Sometimes they will create an argument over something stupid, and blame it all on you, and then say "im done with you" and immediately go move in with the person they had alredy been cheating on you with.
I used to cry all the time, and sometimes still do, but I’m glad I got to a point where I can look back and laugh too. I’m fortunate that I can laugh about my situation, while so many other victims are struggling. I wish the best for everyone.
When we started dating he demanded to see my phone and all my communications with other men. I let him, I was so proud to show him how focused I was on him. I thought he would see how serious I was about him. He was projecting everything he was hiding in his phone. smh
I was holding him accountable and i did take his phone, he blindsided me and left within days after 12 years. He had his coworker, ready and in place for that jump. TOXIC af. It happened fast on my end but he had it planned. Sadistic
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"You betrayed me when you refused to let me abuse you anymore. So now I must punish you severely. Even though I was already abusing you leading up to the end, now I am going to take it to next level sadism." Never mind the amazing love and unending help I gave him on life and his business. They don't receive the good and only perceive pain. That is the ex I just had. Good riddance.
@@Jillisa2 I am in a much better place now mentally, emotionally, and even financially. I don't have the daily whirlwind of problems, stress, and negativity that he created. So I feel lighter. I may still have a passing thought of him (or her) each day, but most of the time I feel renewed. I found out they started doing hard drugs and he ruined his reputation in his business. All of this happening at the same time he ended things with me. It only confirmed what I already knew, which was that he is a very troubled soul and I am much better on my own. The thing that is maybe more amazing is that he looked so together when I met him. But it was an illusion. Once I started to move past the shock and pain, things started to improve. For those of us who still have love to give - to ourselves and others - we will always be better off than the narcissist no matter the appearances of new "love" on their end.
my ex blocked me 2 months and a half when I found him on a dating website... it was so confusing and painful to go through that silence treatment. Now I'm out :D
We were all perfect supply. The narcissist is an addict to attention(supply) and just like any addict they need more and more, NEW fresh supply to sustain them over time. It's not personal that they need new supply, it's their inadequacies and deep rooted insecurity.. it's NOT US that is lacking. They need external Supply to fuel them in a way we do not. 👍
But even when they find this "person" that will kiss the ground they walk on, will let them cheat, and do whatever they want just to keep them, itll eventually run its course.. they will find problems with that new person
Wow I was devalued after we got engaged and when I moved in with him. Things were getting worse. Then I was discarded when I got pregnant. I was kicked out pregnant. He made up a stupid argument about me washing the dishes with the water running. After that he was posting his new supply soon after. This is a really sick disability these people have. They ruin people’s lives. I was the blame for everything.
May God be with you and bless you! This is so messed up. Nothing was your fault. There was nothing you could’ve done differently, because he was going to do whatever he was going to do. I’ve been in a similar situation. Stay strong in the mind, pray everyday…you will get over it!!
I discarded my exbf narc after I caught him cheating and lying to me. We were together for 2 1/2 yrs and his been dating the new supply for 5mos. He even denied me with the new chic during my confrontation with him while he was out with her. I dumped his ass right there on the spot. I’m done with all the bullshit, cheating and lying. I deserve better.
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A general observation. What you are describing is how most human beings behave. If you read the comments on all these channels, everyone is calling everyone else a narcissist. It's making it very difficult to identify what is a true narcissist. Thank you for your video.
I got married and he didn’t show up to the wedding with a wedding ring…I bought a $4 plastic ring for myself. Red flag 🚩 much…37 years, I’m out. How was I soooooo stupid 🙄
Now you mention it, in 28 years I've got only a couple presents or surprises in 28 years. One was a ring the first year together,second was a car he claimed he" bought for me" that I couldn't ever just take or drive myself, it was to make it look like it everybody else that he was such a great boyfriend. (I am a female lol, this is just one out of 5 of the 100 different secret emails I found out about that I took over. Found some beyond sad things what he has done to me these years just by figuring out how to get into his accts.
I threw a comment out to my mom during a convo we were having about agong, and relationships: “I don’t think at my age prince charming is coming for me..” (Que the ‘of course you’ll find love Stella..’) ~ mom starts to chuckle “no, no he’s not”….
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Whoaaaaaaaaa this just explained everything. I've been watching videos of narcissistic abuse for almost two years. This video has literally told me everything I needed to know. Omg I'm speechless 😶 THANK YOU ❤❤❤
I put it together been ongoing for almost 20yrs and a short marriage. His dad was a diagnosed Narcissist. I heard the word (Narcissist) thrown around but truly never understood until I started to study. Needless to say I was being gaslighted, triangulate, stonewalling. I had some medical things, menopause showed some weakness took sometime off work. He did the ghosting, gone all night. Took up some illicit behaviors. I'm currently packing looking forward to some peace. He's sneaking into his new Shiney things house middle of night because her landlord doesn't like him. Took a ballbat after him. Things started to unravel for him the first week without me doing anything. I just know this new supply gets a dose of the explosive anger, belittling and other behaviors. She or them have no idea I'm sure she's not the only. 😂😂
Thank you so much for making this video. This is exactly what happened to me two weeks ago. I was engaged and he constantly says I’m the one thing in the whole world that he actually loves. (Put me above his own children, which I found disgusting.) not only is he a narcissist, but also a drug addict… and I finally was calling him out and telling him that the drugs need to stop. He completely ghosted me and it’s been two weeks. I don’t know if I’ll ever even see my “fiance” again. I did get a call at 3am last Monday though and I assume that was him… not sure why he would have done that…
We had a whole family completely discard, block and disassociate with our whole family. Crazy story. But those principles apply exactly but a whole family towards another. Crazy.
Please tell me what was going on.with a person i.had an online. Relationahip for one year.I went through all the narc phases and there was a lot of strange behaviour.after one year he said he didnt want to date or get married and deleted the phitos i sent him saying they were too revealing (they werent).This from someone who.love bombed me daily..He also never phoned me and asked me not to.phone him but i.got to know he phoned my friend .What was going on here?
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So instead a new supply, what about a man that has a narcissistic obsession with one child that looks like him vs his other 4 children? Confiding in his daughter like a side chick?
I was pregnant with only two weeks to go, and my husband left me for another woman he had been seeing behind my back. He had nothing to do with our kids yet would call constantly while he was with this woman, saying he loved me still but just needed time. Dont fall for the lie. it's not true.
My ex husband of 30 years has been seeing my ex best friend and tramping around a small town. The friend also came into my 24 year old son. You are correct as well they blame you and never want to file. It's extremely confusing and betrayal at it's best. I am telling people the truth because they are telling people he could not be with my abuse anymore and she is saying they are divorced now and decided to date all of a sudden. I said ya no! They have been for years. Then I tell him how he went to jail as well because he is using her for the country club status. Lol he had his cake for a while and planned it all. Get the popcorn ready. What's your opinion on this ending? My kids cut him off totally because all he does is lie. Then they tell my sister they are not together! She is like 😮 they are also both alcoholics. I sleep well and have peace but it attacks my mind at times and affects me. I love the fact you are a recovering real narcissist and speak and teach from experience.
Because I never tried before. How it all happened? check out my podcast episode of my origin story here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-and-raw-with-ben-taylor/id1723209671?i=1000644928681
Did you have other means of resources? A place to stay, a car, a good job, emotionally supportive, sex, it can be any kind of resource they need. Including money.
@deanapatterson8410 we are in a long-distance relationship. I have a good career. I am emotionally supportive of him. I give him attention. He calls me everyday. We see each other everytime we travel together. He paid most of our travels. I just caught him that he cheated on me. He slept with one of his female friends twice during our 6 year relationship when I messaged her on Facebook because she kept liking all his pics. He said it was just meaningless sex. He never messaged her again. I forgave him. He said he wanted to make things work out between us. If I caught him cheating again, I would dump him for good.
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Why as a narcissist do you care for empaths, my narcissist would never admit to reality of what they done or going to do, are you becoming human, no offense I just don't see it or why, I own up to my faults because I'm human, sounds like you made some bad decisions, but owning it makes you human, wish my narcissist was human
Sometimes they will create an argument over something stupid, and blame it all on you, and then say "im done with you" and immediately go move in with the person they had alredy been cheating on you with.
Yep ✅
bingo
Yes
I used to cry all the time, and sometimes still do, but I’m glad I got to a point where I can look back and laugh too. I’m fortunate that I can laugh about my situation, while so many other victims are struggling. I wish the best for everyone.
So truly happy for you, I'm there too now... Feels so good... Hoping for everyone to get to that point soon, just have faith you will..... ❤
When we started dating he demanded to see my phone and all my communications with other men. I let him, I was so proud to show him how focused I was on him. I thought he would see how serious I was about him. He was projecting everything he was hiding in his phone. smh
Been there done that 💔😢 so sorry, hope you're doing better ❤
I was holding him accountable and i did take his phone, he blindsided me and left within days after 12 years. He had his coworker, ready and in place for that jump. TOXIC af. It happened fast on my end but he had it planned. Sadistic
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"You betrayed me when you refused to let me abuse you anymore. So now I must punish you severely. Even though I was already abusing you leading up to the end, now I am going to take it to next level sadism." Never mind the amazing love and unending help I gave him on life and his business. They don't receive the good and only perceive pain. That is the ex I just had. Good riddance.
Ditto 😢 hope you're in a good place now❤
@@Jillisa2 I am in a much better place now mentally, emotionally, and even financially. I don't have the daily whirlwind of problems, stress, and negativity that he created. So I feel lighter. I may still have a passing thought of him (or her) each day, but most of the time I feel renewed. I found out they started doing hard drugs and he ruined his reputation in his business. All of this happening at the same time he ended things with me. It only confirmed what I already knew, which was that he is a very troubled soul and I am much better on my own. The thing that is maybe more amazing is that he looked so together when I met him. But it was an illusion. Once I started to move past the shock and pain, things started to improve. For those of us who still have love to give - to ourselves and others - we will always be better off than the narcissist no matter the appearances of new "love" on their end.
I can concur. I’m so sorry you had to experience that shit. It was almost verbatim here.
I'm maybe in same boat! 😢
What do he do that you considered sadism ?
Sounds like my husband for the past 13 years
my ex blocked me 2 months and a half when I found him on a dating website... it was so confusing and painful to go through that silence treatment. Now I'm out :D
U got out!!! Yay 🎉😊
I took to much B.S. from my ex. Something i need to work on is boundries for sure.
Same 💔
Yeah that bit still gets me. I was perfect supply I was providing everything he needed but it still wasn't enough and it's hard to understand why 😢😢
We were all perfect supply. The narcissist is an addict to attention(supply) and just like any addict they need more and more, NEW fresh supply to sustain them over time. It's not personal that they need new supply, it's their inadequacies and deep rooted insecurity.. it's NOT US that is lacking. They need external Supply to fuel them in a way we do not. 👍
But even when they find this "person" that will kiss the ground they walk on, will let them cheat, and do whatever they want just to keep them, itll eventually run its course.. they will find problems with that new person
Wow I was devalued after we got engaged and when I moved in with him. Things were getting worse. Then I was discarded when I got pregnant. I was kicked out pregnant. He made up a stupid argument about me washing the dishes with the water running. After that he was posting his new supply soon after. This is a really sick disability these people have. They ruin people’s lives. I was the blame for everything.
May God be with you and bless you! This is so messed up. Nothing was your fault. There was nothing you could’ve done differently, because he was going to do whatever he was going to do. I’ve been in a similar situation. Stay strong in the mind, pray everyday…you will get over it!!
Run run far away!
I discarded my exbf narc after I caught him cheating and lying to me. We were together for 2 1/2 yrs and his been dating the new supply for 5mos. He even denied me with the new chic during my confrontation with him while he was out with her. I dumped his ass right there on the spot. I’m done with all the bullshit, cheating and lying. I deserve better.
Painshopping-that’s an accurate description!
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A general observation. What you are describing is how most human beings behave. If you read the comments on all these channels, everyone is calling everyone else a narcissist. It's making it very difficult to identify what is a true narcissist. Thank you for your video.
It means a lot of adults now have fcked up childhood, that's why they are increasing in numbers
I never got gifts ever
the stuff i got her for xmas damn, and chocolate in return 😂
I got married and he didn’t show up to the wedding with a wedding ring…I bought a $4 plastic ring for myself. Red flag 🚩 much…37 years, I’m out. How was I soooooo stupid 🙄
Now you mention it, in 28 years I've got only a couple presents or surprises in 28 years. One was a ring the first year together,second was a car he claimed he" bought for me" that I couldn't ever just take or drive myself, it was to make it look like it everybody else that he was such a great boyfriend. (I am a female lol, this is just one out of 5 of the 100 different secret emails I found out about that I took over. Found some beyond sad things what he has done to me these years just by figuring out how to get into his accts.
I threw a comment out to my mom during a convo we were having about agong, and relationships:
“I don’t think at my age prince charming is coming for me..”
(Que the ‘of course you’ll find love Stella..’)
~ mom starts to chuckle “no, no he’s not”….
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Omg. Everything you said is 💯 accurate!
They discard because of a compulsion to individuate
Yes they don’t like to bond for long
Whoaaaaaaaaa this just explained everything. I've been watching videos of narcissistic abuse for almost two years. This video has literally told me everything I needed to know. Omg I'm speechless 😶 THANK YOU ❤❤❤
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This is the answer to my $10k question
I put it together been ongoing for almost 20yrs and a short marriage. His dad was a diagnosed Narcissist. I heard the word (Narcissist) thrown around but truly never understood until I started to study. Needless to say I was being gaslighted, triangulate, stonewalling. I had some medical things, menopause showed some weakness took sometime off work. He did the ghosting, gone all night. Took up some illicit behaviors. I'm currently packing looking forward to some peace. He's sneaking into his new Shiney things house middle of night because her landlord doesn't like him. Took a ballbat after him. Things started to unravel for him the first week without me doing anything. I just know this new supply gets a dose of the explosive anger, belittling and other behaviors. She or them have no idea I'm sure she's not the only. 😂😂
Thank you so much for making this video. This is exactly what happened to me two weeks ago. I was engaged and he constantly says I’m the one thing in the whole world that he actually loves. (Put me above his own children, which I found disgusting.) not only is he a narcissist, but also a drug addict… and I finally was calling him out and telling him that the drugs need to stop. He completely ghosted me and it’s been two weeks. I don’t know if I’ll ever even see my “fiance” again. I did get a call at 3am last Monday though and I assume that was him… not sure why he would have done that…
You dodged a bullet
Not hr of been a drunk call
Trauma dumping
We had a whole family completely discard, block and disassociate with our whole family.
Crazy story. But those principles apply exactly but a whole family towards another. Crazy.
One can only hope.🙏🏻
Thank you Ben ❤
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Please tell me what was going on.with a person i.had an online. Relationahip for one year.I went through all the narc phases and there was a lot of strange behaviour.after one year he said he didnt want to date or get married and deleted the phitos i sent him saying they were too revealing (they werent).This from someone who.love bombed me daily..He also never phoned me and asked me not to.phone him but i.got to know he phoned my friend .What was going on here?
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What happend whit people who is narcis and when they old did thay change them behaviour?
All of the above x help me bro
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So instead a new supply, what about a man that has a narcissistic obsession with one child that looks like him vs his other 4 children? Confiding in his daughter like a side chick?
Omg that sounds like jp from sp ca he treated his older daughter like he was in love with her like a gf not a daughter or turned my stonach
Yes that happens too.
I was pregnant with only two weeks to go, and my husband left me for another woman he had been seeing behind my back. He had nothing to do with our kids yet would call constantly while he was with this woman, saying he loved me still but just needed time. Dont fall for the lie. it's not true.
My ex husband of 30 years has been seeing my ex best friend and tramping around a small town. The friend also came into my 24 year old son. You are correct as well they blame you and never want to file. It's extremely confusing and betrayal at it's best. I am telling people the truth because they are telling people he could not be with my abuse anymore and she is saying they are divorced now and decided to date all of a sudden. I said ya no! They have been for years. Then I tell him how he went to jail as well because he is using her for the country club status. Lol he had his cake for a while and planned it all. Get the popcorn ready. What's your opinion on this ending? My kids cut him off totally because all he does is lie. Then they tell my sister they are not together! She is like 😮 they are also both alcoholics.
I sleep well and have peace but it attacks my mind at times and affects me. I love the fact you are a recovering real narcissist and speak and teach from experience.
Are they capable of being married to you and then have stonewall forTHREE years and then just leave? That’s a LOT of effort to be nasty 24/7
Yes
Thanks!! You are reaping good karma letting us know the truth.
What made you stay with your wife and not fully discard her, and vice versa?
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I think they hate intimacy
This sooo true about them ❤❤❤-Xclusyph Icon
Is he a narcissist if he never used me for money?
Did you have other means of resources? A place to stay, a car, a good job, emotionally supportive, sex, it can be any kind of resource they need. Including money.
@deanapatterson8410 we are in a long-distance relationship. I have a good career. I am emotionally supportive of him. I give him attention. He calls me everyday. We see each other everytime we travel together. He paid most of our travels. I just caught him that he cheated on me. He slept with one of his female friends twice during our 6 year relationship when I messaged her on Facebook because she kept liking all his pics. He said it was just meaningless sex. He never messaged her again. I forgave him. He said he wanted to make things work out between us. If I caught him cheating again, I would dump him for good.
YES
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Why as a narcissist do you care for empaths, my narcissist would never admit to reality of what they done or going to do, are you becoming human, no offense I just don't see it or why, I own up to my faults because I'm human, sounds like you made some bad decisions, but owning it makes you human, wish my narcissist was human
Love your content, but please stop saying "he" when referring to them.