I’ll be 40 in February. I 100% get it. You know what helped me with time management? No lie, playing time-management games! 🤷🏾♀️ like them lil hotel/restaurant games. I’m serious tho! 😂 try one on your down time
Gm, lol 😅😂🤣That's funny. So since U realize wat U doing. After U done👁️👁️ videos's on Utube. Let's go Mop that kitchen Floor.👍🏾😄🙂😂Thx in advance, & Good job! 💯 😉☺️🙂
Hey @eralsmith5007 I'm procrastinat'n Right now. Bc I need 2 go cuk my Brkfast @ lunch time. But instead I'm in the comment section of EJ's video. Put'n my 2 cents in abt me procrastinat'n, & possibly other's with some of my similar probs, issues, etc. 🙏🏾😉🙂😊😄😂🤭
🙏💦🙏Let Us Pray: God, I ask You in Jesus' name help me do this, talk me through this, walk me through this. God help, encourage, and strengthen me to get this done in the smart right way. God help me plan my day. Bless me with the desire, follow-through, peace, clarity, knowledge, and wisdom to do this and not wait. Let me enjoy getting this done today. God deliver me from procrastination. God, please do the same for the writer of this prayer and EJspeaks. Thank You Jesus. Amen, so be it by faith.
Gdm. @@mzsunshine91 Amen 2 being an empty Nester too. I'ma procrastinator as well. Bc👀 I start'd declutter'n, get'n rid of stuff: old bills, papers mos.ago & I'm Still not finish'd with that task yet.🤦🏾 I def. need 2 shred old bills, papers, etc.😱😲So try'n 2 fig throw away things. But I Stop'd. So why am I still Sav'n Old, Paid bill receipts, old🥳B-day/Christmas cards?? 🤦🏾🤷🏾😳🙂☺️😄😂🤭 If I, or some1 figs that out! Maybe me/other Women with same issues can get deliver'd & set free from hold'n on 2 old stuff: Old papers, cards, 🎁🎁,old clothes, & old 👠👠, 👟👟, 👡👡that I/we Don't wear any more, or for watever the reason may be. 1. Bc of Wt. gain/Loss or our clothes, shoes, 🧥 jackets just old & out dated. 🤦🏾🙎🏾🤷🏾
5 minute rule: if it can be done in 5 minutes or less, go ahead and do it Use the calendar in your phone to keep track of all appointments, events, and stuff that you agree to do. I legit put “visit Mommy” on my calendar so I won’t give her time to somebody else Sometimes you flat out have to write a list, put your phone on DND for 3 hours and just pound it out. Do that twice a week and you might actually get ahead I work full time, attend grad school (graduating in December), and maintain and household by myself. I ain’t in no way got it all together but this helps me stay mostly on point… at least with the big stuff. Hope it helps somebody
The 5 minute rule really helps. I have ADHD and sometimes, I have to say "Ok, this'll take 3 minutes" and I can hang onto that. But there's a surprising amount you can get done in even 3 minutes, and more often than not, I keep going since I've gotten over the hardest part - the starting.
The 5 min rule helps me so much! It’s the only way I can keep my house in check. I totally agree with you about setting time for even the simplest things
In the Michael Jackson voice, “you are not alone…I am here with you…” seriously, many people look like they got it together and behind closed doors they do not! You’re in good company, it’s alright. And that song you wrote needs to be recorded! 💯
It's 1042pm on a Saturday night and I am watching these videos when I said I was going to declutter my office. Somebody send help my eyes are burning and I got church in the morning!
Procrastination and I are Siamese twins. Whenever I have to do something hard, my inner Scarlett O’Hara comes out and says “I can’t think about that right now. I’ll think about it tomorrow.” I feel you, E. J.
Sis! I came down to your Baltimore show last weekend… FEEEEEEE NOMMM MIN ALLLLLLLL!!! The coordinated outfit was coordinated, the hair was hairing, the jokes was joking 😍😍😍😍 My sister and I had such a great time!! Who knew your daughter was grown??? I thought you had school age children!! Lol!! So good 🤗🥰😍👏🏾
It took me about 6 months to get halfway organized. I still have a ways to go, but here are some tricks I use for getting things done: -Pray while I'm doing it. -Try to do it as fast as I can. -Break it up into smaller tasks. -Reward myself for doing it. -Listen to your Playlists to get my energy up.
I've stopped punishing myself for not getting it all done right away. I do the best I can each day and I remind myself that it's "good enough for now".
That is so true! Since I’m doing everything myself, even with others around. I just do what I can and give myself grace because I’m human, not a robot. I’m very organized but I’m tired too.
Girl, I ain't got time for time! If my body don't feel like it, it's not getting done. I'm starting to accept that my brain and my body don't like each other all the time. They aren't the best of friends, so I can wait until they can be cordial to each other and work together so I can clean my bathroom and kitchen at least.😂😂😂😂
I truly struggle with cleaning; I will start doing one thing and I'll see something else and then start cleaning that up and then I'll start cleaning something else and when I realize that I have several projects and now I'm in the midst of spring cleaning and everything is tore up and what started as an hour job has turned into an all day job😢.
One day I’m on top of the world. Another day the world on top of me but we live to see another day😅 in my 20’s I used to be that brow beating myself to get it all done but now in my 40’s I’m glad my back and knee not hurting 😭
Oh, how much we don't 🤦🏾♀️. I don't understand why the people who are super organized and live to take no breaks or relax, try to make others who don't operate that way feel bad about it. I know there are areas that I need to improve on but, I will never want to wake up at 4:30am on a regular basis or be busy every minute of the day until bed time, NEVER!!! 🤷🏾♀️
I feel so seen and violated at the same time. Cause how you all up in my business. This is me everyday. I have the best of intentions but baby… that’s all I got!!!
5:09 the way this video had me testifying wit my hands up like I was at alter call... honey bcz it's me and she is ME! I really hope YT'rs cannot see how many time ppl watch their videos bcz I laid on the replay button bcz it was speaking to me 🤭
And I have the AUDACITY to get mad at the other person for not responding. Smh Then look back at the thread and I done typed a whole message and didn’t hit send. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😮 Help me Lawd!!!
ADHD executive function disorder. I struggle with this and was JUST diagnosed in my 40s. I pushed through and seemed normal for most of my life, but it started getting worse so I sought help. Meds, counseling, cleaning and organizing tricks for ADHD and YT/tiktok channels for ADHD and neurodivergent adults help
The first thing I thought was "The solution? Ritalin!". This is so me and same, I didn't get diagnosed until my 40s. They seriously missed a few generations of women, didn't they? I can't take meds, so yup, it's down to the ADHDers who've figured out some tricks that help me.
Baby! Just got diagnosed at 36, smh I knew something was just a little different with me. Not wrong but different. Between meds, counseling and working out, I’m gradually getting better. Finally my mind is clear 😩 Two of my tricks is setting a timer to see how much I can complete and a set of 🎲 I roll to determine what task to complete.
@@FromEricaWithLoveTHIS! It is not spoken of, we just struggled through decades and no one really notices. They prefer to call you a “hot mess”. It’s disheartening.
😂😂❤❤❤ !! As The mom with the calendars, alarms AND Post-it Notes allllll over the house, still showing up for others in this season should be considered a FULL BLESSING!! It’s the finger snaps EJ! We see you Queen!
I felt this deep down in my soul !! You are most definitely not alone. I have clothes in the laubdry basket (been sitting there for a week now) waiting to be put away, I have assignments to do for a class I'm taking for work (taking an ESOL class...I'm a 1st grade teacher), we just finished dealing with the aftermath of a hot water tank leak at home, and the list can truly go on and on. Some days I do absolutely NOTHING because I am so overwhelmed. When I have the wherewithall to do something, I choose 3-4 things to do for the day and leave it at that (I make a list )!! I try to journal each evening to get stuff off my mind. Do what you can when you can and try (easier said than done I know) not to stress about what hasn't been done. That's what I've been telling the new teachers on my grade level. I watch your videos when I need a good laugh and a break from day to day ish. Love your content :)
You’re definitely not alone. Take one day at a time and do your best. Some days you’ll get things done and some days you won’t and it’s okay. Thank you for the laughter, I always look forward to your videos. 💕🌞
Girl how you know my words& put em to rhythm? I instantly was like damn girl, how you git in my head?? Cuz a mess is definitely me..but I still feel blessed because "HE" woke me up to see another day! Praise Jah!
What is really working for me is putting things on the calendar and blocking off "nothing time" so that I can breathe. Then when people ask me to do something I send them the calendar and tell them if they can find a spot and the amount of time fits the task I will do it. If not then the verbiage used includes: I apologize that request cannot be fulfilled, please select the next available time.
I think I saw some other comments about getting tested for ADHD. I highly recommend that as well. I identified with EVERYTHING you said… EVERYTHING. This past summer I stopped wondering and got tested and it was so eye opening for me. Now between the therapy and medications I see some light ahead. Oh and it you have started to join the perimenopause train, that will accentuate the symptoms. So many girls and women fail to get this diagnosis since we tend to present differently than the stereotypical ADHD known symptoms. Watching my 9 yr old daughter helped me to see myself. Like you, I can be booked and busy and have some things “together” but the lack of executive function skills wrecks havoc on my time management and organizational skills and makes my flight or fight yield more freeze. The procrastination and analysis paralysis are very real. ❤
You are preaching to the choir. You are overwhelmed and your mind is taking a vacation. I have been struggling with home repairs for two months my suggestion is complete one task at a time. Tackle easiest to hardest. Celebrate the small wins you got this girl. Wishing you the best for all your shows I pray God continues to shower you with blessings. My only suggestion for an alarm clock is purchase one that rolls off your nightstand so you have no choice but to get up.
I learned that procrastination and CPTSD go hand-in-hand. Now that I've got a better understanding of the reasons behind the procrastination, I'm better at setting and meeting goals. I'm also better at acknowledging my limits. For example, I will pay someone else to do it now instead of trying to do it myself "later."
Forgot about a dentist appointment, Tuh-Day!! 😅 Was on my calendar and everything...Knew about it at 10:30 am this morning and had forgotten by 2:30 this afternoon!
Make a list and stick to it. Don't try to do everything at once. When the alarm goes off GET UP once you get up start moving you will get things done. Mix easy and more difficult things so you won't get overwhelmed. Procrastination is awful. It just induces stress, anxiety, and hopelessness.
Yep. Dats me. Yep. There stuff that needs to be completed BUTTTT if I just write it in the calendar, set my alarm, and put it on the to do list I MIGHT GET IT DONE BY THE END OF THE YEAR. I THINK! Don’t get me wrong I am very successful, I own 4 companies, help in the community, and am almost finished with my Master’s Degree in clinical mental health counseling….., but I have too much. We renewed our views in May. I put the picture frames up and ain’t put one picture in them yet.
I'm supposed to be exercising as I watch this, but instead I've been cleaning my room and ripping the pages out of 6 journals of unkept commitments to myself 😅. It's a new month though, we can do it! Recommit to 3 small, achievable goals for your wellbeing ✨️
Baby sistah most of us struggle in some area. I'm 60, 61 in March, no husband or children, I procrastinate a lot. I usually have seasons of getting things in the order I prefer, then I slip, slide or whatever back to procrastination. Keep trying to improve and prioritize. I think sometimes we just want to arrive and stay in that place. Nope, life continues and there's always something to be done. I can't remember a time since my college days that my laundry has been caught up, that's my biggest ongoing procrastination chore. Bless you my dear sistah, enjoy life and loved ones as much as you can ✌🏾
Sooo true my time management tip is to never wait. If there's something that's stopping you from moving forward do other things in the meantime, if you're waiting on something to finish do something in the meantime, if you don't feel like doing a thing do something else you do feel like doing in the time. Next tip is if it takes less than 3 minutes to do just do it so that these things don't pile up
EJ those vocals are top tier!!!!! Keep it up! As for time management, do what you can every day - doesn't have to be big, just something small. The key is EVERY DAY. Be consistent with it. If you are too tired, then rest. Give yourself an hour or so (set a timer), then come back to it. If you are really stressing, then don't do it. Take 'me' time seriously and put the phone on do not disturb. And relax, take deep breaths, meditate.....whatever you need to do to get yourself centered. It might be a nap! But do it. You can't operate from an empty cup. Be blessed ❤❤❤❤
Prioritize. Avoid social media (set limits), choose one or two things per day, set a time to do it, and do it. I have a monthly calendar (kitchen and bathroom ) have all my appointments, and family appointments, in the kitchen a monthly, weekly, and daily calendar (Temu has great ones for the refrigerator). Everything goes on my calendars, church event, movie dates etc…kedos me focused. Lastly, don't beat myself.
I used to feel the same way, but now I keep a to-do list that has a mix of small and larger tasks. For example, I'll add quick things like sweeping the porch, cleaning the bathroom mirror, or dusting the TV, but I also include bigger tasks like sending emails, washing the walls, or cleaning out the fridge. My goal is to complete at least one thing each day. If I’m feeling low-energy, I tackle an easy task. If I've had my morning mocha before 5 a.m., I’ll try to do a few easy ones and maybe a challenging one, too. Crossing things off, no matter the size, gives me a sense of accomplishment.
If I had a confessional in my house this is exactly what would be said in it! WE DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR CLOTHES IRONED FOR THE WEEK 🤣🤣🤣🤣 OR YOUR MEAL PLANNED AND PREPPED FOR THE WEEK, EITHER. I’m sorry for yelling- this struck a chord! Good luck packing- you are going to look Fabulous in whatever you put in your bag- or pick up on the way to the show! God Bless you! You make my day at least once a week! I can never say thank you enough for the laughs!
LOL! Love you! Ok, listen, you are going on your trip to PA for Nov. 10. Don't stress out about not being packed. Packed on the day before. You don't have to be constantly thinking about it. I learned that procrastination is a trauma response and I used to always procrastinate and think I was so bad about it. Now I think about it, like, I will do it when it needs to be done, but not think about it all the time. Procrastination = trauma. Have a plan to pack the day before and you are ALL GOOD!!! Love you!
You are not alone. Yes, I struggle with time management. No, I don’t have any tips. Yes, I just keep trying because…that’s what we do. We gotta at least try!🤣
EJ got bars!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 1) As for tips, Post-it Notes are my best friend! I make a task list of what I need to do for that day. Write a new list for each day. For the items that did not get accomplished the day before, just roll it over to the next day’s list. 2) For your appointments, put them all in your calendar in your phone. Give it a 30 or 45 minute before the appointment alert so your notification will give you at least 30 minutes to get there if you forgot and so happened to be out and about running errands.
Why is this ALL OF US?!?!??! I went to a seminar called the 'Happier Hour' to help manage my time to see where I'm focusing my time. THE SEMINAR was so fantastic.....i left so energized, so pumped. I needed to fill this one paper out of what I did for the week............... that was 6 months ago...........Yeah........ here we are again
Just know that you are not alone! As a matter of fact, an folding clothes that I washed Tuesday or Wednesday on today, Saturday. I received a reminder for an appointment for one of my children next week. Hope I don't forget that.
I, like many, also struggle. I have my daily “must do’s” and separate list of “want to do’s”. If the “must do’s” and one “want to do” is all that gets done, I’m satisfied. If I can only do the “must do’s”, I give myself grace. My body sometimes just doesn’t cooperate. I outsource/delegate what I can (cleaning service/grocery pick up or delivery, cooking, etc.). When I am feeling well, I do as much on the “want to do’s” list as I can without overwhelming/exhausting myself. My priorities are focused on maintaining/improving my health and wellbeing and on my family. I have no problem saying “No” and “I’m not going to be able to make it”.
If procrastination was an Olympic sport, forget gold-I’d win the platinum medal every time. For me, sometimes it’s literally just laziness, but sometimes it’s my depression in full swing. I’m learning how to give myself credit for whatever I am able to accomplish- especially in those times of feeling mentally or emotionally drained. ♥️
Aw lil neurodivergent EJ!!! I feel you girl!!!! Check off lists on my phone really help! I use the Notes app on my iPhone. Building & sticking to a schedule everyday has worked for me. But it has also taken like 9 years of my partner trying & trying & trying with me! So ummm yeah. I hope this helps. Oh! I also arrive at my appointments SUPER EARLY so I’m not rushed, panicked, and sweaty when I get there. Respecting time is the most important tho , ngl
Facts👏. At the end of the day, I have done so much but have COMPLETED nothing! Some people keep shopping receipts in the pocket of their hand bag. But mine is full of to do lists that that didn’t get done. 🙄
Let me first say I live by the saying "tomorrow is a new day". I allow myself grace and compassion. Had to learn that. Depending on what needs to be done, I'll turn on a series. Episodes no longer than 45 minutes, the shorter the better. After each episode, pickup, put away, fold, wash etc 5-10 things. Repeat. I like to play video games. Almost same rules. When I get out or pass a level, accompolish 5-10 things. Nothing longer than 1 hour. My reward is getting to play again. Usually works for me. I learned if I don't allow my brain this compromise, I'm gonna lose the whole battle. Hope this helps someone.
THIS IS ME! I feel like this happens because I have no one to help us as we are the helper to many. My job, I'm the admin, home, in the wife and mom, my family - aging and need help, friends, say I'm the one that knows all the tricks and resources. I'm tired and unmotivated. I don't even think I can organize my life.
Singing to myself "I will never want to" to the tune of "I will always love you" like Dolly and Whitney. If I don't want to do it now, why do I think I'm suddenly gonna change my mind about it? This helps with quick stuff like putting something away instead of just putting it down, moving the clothes to the dryer as soon as the washer is done, refilling the hand soap pump when I see it's empty, etc.
I, too, struggle with multiple priorities. What has helped me the most is to focus on the non-negotiables (aka the big stones). For instance, I don’t do well if I don’t get my rest so I make sure whatever I have planned doesn’t compromise my sleep quality.
I am going through a very difficult, painful time in my life…your videos always make me smile or chuckle. Always. Even if it’s just for a moment. You are so relatable and real. Thank you for sharing the everyday. We need another Ms. Jackie video soon. 😉
Ayee! 🎉🎶🎸right after you said my best!!! So glad you speaking to this in comedic truthful detail!! Love you for this affirmation we're not alone! How do you say it, seem to understand it, and can't apply! EJ you broke it down! Hope you/we get help! And tell them judgy folks please!
I don't have it all together, but I do manage to get many things done. Here's one thing I always told my sons as I raised them, and I tell my granddaughter now, AND I do this myself. Here's the rule: *"Always Protect Your Goof Off Time!"* What that means is, *we do what we are supposed to do FIRST, so that we can have uninterrupted goof off time **_afterwards._* If the dishes need to be done, don't go watch a show or play a game or whatever, then have to rush and get the dishes done. *Go Do The Dishes NOW, **_then you can play without stopping._* Saturday, I was so tired. Went to pick up meds, grocery shop, take the trash out, etc. I come back in and I wanted to sit down and watch the entire series of *Agatha All Along* (Lord, have mercy, that show is so good!). When I got back, I realized I hadn't done the dishes, and I needed to do my meal prep for the week. I was tired!!! And I went to sit down, picked up the remote, and remembered my own rule (I was mad for a hot second). I got back up, did the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, and spent the next two hours doing meal prep. When that was done, I sat down and barely moved for six hours!!! *Always Protect Your Goof Off Time **_By Doing What You Need To Do FIRST._*
Ps: After finishing in the kitchen, I also took a shower and put on my comfy Christmas pajamas. That way I wouldn't have to move _at all._ I'm telling you! Protect that goof off time! 🤗
I leave a to do list on my desk everyday, for the next day, bc I am forgetful. Still sometimes I don’t get everything done. I try to start with the small things first. The bigger things come later bc then I’ll have more time. Also, be kind to yourself. Any accomplishment that day is good.❤
Yes, I feel the mess. I’m there too. I have work to finish but I worked all day, cooked dinner and have to take care of the 2 smallest of my four kids. I’ve tapped out which is why I’m on this video instead of doing the work I need to finish. It just feels good right now to drink my smoothie and watch your videos.
I built a digital download around this called task animal. The main thing is to understand how you're wired to succeed and leverage that. Once you understand you at that level, you'll even know how to turn on motivation whenever you need it.
I heard Scarlett Cochran say we should show up for ourselves like it’s a regular meeting with anyone else. I’ve learned that I’m so much more productive when I’m full (when I’ve showed up in private). So I fill up before I show up. That means time with God and time with me come first. It looks different every day but the priority is always the same. I can show up with a full cup and what’s in the cup is for me. When I’m consistent, everyone I meet drinks from the saucer, not my cup. It also helps when I tie the task or meeting a bigger goal. It’s like I create buzz in my own head and look forward to the task so much I don’t forget. We can lose sight of small tasks if we forget the big picture.
Cousin! You just described my ADHD. I am time-blind and honestly a LOT of help comes from my Japanese husband who is time sensitive (if you're not at least 5 mins early, then you are late type). I am still figuring it out at 38yrs old, but here are some hacks that help me: 1) start timing stuff that you know you have to do regularly (like cook or clean) to create a realistic log of how long you take, so you understand for the future if you plan to do x,y,z you will actually know how long it will really take (cuz recipes be lying). 2) Reverse engineer what you want to do. Assign yourself 1-2 important things that you need to do (but don't want to) and make SOME time in your day to make progress on them (try to do them in the first half of your day), and immediately reward yourself with something for making some progress. I actually watch your videos as part of my reward system after completing something productive (like work on my business, clean something, etc). So thank you for helping me make progress! You got this sis! 3) Block out time to do nothing on your schedule regularly to keep from over scheduling yourself. The reality of my struggle is still that I think I can do more in 1 day than what is actually realistic, so it helps me to keep track of what I do more than it helps to spend too much time planning. The track record becomes proof that I actually did get something done, and helps me realize how LONG stuff really takes which helps my planning to get a little more closer to what is realistic. Then I can say, "no, I can't do it"or "I ain't got time for that" with more confidence. 😂
Honey, I'm just tired!! Perimenopause got me in a chokehold, and I am fighting for my mind, body, and soul on a daily basis! The only thing I'm on time for now is rest but sleep is evading me!🤦🏾♀️
Why are you in my head and my house? This is me, and me is you! Yes, me is you! Child, I make notes for notes, calendars, and phone reminders... still can't get it together. Maybe I am just lazy, but organized, I AM NOT. 😫 If Chaos was a character on Inside Out, it would be cloned from me. Smh.
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I’ll be 40 in February. I 100% get it. You know what helped me with time management? No lie, playing time-management games! 🤷🏾♀️ like them lil hotel/restaurant games. I’m serious tho! 😂 try one on your down time
Check if you have ADHD. All of this sounds like me, and I just got diagnosed.
@@Jenna2305 That is what I came to say. ADD and ADHD is real!
❤Sis.... I totally understand you.... I'm praying for you..please pray for me. We have to remember to give ourselves some grace. Be Encouraged!
Pittsburgh, I beg of thee
I'm procrastinating right now, watching this video instead of mopping the floor!😂😅😂😅😂
I’m supposed to be working on a report for work and I’m watching EJ with you 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Gm, lol 😅😂🤣That's funny. So since U realize wat U doing. After U done👁️👁️ videos's on Utube. Let's go Mop that kitchen Floor.👍🏾😄🙂😂Thx in advance, & Good job! 💯 😉☺️🙂
I’m doing the same thing 😂😂😂
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Hey @eralsmith5007 I'm procrastinat'n Right now.
Bc I need 2 go cuk my Brkfast @ lunch time. But instead I'm in the comment section of EJ's video. Put'n my 2 cents in abt me procrastinat'n, & possibly other's with some of my similar probs, issues, etc.
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WHEW CHILE!!! LET'S PRAY FOR EACH OTHER!!!🤣❤️ 🙏🏽
🙏💦🙏Let Us Pray: God, I ask You in Jesus' name help me do this, talk me through this, walk me through this. God help, encourage, and strengthen me to get this done in the smart right way. God help me plan my day. Bless me with the desire, follow-through, peace, clarity, knowledge, and wisdom to do this and not wait. Let me enjoy getting this done today. God deliver me from procrastination. God, please do the same for the writer of this prayer and EJspeaks. Thank You Jesus. Amen, so be it by faith.
You ain’t never lie 😭😭
Facts on facts on facts 💯
Amen 🙌
@@Encourager-Purpose-Destiny Amen and Amen...for me three! 🙏🏽🥰🙏🏽
I feel you girlfriend!
A couple of my mantras:
1. Done is better than perfect.
2. Progress over perfection
Thank you.❤
But that procrastination be procrastinating.
@@lisamcgriff4651 adding #1 to my list ... 2? I may as well get it tatted at this stage in my life lol bcz it's definitely a mantra in my life
I start everything and finish nothing because when I get bored I stop doing it. 😂😂
Oh my goodness! This is me! I get on my own nerves about it. It doesn’t matter what it is. Work, tv shows, hobbies, projects, etc. 🤦🏾♀️
@ sad part is I live alone my baby is 30 in her own place! Oh the shame.🤣🤦🏾♀️
@@mzsunshine91 you and me both
I do that and I get overwhelmed very easy...when I get overwhelmed it's over I'm done gaha
Gdm. @@mzsunshine91
Amen 2 being an empty Nester too.
I'ma procrastinator as well. Bc👀 I start'd declutter'n, get'n rid of stuff: old bills, papers mos.ago & I'm Still not finish'd with that task yet.🤦🏾
I def. need 2 shred old bills, papers, etc.😱😲So try'n 2 fig throw away things. But I Stop'd.
So why am I still Sav'n Old, Paid bill receipts, old🥳B-day/Christmas cards?? 🤦🏾🤷🏾😳🙂☺️😄😂🤭
If I, or some1 figs that out! Maybe me/other Women with same issues can get deliver'd & set free from hold'n on 2 old stuff: Old papers, cards, 🎁🎁,old clothes, & old 👠👠, 👟👟, 👡👡that I/we Don't wear any more, or for watever the reason may be.
1. Bc of Wt. gain/Loss or our clothes, shoes, 🧥 jackets just old & out dated. 🤦🏾🙎🏾🤷🏾
"Time is gonna Always keep its word." - Ejspeaks Barz
Ohhhhhhh, that was deep 😮
Ohhhhh, that was deep...
5 minute rule: if it can be done in 5 minutes or less, go ahead and do it
Use the calendar in your phone to keep track of all appointments, events, and stuff that you agree to do. I legit put “visit Mommy” on my calendar so I won’t give her time to somebody else
Sometimes you flat out have to write a list, put your phone on DND for 3 hours and just pound it out. Do that twice a week and you might actually get ahead
I work full time, attend grad school (graduating in December), and maintain and household by myself. I ain’t in no way got it all together but this helps me stay mostly on point… at least with the big stuff. Hope it helps somebody
THIS IS GOOD! The five minute rule is what i'm gonna implement first!
Thank you!
The 5 minute rule really helps. I have ADHD and sometimes, I have to say "Ok, this'll take 3 minutes" and I can hang onto that. But there's a surprising amount you can get done in even 3 minutes, and more often than not, I keep going since I've gotten over the hardest part - the starting.
The 5 min rule helps me so much! It’s the only way I can keep my house in check. I totally agree with you about setting time for even the simplest things
The five minute rule and the 3 hours pound it out is gonna help me! Thank you
In the Michael Jackson voice, “you are not alone…I am here with you…” seriously, many people look like they got it together and behind closed doors they do not! You’re in good company, it’s alright. And that song you wrote needs to be recorded! 💯
It's 1042pm on a Saturday night and I am watching these videos when I said I was going to declutter my office. Somebody send help my eyes are burning and I got church in the morning!
lol☺
Yas I feel you!!
Hopefully your state honors Day Light Saving Time ending. I get an hour to figure it out!!🎉😂🎉
It's 1:21 am and I'm laughing at this video, folding clothes and I got church in the morning too sis! 🤦🏾♀️
It's 1:21 am and I'm laughing at this video, folding clothes and I got church in the morning too sis! 🤦🏾♀️
Procrastination and I are Siamese twins. Whenever I have to do something hard, my inner Scarlett O’Hara comes out and says “I can’t think about that right now. I’ll think about it tomorrow.” I feel you, E. J.
I am you......hey twin!😅
Siamese TRIPLETS!! Inner Scarlett is REAL!! 🤦🏾♀️
@@jasirree Siamese quadruplets! I can't get it together to save my life right now!🤣
@@Twilight9278me either!!
Not Scarlett O'Hara! I love it!
Sis! I came down to your Baltimore show last weekend… FEEEEEEE NOMMM MIN ALLLLLLLL!!! The coordinated outfit was coordinated, the hair was hairing, the jokes was joking 😍😍😍😍 My sister and I had such a great time!! Who knew your daughter was grown??? I thought you had school age children!! Lol!! So good 🤗🥰😍👏🏾
It took me about 6 months to get halfway organized. I still have a ways to go, but here are some tricks I use for getting things done:
-Pray while I'm doing it.
-Try to do it as fast as I can.
-Break it up into smaller tasks.
-Reward myself for doing it.
-Listen to your Playlists to get my energy up.
Thank you 😊
Ooooo, very nice will be using
Good tips ! Espc the 1st one !!!
I can do ot of work done Plat some dance music like M C Hammer that will get u moving
I've stopped punishing myself for not getting it all done right away. I do the best I can each day and I remind myself that it's "good enough for now".
That is so true! Since I’m doing everything myself, even with others around. I just do what I can and give myself grace because I’m human, not a robot. I’m very organized but I’m tired too.
It's so important to be kind to oneself ❤🎉
You are not ALONE WITH THESE FEELINGS
Girl, I ain't got time for time! If my body don't feel like it, it's not getting done. I'm starting to accept that my brain and my body don't like each other all the time. They aren't the best of friends, so I can wait until they can be cordial to each other and work together so I can clean my bathroom and kitchen at least.😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂. Please send out a Teams meeting. When you figure this out, asking for a friend😉😉
My tip… don’t scroll on your phone, internet , or watch tv until the list is completed. Hopefully this helps someone 💕
I truly struggle with cleaning; I will start doing one thing and I'll see something else and then start cleaning that up and then I'll start cleaning something else and when I realize that I have several projects and now I'm in the midst of spring cleaning and everything is tore up and what started as an hour job has turned into an all day job😢.
Try one room a day and see if that works better for you. That way you're focused and feel a since if accomplishment.
HEAVY on the WE DONT CARE 😭
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The list had me rolling!
Hollerinnnnn bcz WE DONT tho 😅
One day I’m on top of the world. Another day the world on top of me but we live to see another day😅 in my 20’s I used to be that brow beating myself to get it all done but now in my 40’s I’m glad my back and knee not hurting 😭
Oh, how much we don't 🤦🏾♀️. I don't understand why the people who are super organized and live to take no breaks or relax, try to make others who don't operate that way feel bad about it.
I know there are areas that I need to improve on but, I will never want to wake up at 4:30am on a regular basis or be busy every minute of the day until bed time, NEVER!!! 🤷🏾♀️
0:40 this lil ole song tho... i felt erryyyyy lyric and snap bcz that's meeee af
We are just focusing on Christmas from this point on. 😂 HAPPY HOLIDAYS
Yay that actually motivates me 👍🏾
Happy holidays to you too 🍂🥧🎄🎀
Christmas??
That's literally tomorrow.😂
I feel so seen and violated at the same time. Cause how you all up in my business. This is me everyday. I have the best of intentions but baby… that’s all I got!!!
Right?!? Welcome. To. My. Life.
5:09 the way this video had me testifying wit my hands up like I was at alter call... honey bcz it's me and she is ME! I really hope YT'rs cannot see how many time ppl watch their videos bcz I laid on the replay button bcz it was speaking to me 🤭
Here seeking answers
Procrastination is my bestie
I’m 71 years young & I still struggle, I see the struggle gets more intense as I get older 🤣😂
"IT FEELS GOOD TO DO NOTHING." That sums it up right there! 😂💯🤷🏽♀️
Girl, you sangin' my theme song! I'm glad I ain't the only one be having whole conversations in my head thinking it really happened!
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And I have the AUDACITY to get mad at the other person for not responding. Smh Then look back at the thread and I done typed a whole message and didn’t hit send. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️😮 Help me Lawd!!!
ADHD executive function disorder. I struggle with this and was JUST diagnosed in my 40s. I pushed through and seemed normal for most of my life, but it started getting worse so I sought help. Meds, counseling, cleaning and organizing tricks for ADHD and YT/tiktok channels for ADHD and neurodivergent adults help
The first thing I thought was "The solution? Ritalin!". This is so me and same, I didn't get diagnosed until my 40s. They seriously missed a few generations of women, didn't they? I can't take meds, so yup, it's down to the ADHDers who've figured out some tricks that help me.
Baby! Just got diagnosed at 36, smh I knew something was just a little different with me. Not wrong but different. Between meds, counseling and working out, I’m gradually getting better. Finally my mind is clear 😩
Two of my tricks is setting a timer to see how much I can complete and a set of 🎲 I roll to determine what task to complete.
YES!!!!!!! Late diagnosed ADHD, it’s a THING!!!! We need to talk about this more!
Same here, in my 40’s. Clocks and timers are my obsession!
@@FromEricaWithLoveTHIS! It is not spoken of, we just struggled through decades and no one really notices. They prefer to call you a “hot mess”. It’s disheartening.
😂😂❤❤❤ !! As The mom with the calendars, alarms AND Post-it Notes allllll over the house, still showing up for others in this season should be considered a FULL BLESSING!! It’s the finger snaps EJ! We see you Queen!
Baby, procrastination is my SOULMATE! That right there is my other half! My animal spirit, the feng to ma shui!!! 😅😅😅
Sounds like me, I let stuff pile up till I have so much to do, that I do nothing, then I tackle one thing at a time 😂❤️
Same.😂
I felt this deep down in my soul !! You are most definitely not alone. I have clothes in the laubdry basket (been sitting there for a week now) waiting to be put away, I have assignments to do for a class I'm taking for work (taking an ESOL class...I'm a 1st grade teacher), we just finished dealing with the aftermath of a hot water tank leak at home, and the list can truly go on and on. Some days I do absolutely NOTHING because I am so overwhelmed. When I have the wherewithall to do something, I choose 3-4 things to do for the day and leave it at that (I make a list )!! I try to journal each evening to get stuff off my mind. Do what you can when you can and try (easier said than done I know) not to stress about what hasn't been done. That's what I've been telling the new teachers on my grade level. I watch your videos when I need a good laugh and a break from day to day ish. Love your content :)
Girl, SAME. All of it. Envelopes, unfinished/unstarted projects, missed appointments...SAME😮💨
You’re definitely not alone. Take one day at a time and do your best. Some days you’ll get things done and some days you won’t and it’s okay. Thank you for the laughter, I always look forward to your videos. 💕🌞
Girl how you know my words& put em to rhythm? I instantly was like damn girl, how you git in my head?? Cuz a mess is definitely me..but I still feel blessed because "HE" woke me up to see another day! Praise Jah!
" Time is always going to keep it's word" 💭
What is really working for me is putting things on the calendar and blocking off "nothing time" so that I can breathe. Then when people ask me to do something I send them the calendar and tell them if they can find a spot and the amount of time fits the task I will do it. If not then the verbiage used includes: I apologize that request cannot be fulfilled, please select the next available time.
I'm doing this!
I too have 18 journals and 17 calendars! 😂
It's me too!!! Me and procrastination ARE 1st cousins! I am struggling with time management!
Vocals are flowing like water 💧
I think I saw some other comments about getting tested for ADHD. I highly recommend that as well. I identified with EVERYTHING you said… EVERYTHING. This past summer I stopped wondering and got tested and it was so eye opening for me. Now between the therapy and medications I see some light ahead. Oh and it you have started to join the perimenopause train, that will accentuate the symptoms. So many girls and women fail to get this diagnosis since we tend to present differently than the stereotypical ADHD known symptoms. Watching my 9 yr old daughter helped me to see myself. Like you, I can be booked and busy and have some things “together” but the lack of executive function skills wrecks havoc on my time management and organizational skills and makes my flight or fight yield more freeze. The procrastination and analysis paralysis are very real. ❤
I'm right there with you EJ!
JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL(🙏🏽)❤️
You are preaching to the choir. You are overwhelmed and your mind is taking a vacation. I have been struggling with home repairs for two months my suggestion is complete one task at a time. Tackle easiest to hardest. Celebrate the small wins you got this girl. Wishing you the best for all your shows I pray God continues to shower you with blessings. My only suggestion for an alarm clock is purchase one that rolls off your nightstand so you have no choice but to get up.
1. My life.👆🏾👆🏾👆🏾
2. “Don’t come in here all judgey!”👊🏾
2. I 💜 EJ.🥰😂✊🏾
As I'm listening to you now, I have laundry on bed, that needs to be folded, furniture that needs t/b dusted, but nah, I'll finish tomorrow. ❤❤❤
🎶🎶 Time keeps on ticking into the future 🎶🎶 ……. I can relate 😂😂. We’ll get it together 😂😂
I learned that procrastination and CPTSD go hand-in-hand. Now that I've got a better understanding of the reasons behind the procrastination, I'm better at setting and meeting goals. I'm also better at acknowledging my limits. For example, I will pay someone else to do it now instead of trying to do it myself "later."
If I’m delayed doing anything,I see it as a blessing that I was being protected from something bad like an accident,an annoying coworker,etc.
Forgot about a dentist appointment, Tuh-Day!! 😅 Was on my calendar and everything...Knew about it at 10:30 am this morning and had forgotten by 2:30 this afternoon!
Make a list and stick to it. Don't try to do everything at once. When the alarm goes off GET UP once you get up start moving you will get things done. Mix easy and more difficult things so you won't get overwhelmed. Procrastination is awful. It just induces stress, anxiety, and hopelessness.
This is me 2:07 😂..watched this video 10 times instead of getting in the kitchen 😂 i need help!
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Ej we just don’t be caring our peace is so much more important to us these days 😊! Girl you had me laughing 🤣🤣🤣
Yep. Dats me. Yep. There stuff that needs to be completed BUTTTT if I just write it in the calendar, set my alarm, and put it on the to do list I MIGHT GET IT DONE BY THE END OF THE YEAR. I THINK!
Don’t get me wrong I am very successful, I own 4 companies, help in the community, and am almost finished with my Master’s Degree in clinical mental health counseling….., but I have too much.
We renewed our views in May. I put the picture frames up and ain’t put one picture in them yet.
I'm supposed to be exercising as I watch this, but instead I've been cleaning my room and ripping the pages out of 6 journals of unkept commitments to myself 😅. It's a new month though, we can do it! Recommit to 3 small, achievable goals for your wellbeing ✨️
Baby sistah most of us struggle in some area. I'm 60, 61 in March, no husband or children, I procrastinate a lot. I usually have seasons of getting things in the order I prefer, then I slip, slide or whatever back to procrastination. Keep trying to improve and prioritize. I think sometimes we just want to arrive and stay in that place. Nope, life continues and there's always something to be done. I can't remember a time since my college days that my laundry has been caught up, that's my biggest ongoing procrastination chore. Bless you my dear sistah, enjoy life and loved ones as much as you can ✌🏾
Sooo true my time management tip is to never wait. If there's something that's stopping you from moving forward do other things in the meantime, if you're waiting on something to finish do something in the meantime, if you don't feel like doing a thing do something else you do feel like doing in the time.
Next tip is if it takes less than 3 minutes to do just do it so that these things don't pile up
Aaayyyeee 🎶 I was grooving!
EJ those vocals are top tier!!!!! Keep it up! As for time management, do what you can every day - doesn't have to be big, just something small. The key is EVERY DAY. Be consistent with it. If you are too tired, then rest. Give yourself an hour or so (set a timer), then come back to it. If you are really stressing, then don't do it. Take 'me' time seriously and put the phone on do not disturb. And relax, take deep breaths, meditate.....whatever you need to do to get yourself centered. It might be a nap! But do it. You can't operate from an empty cup. Be blessed ❤❤❤❤
Ma'am!!!!! This is me..am I proud? No, but it is what it is. 😊
Preach 👏🏽 Sometimes my alarm goes off and I just say no, not now, ... later. Will be alright. We'll get it done when it needs to get done. ❤️
Prioritize. Avoid social media (set limits), choose one or two things per day, set a time to do it, and do it. I have a monthly calendar (kitchen and bathroom ) have all my appointments, and family appointments, in the kitchen a monthly, weekly, and daily calendar (Temu has great ones for the refrigerator). Everything goes on my calendars, church event, movie dates etc…kedos me focused. Lastly, don't beat myself.
Girl, when you move on up like the Jeffersons you have to get an Assistant. You not ordinary folk no more.
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I used to feel the same way, but now I keep a to-do list that has a mix of small and larger tasks. For example, I'll add quick things like sweeping the porch, cleaning the bathroom mirror, or dusting the TV, but I also include bigger tasks like sending emails, washing the walls, or cleaning out the fridge. My goal is to complete at least one thing each day. If I’m feeling low-energy, I tackle an easy task. If I've had my morning mocha before 5 a.m., I’ll try to do a few easy ones and maybe a challenging one, too. Crossing things off, no matter the size, gives me a sense of accomplishment.
Twiiiiiinnn... where have you been??!! Meeeee toooooo. I have 20- 11 calendars....and STILL not ready/on time/ organized... #Procrastination
The struggle is real for me too, in my head a lot of it is done, but in real life am struggling, send me help too😂
If I had a confessional in my house this is exactly what would be said in it! WE DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR CLOTHES IRONED FOR THE WEEK 🤣🤣🤣🤣 OR YOUR MEAL PLANNED AND PREPPED FOR THE WEEK, EITHER.
I’m sorry for yelling- this struck a chord!
Good luck packing- you are going to look Fabulous in whatever you put in your bag- or pick up on the way to the show! God Bless you! You make my day at least once a week! I can never say thank you enough for the laughs!
We all need executive assistants.
LOL! Love you! Ok, listen, you are going on your trip to PA for Nov. 10. Don't stress out about not being packed. Packed on the day before. You don't have to be constantly thinking about it. I learned that procrastination is a trauma response and I used to always procrastinate and think I was so bad about it. Now I think about it, like, I will do it when it needs to be done, but not think about it all the time. Procrastination = trauma. Have a plan to pack the day before and you are ALL GOOD!!! Love you!
Been procrastinating since 2020 😢 the trauma of it all 😂
You are NOT alone ma'am....FOR REAL!
You are not alone. Yes, I struggle with time management. No, I don’t have any tips. Yes, I just keep trying because…that’s what we do. We gotta at least try!🤣
EJ got bars!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
1) As for tips, Post-it Notes are my best friend! I make a task list of what I need to do for that day. Write a new list for each day. For the items that did not get accomplished the day before, just roll it over to the next day’s list.
2) For your appointments, put them all in your calendar in your phone. Give it a 30 or 45 minute before the appointment alert so your notification will give you at least 30 minutes to get there if you forgot and so happened to be out and about running errands.
Why is this ALL OF US?!?!??!
I went to a seminar called the 'Happier Hour' to help manage my time to see where I'm focusing my time. THE SEMINAR was so fantastic.....i left so energized, so pumped. I needed to fill this one paper out of what I did for the week............... that was 6 months ago...........Yeah........ here we are again
Just know that you are not alone! As a matter of fact, an folding clothes that I washed Tuesday or Wednesday on today, Saturday. I received a reminder for an appointment for one of my children next week. Hope I don't forget that.
“I gotta start respecting time” that is the realest statement ever spoken
I, like many, also struggle. I have my daily “must do’s” and separate list of “want to do’s”. If the “must do’s” and one “want to do” is all that gets done, I’m satisfied. If I can only do the “must do’s”, I give myself grace.
My body sometimes just doesn’t cooperate. I outsource/delegate what I can (cleaning service/grocery pick up or delivery, cooking, etc.). When I am feeling well, I do as much on the “want to do’s” list as I can without overwhelming/exhausting myself. My priorities are focused on maintaining/improving my health and wellbeing and on my family. I have no problem saying “No” and “I’m not going to be able to make it”.
Answering in my head is my thing!! I do this ALL THE TIME!! 😂😂😂❤❤❤
“I see like a record deal in my near future” 😆😆😆😆
If procrastination was an Olympic sport, forget gold-I’d win the platinum medal every time.
For me, sometimes it’s literally just laziness, but sometimes it’s my depression in full swing. I’m learning how to give myself credit for whatever I am able to accomplish- especially in those times of feeling mentally or emotionally drained. ♥️
Aw lil neurodivergent EJ!!! I feel you girl!!!! Check off lists on my phone really help! I use the Notes app on my iPhone. Building & sticking to a schedule everyday has worked for me. But it has also taken like 9 years of my partner trying & trying & trying with me! So ummm yeah. I hope this helps. Oh! I also arrive at my appointments SUPER EARLY so I’m not rushed, panicked, and sweaty when I get there. Respecting time is the most important tho , ngl
You are PREACHING!!!! The struggle is real, real, real - but we keep trying one day at a time, Lawd!!!
Gurl I’m 😂just like you 😂😂😂 WE gotta do better lord if them journals 📓 and calendars 🗓️ ain’t me!! Hi 👋🏽 I’m Paula and I’m a Journal 📓 Junkie🤣🤣🤣🤣
Facts👏. At the end of the day, I have done so much but have COMPLETED nothing! Some people keep shopping receipts in the pocket of their hand bag. But mine is full of to do lists that that didn’t get done. 🙄
Let me first say I live by the saying "tomorrow is a new day". I allow myself grace and compassion. Had to learn that. Depending on what needs to be done, I'll turn on a series. Episodes no longer than 45 minutes, the shorter the better. After each episode, pickup, put away, fold, wash etc 5-10 things. Repeat. I like to play video games. Almost same rules. When I get out or pass a level, accompolish 5-10 things. Nothing longer than 1 hour. My reward is getting to play again. Usually works for me. I learned if I don't allow my brain this compromise, I'm gonna lose the whole battle. Hope this helps someone.
THIS IS ME! I feel like this happens because I have no one to help us as we are the helper to many. My job, I'm the admin, home, in the wife and mom, my family - aging and need help, friends, say I'm the one that knows all the tricks and resources. I'm tired and unmotivated. I don't even think I can organize my life.
Singing to myself "I will never want to" to the tune of "I will always love you" like Dolly and Whitney. If I don't want to do it now, why do I think I'm suddenly gonna change my mind about it? This helps with quick stuff like putting something away instead of just putting it down, moving the clothes to the dryer as soon as the washer is done, refilling the hand soap pump when I see it's empty, etc.
I, too, struggle with multiple priorities. What has helped me the most is to focus on the non-negotiables (aka the big stones). For instance, I don’t do well if I don’t get my rest so I make sure whatever I have planned doesn’t compromise my sleep quality.
I am going through a very difficult, painful time in my life…your videos always make me smile or chuckle. Always. Even if it’s just for a moment. You are so relatable and real. Thank you for sharing the everyday. We need another Ms. Jackie video soon. 😉
Ayee! 🎉🎶🎸right after you said my best!!! So glad you speaking to this in comedic truthful detail!! Love you for this affirmation we're not alone! How do you say it, seem to understand it, and can't apply! EJ you broke it down! Hope you/we get help! And tell them judgy folks please!
Time is always going to keep it's word! I agree wholeheartedly with you on that one, i struggle with just getting up on time
I don't have it all together, but I do manage to get many things done. Here's one thing I always told my sons as I raised them, and I tell my granddaughter now, AND I do this myself. Here's the rule: *"Always Protect Your Goof Off Time!"* What that means is, *we do what we are supposed to do FIRST, so that we can have uninterrupted goof off time **_afterwards._* If the dishes need to be done, don't go watch a show or play a game or whatever, then have to rush and get the dishes done. *Go Do The Dishes NOW, **_then you can play without stopping._*
Saturday, I was so tired. Went to pick up meds, grocery shop, take the trash out, etc. I come back in and I wanted to sit down and watch the entire series of *Agatha All Along* (Lord, have mercy, that show is so good!). When I got back, I realized I hadn't done the dishes, and I needed to do my meal prep for the week. I was tired!!! And I went to sit down, picked up the remote, and remembered my own rule (I was mad for a hot second). I got back up, did the dishes, cleaned the kitchen, and spent the next two hours doing meal prep. When that was done, I sat down and barely moved for six hours!!! *Always Protect Your Goof Off Time **_By Doing What You Need To Do FIRST._*
Ps: After finishing in the kitchen, I also took a shower and put on my comfy Christmas pajamas. That way I wouldn't have to move _at all._ I'm telling you! Protect that goof off time! 🤗
I leave a to do list on my desk everyday, for the next day, bc I am forgetful. Still sometimes I don’t get everything done. I try to start with the small things first. The bigger things come later bc then I’ll have more time. Also, be kind to yourself. Any accomplishment that day is good.❤
Yes, I feel the mess. I’m there too. I have work to finish but I worked all day, cooked dinner and have to take care of the 2 smallest of my four kids. I’ve tapped out which is why I’m on this video instead of doing the work I need to finish. It just feels good right now to drink my smoothie and watch your videos.
I built a digital download around this called task animal. The main thing is to understand how you're wired to succeed and leverage that. Once you understand you at that level, you'll even know how to turn on motivation whenever you need it.
Girl... get them kids to work.... 4 YOU!! It has changed my whole world.
True true!
I heard Scarlett Cochran say we should show up for ourselves like it’s a regular meeting with anyone else. I’ve learned that I’m so much more productive when I’m full (when I’ve showed up in private). So I fill up before I show up. That means time with God and time with me come first. It looks different every day but the priority is always the same. I can show up with a full cup and what’s in the cup is for me. When I’m consistent, everyone I meet drinks from the saucer, not my cup. It also helps when I tie the task or meeting a bigger goal. It’s like I create buzz in my own head and look forward to the task so much I don’t forget. We can lose sight of small tasks if we forget the big picture.
Cousin! You just described my ADHD. I am time-blind and honestly a LOT of help comes from my Japanese husband who is time sensitive (if you're not at least 5 mins early, then you are late type). I am still figuring it out at 38yrs old, but here are some hacks that help me: 1) start timing stuff that you know you have to do regularly (like cook or clean) to create a realistic log of how long you take, so you understand for the future if you plan to do x,y,z you will actually know how long it will really take (cuz recipes be lying). 2) Reverse engineer what you want to do. Assign yourself 1-2 important things that you need to do (but don't want to) and make SOME time in your day to make progress on them (try to do them in the first half of your day), and immediately reward yourself with something for making some progress. I actually watch your videos as part of my reward system after completing something productive (like work on my business, clean something, etc). So thank you for helping me make progress! You got this sis! 3) Block out time to do nothing on your schedule regularly to keep from over scheduling yourself. The reality of my struggle is still that I think I can do more in 1 day than what is actually realistic, so it helps me to keep track of what I do more than it helps to spend too much time planning. The track record becomes proof that I actually did get something done, and helps me realize how LONG stuff really takes which helps my planning to get a little more closer to what is realistic. Then I can say, "no, I can't do it"or "I ain't got time for that" with more confidence. 😂
Honey, I'm just tired!! Perimenopause got me in a chokehold, and I am fighting for my mind, body, and soul on a daily basis! The only thing I'm on time for now is rest but sleep is evading me!🤦🏾♀️
Why are you in my head and my house? This is me, and me is you! Yes, me is you! Child, I make notes for notes, calendars, and phone reminders... still can't get it together. Maybe I am just lazy, but organized, I AM NOT. 😫 If Chaos was a character on Inside Out, it would be cloned from me. Smh.