A lot of people, when they find out that someone they know is unwell or hospitalized, might want to visit but think, " I don't know what to SAY ! " And they stay away out of fear of being awkward or unhelpful. And, a lot of people DO say the wrong things. When a friend's beloved cat died people said things like, ''Well, she's in a better place." or, " At least she's out of pain." or, " You can get another cat now " or, "I know how you feel". Often, what people say to 'comfort' a grieving or angry or frustrated person is really designed to make THEM feel better. Because many people do not know how to witness another person's strong, “negative “ emotions. They want to jolly them out of their honest feelings. They want them to stop feeling what they are feeling. This is not good. The truth is that you don't have to SAY anything. You don't have to FIX anything or make anything better. When I am frightened or angry or am feeling any "negative'' emotion, I just want to share my feelings with someone who can LISTEN and allow me to have my feelings. And when I am talking, I want to feel that they are really listening and not thinking about what THEY'RE going to say. Nod your head,say 'Uh-huh 'or something that shows that you are present. It helps to reflect back to them, in your own words, what they have said. And your friend now knows that he has been HEARD, that you understand. and, most importantly, that you CARE
Actually, she's right. We can't know how people feel when they lost someone even we lost too. Because we are not the same. Also, we don't know how was that person. We don't know how was their relationship. Maybe it's possibly best to say: I'm sorry, I'm here if you needed anything at all.
A lot of people, when they find out that someone they know is unwell or hospitalized, might want to visit but think, " I don't know what to SAY ! "
And they stay away out of fear of being awkward or unhelpful.
And, a lot of people DO say the wrong things.
When a friend's beloved cat died people said things like,
''Well, she's in a better place."
or, " At least she's out of pain."
or, " You can get another cat now "
or, "I know how you feel".
Often, what people say to 'comfort' a grieving or angry or frustrated person is really designed to make THEM feel better.
Because many people do not know how to witness another person's strong, “negative “ emotions.
They want to jolly them out of their honest feelings.
They want them to stop feeling what they are feeling.
This is not good.
The truth is that you don't have to SAY anything.
You don't have to FIX anything or make anything better.
When I am frightened or angry or am feeling any "negative'' emotion, I just want to share my feelings with someone who can LISTEN and allow me to have my feelings.
And when I am talking, I want to feel that they are really listening and not thinking about what THEY'RE going to say.
Nod your head,say 'Uh-huh 'or something that shows that you are present.
It helps to reflect back to them, in your own words, what they have said.
And your friend now knows that he has been HEARD, that you understand. and, most importantly, that you CARE
Thank you for this beautiful, caring, open and compassionate comment. Very true and very wise ❤
I liked it. It was a very accurate portrayal of what grief is when you loose someone you love.
Your choices of words and the timing of music are legendary!
Actually, she's right. We can't know how people feel when they lost someone even we lost too. Because we are not the same. Also, we don't know how was that person. We don't know how was their relationship. Maybe it's possibly best to say: I'm sorry, I'm here if you needed anything at all.
Very nice film; I quite enjoyed it. All the actors were wonderful, the lead actress in particular.
This film was amazing I watched it twice.... ❤... this was a gentle and simple film ❤
This was made by Justin Robinson, the guy who made "My Brother Jordan", touching film, both of them.
Thank you so much, bravo, brava! ❤
As few comments as I post, this video had to be endorsed.
Quien es esa maravillosa actriz?
Pepi Streiff 🌻
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Do you know what a snowbird is. Apparently not.
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Bossy cow