Sibling Abuse - My Story
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ก.ย. 2024
- This is my story about the abuse I was put through at the hands of my older half brother. If you have a question or want to share your own story, please don't hesitate to comment below. I would also very much appreciate it if you could like and share this video and help me spread the word about sibling abuse. You can also spread the word with #siblingabuseisreal. Thank you. :)
The worst part is you can’t get away from your siblings. And everyone says “you’ll love them when you get older” . :(
True statement, people just don’t understand.
I still don't like them! It's not a you thing it a them thing.
And when you are an Indian girl and the sibling is an elder brother. He automatically gets the license to ABUSE you and the parents would just ask you to stay quiet and watch all that happening and the society blames you for everything.
@@mousmeenath i am so sorry to hear 😭 that breaks my heart! i hope you can get out of that situation soon
@@mousmeenath Very true. I can relate from personal experience. It’s worse during the lockdown when the elder brother does not respect the younger sister’s WFH space, private space, plays around with sister’s hair amidst work and parents just ask the sister it’s all play and not mind it. But it’s not. The verbal abuse, the emotional abuse, the threats to inflict physical hurt when taken together with all that “playing”, is sibling abuse. These are the ways they impose patriarchy, without realizing the consequences of their actions. And there is no immediate help, when there should be.
it's brave of you to share this. you aren't alone. I was literally tortured by an older sibling and his friends, as well as a step parent. my parents were very passive and saw some of the abuse, but never acted.
BL Kirk same.
BL Kirk me to my big brother just punched me
OMGITSPBJPLAYZ My older brother just choked me and body slammed me and slapped me and I can’t do anything cuz I’ll admit I’m scared of him and my mom saw and she doesn’t do shit about it
My brother is abusive and i have 2 years till hes gone but i still suffer
This comment and the replys are so relatable, I only trust one person with this ad my best friends don't know, I'm going to tell them when we get back in school.
I was crying as I watched this, my brother is as abusive as yours. He just gets so angry, and he believes that he is not that the bad guy and I'm in the wrong. That I deserve the abuse. He once hit me with a shovel because he thought I wasn't shoveling snow fast enough, another time he literally kicked me when I was down. I just know that one day he'll end up in jail, the only question is whether I will have to talk to the police or the F.B.I. 💔😢
I feel you
Woah so I was not alone..
@@extrataekook9356 No you're not
*holds hand*
Same here😢
How do you get help from this?!
I grew up in a abusive house, my brothers would beat me worse than an animal, I had my head and hands slammed in doors, get punched and kicked, cuts, bruises, and abrasions were a daily occurrence, name calling, psychological abuse, any attempts to fight back or tell anyone resulted in a savage beating, I have no sense of smell due to all the blows to the head, and I get dizzy spells, my right hand in constant pain as well from doors being slammed on it, I overcame this though, talked with counselors specializing in Sibling Abuse.
But as for my brothers I almost never see them.
Randy Woodworth I’m vary sorry for what u had went threw
My brother does the same
Ma me too
Randy Woodworth did you kick thier ass when you got older
Randy Woodworth I’m in my 40’s my brother strangled me and beat me up 2 months ago I contacted the police and my parents stopped talking to me
It’s so sad
Sibling abuse is just as REAL as and as TRAUMATIC as domestic violence abuse!
Even more so in some cases, because of the nature of the betrayal. We are always taught that family will have our back, and then it's family that abuses you. It's unpredictable, and evil.
@@bozieduble8541 It's both a complex and unfortunate situation to be in.
True
@@bozieduble8541 omg you said this so right 🥺 thank you
Hey, this same thing happened to me too, started with hitting then turned into full on beatings turned into sexual abuse, sneaking in my room like what you described. I received a Facebook message from his girlfriend of 6 years saying he’s been abusing her and she’s scared. It’s domestic violence. If I could go back I would call the police. I wanted my brother in my life too but we grow up and I realized it was not normal
Older sisters are no exception.
Neither are younger brothers.
Richard Michael and older brothers
Yea im 11 and my sis 15 and she just abused me rn because i said ur not black u cant say the n word its disrespectful and she said i want to and it's when the abuse happend.
@@daisyphillips3451 Little sisters are very dangerous
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Omg !!! My story is yours. Thank you young lady. I’m 53 and just now figuring out what happened to me. My older brother was a sick sadist. Today he is a text book Covert Narcassist . Family said oh just normal sibling behaviour.
NOPE !!! It wasn’t . 3 kids of my own NEVER behaved that way and if they did it was stopped and addressed.
I'm 52 and was the youngest of six girls and it was a living hell. Yet all the adverse childhood inventories never mention sibling abuse. my mom had her own mental health issues and she just wasn't there to supervise. I just remember in first grade hating early release Wednesday because I knew my oldest sister would be home. And just for fun she would throw cold water on me while I was in a dead sleep. That's just one of several sadistic things she did. I was the most vulnerable and had no protection whatsoever.
Boy, does it EVER upset me when I hear that phrase "Oh, it's just what big brothers do.... that's just what siblings do..." And the fact that I saw it being portrayed in tv shows, cartoons and movies when I was growing up did not help..
No one told me that that was abuse when I was younger and I wish I knew. I just had the impression that I should accept it. I wish I had someone as passionate and concerned as you to tell me when I was younger that this is not right and that I needed help. I'm older now, and I still carry the scars of what happened when I was a kid and haven't spoken to my brother in years, but I hope your message gets across to others where it's not too late.
i hate my brother. i’m so constantly told “hE’s YoUr BrOtHeR yOu ShOuLd LoVe HiM” when he’s done nothing but abuse me and my mum for years and gets away with it cause he manipulates my mum with all this “YoU’rE tHe ReAsOn I’m MaD” when he’s overreacts and and smashes up everything and punches holes and slams doors and throws glass everywhee and i’m expected to forgive him cause he’s family. i hate that boy. i can’t talk about how i feel because he’s invalidated me and what i feel for so long and manipulated my mum into giving him the benefit of the doubt every. single. time. even when he threw a brick at me. even when he beat up my dog. even when he bruised me all over. even when he’s beat and pin me down. even when i cried infront of my mum for hours telling her we can’t have him in our house anymore. he takes advantage of the fact we don’t have a dad and acts superior or above us because he’s the male of the house. he has no respect for me or mum. there’s a fine line between sibling rivalry and abuse. but everytime i’ve tried to open up about the trauma he’s given me it’s brushed off because he’s my brother. there’s nothing i can even do about it because he’s 4x the size of me and could, and has, slam me into a wall if he wanted. siblings can abuse you. siblings can be the root of trauma. siblings fight, sure, but no siblings should be the reason their sister/brother feels unsafe and unwelcome in their own home
I am depressed because of my brother he abuses me everyday
I- it’s the exact same with me. I couldn’t believe how similar our situations were when reading this. My brother also takes advantage of me and my mum and he beats us both up and has no respect and when I tell people that he hurts me all they say is “But all siblings fight, that’s normal.” But it’s not because I get bruises all over and he also breaks everything and punches holes through walls. He has so much anger and always takes it out on me and my mum. And I don’t know what to do about it.
My brother verbally and like physically abuses me and I've tried to like kill myself 6 times
Harmony Lindsay i also had an abusive brother i use to tell my uncles about him . But when we moved country he tried to take advantage and i called the police for him.
@@valentina_mattana i also had an abusive brother . I called the police for him and my smaller brother also called the police for him.
I always think the abuse is more prevalent when it is an older boy and a younger female.
Not always. I experienced sibling abuse growing up and my older sister was my abuser. I was the second child and she would turn my younger sister and brother against me and they all tormented me. The abuse was mostly psychological and emotional abuse but it was still hell and I hated myself for a long time because I thought there was something wrong with me or they wouldn't keep doing it. Everyone's case is different.
Mmhmm my brother abused me
emma Hansen he did when
My stupid brother abuse me!🥺
My older brother and sister
... Thank you so much for making this. And yes sibling abuse is REAL and NO ONE GETS IT
All you hear is domestic violence! Yes very real! However, sibling abuse exists, too! I had to defend myself at a women's DV shelter because my case wasn't seen as serious as the other went who were at the shelter for men abusing them.
thank you so much for sharing this.. I'm currently struggling with the anxiety, depression, and just memories of my abuse from my older brother.. I'm still living with my parents because I am not of age, luckily my brother is out of the house for now, but I fear for when he's back.. again thank you for posting this
@@Mr_J03L exact same but my brother is 21 and I'm 12
@@Mr_J03L Thanks for telling your story.
Thanks for sharing your story.
I'm going through the same situation now .. I'm breaking down.. it's been going through my whole life... I'm 19 now and he's 21. And it's been same actually he has become more violent . Even if I try not to involve with him , I can't. He comes to me and I have to talk if I don't want to he is going to beat me . And my parents don't take it seriously ...they think this will eventually stop , but when!! I'm an adult now ! ..he also beat me today without any reason and when my parents came home today I spoke up ....I was so sad I didn't eat whole day but my parents think I'm causing drama for nothing. And the saddest part is I'm the bad child now.
@@sabrina-mo9230 Reach out, hun. Get help from a teacher, counsellor, friend's parent, some adult that can help you. That's how I got out of my home when it was unsafe. Best of luck and big hugs xx
My brother beat me to the point that it almost caused serious nerve damage and even after that it was always dismissed as “That’s just what brothers do.” I barely remember my childhood now and have a hard time maintaining healthy relationships. I just wish that I or someone else had done something to stop it.
🥺😭
It's hard... I know same here just leave him alone and move forward as best as you can.
“That’s just what brothers do.” : I've been told that about my 2 brothers as well from my parents. My response: Nobody should be committing crimes and this is a crime.
Stay strong! GEt a good job and then get outta there as fast as possible. Those people will never change.
My older brother, who was 5 yrs older than me, made my childhood a living nightmare.
He sat on me, he spit onto me, choked me, threatened to kill me, etc. etc. To this day more than 50 years later he has never apologized. I did tell my mom and dad all the time and begged them not to leave me home alone with him. They did nothing. I ended up with an eating disorder and dated abusive selfish men for years. I've gone to therapy for most of my adult life and I'm so glad I did, tho I still have mental and physical health issues that make my life a challenge.
Parents wake up, if any of your children are hurting their siblings then DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT THAT STOPS THE ABUSE !!!!
Older siblings CAN be abused. I am almost sixteen, and my thirteen year old brother repeatedly hits me, throws dangerous things at me, takes things from me, screams at me and tells me to kill myself, so on. It’s torture; the parents don’t do ANYTHING about it
Me too I’m 17 and my brother is 10 but he literally tells me that life would be better if I were dead that he wishes that I never was born he throws knives at me he hits me pulls my hair pushes me into doors throws me into things super hard I’ve had multiple cuts on my face I’ve had him stab me with inanimate objects but the problem is it’s even more difficult when your brother has a sickness because he can get away with everything
That's because the issue isn't age, the issue is male violence, as usual.
I'm very sorry you went through that. I was abused by my older brother also, I understand what you went through. My daily abuse has left me physically disabled. Every step I'm in pain.
My bro beats me nearly everyday and those days im not beat im yelled at
I have very bad anxiety , depression & also PTSD from being abused by my brother . He still abuses me till this day...
I'm sorry, its so fucked up isn't it
I am so sorry 😢
My older brother abused me my whole childhood life. Then as adults he kept me away from his kids as a form of control. He passed in January from Covid and we never resolved it. After he passed I started therapy. It's the main topic we cover in my sessions. I seriously did not know there were more people out there who survived sibling abuse. Thanks for this video.
I want to get this off my chest and I want to make something really clear. OLDER SIBLINGS CAN BE ABUSED BY THEIR YOUNGER SIBLINGS!
I am a 20 year old girl and I am absolutely terrified of my 19 year old little brother. I am 5’2” and 180 lbs and he is about 5’11” and 230 lbs. He is much stronger and bigger than me and he uses that against me. He calls me names, throws all of my insecurities at me, physically abuses me in front of my nieces and nephew, and has threatened my life on numerous occasions. This has been happening since elementary school, ever since he was diagnosed with depression. He uses his depression as an excuse to abuse me and my parents have tried for years to discipline him. Nothing has worked and they have started to punish me for “instigating him in the first place.
I know that the abuser is usually the older sibling but it has to be understood that younger siblings can be abusive too. Especially if they are bigger in size.
Dreamer_Girl w/love same. Especially if they’re bigger in size or there’s TWO of them!
Yea my younger sibling also abuses me and starts fights with me. I try to be the bigger person or at least show him I’m the oldest and over power him so he knows I’m stronger and stops starting fights with me. But he never listens and he has anger issues so it’s worse than you think but anyways that’s it. Thanks for listening and I’m so sorry you had to go through these toxic behaviors and relationships. BE STRONG😄
I totally understand, I have a younger brother and he is 15.He is physically stronger than me, a little inches shorter but louder. He has hit me thrice, is verbally abusive and basically a pain in my ass.I told my parents and it worked for a while till he started doing it when they aren't around and it was subtle.
I totally understand, I have a younger brother and he is 15.He is physically stronger than me, a little inches shorter but louder. He has hit me thrice, is verbally abusive and basically a pain in my ass.I told my parents and it worked for a while till he started doing it when they aren't around and it was subtle.
My younger sister constantly hits me and scratches me. I try my hardest to stop the fighting and get on with her but she is so aggressive. She is much stronger than me so I can’t defend myself when she attacks me. She breaks and takes my things. I just want her out of my life
Oh my god, I'm not alone.
If I was the older sibling I wouldve been a teacher, guardian and best friend of my younger brother. Unfortunately I was the younger brother and got treated like the scum of the earth
So trueeeee😭😭
I'm the middle child.
You are awesome for posting this. I have a younger 15-year-old brother that is taller and stronger than me that likes to invade my space. He is more psychologically abusive than physical, but it’s still had its impact on me. It’s so hard to explain the way he is without having a record of any of our conversations/fights. I think he learned it from my older brother, who learned it from the terrible guys my mom‘s been with. He’s manipulative and tries to make me feel so small, and if I say anything, he twists it and tries to make me sound crazy to anyone who will listen. He is never sincere because he was either forced to apologize by my mom, or he wants something from me. When he’s not being extremely rude and condescending, he’s being creepy. Him “acting normal” is saying creepy things and breathing down my neck. I can’t even go to the kitchen without him following me in there and harassing me. The only thing I can do is avoid him and lock myself in my room. He is always in the living room right outside my bedroom, so when I do need to come out to go to the bathroom or kitchen, I can feel his eyes on me. I’ll be 18 next year and can’t wait to escape this situation I’ve been trapped in for so long. Even my older sister feels the same way about him, and she’s 4 years older. I was told by our old counselor that he was just “being a boy,” but even my mom agrees that it’s more than that and she sees the damage he’s caused us.
Same kinda thing with me. My younger brother was physically abusive when we were younger but now that's turned into psychological abuse. I'm scared to leave my room when he is home and scared to sleep incase he comes and terrorises me even though he has never done it the fear is always there. My parents can't really do anything cause he doesn't listen and my parents don't know how to punish him. He knows it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission and doesn't care about anyone. I also don't think my parents understand how manipulative and how damaging he is to me.
I hate my family & my brothers... They're nothing to me now... I'm having to sort out a lot of issues because of them...
Same here
Same
Same
i feel very lonely i am even locked in my bedroom crying.
Me to
Me too
I do that but now I can’t even lock the door away from my terrible brother
Me too
I spent a lot of time locked in my bedroom as a child. It was my saving grace from an abusive brother who never changed as we got older. You will get through this. It will seem like forever but it is not. If you have any access to a therapist please make every effort to speak with someone so you at least have some one to hear you.
My older sister verbally and physically abused me when i was little and I’m still dealing with the trauma now as a 20 year old. She claims it was just “sibling rivalry” but it definitely was not.
People used to ask me if I had fights with my brother and I’d just say yes because I guess you could call it a fight but just a very one sided fight
She sounds very dismissive. I told my coworkers once how my older brother kicked me (maliciously), and they put it down to "siblings". But, had it been a stranger who attacked me, I would have called the police. Never accept from a family member what is unacceptable from a stranger. It is my number 1 rule
It is hard to have an abusive sibling I know because I still have one. And I'm constantly afraid of him he mumbles threat under his breath not loud enough for my parents to hear but loud enough for me to hear he has choked punched kicked slapped threatened thrown things and it still hasn't gotten any better for over two years I wouldn't touch him because when my parents found out that he hit me they'd make him hug me but when he would he'd squeeze me till I couldn't breath and at the same time pinch me. One time I woke up and he was in a mood so I avoided him while in the kitchen making breakfast I Brushed by his shoulder he pushed me and I hit my eyes on a chair pole I got a black eye I started to cry but he walked away watched tv when I walked to my parents room he ran and shoved me out of the way and tole my mom I was shoving and yelling at him she told me it was my fault I got hurt. Me and my brother are adopted my moms never said I wish I never adopted you to him but she has to me. Since I can remember I've cried myself to sleep but after watching this video I relize it isn't my fault he hits me but I can't stop it because I've tried and that makes him more mad what should I do
reactiongirl You need to get help. You can go to a teacher, counselor, coach, or even a friends parents. Just make sure that you are telling someone and don't stop speaking out until someone listens. You can even call the non-emergency police number in your area if the situation calls for it. Please, don't let him or anyone bully you into silence because that's how they keep their power over you. They keep you feeling scared and helpless so that you feel you can't escape, but you can! Keep your head up and keep fighting. You will make it through this. ❤️
Just remember, most sibling abuse reports were serious enough to call the police. If u keep tolerating him, who knows what he will end up doing. Please get help.
Call the police immediately you need to get out of that situation
I was abused and tormented by my older brother and also by kids at school.
We need to stop calling it bullying and calling it peer abuse.
What happened to me, if happened to me as an adult, by adults it would be a crime.
Why isn't there more stuff about sibling abuse on the internet.
Right?
Too many parents just say “Ignore it! He is just teasing you.” No! He was physically abusive and should be punished!
You all with abusive sibling are tougher than you think. They are abusive, they can’t make you die, your still living. I have a manipulative older sibling. Please, ignore abusive people. Cut off of all contact with them if nothing else works.
Watching this and reading the comments, made me think about my situation. I let my brother verbally abuse and sometimes physical for so long. Today I got his stuff and grabbed the house key. He is out for good. He was living at my Mom’s and I apartment. He was awful and most people would say to turn the other cheek, I’m standing alone stating that any abuse is never ok and all of you guys are heard.
Hi Miss, God bless you. I hope everything works out for you. People need to keep their hands to their self
There's no sibling abuse without neglect from a caregiver.
My older brother used to beat me up almost everyday after school my junior year of high school. He was lifting weights and decided I was the perfect punching bag. He also would spit in my face when I would scream at him to stop punching me. My mother didn’t care that he did this. I suffered abuse from my brother majority of my youth. My other brother tortured me and my brother when we were very young. He would tie us up and tell us scary stories and leave us in a dark room tied up for hours. He used to pin us to the floor and spit loogies in our mouths and make us swallow. My dad and my mom were abusive as well. I suffer from Cptsd. I’ve had it since I was a child.
I'm vervy sorry you had to go trew that I cant imagine my brother just beat's me but im bassicaly 16 hes 21 lifts weights and I try to get strong but every time I go to the gym he stop's me from working out
i told a school counselor my brother hurt me all the time. i was in jr high. my mom told me to just keep my mouth shut and my brother laughed in my face. he kept it up until he left for college. he is 3 years older. he would twist my arm until my hand turned blue for as long as i could remember. i had to have surgery on my wrist when i was 16. the surgeon said the bones were crumbled.
Gurl you're brave for sharing this. I too was abused by my older brother. It went on for 7 years. I am still struggling to this day, to make my voice heard and I even joined a support group once. I was the only one who had been abused by a sibling. But the feeling wasn't good, because the usual expression was often "I feel sorry for your brother. He was a victim too". It was another survivor who said this to me. 🙄
*"A victim, too!"*
Omg. It was so far from the truth. I couldn't cope so I quit the group right there and then.
Hugs. x
I'm sorry this happend to you. I wish there would be specific groups for silbing abuse victims, but it seems like serious abuse by siblings is quite rare. I was abused by my older brother too.
@@wxwxw8800 Hi... yeah, I agree. Sad to hear it happened to you as well. How are you doing today? Blessed be 💕
I have three older siblings: two brothers and a sister. My oldest brother who is 6 years older than me hated my sister and I. He played this game "Uncle" and would physically smack, punch and kick us until we screamed Uncle. The only thing was when he abused us, he'd cover our mouths so our screams and words were muffled. My other brother would watch us and I remember my oldest brother was holding me down and hitting me and I looked up in terror into my other brothers eyes but he wouldn't do anything. These were the absolute worst moments of my life until he moved out for college. Thank you for sharing your story so the majority of us are able to share our stories
Every time my brother walks past me I flinch because I'm scared that's he's going to hit me
I relate. Sometimes he moves his hand nearly even though he is just picking something of the table and I flinch
I'm sorry, I really need to vent this out. I've posted this before but there hasn't been answers
I'm a 15 girl from Sweden.
I have two siblings, a little sister and a big brother, he's two years older than me.
My mother is divorced, she truly loves us three.
What do you think a sibling is?
Someone who'll protect you? Someone who you can trust?
Someone you know will never do something to hurt you?
That trust I only put into my little sister, since the one for my brother has been broken serval times in the past.
In the past I was verbally and (sometimes) physically abused by my brother. He forced me to bring him stuff, like I was a slave. I talked back, he hit me. While he was usually kind and smiled often that changed when he turned thirteen, that's when he started to have hard time at school. He started changing in only a year. He got stressed from school work, his grades started falling and he was forced into fights. While I, two years younger than him got good grades and was praised by my mother. That really got to him so he started verbally abusing me and fighting with my mother. Those months that were filled with fights and verbal abuse really took a tool on me as well and changed me. I barely speak now, my voice is so quiet in public. I think I have 'anxiety' but I'm not sure.
I started to become a shut-in by that time. Watching anime to cheer me up from the reality. I tried to shut my feelings out. Try to ignore what I truly felt. I..don't remember much of those days except that I was truly happy when I was on my computer than I was with my brother.
One day while my brother was arguing with my mother I was there looking. I regret doing that. He saw me and got mad. He yelled at me while my mother stood there in shock. I don't remember what happened then, except that he threw a packet of milk at me, hit me and I ran and locked myself in the bathroom, he kicked at the door and it almost broke. My mother could do nothing to stop him, he went to out balcony and sat at the edge and said he'll jump. He almost did.
My mother convinced him not to jump, and the days after that day we're pretty dark. I don't remember anything. I went to school as normal and he did as well. We never spoke to each other after that day. Like we were strangers. I started to get quiet by then, I smiled less and didn't enjoy being in public. I locked myself in my room and continued to watch anime, never spoke to my brother, never called him 'my brother'. I only smiled with my sister and mother.
I really hate him, but some part of in me feels really bad for him.
Until now, in two years, I've only spoke to him a few times. Nothing long, nothing about ourselves.
I focused on my school work but became a lock in as well, on my computer 24/7.
I'm writing this because what happened to me is happening to my sister.
Whenever my mother goes to work my brother and sister 'play' with each other. They have small fights, but when I ask her she says it's for fun. I know that's wrong. When I look at my sister I see a mirror of my past. I didn't want what happened to me to happen to her, but since my mother told me to not involve myself in their small fights, I stayed quiet. I didn't tell him to stop, I didn't yell at him. I ignored them both.
They're small fights turned bigger with each passing day and my sister grew more louder, yelled louder and then, my brother started verbally abusing her.
My sister is getting verbally abused, but she continues to play with him. She laughs with him, she doesn't speak up when he forces her to get him stuff.
Today, he hit her. Right infront of me. She'd getting verbally abused and physically just like me before. I absolutely hate him, but I can't fully hate him. I don't know why, I just can't. He acts like nothing happened when he hits her. I feel like he enjoys it. When he's annoyed he verbally abuses her.
My mother speaks with him, he doesn't listen. I don't want them to fight again. He got good grades, he's in collage. So why does he do this? I don't know what to do
I don't want my little sister to turn out like me, to be hurt by him.
I'm at lost on what to do, and this stuff is really heavy on my heart. I don't know if my decision was correct to share this, but there's no way I can tell this to anyone I know. I just want to vent this, I want suggestions on how to stop this. I love my sister and I don't want her getting hurt anymore. I don't want her to have depressing thoughts as I did before.
At this point, I would recommend getting in touch with the CPS (child protective services) in yiur country. Maybe there is a teacher ot counselor at your school that you can talk to and tell them about the abuse? You need to do something to make sure you and your little sister are safe. I know you may be hesitant to do this because of your mom or you may be scared of making your brother mad or starting drama, but let me tell you, the health and safety of you and your little sister need to come before anything else and if your mom won't step up or protect you, then its up to you. Do what you have to do and don't be afraid. I am apart of a group on facebook for survivors of sibling abuse where you can go for more advice. If you would like the link, you can email me at Musicmogul18@gmail.com or you can find me on Facebook under Keleigh Grosso and I can invite you to it.
Achlys I was in a very similar situation when I was 13. My sister verbally abused me, hit me, threatened me, and tried to control me. She is narrcassistic, angry, and unforgiving. The only way I managed to stop the physical abuse was to stand up for myself by learning martial arts and frightening her into submission (Not recommended). She fights with our parents constantly, and almost drove me to suicide. I'm going to tell it to you straight: it doesn't get better until they're gone. Every single time she sleeps somewhere else laughter and happiness begin to return, only to be snuffed out again. My sister graduated today, and she's going to college as soon as my parents can get her out of the house. Onto what my therapists have taught me: don't feel obligated to keep things quiet and pretend everything is fine. Call the police when your brother hits your sister, or when he makes you feel unsafe. Tell your teachers what's happening. Don't hide it from your friends. Get people involved. It may frighten you to be so independent of your family, but you cannot live constantly on edge. Your mother might not be happy at first, or your sister, but in the end it is what it is: you are all actively endangered by your brother. People who care for you will help you stay safe by keeping you separated from him at school, or letting you crash on their couch on a bad night. Don't confront him directly. If you fear retribution for calling the police tell them so. Be open, be active, be safe. Most of all don't just take my advice, research your options. Find what you think is best for you and your family. But don't do nothing. I didn't do enough and I have serious psychological damage. Don't be me.
Achlys, I think you might need to tell your mom if she doesn’t know, I have 1 sibling, my brother is 17 im 13 and he hits me and I hit him and we yell and yell and yell, but then it all goes back to normal, we talk and laugh and if I get bullied he wants to knock them out, my parents are together and they are happy, but he plays online games and his online friends make him really aggressive, I am short tempered and and I cry very easily because I have been so broken down over the years, my house is a two story except it’s like a big house over a house basement, my grandparents live in the lower half, there is a door and so they dont hear or know anything, my parents leave on the weekends to go build a house on the island they just bought, on the weekend I usually invite my younger cousin over on the weekend because when she is around he can’t be quite as aggressive, but when she cant come, such as this weekend, she is sick, and my brother, he takes advantage of his age, he thinks that when something is mine and I tell him don’t touch it, he thinks I have no right he is the boss, now we have alot of animals, I take care of them all by myself, he is supposed to be more “responsible”, Next time my mom and dad leave I am gonna tell my mom, to tell my brother, I am in charge this next weekend, he has to listen to me. We have 11 chickens 6 older 5 babies, I was holding a baby and he threw a big sized matchbox at my back and a lid for a container he threw hit the baby bird, the bird is okay, but my brother is so aggressive, I am always wrong in his mind, if I tell him let me do it I know what I’m doing he has to take over, he is 6 feet tall I’m 5,4” we are both big children, he is strong and big, like a giant, and of course I’m smaller, and I’m still kinda heavy but i am also skinny, I stay in my parents room when they are gone and he sleeps on a bed on the floor, because they have the best aircando in their room, they have a bar they put across their door because their lock doesn’t work, so that is how I hide, tonight he got so mad, he almost broke that bar, this was like half an hour ago and my back is still burning and tingling from him throwing that matchbox at my back. I am going to hopefully see my cousin tomorrow, she always makes me feel better, but tell your mom, so many times I have been scared to tell her, but I always know I need to get it out, and when me and him get in a fight with her around, she always kinda sides with him because he will get really loud and rude if she doesn’t but , the other day, she said to him “you need to leave Lily (Me) alone, I always take your side, but you need to give it a break!” I hugged her after that, it was such a relief, when she comes home I’m going to spout this out and probably start crying, now if I said this to my dad, he would get my brother in the room, tell me stop crying like I don’t have a reason to be, and tell my brother to stop which just aggravates him further, I don’t get out much, I’m homeschooled, Febuary 7th I will be fourteen I graduate when I am 16, I want to get a part time job this summer which gives me a break from him, I am going to possibly ask my aunt if I can have a part time job at her work, which means I get to see my cousin alot more! My cousin is like my twin I trust her so much, we have this unbreakable bond from when she was a child, she doesn’t cry often, but if she gets overwhelmed, when everyone else is gone, she cries around me, she has deep dark things that disturbed her, when those two girls attacked their friends in the forest saying it was a sacrifice for slender man, she was like 4-6 she said she cried herself to sleep every night for 4 months, she got her period early, she had a pretty hard time, her dad holds grudges, he is mad at my dad for not coming to see my cousin in the hospital who is going to be 3 in about 3 days, he never mentioned this baby cousin of mine to my dad, and now my cousin and I cant understand why, we sit next to eachother and we yell about how frustrating it is! Sorry that this is long, just, please, find a close friend, a trusted teacher, or tell your mom, it will make it so much easier for you.
Also, keep in mind what I always think about, he does not have the right, to drive you to suicide, think about everything you love so much, and that he can’t do that forever. I have never even thought about suicide. If I think how have I not got to that point yet, I tell myself no, I shake the thought out of my head, I say I’m strong and he is just an idiot.
This explains me.... I only trust my younger sister.
im 12 and for my whole life my brother has been doing this. physical and emotional abuse, he controls my life by a string like I'm a puppet. I feel worthless and I can't take it
anymore. I need help); what can I do? my parents don't do anything about it. they make it worse. I don't know what to do. if I call CPS
I know my parents will scream..
but I don't wanna live like this anymore
If he is causing serious bodily harm, you need to tell someone. I'm sure if you go to a teacher or your school counselor, they can put in an anonymous report for you to CPS, meaning that noone will know that it was you who reported it. When I was in high school, I had my counselor put in an anonymous report for me about some abuse my nephew was going through from my older brother/his dad. CPS opened an investigation into it and noone knew it was me who reported it. Also, you are not worthless. You are an amazing, beautiful person. He is probably telling you these things to try and bully you into not seeking help. By telling you that you are worthless and controlling you, he is trying to make you dependent on him. However, you are better than him and you deserve to be treated better that he is treating you. Please get help, keep yourself safe and remember your self-worth.
Same my brother always beats me and my sister did also but rarely but my brother does it for fun im like his little punching bag to take out his anger on
I'm 12 as well and my brother is both physically and emotionally abusive.
kiruyz trust God and pray
My understanding of the difference between rivalry and abuse is, rivalry is most often over something external such as fighting over a toy or who is having the first turn of a game. Abuse isn’t over something other than the ‘weaker’ person. The abuse is dominance over the person than doesn’t have an actual goal (holding the toy), the goal is quite often emotionally driven ie getting them to cry out in pain. Rivalry stops when they succeed in snatching the toy. Abuse doesn’t stop until they are caught or younger child makes enough noise to gain attention of an adult.
My brother is 7 years older than me and he’s abused me as well. Thank you for sharing your story.
same here
My brother is a year younger than me but twice my size. He is 6'5. While I'm still tall I'm skinny and not at all strong. We get into verbal fights all the time but he has anger problems and always gets physical. He punches me full force in the face, head, anywhere. He pull handfuls of hair out of my head. I'm left with bruises and bloody noses. I can't fight back because I know he will hit me back even more and I wouldn't even be able to hurt him. My parents know! They blame! They say I antagonized him! They say I'm older, I should know better. He knows he won't get punished so he continues to do it!
Help me!!
Can I call the police??
What do I do?
Right now I'm crying to my room after he has just punched me in the head. He is standing outside my door calling me names!
I want to kill him!
Help me!
God help me!
Hannah Miller You are absolutely allowed to call the police if he gets physically abusive! You are absolutely allowed to reach out to a counselor, a teacher or any other trusted adult for help! You are absolutely allowed to protect yourself! Please don't feel like you can't fight back, because you can! When you tell someone, when you reach out for help, you are fighting back! Also, you are so amazing, so strong, and so beautiful! Please don't listen to his words, they are not a reflection of him, not you. You are also allowed to feel whatever feelings you have, but don't let them totally consume you. Find a positive way to express your emotions. Paint, listen to music and scream the lyrics, go for a walk or a jog, take up martial arts, find something to help you positively express yourself. If your parent's blame you or make you feel bad or unworthy in anyway and allow your brother's behavior towards you then they are enablers and just as guilty of the abuse as he is. Please take care and don't be afraid to protect yourself. I'm here if you ever need to talk. ❤️
You could always get a baseball bat and beat the crap out of him.
Same
I have the same problem my brother is a year younger but I'm only 4'10 & he's like 5'7 ! He always beats me up till I'm black & blue all over . Now I have anxiety depression & PTSD because of what he does to me . My parents do nothing just expect me to ignore him , & want me to get over it every time he beats me using the excuse "he's not normal in the head theirs nothing I can do" & they forget it all while I'm stuck with all this anxiety crying my eyes out wanting to die & having nightmares he's hurting me again & trying to kill me . I hate them & I hate my life so much .
It's okay army i love you. I know how you feel.
It sounds so familiar. You’re lucky that your parents tried to protect you. Mine never did. I have PTSD, and psychogenic seizures because of the abuse my brother put me through. He was even resorting bullying me online.
I just found this video now because I was wondering if there was anyone I could relate to. My older half brother was also very abusive toward me, but he was put on a pedestal and adored by everyone on my dad’s side of the family (we shared the same dad). He was always a VERY angry kid, he would hit and punch me when he felt like it, and starting when I was three he’d call me ugly, fat, disgusting, and a piece of shit. Mind you we are only 4 years apart, so language like that coming from 7-8 year old is probably surprising. Now i was always a very quiet kid growing up and I know FOR A FACT that I never did anything to purposely anger or upset him. In fact, I learned from a very young age that doing so would most likely get me a slap in the face from him. Again, my dad’s side of the family loved him because he played football and basketball and was very much like my father. My grandmother was actually the one that told my dad to leave my mom because my brother’s mother hated my mom and my grandmother didn’t want to lose my brother. So when I was 18 months old, my dad left my mom to go back with his previous wife.
Anyway, for so many years my brother would abuse me both physically and mentally. I dreaded seeing my dad on the weekends, always praying that my brother wouldn’t be there. My brother was spoiled and he got whatever he wanted whenever. On the rare occasion that he didn’t, he’d blame me for it and punch me. Beside the physical abuse, His constant comments about me being fat or ugly drove me into an eating disorder that I battled for four years. I felt so worthless.
There was never anyone on my dad’s side that would help me, so I never told them about anything. I’d just run into the bathroom and lock the door to get away from him. He knew how scared I was of him and he loved it. He knew he had control over me, which he doesn’t anymore. Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
While I'm sleeping my elder brother used to touch and message my private areas, worst thing is that I never found courage to tell this to my parents 🤐 till now, I'm 😥😭 so depressed!!
You have to tell. That's so sick!!
Thank you for making this video. You have strength. I want everyone on the planet to know how bad sibling ABUSE can be. It needs to be ended because the abuse of a weaker child can and will lead to criminal tendencies.
Even as older adults the brother - one year younger - abuses. He abused our mother and defrauded her and me out of her estate.
Society thinks it's OK to hurt me, to hurt my mother.
Nobody will intervene. Nobody will protect us. My mother died after she was coerced, influenced unduly to cut me out of her Will based on lies told by my brother(s). There's a "bastard" brother from when my mother was sixteen she was raped and had this angry, whiny, self centred man seven years older. I was appalled, mortified to see them beside my dying mother in the hospital. No one phoned me to tell me my mother had cancer and was dying.
Of course they would not call me. I had cut off from them twenty years ago after the abuse became physical. He broke my knee - a Grade two ACL tear which meant two years in a leg brace leading to further deterioration of the leg, ankle, knee - shattered patella, displaced femur.
But of course his lies, denials were accepted by everyone. Nobody will say anything when he abuses. Now he has a Chinese wife and daughter. She took over my mother's bank accounts. My mother and I have been swindled. There is a court case but we'll see how a court responds years of abuse by this tyrant brother. And the greedy bastard brother brags about his new motorcycle. Now he owns seven plus a large property in the country.
I have been disabled since my brother assaulted me. There is a domestic assault report against him. Not charged but still the record shows he assaulted me. We will see how it all plays out in court when I dispute the Will. Meanwhile he Gaslights me by sending me messages from my deceased mother's email account. saying "Mother did not include you in her Will." How creepy is that? And I was my mother's friend and daughter.
No one ever called her "Mother." Only him. He is a criminal psychopath. Those types always rise to the top because society allows it. He can get away with murder. No one will stop it. Complacency, indifference will allow him and people like him to continue to cause deliberate harm and injury. It's violence not family.
Parents are indifferent, denying. They know it in their gut is true but do nothing. They don't want to bring their violent son to account for his actions. We must stand up speak out. Never stop screaming about the abuse. It's time to bring these abusers, destroyers of childhood to account for their unacceptable behaviour.
Thank you for sharing your story. Sibling abuse is way more common than people want to admit. Siblings aren't just full sibs, half-sibs, and step-sibs. Siblings can also be adopted, foster siblings and cousins. I am a Trauma & Resilience coach and have lived experience with this form of betrayal and abuse. I facilitate workshops on Sibling Rivalry and Sibling Abuse. My next one is June 29, 2024. In this, I detail how to tell the difference between rivalry and abuse and so much more, including how and when it crosses the line. We need to keep talking about this shushed and hidden form of abuse. The damage that comes from sibling abuse is indescribable. Again, I appreciate your courage to tell your story. I can see it comes from a place to help others and this is such a beautiful thing to see. I applaud you!
So brave, I was abused by my sister,being tied to a leg of the bed for a week, my parents were on holiday, when they returned they recovered me in half-dead condition and from that day we've never seen my sister.
Why don't parents do more to protect their children? All they say is, "knock it off," or "stop it."
Ikr my mom does that i always get beat by my bro all she does is say knock it off
My brother just beat up my parents and verbaly abused them to the point where they just let him do whatever to avoid the fight
Yes sibling abuse is very real.
My sister tried choking me and I called 911 on her.
Asuna Hiroku my brother did the same :(
Asuna Hiroku many times
Did she get any record? I told my older brother before, if you ever punch me again, I will call the police. He threaten me he will beat me more if i call the police. My parents also told me dont call the police otherwise his life is done.
;-; Sad Koreaboo ;-; My brother chocked me and body slammed me to the floor in front of my mom my mom doesn’t do shit after that he slapped me and acted like nothing happened idk what to do
@@chia3677 I want to do this as well so badly. It's starting to get bad.
My older brother abused me physically, verbally and sexualy. I just can't look at him anymore....I am supposed to believe that he is going to protect me. If anyone tried to beat me up he would join them whitout thinking twice. Nobody is taking me seriously. My friends and have seen him beat me up to the point when we had to go to the hospital and just told him to not do it again. I am just glad that he is 18 now....I am kinda jelaous of girls woth overprotective, best friend like older brothers....anyone can relate?
My mom used to pull us up on any type of horrible behaviour to each other. Could not even say shut up to my sisters without my mom explaining why we should not do that. We are all 55 years plus years now and never had a fight amongst us. The people that are married into our family are in shock, to me it's normal. Our kids have also learnt this behaviour. My mom used to say fight with whoever you want but never your family.
I agree. Ironically for me, it's the other way around. I'm 17 and my 14 year old sister physically attacks me, insults me, destroys things, and my parents do nothing.
I am 12 (im a girl) and my brother is 18 (adult) and he would abuse me whenever I whine or make a face when he asks for favors and constantly makes fun of me, he would brainwash my mom into being on his side , his excuse was, "I'm older, respect me" he would hurt me, and I would cry out of anger , and he also ripped my things, it's way worse too, I wish I could explain it all, he also tells us to be quiet when he goes to the bathroom, he takes all of our electronics cause they "make noise" even when we have headphones, and also would tell us to not go into any other rooms , and if we were eating, then he would say that we shouldnt let the spoon make a loud sound cause it all makes noise and disturbes his "poop" I told this to my friend and she was so surprised, that it made me cry of how unlucky I am...my uncle is so strick to his kids that I sometimes wish he would be here to teach my older brother a lesson, but I geuss only Allah could. hopefully my sister doesnt see this.
Omg same this sounds exactly like my brother 😖 good luck! Focus on the positives like the beauty of earth and vent to friends at hard times, it helps. I'll pray for you, we'll get through this!😁
Being the youngest daughter *SUCKS*
exactly im so sick of it
I just wish I could move out so I'd be free from my abusive brother. He would abuse me physically and mentally everyday since I was 8. I'd always go back to him and forgive him because he was bipolar and had mood swings. I enjoyed playing games with him when he wasn't in an angry mood. But eventually it came to the point where no matter when I went to him to play games or try to have fun, he was the only one having fun. Beating me, digging his nails into my skin, burning my arm, breaking a snooker stick in half and telling me to kms with it. The abuse continued and of course I'd cry and tell my single mother, not that she would do anything. It would just make him angrier. Eventually he started doing sexual things to me, and I was terrified. He told me to not tell anyone or he'd kill me. He was twice my weight, and a lot taller. This may have been due to the fact he'd always eat any food mom gave me. One day he'd finally done something unforgivable, youtube might deleted this comment, let's just say it rhymes with grape. I cried, my family cried and called the police. But before they got here I was begged by my mom to not tell them what happened. And so I didn't. Days went on and he'd still beat me, even worse now because my family knew what he'd done, not that they really cared or did anything about it. I'm 18 now, still living with him. I spoke with my mother asking, why did he become like this? She answered because our father abused him when he was 4 years old and it messed him up, a small part of me forgave him. Haven't had much of a successful life. Haven't got the money to move out. I'm just a failure. Suicidal thoughts cross my mind everyday, thinking why was I born into this age, this family, this world if this is all my life has come to. I appreciate anyone that read this and everyone else sharing your own stories, sibling abuse is very real.
Hey. This comment was posted two years ago but in case you’re still there, we hear you and believe you. I’m really sorry you’ve had to go through all of this because I know how you feel with the physical and verbal abuse part. How are you doing now?
I have never cried so much. I have felt so alone because I am abused by my brother, and people I have talked to tell me to ignore it or it is just sibling rivalry. He has choked me, hit me, threatened to kill me. I don't know what to do because if I call the cops I do not have anyone defending me.
if it goes to that point its about time to get a hidden speaker in your shirt and record it have a knife out Im pretty sure the cops will know
I just want to hug you sista girl. My brother caused me to leave home age 16yrs, become suicidal, abuse drugs and alcohol, get mentally and physically ill from the abuse. These boys are just pathetic. My older brother used to ignore me, put me down verbally, tell me I was fat when I wasn't even close (became anorexic from that), pick me up and throw me against walls, and bash the shit out of me. I'm so sorry you went through this. I know the pain it causes. I'm 40 now and still scarred. My mother *justifies* it by saying he was stressed b/c he was in his final years of high school. Talk about minimising!! I'll always feel betrayed by her. He was always awful to me ever since I was born. He is truly the Boogie Man to me and is now completely dead to me. Sending you love and blessings, thankyou for posting xx
Thank you for having a voice for those of us who aren't quite sure how to tell their story. I've been so focused on the sexual abuse I experienced from my mom, but I never talk about my 3 older brothers. All 3 of them were abusive in their own ways.
You are incredibly brave and so glad you got through it this shows that bullying domestic violence and any form of abuse happens not just with couples but siblings parents children you name it it happens thankfully my older brother only bullied me verbally and he soon stopped and now we are very close.
I was badly bullied physically verbally emotionally and mentally by my so called friends I never really told anyone what was going on.
Thankfully I have found much more loving friends now and I don’t see those people anymore.
Thank you for sharing your story best wishes lots of love Xx
Sadly Keleigh, you are not alone! im still being abused now last incident happening last year Im still scared, sad and angry. Im really proud of you being so brave and opening up about something that is difficult.
My brother abuses me for not being “good enough”,he wanted my phone,I say no and he start beating me up for no reason,and I fight back to my brother for abusing for like 9 years 😭
i’m so happy that people are acknowledging that younger siblings can abuse older siblings
My therapist confirmed my sister was physically and psychologically abusive and possibly a sociopath.
I've had relatives that were abusive towards one another on the daily. It was an older brother and his younger sister, and he especially would physically abuse her by slamming her head against stuff, holding her in place, screaming at her, and even pushing her to do things that would even cause her to break bones. She's messed up after all of it, and I grew up around them watching him constantly abuse her. To anyone that endures through sibling or relative abuse, know that you deserve better and that is not a brother or a sister of any sort, that is not family. Those are blood relatives and nothing more if they're willing to hurt and abuse you. True family wouldn't dream about hurting you.
the worst thing is that im living with him right now with the lockdown which means I can't just even escape
Yep...same😭
My brother, 2 years older, used to abuse me physically and mentally. My parents thought it was anger issues so they took him for counseling. It calmed down he hasn’t hit me recently, until one day, we were walking home from school one day. I can’t remember exactly what happened but he started throwing pebbles at me while calling me names. I got away from him, luckily, and watched as he walked home. I guess it’s an improvement from getting strangled and chased 😅
I think it’s only calmed down because I’ve adopted these personalities to deal with him. I suppress my emotions by isolating myself. My whole family now calls me a ‘recluse’ which of course he reminds me of everyday which really hurts.
Sometimes we can have little disagreements and he comes up to me all angry looking but luckily he hasn’t hurt me (probably due to family being around during those times)
I actually used to be one of the ‘popular’ kids in reception but when he started ‘being mean’ I started to close myself up. At the time I never even knew that was bullying.
Me and my brother used to be best friends.
Sibling abuse is wrong especially older siblings hit their younger siblings for no reason. That is a major offence. And you did the right thing to make a complaint about your older half brother about what he did to you.
I was abused by my sister who is 3 years older than me...she says it was sibling rivalry. I know it was abuse....she is got her social work degree and now works going counselling of some sort. She has never admitted what she did. I have nothing to do with her for almost 30 years...in in my mid 50s now. I never went to my mothers funeral because of sibling abuse. I was afraid i would get beaten up....she died when I was 50. All my siblings are older than me and every one abused me in one way or another. The sister who abused me most also sexually abused me by the time I was 10 by saying it was playing....when I told her know the beatings got worse. I hate her so much. Thank you for making this video. People don't thing there is such a thing as sibling abuse. There is so much I could tell.
Trust me I've told my mother several times!!! And even my dad but THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND!!! Instead my mom gets angry on me... I literally have no option other than surviving :(
no one can help me...
same
Same here it's just like my mother when my oldest brother abuse me ...
All they do is to encourage me to love my brother and my father definitely do not care
My brother pulled a knife on me when we were younger and now he started putting hands on me😞
Forever traumatized😔💔
Thank you for sharing your story to remind me that I am not alone😣
sorry u went thru that... i also went thru abuse as a child... but, not by a sibling. my step dad, and I Still fear men to this day, and im Married!! i also have a son, and cause what I went thru, I am soooo very protective of him. but, anyways. U r strong, brave, and a great person. glad u r one of the survivors. keep staying strong!!
Uncovering and exposing evil is only way to make it flee. That takes real courage and you have it!
Thank you for shedding truth on a dark secret so others can see the light.
Then you see other families that treat each other as family, and not as objects or something inhuman and it's heart breaking.😭😭😭😭😭
It was mostly psychological abuse for me from my brother and sister. I was physically hurt by my brother a few times but not enough to say it was “abuse”, you know?
Ive been struggling for years thank you
Thank you so so much for sharing this🙏 i was away from home for quite a while but I am going home in less than a week and I’m really scared of what’s going to happen. Thank you for making me feel less alone
Yes. I believe you. Thank you for doing this. I am too afraid.
My older brother has been evil since my earliest memories. He is on permanent no contact. He first tried to kill me when I was about 5. He has a long record of violence & restraining orders (even from his 10 year old child!). He also is mean to animals. Beware of ppl who abuse dogs!
Most important video? You’ve made others, the narcism of young people never ceases to amaze me
My sibling in-laws are abusive to me.
I am done with them.
I think my brother is a phycopath he chocks me and then when I threaten to tell he says he will tell on me for hitting him when I didn’t
Omg half the things that happened to you also happened to me. The threat to hurt me if I told anyone. My brother would hold a pillow over my face and suffocate me for a bit or hold my nose and mouth closed. He would punch me, trip me, kick me, hold me in pressure holds, slap me, and also some inappropriate touching. My parents knew about some of it but not all. They tried everything but he didn’t response, they didn’t take any further actions so I just had to live with it until he went to college. Even after the physical abuse stopped when I was about 13-14, the emotional abuse started. I eventually cut him out because I just couldn’t take it anymore
My childhood with my siblings eventually brought me down ,i now feel so miserable, they made me think i was ugly, unworthy , i can't get out of bed bc i cannot feel like wanting to meet someone, i can't trust anyone bc i've seen siblings having better life than me when they're not even good people, if horrible people like my siblings get to have a better life then i would never want to go outside.
I'm still to young to leave home but the day I am legal to I swear to god I'm not saying goodbye. My older sister... She abuses me. My parents just brush it off but she literally chokes me. One time she hit me so hard I fell and I was so dazed. Then she put a PLASTIC BAG on my head and tied a knot!I managed to get out and I just sat there gasping. (my sis had left to hang out with her friends) I tried to tell my parents but again they don't listen. I have scars from her and I am a tiny bit blind in my left eye because she hit me in the face. Another time THE closet she has gotten me dead. I was swimming in the shallow end of the pool and my sister grabbed my hair and dragged me under and pulled me to the deep end and left me there to struggle back. I am honestly terrified to go home so I do what I can to avoid her. I walk home after school extra slowly. I beg to have sleepovers to stay away. I always at least have 5-7 bruises constantly because of her. But since shes the 'golden child' I'm the one who gets in trouble for 'lying' she mentally, verbally and physically abuses me. This is only a small part of what she does. Can you please tell some advise for her to ignore me. I already buy her sweets, present and try to at least bond a little. Nothing works can you please give me advice I just need a little bit of help. Just to keep pushing forward
Hit her in the face with a baseball bat. Guarentee she will stop being so mean! Worked with my sister! I have 2 girls. One is mean to the younger one. I have taught the younger one to defend herself. She is 4 and will punch you in the face if you try to hurt her again.
Ask your parents to take physiatrist opinion about your sibling. When you grow and become financially independent try to stay away from your family.
thank you for sharing your story. my older brother is very abusive and when i was younger he hit me a lot (not play fighting) and emotionally and physically abused me. not just to me but he did it to my other brother and my mom sometimes. he doesn’t hit us anymore but im sure if i piss him off enough he would. he is also still emotionally abusive and i can’t take it anymore. i’ve called the police multiple times when i was younger but they didn’t believe me because my mom would lie for him. her fucking excuse was “he’s my son and i love him” i’ve expressed to her many times that he is a monster and she just won’t budge. she fucking protects the abuser instead of the people being abused. i so badly want to call the cops because i’ve learned to pull out my phone whenever he’s doing something that i can use as evidence to show the cops. i wish i saved my old videos of him hitting me but i thought they wouldn’t be important anymore (stupid mistake i know) and i just feel trapped inside my household. i also had a nightmare last night where he kept hitting my mom and she was crying and i tried to scream but i barely could and like i called the police and they didn’t do shit!! im just tired of this i honestly hope he rots in hell. he ruined my fucking childhood and now i suffer from the trauma from all the years of being abused. *this is an edit because i’d like to mention some more stuff* okay so right now im 14 and he is 22. thats an 8 year age gap. so when i was 10 he was a whole 18 year old abusing me. think about that for a second. how fucking psychotic are you to hit a CHILD. and also my mother and the police failed me. i can’t believe my mother would protect him over us. i just find that insane how you can protect the person who is hitting your CHILDREN and you!! and also the police because i called them quite a few times and he always came back 2 days later and hit me even worse for calling the police. it was like a never ending cycle. so if you’re going through this, please reach out for help and try to get evidence against them incase you need it later. for example, whenever he’s about to hit me or scream or some shit i will start recording and trust me overtime you’ll gather a lot of evidence against your abuser. or if you don’t have a phone maybe get witnesses to help you. i think im going to call the police soon and tell them everything and them everything. they didn’t believe me before because 1. my mother said he didn’t do it to protect him 2. i was young and they probably thought it wasn’t a big deal, which is fucking insane, your job as an officer is to PROTECT. my heart goes out to all the kids who have been failed by the police and are suffering from trauma or still being abused. you aren’t alone ❤️*sorry this is another edit* but oh my God i have little blurs from when i was really young like one time he tried to drown me in the pool and another time when he put him in my hair and gave me a bald spot. and you're right, it did escalate from those things to physical and emotional abuse. also currently i am 14 and im scared to tell the police even though i have evidence. i was rewatching one of the videos i have that i have of him abusing me emotionally and screaming in my face and now im shaking and crying and i do not want to relive that.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Keleigh. I have witnessed abuse recently by a girl's older brother when they walk home from the bus stop. I don't know the children but I hear the girl crying for help and screaming stop it. I went out there one day and they had already walked down the block. But today, I heard her screams again and this time I went outside and they were just across the street in the neighbors yard where I saw him hitting her with his heavy denim jacket upside her head and you could tell it hurt her and she screamed for him to stop it. And I spoke up and told him to stop hurting her. I asked her if that was her brother, she said it was and that they were just playing. I felt conflicted because of her reaction. Oh yeah and he also said "I told you not to be so loud" because he realized that an adult heard him and why I was outside. I eventually went back inside but I kept getting a nagging feeling that maybe she's afraid that if he gets in trouble he will beat her harder. I don't know what to do, this is the third time I've heard him abusing his younger sister who is much younger and smaller than he is. Now that I know he is going to hurt her after school every day, I have an opportunity to do something, I just don't know what I should do. Any suggestions?
Thank you for sharing my brother strangled me for 5 years from the age of 8 he’s almost a decade older than me
I was abused by my older brother too. Just like you. But also sexually. He killed my self esteem completely. Today, he is a total sociopath and I am estranged from him. And estranged from my parents because they never grounded him when I would tell on him. My parents just would tell me, “ignore him you know how he is”. My brother also stole money from my parents and to this day he is almost 40 and still lives with them and they still make excuses for him. He takes advantage of them and manipulated them and my parents think he is the best thing ever in life. Thanks for telling your story. I thought I was the only one.
My parents always blamed me for the abuse my brothers (8 and 9 years older than me) inflicted on me. If I got hurt, it was always my fault somehow. Never any justice for the scapegoated little girl everyone in the family dumped on. My dad even grilled me once to the point of tears and panic over getting a whipping (I was about 5) because he wanted to find out which one of my brothers broke the living room chair. They didn’t give two fux about my feelings or the damage it did to me. I’m pretty sure my mother enjoyed it. No apologies. No explanations.They all abandoned me to cry alone, brokenhearted in the deep dark of my closet.
The same brother who broke the chair also played a game with me called “tickle touch,” which consisted of no shirts, me straddling his hips, and we took turns touching each other as lightly as possible. I had no idea it was wrong until my mom came home suddenly and he jumped up off the couch in a hurry and put his shirt on, told me to put mine on .... my mom interrupted some escalating sexual abuse by my brother, but she was clueless af.
The scapegoat never tells because why bother?
God loves you more than you know and you are so not alone. Thank you for sharing your story. Your wisdom, and grace is unparalleled and so unique to you. I’m so sorry for your trauma and experiences. Thank you for being a beacon of hope and shining a light on a very present darkness and a very real demon. Thank you for conquering and defeating this secret. I pray you continue to grow and find healing from this. Your voice is truly anointed and perfectly powerful. Don’t ever lose hope, keep standing firm for what you believe in and speaking up even if you feel silenced or ashamed bc people need to know the truth and the monster of abuse needs to be destroyed.
My dad is always on my older sisters side. I have no one irl to talk to and i dont feel safe at home.
I feel her pain
thank you for sharing your story, you have no idea how much i appreciate this video, you're a smart, bold person
i’m 15, my younger sister (12) mentally, emotionally, and physically abuses me constantly, often in front of my parents, who say say nothing.
I went through this with an older brother, too. It was brushed off by parent, just as you described. It continued into teenage years and came to include social humiliation and group bullying. I made the mistake of keeping his secret. I thought he might grown to think I was worthy of better treatment. Wrong. He continues but it's psychological/emotional now.
I'm sorry girl ❤ please don't give up ❤ I hope you to be alright now, remember how strong and brave you are for surpass and share this
Oh, yes, I've been through this, too from my brother, plus involving his friends into it as well. I moved away when I was 18 and that was a relief. (I am 41 now). All these years I never contacted him first, he was the one who phoned me. And now when my mom is seriously ill, I am forced to talk to him a lot. I hate it.
You're not "forced" to do anything. I'm 41 also and I don't let anybody force me to do anything I don't want to do. If I don't want to talk to somebody I'm not going to!