Thank you so much for this session..I am done being trauma dumping land for others and being a parent to my own parents!..Now I got the answer why I am attracting emotionally unavailable people into my life. Once again thank you for this insightful session!
I can relate to a lot of things she said. I’m married into a family where the MIL has type B borderline personality disorders with a lot of narcissistic traits. I & my husband are on therapy. It helped me a lot to understand why MIL is behaving such a way & how can I set boundaries with her as well. Most importantly, I am able to understand the challenges my husband faces in a daily basis because of his childhood trauma & support him to deal it. Dhanya I’m really glad to see the efforts you put on each mental health episode by asking the right questions & bringing these wonderful health professionals. I always felt mental health is something that we ignored for the longest time as a community. You doing these interviews are helping a lot of people to finally realise that they need mental health help. I really hope this helps to gradually break the stigma surrounding mental health in our society❤
Dhanya ma’am when you told “this is a very saddening situation” literally there was tears in me as that is the exact situation I’m going through but unfortunately I couldn’t find the right therapist for help. Hoping without any help I can survive and take care of my son whose just 2 yrs old🙂
Can understand your feeling. Please get help, before its late. And definitely be independent, thts the key. If you strive hard now, it will be worth it in future- for your sake and your kid's.
The concept of family in Indian scenario itself is so dysfunctional.. You are arranged forcefully to live with a person you don't know much, you are forced to have children even if you are not prepared, and you are forced to live this way till you die.. Bcoz.. Its your destiny... It seems... Imagine in these socio cultural situations, do you expect a balanced life? Thanks for this lovely episodes 🙏.
Interesting insights on the selected topics. I hope we get to see more on mental health. So much to know about ourselves and how the human psychology works. Great content.✨
Sure true & apt...It's a life-long painful journey to be in a narcissistic family environment...One as a child looses their confidence in so many ways...Plus the world outside might never understand those pain's & agonies as most of the time narcisstic parents are quite Influential in society & they would use all their power might & manipulative skills to subdue the children & give a good picture to the outside world...And no matter how much these children who are born into narcisstic families help their parents...They will be zero appreciation or validation from the parents side, they will only criticise their children, compare with other's & keep expecting more financial or personal support from their children without analyzing or retrospecting their own shortcomings or flaws & trying to make a difference ..Ma'am like you rightly said therapy is required for inner healing...
നമ്മുടെ സമൂഹത്തിൽ ബാലൻസ്ഡ് പേരൻ്റിങ്ങ് വളരെ കുറവാണ്! ഒന്നുകിൽ ഓവർ കെയർ അല്ലെങ്കിൽ അണ്ടർ കെയർ! അതിനെ വീണ്ടും ഫ്യുവൽ കൊടുത്ത് ആക്സിലറേറ്റ് ചെയ്യുക മാത്രം ചെയ്യുന്ന വിദ്യാഭ്യാസവും!😔😔😔
I am realizing... Nw I am 32. Being childless aftr 6 yrs of marriage . ചെറുപ്പം മുതലേ അച്ഛൻ, അച്ഛന്റെ വീട്ടുകാർ ചെയ്ത ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടുകൾ അമ്മ എന്നോട് പറയും... ഞാൻ അത് കേട്ട് കേട്ട് കുറെയധികം കരഞ്ഞിട്ടുണ്ട്... പിന്നീട് അച്ഛനോട് വെറുപ്പായിരുന്നു... എന്റെ elder sister, njan 10 th pass ആയ സമയത്ത് മരിച്ചു... എനിക്ക് ഉണ്ടായ elder brother totally bad ആയിരുന്നു... പഠിക്കില്ല, അച്ഛന്റെ പോക്കറ്റ്ൽ നിന്ന് paisa എടുത്ത് movie കാണാൻ പോകും... ചോദിച്ചാൽ വീട്ടുകാരെ അടിക്കാൻ വരും... ഞാൻ 11th മുതൽ ഒറ്റക്കാണ്... Class topper ആയിരുന്നു... Plustwo നന്നായി pass ആയി... With 87%... But എനിക്ക് guide ചെയ്യാൻ ആരും ഉണ്ടായില്ല... Lower middle class family ആയിരുന്നു... പിന്നെ Diploma course ന് ചേർന്ന് പഠിച്ചു... അവിടെ വെച്ചാണ് എന്റെ husband ആയ person നെ പരിചയപ്പെടുന്നത്... ആരും appreciate ചെയ്യപ്പെടാതെ... Lookwise valare moshamanenn എല്ലാരും കളിയാക്കിയ ഒരു ടൈമിൽ he proposed me...എന്നെ ഒരാൾ അംഗീകരിച്ച feel ആയിരുന്നു... അന്നൊക്കെ life long ഒരു partner എന്ന concept ആയിരുന്നു എനിക്ക്... Later he got a govt job... But അയാളുടെ parents എന്റെ parents നെ ക്കാൾ worse ആയിരുന്നു... Father wasa drunkard... ( nw also). So He stayed with grandmother... അത് കൂടി കേട്ടപ്പോൾ empathy ആയി... I waited for 9 yrs to get married... Nw I'm not even getting enough support from him... His mother verbally abuses me... I'm fighting... വീണ്ടും എന്റെ വീട്ടിൽ താമസിക്കുന്നു... I donno hw long will I survive!
Dump him. Believe in yourself and build yourself up from scratch so much that you attract the right kind of person ❤ You are still very young. There is a lot of potential for you to grow. Work hard. Make money. Use it to build yourself. Ignore the society.
Madam, in all related vedios it says that the root cause of most of the mental disorders are based on ill or bad parenting especially during the childhood. Can you make a vedio on how to be a good parent in the sense of raising a child with healthy mind.
എന്റെ ദൈവമേ ഇതൊക്കെ ഇപ്പോഴാ അറിയുന്നത്....12yrs മുൻപ് അറിഞ്ഞിരുന്നെങ്കിൽ മുൻകരുതൽ എങ്കിലും എടുക്കായിരുന്നു.ഇപ്പൊ ജീവിതം തകർന്ന ശേഷം ഇതു കാണുന്ന ഞാൻ....
more doubts on narc mom in law... how to manage between a husband who had enough childhood trauma but his dad saved him in many ways.. the saviour is no more..now the girl finding it difficult to deal with the covert narc mom in law...to save her kids and heal her husband
You have had enough trauma due to these experiences.. Heal yourself first and see your energy shift to higher levels.. Then you'll automatically see changes in your partner
My parents are narcissist and psychopathic. They continue with their charades to this day. The trauma that my sister and I went through no one can believe
Just think of situation where all in family are effected by this disorder and entangled in such a situation and the only person who enters.... For example new member like daughter in law only brought up in good way enters a personality disorder entangled family... How could she bring up a child with this inlaws including her husband, who is not able to understand right from wrong as brought up in such a family....Please do reply.... If no one ever understand a word what she speaks in a family... only answer is either leave or rise above all in that family
th-cam.com/video/F_AAVneP80I/w-d-xo.html
Pls watch Part 1 here
Ma’am, the best part of your conversations are that you are asking them the questions / doubts as exactly what viewers like me wanted to ask them ❤
Stopping generational trauma by us is such a powerful and beautiful concept ❤
Thank you so much for this session..I am done being trauma dumping land for others and being a parent to my own parents!..Now I got the answer why I am attracting emotionally unavailable people into my life. Once again thank you for this insightful session!
I can relate to a lot of things she said. I’m married into a family where the MIL has type B borderline personality disorders with a lot of narcissistic traits. I & my husband are on therapy. It helped me a lot to understand why MIL is behaving such a way & how can I set boundaries with her as well. Most importantly, I am able to understand the challenges my husband faces in a daily basis because of his childhood trauma & support him to deal it.
Dhanya I’m really glad to see the efforts you put on each mental health episode by asking the right questions & bringing these wonderful health professionals. I always felt mental health is something that we ignored for the longest time as a community. You doing these interviews are helping a lot of people to finally realise that they need mental health help. I really hope this helps to gradually break the stigma surrounding mental health in our society❤
Thanks so much. Do share and support
Can you please share, from where you are taking therapy sessions?
എല്ലാ Parantsനും കുട്ടികളുടെ age ന് അനുസരിച്ച് ബോധവൽക്കരണ ക്ലാസുകൾ govt നേതൃത്വം കൊടുത്ത് നടത്തണം
Dhanya ma’am when you told “this is a very saddening situation” literally there was tears in me as that is the exact situation I’m going through but unfortunately I couldn’t find the right therapist for help. Hoping without any help I can survive and take care of my son whose just 2 yrs old🙂
I don't know what to say..much love
@@iamwithdhanyavarmathank you ma’am, that’s a great support. May God bless you and your family.🙏🏻
I think it's better to seek help, please...I can understand you❣️
I feel you. Dhanya mentioned that numbers are provided with the video. Please use them and seek help. ❤
Can understand your feeling. Please get help, before its late. And definitely be independent, thts the key. If you strive hard now, it will be worth it in future- for your sake and your kid's.
I hope these kinds of parental issues end with our generation. We want our children to become the best version of themselves.
True that
The concept of family in Indian scenario itself is so dysfunctional.. You are arranged forcefully to live with a person you don't know much, you are forced to have children even if you are not prepared, and you are forced to live this way till you die.. Bcoz.. Its your destiny... It seems...
Imagine in these socio cultural situations, do you expect a balanced life?
Thanks for this lovely episodes 🙏.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts
This is much needed❤... Going through this for the past 26 years😢
Congrats Dhanya. Selection of persons and topics and execution.
Simplicity in you, simple problems but heavy ones...
Dhanya mam...the statements you made while wrapping up, gave more insight equal to the whole session ❤❤
The best one of your interviews! Afiya madam is awesome.
Thank you so much for this valuable content!! Ellavarum kandirikenda video ❤
Interesting insights on the selected topics. I hope we get to see more on mental health. So much to know about ourselves and how the human psychology works. Great content.✨
Sure true & apt...It's a life-long painful journey to be in a narcissistic family environment...One as a child looses their confidence in so many ways...Plus the world outside might never understand those pain's & agonies as most of the time narcisstic parents are quite Influential in society & they would use all their power might & manipulative skills to subdue the children & give a good picture to the outside world...And no matter how much these children who are born into narcisstic families help their parents...They will be zero appreciation or validation from the parents side, they will only criticise their children, compare with other's & keep expecting more financial or personal support from their children without analyzing or retrospecting their own shortcomings or flaws & trying to make a difference ..Ma'am like you rightly said therapy is required for inner healing...
Well said,I'm also suffering I can relate to every point you said
Totally can understand your situation and can relate too...
നമ്മുടെ സമൂഹത്തിൽ ബാലൻസ്ഡ് പേരൻ്റിങ്ങ് വളരെ കുറവാണ്! ഒന്നുകിൽ ഓവർ കെയർ അല്ലെങ്കിൽ അണ്ടർ കെയർ! അതിനെ വീണ്ടും ഫ്യുവൽ കൊടുത്ത് ആക്സിലറേറ്റ് ചെയ്യുക മാത്രം ചെയ്യുന്ന വിദ്യാഭ്യാസവും!😔😔😔
It was a very informative session. Looking forward to seeing more people from different domains of life.
I am realizing... Nw I am 32. Being childless aftr 6 yrs of marriage .
ചെറുപ്പം മുതലേ അച്ഛൻ, അച്ഛന്റെ വീട്ടുകാർ ചെയ്ത ബുദ്ധിമുട്ടുകൾ അമ്മ എന്നോട് പറയും... ഞാൻ അത് കേട്ട് കേട്ട് കുറെയധികം കരഞ്ഞിട്ടുണ്ട്... പിന്നീട് അച്ഛനോട് വെറുപ്പായിരുന്നു...
എന്റെ elder sister, njan 10 th pass ആയ സമയത്ത് മരിച്ചു... എനിക്ക് ഉണ്ടായ elder brother totally bad ആയിരുന്നു... പഠിക്കില്ല, അച്ഛന്റെ പോക്കറ്റ്ൽ നിന്ന് paisa എടുത്ത് movie കാണാൻ പോകും... ചോദിച്ചാൽ വീട്ടുകാരെ അടിക്കാൻ വരും...
ഞാൻ 11th മുതൽ ഒറ്റക്കാണ്... Class topper ആയിരുന്നു... Plustwo നന്നായി pass ആയി... With 87%... But എനിക്ക് guide ചെയ്യാൻ ആരും ഉണ്ടായില്ല... Lower middle class family ആയിരുന്നു... പിന്നെ Diploma course ന് ചേർന്ന് പഠിച്ചു... അവിടെ വെച്ചാണ് എന്റെ husband ആയ person നെ പരിചയപ്പെടുന്നത്... ആരും appreciate ചെയ്യപ്പെടാതെ... Lookwise valare moshamanenn എല്ലാരും കളിയാക്കിയ ഒരു ടൈമിൽ he proposed me...എന്നെ ഒരാൾ അംഗീകരിച്ച feel ആയിരുന്നു... അന്നൊക്കെ life long ഒരു partner എന്ന concept ആയിരുന്നു എനിക്ക്... Later he got a govt job... But അയാളുടെ parents എന്റെ parents നെ ക്കാൾ worse ആയിരുന്നു... Father wasa drunkard... ( nw also). So He stayed with grandmother... അത് കൂടി കേട്ടപ്പോൾ empathy ആയി... I waited for 9 yrs to get married... Nw I'm not even getting enough support from him... His mother verbally abuses me... I'm fighting... വീണ്ടും എന്റെ വീട്ടിൽ താമസിക്കുന്നു... I donno hw long will I survive!
Did you seek medical assistance?! If not please do...
Once... A session... But they were asking to be ok with the situation...😐
@@priyapurushothaman4519 oh my goodness!
I think we should be careful while selecting docs...
Dump him. Believe in yourself and build yourself up from scratch so much that you attract the right kind of person ❤
You are still very young. There is a lot of potential for you to grow. Work hard. Make money. Use it to build yourself. Ignore the society.
Really a good session.Our society needs this kind of awareness on personality disorder.
Madam, in all related vedios it says that the root cause of most of the mental disorders are based on ill or bad parenting especially during the childhood. Can you make a vedio on how to be a good parent in the sense of raising a child with healthy mind.
Thanks for your suggestion
എന്റെ ദൈവമേ ഇതൊക്കെ ഇപ്പോഴാ അറിയുന്നത്....12yrs മുൻപ് അറിഞ്ഞിരുന്നെങ്കിൽ മുൻകരുതൽ എങ്കിലും എടുക്കായിരുന്നു.ഇപ്പൊ ജീവിതം തകർന്ന ശേഷം ഇതു കാണുന്ന ഞാൻ....
Pls do seek help
more doubts on narc mom in law... how to manage between a husband who had enough childhood trauma but his dad saved him in many ways.. the saviour is no more..now the girl finding it difficult to deal with the covert narc mom in law...to save her kids and heal her husband
Hey..same here dear..
You have had enough trauma due to these experiences.. Heal yourself first and see your energy shift to higher levels.. Then you'll automatically see changes in your partner
Very informative!! Good Job Dr Afiya👏👏
An important and indeed a good talk that is needed for many.... Many....
This is happening and unidentified...
Halpfull... Njan oru struggling mother aaanu.... Professional care nulla finance illatha kond ... TH-cam kond jeevikkunnu... Rekshapedan ellavreethiyilum nokkunnu...
Ippo gym il okke pikunnund.. food .. programs ellam ooronnayi cheyth thudangi... ❤
Dhanya I don't know how to thank you ❤ for this effort. Great great love you❤❤❤❤
A very very informative session maam. Hats off to you for making such i formative conversations
Ingane oru informative channel thannathinu orupad thanks.,.. NPD ye kurich kooduthal detailed aayi oru video koodi cheyyamo?
Will.do that..i
Do share these videks
@iamwithdhanyavarma 👍
This talk touched me a lot. .becz it gives me the answer how i made
well explained............👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This session is really helpful❤ Expecting more informative Chit chats
Glad you liked it!!..do share and support
My parents are narcissist and psychopathic. They continue with their charades to this day. The trauma that my sister and I went through no one can believe
Pls take care
Same. Takecare dear 🙂
Mam can u please do a session for ocd alone
Excellent presentation
Very interesting and informative topic
Thank you!.pls do share
Thank u.
Highly relatable on the parenting issues. Need the contact info of the therapist please
She is from iqraa hospital, Calicut, I think it's best you contact via hospital
Number in the description
@@iamwithdhanyavarma I’m living abroad. Hope they have online consultations
In the description
Well explained 👍🙏🙏🙏
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Thankyou maam for saying this out loud really appreciate
Thanks.do share and support
💯 True
Great talk❤🎉
Thanks
Please do a video on OCD 😢
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Thanks for liking..do share and support
Madam, ippozhum ithinekkurichulla bodhavalkkaranam, nammude naattil onnum nadakkunnilla,enthu kondu school thalathil aarum ithineppatti parayunnilla,ithu kaaranam ellaarkkum counselinginu pokaan thanne madiyaanu.
Maam correction in thumbnail... part 2
Thanks for letting me know
Just think of situation where all in family are effected by this disorder and entangled in such a situation and the only person who enters.... For example new member like daughter in law only brought up in good way enters a personality disorder entangled family... How could she bring up a child with this inlaws including her husband, who is not able to understand right from wrong as brought up in such a family....Please do reply.... If no one ever understand a word what she speaks in a family... only answer is either leave or rise above all in that family
NPD victim aanu njn from my mother nd father was emotionally unavailable.... Enne protect cheyyan kazhinjit illaaa
Pls take care
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I am an underachiever 😢😢
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Sounds sponsored.....
Nothing sponsored
Better than other sponsored programs..
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