" I was addicted to self-improvement. I used to work out, meditate, and journal every single day. Look at me now. I'm still the sensitive, imaginative, introspective kid I've always been. No matter where I went, this part of me was there with me." That shit runs deep man
People used to describe me as shy and quiet. As I got older, I made an active effort to become more social, and people started describing me as friendly and outgoing. I've kind of learned now when it feels comfortable for me to be quiet, and when it feels comfortable to talk. It just depends. I don't think I'm too different now from when I was a quieter person, but I'm learning how to act in a way that feels true to me and not in a way that is in service to others. I very much enjoy meeting people now and having good conversation, but I still enjoy my alone time. But that's just me. I still get the quiet comments here and there, just not as much haha. It is what it is. We're all built differently and that's ok. There's nothing wrong with being quiet or outgoing, as long as you're doing it in a way that is true to yourself. I hope that makes sense. Great video!
I really appreciate your comment, and it makes perfect sense. I'm glad the comments don't bother you anymore, and that you found a way to express yourself authentically. How did you do it?
It's honestly so great to see that other people can relate to what I've been through. I wish you all the best! Do you still hear it from time to time or did you come up with something to make them stop?
There's a bunch of different reasons someone might not be as talkative in a given situation. A common reason can be the person is shy and doesn't feel comfortable, and thus a prompt like "You should talk more" is really just encouragement and reassurance. It just happens that in your case, that's not the actual reason, so it comes off as annoying. I'm guessing I'm a lot like you, but a decade older, and I can tell you comments like that don't stop. You can change how you react to it though, just take it as someone misdiagnosing the situation and trying a cure that's not going to work, they're not being evil or being an asshole, they're just misreading things. I usually come back with the canned response of "When I have something to say, I talk. When I don't have something to say, I don't talk. Simple as that"
Wow, that's great advice. Thank you. Most of the time it doesn't bother me, but there are a couple that really get under my skin sometimes. I don't expect them to stop but I wish people would understand there are better ways to encourage someone to talk more.
People are more like you than you give them credit for... only difference is that some of them are more or less committed to hiding how lost, disaffected, confused and backwards they are. They want you to believe they have their shit together. Guess what? We're ALL on this rock flying thru space at ~1M MPH blinking our star filled eyes in utter slack jawed amazement.
I've come to the conclusion that talking is simply sharing the lines I hear in my head. A dialogue tree of lines "generate" in my head. I just pick one and usually a good conversation happens. That aside, good video. Thank you for sharing.
@@WarTeaFounder that does happen. I just say nothing. Usually the silence is natural and the other person takes over. If neither of us has anything, one of us will begin the parting formalities.
My old friend group I no longer talk to didn't seem to understand that I can't hold a conversation with anything less than 8 hours of sleep, and if I had stuff going on. Once those requirements are met, I find myself talking in public for up to half an hour.
I'm either extremely reserved or constant verbal diarrhea information overload of going on random tangents. Depending on who I am with and whether its something I am passionate about - but latter is too much for some people which feeds the former.
" I was addicted to self-improvement. I used to work out, meditate, and journal every single day. Look at me now. I'm still the sensitive, imaginative, introspective kid I've always been. No matter where I went, this part of me was there with me." That shit runs deep man
People used to describe me as shy and quiet. As I got older, I made an active effort to become more social, and people started describing me as friendly and outgoing. I've kind of learned now when it feels comfortable for me to be quiet, and when it feels comfortable to talk. It just depends. I don't think I'm too different now from when I was a quieter person, but I'm learning how to act in a way that feels true to me and not in a way that is in service to others. I very much enjoy meeting people now and having good conversation, but I still enjoy my alone time. But that's just me. I still get the quiet comments here and there, just not as much haha. It is what it is. We're all built differently and that's ok. There's nothing wrong with being quiet or outgoing, as long as you're doing it in a way that is true to yourself. I hope that makes sense. Great video!
I really appreciate your comment, and it makes perfect sense. I'm glad the comments don't bother you anymore, and that you found a way to express yourself authentically. How did you do it?
This is honestly felt for someone who doesn’t talk a lot in certain situations but can talk for hours in another. We just built different.
And I never really understood the pressure to talk more. Do you feel it too?
@@WarTeaFounder Yeahh all the time from my family members but they don’t understand that I’m just chilling.
What you said was straight facts bro, ive been there... ✊️
It's honestly so great to see that other people can relate to what I've been through. I wish you all the best! Do you still hear it from time to time or did you come up with something to make them stop?
There's a bunch of different reasons someone might not be as talkative in a given situation. A common reason can be the person is shy and doesn't feel comfortable, and thus a prompt like "You should talk more" is really just encouragement and reassurance.
It just happens that in your case, that's not the actual reason, so it comes off as annoying. I'm guessing I'm a lot like you, but a decade older, and I can tell you comments like that don't stop. You can change how you react to it though, just take it as someone misdiagnosing the situation and trying a cure that's not going to work, they're not being evil or being an asshole, they're just misreading things.
I usually come back with the canned response of "When I have something to say, I talk. When I don't have something to say, I don't talk. Simple as that"
Wow, that's great advice. Thank you. Most of the time it doesn't bother me, but there are a couple that really get under my skin sometimes. I don't expect them to stop but I wish people would understand there are better ways to encourage someone to talk more.
People are more like you than you give them credit for... only difference is that some of them are more or less committed to hiding how lost, disaffected, confused and backwards they are. They want you to believe they have their shit together. Guess what? We're ALL on this rock flying thru space at ~1M MPH blinking our star filled eyes in utter slack jawed amazement.
This. You've said it all.
I've come to the conclusion that talking is simply sharing the lines I hear in my head. A dialogue tree of lines "generate" in my head. I just pick one and usually a good conversation happens.
That aside, good video. Thank you for sharing.
What if no lines are generated? Does that happen to you?
@@WarTeaFounder that does happen. I just say nothing. Usually the silence is natural and the other person takes over. If neither of us has anything, one of us will begin the parting formalities.
My old friend group I no longer talk to didn't seem to understand that I can't hold a conversation with anything less than 8 hours of sleep, and if I had stuff going on. Once those requirements are met, I find myself talking in public for up to half an hour.
Fam you worse than me smh I just have spurts of talking and not when I’m round ppl I’m not familiar wit cuz I’m tryna decipher their persona off rip
I feel you, man. My social battery drain-speed depends on the person I'm talking to, but I can't hold it for too long either.
I'm either extremely reserved or constant verbal diarrhea information overload of going on random tangents. Depending on who I am with and whether its something I am passionate about - but latter is too much for some people which feeds the former.
Yup, you described it perfectly.
Jarkko are we brothers? lol
Every word you shared, yup, that’s me.
let's talk about how bad your thumbnail is.
How would you improve it?
you dutch?
Not at all. Do I sound Dutch?
Gay