I feel it all sums up to a person's upbringing and how big their heart is. I grew up with 12 other siblings and we didn't have grandparents at all. I'm very thankful my inlaws and my parents are still alive to see my children and make memories with my children. That's probably one thing I envied so much as a child so when I married, I wanted a man from a good family with parents. Sometimes my inlaws get under my skin but at the end of the day those are my husband's parents so I'd be hurt if he disliked my parents too or let small things override all the good they have done for us. Kindness is not expensive so give it often.
I agree with what Pa Vang commented. It's always the women. I know it's hard to get along with in-laws. But you still gotta open your heart and continue to love your in-laws. Unless they are scheming, evil in-laws out to destroy your marriage, then I can see why you kept your distance. Even with this scenario, you don't have to mistreat them.
This has becoming a typical situation in our Hmong families. I’m still young and I’m not even expecting my kids to care for me or my wife when we are old because I know they won’t especially my future daughter in laws. My advice is, save for your retirement and choose a really nice nursing home for retirement. Last but not least, make sure to establish a will and don’t leave anything behind to those don’t love or care for you.
As a daughter, mother, and sister in law, I know my role and what I need to do for my parents and parents in laws. We have to love our parents in law as much as our own parents or better yet more. Evil people will always be evil.
Karena, you are so right! I wish there’s more people like you on this earth! It’s so sad that many of the daughter-in-law are so evil and don’t want to love their husband’s parents💔☹️ God bless you Karena!
This is a very sad story about our sons nowadays. The daughter-in-laws dictate our sons if they can love their parents or not…??? Let them take care of their own kids. As parents we must not staying home and take care of our grandchildren, but spend our money, times, and take lots of vacations. Never regrets when they put us in senior home…😩👍🤠
We as Hmong women need to do better! The root of all these elderly stories is always the woman! Yep I said it! Woman! Everybody is just blaming the title “nyab” when that title is hold by every Hmong woman. Every Hmong woman will get to be a “nyab” and a “Muam.” You might be a great “muam/ntxhais” but you might not be a great “nyab”. So we as muam need to look at ourselves too. Of course it’s our parents so we will always love no matter what. You might claim you love your parents so much but have you ever questioned yourself do you love your in-laws the same?? We Hmong women these days are selfish, just want to love your own parents but not your in laws. That’s why we don’t hear a lot of stories that “muam don’t her parents” it’s always “nyab don’t love her in-laws” it’s bc we can’t love our in-laws like how we do for parents. Shameful!
We don't love our in-laws as much as our parents because they weren't the ones who raised us. Expecting nyabs to devout their lives and to love the in-laws unconditionally is hard to do. Others are better at it and some are not. We are all humans. As muams you can't expect outsiders to love your parents like how you love them, but what you can expect is your brothers to pull their share of the duties in caring for your parents along with you. You and your brothers need to step up and help out too, not just leave it to the wives/nyabs to feed and clean your parents.
We married to the dude not volunteered to wipe his parents asses. He and his siblings can’t even do it, why is it the nyabs duty? That dam muam ain’t wiping her mama’s ass but the nyab should because they paid 5 grands? That dam muam costed more than 5 grands to raise and they got paid 5 grands for taking her, why didn’t she do squat but complain? Bssh!
If my husband can do what i do for his parents and love my parents like how i love his then ok. It's not ' get marry and dedicate your intire life to your inlaws. We are not selfish for not dedicating our life to our in laws.
The pain your parents endure, your brother and sister-in-law’s will experience too when they get old. For we have children and will expect the same kind of love when we get old. That’s why it’s so important to love unconditionally and take care of your parents to your best ability so you that you will have no regrets when they leave. Some of these nyab act like they will not get old and be forgetful one day. I am upset the sons can’t step and do anything when it matters but act like their parents money belongs to them? A lot of these stories of our parents suffering exist only because of the wicked sister-in-laws (us females). We can’t love our husband parents but expect our husbands to respect and love our parents? SMH.
Maybe we need to rethink our approach to retirement? In this country, it’s harder to care for our elders when we all have full time jobs and it’s even harder if they had medical issues that require all day care. We need to save and plan for the future and be open about the possibility of living in the nursing home. I know it is something we don’t want but we are heading that direction.
But this is just her side of the story. It's true evil people exist but too many times whenever I hear daughters complaining and criticizing their nyabs, turn out they treat their inlaws no better or worse. If you are going to be good, do good without complaining so much and trying to draw attention.
She too will suffer the same fate someday when her own daughter uses tradition as an excuse to NOT help her and only complaint and push the responsibility onto her sons. At that point she will wish she has done more for her parent instead of complaining and making excuses after excuses.
I am glad you took out the ads in the middle of the story . Sad story and it's happening more and more. You don't have to love your inlaws like your parents but respect the elders. Many nyabs these days just want the free daycare but don't care for the old people. So when thejr kids are old enough then this happens.
So sad. Nowadays, so many tub and nyab just want to take advantage of the parents. We live in a generation where we all work and some just want the parents as sitters until the kids are all in school. Yes, we work and are unable to care for the elders but we need to help as much as we could. They won’t be there forever. Think about all the money you saved using the elders as sitters and all the love the grandparents gave to your kids! You’re fortunate enough to have elders to help. My husband’s parents passed away when he was very young so I’ll never get to experience this. However, his uncle and aunt raised him so I’m doing my best to help them as needed. Love your parents when you still have them. There is no one that would love and care for you and your kids like the parents/grandparents. I wish my in law could be here to be there for my kids. 😢 On the other hand, I’m blessed to still have my parents and to be able to love them as much as I could. Not tolerating the tradition of girls are outsiders. My home will always be open for my parents. Thank goodness my husband treats my parents as his own.
MIL do not love their own nyab like they love their own daughters. And nyabs do not love their MIL like they love their own mother. That's just the truth so stop blaming the Nyab. If it's your mom and dad you are responsible to take care of them. Your husband or wife will only do the minimum when it comes to your own parents so don't expect them to love and care for your own parents if you can't even do the same to your inlaws. Just like we hear stories about orphans where adults cannot love kids that are not their own. It is the sad honest truth. A toxic trait we all carry. Some just show it more than others.
Peb ua neeg thiab ua neej Nyob peb yeej yuav txawj laus tabsis kom peb nco ntsoov tias yus pab tej laus kom li yus pab tau tabsis yog luag tsis nyiam yus mus tu thiab kov lawv no ces kavliam xwb mog. Txav deb deb ntawm lawv xwb mog. Tabsis yog yus Niam thiab yus Txiv Yawg lawv hlub hlub yus thiab pab pab yus no ces nco ntsoov hlub lawv rov qab nawb mog. Yog luag tsis hlub yus luaj twg ces hlub tau li cas ces hlub li ntawd thiab Txhob ntxub luag mog. Txoj kev laus tsis muaj leej twg hla dhau mog, Txhob ntxub lawv Txhob cem lawv tabsis qhia lawv kom lawv paub thiab take care lawv mog. Leej Niam thiab Leej Txiv yog yus lub ntuj rau yus, yog lawv coj tsis zoo los yuav tau qhia li yus qhia tej menyuam yaus tabsis kom cov laus los yuav tau nkag nkag siab thiab mog. Muaj ib cov laus mas lawv tsis nkag siab thiab laus laus lawm ces lawv lub siab me me thiab tu tu siab li lawm, ua ib qhov me me thiab hais zoo zoo los lawv yeej tu tu siab heev rau yus os. Tabsis yog luag twb yeej hlub hlub yus thiab pab pab yus ces nco ntsoov hlub luag rov qab mog.
Ungrateful sons. My husband and I took care of his father until his last breath. I am forever grateful to have such a loving fil. May this couple Rest In Peace.
Some Hmong men are not man enough to do what is right. Just like you said, sister, everybody gets old eventually, and your brothers and their wives will probably meet a similar, if not worse, treatment from their own children. In a sad way, your brothers and their wives have set the example for their kids that it's okay to mistreat parents when they get old.
I agree, but most of the time it’s not because hmong men are not men enough. It’s because of the hmong women. Some nyab are just too ignorant and smart ass!!! All because of the American law. If us men don’t do as they wish then they would find a way to get a divorce and then file for child support!!!
The hmoob fairy tale call ev yawg mus nrauj zoo tim qab tsuas. When the father and the son gonna leave the father's father at the cave, the son told the father that dad don't forget lub kawm so when you get old I have this to take you here. What goes around comes around
I wouldn’t believe every word from this woman. Hmong people need to learn and change too. It’s a whole as a family to take care for the elders not just the last son and his wife. But the daughter in law gets all the blame!!!! As always! However if she’s really wants to play a part and make a difference for her parent, stop all her bashing and start helping!!!!!
Parents are not free child daycare. If you ask your parents to babysit, pay them like how you would a babysitter. If grandparents offer to help out don't expect anything in return. Do it because you want to not because you expect them to care for you later in life. If that's the case, make it clear from the start so the nyab/son can decide if they want you to babysit or not. There are so many unsaid expectations that usually lead to disappointment.
Ua li kiag yom yus twb xav tias kuv tsis zov kuv mus shopping tab sis txawm siv hu lawm ne. Yog li mas yuav tau make an appointment ua ntej thiaj zov tau lawv tej menyuam laub yom…
I'm waiting for all the people who say "ntxhais xwb thiaj hlub niam hlub txiv" to realize that..... Ntxhais = nyab 🤣 Its like the pot calling the kettle black
I’m a sister and a nyab. I wouldn’t say anything to them nyabs.. I would take my parents to live with me. I love my parents me, if no one love them I’ll love them.
As a nyab myself, i don't think i can handle my daughter in law as well when I'm in that age. we all just need to understand that this 21st century is not like we were back 1900. Our hmong people don't understand is that, we are living in a big time different world from back in the 1975! back in the day all the elderly only living off farming vs. us fighting 8 hours plus to survive. Of course everyone will not have the times to take care of our elders. n it's not like farming where you can go when you want to, we work for others where we can't miss work all the times. welfare is not enough to help everyone! and as we age, we get more grumpy 😊
Amen! Hmong refuse to understand that this life now is very different from life in Laos and life is much harder now. You cannot work a full/time job and care for an elderly parent full-time. Most work places don’t give you time off whenever you want it. Also, for those who automatically assume the daughters-in-law are the bad ones, they must be perfect like this lady in the story.
Ntuj es, I always feel tears 😭 listening to stories like this. This is why I’m a daughter I go to church so one day I can love my parents and have them die in my arms in my house as a blessing if my nyab don’t love them at their last breath. My husband is a nice guy he understood my wishes.
Hmong folks need to stop trying to dictate and manipulate their children. Stop telling them that they're responsible to care for the parents and that the parents to live with. Hmong parents value their son's more than their daughters. They catered and nourish them with full support of everything especially financially. Not only that but the son's and daughter in law take for granted of the in laws to raised and watched their children. Prime example of the need to change their ways. Stop babying your son's and especially your daughter in law. This story is so sad and very true. Stop catering to them. You've already did your job in raising your own children. Them grandchildren are their responsibilities not yours. You watch them when you want. You do on your own time.. otherwise you do not have to help them if you so choose not to.. it is ok not to take them all the time.. not your responsibility to care for them or babysit them.. send them back to their parents. Y'all need to live in your own place and live your golden years enjoying your life. Daughter in law like this exists everyday and many of them. You are only beneficial to them when they need you and you served a purpose. They take you for granted until they do not want to care for. Remember your son's will not choose you the parents who raised him and sacrificed for him. He'll choose his wife over you the parents. Y'all need to reevaluate your love and caring and catering of your son's. You bend backwards to give them everything, money, love, care, support. This the result you have to look forward to.
Listening to this story makes me teary. My dad passed away and my mom is living with my brother, his wife would raise her voice and yell at my mom. She mistreats my mom as if she’s a dog and not even a human, my mom would cry and the Nyab would apologize over and over but she still continues to do her mistreatments. I would think that she sees that my mom is a widow and would treat her right, but, she doesn’t. She will go through it one day, maybe even worse bc kids nowadays, don’t care.
Sad I would love to see how they feel if others nyabs treat their mother like them Don’t say we love our kids and can sacrifice our life for them. This generation only care about themselves 😂
This story made me miss my grandma so much. She raised me and my six siblings. As she got older I took care of her doctor appointments and making sure she had all her medication. We as her grandkids always loved her so much but it will never compare to the love she craved from our aunts and uncles.
Kuv yog ib leej tub kuv kuj muaj nam muaj txiv nrug kuv nyob tsi muaj dlaab tsi yuav nyuab le nawb yog nyuab ces tim tuab cov tub ua tsi taug txiv xwb yog mej tug qos puj tsi hlub mej nam mej txiv ces muab nrauj xwb
I love listening to your channel niam ntsuab teev. Now this is such a heartbreaking story! I broke down during the part when the grandchild plws ans told your elderly parents they tsis "muaj mob" and his mom was just evil. Honestly I think your brothers are pathetic! Why don't they man up and put their toxic evil wives in check? All because they are afraid to lose their marriage?!!! Your brothers allowed this to happen. Shame on them
I already told my husband that we should plan to live in a senior complex when we age. I know for a fact that my kids cannot care for me as I do for my in-laws & parents. Therefore, we plan ahead without any expectations.
Sons, daughters, son in laws and nyabs now days. Doesn’t matter if our parents are old and dirty, when they raised us as kids we were dirty but they didn’t mistreat us, it’s our turn to take care of them! For those that mistreats our elders/in laws, what you give is what you get, KARMA!
I swear, this story breaks my heart! Dislike sons & DILs that aren't grateful for their Parent's love!!! Karma is very close by to those ungrateful Children!!!
Hmoob hais ib lo lus tias " NYOB DEB CES NIM YUAV TXO DEJ TXO CAWV, NYOB ZE CES SIB SIB NTXUB XAV XUAS HLUAV TAWS HLAWV " cov muam ces lawv tuaj saib niam tais yawm txiv zoo nkaus li lawv tuaj mus noj mov hauv restaurant xwb ces zoo li zaub mov qab22 rau lawv tab sis tus chefs uas cooks every day ces nws saib tej zaub mov ntawd lom22 dhuav22 nws ces nws twb noj tsis taus li.
peb tuaj ua neej rau rooj teb no peb khwv rau nom rau tswv them nyiaj rau nom rau tswv es thaum peb cov niam cov txiv laus lawm yuav tau to taub es coj mus rau nom tswv pab sai xyuas mog es txhob sib cav sib ceg sib hais lus ntsawv siab mog tej laus yuav tsum lees txoj kev laus kev tsis sis ua huv thib nawb es txhob tu siab rau tej me nyuam tej tub los nyab mog
Peb ua neeg ces laus lawm yeej tsis ntxim hlub lawm os, nco ntsoov tias tus nyab tsis yog nkawv yug, cov tub yuav tsum txhob cias cov nyab tus nkaus xwb, yog yug niam thiab txiv yus yuav tsum hlub tshaj mas tus nyab thiaj nrog hlub thiab. Ho qhov qias, phem los kom tus nyab ua ces yeej uv tsis taus vim nkawv tsis yug tus nyab.
That is why when my kids give me money, I take it, their dad always said no but I don't care, I just take it from them, because I know that when they will marry, I will never see a penny from them so I take advantage of my kids. LOL
Wow pure evil nyab tiag2. Some of these evil nyab doesn’t know how to appreciate the nice mother-in-law. Do these nyab ever put their parents in their mother-in-law’s shoes? How would they feel if their nyab treat their mom like how they treat their mil. This is why I tell my own mil to stop caring so much for her grandkids when the one she babysit doesn’t even appreciate her. I babysit my own kids because I don’t want to burden my mil. Taking care of a lot of children is stressful and lots of responsibilities. Your brother needs a punch in the face!
This is so sad… I keep hearing stories like this where the kids find their old parents disgusting… I don’t know how one can feel this way and be so cruel to their parents…
My in laws both passed at a young age. I always wished they’d live old and gray with me and my husband. It saddens me that others who still have parents would treat them this way, especially when they loved their grand babies so much. I wish I can have my in-laws here with me.
I always say this to my mom and brother's, "We love, care and forgive each other. But remember once we all get marry, things will be a bit different because we will have to consider our wife's input."
Hmong people need to stop with this Hmong kev cai of only wanting to live with sons. Go live with whoever loves you and treat you well. We live in the USA now, not in Laos or Thailand.
If you have kids learn how to babysit your own and don’t rely on others. As far as for the elderly folks it’s OK they can live in assisted living if you know that you can’t take care of them. Why let them suffer in your own hands!
Cov ntxhai ua coj tuaj piav li no lo yeej zoo thiab ua ib qho kev kawm tab sis ua li koj puas hlub tau koj niam pog txiv yawg na. Nug koj tu kheej seb koj ho hlub koj niam pog txiv yawg npaum li ca tso mam cem koj tej nyab nawb
While the children are not honoring their parents, it doesn’t mean the parents are right either. Parents need to let their kids grow and leave the nests. When you don’t face the facts that your baby is an adult now, this is what happens. Stop living with your adult children! Just bc Hmong people did this for centuries doesn’t mean it was right. Hmong people used to have polygamy marriages, kidnapping bribes all the time too why aren’t we as open to that now? (Bc it’s wrong also along with many other rules) You have kids bc you chose to so don’t play the guilt trip game of saying “I took care of you, you need to take care of me”. You had no choice but to take care of your children; that’s just your job as parents. I thought we get wiser the older we get, not dumber. In case you forgot, they have their own family to provide for now. Just another reason why saving/investing for retirement is so important. Stop being selfish.
This is America! Son or daughter, NO one will love your parents as much as you do. Less complaining, more doing. Stop expecting others to meet your expectations as they are not you.
Vim cov ntxhais nws nyob nws 1 lub zej lub zos uas sib nrug deb22 ces nws yeej yuav uv taus dua tab sis tus uas niaj hnub tu ces nws over lawm. Nco ntsoov tias noj mov cuav zos yeej qab dua yus noj hauv tsev. Cov muam ces tuaj saib niam saib txiv ces zoo nkaus li lawv tuaj shopping or dine out xwb.
Vim tshai tsam yav Laus tsis muaj Chaw tuag es thiaj li yug tus yug ntxhais Los thaum kawg tseem tuag zoo li tus ua tsis muaj menyuam thiab tu siab kawg nej cov g hlub niam hlub txiv txhob yug nej cov menyuam tsam thaum kawg nej cov ho g hlub nej thiab coj li Cas tau li Cas
Pab tu siab kawg yog ua li cas cov nyab yeej tsis nyiam cov niam thiab txiv li os tab si lawv twb yug tau me nyuam thiab lawv yeej yuav tau txais ib hnub lawv laus xwb mas ntuj nyob qe qe lawm yeej yuav npam xwb
Wow kuv kuamuag silaim nrog koj………cas niam nkawd muaj muaj hmoo es nim tau mus uake lawm……kuv tsis muaj hmoo es kuv nim quaj nyob quaj nyob xwb…….kuv tus txij nkawm wb nim teem tsis tau li koj niam os……pab koj tu siab heev
Tus mi ntxhais zoo aw cas koj yuav txawj hlub niam txiv u luaj thiab txawj xav cuag li ! Niam thaib txiv mas tuag lawm los tshua koj kawg thiab yuav tsom kwm koj mus niam txhiab ib tshi os mog
Yog coob npaum no tsis muaj ib tug tub hlub ces yog tim niam thiab txiv lawm. Koj ua muam coj tsis tau mus nrog koj nyob los yog nkaws tsis kam nrog koj nyob ces tsis txhob qw2 os.
Kev npam muaj tiag os mog sister aw…leejtwg ua li cas ces yuav tau sau li ntawd nawb kuv tus niam tij thiab tijlaug nkawd tsi pab kuv hlub kuv niam pog tseem ua phem phem rau kuv thiab nkawd twb tau txais nkawd qhov khoom pliag lawm lub ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag Thov peb ua qhov zoo xwb txawm peb ntxub npaum cas los peb hlub peb tus txiv ces peb yuav tau hlub 2 tus laus.yog kuv hlub nws npaum cas los nws ntxub kuv niam kuv txiv ntshe kuv yuav puag nws tsi sov li os
As a nyab, I always try to minimize help and offers from the inlaws. Why? Because I know it's story like this, that will delusionally bite my A in the future. Some inlaws are more aggressive with offering help and stepping into their son's life by trying to steer things. Please stop doing this to your adult son and their wife then, later expect something or use it against them. There are sons and nyabs who get fed up and let it be. Why? Because if they complain about not wanting the help then they are automatically the bad guys. Can't ever do anything right. Like c'mon the sister is throwing a fit about clothes being mixed and washed together?! It is clear that the parent(s) pee and potentially poo their clothing/ bedding. Why mix this with other people's clothing?! If that's the case, yes it needs to be hot water and even washed twice. There are times when I'm forced to wash my clothing/ bedding twice due to having young kids.
As a daughter in law don't hate your mother and father in law just they got older because once they are gone they will remember all the things you said done and they are going make sure that your life will be miserable you won't have a good future life so respect your husband mother and father in law. ..
Peb poj niam yeej txawj mus ua nyab ua muam yuav txawj laus es yog ua cas cov nyaj thiaj tsis txawj xav tias yog yus tus nyab ho tsis hlub yus niam no yus puas tu siab thiab mas tej zaum cov siab phem2 ntawv yog siab dev xwb tsis paub xav li ho
Tej Niag tub nyab no tsis xav yuav tej Niam tej txiv es cas pheej yuav ua mi nyuam coob rau tej laus tu tej Niag tsev mi nyuam rau luag zov thiab tu rau nej xwb na, ntshe nej yuav tsis txawj laus es ntshe yuav plhis Xwb pob😭
Ca yv tu siab luaj li no li p mloog ma hlub2 cov lau li o lawv aw lwm hnub e yu yj yv txawj lau thb o thb yv tsum xav tia yu ua li no rau cov lau lo yu twb yug tau coob2 thb e tsam lwm hnub yu lau e cov nyab ho ua rau yu thb o ib leeg yj yv mag ib zaug o yg kj ua zoo lm kj yj yv tau qhov zoo o yg kj ua phem ce yj yv tau raw li yam kj ua o
Cas nej ib txhia hais lus tsis xav li na. Peb ua neeg nyob yus tsis yog luag yus yuav ua cas paub luag lub neej. Tej zaum xyov yog nej nej puas ua tau li luag twb tsis paub dab tsi los niam cem luag cuag li. Peb ua neeg nyob hais tiag tiag yus niam yus txiv yug kiag yus thiaj hlub tau yus hlub yus tiag tiag xwb dhau ntawv lawm luag lwm tus yuav hlub tsis tau yus li yus niam yus txiv hlub, vim li ntawv nej txhob muab lub txim liam rau nyab ua tus ev tag nrho vim nyab tsis yog tus niam pog txiv yawg yug lawv yeej tsis hlub nyab li lawv hlub lawv tus tub thiab. Vim li ntawv kj hlub lawv txij li cas ces nyab hlub tau kj txij li ntawv xwb los yuav li ntawv, kj twb hlub tsis tau kj tus nyab li tus kj yug thiab ne es kj tsuas npav kom nyab hlub kj cuag li cas thiaj yog nyab zoo.thiab cov muam uas cem tej nyab li no xyov nyob tom tsev nws puas hlub tau nws niam pog txiv yawg thiab los niam hais cuag li tsam haj tseem phem tshaj. Yog tus tub tsis hlub niam hlub txiv mas nej cem tus tub xwb vim tus tub yog niam pog txiv yawg yug yog nkawv tu hlob twb tsis yog tu tus nyab ne. Peb yug los ua poj niam es niam txhaum rau nej tag nrho txhua yam muab liam rau tus nyab ris xwb es puas yog ma. Thaum hlub nej twb hlub nej tus tub nej yug xwb ne ces tsuav tus tub hlub nej xwb tau lawm
Tus niam tsev aw tam sim no ces lub ntuj nyob qe qe li os leej twg hlub tej laus li cas ces nws yuav tau txais li ntawm os txoj kev laus ces peb yeej khiav dhau li nawv peb ua neeg nyob peb yeej tsis txawj plis li ov
Remember, any sister that complained about their nyab not caring/loving their in laws, true or not, better love/care for your in laws twice as much.
I’m sure she will put her inlaws to that same route, she’s sure from the same tree.
Me no problem I love my in law and they die long ago. I feel bad to whom may never love their in law
I feel it all sums up to a person's upbringing and how big their heart is. I grew up with 12 other siblings and we didn't have grandparents at all. I'm very thankful my inlaws and my parents are still alive to see my children and make memories with my children. That's probably one thing I envied so much as a child so when I married, I wanted a man from a good family with parents. Sometimes my inlaws get under my skin but at the end of the day those are my husband's parents so I'd be hurt if he disliked my parents too or let small things override all the good they have done for us. Kindness is not expensive so give it often.
Koj yog tus muam xwb koj twb tsis tau nrog lawv nyob ua nhub ua mho es koj yuav tib lawv tsis tau nawb!! Nkawv twb yog koj niam thiab koj txiv thiab yog koj hlub thiag ces coj mus nrog koj nyob ib ntus xwb.
For real. I want to hear her inlaws' side just to confirm how better she is. Pffff.
I agree with what Pa Vang commented. It's always the women. I know it's hard to get along with in-laws. But you still gotta open your heart and continue to love your in-laws. Unless they are scheming, evil in-laws out to destroy your marriage, then I can see why you kept your distance. Even with this scenario, you don't have to mistreat them.
This has becoming a typical situation in our Hmong families. I’m still young and I’m not even expecting my kids to care for me or my wife when we are old because I know they won’t especially my future daughter in laws. My advice is, save for your retirement and choose a really nice nursing home for retirement. Last but not least, make sure to establish a will and don’t leave anything behind to those don’t love or care for you.
Me too
Agreed!!!
As a daughter, mother, and sister in law, I know my role and what I need to do for my parents and parents in laws. We have to love our parents in law as much as our own parents or better yet more. Evil people will always be evil.
I totally agree with you sister. You are one good nyab.
Karena, you are so right! I wish there’s more people like you on this earth! It’s so sad that many of the daughter-in-law are so evil and don’t want to love their husband’s parents💔☹️
God bless you Karena!
This is a very sad story about our sons nowadays. The daughter-in-laws dictate our sons if they can love their parents or not…??? Let them take care of their own kids. As parents we must not staying home and take care of our grandchildren, but spend our money, times, and take lots of vacations. Never regrets when they put us in senior home…😩👍🤠
Kuv cov nus yuav xa kuv niam mus nyob tsev laus. Ces kuv mus coj los nrog kuv nyob. Kuv niam twb nyob tsis muaj ib xyoos kuv niam twb xiam lawm. Kuv niam tej nyiaj tej life insurance nyob tag nrho rau kuv tus nus nawb kuv tsuas yog tus nws kom nws tsis txhob tau mus nyob tsev laus xwb. Kuv hais rau nej tias yog koj ua zoo lawm yus yeej yuav muaj nyiaj nawb. Yog yus ua phem tej nyiaj ntawv yuav txawj tag mus. Kuv hais rau sawv daws tias peb yeej yuav txawj tuag nawb mog. Kuv mloog koj zaj no mas kuv kuj tu siab kawg nkaus li os. Zoo siab tias nkawv 2 leeg mus ua ke kiag nyob los txom txom nyem ces zoo kawg os mog
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Sad but true...
We as Hmong women need to do better! The root of all these elderly stories is always the woman! Yep I said it! Woman! Everybody is just blaming the title “nyab” when that title is hold by every Hmong woman. Every Hmong woman will get to be a “nyab” and a “Muam.” You might be a great “muam/ntxhais” but you might not be a great “nyab”. So we as muam need to look at ourselves too. Of course it’s our parents so we will always love no matter what. You might claim you love your parents so much but have you ever questioned yourself do you love your in-laws the same?? We Hmong women these days are selfish, just want to love your own parents but not your in laws. That’s why we don’t hear a lot of stories that “muam don’t her parents” it’s always “nyab don’t love her in-laws” it’s bc we can’t love our in-laws like how we do for parents. Shameful!
it's the men's fault too. they have no balls anymore
We don't love our in-laws as much as our parents because they weren't the ones who raised us. Expecting nyabs to devout their lives and to love the in-laws unconditionally is hard to do. Others are better at it and some are not. We are all humans. As muams you can't expect outsiders to love your parents like how you love them, but what you can expect is your brothers to pull their share of the duties in caring for your parents along with you. You and your brothers need to step up and help out too, not just leave it to the wives/nyabs to feed and clean your parents.
We married to the dude not volunteered to wipe his parents asses. He and his siblings can’t even do it, why is it the nyabs duty?
That dam muam ain’t wiping her mama’s ass but the nyab should because they paid 5 grands? That dam muam costed more than 5 grands to raise and they got paid 5 grands for taking her, why didn’t she do squat but complain? Bssh!
@@heysoniher yes!!!!
If my husband can do what i do for his parents and love my parents like how i love his then ok. It's not ' get marry and dedicate your intire life to your inlaws. We are not selfish for not dedicating our life to our in laws.
Let everyone take care their own kids! STOP doing free work! Stop giving free money to bad kids! Take your savings and time for nice vacations!
The pain your parents endure, your brother and sister-in-law’s will experience too when they get old. For we have children and will expect the same kind of love when we get old. That’s why it’s so important to love unconditionally and take care of your parents to your best ability so you that you will have no regrets when they leave.
Some of these nyab act like they will not get old and be forgetful one day. I am upset the sons can’t step and do anything when it matters but act like their parents money belongs to them? A lot of these stories of our parents suffering exist only because of the wicked sister-in-laws (us females). We can’t love our husband parents but expect our husbands to respect and love our parents? SMH.
So true
Maybe we need to rethink our approach to retirement? In this country, it’s harder to care for our elders when we all have full time jobs and it’s even harder if they had medical issues that require all day care. We need to save and plan for the future and be open about the possibility of living in the nursing home. I know it is something we don’t want but we are heading that direction.
But this is just her side of the story. It's true evil people exist but too many times whenever I hear daughters complaining and criticizing their nyabs, turn out they treat their inlaws no better or worse. If you are going to be good, do good without complaining so much and trying to draw attention.
She too will suffer the same fate someday when her own daughter uses tradition as an excuse to NOT help her and only complaint and push the responsibility onto her sons. At that point she will wish she has done more for her parent instead of complaining and making excuses after excuses.
I am glad you took out the ads in the middle of the story .
Sad story and it's happening more and more. You don't have to love your inlaws like your parents but respect the elders. Many nyabs these days just want the free daycare but don't care for the old people. So when thejr kids are old enough then this happens.
So sad. Nowadays, so many tub and nyab just want to take advantage of the parents. We live in a generation where we all work and some just want the parents as sitters until the kids are all in school. Yes, we work and are unable to care for the elders but we need to help as much as we could. They won’t be there forever. Think about all the money you saved using the elders as sitters and all the love the grandparents gave to your kids! You’re fortunate enough to have elders to help. My husband’s parents passed away when he was very young so I’ll never get to experience this. However, his uncle and aunt raised him so I’m doing my best to help them as needed. Love your parents when you still have them. There is no one that would love and care for you and your kids like the parents/grandparents. I wish my in law could be here to be there for my kids. 😢 On the other hand, I’m blessed to still have my parents and to be able to love them as much as I could. Not tolerating the tradition of girls are outsiders. My home will always be open for my parents. Thank goodness my husband treats my parents as his own.
MIL do not love their own nyab like they love their own daughters. And nyabs do not love their MIL like they love their own mother. That's just the truth so stop blaming the Nyab. If it's your mom and dad you are responsible to take care of them. Your husband or wife will only do the minimum when it comes to your own parents so don't expect them to love and care for your own parents if you can't even do the same to your inlaws.
Just like we hear stories about orphans where adults cannot love kids that are not their own. It is the sad honest truth. A toxic trait we all carry. Some just show it more than others.
Agree
Ua Nyab ces tus tub thiab tus ntxhais thiaj nqhes nqaij xwb hos tus Vauv thiab Nyab tsis nqhes nqaij li ne. Understand Lol 😂
Say it louder for the people in the back!!! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Agree
Peb ua neeg thiab ua neej Nyob peb yeej yuav txawj laus tabsis kom peb nco ntsoov tias yus pab tej laus kom li yus pab tau tabsis yog luag tsis nyiam yus mus tu thiab kov lawv no ces kavliam xwb mog. Txav deb deb ntawm lawv xwb mog. Tabsis yog yus Niam thiab yus Txiv Yawg lawv hlub hlub yus thiab pab pab yus no ces nco ntsoov hlub lawv rov qab nawb mog. Yog luag tsis hlub yus luaj twg ces hlub tau li cas ces hlub li ntawd thiab Txhob ntxub luag mog. Txoj kev laus tsis muaj leej twg hla dhau mog, Txhob ntxub lawv Txhob cem lawv tabsis qhia lawv kom lawv paub thiab take care lawv mog. Leej Niam thiab Leej Txiv yog yus lub ntuj rau yus, yog lawv coj tsis zoo los yuav tau qhia li yus qhia tej menyuam yaus tabsis kom cov laus los yuav tau nkag nkag siab thiab mog. Muaj ib cov laus mas lawv tsis nkag siab thiab laus laus lawm ces lawv lub siab me me thiab tu tu siab li lawm, ua ib qhov me me thiab hais zoo zoo los lawv yeej tu tu siab heev rau yus os. Tabsis yog luag twb yeej hlub hlub yus thiab pab pab yus ces nco ntsoov hlub luag rov qab mog.
Ungrateful sons. My husband and I took care of his father until his last breath. I am forever grateful to have such a loving fil. May this couple Rest In Peace.
Some Hmong men are not man enough to do what is right. Just like you said, sister, everybody gets old eventually, and your brothers and their wives will probably meet a similar, if not worse, treatment from their own children. In a sad way, your brothers and their wives have set the example for their kids that it's okay to mistreat parents when they get old.
I agree, but most of the time it’s not because hmong men are not men enough. It’s because of the hmong women. Some nyab are just too ignorant and smart ass!!! All because of the American law. If us men don’t do as they wish then they would find a way to get a divorce and then file for child support!!!
The hmoob fairy tale call ev yawg mus nrauj zoo tim qab tsuas. When the father and the son gonna leave the father's father at the cave, the son told the father that dad don't forget lub kawm so when you get old I have this to take you here. What goes around comes around
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tu siab tshaj li txoj kev laus nyuab kawg nkaus
I wouldn’t believe every word from this woman. Hmong people need to learn and change too. It’s a whole as a family to take care for the elders not just the last son and his wife. But the daughter in law gets all the blame!!!! As always! However if she’s really wants to play a part and make a difference for her parent, stop all her bashing and start helping!!!!!
This is way as parents needs to change not helping babysitting that much. We need to enjoy our life 1st before others. Period.
Parents are not free child daycare. If you ask your parents to babysit, pay them like how you would a babysitter. If grandparents offer to help out don't expect anything in return. Do it because you want to not because you expect them to care for you later in life. If that's the case, make it clear from the start so the nyab/son can decide if they want you to babysit or not. There are so many unsaid expectations that usually lead to disappointment.
Very true 👍
@@heysoniher some people takes their in laws for granted. They will have their turn, what goes around comes around.
Ua li kiag yom yus twb xav tias kuv tsis zov kuv mus shopping tab sis txawm siv hu lawm ne. Yog li mas yuav tau make an appointment ua ntej thiaj zov tau lawv tej menyuam laub yom…
I'm waiting for all the people who say "ntxhais xwb thiaj hlub niam hlub txiv" to realize that.....
Ntxhais = nyab
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Its like the pot calling the kettle black
I’m a sister and a nyab. I wouldn’t say anything to them nyabs.. I would take my parents to live with me. I love my parents me, if no one love them I’ll love them.
Nej cov hmoob meka eg tsua lam nyob rau lub teb chaw muaj xb tsi muaj kev hlub tej laug li...nco ntxoov tiag yug log yeej tsawwj laug mog peb cov me hmooob meka mog...
Tu siab tshaj li os lo lo kua muag li lawm os
As a nyab myself, i don't think i can handle my daughter in law as well when I'm in that age. we all just need to understand that this 21st century is not like we were back 1900. Our hmong people don't understand is that, we are living in a big time different world from back in the 1975! back in the day all the elderly only living off farming vs. us fighting 8 hours plus to survive. Of course everyone will not have the times to take care of our elders. n it's not like farming where you can go when you want to, we work for others where we can't miss work all the times. welfare is not enough to help everyone! and as we age, we get more grumpy 😊
But what I know if your own parents your job let you go to stay with them the last time last minute the company understands as well…lady Lol 😂
Amen! Hmong refuse to understand that this life now is very different from life in Laos and life is much harder now. You cannot work a full/time job and care for an elderly parent full-time. Most work places don’t give you time off whenever you want it.
Also, for those who automatically assume the daughters-in-law are the bad ones, they must be perfect like this lady in the story.
Ntuj es, I always feel tears 😭 listening to stories like this. This is why I’m a daughter I go to church so one day I can love my parents and have them die in my arms in my house as a blessing if my nyab don’t love them at their last breath. My husband is a nice guy he understood my wishes.
Hmong folks need to stop trying to dictate and manipulate their children. Stop telling them that they're responsible to care for the parents and that the parents to live with. Hmong parents value their son's more than their daughters. They catered and nourish them with full support of everything especially financially. Not only that but the son's and daughter in law take for granted of the in laws to raised and watched their children.
Prime example of the need to change their ways. Stop babying your son's and especially your daughter in law. This story is so sad and very true. Stop catering to them. You've already did your job in raising your own children. Them grandchildren are their responsibilities not yours. You watch them when you want. You do on your own time.. otherwise you do not have to help them if you so choose not to.. it is ok not to take them all the time.. not your responsibility to care for them or babysit them.. send them back to their parents. Y'all need to live in your own place and live your golden years enjoying your life.
Daughter in law like this exists everyday and many of them. You are only beneficial to them when they need you and you served a purpose. They take you for granted until they do not want to care for. Remember your son's will not choose you the parents who raised him and sacrificed for him. He'll choose his wife over you the parents.
Y'all need to reevaluate your love and caring and catering of your son's. You bend backwards to give them everything, money, love, care, support. This the result you have to look forward to.
😭😭 Hais tau tu siab heev!
This is so sad 😞
It's good that both of your parents go at the same time.
Hais tau tu siab heev os
Ntuj aw txoj kev laus ces ib leeg yuav taug ib ntus os
Listening to this story makes me teary. My dad passed away and my mom is living with my brother, his wife would raise her voice and yell at my mom. She mistreats my mom as if she’s a dog and not even a human, my mom would cry and the Nyab would apologize over and over but she still continues to do her mistreatments. I would think that she sees that my mom is a widow and would treat her right, but, she doesn’t. She will go through it one day, maybe even worse bc kids nowadays, don’t care.
Sad
I would love to see how they feel if others nyabs treat their mother like them
Don’t say we love our kids and can sacrifice our life for them. This generation only care about themselves 😂
This story made me miss my grandma so much. She raised me and my six siblings. As she got older I took care of her doctor appointments and making sure she had all her medication. We as her grandkids always loved her so much but it will never compare to the love she craved from our aunts and uncles.
neeg lub neej ib txheej ua rau ib txheej. txhob tu siab heev mas.
Kuv yog ib leej tub kuv kuj muaj nam muaj txiv nrug kuv nyob tsi muaj dlaab tsi yuav nyuab le nawb yog nyuab ces tim tuab cov tub ua tsi taug txiv xwb yog mej tug qos puj tsi hlub mej nam mej txiv ces muab nrauj xwb
I love listening to your channel niam ntsuab teev. Now this is such a heartbreaking story! I broke down during the part when the grandchild plws ans told your elderly parents they tsis "muaj mob" and his mom was just evil.
Honestly I think your brothers are pathetic! Why don't they man up and put their toxic evil wives in check? All because they are afraid to lose their marriage?!!! Your brothers allowed this to happen. Shame on them
I already told my husband that we should plan to live in a senior complex when we age. I know for a fact that my kids cannot care for me as I do for my in-laws & parents. Therefore, we plan ahead without any expectations.
Maiv, your advertising is too much.
Sons, daughters, son in laws and nyabs now days. Doesn’t matter if our parents are old and dirty, when they raised us as kids we were dirty but they didn’t mistreat us, it’s our turn to take care of them! For those that mistreats our elders/in laws, what you give is what you get, KARMA!
I swear, this story breaks my heart! Dislike sons & DILs that aren't grateful for their Parent's love!!! Karma is very close by to those ungrateful Children!!!
Hmoob hais ib lo lus tias " NYOB DEB CES NIM YUAV TXO DEJ TXO CAWV, NYOB ZE CES SIB SIB NTXUB XAV XUAS HLUAV TAWS HLAWV "
cov muam ces lawv tuaj saib niam tais yawm txiv zoo nkaus li lawv tuaj mus noj mov hauv restaurant xwb ces zoo li zaub mov qab22 rau lawv tab sis tus chefs uas cooks every day ces nws saib tej zaub mov ntawd lom22 dhuav22 nws ces nws twb noj tsis taus li.
Nej cov uas tsis muaj menyuam los txhob tu2 siab thiab mog
peb tuaj ua neej rau rooj teb no peb khwv rau nom rau tswv them nyiaj rau nom rau tswv es thaum peb cov niam cov txiv laus lawm yuav tau to taub es coj mus rau nom tswv pab sai xyuas mog es txhob sib cav sib ceg sib hais lus ntsawv siab mog tej laus yuav tsum lees txoj kev laus kev tsis sis ua huv thib nawb es txhob tu siab rau tej me nyuam tej tub los nyab mog
Peb ua neeg ces laus lawm yeej tsis ntxim hlub lawm os, nco ntsoov tias tus nyab tsis yog nkawv yug, cov tub yuav tsum txhob cias cov nyab tus nkaus xwb, yog yug niam thiab txiv yus yuav tsum hlub tshaj mas tus nyab thiaj nrog hlub thiab. Ho qhov qias, phem los kom tus nyab ua ces yeej uv tsis taus vim nkawv tsis yug tus nyab.
Kj hais yog kiag li qhov kv xav
txau tu siab ua luaj
That is why when my kids give me money, I take it, their dad always said no but I don't care, I just take it from them, because I know that when they will marry, I will never see a penny from them so I take advantage of my kids. LOL
I agree with you. I do the same. When my kids ask how much I want I always ask for a big amount and I get it too. Hahaha
Everyone will grow old one day, please treat your in laws the way you want your Nyabs to treat your parents.
niam pog txiv yawg tsis ncaj luag thiaj tsid hlub
Sacrifices they made for their children go unappreciated. How sad
Wow pure evil nyab tiag2. Some of these evil nyab doesn’t know how to appreciate the nice mother-in-law. Do these nyab ever put their parents in their mother-in-law’s shoes? How would they feel if their nyab treat their mom like how they treat their mil. This is why I tell my own mil to stop caring so much for her grandkids when the one she babysit doesn’t even appreciate her. I babysit my own kids because I don’t want to burden my mil. Taking care of a lot of children is stressful and lots of responsibilities. Your brother needs a punch in the face!
Amen! Well said!!!
This is so sad… I keep hearing stories like this where the kids find their old parents disgusting… I don’t know how one can feel this way and be so cruel to their parents…
My in laws both passed at a young age. I always wished they’d live old and gray with me and my husband. It saddens me that others who still have parents would treat them this way, especially when they loved their grand babies so much. I wish I can have my in-laws here with me.
I always say this to my mom and brother's, "We love, care and forgive each other. But remember once we all get marry, things will be a bit different because we will have to consider our wife's input."
Karma got their number on it list!
Such a sad story 😭
Hmong people need to stop with this Hmong kev cai of only wanting to live with sons. Go live with whoever loves you and treat you well. We live in the USA now, not in Laos or Thailand.
💯 I still don't understand why living with the son is a rule.
If you have kids learn how to babysit your own and don’t rely on others. As far as for the elderly folks it’s OK they can live in assisted living if you know that you can’t take care of them. Why let them suffer in your own hands!
Cov ntxhai ua coj tuaj piav li no lo yeej zoo thiab ua ib qho kev kawm tab sis ua li koj puas hlub tau koj niam pog txiv yawg na. Nug koj tu kheej seb koj ho hlub koj niam pog txiv yawg npaum li ca tso mam cem koj tej nyab nawb
Karma is coming right up! Please show up...
Ntuj nyob qi qi. Yam uas lawv tau ua, lawv yuav tau txais rov qab.
Muaj ib hnub yuav yog yus hnub os
We only hard one side story
While the children are not honoring their parents, it doesn’t mean the parents are right either. Parents need to let their kids grow and leave the nests. When you don’t face the facts that your baby is an adult now, this is what happens. Stop living with your adult children! Just bc Hmong people did this for centuries doesn’t mean it was right. Hmong people used to have polygamy marriages, kidnapping bribes all the time too why aren’t we as open to that now? (Bc it’s wrong also along with many other rules) You have kids bc you chose to so don’t play the guilt trip game of saying “I took care of you, you need to take care of me”. You had no choice but to take care of your children; that’s just your job as parents. I thought we get wiser the older we get, not dumber. In case you forgot, they have their own family to provide for now. Just another reason why saving/investing for retirement is so important. Stop being selfish.
This is America! Son or daughter, NO one will love your parents as much as you do. Less complaining, more doing. Stop expecting others to meet your expectations as they are not you.
Cov hlub niam txiv ces xav tias tsawg lawm xwb os.
What goes around must come around. You will get the same treatment (or worse) you dished out to others. Nothing in this world goes unpunished.
Cov nyab tiam no tshua hlub niam tai's thiab yawm txiv xws. Tim yus tus tub xws.
Tub ki cov rog quav dev ces zoo li no-
Yog ua cas kov ho quaj no😭😭😭🥺🥺🥺🥺
Malakapee! Someone come get their wife!
yus ua zoo rau tej me nyuam lawm ces yog qhov zoo mog txhob xam kev khib mog
Tiam neej no cov ntxhais thiaj hlub niam txiv xwb cov tub nyab ces tsis cia siab os vim lawv yeej ua tsis dhau lawv cov maum aub li os..
Vim cov ntxhais nws nyob nws 1 lub zej lub zos uas sib nrug deb22 ces nws yeej yuav uv taus dua tab sis tus uas niaj hnub tu ces nws over lawm. Nco ntsoov tias noj mov cuav zos yeej qab dua yus noj hauv tsev. Cov muam ces tuaj saib niam saib txiv ces zoo nkaus li lawv tuaj shopping or dine out xwb.
nyob zoo n ntsuab teev koj hais neej neeg zoo heev kuv thov koj paab sau ntawv rua kuv tus massage kuv xaav nrog koj Tham
Vim tshai tsam yav Laus tsis muaj Chaw tuag es thiaj li yug tus yug ntxhais Los thaum kawg tseem tuag zoo li tus ua tsis muaj menyuam thiab tu siab kawg nej cov g hlub niam hlub txiv txhob yug nej cov menyuam tsam thaum kawg nej cov ho g hlub nej thiab coj li Cas tau li Cas
Pab tu siab kawg yog ua li cas cov nyab yeej tsis nyiam cov niam thiab txiv li os tab si lawv twb yug tau me nyuam thiab lawv yeej yuav tau txais ib hnub lawv laus xwb mas ntuj nyob qe qe lawm yeej yuav npam xwb
Wow kuv kuamuag silaim nrog koj………cas niam nkawd muaj muaj hmoo es nim tau mus uake lawm……kuv tsis muaj hmoo es kuv nim quaj nyob quaj nyob xwb…….kuv tus txij nkawm wb nim teem tsis tau li koj niam os……pab koj tu siab heev
Tus mi ntxhais zoo aw cas koj yuav txawj hlub niam txiv u luaj thiab txawj xav cuag li !
Niam thaib txiv mas tuag lawm los tshua koj kawg thiab yuav tsom kwm koj mus niam txhiab ib tshi os mog
Nyob zoo niam tai kuv twb caum koj lo ntev lawmos kuv xav kom koj pab muab kuv tsog nrog koj thiab thov koj cov neeg pab kuv thiab os
It’s very sad story, zaj dab neeg no ua rau kuv nco txog kuv txiv heev
Yog coob npaum no tsis muaj ib tug tub hlub ces yog tim niam thiab txiv lawm. Koj ua muam coj tsis tau mus nrog koj nyob los yog nkaws tsis kam nrog koj nyob ces tsis txhob qw2 os.
Kev npam muaj tiag os mog sister aw…leejtwg ua li cas ces yuav tau sau li ntawd nawb kuv tus niam tij thiab tijlaug nkawd tsi pab kuv hlub kuv niam pog tseem ua phem phem rau kuv thiab nkawd twb tau txais nkawd qhov khoom pliag lawm lub ntuj yeej muaj qhov muag Thov peb ua qhov zoo xwb txawm peb ntxub npaum cas los peb hlub peb tus txiv ces peb yuav tau hlub 2 tus laus.yog kuv hlub nws npaum cas los nws ntxub kuv niam kuv txiv ntshe kuv yuav puag nws tsi sov li os
Tu siab ua luaj li lwm hnub nyab cov mam tsim nyab os cas siab phem ua luaj li os tej tug niag nyab no na ....
Tam sim no 90% cov nyab yeej tsis hlub niam pog txiv yawg li. Tus niam tsev muab txoj dab neeg no tuaj los xyov nws puas yuav hlub nws niam pog txiv yawg thiab
Lam os, niag pog no complained txog nws cov nyob tiam sis nws cov niag muag ces twb yuav xa lawv zaj tuaj rau niam ntsuab teev complain txog nws thiab las as.
Hlub kom tau koj niam pog txiv yawg tso os mog
Kuv twb yog ib leej nyab tus niam pog thiaj ua cav kuv siab ho tsi ua tau phem ne li ne
As a nyab, I always try to minimize help and offers from the inlaws. Why? Because I know it's story like this, that will delusionally bite my A in the future. Some inlaws are more aggressive with offering help and stepping into their son's life by trying to steer things. Please stop doing this to your adult son and their wife then, later expect something or use it against them. There are sons and nyabs who get fed up and let it be. Why? Because if they complain about not wanting the help then they are automatically the bad guys. Can't ever do anything right.
Like c'mon the sister is throwing a fit about clothes being mixed and washed together?! It is clear that the parent(s) pee and potentially poo their clothing/ bedding. Why mix this with other people's clothing?! If that's the case, yes it needs to be hot water and even washed twice. There are times when I'm forced to wash my clothing/ bedding twice due to having young kids.
As a daughter in law don't hate your mother and father in law just they got older because once they are gone they will remember all the things you said done and they are going make sure that your life will be miserable you won't have a good future life so respect your husband mother and father in law. ..
Peb poj niam yeej txawj mus ua nyab ua muam yuav txawj laus es yog ua cas cov nyaj thiaj tsis txawj xav tias yog yus tus nyab ho tsis hlub yus niam no yus puas tu siab thiab mas tej zaum cov siab phem2 ntawv yog siab dev xwb tsis paub xav li ho
Tej Niag tub nyab no tsis xav yuav tej Niam tej txiv es cas pheej yuav ua mi nyuam coob rau tej laus tu tej Niag tsev mi nyuam rau luag zov thiab tu rau nej xwb na, ntshe nej yuav tsis txawj laus es ntshe yuav plhis Xwb pob😭
Ca yv tu siab luaj li no li p mloog ma hlub2 cov lau li o lawv aw lwm hnub e yu yj yv txawj lau thb o thb yv tsum xav tia yu ua li no rau cov lau lo yu twb yug tau coob2 thb e tsam lwm hnub yu lau e cov nyab ho ua rau yu thb o ib leeg yj yv mag ib zaug o yg kj ua zoo lm kj yj yv tau qhov zoo o yg kj ua phem ce yj yv tau raw li yam kj ua o
Wow, kheev lam txhua tkhub niam txiv lam ua tau li zaj neej neeg no xwb os hmoob aw😥😥😥
Cas nej ib txhia hais lus tsis xav li na. Peb ua neeg nyob yus tsis yog luag yus yuav ua cas paub luag lub neej. Tej zaum xyov yog nej nej puas ua tau li luag twb tsis paub dab tsi los niam cem luag cuag li.
Peb ua neeg nyob hais tiag tiag yus niam yus txiv yug kiag yus thiaj hlub tau yus hlub yus tiag tiag xwb dhau ntawv lawm luag lwm tus yuav hlub tsis tau yus li yus niam yus txiv hlub, vim li ntawv nej txhob muab lub txim liam rau nyab ua tus ev tag nrho vim nyab tsis yog tus niam pog txiv yawg yug lawv yeej tsis hlub nyab li lawv hlub lawv tus tub thiab. Vim li ntawv kj hlub lawv txij li cas ces nyab hlub tau kj txij li ntawv xwb los yuav li ntawv, kj twb hlub tsis tau kj tus nyab li tus kj yug thiab ne es kj tsuas npav kom nyab hlub kj cuag li cas thiaj yog nyab zoo.thiab cov muam uas cem tej nyab li no xyov nyob tom tsev nws puas hlub tau nws niam pog txiv yawg thiab los niam hais cuag li tsam haj tseem phem tshaj. Yog tus tub tsis hlub niam hlub txiv mas nej cem tus tub xwb vim tus tub yog niam pog txiv yawg yug yog nkawv tu hlob twb tsis yog tu tus nyab ne. Peb yug los ua poj niam es niam txhaum rau nej tag nrho txhua yam muab liam rau tus nyab ris xwb es puas yog ma. Thaum hlub nej twb hlub nej tus tub nej yug xwb ne ces tsuav tus tub hlub nej xwb tau lawm
Cov nyab no evil tiag2 os. Cov niag tub no uas sissy tshaj os.
Yus yog tus ntxhais mas yus yuav tsum hlub yus niam pog txiv yawg 200 per cent mas yus mam li mus hais cov nyab os
Those are some evil daughter in laws.
Only 20% nyab hlub in-law no matter what
Tus niam tsev aw tam sim no ces lub ntuj nyob qe qe li os leej twg hlub tej laus li cas ces nws yuav tau txais li ntawm os txoj kev laus ces peb yeej khiav dhau li nawv peb ua neeg nyob peb yeej tsis txawj plis li ov
Cov nyab zoo li no yuav npam lau, tsis foom los yuav npam tsis hais los yeej yuav npam lau cov nyab coj phem zoo li no na..
Yog kawg.