He gave his parents his half. He left the marital home. He didn't own the home. He didn't deserve half the money. She did exactly what she should have done to protect herself.
Exactly, he didn't own the home because, although it was the 'marital home' due to them both living there while married, it was a house she inherited from her mother. Even married, the spouse has no legal claim to something inherited.
Also, he was constantly giving his half of everything to his parents. The 200k was probably something she saved entirely by herself, and when he took half of it to give his parents, he took her money to do it. I am sad that she chose to sell the house, not because it was unfair to do so, but because her husband was such trash to put her in that position.
I think the court was more on her side too because it would be harder for her to get married after a divorce in the asian country they are from. That's usually where these stories are from about having to give the in laws everything they wanted. And what they want is to live in luxury, I'm surprised they still make money and didn't demand them to move in and take care of them "at their old age". Well now their money bank son can live with them and give them all the money he has left after giving her alimony.
It would be interesting to know how her ex made out after the divorce and if he learned from his mistake. He looked absolutely shocked when he had to give her 100k back.
But don't end up becoming a "DOORMAT" like her. They say "Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me." But this woman was FOOLED so many times, that even the FOOLS who FOOL other's will be ashamed of FOOLING her.
Gale was and is the ahole. She's better off without him. His family is toxic. When he realizes that his mom and dad only care about his money!!! He made his choice.
How is it disrespectful for OP to sell the house she inherited? The house wasn’t a joint asset. She had evert right to sell her home. The 100k wasn’t just the husband, he had no right to just give it away like that, considering they’ve been taking care of the parents for a while
Get your own account and LEAVE Gayle. Tell them you are going to give them what they gave you. If that doesn't work stand in front of them pull your pants down and pat your butt and say kiss this.
The first time the InLaws spoke of giving them money I would've said hell no because you should manage what you have and leave it at that! Both times you came to them in dire need and they gave you a lecture I would've gave them the exact same speech!! Also when they started asking about how much it costs I would've told them none of your business just know that I worked hard and I made it happen without their help so stop asking how much it costs! Just know that hard work did it. Also don't come asking us for any money since you didn't help is we're not gonna help you period if you want a vacation house then go spend your own money save up and go get it because like I said before you refused to help us so I'm refuse to help you also if your husband can't understand then tell him that you're gonna divorce him and he can go live with them period! Emotional blackmail oh hell no where were you when they needed help? Why did you refuse to help them? Save your fake tears and save up for whatever you want. There's nothing to talk about period because they didn't help you when you needed it. Let your parents spend their own money and if they can't then oh well but to build a vacation home are you serious? Ok then let's get a divorce this is my house leave and go spend all your money on your parents. But No OP don't give them a damn thing. Divorce that fool keep your home and block their calls and their demands. Stop allowing your in laws to guilt trip you. Who cares if they get mad hell let them they'll get over it.
Sometimes people are extremely nice and others take advantage of that until the person wakes up to what's going on I'm just Glad she isn't with that person at all anymore.
First: Open your own savings account. One that your husband has no access to. Make sure that the bank makes a note of that. Second: Give your in-laws the EXACT same speech that they gave you, when you needed help for important things.
OP absolutely did the right thing, I cheered for her while listening to this. Would Gayle be willing to give OP's parents that money? I bet not. And btw, the in-laws will leave that new vacation home to Gayle's brother
Sadly, I have to say I know exactly what OP dealt with...and yes I divorced my husband as well. When a man gets married, that umbilical cord is CUT and he takes the role of Head of Household of his own family. Children are expensive...having a child in the hospital....is expensive af there goes the 200k right there and that doesn't even factor in the needed items for the child...let alone their education that needs to be saved up for. If they said No about the kids dreams and made them work harder for it....then they should be setting the example as the parents. It is not a child's responsibility to fund every whim and dream their parents have even after they've become an adult and are succeeding at life. OP did exactly what she should have done...and earned her peace in the process....lord knows I earned mine and if her in laws were as emotionally toxic as mine were....the peace is soooooooooooooo much sweeter, by far!!
By the same standards you said a man also is the head of household and the woman leaves her family joins his... she is now his property everything she owns and all decisions that can be made financially have to go through him as head of household😂😂😂 can't have it both ways sis🤡
Divorce that fool, separate your finances, and move on with your life OP if he wants to take care of his parents then let him. Divorce him close out that account. Put him out ASAP! Goodbye good riddance have fun living with your parents. You gave all your savings to your parents so go live with them. OP you dodged a bullet don't stress your house is paid for, serve him with divorce papers and move on with your life close out your account protect your money and move on with your life. I wouldn't have sold my home but it is what it is. In reality you dodged a bullet by divorcing that momma's boy. You don't owe him nothing
whenever i hear people spout the word disrespect out usually just means they got mad because they lost the "argument" if the house was an inheritance and is in ops name alone then she did exactly right. husband showed way more "disrespect" by just handing over money from "joint savings" that was held in both their names these were a marital asset that they both contributed towards
If a house is inherited then your spouse gets nothing. It's not a marital asset unless he contributes to the renovation. And even then, he's only entitled to a percentage. With that being said, it takes several months to get a divorce. In all these stories everything seems to happen within a matter of days.
Under Chinese law all you need is both your signatures ,go to a civic centre,marriage bureau ,hand in the papers and once filed and processed the marriage is over and the two parties are divorced ,that's how simple it is in China .
Gale: If you don't let me give away our money, I'll divorce you! ::receives divorce papers and a court date about the money a week later:: Gale: No, hold on, wait a minute...
Forget talking tell them straight up hell no my $200 k savings is just that mine and it will not be given to you. Stop arguing with those selfish idiots and let them provide for themselves. Now how much of that savings is yours? If it's half or more then take it out before your husband decides to give it to his parents
His parents wouldn't lend them the extra money to finish there house, told them to work harder & do it themselves! So why couldn't her husband understand her side of things as he himself, knew all this. OP was 100% right in all that she did, now she's divorced she'll find the right man as life goes along. The best bit, he's now back home living with mummy & daddy in his schoolboy bedroom. OP can get on with life in her new apartment. mx
at the end he said people said she shouldnt have sold the house and took the money just for her ... as in people actualy said that no honey it was an inheritance its hers not her husbands period he has no right to the house its her house i dont get why people think there entitled to enheritens
If they had $200 thousand saved, he spent his half, she got her half. Sounds like he put nothing ( even effort) into the house , so that was hers. I thought she deserved a bit of what she was forced to hand over to his folks, but since she went along with it, legally it would have been tough. Just glad she got away from the sucking money pit and abuse. Hope she finds a nice man with a nice family or enjoys life as a single ( obviously there are worse things)
Good for her that was an extremely toxic family. You really should not want to raise children with those kinds of people. Congrats and good for you!!!!
OP, just started listening to this story. Far enough in to know that your husband is giving money that should be going into a savings account for you and him and your family and expenses, even though his parents are actually not in need. And far enough in to know your in-laws feel that you two are adults that need to make it on your own and you are wrong to even approach them for help. So, what do you need to do. Looks like you need to divorce your husband that is such a mommy and daddy's boy that he is giving them all of your family money to them to buy their approval and refuses to step up like a husband and a man and support and save for your family's future. I guess you might give it one more try to talk sense into him, but I doubt it will work. I personally think you are a fool to continue in a marriage like this where you have a partner that is not committed to your life together and instead is still giving money to mommy and daddy. What happens if, god forbid you have kids? Will his parents still come before his kids needs and wants. What happens to you if you end up unemployed, or he does? Will a substancial amount of the money you need to live on still be going to his folks. And let us not forget that his parents have made it clear that they have no intention of helping you. Perfect example of what is yours is mine, and what is mine is sure in the hell mine. Nope, you are not in a marriage with a partner. You are part of an ATM machine that is being tapped out on by entitled narcissus. Get away now, at least you have a home of your own, and a job. So leave. Back again. So you are thinking of caving in because you don't want to hurt your husband. Honey your husband doesn't give a shit about you. He is hurting your now, and he has hurt you in the past by giving the money that is his and yours to his parents. And his parents are calling you and harassing you for not giving them money for a vacation home. A vacation home is not just a want, it is a frivolous, expensive want. Kick your husband out and fight for your house, and for any joint property. He is never going to make you a priority, so he needs out of your life. Run dear, before he and his parents figure out some way to take everything away from you that you have worked so hard for.
Being married to a mamas boy is never a good thing. And although he had both parents, he definitely was a mama's boy. Helping out parents is one thing, but helping out parents that are already rich? Especially those who are so selfish as to not help out in the beginning It's just crazy. OP is NTA. She stayed in it much longer than I would have. Love means a lot, but sometimes self-preservation has to come first.
I think OP did what she had to do. The money is theirs, both worked for it and both should have a say in how it is spent. The parents have no right to ask for money for a vacation home.
And it was likely more her money than theirs since she worked hard to save that much while her husband was always giving his money away. That is probably why she got 100k in alimony. Honestly, it should have been more or feels like it should have been to make it right.
OP stayed longer than I would have! And she inherited the house from her mother so she can do whatever the hell she wants with it! It is not considered joint property per the law!
This is a WOW, WOW WOW story! No way could I demand my son's give me half or ALL of their savings! If anything, I would be contributing to their efforts to own their 1st home, etc! These are some evil, selfish parents, demanding that their son give up he and his Wifes savings! OP, what took you so long to get away from this TOXIC FAMILY! I would have RAN after my husband AGREED with his parent's! WOW, WOW,. WOW! I am so happy that things turned out as they did for you!
Did no one ever tell OP, or other women, to have a secret acct that their husband knows nothing about? I had all elder women around me growing up & they ALL told me never let a man know what you have. That advice has served me well.
If the in-laws don't need the money why give them money. What about OP's parents, would he give her parents money like he does his. I would be moving my portion of the savings without telling Gayle. Counsult a lawyer. The house is your inheritance so he would have to move out. You would be better off without this toxic family.
It was op's house, it wasn't their house. How was op not entitled to keep all the money from the sale of the home. If her soon to be ex wants to go bankrupt supporting his entitled parents he's now free to do so. I would have divorced him after forty eight hours of being ghosted. He's salty that op pulled the trigger first.
22:52, Oh Plesse, She is just upset that her plan to use Her Puppet Son to ROB YOU of $100K failed and she had to Return the money. I mean come on. The whole point of a marriage is to be 50/50 and its cleary the only 50 they wanted from her was 50% of her assets. 24:05, Dis agree with the idea of O.P. taking the money is Disrespectful to her husband. was it "Respectful" for him to IGNORE his wife and Steal the money from the account without even discussing it? NO, then why does he deserve Respect in kind?
OP is completely in the right and im glad it worked out for her. However, one rhing i would do is get a few appropriate pictures and send them to them as the holiday home she bought gor herself with the 100k :) Meanwhile, actually keeping the money safe for emergencies:) Thay should help their blood pressure nicely
The house was an inheritance. OP was the only one with a legal claim to it married or not. Early on OP explained how the house was important to her but then she sells it? So she can start paying rent to someone else? That makes no sense and is an incredibly stupid financial move. OP talked about boundaries being crossed, but considering she never really established any that doesn’t fly. Of course her hypocritical deadbeat in-laws were going to keep holding their hand out for money because she never did once shoot that shit down hard with a vengeance. Every time the deadbeat in-laws asked for money was the time to tell them Hell No! And give them their own words back about being responsible adults and working to achieve your own success. The problem is she never did that. I always find it amazing that people who allow themselves to be treated like doormats have the gall to complain about how they get treated like doormats. There literally is no surprise here that would inevitably happen.
I can see her wanting to make peace with the husband, but for him to continually give in to his parents demands for money, after them giving a flat "No" when they were in need, was a red flag the size of Texas. This should have shown her from the get-go that she was ALWAYS going to come dead last to his family. Chances are, if they could see his parents will, they would be leaving everything to his brother and his family. The icing on the cake was the narcissistic MIL telling her how she was a horrible person for only thinking about herself. She is far better off without that insane family.
Really I can see giving your parents money if their house burned down and they had no where to live but no one NEEDS a vacation home that is a luxury and they should pay for it themselves.
She inherited the house from her mother. So the money from the sell was rightfully hers. Anyone the wants to dispute because they had to renovate can. But then she can dispute all the money he had given to his parents over the years. Probably equals out at the end.
When he gave away the $100k, that should've been the end right there. The divorce papers didn't come fast enough. WTH was she waiting on? Everytime she asked the out-laws for help she got a big, fat NO! Waited too long to get baby boy hubby and his folks outta her life. And that was HER house. Block them and never give them her address!
No, you didn’t go too far. He wanted to give half of your money without consulting you and yet when you ask them for money, they wouldn’t help. They don’t see the problem with their request? Of course not because it didn’t help them out to lend you money.
I would put my money in an account in my name only and tell my husband that I will split the living expenses with him 50/50 and he could give his parents money out of what he had left. Also, tell him that the rest of your money would be used as you saw fit.
Everyone saying that the OP should have no problem "helping"her in-laws missed one major point......they were getting HALF OF HER PAYCHECK ALREADY to waste, I mean a second weekend house paid for by their daughter in-law. ENTITLED. And the "husband" was no such thing, all he was good for was fighting her and draining her pay for mommy and daddy and their "I Want". Get out as fast as possible. They refused to loan you money to get a house, but always demand you money to waste. BYE AND I HOPE THE DOOR HITS YOU IN THE A$$ ON THE WAY OUT.
Unless you are from a culture where it's not a quiet unspoken but a very much in your face spoken that you have to take care of your elders later then giving them money throughout the marriage is nothing but generous. And you definitely don't have to give them 100 Grand just because you have 200
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Divorce him..cares for his parents more than his wife
He gave his parents his half. He left the marital home. He didn't own the home. He didn't deserve half the money. She did exactly what she should have done to protect herself.
Exactly, he didn't own the home because, although it was the 'marital home' due to them both living there while married, it was a house she inherited from her mother. Even married, the spouse has no legal claim to something inherited.
Also, he was constantly giving his half of everything to his parents. The 200k was probably something she saved entirely by herself, and when he took half of it to give his parents, he took her money to do it.
I am sad that she chose to sell the house, not because it was unfair to do so, but because her husband was such trash to put her in that position.
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I think the court was more on her side too because it would be harder for her to get married after a divorce in the asian country they are from. That's usually where these stories are from about having to give the in laws everything they wanted. And what they want is to live in luxury, I'm surprised they still make money and didn't demand them to move in and take care of them "at their old age". Well now their money bank son can live with them and give them all the money he has left after giving her alimony.
I'm glad that you divorced him and his family block all their calls.
The only people that would say that she was disrespectful are only entitled people that are takers from someone else.
It was her house, it's her choice, he doesn't have a say in that, and after all he did to her, the 100k alimony was the cherry on top
Men like him are the reasons why truly good men get screwed in divorce court. By good men, I mean the men who truly want to do right.
Gayle can spend his own money on his codependency with his parents.
Op needs to separate her finances and file for divorce.
Yay!!! She divorced him
It would be interesting to know how her ex made out after the divorce and if he learned from his mistake. He looked absolutely shocked when he had to give her 100k back.
I would have left him for this bs
Same here!
Yes, absolutely..some inlaws are just crap😢
I glad op leave him
I’am in OP side, and good she got away from all of them. Good on OP.
But don't end up becoming a "DOORMAT" like her. They say "Fool me once, shame on you; Fool me twice, shame on me." But this woman was FOOLED so many times, that even the FOOLS who FOOL other's will be ashamed of FOOLING her.
Girl please get away
Gale was and is the ahole. She's better off without him. His family is toxic. When he realizes that his mom and dad only care about his money!!! He made his choice.
I don't think he ever will.
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Yes your dreams are not an emergency Tell them your done and reached your limit then hang up divorce gayle immediately
I would've told the In Laws to Go to Hell
How is it disrespectful for OP to sell the house she inherited? The house wasn’t a joint asset. She had evert right to sell her home. The 100k wasn’t just the husband, he had no right to just give it away like that, considering they’ve been taking care of the parents for a while
It's her right it's not a joint asset her mother gave it to her not to them. So it's all hers
It’s seems if it’s ok if he does it … but a problem if she does it.
Ex-husband is a piece of crap
Gale and his parents got exactly what they deserved.
Get your own account and LEAVE Gayle. Tell them you are going to give them what they gave you. If that doesn't work stand in front of them pull your pants down and pat your butt and say kiss this.
The first time the InLaws spoke of giving them money I would've said hell no because you should manage what you have and leave it at that! Both times you came to them in dire need and they gave you a lecture I would've gave them the exact same speech!! Also when they started asking about how much it costs I would've told them none of your business just know that I worked hard and I made it happen without their help so stop asking how much it costs! Just know that hard work did it. Also don't come asking us for any money since you didn't help is we're not gonna help you period if you want a vacation house then go spend your own money save up and go get it because like I said before you refused to help us so I'm refuse to help you also if your husband can't understand then tell him that you're gonna divorce him and he can go live with them period! Emotional blackmail oh hell no where were you when they needed help? Why did you refuse to help them? Save your fake tears and save up for whatever you want. There's nothing to talk about period because they didn't help you when you needed it. Let your parents spend their own money and if they can't then oh well but to build a vacation home are you serious? Ok then let's get a divorce this is my house leave and go spend all your money on your parents. But No OP don't give them a damn thing. Divorce that fool keep your home and block their calls and their demands. Stop allowing your in laws to guilt trip you. Who cares if they get mad hell let them they'll get over it.
Sometimes people are extremely nice and others take advantage of that until the person wakes up to what's going on I'm just Glad she isn't with that person at all anymore.
First: Open your own savings account. One that your husband has no access to. Make sure that the bank makes a note of that.
Second: Give your in-laws the EXACT same speech that they gave you, when you needed help for important things.
OP absolutely did the right thing, I cheered for her while listening to this. Would Gayle be willing to give OP's parents that money? I bet not. And btw, the in-laws will leave that new vacation home to Gayle's brother
Sadly, I have to say I know exactly what OP dealt with...and yes I divorced my husband as well. When a man gets married, that umbilical cord is CUT and he takes the role of Head of Household of his own family. Children are expensive...having a child in the hospital....is expensive af there goes the 200k right there and that doesn't even factor in the needed items for the child...let alone their education that needs to be saved up for. If they said No about the kids dreams and made them work harder for it....then they should be setting the example as the parents. It is not a child's responsibility to fund every whim and dream their parents have even after they've become an adult and are succeeding at life. OP did exactly what she should have done...and earned her peace in the process....lord knows I earned mine and if her in laws were as emotionally toxic as mine were....the peace is soooooooooooooo much sweeter, by far!!
By the same standards you said a man also is the head of household and the woman leaves her family joins his... she is now his property everything she owns and all decisions that can be made financially have to go through him as head of household😂😂😂 can't have it both ways sis🤡
OP rocks! I am sorry she had to deal with these greedy aholes. OP got what she deserved.
Divorce that fool, separate your finances, and move on with your life OP if he wants to take care of his parents then let him. Divorce him close out that account. Put him out ASAP! Goodbye good riddance have fun living with your parents. You gave all your savings to your parents so go live with them. OP you dodged a bullet don't stress your house is paid for, serve him with divorce papers and move on with your life close out your account protect your money and move on with your life. I wouldn't have sold my home but it is what it is. In reality you dodged a bullet by divorcing that momma's boy. You don't owe him nothing
100% support OP. Full stop.
If I was OP, I would have devorced him.
Girl so proud of you and happy for you
Don't give in,put your foot down.
She was completely in the right in my opinion
whenever i hear people spout the word disrespect out
usually just means they got mad because they lost the "argument"
if the house was an inheritance and is in ops name alone then she did exactly right.
husband showed way more "disrespect" by just handing over money from "joint savings" that was held in both their names
these were a marital asset that they both contributed towards
That is the words of a narcissistic sociopath
If a house is inherited then your spouse gets nothing. It's not a marital asset unless he contributes to the renovation. And even then, he's only entitled to a percentage. With that being said, it takes several months to get a divorce. In all these stories everything seems to happen within a matter of days.
Under Chinese law all you need is both your signatures ,go to a civic centre,marriage bureau ,hand in the papers and once filed and processed the marriage is over and the two parties are divorced ,that's how simple it is in China .
Gale: If you don't let me give away our money, I'll divorce you!
::receives divorce papers and a court date about the money a week later::
Gale: No, hold on, wait a minute...
A 100,000 dollars ,change the locks and divorce mummy's boy before he give the house to the out laws.
Forget talking tell them straight up hell no my $200 k savings is just that mine and it will not be given to you. Stop arguing with those selfish idiots and let them provide for themselves. Now how much of that savings is yours? If it's half or more then take it out before your husband decides to give it to his parents
Op did the right thing
Keep separate finances from husband/wife etc have a household FUND for bills the rest is OURS separately.
Exactly that is my husband and I have done it works great
His parents wouldn't lend them the extra money to finish there house, told them to work harder & do it themselves! So why couldn't her husband understand her side of things as he himself, knew all this. OP was 100% right in all that she did, now she's divorced she'll find the right man as life goes along. The best bit, he's now back home living with mummy & daddy in his schoolboy bedroom. OP can get on with life in her new apartment. mx
OP, do not give you in laws any of your hard earned money. They are the most despicable human beings.
at the end he said people said she shouldnt have sold the house and took the money just for her ... as in people actualy said that no honey it was an inheritance its hers not her husbands period he has no right to the house its her house i dont get why people think there entitled to enheritens
If they had $200 thousand saved, he spent his half, she got her half. Sounds like he put nothing ( even effort) into the house , so that was hers. I thought she deserved a bit of what she was forced to hand over to his folks, but since she went along with it, legally it would have been tough. Just glad she got away from the sucking money pit and abuse. Hope she finds a nice man with a nice family or enjoys life as a single ( obviously there are worse things)
Dump that Gale loser and find a Peeta.
That was financial abuse. OP needed to get out.
Good for her that was an extremely toxic family. You really should not want to raise children with those kinds of people. Congrats and good for you!!!!
I would have dropped them like the bad apples they were, good for op putting a stop to them
That was beautiful!❤️
Great job of writing this story
Nta. If that is the case theybare also adults and can manage their own money too and stop taking from you
OP, just started listening to this story. Far enough in to know that your husband is giving money that should be going into a savings account for you and him and your family and expenses, even though his parents are actually not in need. And far enough in to know your in-laws feel that you two are adults that need to make it on your own and you are wrong to even approach them for help. So, what do you need to do. Looks like you need to divorce your husband that is such a mommy and daddy's boy that he is giving them all of your family money to them to buy their approval and refuses to step up like a husband and a man and support and save for your family's future.
I guess you might give it one more try to talk sense into him, but I doubt it will work. I personally think you are a fool to continue in a marriage like this where you have a partner that is not committed to your life together and instead is still giving money to mommy and daddy. What happens if, god forbid you have kids? Will his parents still come before his kids needs and wants. What happens to you if you end up unemployed, or he does? Will a substancial amount of the money you need to live on still be going to his folks. And let us not forget that his parents have made it clear that they have no intention of helping you. Perfect example of what is yours is mine, and what is mine is sure in the hell mine. Nope, you are not in a marriage with a partner. You are part of an ATM machine that is being tapped out on by entitled narcissus. Get away now, at least you have a home of your own, and a job. So leave.
Back again. So you are thinking of caving in because you don't want to hurt your husband. Honey your husband doesn't give a shit about you. He is hurting your now, and he has hurt you in the past by giving the money that is his and yours to his parents. And his parents are calling you and harassing you for not giving them money for a vacation home. A vacation home is not just a want, it is a frivolous, expensive want. Kick your husband out and fight for your house, and for any joint property. He is never going to make you a priority, so he needs out of your life. Run dear, before he and his parents figure out some way to take everything away from you that you have worked so hard for.
You did the right thing. You go girl. You are awesome
Being married to a mamas boy is never a good thing. And although he had both parents, he definitely was a mama's boy. Helping out parents is one thing, but helping out parents that are already rich? Especially those who are so selfish as to not help out in the beginning It's just crazy. OP is NTA. She stayed in it much longer than I would have. Love means a lot, but sometimes self-preservation has to come first.
Let him give them his money. You don't have to give them your money.
I think OP did what she had to do. The money is theirs, both worked for it and both should have a say in how it is spent. The parents have no right to ask for money for a vacation home.
And it was likely more her money than theirs since she worked hard to save that much while her husband was always giving his money away.
That is probably why she got 100k in alimony. Honestly, it should have been more or feels like it should have been to make it right.
It's time to say NO. And to just end the call. Will you get them back when they die? No it will go to his brother. 🤔
OP stayed longer than I would have! And she inherited the house from her mother so she can do whatever the hell she wants with it! It is not considered joint property per the law!
This is a WOW, WOW WOW story! No way could I demand my son's give me half or ALL of their savings! If anything, I would be contributing to their efforts to own their 1st home, etc! These are some evil, selfish parents, demanding that their son give up he and his Wifes savings! OP, what took you so long to get away from this TOXIC FAMILY! I would have RAN after my husband AGREED with his parent's! WOW, WOW,. WOW! I am so happy that things turned out as they did for you!
OP should leave quickly. Her husband is a "momma's boy" to both of his parents.
Good for taking him to the cleaners
In laws wanted to build a VACATION house. They didn't need the money.
Sounds like OP needs a Divorce
Wonderful. LET HIM GO, don't be a fool.
No ma'am, we would have separate accounts with his philanthropy 💯‼️❗
Did no one ever tell OP, or other women, to have a secret acct that their husband knows nothing about? I had all elder women around me growing up & they ALL told me never let a man know what you have. That advice has served me well.
So should a husband also have a secret account as well?
I would tell them what they told us when we asked for money, they needed to pay for it by themselves.
If the in-laws don't need the money why give them money. What about OP's parents, would he give her parents money like he does his.
I would be moving my portion of the savings without telling Gayle. Counsult a lawyer. The house is your inheritance so he would have to move out. You would be better off without this toxic family.
No you have alright to take him to court because he owe you he is a piece of work just waiting to get done
There is a difference between helping in an emergency and helping with luxuries.
Take your 100 grand and prove he took the other money.
Sue him sell the house take ,your cash .
Divorce him and get rid of his family
It was op's house, it wasn't their house. How was op not entitled to keep all the money from the sale of the home. If her soon to be ex wants to go bankrupt supporting his entitled parents he's now free to do so. I would have divorced him after forty eight hours of being ghosted. He's salty that op pulled the trigger first.
22:52, Oh Plesse, She is just upset that her plan to use Her Puppet Son to ROB YOU of $100K failed and she had to Return the money. I mean come on. The whole point of a marriage is to be 50/50 and its cleary the only 50 they wanted from her was 50% of her assets.
24:05, Dis agree with the idea of O.P. taking the money is Disrespectful to her husband. was it "Respectful" for him to IGNORE his wife and Steal the money from the account without even discussing it? NO, then why does he deserve Respect in kind?
If Gale can give away $100k to his parents OP can sell her own house.
Child Byeee! Let them love on each other and go on with your life😡🤷🏽♀️
He knew the house wasn't his otherwise he would trow OP out but he went to his parents
Speak of a DOORMAT getting FOOLED, and walked and tramped all over themselves, OP is the perfect example.
Don't most divorces go to court? And when this guy so consistently put his parents wants over their family's future, divorce was inevitable.
OP is completely in the right and im glad it worked out for her. However, one rhing i would do is get a few appropriate pictures and send them to them as the holiday home she bought gor herself with the 100k :) Meanwhile, actually keeping the money safe for emergencies:) Thay should help their blood pressure nicely
Ty
You never had him, you were there to help them.
Should have stopped him earlier. Parents were greedy, period....
Im happy you got free
No, you take too long to divorce Gayle
Take YOUR half and leave. Screw that noise
His father was still working and his parents were not starving or even in debt. OP did the right thing.
No vacations for you sweet lady or babies I make sure I take that 200k and leave.
Take him what he deserves
No😮. Heck no. Omg.
The house was an inheritance. OP was the only one with a legal claim to it married or not. Early on OP explained how the house was important to her but then she sells it? So she can start paying rent to someone else? That makes no sense and is an incredibly stupid financial move. OP talked about boundaries being crossed, but considering she never really established any that doesn’t fly. Of course her hypocritical deadbeat in-laws were going to keep holding their hand out for money because she never did once shoot that shit down hard with a vengeance. Every time the deadbeat in-laws asked for money was the time to tell them Hell No! And give them their own words back about being responsible adults and working to achieve your own success. The problem is she never did that. I always find it amazing that people who allow themselves to be treated like doormats have the gall to complain about how they get treated like doormats. There literally is no surprise here that would inevitably happen.
I can see her wanting to make peace with the husband, but for him to continually give in to his parents demands for money, after them giving a flat "No" when they were in need, was a red flag the size of Texas.
This should have shown her from the get-go that she was ALWAYS going to come dead last to his family.
Chances are, if they could see his parents will, they would be leaving everything to his brother and his family.
The icing on the cake was the narcissistic MIL telling her how she was a horrible person for only thinking about herself.
She is far better off without that insane family.
Really I can see giving your parents money if their house burned down and they had no where to live but no one NEEDS a vacation home that is a luxury and they should pay for it themselves.
Not sure the 100k was alimony, but instead her getting her half of the 200k savings, while Gale had given away the other 100k, leaving him broke.
She inherited the house from her mother. So the money from the sell was rightfully hers. Anyone the wants to dispute because they had to renovate can. But then she can dispute all the money he had given to his parents over the years. Probably equals out at the end.
When he gave away the $100k, that should've been the end right there. The divorce papers didn't come fast enough. WTH was she waiting on? Everytime she asked the out-laws for help she got a big, fat NO! Waited too long to get baby boy hubby and his folks outta her life. And that was HER house. Block them and never give them her address!
No, you didn’t go too far. He wanted to give half of your money without consulting you and yet when you ask them for money, they wouldn’t help. They don’t see the problem with their request? Of course not because it didn’t help them out to lend you money.
This is why you don't merge finances. IDC , I did it once and will never do it again. They want to be stupid with their money, that's on them.
I would put my money in an account in my name only and tell my husband that I will split the living expenses with him 50/50 and he could give his parents money out of what he had left. Also, tell him that the rest of your money would be used as you saw fit.
It took the husband to break up this pile of bs they called a narriage. The wife just wanted to convert him to his side it was all about her revenge.
I wonder how much money the in laws had. How much was in bank accounts and savings.
Everyone saying that the OP should have no problem "helping"her in-laws missed one major point......they were getting HALF OF HER PAYCHECK ALREADY to waste, I mean a second weekend house paid for by their daughter in-law. ENTITLED. And the "husband" was no such thing, all he was good for was fighting her and draining her pay for mommy and daddy and their "I Want". Get out as fast as possible. They refused to loan you money to get a house, but always demand you money to waste. BYE AND I HOPE THE DOOR HITS YOU IN THE A$$ ON THE WAY OUT.
my answer they're adults they should know how to handle their money!
Leaches the hubby and inlaws were bottom feeders.
Unless you are from a culture where it's not a quiet unspoken but a very much in your face spoken that you have to take care of your elders later then giving them money throughout the marriage is nothing but generous. And you definitely don't have to give them 100 Grand just because you have 200
The word is no greedy greedy greedy greedy
The ex is talking about disrespect and that OP is showing disrespect. The ones who show most disrespect are the ex and his parents