Thankyou, I needed to hear this. My old friends can't digest or understand that I've levelled up and I'm not longer a fool who makes sacrifices to entertain them. They keep bringing up who I was to try to shame me and get me to revert back to that era, but no. I'm levelled up and I will continue to do so.
Elle your mantra dont get mad get paid has changed my life. Its helped me be so much more objective and go for what i really want instead of being triggered
this will forever remind me about the guy who people got mad about after he posted a video feeding black birds and everyone was discussing whether those were crows or ravens. in the end he came to the conclusion: You can´t make everyone equally HAPPY, but you can make everyone equally UNHAPPY. so he started to call them chicken.
I'm working so hard on this! My purpose is to be totally unbothered by no one and anything, focus only on me and my goals and stop giving my energy and time to people and things that are useless and to cap it all trying to affect me on a negative way. It's too hard tho! But practice makes a master, so I'll keep pursuing my unbothered self till I get there. Thank you bestiee! :*
We women have to realize action speaks louder than words. Let people say we belong in kitchen, we are useless, we are this and that etc. Just make sure your actions align with what you want and keep moving forward. Conserve this energy for actions and actions only. We used to be brainwashed programmed and living in Disney work, imagining things thay should happen. Now its our time to be in reality and change our reality not imagining what should happen or why its is not happening. Accepting what is in front of us and moving forward with that.
Omg Elle, yesterday I was quite angry cause my workplace was male dominated and a lot of what they say annoy me (I’m an intern and I’m finishing soon) so they triggered me and I wanted to start explaining how things are quite unfair for me as a girlie but then I left it and accepted the place as it was. I told myself don’t get mad, get paid and 2 hours later I received my money hahah.
i feel seen, validated, and safe in the spoiled girlie support group! I quit my job and prayed for revelation because I felt so sad and defeated in my life. That same week I found your channel and it has been life-changing! thank you, thank you, thank you❤
Be careful with "transcending" your thoughts. Do not supress or push *ALL* your feelings away, or else your problem will get worse to get your attention. When you push away your pain, you're pushing away your process, or key to your transformation! Your worst pain is your greatest teacher & power!! Edit: many of u may not understand what i mean. Basically, if ur supressing a cycle of emotions ur continuously dealing with, not just typical temporary anger/frustration/sadness etc, chances are you're supressing your true feelings about a bigger issue youre supposed to learn from. When you repress your true feelings about a deeper rooted issue, youre not only running away from processing your pain but not allowing yourself to grow from your issues. You will probably remain stuck in these insufferable cycles that are truly meant to give you some sort of self transformation or change, because you dont have awareness over them or process them. Maybe you can "control" your feelings when they arise, but constantly "controlling" them without making an impactful change to the actual root issue wont truly solve the problem youre constantly facing. You know that feeling when you finally "get over" one situation, but then another one happens thats very similar to it? Yup. Emotions aren't your enemy, they can contain key information to deeper rooted problems, cycles, traumas, etc. If this is you, be sure to allow yourself to feel your feelings out in a safe secure space- preferablly a professional or an emotionally safe person- so you can process, grow from, & release them. Healing is a messy but beautiful journey that's 100% worth it. Love yall stay coolin & God bless
Just don't let yourself get suck in a trauma loop 🙏🫡 as someone with CPTSD sometimes the best option is to pick up and start fresh and build a whole new better life ❤
I'm a 56yo woman and I am finding your content so healing after a manbaby went scorched-earth on my whole life. Anyone getting triggered by this content is in danger of the same. I wish I had known any of this before I poured my career, my savings, my network, my skill set, and my health into a man. Keep going Elle your content is doing more good than you know.
She's just like me, blunt and straight to the point but I've tried very hard to not be transparent and blunt with people about my opinions and mentality because I've been heavily misunderstood for it & words put in my mouth but when I came across her she made me feel like its ok to be you regardless of what people say, if they have a problem with my mentality they're not my people.
This channel has been such a big part of my full reset. I was already healing, creating, becoming, and now finding this channel... At exactly the right time, yes, of course, like always 💛 I'm so lucky.
1:34 omg yes!!! "But one should never underestimate people's desire to be angry, they are angry at the world, so they keep looking for confirmation online and in real life as to why they should keep being angry" this explains a lot of so many people's behaviour nowadays.
It's true; people hang onto anger because it makes them feel like they have a sense of control when their lives seem to be spiraling out of control. The awful irony is that they are at the mercy of the anger and are very easy to manipulate. What helped me move past mine was this truth: life is not going how I expected, and I will be okay. Wishing everyone healing, wisdom, peace, and joy ✌🏻
Your wisdom is a blessing. The way you love and value yourself is a gift to all women. Intelligent, educated, focused, high vibrational, supportive, girl you are literally unstoppable, you are so powerful. I see you going so far bestie and I love being a part of that! Your content is a BLESSING!!! Thank you so so much.
I had spoken about your channel to my bf, saying you're so young, beautiful and so intelligent. Your don't get mad get paid is so true. So continue your path and don't let the naysayers get to you. You are so precious. Much love and light ❤❤
My triggers are being tested right now, at work! Its so uncomfortable but I have to do my best to transend and be unbothered. Its so difficult bestie and im grateful for this video, give me strength bestie!
I would LOVE if you started teaching us more about finance and economics and business. I have never understood those concepts properly but you explaining them, something just clicks. Also your videos opened up my mind to so much! Amazing content
Oh my gosh, my beautiful bestie!! How did this topic pop up on my feed at exactly the right moment? I’ve been so triggered and losing my cool lately…makes me feel so powerless. I adore the way you flip the script on all of the inherent misogyny that we women deal with every day.
I needed this video! I was verbally bullied in highschool. Which bring back past bullying trauma from elementary. I feel unworthy of everything from gifts to even friendship. Ugh, it’s hard for me to chanell out love since I use to care too much for those bully. It went bad, to the point where eating regularly feels heavy to me. It could be overwhelming most time, I break down crying alone a lot. I am still fighting to not feel this till today… I want to live my life in freedom without, I want to be considered and loved like what others have.
CAN I SAY OUTLOUD THAT I GENUINELY LOVE YOUR CHANNEL SM??? LIKE ITS EVERYTHING IVE BEEN LOOKING FOR AND THE WAY U TELL US EVERYTHING FEELS SM MORE PERSONAL AND DIRECT AND I LOVE IT FR
I am still working on this but I am making good progress. Being unbothered is the goal. Thanks, Elle! ❤ We are not our past traumas. We choose our identity every day ❤
I have to say, your channel is giving me life. just listening to you once a day makes me feel so seen and heard! lol Thank you for having the courage to share your views with the 🌍 :)
God I love you, so smart! When I left my job in April (I’ve worked there for 5 years and that was not easy decision), I completely changed my lifestyle, now I study what i love, read clever books, take walks, just loving life. Before this happened i couldn’t imagine that you can live without suffering, but apparently it’s a choice. And being away from that society for sometime opened my eyes! I didn’t even realise how much trash I had in my brain and it use to leave no space for thoughts at all. So, Yeah, for your own well being you neeeeeed to cut off all the unnecessary stuff in your life, to at least start knowing and feeling yourself! I wish everyone could learn that at school.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is so important. Geez. What has been popping in my mind lately is "you're getting distracted" and this video is just proof of that. I have always said that I am focused on whatever I want, but lately I have been so stressed and genuinely drained by everything that's happening around me that I keep losing track of what I actually want and am working towards to, and being conscious of that just make it worse.. But thank you for this video! I feel like I have to write a lot of thoughts down
I had been terribly duped into this devaluing scam. I have just turned 30 and need to let go of my 20s... yes im still married with kids but need to devise a plan to logically wean myself out of the workforce. I am not even mad.
I became no chalant once i got depression and after depression i found out i have emotional numbness so basically nothing no one triggers me anymore and its kinda helping am building my immunity for that i just hope i will get my emotions back
I'm so glad someone is finally talking about this (at least from what I have seen). Words can be very triggering for those that don't understand nuance, or have been conditioned to react to certain words so much that there's no room for contextual understanding. In the words of Eckhart Tolle "don't focus on the words, they are merely signposts. Once you taste honey, you no longer need the word 'honey' to know it's meaning". Same words like "high value" or "gold digger" can hold completely different energies to what we are used to, and those that understand your message, will understand that the intention behind those words is to uplift, not cause pain. Unfortunately, we need words to communicate an idea. Language is dualistic so of course it is an imperfect way to communicate! More people need to wake up to this so they no longer squabble over words. What's important is the message!! Not the words used!! Otherwise we'll never stop fighting. I usually never leave messages but Elle you are doing important work so I have to!! This is something I've been struggling with for a long time - people are literally LOOKING for things to get mad about, instead of taking a moment to try to understand another person's point of view. Anyway go you 🩷
I just want to say I think you are so right on point in all your videos I am going to keep watching! I am a mother of two small kids and everything you say is so right. I am so glad that my husband is happy and willing to provide for us because it’s a huge amount of work. And because of all the political stuff you talk about, being a stay at home mom and having a providor man, has put me in a space where I end up feeling a lot of guilt for not having to work out of the house and your support group is helping me feel less alone. Thank you!
Keep being brutally honest!!! You're serving us what we need to hear. Our closest best friends can't even offer this kind of honesty, and if you do.. then you're being rude or labelled as a bitch in the friend group. Women need to practice open honesty,... it's honestly why I like having male friends since quite a few of them, tell it for face value, and I value their perspective whether it's aligned with mine OR NOT. Listening and learning opposing ideals is how we learn, grow and shape our own mindset for the better.
I've been working on this for a while now, trying to get into my unbothered era, and watching this video (and your other videos as well) encourage me to keep doing my best. The Spoiled Girlie Support Group changed my life and now is part of my improving podcast pack. Love u bestie ♡
Elle, I came across your videos a couple of weeks ago. The contents of your videos are mind blowing! Please excuse my poor English, I don't want to sound cringy, but for the first time in my life I appreciated TH-cam because I found your videos. I appreciate the wisdom which you are spitting and that you've chosen to share it with other women. Finally thank you for putting English subtitles. They are really helpful for ppl like me who don't have good English listening skills. Keep it up! Thank you❤
I shouted out to the universe and the spoiled girlies answered. Thanks, Elle. I love these comments, too. ❤ I got out of a bad toxic abusive relationship at the end of Nov last year. I've been nonstop triggered by my parents recently, and I know it's related, but the amount of frustration I feel toward myself for reacting without thought... it's been a rough month, and it's all self-induced. Sometimes it feels like my past trauma is all I see and all I think about (thanks, weekly DBT 🙄), and it's not *natural* for me to just ignore it and focus on being present. Maybe it's not supposed to be easy! It's being worked on, and I love seeing things like this because I'm on that track right now.
Girl, I just discovered your channel and I loooove your practical approach. I’m fully stepping into my spoiled girlie era and it’s only been one day so far but it’s been amazing so far! Thank you for sharing your wisdom :)
I may not be a spoiled girlie but I do like your energy and bonding skills! So I'm willing to listen and discover my inner girlie and see who she becomes!
I just wanted to take the time to thank you for providing us with such valuable educational content. I really could not refrain from stating how much I admire the way you speak and how smoothly you present yourself verbally. Your personality is really calm and beautiful. I’m so grateful to be learning such valuable things from you. Love this episode. Thank you for your service bestie. ❤️💜💜💜🥰
Personally, I resonate so strongly with like 80% of what u say! The method, the mindset, the observations I find super insightful. Where I go in a different direction is when it comes to the ultimate goal. Again personally, my objective isn’t to “get the bag” or play in this “game of power” (was it this video or another where she used that term?), but still! i appreciate the content and respect we all have different aims in life. ❤
I love, love your videos. I love your honesty, your rawness and how you're able to back it up with logic. An example is one video where you talked about living your dream life and to view it from the moint of Maslow hierarchicy of needs...I think that one actually blew my mind, I had never thought to use this concept to look at my life. Anyways, I guess I dhould really work harder on not spending so much energy being triggered by other people's opinions of me and what I do and just be laser focused on the things that are actually relevant and important to me...
huh this is fascinating, what the thought experiment of genuinely considering myself spoiled brings up is a strong feeling of guilt and that really is one of my biggest holdback distractions in my day-to-day, same with the pick-me label! i see it in shorts and pause with an immediate impulse to hear whatever it is out in fear it might apply to me, while consciously knowing i disagree with the construct. wild to reframe my seeking out of guilt as a desire.
Thank you for this video, from the depths of my heart. Thank you 🙏💕✨ This was eye-opening. I'm afraid that I may revert to my inner triggers by the behaviors I observe in those around me (and now with social media - in the internet), especially men. Even when I am not engaged with them and have no control over the reality of others outside of my own, I just hate seeing behaviors that hurt others, particularly in those vulnerable or naive to the actions of those who are consciously or unconsciously aware of how they are exploiting or contributing to the problem in a given scenario. And many adult behaviors are counterproductive -whether its from a man or woman. I'm still struggling with focusing on growing to be a better version of myself - regardless of how others may view me in various stages of my own life transitions - and understanding that I am not perfect either. I am highly critical of myself as I am of others 😭 but this conversation was really heart-warming and I truly needed this because I am becoming more and more angry as it relates to men and family. I desire a family, but a past failed relationship has caused me to lose hope in the future of a successful relationship. And the things I see in the internet about how men think about situations are reinforcing my negative perceptions of men/males because I'm terrified that I may be used/manipulated by any prospective partner. I feel like my ex used me as a stepping stone, rather than desiring me to be a permanent part of my life through commitment and marriage. He was my first partner and we met in our second year of college. I just don't want to repeat another heartbreak, and I certain don't want an unstable situation (such as bad marriage or co-parenting) if children are going to be involved.
I love your content, I found your channel few weeks ago and you are so educated, well spoken and your videos really add value. Thank you! What are some practical tips you can give to not get triggered? Sending greetings from Switzerland
Thank you so much for this. ❤I am easily triggered by certain topics (and of negative energy carried by people around me), it always ends up affecting me - and I soooo want to move beyond that. I was wondering if you could do a video with more tips on how to not care so much (about the things that really are distractions)? A lot of people always give tips such as "oh just forget about it", and I think it would be so cool to hear more actual practical tips that truly do work. I have watched several of your videos, and I love your content. Thank you for this podcast.
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You are not your past traumas. You get to choose what you identify with. Liberate yourselves and let go besties.
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Thank you for this comment ! ❤
As soon as my besties do, so will I. Peace out!
You don't even know how badly I needed to hear this, thank you.
Thankyou, I needed to hear this. My old friends can't digest or understand that I've levelled up and I'm not longer a fool who makes sacrifices to entertain them.
They keep bringing up who I was to try to shame me and get me to revert back to that era, but no. I'm levelled up and I will continue to do so.
Elle your mantra dont get mad get paid has changed my life. Its helped me be so much more objective and go for what i really want instead of being triggered
Frrrr same girl!!
this will forever remind me about the guy who people got mad about after he posted a video feeding black birds and everyone was discussing whether those were crows or ravens. in the end he came to the conclusion: You can´t make everyone equally HAPPY, but you can make everyone equally UNHAPPY. so he started to call them chicken.
I'm working so hard on this! My purpose is to be totally unbothered by no one and anything, focus only on me and my goals and stop giving my energy and time to people and things that are useless and to cap it all trying to affect me on a negative way. It's too hard tho! But practice makes a master, so I'll keep pursuing my unbothered self till I get there. Thank you bestiee! :*
thank you for sharing bestie!
I feel u ;”
“Don’t get mad-get paid” is my new favorite mantra 🥰
If I don't focus on money, I will just have nada
We women have to realize action speaks louder than words. Let people say we belong in kitchen, we are useless, we are this and that etc. Just make sure your actions align with what you want and keep moving forward. Conserve this energy for actions and actions only. We used to be brainwashed programmed and living in Disney work, imagining things thay should happen. Now its our time to be in reality and change our reality not imagining what should happen or why its is not happening. Accepting what is in front of us and moving forward with that.
Omg Elle, yesterday I was quite angry cause my workplace was male dominated and a lot of what they say annoy me (I’m an intern and I’m finishing soon) so they triggered me and I wanted to start explaining how things are quite unfair for me as a girlie but then I left it and accepted the place as it was. I told myself don’t get mad, get paid and 2 hours later I received my money hahah.
That's the midset we all need girl hahaha
i feel seen, validated, and safe in the spoiled girlie support group! I quit my job and prayed for revelation because I felt so sad and defeated in my life. That same week I found your channel and it has been life-changing! thank you, thank you, thank you❤
thank you for sharing, bestie. im rooting for you🥰
Be careful with "transcending" your thoughts. Do not supress or push *ALL* your feelings away, or else your problem will get worse to get your attention. When you push away your pain, you're pushing away your process, or key to your transformation! Your worst pain is your greatest teacher & power!!
Edit: many of u may not understand what i mean. Basically, if ur supressing a cycle of emotions ur continuously dealing with, not just typical temporary anger/frustration/sadness etc, chances are you're supressing your true feelings about a bigger issue youre supposed to learn from. When you repress your true feelings about a deeper rooted issue, youre not only running away from processing your pain but not allowing yourself to grow from your issues. You will probably remain stuck in these insufferable cycles that are truly meant to give you some sort of self transformation or change, because you dont have awareness over them or process them. Maybe you can "control" your feelings when they arise, but constantly "controlling" them without making an impactful change to the actual root issue wont truly solve the problem youre constantly facing. You know that feeling when you finally "get over" one situation, but then another one happens thats very similar to it? Yup.
Emotions aren't your enemy, they can contain key information to deeper rooted problems, cycles, traumas, etc. If this is you, be sure to allow yourself to feel your feelings out in a safe secure space- preferablly a professional or an emotionally safe person- so you can process, grow from, & release them. Healing is a messy but beautiful journey that's 100% worth it. Love yall stay coolin & God bless
I think you missed the point.
Just don't let yourself get suck in a trauma loop 🙏🫡 as someone with CPTSD sometimes the best option is to pick up and start fresh and build a whole new better life ❤
Sure, but endlessly ruminating stops you from moving forward.
Just bec u know what not to do doesny mean u know what to do. Therapy if u can❤
I'm a 56yo woman and I am finding your content so healing after a manbaby went scorched-earth on my whole life. Anyone getting triggered by this content is in danger of the same. I wish I had known any of this before I poured my career, my savings, my network, my skill set, and my health into a man. Keep going Elle your content is doing more good than you know.
Your brutal honesty and infallible logical explanations make you unmatched on TH-cam 🙏🏽💪🏽
thank you 🥰🥰
She's just like me, blunt and straight to the point but I've tried very hard to not be transparent and blunt with people about my opinions and mentality because I've been heavily misunderstood for it & words put in my mouth but when I came across her she made me feel like its ok to be you regardless of what people say, if they have a problem with my mentality they're not my people.
Don't get mad- get paid. Preach it girl!
We need a “Besties Guide to Why you Deserve your Desires” 💗
📝
Ooh yes please :)
This channel has been such a big part of my full reset. I was already healing, creating, becoming, and now finding this channel... At exactly the right time, yes, of course, like always 💛 I'm so lucky.
1:34 omg yes!!!
"But one should never underestimate people's desire to be angry, they are angry at the world, so they keep looking for confirmation online and in real life as to why they should keep being angry"
this explains a lot of so many people's behaviour nowadays.
It's true; people hang onto anger because it makes them feel like they have a sense of control when their lives seem to be spiraling out of control. The awful irony is that they are at the mercy of the anger and are very easy to manipulate. What helped me move past mine was this truth: life is not going how I expected, and I will be okay. Wishing everyone healing, wisdom, peace, and joy ✌🏻
Your wisdom is a blessing. The way you love and value yourself is a gift to all women. Intelligent, educated, focused, high vibrational, supportive, girl you are literally unstoppable, you are so powerful. I see you going so far bestie and I love being a part of that! Your content is a BLESSING!!! Thank you so so much.
OMG. I feel safe here. Being here is a relief. It's helping me become extremely self-aware.
I had spoken about your channel to my bf, saying you're so young, beautiful and so intelligent. Your don't get mad get paid is so true. So continue your path and don't let the naysayers get to you. You are so precious. Much love and light ❤❤
Girl, this video was deep. You really took us there. You weren't even explicit, but this has MAJOR implications for your life!
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As a woman with a lifetime of experience, I feel you are smart beyond your years. Love yourself and others will love you too ❤❤❤
"Don’t get mad-get paid” - new mindset! love your videos so much!!!
My triggers are being tested right now, at work! Its so uncomfortable but I have to do my best to transend and be unbothered. Its so difficult bestie and im grateful for this video, give me strength bestie!
Just discovered you and I love your mindset! Thanks for sharing your perspective.
thank you bestie. I appreciate you🥰
You just mentioned “self control”. Yes! That’s one of the most important any person can learn, very powerful
I would LOVE if you started teaching us more about finance and economics and business. I have never understood those concepts properly but you explaining them, something just clicks. Also your videos opened up my mind to so much! Amazing content
Oh my gosh, my beautiful bestie!! How did this topic pop up on my feed at exactly the right moment? I’ve been so triggered and losing my cool lately…makes me feel so powerless. I adore the way you flip the script on all of the inherent misogyny that we women deal with every day.
Amen to this video 🙏🏾 energy flows where attention goes
🙏🏽🙏🏽
I wanna give her a huge hug!
Always spiraling upward 🧘🏾♀️ whoever is meant to come with you will 🕉️ many will be left behind 💅🏾
I needed this video! I was verbally bullied in highschool. Which bring back past bullying trauma from elementary. I feel unworthy of everything from gifts to even friendship. Ugh, it’s hard for me to chanell out love since I use to care too much for those bully. It went bad, to the point where eating regularly feels heavy to me. It could be overwhelming most time, I break down crying alone a lot. I am still fighting to not feel this till today… I want to live my life in freedom without, I want to be considered and loved like what others have.
this video is a form of therapy. thank you 💛
CAN I SAY OUTLOUD THAT I GENUINELY LOVE YOUR CHANNEL SM??? LIKE ITS EVERYTHING IVE BEEN LOOKING FOR AND THE WAY U TELL US EVERYTHING FEELS SM MORE PERSONAL AND DIRECT AND I LOVE IT FR
just because something happened/didn't happen in the past it doesn't mean it will/wont in the future. take a chance, go for it, be YOUR best self
I am still working on this but I am making good progress. Being unbothered is the goal. Thanks, Elle! ❤ We are not our past traumas. We choose our identity every day ❤
I learn something new every video, thank you bestie 💛
thank you 🥰
I loved the phrase, "emotional discipline".
You deserve 1 million subscribers -love all your videos
I dont think you understand how much ur changing my life and perspective with these videos-u are so so appreciated-thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
Girl I feel seen, validated and I’m here for your tone and straight talk. If you get it you get it ❤️
I have to say, your channel is giving me life. just listening to you once a day makes me feel so seen and heard! lol
Thank you for having the courage to share your views with the 🌍 :)
God I love you, so smart! When I left my job in April (I’ve worked there for 5 years and that was not easy decision), I completely changed my lifestyle, now I study what i love, read clever books, take walks, just loving life. Before this happened i couldn’t imagine that you can live without suffering, but apparently it’s a choice. And being away from that society for sometime opened my eyes! I didn’t even realise how much trash I had in my brain and it use to leave no space for thoughts at all. So, Yeah, for your own well being you neeeeeed to cut off all the unnecessary stuff in your life, to at least start knowing and feeling yourself! I wish everyone could learn that at school.
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! this is so important. Geez. What has been popping in my mind lately is "you're getting distracted" and this video is just proof of that. I have always said that I am focused on whatever I want, but lately I have been so stressed and genuinely drained by everything that's happening around me that I keep losing track of what I actually want and am working towards to, and being conscious of that just make it worse.. But thank you for this video! I feel like I have to write a lot of thoughts down
I literally tune in JUST for the reads because I know they’re coming 😂
this is my fav video, till date.
Let's get paid! This rly helped.
I had been terribly duped into this devaluing scam. I have just turned 30 and need to let go of my 20s... yes im still married with kids but need to devise a plan to logically wean myself out of the workforce. I am not even mad.
I became no chalant once i got depression and after depression i found out i have emotional numbness so basically nothing no one triggers me anymore and its kinda helping am building my immunity for that i just hope i will get my emotions back
I'm so glad someone is finally talking about this (at least from what I have seen).
Words can be very triggering for those that don't understand nuance, or have been conditioned to react to certain words so much that there's no room for contextual understanding.
In the words of Eckhart Tolle "don't focus on the words, they are merely signposts. Once you taste honey, you no longer need the word 'honey' to know it's meaning". Same words like "high value" or "gold digger" can hold completely different energies to what we are used to, and those that understand your message, will understand that the intention behind those words is to uplift, not cause pain. Unfortunately, we need words to communicate an idea.
Language is dualistic so of course it is an imperfect way to communicate!
More people need to wake up to this so they no longer squabble over words. What's important is the message!! Not the words used!! Otherwise we'll never stop fighting.
I usually never leave messages but Elle you are doing important work so I have to!! This is something I've been struggling with for a long time - people are literally LOOKING for things to get mad about, instead of taking a moment to try to understand another person's point of view.
Anyway go you 🩷
thank you bestie!!
I just want to say I think you are so right on point in all your videos I am going to keep watching! I am a mother of two small kids and everything you say is so right. I am so glad that my husband is happy and willing to provide for us because it’s a huge amount of work. And because of all the political stuff you talk about, being a stay at home mom and having a providor man, has put me in a space where I end up feeling a lot of guilt for not having to work out of the house and your support group is helping me feel less alone. Thank you!
thank you for sharing 🙏🏽
Keep being brutally honest!!! You're serving us what we need to hear. Our closest best friends can't even offer this kind of honesty, and if you do.. then you're being rude or labelled as a bitch in the friend group. Women need to practice open honesty,... it's honestly why I like having male friends since quite a few of them, tell it for face value, and I value their perspective whether it's aligned with mine OR NOT. Listening and learning opposing ideals is how we learn, grow and shape our own mindset for the better.
someone had suggested a discord server, i think it would be nice for like minded people 😊
thank you for your videos!
I've been working on this for a while now, trying to get into my unbothered era, and watching this video (and your other videos as well) encourage me to keep doing my best. The Spoiled Girlie Support Group changed my life and now is part of my improving podcast pack. Love u bestie ♡
Elle, I came across your videos a couple of weeks ago. The contents of your videos are mind blowing! Please excuse my poor English, I don't want to sound cringy, but for the first time in my life I appreciated TH-cam because I found your videos.
I appreciate the wisdom which you are spitting and that you've chosen to share it with other women. Finally thank you for putting English subtitles. They are really helpful for ppl like me who don't have good English listening skills.
Keep it up! Thank you❤
you're for real saying stuff my therapist says to me 😂 and you're so young! thanks for the content ❤
thank you bestie😂
I shouted out to the universe and the spoiled girlies answered. Thanks, Elle. I love these comments, too. ❤ I got out of a bad toxic abusive relationship at the end of Nov last year. I've been nonstop triggered by my parents recently, and I know it's related, but the amount of frustration I feel toward myself for reacting without thought... it's been a rough month, and it's all self-induced. Sometimes it feels like my past trauma is all I see and all I think about (thanks, weekly DBT 🙄), and it's not *natural* for me to just ignore it and focus on being present. Maybe it's not supposed to be easy! It's being worked on, and I love seeing things like this because I'm on that track right now.
Girl, I just discovered your channel and I loooove your practical approach. I’m fully stepping into my spoiled girlie era and it’s only been one day so far but it’s been amazing so far! Thank you for sharing your wisdom :)
omg i love your long form content!!! srry havent been commenting im adjusting to my classes lol
thank you bestie. keep securing your own bag💅🏽
You always the right words to describe the right things, thanks you for this video cause I needed this. And I’ll buy the merch, great reminder 😂👋🏽
I love this chanel and i would listen over and over until i learn all
I may not be a spoiled girlie but I do like your energy and bonding skills! So I'm willing to listen and discover my inner girlie and see who she becomes!
“No nuance nonsense”
“Can we not?!!”
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Girl I needed this so badly.
You're wonderful! You're helping a lot of us. Keep going. ❤ We love love love you.
Jist discovered your channel and im absolutely in love with your content. You're absolutely fantastic and love your energy.
I just wanted to take the time to thank you for providing us with such valuable educational content.
I really could not refrain from stating how much I admire the way you speak and how smoothly you present yourself verbally.
Your personality is really calm and beautiful.
I’m so grateful to be learning such valuable things from you.
Love this episode.
Thank you for your service bestie.
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real talk....HOW are you so well-spoken. well-versed in different areas of knowledge. so put-together. Do you have tips?
Girl. Thank you is an understatement ❤
These were the clearest most amazing words that my ears have ever received
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I loved this and the jumper at the end! Great work! 💕
You’re doing amazing Elle ❤
This is everything I’ve ever needed in my life THANK YOU and love seeing a strong Filipina woman preaching her wisdom ❤❤❤❤❤ much love from NZ!!!!
Personally, I resonate so strongly with like 80% of what u say! The method, the mindset, the observations I find super insightful. Where I go in a different direction is when it comes to the ultimate goal. Again personally, my objective isn’t to “get the bag” or play in this “game of power” (was it this video or another where she used that term?), but still! i appreciate the content and respect we all have different aims in life. ❤
I love, love your videos. I love your honesty, your rawness and how you're able to back it up with logic. An example is one video where you talked about living your dream life and to view it from the moint of Maslow hierarchicy of needs...I think that one actually blew my mind, I had never thought to use this concept to look at my life.
Anyways, I guess I dhould really work harder on not spending so much energy being triggered by other people's opinions of me and what I do and just be laser focused on the things that are actually relevant and important to me...
huh this is fascinating, what the thought experiment of genuinely considering myself spoiled brings up is a strong feeling of guilt and that really is one of my biggest holdback distractions in my day-to-day, same with the pick-me label! i see it in shorts and pause with an immediate impulse to hear whatever it is out in fear it might apply to me, while consciously knowing i disagree with the construct. wild to reframe my seeking out of guilt as a desire.
So true ❤ this is why healing is so valuable. Your content is so awesome
Bestie! On point. You’re brilliant.
I keep coming back and watch her videos it’s an encouragement that I’m on the right path 😂😂
I love this so much
Literally just found you today and I’ve seen almost every video n short. Lmao Love you you’re my new bestieeeee 🎉❤Keep it upppp Bravissima
This is one of my favourite videos of yours so far, thanks 😊
Thank you for this video, from the depths of my heart. Thank you 🙏💕✨ This was eye-opening.
I'm afraid that I may revert to my inner triggers by the behaviors I observe in those around me (and now with social media - in the internet), especially men. Even when I am not engaged with them and have no control over the reality of others outside of my own, I just hate seeing behaviors that hurt others, particularly in those vulnerable or naive to the actions of those who are consciously or unconsciously aware of how they are exploiting or contributing to the problem in a given scenario.
And many adult behaviors are counterproductive -whether its from a man or woman.
I'm still struggling with focusing on growing to be a better version of myself - regardless of how others may view me in various stages of my own life transitions - and understanding that I am not perfect either. I am highly critical of myself as I am of others 😭 but this conversation was really heart-warming and I truly needed this because I am becoming more and more angry as it relates to men and family. I desire a family, but a past failed relationship has caused me to lose hope in the future of a successful relationship. And the things I see in the internet about how men think about situations are reinforcing my negative perceptions of men/males because I'm terrified that I may be used/manipulated by any prospective partner. I feel like my ex used me as a stepping stone, rather than desiring me to be a permanent part of my life through commitment and marriage. He was my first partner and we met in our second year of college. I just don't want to repeat another heartbreak, and I certain don't want an unstable situation (such as bad marriage or co-parenting) if children are going to be involved.
great video girl!
I love how direct and honest you are. It's so refreshing ✨✨
We need to work hard to heal the traumas of past so that they don't continue to influence our future. Gotcha 👌🏼
Love this video! Very insightful! Thank you 🙏
I love your content, I found your channel few weeks ago and you are so educated, well spoken and your videos really add value. Thank you! What are some practical tips you can give to not get triggered? Sending greetings from Switzerland
Elle, you are so good!! This is why we are here!! Plz don’t be discouraged by the Triggered Trishas!! 🌸✨🌟💞💗
thank you bestie🙏🏽🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this. ❤I am easily triggered by certain topics (and of negative energy carried by people around me), it always ends up affecting me - and I soooo want to move beyond that. I was wondering if you could do a video with more tips on how to not care so much (about the things that really are distractions)? A lot of people always give tips such as "oh just forget about it", and I think it would be so cool to hear more actual practical tips that truly do work.
I have watched several of your videos, and I love your content. Thank you for this podcast.
Omg I was just reading into this… thank you!! 💕
thank you bestie!!!
Thank you bestie 💗
I watch every video of yours, thank you very much for your content🫶
We love you Elle you are a fount of wisdom 🌈
Excellent content! Thank you!
I love how short your videos are. So easy to digest!
The video we were waiting for 🙌🏽 thank you queen ❤
thank you bestie🥰🥰
Thank you for being here Elle ❤
This was a great message, thank you!
"....good thing we're not dogs...good thing we're not listening at that frequency" ~ one billion percent 💯
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Another great video! I thank the algorithm gods for putting you on my feed! Love your content 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾