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@@AarjavDuapeople shouldn't get offended if you're not offending and also it's a choice to be offended. The only thing that erks me are the people who are often criticizing others but can't handle it back themselves..
@@Jon-ly6xe You should meet more people, and know that not all people react the same. It depends on their level of self esteem. You can not say anything to them and they still can get offended. It's not they who are in control, it's their past trauma which they are ignorant of. And it's not your responsibility to make them know that and help them, until and unless it's someone you really care about.
I like to dress slightly crazy and go into public places like Walmart. It helps expand my comfort zone. I've dressed like a Disco astronaut and gone to bars alone on new Year's and had a blast with strangers. Started as a timid boy 42 years ago.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
Even just the free content that you and Owen have been putting out since the RSD days has changed my life. I think I might have some sort of undiagnosed autism and grew up always feeling like an alien. Talking was my worst nightmare and it ate me alive daily. It took some time, but I started applying a lot of the things you guys taught and eventually got to where I felt above average at communication. Now, I will say that supplementing certain key things helped on a biochemical level in addition, but I can say confidently that you guys helped heal my social “disease”. Thank you, brother. God bless you 🙏
I have this really loud, obnoxious side to me as well as a super quiet, reserved, anxious version. The louder, more out-there version feels most authentic but being in public settings pushes me towards the ultra-shy version. I wish this weren’t the case.
this was my exact issue for a long time. What really helped me was juliens videos on authenticity vs relatability. combining that with reading the room and im much more calm. A lot of my excessive talking was trying to entertain others, fitting in, or simply feeling like i need to. but alternatively, i found i don’t really like being the entertainer type but i also like being me. So i made the choice to simply be me while not feeling pressured to talk, whether thats by myself, my feelings or by other people.
What's weird for me is that I'm not super shy or anything, but I put IMMENSE pressure on myself to be entertaining, cool, and engaging in conversations. I constantly worry that i'll run out of things to say. Otherwise people won't like me. I'm actually outgoing partially because I want people to like me, because a shy person isn't as likeable. This makes me wonder what I would look like without the mask.
i’ve been battling with this my entire life to the point where now at 33, it feels like i’m paralyzed to be my authentic self to others. as if i lost myself behind the mask
Wow! This is me in so many ways and addresses all my concerns about being disrespectful vs obnoxious/ authenticity vs relatability ❤❤❤❤❤ THANK YOU ❤❤❤❤❤
The way you described yourself is the way I'd describe myself for most of my life, and at times I still sink to that point, but it's really encouraging seeing how much you've improved and it fills me with hope. I guess the most personal often really is the most universal.
When i'm in school i get really anxious there. I would even say it's the most hardest for me to act obnoxious or just happy or sad in class. Thinking about acting anything that isnt shy makes it look like i'm "weird" that i look "weird" and people will be like oohh whats merita doingg, but geez, i've always been shy in elementarly school, so its now an issue to not be that all of sudden. Biggest takeaway everything you say Julien
Hi Julien I wanted to say that I've done 5-10 letting go meditations after buying TM, and I improved massively and I am less anxious. The problem is that recently everytime I should do a meditation I procrastinate like crazy.. what should I do? Ah and thank you so much your program really helped me❤❤
i also have this problem of getting social validation. Suppose if i approached a girl and then i didnt get the response that pleases my ego what i do was try to talk about my past encounters like ohh well it doesnt matter bcoz many beautiful girls than her got attracted to me and gave me eye contacts, ohh my ex was way prettier than her. That kind of things i said to myself and trust me its hard to live like this.
This channel helps. Having children certainly impacts you. I tend to learn from my own children just as much as they learn from me. I have always been childlike, not childish, just to make the definition, and always engaged with imagination. Going by personality typology i am an infp and coupled with ways to understand emotions better has helped me understand me better, as i am an emotional person. 😊
hehe, I noticed my anxiety comes from my lack of competence in having small talks, when I learned how to end conversations like saying have a good one or see you around, and suddenly anxiety of starting conversation became a lot smaller.
I think it makes sense cause it's like you got an injury in youre body you can check it out for some days but then you forget it and focus on youre life you don't even notice that it heals by itself forgive me for my bad english the same with anxiety if you can ignore you're mind like stop caring about others opinions and dive in you're life and make the body do the work it will lose it's energy and it can heal automatically this is my opinion
I have those days when im so mad i just stop giving a shit and my social anxiety completely disappears, it would be cool if i could canalize that "i dont give a fuck" to when im happy or sad
Final thing I'm curious about. Say I want to speak to someone but they're late for their train. How do I not attach my self worth to someone saying no, even if it's a legit reason. Sometimes I see that they're busy and I hate myself.
You - imperfections and all! - have self worth simply because you exist, not because of anything you've done or not done, and definitely not because of what someone else does or doesn't do or does or doesn't want. Not every thing is for every one at all times. Always be yourself and those who are meant to be in your life (whether in a big or small way or short or long term) *will* find you ... and the greater your self perception/worth is, the greater theirs will be of you. Much Love, my friend 🙏🏻💕
Hey Julien, good evening, why my anxiety only comes when I know the person and not in strangers? Like when I have a new costumer, I don't stifle and having a great conversation but when they come back again and they seek me to fix their car, (I'm a fresh graduate mechanic) then I'll get anxious and can't perform flawlessly and then they'll never talk to me because I know they sense that I'm anxious.
Perhaps because you care what people around you think, those who are closer to you rather than strangers. Or Perhaps this is when the need For intimacy kicks in, and that’s when you get anxiety, because you need to be one on one with these individuals and be more bare.
Thanks for your care men, it gives me relief instantly 💓 plus, I commented first rather than watching this video without knowing this video is really the answer for my question 😆 Thanks Julien 🤘❣️❣️
Take a hard look at who you enjoy spending time with. Some people you WILL put on a mask for, even if you feel kinda comfortable around them. But around whom in your life do you completely let your guard down? For me it's my sister and brother-in-law. Best people ever, why? Because my sister told me that my brother-in-law really enjoyed spending time with me because I'm just being silly around them. Just being care free and that I speak my mind, even if I sound rude or inconsiderate, they know me well enough to not take it personally. So think about who in your life you feel most comfortable in your skin when you're around them. People you don't mind saying no to, if you don't want to hang out. And the people you can just be your silly, goofy SELF. Now remember that person, embody that person, BELIEVE that is the only version of you that TRULY exists. You have just forgotten that person, but he/she is in there somewhere. Just bring that person out into the light
I wish you would respond to my comment, dear Julien, I need help... I am wasting my precious youth thinking about irrelevant fears and opinions of others about me.
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The moment you stop giving a F is the moment you're unstoppable.
Yes! 🔥👊
Yes, by truly being who you are, authentically. And not caring whether other people get offended by you valuing yourself and your opinions.
@@JulienHimself It's simple AF, problem is, it's difficult AF.
@@AarjavDuapeople shouldn't get offended if you're not offending and also it's a choice to be offended. The only thing that erks me are the people who are often criticizing others but can't handle it back themselves..
@@Jon-ly6xe You should meet more people, and know that not all people react the same. It depends on their level of self esteem. You can not say anything to them and they still can get offended. It's not they who are in control, it's their past trauma which they are ignorant of. And it's not your responsibility to make them know that and help them, until and unless it's someone you really care about.
Thanks for putting all this content out for free!
You're so welcome! 🙏
I like to dress slightly crazy and go into public places like Walmart. It helps expand my comfort zone. I've dressed like a Disco astronaut and gone to bars alone on new Year's and had a blast with strangers. Started as a timid boy 42 years ago.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
Even just the free content that you and Owen have been putting out since the RSD days has changed my life. I think I might have some sort of undiagnosed autism and grew up always feeling like an alien. Talking was my worst nightmare and it ate me alive daily. It took some time, but I started applying a lot of the things you guys taught and eventually got to where I felt above average at communication.
Now, I will say that supplementing certain key things helped on a biochemical level in addition, but I can say confidently that you guys helped heal my social “disease”.
Thank you, brother.
God bless you 🙏
🙏🏻💕
Part of me wants to be the energetic guy who knows everyone. Most of me wants to be low key.
I have this really loud, obnoxious side to me as well as a super quiet, reserved, anxious version. The louder, more out-there version feels most authentic but being in public settings pushes me towards the ultra-shy version. I wish this weren’t the case.
this was my exact issue for a long time. What really helped me was juliens videos on authenticity vs relatability. combining that with reading the room and im much more calm. A lot of my excessive talking was trying to entertain others, fitting in, or simply feeling like i need to. but alternatively, i found i don’t really like being the entertainer type but i also like being me. So i made the choice to simply be me while not feeling pressured to talk, whether thats by myself, my feelings or by other people.
@@tristenn292 this really resonates, thanks a lot!!
Life changing video! Thank you so much Julien
What's weird for me is that I'm not super shy or anything, but I put IMMENSE pressure on myself to be entertaining, cool, and engaging in conversations. I constantly worry that i'll run out of things to say. Otherwise people won't like me. I'm actually outgoing partially because I want people to like me, because a shy person isn't as likeable. This makes me wonder what I would look like without the mask.
i’ve been battling with this my entire life to the point where now at 33, it feels like i’m paralyzed to be my authentic self to others. as if i lost myself behind the mask
Wow! This is me in so many ways and addresses all my concerns about being disrespectful vs obnoxious/ authenticity vs relatability ❤❤❤❤❤ THANK YOU ❤❤❤❤❤
MWAAAH! you rock dude!
The way you described yourself is the way I'd describe myself for most of my life, and at times I still sink to that point, but it's really encouraging seeing how much you've improved and it fills me with hope.
I guess the most personal often really is the most universal.
Yes, fortunately there's a way out! 🔥👊
Relate. Colliding of worlds. Like it. Sounds like great title for a story. 😊
Be yourself, you truly don't know how valuable you are. You are 1 of 1 and you have so much to offer uf you just let go.
When i'm in school i get really anxious there. I would even say it's the most hardest for me to act obnoxious or just happy or sad in class. Thinking about acting anything that isnt shy makes it look like i'm "weird" that i look "weird" and people will be like oohh whats merita doingg, but geez, i've always been shy in elementarly school, so its now an issue to not be that all of sudden. Biggest takeaway everything you say Julien
Hi Julien I wanted to say that I've done 5-10 letting go meditations after buying TM, and I improved massively and I am less anxious. The problem is that recently everytime I should do a meditation I procrastinate like crazy.. what should I do? Ah and thank you so much your program really helped me❤❤
Thank you ❤❤
You’re welcome!
i also have this problem of getting social validation. Suppose if i approached a girl and then i didnt get the response that pleases my ego what i do was try to talk about my past encounters like ohh well it doesnt matter bcoz many beautiful girls than her got attracted to me and gave me eye contacts, ohh my ex was way prettier than her. That kind of things i said to myself and trust me its hard to live like this.
This channel helps. Having children certainly impacts you. I tend to learn from my own children just as much as they learn from me. I have always been childlike, not childish, just to make the definition, and always engaged with imagination. Going by personality typology i am an infp and coupled with ways to understand emotions better has helped me understand me better, as i am an emotional person. 😊
Correction, Batman is who he is when he's being Batman, Bruce Wayne is the BS disguise. Yes, I'm a nerd.
hehe, I noticed my anxiety comes from my lack of competence in having small talks, when I learned how to end conversations like saying have a good one or see you around, and suddenly anxiety of starting conversation became a lot smaller.
This will help: www.highvibecommunication.com/hvc 🔥👊
Amazing content as always!🔥
Thanks! 🔥👊
Julien we love you thank you for everything you help us learn
Thank you! I'm glad my content has been so helpful! 🙏
Thank you so much sir..u r playing a great role in my life ❤
I think it makes sense cause it's like you got an injury in youre body you can check it out for some days but then you forget it and focus on youre life you don't even notice that it heals by itself forgive me for my bad english the same with anxiety if you can ignore you're mind like stop caring about others opinions and dive in you're life and make the body do the work it will lose it's energy and it can heal automatically this is my opinion
Thank you so much ❤
You're welcome!
Where do you get those outfits
I have those days when im so mad i just stop giving a shit and my social anxiety completely disappears, it would be cool if i could canalize that "i dont give a fuck" to when im happy or sad
Fortunately there is a way... And it's quite simple if you follow the right steps! 👌
I got divorced because I could not be myself in that marriage.
You got this ❤️, let go and it will make you so much stronger
New here- love your content ❤
Welcome to the channel!
Final thing I'm curious about.
Say I want to speak to someone but they're late for their train. How do I not attach my self worth to someone saying no, even if it's a legit reason.
Sometimes I see that they're busy and I hate myself.
You - imperfections and all! - have self worth simply because you exist, not because of anything you've done or not done, and definitely not because of what someone else does or doesn't do or does or doesn't want. Not every thing is for every one at all times. Always be yourself and those who are meant to be in your life (whether in a big or small way or short or long term) *will* find you ... and the greater your self perception/worth is, the greater theirs will be of you. Much Love, my friend 🙏🏻💕
So what's the difference about "being the obnoxious you" vs. being viewed as a narcissist, asshole, etc?
Those pants are fuckin 🔥
Hey Julien, good evening, why my anxiety only comes when I know the person and not in strangers? Like when I have a new costumer, I don't stifle and having a great conversation but when they come back again and they seek me to fix their car, (I'm a fresh graduate mechanic) then I'll get anxious and can't perform flawlessly and then they'll never talk to me because I know they sense that I'm anxious.
Perhaps because you care what people around you think, those who are closer to you rather than strangers.
Or Perhaps this is when the need
For intimacy kicks in, and that’s when you get anxiety, because you need to be one on one with these individuals and be more bare.
The simple answer is that you want him to see that person he met last time and you want to act like that person who is you . Come on man be yourself .
Thanks for your care men, it gives me relief instantly 💓 plus, I commented first rather than watching this video without knowing this video is really the answer for my question 😆 Thanks Julien 🤘❣️❣️
Or, you're afraid of that person seeing who you truly are. And maybe you won't give the same impression as you did previously
Take a hard look at who you enjoy spending time with. Some people you WILL put on a mask for, even if you feel kinda comfortable around them. But around whom in your life do you completely let your guard down? For me it's my sister and brother-in-law. Best people ever, why? Because my sister told me that my brother-in-law really enjoyed spending time with me because I'm just being silly around them. Just being care free and that I speak my mind, even if I sound rude or inconsiderate, they know me well enough to not take it personally.
So think about who in your life you feel most comfortable in your skin when you're around them. People you don't mind saying no to, if you don't want to hang out. And the people you can just be your silly, goofy SELF. Now remember that person, embody that person, BELIEVE that is the only version of you that TRULY exists.
You have just forgotten that person, but he/she is in there somewhere. Just bring that person out into the light
How can I start understanding on myself, if I also constantly lie to myself?
I'd start here: www.julienhimself.com/8p 🙏
There's weird thing about batman, bruce Wayne is his second identity batman was his default identity.
No, that's Superman. Clark Kent is his disguise. His real identity is the krypton-born being we call Superman.
Julien did you support the Rumbling yes or no pls
Julien I can’t hold conversation
This will help: www.highvibecommunication.com/hvc 👌
I wish you would respond to my comment, dear Julien, I need help... I am wasting my precious youth thinking about irrelevant fears and opinions of others about me.
Time to let go of those fears then: www.julienhimself.com/8p
I want to go thrifting with you.
Jesus the master teacher said to be like a child
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