I got saved at 22 years old. I was then busy growing in the Lord, becoming strong in the faith, evangelizing door to door, discipling others, etc. and had no desires or urges. Marriage was not even on my radar until well into my 30's. Nothing wrong with that. If you're walking in the Spirit, you'll know if and when. Everything happens in God's timing regardless of age. Some men may not be ready spiritually to lead a family as it's a man's ultimate responsibility to ensure the spiritual wellness of his family and the church is second to that.
5 Reasons Why Men Should Marry: 1. Fulfilling God’s Design For Companionship 1:33 2. Sanctification and Growth in Holiness 3:53 3. Raising Godly Offspring 5:17 4. Reflecting Christ and the Church 7:06 5. Experiencing Joy and Fulfillment 8:34
First off, I am a woman, so I know I'm not the target audience here. This comment applies to both men and women. I have all respect for Brother Virgil. But the statistics he gave didn't specify WHY these men are not married. That's a huge issue! There's a world of difference between someone who doesn't want to get married and someone who desperately want to be married, but there's no one available. Please, please, please, married people, understand that.
You make a valid point. I am married and I fully understand you. I, fortunately, got married many years ago when feminism hadn't destroyed the relationship between men and women. My wife and I have two close women friends who are our age and not married and we see what they are going through.
Next week, I'll publish an article focusing on this topic from a female perspective. Statistics indicate a declining interest in marriage among men. However, among those who do seek marriage, many report difficulties in finding a suitable partner. I explore this issue further in a separate piece.
@@jonthrelkeld2910 Part of me wishes a return to old fashioned things like families arranging marriages. Or maybe churches getting involved in "match making"? I don't know how any of this could be put in practice in today's world. All I know is there are faithful Christian men who wish to be married. There are faithful Christian women who wish to be married. But somehow they are not finding one another.
Bible, Bible, Bible, Bible. That's all I needed to hear about this matter. It makes me very sad every now and then to be alone. Today I was crying because of that, so I prayed. I have been reluctant to pray for God to provide a wife. And as a Sola Scriptura Christian believer that I am I needed to know from God's Word if I needed to pray for a wife. Just got my answer here. I will pray for it starting right after typing this comment.
Questions to get answers on: What even is marriage really? What qualifies one for marriage? What can a guy do to increase his marriageability? How about for women?
There's a lot I can say about this and one of the think it's completely tone deaf if you're trying to address single unmarried young men in the church. Yes the marriage covenant that the Lord has created for us is beautiful and is a sanctifying relationship. I just wish I could find someone i could have it with. As a young single man who still lives with his parents, it's demoralizing to always come across churches that assume something is wrong with me because I don't have anyone. Speaking more generally, what about the economy and my income? What about the dating scene as a whole right now? Doesn't Paul say it's better for us to be single? I've grown up as someone who wasn't well put together and it's caused me to grow up to be less mature than I want right now. I don't think I'm ready. But I wish I was. So I'm trying but no one acknowledges this from a single man who's nearly 30. I'm trying hard but feel so discouraged because not only does the church idolize marriage but I do too and I'm trying not to
So, something that was helpful for me, as a single until my early thirties man, was the Dear Dawson series over on Blog and Mablog. I'd see if watching those gives you a little help and knowledge.
Then, find solid churches that will discipline both male and female members. If you need to use online, trying Dominion dating if you're more Reformed. But work on getting yourself together as well. Paul does not say singleness is a gift, it can be useful in period of persecution, but the gift is celibacy for those who are called to it.
@@rhondae8222 What's the context of the passage though, when paired with Jesus' saying that not all can bear being unmarried? All things are gifts, but is prolonged singleness a gift with affliction in general, or not? Praise God in all circumstances, but that doesn't mean some are not hard.
I recommend you move out of your parents' house even if you have to get several roommates. A grown man living at home does not inspire confidence from a woman's perspective. Moving out of your parents' house signals your intent to take charge of your life. I'm a puny chic, and that's what I had to do in the beginning, so I know you can do it. Also, quality girls aren't attracted to guys who make a lot of excuses for their circumstances.
I’ve been married for 34 years. I agree that marriage is a good thing for men and with the benfitial statistics spoken to in this video. I see and hear videos such as this talking to mean all the time. My issue is that the church is not teaching women what it means to be a Godly wife. We need to teach BOTH. The Bible is pretty clear that being in a bad marriage (e.g. being married to a women that competes with you and tries to rule the man) is NOT GOOD. Unfortunately, I’ve seen that and experienced that. The sad thing is, when I try to speak the truth of what the Bible says, even the weak men in the church (including pastors) won’t stand up and speak biblical truth because they don’t want to make their women angry.
But people are having sex, so why are they not marrying? Marriage is not for everyone but is fornication? It's better to encourage marriage if you've ever had sex before. If you're a Virgin, then dedicate your life to the Lord until you find your spouse.
What I'm saying is the fact that people are having sex before marriage. So they are living in sin by fornicating. This singleness people speak of is sleeping around with multiple people without marriage. Marriage is a gift, and celibacy is a gift from God. But we both know that the majority of people have had sex so they should marry as they dont have the gift of celibacy and being a virgin anymore. Since the majority are having sex before marriage they should be getting married since they don't have the gift of celibacy.
@@christophergregory6963 "This singleness people speak of is sleeping around with multiple people without marriage." Thank you! Singleness does not necessarily equal celibacy. This point needs to be clarified in whatever studies/polls are being examined. And, as you say, if people are finding sexual partners, why aren't they marrying? That makes zero sense to me. And it removes ANY sympathy I have for such a person. My sympathy lies with those who are TRULY alone. Don't tell me, "I can't find someone to marry", while you're out slutting around! Please. Worst of all, don't claim you're a Christian while doing so!
All i know is sin is the issue with all humans. We all sin against each other. Men blame women women blame men. We can all look in the mirror, stop complaining, and see were all responsible. Our sin effects each other whether we see it or not. If we would humble ourselves turn from our wicked ways and seek His face then well hear from heaven, He will forgive our sins and heal the land.
I am sorry that has been what you have seen and experienced (no accountability to the wife for her sin). Maybe the problem is the churches lack of teaching on the roles of the wife and husband. This should be discussed in premarital counseling. Voddie baucham has written "what he must be", and "what she must be". Susan Heck has also written a book for wives.
Countries and cultures come and go through history. It's always the same pattern. A country's birth rate goes down, marriage goes out the window, children are not born, and another country's culture is affluent with children and marriages, and eventually the countries that have marriage and children, yes physically conquer, through war, the weak countries without the children, they don't have enough warrior men. Technology does not matter at the end, at the collapse, a culture cannot survive without warrior men. This cycle takes hundreds of years but the end result is always the same. The countries with marriages and lots of children become significantly prosperous and then dominate and conquer the countries that cast marriage and children out of their culture. The US is on this path.
Thank you G3 for posting these recent videos. I love these discussion style videos. This topic was spot on. Praise God. BTW, I had to create a TH-cam folder for the videos 🙏🏾
Getting married or not should be between God and yourself. There is plenty of scripture that supports that marriage is not for everyone. I don’t think anyone should be forced into marriage or feel they are not fulfilling Gods will if they don’t get married. There are way too many people getting married outside of Gods will.
If you’re given the gift of celibacy than you don’t need marriage but if you’re giving yourself up to fornication then you are committing sexual immorality. Either get married or no sex. Straight up no gray areas on this.
This is an interesting message but fails to acknowledge why men are not marrying. It's like we're hearing,"All you bad men out there that are damaging society by not getting married - you go get married !" It isn't that simple. It's also easy for a ministry spokesman to advocate for men to marry when men of all stripes, including Christian men, are simply realizing it isn't worth all the pain, financial loss, emotional damage and emasculation that many marriages have. The host should be asking,"What are women, in churhc or out, doing to exacerbate the problem ?" The truth is, millions of men in our country are constantly emasculated daily by their wives, criticized, run down, and in many "Christian" marriages, the wives are constantly trying to beat the husband's God-given headship out of them so they can have it. Countless evangelical pastors refuse to call sin sin in the lives of women in their churches. They just won't go there, and most evangelical pastors, when doing marriage counseling, regardless of when there is clear guilt on the wife's part for wrong in the marriage, will automatically side with the wife. Spineless ? Yes. So, what is a man to do ? Men aren't lookng for pain, they're looking to live peacefully with their wives. Most wives (and there are exceptions) turn the home into a battleground daily. When a husband gets home from work, he needs peace and quiet, not war. This host needs to get outside the four walls of a church environment and see what is really going on with men.
None of this is an excuse for disobedience to what the Lord has ordained. Yes, there are exceptions like The Apostle Paul, but in the main we are supposed to be married! I'm sick and tired of the me first attitude that has shoved it's way into the church. It needs to stop. Young men, if you are not married, seek a godly wife! Young women, if you are not married seek a godly husband.
@@suzannetegart8077there is no command from God to get married , only if you burn with passion so that you do not commit fornication. Marriage ain’t all that great.
The host should be asking,"What are women, in churhc or out, doing to exacerbate the problem ?" Everything is always the woman's fault, right? Honestly, I never realized until really the last few years, how many supposedly Christian men HATE women.
@@suzannetegart8077 Please stop acting like marriage is something you can go out and DO. You can't create a suitable person if one is not there. But let's say you do everything in your power to find someone. You move, change churches, join singles' groups, ask friends/family if they know someone, join websites/apps, get a makeover, work on your social skills - you do anything and everything you can think to do. Even then, even if there is someone that interests you and that even other people think may be a good match for you, you still cannot MAKE that person fall in love with you and wish to marry you! Stop acting like marriage is always a choice.
First of marriage is not for everyone, Paul made that clear. Second, this post does nothing to explore why men are not getting married, your not necessarily convince a man of marriage benefits if all he's known (personally and 2nd hand) are negative experiences and heard viewpoints which directly counter those benefits you mentioned.
It’s true that every 13 minutes a car accident happens in the United States. Many with significant and life altering injuries. However, no one advocates walking over driving. The encouragement is always driving more safely.
This is not going to change anything, the world has fallen so low and derp into immoral chaos that the only thing to save it is a return to God. There is a reason marriage will be in heaven.
You mention God alot here. And his designs. But government designs are destroying Gods designs. Here is a simple solution: get rid of gov authority from marriage and we got a deal. Also, return authority to men, none of that feminism garbage Until then.....good luck
Also the lack of children and marriages could be Gods judgment. Theres also difficulty in married people with children not raising their children in the fear of the Lord. Marriages not growing in Christ. So many consequences for sin but our Lord is our redeemer.
Absolutely! I have heard stories of people who started with little or no knowledge but managed to emerge victorious thanks to Ana Graciela Blackwelder.
I got saved at 22 years old. I was then busy growing in the Lord, becoming strong in the faith, evangelizing door to door, discipling others, etc. and had no desires or urges. Marriage was not even on my radar until well into my 30's. Nothing wrong with that. If you're walking in the Spirit, you'll know if and when. Everything happens in God's timing regardless of age. Some men may not be ready spiritually to lead a family as it's a man's ultimate responsibility to ensure the spiritual wellness of his family and the church is second to that.
5 Reasons Why Men Should Marry:
1. Fulfilling God’s Design For Companionship 1:33
2. Sanctification and Growth in Holiness 3:53
3. Raising Godly Offspring 5:17
4. Reflecting Christ and the Church 7:06
5. Experiencing Joy and Fulfillment 8:34
Godly marriages are very good.
Ungodly marriages are terrible.
Most marriages I've seen fall heavily into the latter category.
I would say 90% of Christian marriages fall into the latter.
First off, I am a woman, so I know I'm not the target audience here. This comment applies to both men and women. I have all respect for Brother Virgil. But the statistics he gave didn't specify WHY these men are not married. That's a huge issue! There's a world of difference between someone who doesn't want to get married and someone who desperately want to be married, but there's no one available. Please, please, please, married people, understand that.
You make a valid point. I am married and I fully understand you. I, fortunately, got married many years ago when feminism hadn't destroyed the relationship between men and women. My wife and I have two close women friends who are our age and not married and we see what they are going through.
Next week, I'll publish an article focusing on this topic from a female perspective. Statistics indicate a declining interest in marriage among men. However, among those who do seek marriage, many report difficulties in finding a suitable partner. I explore this issue further in a separate piece.
@@VirgilWlkr Excellent, thank you!
@@jonthrelkeld2910 Part of me wishes a return to old fashioned things like families arranging marriages. Or maybe churches getting involved in "match making"? I don't know how any of this could be put in practice in today's world. All I know is there are faithful Christian men who wish to be married. There are faithful Christian women who wish to be married. But somehow they are not finding one another.
I am divorced. My ex-husband is not a believer and left me to marry someone else. Yes, it is hard to meet a brother in Christ who wants to marry.
Bible, Bible, Bible, Bible. That's all I needed to hear about this matter. It makes me very sad every now and then to be alone. Today I was crying because of that, so I prayed. I have been reluctant to pray for God to provide a wife. And as a Sola Scriptura Christian believer that I am I needed to know from God's Word if I needed to pray for a wife. Just got my answer here. I will pray for it starting right after typing this comment.
Great video Elder Virgil. Love to see elders who know the Word and use it as the foundation of which to talk about important issues.
Questions to get answers on:
What even is marriage really?
What qualifies one for marriage?
What can a guy do to increase his marriageability? How about for women?
Virgil Walker . . . A true blessing in this evil world. Thank God for this man!!
There's a lot I can say about this and one of the think it's completely tone deaf if you're trying to address single unmarried young men in the church. Yes the marriage covenant that the Lord has created for us is beautiful and is a sanctifying relationship. I just wish I could find someone i could have it with.
As a young single man who still lives with his parents, it's demoralizing to always come across churches that assume something is wrong with me because I don't have anyone. Speaking more generally, what about the economy and my income? What about the dating scene as a whole right now? Doesn't Paul say it's better for us to be single? I've grown up as someone who wasn't well put together and it's caused me to grow up to be less mature than I want right now. I don't think I'm ready. But I wish I was. So I'm trying but no one acknowledges this from a single man who's nearly 30.
I'm trying hard but feel so discouraged because not only does the church idolize marriage but I do too and I'm trying not to
So, something that was helpful for me, as a single until my early thirties man, was the Dear Dawson series over on Blog and Mablog. I'd see if watching those gives you a little help and knowledge.
Then, find solid churches that will discipline both male and female members. If you need to use online, trying Dominion dating if you're more Reformed. But work on getting yourself together as well.
Paul does not say singleness is a gift, it can be useful in period of persecution, but the gift is celibacy for those who are called to it.
@@rhondae8222 What's the context of the passage though, when paired with Jesus' saying that not all can bear being unmarried? All things are gifts, but is prolonged singleness a gift with affliction in general, or not? Praise God in all circumstances, but that doesn't mean some are not hard.
I recommend you move out of your parents' house even if you have to get several roommates. A grown man living at home does not inspire confidence from a woman's perspective. Moving out of your parents' house signals your intent to take charge of your life. I'm a puny chic, and that's what I had to do in the beginning, so I know you can do it. Also, quality girls aren't attracted to guys who make a lot of excuses for their circumstances.
I’ve been married for 34 years. I agree that marriage is a good thing for men and with the benfitial statistics spoken to in this video. I see and hear videos such as this talking to mean all the time. My issue is that the church is not teaching women what it means to be a Godly wife. We need to teach BOTH. The Bible is pretty clear that being in a bad marriage (e.g. being married to a women that competes with you and tries to rule the man) is NOT GOOD. Unfortunately, I’ve seen that and experienced that. The sad thing is, when I try to speak the truth of what the Bible says, even the weak men in the church (including pastors) won’t stand up and speak biblical truth because they don’t want to make their women angry.
But people are having sex, so why are they not marrying? Marriage is not for everyone but is fornication? It's better to encourage marriage if you've ever had sex before. If you're a Virgin, then dedicate your life to the Lord until you find your spouse.
You need to read scripture and see what God is saying about Marriage there is no but or and if
What I'm saying is the fact that people are having sex before marriage. So they are living in sin by fornicating. This singleness people speak of is sleeping around with multiple people without marriage. Marriage is a gift, and celibacy is a gift from God. But we both know that the majority of people have had sex so they should marry as they dont have the gift of celibacy and being a virgin anymore. Since the majority are having sex before marriage they should be getting married since they don't have the gift of celibacy.
@@christophergregory6963
"This singleness people speak of is sleeping around with multiple people without marriage."
Thank you! Singleness does not necessarily equal celibacy. This point needs to be clarified in whatever studies/polls are being examined.
And, as you say, if people are finding sexual partners, why aren't they marrying? That makes zero sense to me. And it removes ANY sympathy I have for such a person. My sympathy lies with those who are TRULY alone. Don't tell me, "I can't find someone to marry", while you're out slutting around! Please. Worst of all, don't claim you're a Christian while doing so!
Now, this explain why, as a woman, I'm single
All i know is sin is the issue with all humans. We all sin against each other. Men blame women women blame men. We can all look in the mirror, stop complaining, and see were all responsible. Our sin effects each other whether we see it or not. If we would humble ourselves turn from our wicked ways and seek His face then well hear from heaven, He will forgive our sins and heal the land.
I am sorry that has been what you have seen and experienced (no accountability to the wife for her sin). Maybe the problem is the churches lack of teaching on the roles of the wife and husband. This should be discussed in premarital counseling. Voddie baucham has written "what he must be", and "what she must be". Susan Heck has also written a book for wives.
Excellent
Uncle Virgil has wisdom!
No sex before marriage. Marriage isn't for everyone. But if you are having sex you should marry.
Indeed, while there are exceptions, marriage is designed for the vast majority of society, serving as the primary audience.
Correct, especially if you are a believer wanting to obey God.
Sir, if you're having sex outside of marriage you should repent. Not get married.
Please post the companion video, “What Most Women Today Get WRONG About Marriage” - e.g., does she want to get married, or does she want to be a wife?
Stop by next week and you'll hear the companion video.
If you're a married woman, you're a wife. Good grief.
@@VirgilWlkrlooking forward to it.
If you not living a bad life what is wrong with staying alone? Society tries to rush people that is why people make wrong choices
Young men need to hear this and not listen to Andrew Tate
YES! That man is NO fan of women.
If a purpose for marriage is sanctification, does this mean that unmarried people are less holy? I dont see this in scripture...
Countries and cultures come and go through history. It's always the same pattern. A country's birth rate goes down, marriage goes out the window, children are not born, and another country's culture is affluent with children and marriages, and eventually the countries that have marriage and children, yes physically conquer, through war, the weak countries without the children, they don't have enough warrior men. Technology does not matter at the end, at the collapse, a culture cannot survive without warrior men. This cycle takes hundreds of years but the end result is always the same. The countries with marriages and lots of children become significantly prosperous and then dominate and conquer the countries that cast marriage and children out of their culture. The US is on this path.
Please tell me where in the bible dors ut say that marriage is an earthly depiction of gods image of the church? As far as i onow my bible... Ut don't
Thank you G3 for posting these recent videos. I love these discussion style videos. This topic was spot on. Praise God. BTW, I had to create a TH-cam folder for the videos 🙏🏾
Next week, I will provide five reasons for women to marry. Thanks for listening. Like, subscribe, and share.
Why are we looking at statistics from secular institutions?
Because it does not invalidate the argument. It’s like having a problem with quoting divorce data from the government.
This is a movie set up kind of expectations for men and not a reality
Sex life ? What’s that?
Getting married or not should be between God and yourself. There is plenty of scripture that supports that marriage is not for everyone. I don’t think anyone should be forced into marriage or feel they are not fulfilling Gods will if they don’t get married. There are way too many people getting married outside of Gods will.
Marriage was created by God for us. It’s his will, nobody’s forcing anybody
The Apostle Paul was single
It's true that marriage is not for everyone. However, it is for the vast majority of people and that's who we're targeting this message to.
That is not the rule, God created marriage as a covenant as a mandate, clearly you havent read the Scriptures.@@robe5307
If you’re given the gift of celibacy than you don’t need marriage but if you’re giving yourself up to fornication then you are committing sexual immorality.
Either get married or no sex. Straight up no gray areas on this.
This is an interesting message but fails to acknowledge why men are not marrying. It's like we're hearing,"All you bad men out there that are damaging society by not getting married - you go get married !" It isn't that simple. It's also easy for a ministry spokesman to advocate for men to marry when men of all stripes, including Christian men, are simply realizing it isn't worth all the pain, financial loss, emotional damage and emasculation that many marriages have. The host should be asking,"What are women, in churhc or out, doing to exacerbate the problem ?" The truth is, millions of men in our country are constantly emasculated daily by their wives, criticized, run down, and in many "Christian" marriages, the wives are constantly trying to beat the husband's God-given headship out of them so they can have it. Countless evangelical pastors refuse to call sin sin in the lives of women in their churches. They just won't go there, and most evangelical pastors, when doing marriage counseling, regardless of when there is clear guilt on the wife's part for wrong in the marriage, will automatically side with the wife. Spineless ? Yes. So, what is a man to do ? Men aren't lookng for pain, they're looking to live peacefully with their wives. Most wives (and there are exceptions) turn the home into a battleground daily. When a husband gets home from work, he needs peace and quiet, not war. This host needs to get outside the four walls of a church environment and see what is really going on with men.
None of this is an excuse for disobedience to what the Lord has ordained. Yes, there are exceptions like The Apostle Paul, but in the main we are supposed to be married! I'm sick and tired of the me first attitude that has shoved it's way into the church. It needs to stop. Young men, if you are not married, seek a godly wife! Young women, if you are not married seek a godly husband.
I've addressed that subject months ago in a previous article.
@@suzannetegart8077there is no command from God to get married , only if you burn with passion so that you do not commit fornication. Marriage ain’t all that great.
The host should be asking,"What are women, in churhc or out, doing to exacerbate the problem ?"
Everything is always the woman's fault, right? Honestly, I never realized until really the last few years, how many supposedly Christian men HATE women.
@@suzannetegart8077 Please stop acting like marriage is something you can go out and DO. You can't create a suitable person if one is not there. But let's say you do everything in your power to find someone. You move, change churches, join singles' groups, ask friends/family if they know someone, join websites/apps, get a makeover, work on your social skills - you do anything and everything you can think to do. Even then, even if there is someone that interests you and that even other people think may be a good match for you, you still cannot MAKE that person fall in love with you and wish to marry you! Stop acting like marriage is always a choice.
First of marriage is not for everyone, Paul made that clear. Second, this post does nothing to explore why men are not getting married, your not necessarily convince a man of marriage benefits if all he's known (personally and 2nd hand) are negative experiences and heard viewpoints which directly counter those benefits you mentioned.
It’s true that every 13 minutes a car accident happens in the United States. Many with significant and life altering injuries.
However, no one advocates walking over driving. The encouragement is always driving more safely.
True, marriage is not for everyone. However, it is for the vast majority of people and that's the target audience.
This is not going to change anything, the world has fallen so low and derp into immoral chaos that the only thing to save it is a return to God. There is a reason marriage will be in heaven.
Great video on the impact of marriage as ordained by God.
Next week, I will provide five reasons for women to marry. Thanks for listening. Like, subscribe, and share.
Absolutely He ordained
Marriage it’s good it’s a Grace of life
You mention God alot here. And his designs.
But government designs are destroying Gods designs.
Here is a simple solution: get rid of gov authority from marriage and we got a deal.
Also, return authority to men, none of that feminism garbage
Until then.....good luck
Also the lack of children and marriages could be Gods judgment. Theres also difficulty in married people with children not raising their children in the fear of the Lord. Marriages not growing in Christ. So many consequences for sin but our Lord is our redeemer.
Hallelujah!!! I’m favored and blessed with $60,000 every week! Now I can afford anything and also support the work of God and the church.
Oh really? Tell me more!
This is what Ana Graciela Blackwelder does, she has changed my life.
After raising up to 60k trading with her, I bought a new house and car here in the US and also paid for my son’s (Oscar) surgery. Glory to God.shalom.
I know Ana Graciela Blackwelder, and I have also had success...
Absolutely! I have heard stories of people who started with little or no knowledge but managed to emerge victorious thanks to Ana Graciela Blackwelder.