Hey Nate. I’m new to your channel but I have to say I appreciate your content a lot. I’m 14 and struggling with porn addiction- I have been trying to get in shape and so far that’s working out, but I have been relapsing. Do you have any tips or advice?
Hey man it takes a lot to admit that. I have my struggles as well. It’s truly a tough battle. There’s a lot of things going on with porn addiction. I’ve found several things that help dramatically. First: flee, don’t fight. When we try and “fight” the urge, we usually lose. When we renew our minds with good things and flee lust, it works much better. That means flip past the provocative pictures/reels/clips of women, sex scenes in movies, etc. Second, have a purpose/hobbies that fill your time. I believe most young men/men in general have issues with porn addiction since they don’t have proper outlets for their energy. Third, be social. I’ve personally found when I’m hanging out with people frequently and investing into making memories and building community that I seldom want anything to do with porn. Fourth and final, I highly recommend talking with as many women as possible - just on a platonic level. Truly get to know women and be friends, you’ll be surprised that they’re people too (despite most of the garbage being spewed out today). Taking the pressure off of being romantic or intimate actually helps you become that much more appealing to women when you have outcome independence. You’ll stop seeing them as objects and actually find them liking you more. Most guys don’t think they’re “worthy” of women and resort to porn to cope. It’s like someone who smokes or drinks - most likely wouldn’t do it but they do it anyways because it soothes and underlying issue. In this case, could be past heartbreak, childhood trauma, how you perceive your mother’s love or lack thereof (something major I don’t think is talked about enough). You don’t have to be a white knight, and you don’t have to be a mean dude to get women’s attention. You just have to be confident in you, and have a mission. Most of this will come with time. You’re still fairly young, but you’re asking the right questions now. Keep working out, that helps tremendously. You’re on the right path, and if you don’t know Jesus I’d check out the book of John in the Bible. He gives a way of escape and hope for any addiction. He will continue to make you new and renew your mind with time. There are peaks and valleys, it will always be an uphill battle. But you have an ultimate hope with Him by your side and in the end you will overcome. Hope this helps and thanks for the encouragement. You’re doing great confronting these things now. Working out, self awareness, and asking questions will go a long way for you. Hang in there and keep moving forward.
Hey Nate. I’m new to your channel but I have to say I appreciate your content a lot. I’m 14 and struggling with porn addiction- I have been trying to get in shape and so far that’s working out, but I have been relapsing. Do you have any tips or advice?
Hey man it takes a lot to admit that. I have my struggles as well. It’s truly a tough battle. There’s a lot of things going on with porn addiction. I’ve found several things that help dramatically. First: flee, don’t fight.
When we try and “fight” the urge, we usually lose. When we renew our minds with good things and flee lust, it works much better. That means flip past the provocative pictures/reels/clips of women, sex scenes in movies, etc.
Second, have a purpose/hobbies that fill your time. I believe most young men/men in general have issues with porn addiction since they don’t have proper outlets for their energy.
Third, be social. I’ve personally found when I’m hanging out with people frequently and investing into making memories and building community that I seldom want anything to do with porn.
Fourth and final, I highly recommend talking with as many women as possible - just on a platonic level. Truly get to know women and be friends, you’ll be surprised that they’re people too (despite most of the garbage being spewed out today). Taking the pressure off of being romantic or intimate actually helps you become that much more appealing to women when you have outcome independence. You’ll stop seeing them as objects and actually find them liking you more. Most guys don’t think they’re “worthy” of women and resort to porn to cope. It’s like someone who smokes or drinks - most likely wouldn’t do it but they do it anyways because it soothes and underlying issue. In this case, could be past heartbreak, childhood trauma, how you perceive your mother’s love or lack thereof (something major I don’t think is talked about enough). You don’t have to be a white knight, and you don’t have to be a mean dude to get women’s attention. You just have to be confident in you, and have a mission. Most of this will come with time. You’re still fairly young, but you’re asking the right questions now. Keep working out, that helps tremendously. You’re on the right path, and if you don’t know Jesus I’d check out the book of John in the Bible. He gives a way of escape and hope for any addiction. He will continue to make you new and renew your mind with time. There are peaks and valleys, it will always be an uphill battle. But you have an ultimate hope with Him by your side and in the end you will overcome.
Hope this helps and thanks for the encouragement. You’re doing great confronting these things now. Working out, self awareness, and asking questions will go a long way for you. Hang in there and keep moving forward.
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