Are You Having A Midlife Crisis?
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It happens to all of us. I’m 50 yr Old and went through much of it in my 40s. The light at the end of the tunnel is as such.. at first the regrets set in. Later, you learn how to manage those feelings of regret and somehow come to an “acceptance” of “this is how things turned out, and it’s meant to be this way”... When things begin to turn around and really get better is when you transition out of the “acceptance” phase and into a phase of “embracement” - where you now have learned to truly “embrace” all that has been given to you or not given to you and you begin to find ways to live a life that uses and make the best of what circumstances were handled to you. I know it sounds cliche but moving into this phase has helped me tremendously. For me, it was being single at 40, never married, no children, etc. I eventually came to the mindset that I was going to wake up every day appreciating my time given to improve myself and make the best body - physically, emotionally and mentally for myself. Nowadays, I’m at a point in life where I wouldn’t have it any other way. That’s ultimately the best position to be in. I also found it helpful for me to volunteer at a senior living facility, and a homeless shelter. You’ll find it helps to take your mind off of your issues by helping others cope with theirs.
Yes to the deeper dive.
I'm 36 and going thru a pretty tough crisis myself. I wish everyone else who is in the same boat Godspeed because this is serious.
I’d love to see a deeper dive. I’ve been questioning a lot in my life lately
I am 58 and going through a divorce after 15 years of marriage, so definitely a time for reflection and reevaluation. Perhaps a mid life crisis is less of a crisis, and more of a time to make changes, before it is too late, and we are simply forced to cruise into retirement? The older we get, the harder it is to change course, and that is where the disillusion and depression can creep in.
So true! Thanks for commenting!
Thats why you need to seek a spiritual journey. Like asking the GOD of the Bible for direction .
Enjoy life day to day. In a few Billion years no one will remember you or Jeff Bezos.
Rejoice brother I got divorced sometime back I’m also 58 and I got divorced about eight years agoIf you’re not in shape get in shape believe me but you get your confidence built back up it’ll be like the good ol daysIn a little bit of TRT once a week certainly will not hurt
58 and going through divorce….I’m 38 going through divorce and feeling the same way. I keep getting a gnawing feeling that my time is running out
A deeper dive would be great. I think I am actually going through a midlife crisis. Would love to hear what your point of view is, etc.
Thank you!
Just turned 50 this year and I believe I might be having a midlife crisis lol. 50 hit me like a ton of bricks. I lost my well-paying job due to the pandemic, my best friend (a woman) got a boyfriend witch makes hanging out a bad idea now. But at least I decided to embrace my age and dress appropriately witch helped a lot with my confidence. Decided to get my teeth fixed, started taking care of my skin and decided on letting my hair grow to a much longer length (people liked it and got compliments that it made me look younger). Now just need my 400+ horsepower Benz or Cadillac and I'm all set! I think you should do more videos on this. Keep up the great content!
Thank you for watching Hector!
Yes my man , I'm 42 now and can feel it , let's do the deep dive !
I’m 51, and I can say I wake up grateful for everything I have every day. I may not be where I want to be in life, or not have as much money as I’d like, yet I have value in my work, and relationships.
Reflection and evaluation of your life and goals is a healthy activity that should be made regularly. Otherwise you are driving through life without thought, learning or self awareness.
I hate how it is often treated like something negative that you should be ashamed of experiencing. I agree that is more a time of self reflection looking at “what have I done”? “What would I like to Dow with the time I have left”?
Great point! Thank you David!
I vote for a big "YES" to the deeper dive.
Yes, please do a video on this. Like all topics related to men's mental health, midlife crisis is a very under discussed and, while a serious topic, it is usually the butt of jokes
John, great topic ! I'm quite sure this will be a popular & impactful discussion. Remember gentleman the only person you need to impress in this lifetime is yourself ! Instead of looking inside yourself for what you're losing like hair, your sex appeal & most importantly TIME. Think about what you do have have & capitalize on it, like wisdom & knowledge. Too many men get desperate & try and cling on to their youth. Concentrate on staying youthful minded & do your best to be your best you !! Be the hardest worker in the room is my advice & stay confident, how do you do that ? By excelling in everything you do. Take it from a 55 year old who's reinvented himself several times !!
Thank you! Great points!
@@40OverFashion I'm sorry John, you were asking for suggestions or questions and I just kind of spit out answers how very rude of me , btw I think you do a amazingly Professional job at presenting your content & it was not a surprise to me when you had mentioned in one of your video's you have a extensive background in commercial photography. I'm a avid photographer, mostly landscape I have a Hasselblad SWC that I'm hoping to get a digital back for when I hit the lottery...lol !
YES, PLEASE!
Yes to the deep dive!
Yes. Do a video. I got married young. I did well and raised a family, but I settled for toxic relationships. I retired & divorced. Now I want better.
The more I watch your videos, John, the more I feel informed and educated. I have definitely been reflecting from the time I finished high school to the time I turned the big 4-0. I don't think I did too bad in young adulthood but looking back I could of applied myself more. It was a self esteem issue. Now after 40, I have been thinking different and feeling different.
Dang, would love to have a conversation regarding the trips. I survived by looking good and staying relevant. Thanks John
I am 52, got divorced at 40; felt like the world is ending, with no time left. Recovered in two years with lots of friendships and art and walking and sports and solo holidays. Corey Wayne is a must for better relations; ı read his book ‘3% men’. And spent 10 years of best life time. Now in a sound relationship, settled down and enjoying the journey with a positive attitute; happiness is in the process of overcoming yhe obstacles along the way as we go toward our life goals.
Yes, absolutely! Would love to get your thoughts on this time of life. Glad I found your channel, keep up the great work!👍🍻
Yes please I'm 42, I think I have been experiancing one for a few years!
Yes! A deeper dive would be great!
Yes John this would be a good topic for discussion periodically as everyone goes through this at some point in their lives. Peace. : )
Thanks Kevin!
We definitely need a deeper dive on this one :)
Thanks!
43 years old. Have everything everybody would want on paper yet am going through it right now. Sh8t is crazy.
Can you do one for women as well? The woman’s channels are so boring and you are honest and to the point.
Thanks John, would like to see more on this topic.
Interesting topic. Yes I would like to hear u expand on this idea. Your amazing man.
yes but do it as a panel discussion with several other guys in the mix too
Great feedback Scott!
Hi John
Truth be told! Post COVID lockdowns, world affairs and inflation depending of which part of world one is at, can play tricks on most of us.
Can this be a sort of series? Each chapter of the challenges we face as men does need some careful evaluation.
Please- Dive in.
Let’s explore.
Thanks Will!
Yes , please do
Yes, let's take a deeper dive!!
Excellent idea John. Thanks for your hard work.
Very welcome
I’d love to hear more about midlife crisis. What you said about these big questions really resonates.
Thanks Will!
So common it's crazy! Definitely something I went though and have been helping some clients with a lot more recently. So much of it is cultural...and getting clear on what you want and is aligned for YOU and saying f*** it to societal standards is KEY!
Definitely take a deeper dive. Been wrestling with this for the last 3 years since my 17 year old son died of cancer.
My life was on track to be nothing but regrets; I decided then to try to Live My Best Life, live without regret and do the things I want rather than what others expect.
It’s caused friction in my marriage; but we all get only one go-around, better make it count.
Thank you for commenting!
Would absolutely like to hear more on this. I think it’s valuable for men to hear what other men think and how they deal with issues like this one.
Thank you Reid!
Please do a video about it. Thanks John 👍🏻
Absolutely John, it is a serious matter for many people. At this stage people start to doubt themselves which leads to complete personality change.
So true! Thanks for commenting!
You look perfect, sir.
Less than a year I will be 40. I’ve accomplished nothing I wanted to. I’ve spent the last 20 years living a life of instant gratification and have nothing to show for myself.
Definitely a good topic.
I’m 40 and I think I’m definitely going through this right now
Yes you are right on
Yes to the proposed topic. Men need more avenues to talk openly about the feelings we have and the challenges we face...real or imagined.
I'm sure some of your older viewers can comment on what you share from their perspective. You know, the one's that have or are going through it.
And I propose we drop the word "crisis" and refer to it as a transition. 🤔
That would be a good topic John.
This could be a reoccurring topic/vids to tackle the harder thoughts/feelings that we (men) don't get to talk about out loud, for "xyz" reasons. And would be very beneficial for many. Especially with how disconnected (community, friends, family, etc.) so many have become. Props for stepping up on this one mate.
Yes...please do more vids on this. It hits home with me and I bet, many others.
Thank you!
i am having one at the moment. I feel it is very important to do that because it charts the rest of your life and what you leave behind. for me i took a break from work to test drive my passive income streams and refine/trim/cut off expenses or dead weights. I am fortunate that i am 80% debt free and have only a few tweaks left. The covid situation tests the sustainability and resilience of my mental state and financial health. Having a break from all the zoom maddness allows me to focus on me at the moment. it wasnt easy but i decided not to take any crap from micro managements. i have given myself a max of 1 year.
I think my wife is going through a midlife crisis, and it's not so bad.
She turns 39 soon. She changed her style of clothes, lost a lot of weight, got boob implants, changed hair style and color. She flat out told me that she wants to have some fun and said you ain't going anywhere lol
I think yes to diving deeper! I think I mention a good ways back I'm going in for cancer surgery this Monday at Emory hospital to have my entire lower jaw removed and replaced with part of my fibula and the rest titanium so I won't be responding for a couple or a few weeks. Hopefully I'll be lucid enough to read by next weekend but I will be back reading and replying as soon as I can, God willing!
Thanks for commenting Michael! Speedy recovery!
Good morning, John 😊
That is most certainly a good topic. We at a certain phase of our lives are at crossroads sometimes. That leaves many of us puzzled and lost.
Kindly do a video on it so that we can educate ourselves and choose the right path at the crossroads.
Stay safe, 😷. God bless. Much love ❤️.
I am 40 this month. I would like to marry. Your channel is great help regarding fashion, style and psychology 👍
Here's an idea. You could bring your camera and shoot a lot of interesting footage and get additional ideas at cars'n coffee San Clemente, every Saturday morning, starting at 8:30 AM. I'm there most every weekend and could show you around. It fits your interests in cars and is a great mix of classics, exotics and the fast n furious crowd. Just a thought because plenty of the guys there fit this topic :)
Never been to that one. Might have to check it out!
Yes. Any perspective you have on this subject would help
Please, more!
Lost my job ... And frightened to join new on
Same situation here.. at 39 years old....
You should hear John's (amazing) personal story of hardship and bottoming-out. It is a shocker, and inspiring the way he turned things around. John, if you are listening: this is worth a re-visit.
I have been made redundant three times in my life. Just keep looking forward and try to stay positive.
Yes, a lot of people are going through this. The alternative is being homeless, which is something I have refused to accept.
@@40OverFashion Suggestion: tell your personal story again. It is striking, and inspiring.
Yes John that would be a good one ,after what you just said is bang on ,love your work. cheers Gary
Thank you Gary!
I would love to hear more about "midlife crisis" - thank you John ... like your videos.
I have listened to and consumed Jordan Peterson extensively (other sources exist) and i connect with his view of things. But your take on things would sure be interesting.
Interesting topic to explore.
Well you've just explained what I am going through, So lets go. Sure hitting 57 which I thought was over half way
Yes please John. I was diagnosed with a chronic incurable illness when I was 40 and now I’m 53. My life ticks along nicely and I don’t think I’ve been well enough to have a midlife crisis. I’ve made plans to travel as soon as my house is paid for and I’m determined to go out with a bang! 🤣
I do think I’m having a small one, but see it as a positive though. I’ve lost a lot of weight, improved my life in many other ways, become a person I’m more proud of, and also come to a realization that I shouldn’t have to wait until I’m 50+ to enjoy a sexy car or motorcycle or a trip somewhere cool. I do blush when my friends see my new car though because I know what they’re thinking.
True success!! Is wakeup up each morning stress free.
Definitely would love to see a deeper dive on this one...
I can say that I am now in the middle of mid life crisis..it started 2 years ago and I evaluated my life back then and didn’t like many things..I did a gastric sleeve surgery to lose weight and now my weight is ideal..i start wearing classy fashionable clothing (thanks to your advices)..I changed the way i deal with my kids and people in general
So it is not a bad thing at last…this crisis may be the motivation to start over or even change for a better version of your self
I'm 44, go for it.
Go for it my friend. Love to hear your opinion on this matter. Kind regards from Scotland 🏴
Yes john a talk on midlife crisis would be interesting.
Yes deeper 👍
Well said
Sounds good John! That would be a great topic to cover
Great idea!
Thanks!
Yes please...
Please elaborate. I would love to hear more of your point of view. Thanks.
Yes, I think this is a good topic to explore.
Thank you Ken!
Yes! I turn 40 this year don’t know how to feel about it, feel strange
Same 😳
Hi John........yes please look in to this topic I am struggling I have made a total cock up of my life and my opportunities...... i am definitely not where I want to be in life.....lonely and lost.....keep up the good work.
Kev from York UK 🇬🇧
Thank you for commenting Kev!
Yes, deeper dive
Hi John I would like to know more about this tópic. I'll appreciated very much. Thank you and take care
My midlife crisis was at 40; she was 21...
Yes
Yes please!
I am interested in a deeper dive
Absolutely
Yes, go ahead
This would be a great topic to cover and probably one most men won’t, or don’t want to, discuss.
Understood! Thank you!
Important topic
Personally, I feel that would be a worthwhile topic. I have asked myself those very questions before. I am 57. I know I'm only here for a relatively short amount of time. What impact, if any would I like to make while I am here. If I do nothing of importance, has my life been a waste of time? Do I wish to be just an average individual who was born, lived and died or is there more? I think it's a fascinating topic and would like to hear others' take on it.
Thanks Peter!
Legend!
Yes, it is a great topic to cover. Most if not all of us have or are going through but, strangley, is rarely spoken of out loud. I saw your Q&A video and I was very interested in a particular question about your divorce. I've been divorced for 5 years now and I haven't been able to get over it someway or another.
Thanks for commenting!
Lots of evaluations right now over here...don't know why at this age...
Hang in there.
Looked forward to retirement. You’re only as old as you feel they say. Felt good. Retired. Looked around. Problem was that friends, family members, the heroes and icons of my youth were gone. See: Allman Bros. “No One To Run With (Anymore)”.
Yes deeper. I went through a divorce 3 yrs ago. I am living off the grid (homeless) but don't worry I am gladping every day. I have a full time job. So I am good. I am 50 going to be 51 in December 2022 and I am questioning my life now. What is next a yacht or a condo. :-)
John: "I'm not having a midlife crisis"...
Buys a twin-turbocharged AMG Mercedes 🤣
Yes to hearing more on your take of this topic. Keep up the great work and topics!
Thank you!
Deeper dive, plz!
John it would be an interesting topic. However midlife crisis and relationships is a tricky subject. Good luck navigating that one.
Thank you! Appreciate the feedback!