husband's grandpa died the day before when we were going to get married exactly 1 year before. We ended up moving the date because I didn't think it would be fair to him to mourn the 1 year anniversary of his passing and then get married the following day. The aunt was so thrilled! Needless to say, neither her nor her son were invited to our wedding in May, after her sons wedding, and she had her opinions about that too. She talked all kinds of crap when she saw the pictures, her son had a big extravagant wedding and we did a small intimate gathering with only 20 close family and a few friends. I loved my wedding and would not change it for anything. I'll never understand why people think others can't live their lives. I mean shit, we were engaged longer than her son was even dating his now wife at the time!
I am not from the western society and it always fascinates me how people over there worry about others " stealing their thunder " when they get married/ get engaged ^^" I mean where I come from people don't care at all when others announce a wedding/ engagement party ,pregnancy ... etc during another's wedding . For us all what matters is that it s happy news to share which makes the wedding merrier . Like you can literally say that you re getting married tomorrow and people , including the bride and the groom , will congratulate you and wish you happiness and that's it 😅
@@7Zsta Me too! And as OP said, gifts aren’t really expected, in our culture too. We’re taught that the attendees’ blessings for the happy couple is gift enough, because those go a long way. We Indians even give *the guests* gifts for attending! Western culture, especially wedding culture, baffles me sometimes. Like no wonder most marriages don’t last here.
Rude need to give doo much money to the grooms family .. Then you are forced to invited People, then you have to give them outfeet...and it last that long...it is horrible. .westen costums are better...
Actually, old-school etiquette says gifts by definition are never, ever required for any occasion. They may be customary, but they're not mandatory. If they are a requirement then they are no longer gifts, they're the price of admission. This business of gifts being mandatory is in relatively recent, a 21st-century development. I'm not sure how widespread it is. Social media isn't always the best indicator. At least I hope it's not ☹️
To me it’s very funny that you bring a present to the wedding. Here in Brazil the couple usually have a “wedding list” of stuff they need. You buy before the actual date and send to their home. No one shows up with a gift on the wedding. That only happens at children’s birthday’s party.
That actually sounds like a much better tradition. That way the couple gets the stuff they need or want, and no one has to feel bad for "not bringing a gift". 🙂
That's my way of thinking there is usually a bridal shower where the bride gathers with usual other ladies including her mom, female relatives friends and they bring the gifts from the registry or whatever gift they have and only people who were unable to attend the shower bring gifts to the actual wedding.
@@sherristyers5627 Here there’s a bridal shower also. Only with “the girls” and usually they give simpler gifts, things the couple may need at their new house like a toaster or a draining board. The other option (it’s a trend) it’s a lingerie shower. Instead of gifts for the house, the guests give lingerie for the honeymoon. Usually when the couple already have a house. But at the wedding we don’t give gifts. There’s another tradition of cutting the a peace of the groom’s s tie at the reception in exchange for some money for the couple. 😆
Yes. Etiquette actually dictates you have a year to get a wedding gift. In fact, its a little bit of bad form to take the gift to the actual wedding because someone has to make sure the gifts are safe, secured and transported. Much better to give the gift before or after, or have it sent to the couple. It IS wrong not to provide a gift (as you said), just doesn’t have to go to the wedding… Also, the couple MUST send thank you notes to all gift givers!!!! I’ve been to 4 wedding in the last year where no thank you or acknowledgment was given for my gift ($300 in one case!). Does not feel good - or right.
I’m getting married next weekend. And I will admit, planning a wedding is a lot like herding cats that don’t understand a word of your language (or choose not to)….. That being said, I could never imagine being so entitled, impatient, or cruel. Eek. These videos have literally been such a comic relief for me when I’m beyond stressed! Yes, your wedding day is Your big day as a bride, but it’s also a day for your husband/partner, and (if you’re close to them) your family, their family, and closest friends to celebrate a relationship and union. And, most importantly: Love. ❤ I think a lot of people forget that.
Congrats on you're own wedding! It's ok to be a little stressed during the planning of your own day, it's a lot, and I agree with your analogy about cats lol. Just a suggestion from a former bride, have someone you trust to answer all of the questions from vendors day of. I had a friend of mine basically run point for me so we could focus on what we needed to do next and someone else could answer questions like table placement and how far apart to spread candles or whatever else comes up lol. Made the entire day stress free after a year of stress planning lol
I once had a friend that asked me to be her maid of honor. I didn't even find out that she had a boyfriend until like a couple of weeks before she asked me. It was all very shocking but I agreed since we were good friends for many years and I figured she needed my support and was probably going through something. I figured I would find out where this guy came from as I helped her plan her wedding. Turns out everyone but me knew about him for the past 3 years. I literally didn't believe it because we hung out several times a week and talked several hours a day. Think teenage bestie that continued into our 20s. Anyway after finding out all of this shocking information as I'm helping her plan her wedding she asks me about 1 week before the wedding if I would be ok with being just a bridesmaid. Shocking but eventually I agreed even though I didn't agree with her lame excuse. Then I was “mistakenly” left out of the rehearsal. Then I was told I'm no longer needed in the wedding party. I eventually found out that it was because she didn't want me in any photos. She was fat, her man was fat, her family was fat, and the entire bridal party was fat. I was not, and I use to actually model back then. She said if I was in the photos that they would look unbalanced. She said I could still attend the wedding she just didn't want me in any photos. I told her to go enjoy her effin fat life and I was done with her and have never been friends with a fat chick since. Unfortunately the discrimination is real and goes both ways 😒
You should have gone as a guest and looked fabulous--I doubt that they would have had the balls to have you thrown out. You could have given them the hairy eyeball and said out loud "ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO EAT THAT?" as they scarfed up food.
You know, I often wondered what kind of people would be this entitled and psychotic at their wedding. As I have gotten older, I have seen parents raise this type of people. It ain't pretty.
Agreed.Getting married is about being with the one you live and sharing it with the people you love. Marriage is not about the gift you'll get, the perfect photo or even a perfect day, though the last one would be nice😉. Life is messy you just have to have the perfect partner and loved around that what it's all about
I unfortunately knew one and thought she was my best friend since elementary school 😂 she actually got angry at her brother because he and his wife became pregnant and the due date was around the same time of her wedding. She didn’t want him overshadowing her with a baby.
@13:36. Story time: I met my partner in 2011, started dating in 2015, engaged Feb 2020 (we had already booked venue, etc. prior to engagement in 2019 as we knew we were going to get married anyways but I always dreamed of a winter engagement and wanted to be finished school), married November 2020. One of my best friends started dating her partner in 2018ish and got engaged after us in 2020 and married one month after us in December 2020. And you know what... I couldn't be more happy for her! That's what friends do! They cheer each other on and support each other!
(Op here) yeah it was frustrating. Even more so because it continued…we got pregnant first, found out early and told people early because i started showing at 5 weeks. SIL got pregnant four weeks to the day we told them, our kids are a month apart in age. She threw a fit because at 37 weeks i was put on bedrest, baby was already 9lbs and was trans verse breech so I couldn’t go into labor without it being an emergency. We were told not to travel far from the hospital. This was a few weeks before SIL’s baby shower. She was throwing a fir my husband wouldn’t be attending her shower, everyone trying to convince him he could go for a few hours and be fine. They did not care about the health issues and the fact that if i went into labor the baby would be born within the hour. The shower was over an hour away just in driving. My husband was not risking missing the birth. Luckily we made it to 38 weeks without any issues. And our son is absolutely perfect.
I really hate that that first bridezilla called her a "best friend" and then proceeded to nitpick everything "wrong" with said best friend. That's not your best friend, you're a terrible friend and bride, and honestly the "best friend" deserves waaay better.
Ikr, the biggest fake friend I've seen,
"Don't call me shallow" Ok, you're not shallow, you're a B!tch.
I don't understand people who put looks above true friends. Those kind of friends are hard to find. My BFF died about 10 years ago, and I'd give anything to laugh with her and have fun again like we used to. She was a big girl, but her heart was even bigger.
I have no friends now, and I'm so lonely it hurts to live some days.
The bride is not a true friend. She's a fake friend. All she is concerned about is herself. I hope her friend finds out and drops her like a bad habit. I would be petty enough to show up at the wedding looking sexy AF! I would even hire people to follow me around at the reception taking only pictures of me. Yeah I can be a very petty potato!!
@LazyIRanch I'm sorry for your loss, don't give up. I'm 53, my BEST friend is very big, but not only do I love her for who she is, SHE loves herself! She knows she's big and owns it. But she's so much fun AND I trust her with my life! There's no judgment between us and never has been through the years. This girl is going to regret her behavior one day, but it will be far too late. Hearing her say how she "ruined" the prom pictures made me sick. I bet 10 years from now she'll look at those pictures and think, God I miss that girl, she was the sweetest friend I ever had.
PS: you'll make a new friend, please remember, she wouldn't want you to be sad!
That’s a bully that made their victim a “bestie” to pick apart and make themselves feel better. So sad
I was removed as a bridesmaid once, and I was totally not mad. My friend had found out about a month before her wedding that the groomsman I would have been paired with had died in an accident overseas. This was a very good friend or cousin of her fiance, so they were dealing with the grief and reeling from the suddenness of it all. No idea what the "right" move would have been on her part, but she called me in a panic that this tragedy had occurred and asked if I'd be ok with not being a bridesmaid, because they were not going to replace his position (UNDERSTOOD). I bowed out and never worried about it. But, yes, like you said, life or death - not a bridezilla decision/move.
I agree with you. I don't think it was meant as a slight towards you. Maybe she asked you because being her friend, you might understand and show compassion. If she asked someone else to drop the position they might be offended.
You are a sweet, thoughtful friend who has emotional maturity! You are sensitive to your friend's grief and you lessened her worries by letting her know that you understood completely that the unforeseen tragedy required a change in plans.
Your friend is lucky to have such a kind friend as you!
Understandable.
I'm so sorry this happened to your friend and her now family, but you're a beautiful human being for understanding the pain and grief your friend/her hubby was going through.
You supported her in a different way.
Much Love!😘💖🫂
It would have been nice if they still honoured his place. This happened to me and I walked down the aisle by myself with what have been his flower. It was sweet. Lovely.
That first bridezilla talking about “my wedding being perfect”- ANYTIME the focus is that strong on the wedding day, the relationship usually is shit and doesn’t last 🥴
Yeah it does seem that way. I know people that have had over-the-top, Pinterest weddings and it doesn’t last. My husband and I wore jeans and tees to run down to the courthouse and get married. Fifteen years later still happy that he’s my person. Having those memories can be amazing and fun to look back on, but that relationship is more important than that one day.
It's so true! I wanted to elope so bad, but my husband really wanted a wedding. So I planned one since it was so important to him. It was an outdoor ceremony and the most common comment we got was how much fun it was. It was a short outdoor ceremony in a pretty Chapel courtyard and a big dance party reception with snacks and cake. No seating chart. I let everyone pick where they sat. It was really simple compared to a lot of over the top weddings that are so common today.
We've been happily married for 13 years. And as much as I did enjoy our wedding, I still think eloping is the way to go lol
💯💯💯
Yup a family member of mine did a big one and honestly it was supposed to bigger than it was but some tings couldn’t happen so there’s that…… Later like a year or so found out he was unfaithful and not treating her right I was young and blind so I believed her (her mom raised me) but when I got older her brother told she been doing the same thing probably even before her husband 🤷🏽♀️😩
Easy to see why, really. I mean, if you've been obsessing about that ONE day for your entire life, everything after is going to seem kind of a let down afterwards, surely? If you're willing to throw genuine friends under the bus for the sake of this one day because it truly is the most important thing in the world to you, your one "perfect" day, then chances are you're gonna get itchy once your relationship no longer has this end goal to work towards, and you're gonna break up, and probably start the cycle again so you can be all about having a wedding day again.
i feel SO BAD for this "best friend"; she actually loves the bride and thinks they are friends. it's pretty clear she only kept her "friend" around to feel better about herself. run, girl. this bride is toxic.
Either that or it's purely because the bigger friend has more money so gets used as a meal ticket in exchange for them 'putting up' with having her there.
I cannot even understand how disgusting people like this bride are.. What you said just hurts my soul.. To think of how she will feel when told, "THANKS FOR THE THOUSANDS NOW SIT IN THE 5TH ROW!" Uggghhh
I love how Charlotte tries to turn it around and says "YOU'RE UGLY on the inside", but actually that still implies that being fat is ugly and that is just something that should be subjectively determined (who we find attractive and who we don't), but it is in fact fed to us through all sorts of channels that being fat equals being unattractive, while this has to do with fashion and has not always been the standard at all times all across the globe. And what to you may be "bigger arms" to another person may be a normal size. Imagine telling someone you didn't want them as your bridesmaid bc you didn't like their face, their freckles, or god forbid, "you'd be the only 'darker' person in the bridal party" yikes
@@Ruby-yn5fpYour comment is the perfect example of "overthinking".
The bride called the friend ugly.
Charlotte called the bride ugly on the inside.
There was in no way any "complicity" in thinking the friend was ugly just for being larger on Charlotte's part.
As a matter of fact, Charlotte says pretty much the same as your comment.
Your internalizing someone else's thoughts and issues. The big question is: Why are you taking it so personally? 🤨
With an attitude like that, how does that first lady even have friends??
HOW DOES SHE HAVE A SPOUSE?!!!
Seriously! I was a bridesmaid at my cousin's big beautiful wedding, and I was delighted that her MOH was her best friend since childhood, her BFF is lesbian and not at all feminine. Honestly, I can't even remember if she wore a dress, I'm thinking she wore something different than us bridesmaids and maybe not even a dress but everyone looked nice.
NOBODY CARED!
We were just all happy that my sweet cousin had a wonderful wedding with all her loved ones around. My cousin looks like Selma Hayek, and her dress was gorgeous so nobody was even looking at the wedding party!
People like that usually keep their gross side hidden until something happens like this where they feel like it's "their day" and they're entitled to "full control".
She's good at faking it. She probably doesn't have too many friends though. Her spouse is probably as crappy of a person as she is or will likely leave her or cheat on her.
Her circle of friends are probably as insufferable as she is.
I recently directed a community theatre production of a play set in 1830 with a diabetic in the cast and I argued with them that they had to keep the pump on. They didn’t want to ruin the historical aesthetic and I didn’t want them to die. I even created pouches for the pump in her costume, and when it beeped on stage we arranged to hide lollies there in case of any future need. Because it’s not that hard to value someone’s health over an aesthetic.
Some people are just dumb in the face
Lollies? Huh?
@@melodyabcdefghijklmnopqrst1663Lollipops or just candy in general so they could raise their sugar levels quickly.
As a diabetic on a pump. I appreciate you and the effort and kindness you showed to that cast member.
As an actor thank you for wanting us to stay alive during the show
Wow thats amazing, the actress must've been happy with your above and beyond attitude!
"You're ugly on the inside." "Where it counts." Perfectly said. Everyone could use a defender like you in their corner Charlotte. Bravo! ❤
Funny how the ugliness inside a person works its way out to the physical (how long it takes depends on the amount of ugliness inside) so that it becomes plain as day to everyone just by looking at them.
True! And adversely, I've known some internally beautiful people who had terribly self destructive lifestyle habits but still miraculously dont deteriorate physically any quicker than anyone else...beautiful on the inside leeches to the outside too!
@@jacklow9611 👍 Just so.
@@rachaelbrugmans4309 True!
What Charlotte said in this vid just shook a memory loose... an analogy my mom told us as kids. She said (verbatim;) “sometimes a plain box wrapped in brown butcher paper and tied with string contains a fortune of rare jewels and amazing treasures while another gift box that’s beautifully wrapped with ribbons and bows will surprise you by being completely empty... or worse!” Mom was great observer of the human condition; a rare combination of both inner and (being a straight-up doppelgänger for Rita Hayworth) outer beauty. She was also very kind but humble, constantly down-playing a MENSA-level intellect. Most importantly she proved that “common sense” isn’t as “common as it’s name suggests.
*You schooled us very well mom; RIP*
People that think a friends size ruins ur wedding or group pictures don't deserve to have friends... That is absolutely disgusting. My friends are all shapes and sizes and the pictures are all beautiful cause when i look at them i see myself and those closest to me all wearing my favorite colors and having the best most loving and fun day ever. ❤
You are obviously a sweetheart!!
My best friend was about 250 lb when I got married, you better believe she was my maid of honor. I let her pick out what ever dress she wanted to wear. It was more about the marriage and not the wedding for me and my husband. We just celebrated 27 years in July.
@@TheNeuroticjetfan awesome. Sweet of you to give her a choice of dress. That way she could feel most comfortable.
My niece was just like this for her wedding! We were all different heights and sizes and all she cared about was our comfort.
We ended up with a beautiful 2 piece set that worked well with all of our different figures. We had two-tone wraps so MOH had her wrap adjusted differently than the rest of us (think black with the champagne top edge folded to show, and reverse for us bridesmaids).
My sister however, was a MOMZILLA. 🙄🤦♀️
Listen, I sorta get being worried the type of dress wouldn’t look flattering on the bridesmaid, but you don’t think about dropping them! Pick a dress that’ll be flattering for them so they feel as good as they do you for being there, and if that style conflicts with another’s body type, then just get different dresses that flatters everyone in the same/similar color. That is what the sales people are for, to help we stuff like this. This is why when I’m having a wedding I’m having all my bridesmaids have their own style of dress (maybe ask if they can keep similar length ones but that I don’t care as much) just in the same color. There! No issue! No need to drop someone!
If the bride really cared, she would’ve come up with solutions, not immediately thinking dropping her out.
0:19 “I don’t have the heart to tell her…. “
Exactly, you don’t have a heart.
Charlotte is 100% correct: Growing older is an absolute privilege.
After needing open heart surgery I can100% say that getting older is a privilege and something to be proud of.
I had a dear friend who was in home hospice care at the end of his life. He had heart and lung issues because he was a lifelong firefighter. He said most firefighters who live to retire end up having these issues, and they knew it going in. When I'd visit him and ask how he was, every single time he's laugh and say, "Beats the alternative!" As I get older and I deal with a health issue, I always remember that it beats the alternative and of his gratitude for making it that far and having so many people who loved him.
I always wanted to do something for him, but I could never think of what until one day I had an idea. I went to a bakery and got a gorgeous chocolate layer cake, with chocolate icing and curls and just so damn much chocolate. I went over and said that sometimes you couldn't think of what to do for a friend, but there was always chocolate. He said he wasn't eating much lately as he didn't have much of an appetite, but he was going to have a slice of that cake AND a glass of milk. He didn't quite finish a whole slice but he enjoyed the heck out of it. We all had some: his wife, the home care nurse, various kids, and nieces and nephews who stopped by. We sat around, talking and eating cake. It was a wonderful day of almost normalcy.
His widow stopped by a few days after he passed. She had been taking care of all the paperwork needed after a spouse passes. She hadn't wanted to go home quite yet, because the house felt empty. We sat in my living room and talked about him and we were both crying and I wished I had some chocolate cake. Then I realized I had something as good if not better: kittens! I was fostering a litter of orphaned kittens for a rescue, and they were in that wonderful wobbly learning to play stage. I went and grabbed a box, filled it with 6 kittens, some yarn and toys and piled them on the couch between us and we played with kittens for a couple of hours until everyone wanted a nap. With sleeping kittens piled on us, we talked about how wonderful her husband was.
The next week she stopped by again. She'd been at the funeral home picking up his death certificate and she had to step outside for a few minutes to compose herself. She was the only visitor there and her car was the only one there in the whole visitor parking lot. She sat in her car with the door open having a bit of a cry when she felt something on her foot. She looked down and there was a fluffy 8 to 10-week-old kitten. There was nothing around but other parking lots - not even grassy areas or anything. She picked the kitten up, walking around looking for other kittens or a mama cat or anything but she couldn't find any other kittens. She took the kitten inside, got the paperwork and a cardboard box for the kitten, and came to my place. She told me the story and said she was bringing the kitten to me but then she thought maybe it was a sign from her husband - maybe he was sending her some companionship when she needed it. She had the kitten in the box and asked me if it was a boy or a girl. I opened the box to the fluffiest most adorable male tabby kitten. I laughed and said if her husband had sent her a kitten - or been reincarnated as one - he'd want it to be one with a full head of luxurious hair (he had been bald and made a LOT of bald jokes). She laughed and laughed, and then named the kitten after him and he was a great companion - and so spoiled, as he should be! Growing old is a privilege and someone choosing to spend their last days with you is even more so.
@@SoullessGinger1313 that is such a beautiful story... Thank you for sharing! I definitely believe her husband sent her that kitten. ❤
Yesterday I heard that a friend's son passed away, he was only 23 😢.
I can’t wait to get old and lose every last ounce of tact I even possess. My grams was epic eating Jell-O shots, eating cool ranch Doritos and drinking Mountain Dew in her 80s. She also told people they were getting fat or if an outfit was ugly. It was glorious.
The first lady, oh my goodness. What an absolute monster. “Don’t tell me I’m being shallow just because my best friend’s body disgusts me so much I don’t want people to see me standing next to her but I’ll still take her money.”
Speaking of tacky, I had 20 women RSVP to my bridal shower, hosted by my friend's grandmother who prepared PLENTY of food for that many people, and literally one person showed up. One. It was humiliating. Half the people said they "forgot," the other half had random excuses why they didnt make it. It was a very painful, lonely time in life. Needless to say, I drank two bottles of champagne by myself that day!
Oh my gosh! That's horrible. I feel so badly for you and the sweet grandma who hosted.
So sorry 😞 the same thing happened to my brother's baby shower. Since then I try not go to anything of theirs except funerals
The same thing happened to me during my Sweet 16
@unicorn69 people suck sometimes! Ugh I'm sorry you've felt this pain too!
Aww. Hugs 🫂 that happened at my 10th bday
Karma WILL get the 1st bridezilla! She'll wish she had a friend like that girl when she gets older, but she won't and she doesn't deserve to! Ever! She's disgusting.
And she will never understand why she has no friends. It will always be because people are mean or inconsiderate. Poor thing.
@lindahind2205 exactly 💯 It will always be the other person. She really needs to take a good look at herself. I bet she deleted all the responses to her post that she didn't like... sad.
Here's hoping!
@@kristenwilliams3632Cant imagine all the negative attention that post got, she’s a terrible friend.
@@IndiTol-pi1wk you must be talking about yourself
Bridezillas may be insufferable, but they sure make for entertaining content. 😂
I live for these videos.
Ahhhhhh your profile 😍
That they do. They also serve as a lesson NOT to be like them. Better to just enjoy your wedding than be a Bridezilla or a Groom Kong and risk losing all of your family and friends or even your wedding and fiancé all together. 😊
Heck yeah. I see bridezillas, I come running.
My concerns are for so many people out there who don't know they have such horrible friends. I'm so sorry. Truly.
I like how their love language is “receiving gifts”, not “giving gifts”!
That maybe how they feel love. The "over $50", isn't part of it. I can understand their frustration with extended family members who are mooches.
In my part of the country, giving gifts in weddings is frowned upon. It is always mentioned in the invitations "please don't bring any gifts and embarrass us!"
Ooooh good point!
Hmmm, idk I remember hearing that most people's love languages are based on how they show you love not the other way around. So if someone often gives complements or gets more hurt by insults than most ppl they probably have "words of affirmation". And someone who buys alot of things for people probably has "receiving gifts" right?
That part is legit though. Google the six love languages and you'll find that the one they're talking about is called Receiving Gifts. There's no such love language as Giving Gifts.
That said, just because that's your love language doesn't mean you should weaponise it or use it as an excuse to request gifts. That's not in the spirit of the love languages.
Hey Charlotte, as a big girl I just want to thank you for your reaction to the first bridezilla. I struggle with my self esteem so it's nice to hear people you look up to talking like this. So thank you and love you!
Honestly, any half decent person has the same opinions as Charlotte. You don't *ever* need to thank anyone for simply not discriminating or judging you for your weight; that's just basic decency. You have just as much right to exist, be happy & love yourself as ANYONE else. x
@@charitygoldart I think this depends entirely on where you grew up. Where I live you get ridiculed a lot, even by adults when your still young, for your weight. But thank you for your kind words
Girl you are beautiful! A beautiful soul also. Have a great day!!!
@@melissaoderso249I’m sorry people have been that way to you. That is so dehumanizing and you do not deserve it. Your existence is beautiful, you are a beautiful human being! People make me so mad with how shallow they are. That’s definitely coming from some insecurity within themselves.
Thank you all so much for your kind words. You made me cry happy tears and brightened my day. I hope you all have a blessed life because you all deserve it with such beautiful souls. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤️
Receiving gifts is NOT a love language, giving gifts is. If you want to throw an expensive wedding pay for it yourself!! I had a blue and white dress from Ross and a courthouse wedding and hubby and I were(still are) happy.
They kind of go together as the way you both express and feel love, but I'm going to go out on a limb and say this couple has no idea what their actual love language is, they're just saying it's gifts because they like to get stuff.
Yup. I wore a dress from Ross, Hubby and I got married in his parents' living room, and we're still happy 22 years later.
Mine was a bridesmaid dress in white. $62 dollars. Still looked beautiful even in pictures and the whole wedding including the food, venue, etc was $1500, including the $800 photographer. I did a lot of the stuff myself, including my bouquet. You can have a charming, small wedding and it still look great. I am in no way upset with how it turned out. We wanted a day to spend with friends and family and that is what we got.
Recieving gifts can be a love language in the way if how a person feels loved- but not the caveat of expensive gifts. Some people love gifts, but any! A little trinket you saw at a shop that reminds you of them, their favourite snack, a heart shaped rock you found on the beach, etc. If they're mad at gifts that aren't several hundred dollars, it's not about the act of giving them a gift. It's just about the material stuff
Ahh! I got to give you the 100th like! What satisfaction in addition to agreement with your lovely statement. How many years, may I ask?
As Judge Judy says “beauty fades dumb is forever”
The first store really ticked me off. I’m a VERY overweight woman and was the largest women at my best friend’s wedding, let alone in the bridal party. She had no problem with my size and had me in all the pictures. I wasn’t the maid of honor because her best friend from childhood was ( we met in college), but I was what her mom called the maid of honor part 2😂.
I love when Charlotte wakes up and chooses violence. Violent truths for horrible people ☕️☺️
I wish Charlotte could sit down in person with these entitled little brats and give them the business! So disappointing that these people walk among us.
@@Birdbike719trust me there are worse people amongst us than few entitled brides.
Short of someone proposing at your wedding, I will never get the "take attention from me" argument. I got married 3 months after my sister, and she was nothing but loving and supportive. My brother had a destination wedding 1 week before my first wedding anniversary, and me and my husband just laughed and joked that it would double as our very own anniversary trip. Theres plenty of love and attention to go around!
Me and my sis got matching dates of the same year. The 5th of Feb and the 2nd of May. 02-05/05-02 😊
I think that's so cute that you and your husband joked that it was like your anniversary trip. I want to be able to make cute jokes like that with my partner if I ever find someone.
@@Jum81omg I love this!
"It's a privilege to grow old!"
Amen! I don't understand why people hate getting older. I've already lost 20 people out of my graduating class and we're celebrating our 20 year reunion this year. I almost became one of them. Yet here I am, 38 and loving it!
glad you are still around to celebrate it
exactly. i lost my son 33 feb 2/22 and i would give anything for him to still be here to grow old along with me. i lost my husband days after he turned 47 married nearly 26 yrs. i lost my mom when i was 3 days shy of 18 she was 42 she would have loved to grow old and seen me married and met her 4 grandkids. i am so disgusted by these bridezillas and bet the vast majority of them will end up divorced anyway because they are terrible ppl and those perfect photos won't mean shite anymore.
Well... I have death anxiety 😂 I started freaking out every year in the weeks leading up to my birthday when I was around 5 or so... Can't be explained why. I think I'm just defective 🤣
As someone who just turned 25 for the third time, I absolutely agree. Think of the alternative!
@@shelleyg1836 I'm so sorry for your losses.
What’s “tackier” than having diabetic/medical supplies being shown up in wedding photos is having an ambulance show up in your wedding photos due to DKA!
Agreed! also whats DKA?
@@creativelyreactive5284diabetic ketoacidosis, maybe? Dunno, that's what popped into my head
@@PoisonfangStrikesyep, that’s what it is.
Then I guess the bridezilla would accuse her of taking all the attention 🤷🏼♀️
Yup! We are currently planning our wedding and my mother-in-law is diabetic in addition to other health issues. I will personally make sure she is okay throughout the day. Not only do I care about her generally, but it’s also important she has a great day. Yes it is our wedding, but it is also a family event. There will be people will health issues or mobility issues, kids who might run around and, well be kids. These are the people we care about and who care about us, whether they are “perfect” or not!
I had a backyard wedding. I wanted it to be a celebration not an event. The only thing that bothered me that day was that we had set up tables and seating and I explicitly explained that while I understood it was warm no one was to eat inside the house because we have animals and I didn't want to risk them getting out or eating human food. My husband's sister decided to ignore that one rule and ate with her 4 messy children inside my house and tried to leave without cleaning up after herself even after using my actual dishes and not the ones provided. I was pissed. To this day we don't really get along I find her very inconsiderate
They say "When people show you who they are -- believe them!" She showed herself to be self-centered, lazy, and inconsiderate. Who'd want to have a relationship with someone like that? :)
I got married a year ago and would never have fat shamed my guests or uninvited them because of gray hair! What is wrong with these brides
a lot is wrong with them... I hope they get divorced because they've gained weight or became older than 30...
They're awful, aren't they? When I got married, all I cared about was that my loved ones were there, happy, and having a good time. I didn't even think about their weight or hair colour, because they're people - their characters are far more important - and I love them for who they are! These bridezillas will have a rude awakening one day when they're older, bigger, and greyer... I kinda hope karma pays them a visit and they're treated the same way they've treated others...
You must have your first anniversary coming up (or you celebrated recently) - congratulations! 🥂 Wishing you many more years of happiness 💕
How long you got? 😂
I got married in May and none of this ever crossed my mind. Everyone looked great. The only person who stole the show was my father because he looked amazing. I told him I walked him down the aisle and allowed him to give me away lol
Nothing is wrong with them, they are just showing very clearly what is actually important to them. Sadly, it is the stuff that is superficial.
Story one happened to me. A friend I considered family thought I'd bring down the mood in her wedding with my blindness and told everyone this. To not hurt my feelings she told me she thought I was too poor and "sick" to be her bridesmaid. I revel in cutting her out of "family only" events.
I am so sorry this was done to you. It's a horrible way to treat anyone, especially someone you consider a friend. It sounds like you still have contact with her. I hope you found a better friend since.
I have no words. Are these kind of people raised in barns?
Thank God she had no intentions to hurt your feelings! Imagine how more cruel things she would have said.
Same. Only I was a teenager and super close to my cousin (the groom). The bride to be told me I'd be a bride's maid. Then she decided I was going to do a reading. I got to the church and suddenly I wasn't doing a reading and she started screaming at my mother and me. Turns out she had already picked someone else for the reading and planned this all. I haven't talked to them since that moment. It's been years. They've got a kid going into college now. Now I'm the one engaged. Feels weird.
My sister who is disabled was left out of her best friend's wedding party "for her own sake." The friend passed it off as not wanting to put too much pressure and such on my sister, but I'm very suspicious that that wasn't the real reason. Especially because she didn't even ask my sister if she thought she could do it 🙄
One of my dearest friends was morbidly obese. That never had anything to do with my love for her. I loved her for who she was inside, not her outsides. She died way too young and I miss her. I would never have treated like that bridezilla in the first story. That’s not a friend, that’s a user!
That first bride is the absolute worst. I sincerely hope that bride told her how she really felt and the friend took her money, her loyalty, and her friendship elsewhere. Bride is a terrible human.
Grey hair story: She just nonchalantly mentioned their "monthly bridesmaid agenda" meetings. That's insane! Maybe if all your bridesmaids are local, but like, what could you possibly have to meet with them about on a monthly basis that a group text can't handle?
Yeah I noticed that too, if there are "monthly agendas" for the wedding, MAAAAAAJOR red flag! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Right! 10 more weeks of grey hair will ruin the look of the dress 😂
I think the whole idea of a 'Bridesmaid agenda' is bonkers. When my best friend got married, I had already started getting grey hairs, she literally didn't care as long as I was there. As it dang well should be.
@@strawberrykatnzAnd it shouldn’t matter! So many people don’t even live long enough for grey hair so we should own it with pride. I didn’t think I would and I’m looking forward to it if I get there
Those monthly agenda meetings will create more stress and more grey hair! I started getting grey when I was 20 and decided that I wasn’t going to spend my life coloring it. Some of my friends when they were older went and got professional coloring that was very natural. One friend told me that I would look younger if I dyed my hair, but she used box mixes and her hair is a strange unnatural orange with missed spots but everyone is to polite to point that out. I still get compliments on my shiny hair and because of the pandemic, many had decided to quit coloring it as their hair had grown out. It’s a personal decision and frankly don’t care what people do to their own hair.
I honestly hate the whole gift thing at weddings. Many of my friends had their weddings in college and I was poorer then poor. I joked with her that my presence was the gift 😂
Besides, according to etiquette experts, guests have one year after the wedding to send a gift. How does she know the ones who "show up empty-handed" haven't sent, or made arrangements to send, a really nice gift? I think it's tacky to bring a gift TO the wedding, then someone has to deal with it, figure out afterwards how ti will go where it needs to go.
My father in law, a retired cop, stepped up and said he would be in charge of "wrassling wedding gifts and ensuring they were delivered to our tiny house". I trusted him, and because of our jobs my late husband and I married in a town neither of us was from. dad in law pulled in grooms side of the family to help, people i barely knew, and after our honeymoon my in laws had everything waiting for us to open at-home, and money was locked away safely. Yes some folks arranged gifts to come in advance like etiquette recommends, but reality is, when all are traveling they carry the gifts with them.
I think some of my wedding guests didn't bring gifts. They took the time and energy to be there, before the wedding day, during, and after. I know it's cheesy, but that really is a gift!
I think most people were very generous, but if you can remember a wedding gift at all years later it was either a REALLY special one or your life is pretty lame, IMO. Then again, we got married at 35, so we were far enough into our careers and maturity to prioritize and not spend money we shouldn't... I can't imagine a much younger version of me would have been as responsible and reasonable... Which is probably why I had to wait so long to get married 🤭.
Where I am from, gifts are given at the WEDDING SHOWER, not the ceremony, for logistical reasons. Many couples depart the wedding and go straight to the honeymoon. That makes it fall on other people to secure, transport, and hold anything brought to the ceremony until the couple returns.
My friend's daughter was the complete opposite of a bridezilla. The wedding was outside. They served some nice food before the ceremony. The bridesmaids dresses/outfits were all different but using the same color. The girls were all shapes and sizes, including one who was pregnant. Their 3dogs were included, wearing adorable clothes. Everyone had a great time and the pictures are amazing.
Same thing with mine, minus the dogs, although I would have loved to include pups in my wedding. I didn’t have any at the time, or I definitely would have
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On my wedding invitations, I handwrote, "Your presence is the only gift we need."
Same!! And for favours we made a donation to a couple of special charities in their honour, so we left everyone a personalised hand written note explaining that and a pin badge for their charity. I wanted my special day to be a celebration of love and to me love is caring for those who are vulnerable!
Thank you for this, I financially struggle to feed myself every week, so this kind of 'faux pas' attitude makes me feel like the only reason people want friends is to give them gifts. Charlotte's attitude will make me rethink accepting any wedding invitations on the future. If you feel I am terrible person because I can't afford a gift what are we even doing?
@@bethsweeney715 Just the fact that you are there to spend my special day with me is enough and if someone NEEDS a gift, they don't know me and are not worthy to have me there.
We did that on our wedding invitations.
The body shaming was horrible. I have experienced this from someone we had been "best friends" for 13 years or so I thought. I was devastated and and starved myself to the point I was hospitalized just because of one heartless azzhat that was telling mutual friends that she was embarrassed to be seen with me. It sucks😢
Oh my god, that's awful I hope you're okay 😟
I got married 7 years ago under a tent in my inlaws backyard and it was amazing. Got my dress from anthropologie on sale for $400, a friend baked a cake and my sister in law took pictures on her phone. My husband made a dance mix based on Whitney Houston and we had whole foods cater lunch. It was just the best and the whole wedding was like $3000 and that was for the tent, chairs, linenes, food, beer and wine. If we had more money at the time i wouldve had more flowers/ decorations and a photographer but for the most part i wouldnt change a thing ❤ we were young and happy and there was so much love under that tent on a drizzly afternoon in april.
That sounds absolutely amazing!
Sounds perfect! We are planning our wedding at the moment and I would totally jump on the opportunity to have a backyard wedding if someone in the family had one available 😋
Rain falling on a tent sounds like the perfect mix of happy and romantic!
As the mother of a type one diabetic, we view her tech as an extension of her skin. We are proud that our kiddo finally has the confidence to wear hers in a visible location…and Mama Bear comes out if anyone messes with that!
My mother-in-law lives with us and she is diabetic among other things, wearing a sensor on her arm. I learnt so much about diabetes from living with her and also got kind of excited a few weeks ago when I saw a young woman at the gym wearing a sensor on her arm. The more we are exposed to people who need (medical) devices - be it sensors, hearing aids, walking sticks, etc - living normal lives unapologetically, the more normalise it will become and society can hopefully be more inclusive.
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Yay Mama Bear!!!
Any tech that allows you to live should be considered an external body part! Period!
yesss i call my omnipod my external pancreas :) i'm a proud cyborg and your daughter should be too ❤
“Kim, there’s people that are dying” never EVER gets old
Imagine how many unaware bridezillas laughed at Charlotte's reactions until she read their reddit post and said they are the a-hole.😄😆
That would be *amazing*. I hope it happens for some of these.
I hope it happens! 😜
It boggles my mind how many brides would rather have "perfect" looking photos rather that being able to recognize their loved ones and have them look like themselves. I dont give a shit what you look like as long as you look like yourself and hopefully you've got a genuine smile on your face. I had a backyard wedding in july and people asked me if they were allowed to wear shorts, i said i don't care what you wear as long as you don't show up in a wedding dress, let people be comfortable and they will have a much better time
That's lovely.
Absolutely 💯
There is a big difference between "getting married" and a "wedding", if you are more worried about the "wedding" than you are about "getting married" your marriage is already in trouble. A wedding is a few minutes out of your day that only you care about, your marriage is the rest of your life (hopefully) and should be the focus of your attention and concern. Blowing up friendships, family and your relationship with your fiancé over a few minutes of pomp and circumstance going to leave scars that will last far longer than your feeling special will. It isn't worth the long term pain.
I decided to stop dying my hair and just let it go grey. Everyone was shocked. Why? I'm 53, I've earned every grey hair on ky head!
The last story is ridiculous. The month I got married we had a wedding every weekend. It was so much fun.
Good for you!! I love grey hair, I always smile when I see people rocking it and hope that it's a sign that they know their worth and beauty. Loving yourself is so valuable ❤
Wow. Her man's granny was dying, and the "friend" was mad? That's not even an excuse. That's a 100% valid reason to miss the wedding.
Thank you. I swear, I would just send the wedding gift in the mail. A dying family member is a damn valid reason to miss a wedding
well entitled people don't think that way. they believe they are the best and the world owes them everything! i had a co worker that was like this thankfully she left. my Grandma died and this coworker said I couldn't go to the funeral because I didn't let them know in time. i called 4 days ahead of time. i was mad like wtf who does that. alot of other workers couldn't stand her. she's finally gone and we all are Happy.
Pretty rude and inconvenient of grandma, like she set the date first!! /s
How gross huh, how do these people even have friends?
@@rainbowpegacornstudios In the mail! That's way more work than I would do. Looks like I got myself a new set of crystal wine glasses! Woo!
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I'm just saying, bare minimum: send it to them through the mail. Otherwise, I would definitely have some petty revenge and keep the gift for myself. My message to them would be: "You were being a dick, so I'm teaching you a lesson, you entitled, obnoxious, ungrateful brat."
Thank you for acknowledging that some people don't get to be old, I had cancer at 13. My Mum use to try to dye her white and grey hairs but doesn't now. Growing old is a privilege, ageing is a privilege. Just like every scar I have, I will be proud to have wrinkles and white hair
Can I just say that it's perfectly fine to, ya know, NOT have strapless dresses at your wedding? You can literally pick any other style of dress, accessories, etc to flatter everyone. People don't have to have bare collarbones to make your wedding pretty.
I totally agree and want to add that I have definitely seen a fair share of 'plus size' people totally pull off a strapless dress (because you know, there's some boobage there to keep it up) as opposed to small-boobed me who totally needs straps to keep clothes from floating down to the waist 😅 so 'big arms' is definitely the wrong thing to worry about when it comes to strapless dresses!
Strapless dresses are SO over used. Everyone wears them, including people who really really should not.
Exactly!
I had strapless dresses at my wedding, but the bridesmaids could choose if they wanted straps on them. The design came with both. I don't see what the big deal is with that. I had five bridesmaids and three of them chose the straps, two of them didn't. Everyone looked great. And to be honest, if I'm looking at someone's wedding picture, my eyes go first to the bride then the groom, then a quick glance at the bridesmaids. The last thing I'm thinking about is symmetry with the dresses or the color of someone's hair. smh...
At one time, virtually all Christian churches forbade strapless, off the shoulder or even sleeveless dresses during church ceremonies. The shoulders were always to be covered in church.
The girl complaining her friend won't make it to the wedding because of the dying grandmother basically proved she should not be getting married.
Amen!
Indeed. What if something happened to a relative of her fiancé?
I wouldn’t give it a second thought my answer would have been don’t worry about the wedding go be with your loved one. I would be asking about grams and offer to save some cake for the friend. I know cake doesn’t fix the hurt of losing someone but it’s a small gesture that you are being thought of.
What if the relationship is only a month old ? It's her business, I wouldn't impose but, if my lifelong best friend ditched me that day for a maybe husband to be, I would be mad and I don't care about weddings that much.
@@franchescamayialmonte1303than you are just as selfish as this bride🤮🤮🤮
First story is the reason I was afraid when my niece asked me to be her MOH. I was terrified that she would be worried about me ruining her photos. Obviously my niece didn’t give one shit what my body looked like. She wanted me to stand up for her. Period.
I asked my niece if the outfit I chose for her wedding was okay and she replied without even looking. "I don't care what you wear. Wear ratty sweats if you want. I want you there."
I am glad both you and I have nieces who know people matter more than pictures.
Yay us! 🎉
The story about the dying relative shows what a POS the bride is... She didn't even ask if her friend was ok or express any form of concern. They're losing a loved one and she couldn't care less!
Not everybody will make it to your wedding - that's just life. Vehicles break down, people get sick, things happen. Unless they're a key part of the wedding, it's not the end of the world.
When I was MoH for my best friend, I booked a few days off before the wedding in case we needed to run errands, fix anything, etc. The day before the wedding, I was round at her house when I heard that my young nephew had been in an awful accident and had been airlifted to hospital. My best friend has been my best friend since kindergarten and her parents passed away when she was young, so I was giving the speech from the bride's side of the family on the big day, making my attendance important. Yet, as soon as I got the call about my nephew, my amazing best friend (who had spent so much time, effort and money on this wedding) immediately put my nephew first and said "if you need to go, it's ok - I understand - some things are more important". THAT is a *real* friend! I spoke to my sister and made sure she had support, kept in contact with my family throughout, and still attended the wedding, but the fact that my best friend's first thought was for my nephew, and not her wedding, is *why* she's my best friend. She even asked the vicar to include a prayer for my nephew's full and speedy recovery.
Your wedding is your big day - but it's not an earth-shattering event for everyone else... Handle it the way my best friend did and you'll have friends forever. Handle it like a Bridezilla and you'll only have your spouse in your life... If you don't get divorced...
I agree. Your friend handled it really well. She also seems to have a decent amount of empathy, maybe partly due to her own experience with personal loss. I hope your nephew is ok.
@@moonhunter9993She really is one the most amazing people - I feel incredibly lucky to call her my friend 💕
Thank you for asking about my nephew. He was badly burned and had to have several major operations, but he's doing really well now. As he's still growing, he still has ongoing treatment once a year, but it's not stopping him from living life to the fullest. We're all really proud of him 💖
Wishing you all the very best ❤
I missed a coworkers wedding because my boyfriends grandfather (who raised him) died. A year later, I married that boyfriend, and my coworker begged for an invite for her whole family (10 seats). It was a small wedding, so I could stretch the budget ($45/head). She didn't come, no explanation. I asked her about it when I got back to work, she said I didn't come to hers, so it was only fair. I want to mention she is 10 years my senior and it was her 2nd marriage.
Edit: The funeral and wedding were on the same day and 2 hours apart.
Get her to give you the $450 back, that’s really f-ed up on her part
What an absolute asshole, I am so sorry that happened to you. I hope your marriage has been an extremely happy one. (And I won’t straight up wish I’ll for her……but I don’t really wish her much happiness.)
Holy crap! I hope that coworker has the life they deserve!
That is so effed up
Because of health issues I wasnt able to visit my friends wedding. She brought me cake the day after, showed me all the wedding pics and her husband showed his wedding suit to me.
Those are real friends❤❤❤
I was a bridesmaid six times in the '80s and '90s. Got those dresses to prove it😂 Here's the thing. None of the weddings I was in had the drama of so many weddings these days. Once, I walked down the aisle with my ex boyfriend whose wife was sitting in the pew with their 10 day old child. I felt terrible for her but I just did it becausemy ex and I, well, our heights matched. It was something I did for my friend. Other than feeling bad for his wife I just did what my good friend asked me to do, no drama an it was over in less than a minute. Maybe I just picked better friends or maybe it was a different time when you didn't spend the cost of two houses for a wedding and reception. The one chick whose friend was too big and didn't want her in her wedding party should be shoved into the decorative fountain, which I am sure she will have.
It would be even better if she gets shoved in a chocolate fountain on her wedding day, dress and all 😂!
why did your friend ask you to do that? just cause of the... height?
You are correct. These entitled bridezillas should be left at the altar.
Ah the 80s. I got married in 1987. My not at all froofy sister wore a puffy pink dress. When we cleaned out Mom's attic ( AKA the archives) we found the abomination. She (all 5' 3" of her) MADE us take it to the dump. I said she was depriving some Goodwill shopper of a great Halloween costume.
One of my really good friends from high school that came to my wedding was a college student at the time, but something we had always done together was custom make our cosplays. When I told her that our honeymoon would be Disneyland (husband had never been and I was raised on Disney) she decided to make us these beautiful custom Mickey Mouse ear headbands. They were gold with silk flowers in our wedding colors and I just about cried when I saw them. Still one of the best gifts I’ve ever received, thank you Chloe ❤
Also wedding gifts can be services. The last 3 weddings i went to I couldn't afford a gift so i either live-sketched the couple at the alter (both couples i did that for got the sketches framed because they loved them so much) and for one wedding i cropped and edited old photos of the bride's deceased father so she could have a memorial plaque of him at her wedding.
There are ways to provide meaningful gifts or services as long as you clear it with the couple first.
I love how she's still willing to take her friends money but won't let her be in the wedding sheesh
Because it's ok for fat women to have fat purses but heaven forbid that fat people are also fat in your wedding photos. I am a fat woman, and I would seriously have torched this friendship to the ground if I found out that is how this friend feels about me.
@MyLifeMyWay hurts my feeling for the friend then to put in online 😪
Sometimes it takes everything in me not to yell “I had to wait for the goddamn Supreme Court to give their permission to marry my wife after being together for a decade, and when we did get married, we did it without families there because they’re the physical manifestation of Florida’s Don’t Say Gay bill, and you’re out here acting like this?” Like Charlotte said, it’s a privilege to be able to do this shit easily. Ugh.
My wife and I have this convo so often! 💜🏳️🌈 We got married with just best friends because our families loved us BUT just couldn’t attend a gay wedding.
This!! It’s amazing simply to have a person you care so much about, and who cares so much about you, and be able to freely celebrate that in the company of people who matter.
@@purplekristen2932 As a gay trans enby I have to say, people who won't attend your wedding because you are both the same gender don't actually love you.
I 36 F, started to go grey a tiny bit in high school and covered it for years. The last 10 years have been really tough and stressful so it has really taken off. My amazing husband husband has always said whatever I've chosen to do with my hair is beautiful. When I became really depressed in general 2 years ago I let it grow out and he told me (and continues to say) that he absolutely loves how I look with all my "fairy strands of wisdom glitter" I love all things fairy, so he picked an amazing way to describe it to make me feel beautiful.
I recently heard someone say "women ni longer get married for the marrige, they get married for the wedding" and these stories are the perfect embodiment of that 😂
*That first girl.* I've never been the type of girl to fantasize about my "dream" wedding, but her situation gave me the only scenario that I could possibly consider: my perfect wedding would have the people who I love the most who are still living by my side in my photos sharing in my joy, not "perfect looking" people who I have lukewarm feelings for at best filling out my photos and bridal party.
I am known in my family for dressing...unusually. So when my niece got married I asked her if the outfit I sent a picture of would be okay for me to wear her wedding. I don't think she even looked at the picture. She replied back immediately with "I don't care what you wear. You can wear ratty old sweats if you want. I just want you to be there."
She didn't choose her bridesmaids' dresses, just told them all the color scheme was shades of purple and to choose anything they liked that was purple.
She had a really good grasp of the purpose of a wedding, which is to share your happiness with the people you care about.
It is so easy to solve the wedding gift issue: if you are so sensitive about whether or not someone brought a gift then write on the invite "please no gifts, your presence is all that is required." She said it herself she can afford the wedding and it is all about love.
At my reception my new Mother-In-Law set up a money tree without telling anyone. As we were well off we didn’t need money, nor would we ask for money, so the tree was way out of line especially knowing that most of the people there don’t make near what we did.
I immediately grabbed the tree, returned their money with a huge hug and thank you, all while handing them another drink and explaining what happened.
Needless to say, my new Mother-In-Hell (I mean mother-in-law) was never invited to our events again with out close supervision. Don’t ever ask people for something you don’t need and don’t be disappointed when you don’t get anything, just go earn it yourself.
That is sweet of you to return the money. If I went to wedding and there was a money tree I would feel a lot of pressure...
Is it a family tradition on your husband's side? She shouldn't have put it there without asking, but I'm curious if it's part of the family tradition.
My family's tradition is a money dance. I can't tell you how many people were asking me throughout and after the wedding why I didn't do the money dance. Many were looking forward to it and were disappointed.
Our best friends got married two week after we did, and it was the best thing ever. Getting to plan and celebrate each other, it was a month full of celebrating and parties! We love having those memories with them.
I’m from a small town in Oklahoma, and it’s actually pretty normal to not bring a wedding gift, unless you are an older or well-off family member. We also have very small, cost effective weddings. It’s also normal here to not have alcohol or even dinner after the wedding. Our family receptions are usually cake, punch, and hand made mints. After the reception anyone who wants to party goes to a bar and pays their own way. Weddings don’t have to break the bank to be fun and beautiful!
I"m in my late 60s. When I was younger I did the hair-coloring thing, but a few decades ago I decided I no longer wanted to invest the time. I've embraced the gray, and get compliments on it all the time on my hair. If someone asked me to have my hair colored for their event, I'd tell them, "I wish you well, but I have other plans."
Good Morning Besties!! And I do feel privileged to be 54. None of my siblings made it this far. Being old is a badge of honor and (hopefully) wisdom. I earned ever single gray hair!
52! Me too!
49 and due to a medical scare 3 years ago every day above ground is a blessing.
That's how I see it too, I love my grey hair! I inherited my mom's hair, so like her, I have pure white streaks framing my face, kind of like Lily Munster (hey, I always thought she was pretty!). I've had people ask how I was able to completely remove my "natural" color to get those bright white streaks. I smile and say, "Oh, my mom did it!" It takes temporary color well, like hair chalk, so that's something fun I couldn't do when my hair was dark brown.
I'm sorry you lost your siblings at such a young age. I'm the youngest of four, so I'll likely face losing my sisters first because they are 15 and 17 years older than me so they are in their late 70s.
I have MS. Imagine someone telling me, “you cannot use cane walking down the aisle.” I feel privileged that I’m not at a bad state with my illness. Grays are a badge of honor.
Just loss a beautiful friend just after her 50 birthday I'm going to be 55 in November I'm bald but do have some gray facial hair I've lost alot of friends never made it to 50 so it's a big deal
Growing old is a blessing. I hope I can live long enough despite illnesses to get gray hair. People really shouldn't take life for granted. You are not promised tomorrow.
I was a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding.She said we could wear any style of dress we wanted but it had to be the same color. Some girls picked strapless, halter top and off the shoulder dresses. I am top heavy, so I chose a dress that allowed me to wear a regular bra and I was comfortable in. We enjoyed ourselves, pictures turned out beautiful, and nobody's feelings got hurt.
I'm surprised she didn't suggest that her BF get weight loss surgery before her wedding. SMH
The bride that was shocked because her bridesmaid had grey hair is absolutely baffling me. I'm thirty as well and started to get grey hair with eighteen. It's just how it is sometimes.
I'll never understand people! I had a classmate in HS who was very handsome, and he had some grey hair his senior year. I saw him 20 years later at the class reunion, and his thick, beautiful hair was pure white! Talk about a silver fox! 😍
I'm in my early 30's and completely skipped the grey and went straight to white 😂
@@elysegnade9967 I love white hair, I think it's gorgeous. My favorite musician from the 80s, Nick Lowe, is now 74 and has had beautiful white hair for decades. I got to meet him 21 years ago, and was mesmerized by his beautiful hair.
He wrote the perfect song for a wedding reception back in the 1970s called, "I Knew the Bride (When She Used to Rock and Roll). The music video is very funny, and sweet.
I highly recommend that Charlotte and Mike have this song played at their wedding reception!
This video is about 40 years old, but Nick's hair was already going grey.
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I saw my first gray hair at 19. I finally decided about 4 years ago that the silvery look I was trying to achieve was in letting my hair go naturally silver. Now, after a bout with chemo, I even have curls!
My sister started getting grey hairs at 15 and me around 24! it's just genetics for some people. Literally who cares!
If any of these “friends” asked me to NOT be their bridesmaid I would be so relieved!! I don’t think most people are sitting around worried about whether or not you choose them (obligate them) to be in their wedding.
We literally only had my sister and his brother in our wedding party just to avoid drama.
What kills me about the first bride with the bigger friend is that there are many people who are larger due to genetic conditions. Not all people who are large are that way because they ate too much, or ate the wrong things.
This bride is taking advantage of her "friend" for her money. She never once mentioned giving it back or feeling bad about taking it and breaking any possible agreement there was regarding being in the wedding.
Friend is a good friend bride is a leach.
The only thing better than social media/wedding drama is Charlotte's version of social media/wedding drama.
Those dramas with Charlotte is the most funny thing ever. 😂
it already started as shitty as possible... what a terrible, TERRIBLE person and friend! I do hope this kind of person ends up as alone as possible, DIVORCE!!!! At least now I understand why the family is not helping, she must be insufferable! Just to be clear, I don't wish her loneliness because of her per se, but because NOBODY deserves to live with someone like the first Bridezilla.
I read a bunch of wedding etiquette books before my wedding, and they said wedding gifts are not required. Of course, personally I would never not give a wedding gift.
Yes, they aren't required, but I'd feel weird not giving something. I did go to one wedding where we didn't bring a gift. We were poor, I was pregnant, and the guy whose wedding it was had cost us a lot of money. I felt zero obligation to bring a gift to that wedding.
I have never actually left a comment on a TH-cam video before, but I wanted to take a moment to express my admiration for your channel. It's truly delightful to have a place to visit and enjoy your videos. In a time where most videos are laden with politics and unsettling global events, your channel serves as a wonderful escape from all the chaos.
Such a pleasant daily escape. The laughter is good medicine. Charlotte is our doctor 😂
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I was a bridesmaid in my sisters wedding, she asked me to hide all of my surgery scars for her wedding. They are on my shoulder and back which were visible in the dress she chose for me to wear. I told her get over it or I’ll not be in the wedding. The audacity…
I am really sorry she said and expected that. I am glad you put her in her place.
Oh no! As someone with a lot of surgery scars. Including one on my neck this is really sad and horrible of your friend 😢
@@NataliaPessoaXOXOMAKEit was her sister not friend 😬
That is horrible. Good on you for standing up for yourself.
I got invited to my friends reception during a time i was in college and couldn't afford, I made twin plushies (from a comic series not well known) of matching wedding colours. Yes It isn't a lot of money but was time and something that you can't get unless you made it or get it commissioned. They absolutely loved their gift.
I started going gray at 18. I’m 35 now and stopped coloring my hair 7 years ago to let it gray naturally and I absolutely love it. And all the time and money I won’t have to spend over the course of the next several decades is a plus!
My Daughter is getting married next year and I told her if she becomes a bridezilla I was gonna share her bridezillaness with Charlotte 🤣🤣🤣.
Yes, please. 😂
I hope you don't become a motherzilla or MILzilla ...
A vicious threat if ever I heard one! 😂🤣
she's been warned
I don't think I will be a momzilla but everyone says that so who knows 🤣🤣🤣
12:30, just funny fact : in Poland we rarely bring gifts to a wedding. Our tradition is to bring flowers and envelope with money inside.
So the money is the gift!
My cats know EXACTLY when my downtime is, as soon as they hear "heeey everybody.." they come running to chill with me and miss Charlotte on the couch 🙈😂 been enjoying this content for quite some time now ❤️
Just pay her back, and hopefully the friend gets the hint on just how awful a person she is. She shouldn't have accepted the money in the first place knowing she wouldn't be in the wedding. Some people are just disgusting human beings.
No because then she would be an empathetic and understanding human being and obviously that's just way too hard for her to do. 🙄🤣🤣
I feel like I've learned so much about the world and weddings with these videos. Here, as far as I know from the weddings I've been at, gifts aren't really a big deal at all. None of the weddings I've been to has had a gift table or any of the sort. Bridesmaids and groomsmen and all of that isn't a thing either, though some has started to implement it more and more now. So now, if i ever visit a US wedding, I know what to do and not to do 😂
This is the third time I've heard of someone getting offended over someone's diabetes equipment. So bizarre to me the things people get upset over, lol.
the lack of empathy borders on the sociopathic... and the entitlement is mind-boggling. If I heard of a friend doing this or having something like that done to them, I would intervene: I would totally blast a person with the reality check they need.
Does the bride not realize that Type 1 diabetes is autoimmune and that any children she has with her husband could have the same disease? These control freaks are going to have a rude awakening when life doesn’t always get what you want.
It’s also pretty telling that she asked it to be REMOVED, when it could just been hidden by another person or accessory placement!? Like, put some fake flowers on it or hide it with your arm, it’s not that difficult if truly bothered her! Seems like she just didn’t really like op in the first place
@@kaynebula2093Why would a couple of bumps under the dress need to be hidden? No one is going to look that closely at the photo and even if they did, no one would care. If fact no one, except maybe immediate family, would even care enough to look at the photos more than once.
Inner ugliness exudes from all orifices so they become outwardly ugly, too.
Our wedding was fairly small, mostly his family because mine lived 3,000 miles away. I was SO excited just to be getting married, that I could not have cared less about any of the details. All of this "I have been dreaming about this since I was a little girl." bs is ridonkulous. Half of the people who get married end up getting divorced, so why get your knickers in a knot? (We are still married, fortunately!)
Exactly its the man you dreamed of not the perfect wedding
I like to say I'm grateful to have heard more about marriages than weddings growing up. Threw my wedding together in 4 months, but we're only getting out of this marriage in body bags.
It’s definitely not distasteful to show up to a wedding without a gift as it perfectly acceptable and quite common to mail the gift ahead of time.
The one about the grandma, as soon as the bride said she would come up with a reason to not attend her friends wedding my immediate response was "bold of you to assume you'd get invited" and I love how the response was similar XD
I like how that one bride wanted to be anonymous but then proceeded to tell all the details that went on in the conversation with her friend 😂 I think the grey haired friend may know it's her 😉😂
Right? How many people talked to their friends today about grey hair and are allergic to box dye? She definitely knows who posted that
The first one…. I LOVE how she is all about dreaming this day and such bla..bla..bla. As someone who’s been married for almost 30 years. Honey you have a long road reality and things don’t always go as planned! It’s not all about the cake, the flowers, the dress, the BMs, etc…. It’s all about those who are with you for the long haul in life and not just family. Trust me a day will come when you wish you had a friend like that later in life when a life altering event happens and you need a friend. Trust me I would know!!! I wish I had a friend like her!
to them it's not who they marry, it's the party. and being the center of attention.
I have a friend who demanded nobody else get married the entire year in which she got married. We all laughed....
😂😂😂
no other response is reasonable
IDK, RSVPing with an invitation to all your wedding dates set for that year would have been just the right amount of petty, even if you had to renew your vows ;-)
How about NC for a year just for her?
My sister is getting married next month and im a type 1 diabetic 25yrs in dec!
She asked my opinions on the bridemaids dresses to make sure i could access my insulin pump easliy and wouldnt restrict the canula.
I’m in my 50s. It was considered in bad taste to bring the gift to the wedding. In those days, most stores that had a registry. It was a service the store offered to wrap and “send” the gift. They had courier that took things and delivered. I don’t think I will ever accept gift tables at weddings. I had no gift table; when a gift table is put out at a wedding it is seen as asking for gifts. Prior to the wedding, along with the send ahead option, there are plenty of opportunities - taking it your self, showers, and engagement parties. I used to have a book on manners - Emily Post or such, that contained all these rules.
You ever meet someone who is visually beautiful but as they show their true colors to be hateful selfish rotten etc, that they then appear ugly af even visually? That's what the first horrible friend of a woman reminds me of. Ew. Also, love you to pieces Charlotte! ❤
I can totally relate! They just ended up looking ugly on the outside too.
I am just like that. Some people are so horrible on the inside, that to me, they like any beauty on the outside anymore.
It makes me so mad to hear these brides complain about their friends for such pointless reasons. I'm getting married next fall. I don't have a lot of people I'm close to but I was lucky enough to have two very special people to be in my bridal party. Unfortunately, one of my best friends took his life 4 days ago. Now my wedding is just a painful reminder, like everything else. These people are scared of their friends ruining photos because of their bodies and hair? They should feel truly blessed that they have these people in their lives who want to experience their wedding with them.
I am so sorry about your friend. 💜✌
So sorry for your loss
You are 100% correct Taylor, I hope your day is full of joy, and your life full of laughter.
I’m very sorry for your loss 😞
Oh my goodness, I am so unbelievably sorry for your loss. My heart is truly with you - I have had friends who have died by suicide, and the pain can be unbearable. My thoughts and heart are with you and his loved ones.
My favorite wedding of all time was plain, simple and the reception was a potluck square dance. Just real people enjoying this special day and sending them off into married life.
I can relate with someone "stealing her thunder" for the wedding. My now husband and I were together for 7 years when we got engaged. Took a while to finally get around to planning the big day, but we ended up deciding on our 10 year anniversary day for the wedding. It was for early November, I always wanted a fall wedding and loved the idea of having our anniversaries (dating and marriage) be the same. My husband's aunt lost it! Her only son got engaged shortly before we started telling family the date we chose and were planning their wedding for January, after our proposed date. She freaked out, called us every name in the book, and said we were tacky etc etc. I told her to go fuck herself because my life didn't revolve around her son and she should be happy for her nephew. We already had a son together, she had made comments in the past about having a child out of wedlock. Fast forward a few more months, and my husband's grandpa died the day before when we were going to get married exactly 1 year before. We ended up moving the date because I didn't think it would be fair to him to mourn the 1 year anniversary of his passing and then get married the following day. The aunt was so thrilled! Needless to say, neither her nor her son were invited to our wedding in May, after her sons wedding, and she had her opinions about that too. She talked all kinds of crap when she saw the pictures, her son had a big extravagant wedding and we did a small intimate gathering with only 20 close family and a few friends. I loved my wedding and would not change it for anything. I'll never understand why people think others can't live their lives. I mean shit, we were engaged longer than her son was even dating his now wife at the time!
I am not from the western society and it always fascinates me how people over there worry about others " stealing their thunder " when they get married/ get engaged ^^"
I mean where I come from people don't care at all when others announce a wedding/ engagement party ,pregnancy ... etc during another's wedding . For us all what matters is that it s happy news to share which makes the wedding merrier . Like you can literally say that you re getting married tomorrow and people , including the bride and the groom , will congratulate you and wish you happiness and that's it 😅
@@mariamariafujoshiinurarea2524 Your culture is very healthy. American culture is very focused on looks, especially women's looks.
Going to a wedding without a gift isn't a faux pas where I'm from. Gifts are appreciated, but never expected.
Same. I don't understand how people get that exasperated. Then again, I am from India and man, the average fam really can't always afford it.
@@7Zsta Me too! And as OP said, gifts aren’t really expected, in our culture too. We’re taught that the attendees’ blessings for the happy couple is gift enough, because those go a long way. We Indians even give *the guests* gifts for attending! Western culture, especially wedding culture, baffles me sometimes. Like no wonder most marriages don’t last here.
Rude need to give doo much money to the grooms family ..
Then you are forced to invited People, then you have to give them outfeet...and it last that long...it is horrible. .westen costums are better...
@@zb7293 ok? You’re allowed to have a different opinion. Clearly you’re outnumbered here though lol.
Actually, old-school etiquette says gifts by definition are never, ever required for any occasion. They may be customary, but they're not mandatory. If they are a requirement then they are no longer gifts, they're the price of admission. This business of gifts being mandatory is in relatively recent, a 21st-century development. I'm not sure how widespread it is. Social media isn't always the best indicator. At least I hope it's not ☹️
Oh I love it when Charlotte hands out the straight talk!
To me it’s very funny that you bring a present to the wedding. Here in Brazil the couple usually have a “wedding list” of stuff they need. You buy before the actual date and send to their home. No one shows up with a gift on the wedding.
That only happens at children’s birthday’s party.
That actually sounds like a much better tradition. That way the couple gets the stuff they need or want, and no one has to feel bad for "not bringing a gift". 🙂
Yes, we do that here. Wedding registries are VERY common.
That's my way of thinking there is usually a bridal shower where the bride gathers with usual other ladies including her mom, female relatives friends and they bring the gifts from the registry or whatever gift they have and only people who were unable to attend the shower bring gifts to the actual wedding.
@@sherristyers5627 Here there’s a bridal shower also. Only with “the girls” and usually they give simpler gifts, things the couple may need at their new house like a toaster or a draining board. The other option (it’s a trend) it’s a lingerie shower. Instead of gifts for the house, the guests give lingerie for the honeymoon. Usually when the couple already have a house.
But at the wedding we don’t give gifts. There’s another tradition of cutting the a peace of the groom’s s tie at the reception in exchange for some money for the couple. 😆
Yes. Etiquette actually dictates you have a year to get a wedding gift. In fact, its a little bit of bad form to take the gift to the actual wedding because someone has to make sure the gifts are safe, secured and transported. Much better to give the gift before or after, or have it sent to the couple. It IS wrong not to provide a gift (as you said), just doesn’t have to go to the wedding… Also, the couple MUST send thank you notes to all gift givers!!!! I’ve been to 4 wedding in the last year where no thank you or acknowledgment was given for my gift ($300 in one case!). Does not feel good - or right.
I’m getting married next weekend. And I will admit, planning a wedding is a lot like herding cats that don’t understand a word of your language (or choose not to)….. That being said, I could never imagine being so entitled, impatient, or cruel. Eek.
These videos have literally been such a comic relief for me when I’m beyond stressed! Yes, your wedding day is Your big day as a bride, but it’s also a day for your husband/partner, and (if you’re close to them) your family, their family, and closest friends to celebrate a relationship and union. And, most importantly: Love. ❤ I think a lot of people forget that.
Congrats on you're own wedding! It's ok to be a little stressed during the planning of your own day, it's a lot, and I agree with your analogy about cats lol. Just a suggestion from a former bride, have someone you trust to answer all of the questions from vendors day of. I had a friend of mine basically run point for me so we could focus on what we needed to do next and someone else could answer questions like table placement and how far apart to spread candles or whatever else comes up lol. Made the entire day stress free after a year of stress planning lol
Hope you had a great day and, more importantly, wonderful days since then!
I once had a friend that asked me to be her maid of honor. I didn't even find out that she had a boyfriend until like a couple of weeks before she asked me. It was all very shocking but I agreed since we were good friends for many years and I figured she needed my support and was probably going through something. I figured I would find out where this guy came from as I helped her plan her wedding. Turns out everyone but me knew about him for the past 3 years. I literally didn't believe it because we hung out several times a week and talked several hours a day. Think teenage bestie that continued into our 20s. Anyway after finding out all of this shocking information as I'm helping her plan her wedding she asks me about 1 week before the wedding if I would be ok with being just a bridesmaid. Shocking but eventually I agreed even though I didn't agree with her lame excuse. Then I was “mistakenly” left out of the rehearsal. Then I was told I'm no longer needed in the wedding party. I eventually found out that it was because she didn't want me in any photos. She was fat, her man was fat, her family was fat, and the entire bridal party was fat. I was not, and I use to actually model back then. She said if I was in the photos that they would look unbalanced. She said I could still attend the wedding she just didn't want me in any photos. I told her to go enjoy her effin fat life and I was done with her and have never been friends with a fat chick since. Unfortunately the discrimination is real and goes both ways 😒
As a fatty, I am so distressed that this happened to you. I promise we're not all that way.
You were doing OK until the last part where you'll never be friends with anyone fat again, go step on a lego
You should have gone as a guest and looked fabulous--I doubt that they would have had the balls to have you thrown out. You could have given them the hairy eyeball and said out loud "ARE YOU SURE YOU WANT TO EAT THAT?" as they scarfed up food.
What makes you think that she'll be happy with you saying, "I don't want you as a bridesmaid anymore but i still want you to pay for everything?" 🤔
You know, I often wondered what kind of people would be this entitled and psychotic at their wedding. As I have gotten older, I have seen parents raise this type of people. It ain't pretty.
Agreed.Getting married is about being with the one you live and sharing it with the people you love. Marriage is not about the gift you'll get, the perfect photo or even a perfect day, though the last one would be nice😉. Life is messy you just have to have the perfect partner and loved around that what it's all about
I unfortunately knew one and thought she was my best friend since elementary school 😂 she actually got angry at her brother because he and his wife became pregnant and the due date was around the same time of her wedding. She didn’t want him overshadowing her with a baby.
@@naydra4210it’s crazy that this is not the only time I’ve heard something like that.
@13:36. Story time: I met my partner in 2011, started dating in 2015, engaged Feb 2020 (we had already booked venue, etc. prior to engagement in 2019 as we knew we were going to get married anyways but I always dreamed of a winter engagement and wanted to be finished school), married November 2020. One of my best friends started dating her partner in 2018ish and got engaged after us in 2020 and married one month after us in December 2020. And you know what... I couldn't be more happy for her! That's what friends do! They cheer each other on and support each other!
I’ve had type 1 diabetes for 21 years and it still hurts to even hear that story. We’ve got enough to deal with
(Op here) yeah it was frustrating. Even more so because it continued…we got pregnant first, found out early and told people early because i started showing at 5 weeks. SIL got pregnant four weeks to the day we told them, our kids are a month apart in age. She threw a fit because at 37 weeks i was put on bedrest, baby was already 9lbs and was trans verse breech so I couldn’t go into labor without it being an emergency. We were told not to travel far from the hospital. This was a few weeks before SIL’s baby shower. She was throwing a fir my husband wouldn’t be attending her shower, everyone trying to convince him he could go for a few hours and be fine. They did not care about the health issues and the fact that if i went into labor the baby would be born within the hour. The shower was over an hour away just in driving. My husband was not risking missing the birth. Luckily we made it to 38 weeks without any issues. And our son is absolutely perfect.