My fiancée and I can't agree on what s*x is

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  • @jenniferhicks6446
    @jenniferhicks6446 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +163

    The first question...I don't think she was saying she was on birth control...just that they can be physical in ways that can't produce a baby...

    • @cartorrin
      @cartorrin 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +30

      That’s how I understood the question.

    • @katieboyum
      @katieboyum 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      exactly

    • @paulinawright9466
      @paulinawright9466 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      This is an oral sex question. I think we need the words.

    • @edenalekssandria
      @edenalekssandria 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      Exactly what I thought

    • @russholly
      @russholly 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

      Yep! The writer is trying to protect his future wife's purity.
      She is not on the same page. He NEEDS to definitely bring this up in their pre-marital council. If she deflects or changes the subject he should run for the hills.
      Being unequally yoked is the most difficult thing he will ever face. This subject is a substantial issue.
      I knew good Catholic girls in high school who did everything except a certain spot. I argued that that does not mean that they are still virgins (like I was). One even went as far as doing certain things AT her church with her now husband and hung it over my head as if she were more pure than I was after myself being violated. Using it as a personal attack when I was hurting and confused at why God would allow it to happen.

  • @film9491
    @film9491 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

    If anyone, even your fiancé, even your wife, is pressuring you to do something sexual that you are not ok with that is not ok.

  • @madelinehoppenstedt7782
    @madelinehoppenstedt7782 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +117

    I love that Messyges has the most click bait titles but always delivers

  • @NikkiSchumacherOfficial
    @NikkiSchumacherOfficial 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +45

    If the first write-in reading this, ASK YOUR PASTOR AND PARENTS FOR SERIOUS COUNSEL. Watch messyges for entertainment purposes only. 😂

    • @lilywhite4044
      @lilywhite4044 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I think Jordan also has some wisdom. Why else would people continuously send him messages? Whenever I hear him say something of advice, it makes sense

  • @elliotnemeth
    @elliotnemeth 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +83

    Here’s my take as an “older brother” if you will on the first one.
    Having a disagreement on what constitutes premarital chastity is a huge red flag. If your S/O is trying to find/ride the line, have a serious conversation about the purpose of protecting each other’s dignity, and if that doesn’t work, run. And if you are that S/O, you gotta take a serious look at your own heart bc I’ve been there and it’s not a healthy place for you, the other person, or your relationship with God. It’s not worth it.
    Bare minimum, anything that leads to climax is designed for marriage, not before. Your goal beyond that is to avoid getting into a situation where your guard is down and that kind of thing happens.
    If you (or your partner) have a reaction to that, it’s probably a good sign that you don’t want marriage, you just want sex. Sorry to be crass but that’s really what it comes down to.
    Like I said, I walked that line in a previous relationship and the emotional fallout when it ended made my life a living hell. This is serious stuff.

    • @Exayevie
      @Exayevie 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      Great advice, lovingly given 👍

    • @jenniferwalsh1731
      @jenniferwalsh1731 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Amen, truth

  • @jeremyluce4354
    @jeremyluce4354 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    Can I just say I appreciate the at Blimey Cow has stayed the same wholesome channel all these years and didn’t do the “deconstruction” thing when that become popular/convenient

    • @Raven-lu5ee
      @Raven-lu5ee 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      How do you know when deconstructing is insincere? Is it possible you see it that way because you don't agree with them?

  • @David-kh2gk
    @David-kh2gk 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +52

    I’m going to go out on a limb and say the first girl is not on the pill and she was talking about other stuff…

    • @opossumlvr1023
      @opossumlvr1023 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This couple needs to follow the example of Onan, The story is told in Genesis 38:7-10

    • @neowild
      @neowild 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

      @@opossumlvr1023 I must bring up that no, that passage does not apply. Onan's sin was not the specific act he did but that he did it because he did not wish for a son to be born to his brother's name and inheritance and that is what was found abhorant. Not all intimate acts between a husband and wife need to cause the potential for pregnancy, at the same time intimate acts should be kept within the bounds of marriage.

    • @kristinazubic9669
      @kristinazubic9669 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@neowild yep, Onan committed fraud.

    • @amyclutter7259
      @amyclutter7259 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

      I think a better scriptural support would be the admonition to flee sexual immorality. That doesn’t just mean one specific act that produces children, but any kind of sexual immorality. I also think if Song of Solomon and the admonition to not awaken love before the right time, which, let’s be honest, would even eliminate certain types of kissing.

    • @opossumlvr1023
      @opossumlvr1023 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@amyclutter7259 The main issue with physical acts between two heterosexual persons prior to marriage is that it releases chemicals in the brain that stimulates pair bonding. The more men a woman has been with the weaker the pair bonding following intimate relations with a man becomes. After sleeping with dozens of men a women becomes incapable of forming a bond with a man and is forever a 304.

  • @TeachSwimMusic
    @TeachSwimMusic 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    My favorite part about these videos is Josh's laugh in the background😂

  • @lizajane2971
    @lizajane2971 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +37

    I'd be careful with that first girl... She is very young yet and will probably change a lot over the next 10 yrs. This is kind of a big thing to not be clear on. If she's open to doing anything as long as she doesn't get pregnant, that's a red flag. I totally agree with Jordan. Postpone!

  • @randomfish18
    @randomfish18 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    I got married at 31, but still had difficulty with physical boundaries. We're both Christians, but I had stronger parental guidance with physical boundaries than my husband did. Yet, though we never went all the way, I weakly allowed the lines of my boundaries to move. We are now married, and I love our physical relationship, but I do sometimes regret the choices I made and I wish I held my lines more firmly.
    Whatever age you're at when preparing for marriage, the temptation is there and it's strong.

    • @breakingthemasks
      @breakingthemasks 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Why?
      What possible reason could you have for regretting what happened?

  • @GameLikeYouMeanIt
    @GameLikeYouMeanIt 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Jordan's comedic instincts, and the way Jordan and Josh play off each other is always entertaining

  • @Mr.DMZ.
    @Mr.DMZ. 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    "these animals live and die by the sword"😂

  • @mary__simone
    @mary__simone 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I haven't watched Blimey Cow since I was 16 (i LOVED this channel when I was in Youth Group in high school). I'm 23 now, and this just popped up on my Recommended 😂

  • @ElleMakesAHome
    @ElleMakesAHome 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I was vegan and vegetarian for many years. I believed the propaganda. I ended up with pre diabetes and felt TERRIBLE! To get the nutrients we need from all plants, you’d have to eat SO much compared to meat. It’s also super bio available in meat form. I feel so much better on a diet that contains lots of good quality meat.

  • @lizajane2971
    @lizajane2971 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +26

    For the second person, I think you should have a conversation with your brother. Tell him you won't be inviting their family over for a meal again unless they bring their own food or say nothing and eat the food you prepare. Period. I am on a special diet for my health - NOT vegan! 😂 - and I take my own food with me when invited over to someone else's house, because I don't expect other people to follow MY diet or fix something special for me. That's rude. Family not withstanding.

    • @lizajane2971
      @lizajane2971 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      I disagree with Jordan on this one. Trying to convince them their diet is unhealthy is unproductive and will only cause more problems between you. The only thing you can try to change is their behavior in your home. It's perfectly acceptable to have boundaries and consequences for them being violated.

  • @ashleycnossen3157
    @ashleycnossen3157 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    Jordan's thought process is always great

  • @EnvisageIt
    @EnvisageIt 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +22

    I struggled with the same thing. God revealed the verse 1 Corinthians 7:1. To be more prudent is the better for your future consciousness.

  • @megisalueders
    @megisalueders 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I haven’t watched this show in like a decade (or let’s be honest, more than one decade 🙈) and when this popped up in my feed it was like a blast from the past.
    Honestly- 10/10.
    Biblical wisdom. Anti-vegan rant. Josh’s same ol’ timely laughs for effect. I’m hooked just like the ol’ times.
    (Also I just introduced my now 13 year old son, second gen homeschooler to “You Might Be A Homeschooler If” and we were just dying listening to it together. Multi-generational content there. 😂)

  • @Milo-1942
    @Milo-1942 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    There are 30 hospitalizations every day due to the meat processing industry, at least 2 every week being full amputations. Often they're only payed minimum wage. I'm not a vegan, but the human cost of the meat processing industry is too great for me. You've definitely eaten meat in your life that cost another person their fingers, maybe even their whole arm. If you can, source your meat locally like Jordan did! It's much better in so many ways.

  • @ThatLadKit
    @ThatLadKit 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    Been watching Blimey Cow since At Least 2013, and can confirm you look 10x healthier today. That being said, I’m so glad I’ve stuck along for the ride. Hearing the rabbit trails today vs. 2013 is an experience! 😂

  • @YoursTrulyChris
    @YoursTrulyChris 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +34

    Ogs remember the first shall be last comment

    • @j.8678
      @j.8678 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      The first shall return.... 😆

    • @MrMatthias
      @MrMatthias 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      These comments are always a delight

    • @EveryPeachInReach
      @EveryPeachInReach 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Obviously 😂

    • @oliviayaste8939
      @oliviayaste8939 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I look forward to it every time lol

  • @amieragains3224
    @amieragains3224 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The way he spitting actually incredible advice though LOL this man is unmatched.

  • @ethansbooks
    @ethansbooks 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    4:17 Josh's squawk is hilarious 😂

  • @caitlynnwallace6345
    @caitlynnwallace6345 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I love the tangent about chickens

  • @turksandwich7538
    @turksandwich7538 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Just logged into my old account, and had forgotten all about you all. Glad you as still going!

  • @Cationna
    @Cationna 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    The problem in the second question is not the veganism of the family - although I understand how hard it might be to see children, let alone your own nephews and nieces, be taught an ED (I'm talking about this fearful mindset, disordered relationship with food, and lack of scientific knowledge of nutrition, not any specific diet). The problem is that OP's family is trying to convert HIM. If it's true that they'll eat at restaurants but will be overtly scrupulous about how he cooks, then it's not about being clinical (also, it's not celiakia, so why would they even be in the first place? But i digress), it's about trying to influence what he does. They're being extremely rude to their host and they need to be shown boundries. From their perspective, maybe it's hard for them to see him be unhealthy, too, but that's not the way to go about it. If you have extremely specific dietary needs, you bring your own food with you or offer to cook. If you invite someone you know has dietary needs, it's also understandable to be able to offer them at least one dish they can eat. But the kicker is, if those needs are truly health-based, you might not be able to do so anyway (with certain allergies, you might physically be unable to cook exclusively with previously unused utensils, for example). If you're so strict that you not only won't eat animal products even occasionally (which, unless for religious reasons, shouldn't be that big of a deal anyway - unless they're at the stage their bodies can't process those foods easily anymore, but even then it won't pertain to all animal products), then at the very least don't expect someone will cook like you would or keep criticising them as if they owed you that.

  • @emilykinman9723
    @emilykinman9723 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I am here to say I was vegetarian vegan-ish due to health issues for a while.
    I didn’t realize how it was affecting me till I was able to eat meat and animal proteins. I feel SO much better eating protein.
    As a matter of fact I tried keto recently, and I feel even better on keto! My energy levels are so stable.
    Jordan is not wrong!

  • @Cationna
    @Cationna 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    "Is it even worth bringing up in therapy" yes. Always yes. It's not a question that will actually disappear after you're married. This isn't just a question of what you do or do not end up doing before you get to the altar. It's a question of respecting boundaries, even if they're not where she'd put them, and working towards a goal together instead of hindering something that's important to you. It's a question of the foundational teachings about marriage, and you need to be on the same page about marriage. Premarital stuff is wrong not just because of the potential baby, but because of how it influences and builds your relationship. (It's not just premarital, it's extramarital, outside of marriage - would she be ok with doing Other Things with someone Not Her Husband after the wedding? I'm not saying she would, I'm saying it's a logical fallacy that she wouldn't.) It is possible to build a happy and strong marriage with someone who doesn't share your core ideas! but for any successful relationship, the key to that is *communication* . Absolutely bring it up, and do so before you're married to her.

  • @kerrielizabethrobinson8435
    @kerrielizabethrobinson8435 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I also saw the documentaries, and just thought…aw that’s to bad, and we ate meat for lunch😂😂😂

  • @kristinballancemusic
    @kristinballancemusic 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If you really love each other and value purity, stay away from the line. Seek the good of the other, not how close to the line you can get.

  • @FossilStudios316
    @FossilStudios316 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I haven’t heard from Blimey cow in years. TH-cam algorithm, you’re fired!

  • @janessatosh6460
    @janessatosh6460 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    God is love

    • @YoursTrulyChris
      @YoursTrulyChris 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Good to see this comment still going.

  • @Vaedyx
    @Vaedyx 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Do what works for you, but I tried carnivore and it’s been phenomenal for me. Lost 36lbs in 3 months and it’s sated my appetite. Helped so much

    • @Aurahi_R
      @Aurahi_R 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same with my husband! He lost 30lbs since September and after a brief stint of “regular diet” during the holidays he is returning to carnivore. Feels so much better, has more energy, etc. I’m gonna try it as soon as our son stops nursing.

  • @bros4654
    @bros4654 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I'm... not convinced that she was referring to being on the pill, lol.
    Also, yes. Dad... you gotta be a bull.

    • @harmonicarchipelgo9351
      @harmonicarchipelgo9351 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I think Jordan was just pointing out that the criterion "can't cause pregnancy" was absurd. Then he used that hyperbolic statement as a euphemism for whatever acts were in dispute.

  • @hugecowpatty5724
    @hugecowpatty5724 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I get that this is mostly for entertainment purposes, but usually the advice isn't bad. The advice given to the first dude was terrible.
    Manipulate her into revealing how she really feels? That's terrible. Also, I think it's clear she's not talking about intercourse, but about hand and mouth stuff (trying my best to keep it as PG as possible).
    The advice here should have been to tell her that he's uncomfortable doing those things, he believes it's sinful to do those things before marriage, and if she loves and respects him then she'll stop asking him to compromise his morals.
    Now, that doesn't address the problem that inevitably will arise when you have kids and are teaching them to approach this in a Godly way. To that I say that if she can't respect your morals then she's probably also going to teach your kids to go against your morals too.

  • @jessehacking7653
    @jessehacking7653 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Forgot how brilliant these episodes are😂

  • @ginachu3654
    @ginachu3654 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Poor Jordan went straight to "the pill" instead of realizing there's other acts besides PIV lol

    • @FebbieG
      @FebbieG 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      I think he was making a point that the potential for pregnancy is not what makes sexual acts forbidden. He was taking her argument to an extreme but logical conclusion to emphasize that it's a faulty argument.

    • @ginachu3654
      @ginachu3654 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@FebbieG the writer of the question was using that language so he didn't have to get into graphic details. It's wrong to assume that extreme is what the writer *really* meant. Obviously the woman thinks "if it's not PIV it doesn't count and we can do stuff with our hands and mouths" he did NOT address that issue

  • @DragonAttackInBlue
    @DragonAttackInBlue 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Vegetarian here. (not vegan) I know the Bible says we *can* eat whatever we want, but that doesn't mean we *have to* eat whatever we want.
    I never tell anybody else what to eat, though.
    (Some people do tell me to start eating meat, though.)

  • @JewelandHart
    @JewelandHart 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I really wonder how she came to that belief in the first question...

  • @thevintagehomesewist3918
    @thevintagehomesewist3918 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    This episode has me laughing out loud. 😂😂😂 You guys are hilarious.

  • @becklyn3
    @becklyn3 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    Highly recommend that girl from the first question watch the latest interview Wes Huff did with PBD....they talk about sex and why it matters, it was great.

    • @JoWilliams-ud4eu
      @JoWilliams-ud4eu 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Weeeeessss hhhuuuuuuuffff!!!!!

  • @TheMennomilist
    @TheMennomilist 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I laughed and probably shouldn't have laughed while watching this. I also promote young marriage (since I married at 20), but yeah. . . It is easier to agree on many things together. I was vegetarian for several years but tofu bloated me and I am allergic to fruit. I only eat chicken and fish now with meat. I never forced my kids or husband to not eat meat. I made myself a separate meal for a long time.

  • @karazech6755
    @karazech6755 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    TO THE FRIST GUY: send an updated message

  • @1_in_8_billion
    @1_in_8_billion 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I think Jordan may have given too much benefit of the doubt to the 1st messyge writer, but hit the nail on the head when he brought up boundaries.
    When it comes to boundaries, there are responsibilities on both sides. 1 responsibility is communication. If you don't clearly communicate your boundary, then it simply doesn't exist as far as the other party is concerned, and it sounded to me as though the writer may have been keeping his boundaries to himself. The other party's responsibility is respect, of course.
    As far as the 1st question goes, she may simply want cuddling and "full-frontal" hugs while he believes that side-hugging for any longer than 1.15 seconds a woman he isn't at least engaged to will destroy his purity.

  • @lisawesome7588
    @lisawesome7588 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Seriously you give the best advice. I think you've missed your calling... Or have you!? 🎯

  • @rebekahWalton
    @rebekahWalton 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Vegans are not the same as vegetarians.

  • @GusherManX
    @GusherManX 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I like the application is Samson, the delay is ... IDK, maybe, maybe not.
    The old peta add showing the merciless mechanical slaughter of farm animals made me hungry.
    Veganism is immoral, vegetarian is fine if you want it whatever, but you can't reject the use of all animal products without rejecting the blood of the Lamb, "do not call unclean what I have called clean"

  • @williamt1579
    @williamt1579 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    2016 Jordan: I’m not gonna put my kids on social media
    2024 Jordan: Well we get less than 10k views now, might as well put my kid on social media.

  • @MrMac6375
    @MrMac6375 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +10

    If the girl in the first question thinks that it only counts as sex if she gets pregnant, then she clearly isn't ready for marriage, or apparently being an adult. If it's not ok to do something with anyone who's not your spouse, then it's not ok to do it til someone IS your spouse.
    If you're going to get married in a few months, just get a marriage license now, get married with just whoever is legally required. Then in a few months, have your "wedding" so everyone else can celebrate. That's a simple solution to having your wedding but also getting to have sex now.

    • @isaiahmumaw
      @isaiahmumaw 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I think it’s more so if the act has the potential to get her pregnant.
      Without being too explicit, there are sexual acts which don’t cause pregnancy, but still fall under the umbrella of sex and should be saved for marriage. I’ve known people who think like her - deep down it’s just a way of excusing sin (something we are all guilty of).

    • @kristinazubic9669
      @kristinazubic9669 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Some couples just wait too long to get married.

    • @eurekahope5310
      @eurekahope5310 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Two red flags I see:
      1. She is ready to excuse lustful actions so long as it doesn't involve risk of pregnancy. Will she use this excuse on another man since it isn't "real" sex? God looks at our heart, not just our ability to hug the line without crossing it.
      2. She isn't respecting his boundaries. As Christians, we are not to encourage others to violate their consciences. She is sounding more like a Proverbs 5 woman than a Proverbs 31 gal.
      She is either in need of good Christian guidance or he needs to consider that she may not be truly saved if her desire is not to honor God in all her actions.

    • @whistlepigmedia1635
      @whistlepigmedia1635 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      This is the more horrible advice 😂

  • @EndYouTubeShorts_
    @EndYouTubeShorts_ 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Well, does Amy try to turn her in-laws vegan?

  • @purplemaiden4283
    @purplemaiden4283 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hi Jordan, it makes me sad when Christians laughingly dismiss veganism. I accept that it didn’t work for you, but there are a lot of healthy men, and women, who are thriving on it.
    I appreciate hearing when people hunt, or do homesteading like you, but most people can’t or won’t do that; they go to the drive through and contribute their money to factory farming, which you would agree is unhealthy and unnecessarily cruel. As…God intended? I can’t believe God is smugly smiling at the suffering and waste of animals lives that is going on in modern times.
    Veganism is not over, we’ve influenced more and more people to choose plant-based options and I’m hoping it will continue to grow. 🙂

    • @KL-xr4oz
      @KL-xr4oz 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      The show has a lot of satire so I dont know if he meant "as God intended." But regardless, the Bible speaks of a renewed earth where the lion doesn't kill the lamb any longer (see prophecies in Isaiah 11:6-7 and Isaiah 35:9). Death will be no more. That might be what God actually intended before sin entered the world.
      Though I think reducing animal cruelty is a noble goal, plant-based alternatives are highly processed. A plant-based burger may not be a sugary Oreo but it's highly processed like one. It is very difficult to get minimally processed, whole food protein that isn't meat. I'm not trying to crap on your worldview or tell you what do do. But that's some of the issues people who won't go vegan wrestle with.
      And Christianity doesn't support damaging the earth God gave us. Nor do I think he cares nothing for his creatures, because not even a sparrow dying escapes his notice (Matt. 10:19). At the same time, in the same verse, humans are even more valuable to God.

  • @RaviSingh-uo6ug
    @RaviSingh-uo6ug 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i used to think manifesting money was just a fairy tale people told themselves to feel better. i’d tried affirmations, journaling, even vision boards, but my bank account stayed the same-empty. one night i came across Vibrations of Manifestation by Alex Lane. i wasn’t expecting much, but as i got to chapter 3, something clicked. it broke down how my energy was actually repelling the abundance i wanted. i made a small shift, and no joke, within a week i started getting unexpected money. it’s not just about saying you want something-it’s about matching the energy of it. crazy how something so small can change everything.

    • @Heisrisenindeed
      @Heisrisenindeed 3 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Please stop lying to people.