Do Opposites Attract?
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Here is a list of 20 qualities that could be in a potential partner. Rank them in order from MOST to LEAST important to you. Write your top three and your bottom 3 qualities. This list should tell you what to prioritize when looking for a partner.
This list is inspired by Ty Tashiro's
"The Science of Happily Ever After"
Shared politics/ outlook on life
Emotionally stable
Securely attached
Likes to do new things
Supportive/ happy for my good news
Intelligent
Physically attractive
Takes responsibility for self
Enjoys working together
Has similar interests
Similar values
Speaks my love language
Strong life skills
Good parenting skills
Sexually compatible
Financially independent
Extroverted
Trustworthy
Faithful
Strong leadership skills
Follows directions
Allows others to take the lead
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My Top 3 qualities:
Speaks my love language
Securely Attached
Supportive/ Happy for my Good News
My Bottom 3 qualities:
Good parenting skills
Likes to do new things
Faithful
What are yours?
My top 3 are:
Supportive / happy for my good news
Faithful
Similar values
Bottom three:
Follows direction
Enjoys working together
Physically attractive
It was very hard for me to pick :( loooool
Top 3:
Trustworthy (IMO trust is the #1 component in ANY relationship, business or personal)
Speaks my love language (I took one of those quizzes once and got tied with words of affirmation and physical touch)
Has similar interest - Cause if we don't have anything in common then why are we together anyway?
Bottom 3
Faithful - I need someone I can rely on when life goes sideways. I would also hope she felt the same way about me.
Supportive/happy for my good news - Please be my corner man. Or in this case corner woman.
Sexually compatible - It would suck if we were unable to mesh well sexually.
Shan BOODY you are an amazing person. I love your videos. Thanks for informing us on these topics.
Shan BOODY What do you mean by "securely attached" dear?
Top 3:
1. supportive
2. Faithful
3. Strong leadership skills
Bottom 3:
1. allows others to take the lead.
2. Physically attractive
3. Extroverted
If I looked like Shan I'd date myself.
When you touched his hand in the clip, I burst out laughing!
top 3: spiritually compatible. invested in each other's well being, so we're each other's biggest support/cheerleaders. not sexist.
The most knowledge I've received in 8 mins.
My Top 3 qualities:
Physically attractive
Speaks my love language
Supportive
My Bottom 3 qualities:
Good parenting skills
Shared politics
Extroverted
I could never date myself and I really strive to find a polar opposite. That all being said, here's the list!
Top 3: Faithful, Intelligent, Physically attractive
Bottom 3: Extroverted, Allows others to take the lead, Good parenting skills
Booked a session with you later this month, can't wait
Top 3:
-strong life skills
-physically attractive
-faithful
Bottom 3:
-enjoys working together
-shared politics/outlook
-likes to do new things
I am SO shocked at how many people rank "strong life skills" at the bottom. That's cool you prioritize it
I binged watched your show and enjoyed every single second of it!
Top 3:
must be faithful
trustworthy
speaks my love language
Bottom 3:
allows others to take the lead
cooperative
extroverted
I'm soooo glad I found your channel! xoxo
Top 3:
Speaks my love language
Has similar interests
Similar values
Bottom 3:
Strong life skills
Good parenting skills
Extroverted
love this Shannon!
Top 3 Most
1) Has Similar Interests
2) Supportive/Happy for Good News
3) Intelligent
Bottom 3 Least
1) Good Parenting Skills
2) Allows others to take the Lead
3) Enjoys Working Together
I really did enjoy this, and it made me really dig deep into myself, and to what I want. Thanks for this Shannon, love you and your videos!
Wow I'm early, LOVE U SHAN!
morning from the west coast Kelly!
Such a great list Shannon! I really liked doing the exercise. To make it easier for myself I separated the 21 characteristics into three categories: high, mid and low, then ranked them from there.
My Top 3:
Cooperative
Emotionally stable
High novelty seeking
My Bottom 3:
Good parenting skills
Strong leadership skills
Faithful
Top 3: trustworthy, faithful, speaks my love language.
Bottom 3: good parenting skills, extroverted, follows directions.
Although my bottom 3 are important the other qualities took precedence.
My top three would be similar values, shared politics, and speaks my love language. My bottom three would be extroverted, good parenting skills, and I guess strong leadership skills. I'm about to go on a coffee date, so this was definitely an interesting video to watch before that 😂❤️
+Nia Pipkin-Glover it's interesting to have politics and values at the top then parenting at the bottom! Most ppl prioritize those when they have family planned
I have some pretty firm beliefs regarding gender since I'm non binary, but I've never wanted kiddos of my own 😅😅
So I did this rating style : (1 to 10)
Shared politics/ outlook on life=6
Emotionally stable=8
Securely attached=7
Likes to do new things=8
Supportive/ happy for my good news=9
Intelligent=8
Physically attractive=8
Takes responsibility for self=9
Enjoys working together=9
Has similar interests=7
Similar values=8
Speaks my love language=9
Strong life skills=9
Good parenting skills=10
Sexually compatible=10
Financially independent=8
Extroverted =9
Trustworthy =10
Faithful=10
Strong leadership skills=8
Follows directions =7
Allows others to take the lead=6
Thank you, this was really eye-opening!
My top 3: trustworthy, intelligent, takes responsibility for themselves
Bottom 3: extroverted, good parenting skills, faithful
I can go back and forth between a few; very helpful though-the insight it provides for me and my partner's disagreements is pretty powerful. Some of this can make you rethink your entire life.
Top 3
Shared politics (outlook on life people/equality is what's most important for me)
Cooperative
Speaks my love language
Bottom 3
Parenting skills
Financially independent
Extroverted
My top 3 qualities: supportive/happy for my good news, enjoys working together, similar values.
My bottom 3 qualities: strong life skills, extroverted, has similar interests.
Once again a very informative video, I liked it !
Top 3:
- financially independent
- speaks my love language
- shared politics
Bottom 3:
- enjoys working together
- follows direction
- extroverted
This was so hard!
Top 3:
Securely Attached
Similar values
High novelty seeking
Bottom 3:
Has similar interests
Follows direction
Strong leadership skills
I think it comes down to me wanting my partner to be up for an adventure, care about topics/values that are important to me and be affectionate but also be able to give each other space to not lose ourselves in the relationship.
I don't rank the hierarchy based ones because my partner will be my equal so it seems less relevant. And I'd almost prefer if they had different interest so we could each try new things, and if we didn't enjoy it then those interest would be perfect for times spent apart from each other.
Top 3:
Intelligent
Sexually compatible
Shared politics/ outlook on life
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Bottom 3:
Physically attractive
Good parenting skills
Extroverted
My companion and I have no hobbies in common and that gives us time to spend apart and develop our own identities. However our core values, such as finances, raising kids, society's structure, morality and our love languages and many others built a solid foundation for us in the years we have been together and to top it off ! I'm 9 years older than him !! 🤣🤣🤣😘😘
My top 3 would be
-physically attractive
-similar values
-trustworthy
My bottom 3 would be
-Likes to do new things
-Extroverted
-Speaks my love language
Hi Shan, just wanted to let you know just how much i truly enjoy your content, I find it relevant, useful and interesting. Omw to binge watching season 1 and 2 now haha. Best of luck with any of your current and future projects (season 3 hehe...?).
TOP 3
-speaks my love language
-faithful
-similar values
BOTTOM 3
-high novelty seeking
-shared politics
-similar interests
+Viv Chong ahhhhh Viv you doll thank youuu. Your list makes good sense to me
It's kind of hard to rate my top 3, because almost all of the qualities are highly important to me, but, here you go - TOP 3:
similar values, because this is also how we chose close friends, right?
Emotionally stable
Intelligent, because I love to talk a lot and think fast at the same time, we need to be on the same level
BOTTOM 3:
financially independent, because people my age usually still live with their parents tbh
follows directions
strong leadership skills
My top 3 qualities are:
Securely attached
Similar values
Emotionally stable
My bottom 3 qualities:
Speaks my love language
Allows others to take the lead
Follows directions
This was so hard because I'm like damn, all of these are important!!
My Top 3
-speaks my love language
-shared politics/outlook on life
-similar values
Top 3 bottom
-Extroverted
-likes to do new things
-similar interests
this video is top tier. editing, content, setting. >>>
+brandy b. Thank you I really worked on this one and added some animated text!
Saved in WATCH LATER playlist as my go-to guide when I'm ready to date again 😄
1-trustworthy 2-faitful 3-supposrtic. bottom 3 were physically attractive, extroverted and strong leadership skills
Top:
1.enjoys working together
2.Similar values
3. Sexually compatible
A lot of the qualities listed in the description bar are REALLY GOOD......I was on the fence between similar values and good parenting skills. But I thought if my partner had similar values they would also value the idea of raising a child in a nurturing household.
bottom:
1.Physical attractiveness
2.Extroverted
and hmmmmmm.....this is hard. Maybe (3.)speaks my love language.
I enjoyed this activity!
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+Quilz Tamay Flores yayyy my people
Yo this was harder than I thought but I did my ranking!
Top 3:
Shared politics/worldview
physically attractive
Intelligent
Bottom 3:
Extroverted
Financially independent (I'm a college student living with my rents so...)
Good Parenting Skills
Never thought about doing a list like this. Was quite interesting, wonder what my top 3 (bottom 3 included) says about me..
Top 3:
Emotionally Stable
Securely attached
Trustworthy
Bottom 3:
Good parenting skills
Has similar interests
Likes to do new things
Anyways been enjoying your videos for quite awhile keep up the great work.
+MrQuantumObserver your list to me says you're looking for a peaceful life where you can focus on what's important to you
Well hi, thanks for replying. Yeah that would make sense, appreciate you taking your time to reply :D
my top 3:
intelligent
speek my love language
similar values
my bottom 3:
Emotionally stable
Strong leadership skills
Extroverted
On The 4th Of July I've Finally Met The Girl I Dated Online In Person It Was Her Birthday!
my top 3 qualities:
speaks my love language
securely attached
supportive/happy for my good news.
my bottom 3 qualities:
extroverted
good parenting skills
faithful
strong life skills-intelligent-financially independent. Bonus: great sense of humor!
My top 3:
1) Faithful
2) Trustworthy
3) Shared outlook on life
My Top three:
Faithful
Similar values
Physically attractive
Shan you left out sense of humour, thats a really big one for me too.
+Michelle O that goes under extroversion
Wow. I've loved all your videos but I feel like you've lifted your game even more. loving everything you do even more!!
Top 3
1. Trustworthy(for me without complete trust and honesty what is the point in a solid relationship)
2. Emotionally Stable( Cause I guess I can be classed as quiet emotional in the sense that my emotions can quickly change although I'm not over dramatic so I would need someone to anchor me😂😁)
3.Faithful(This kind of ties in with the trustworthy and I need a fifty/fifty relationship were we both put in the work and I don't need to be worrying about them. Also I understand their needs and the understand mine and we're on the same page)
Bottom 3( Although this may change in time)
22.Extraverted(It might be nice but I don't need it)
21. Follow directions
20.Strong leadership skills(I feel as though this quality is subjective because if it meant in a work sense where they can lead a project I would of put it higher but in a relationship it wouldn't work with me as I don't like to be told what to do and that may cause a lot of strain)😂
My top 3 qualities:
Similar values
Emotionally stable
Sexual compatibility
Top bottom 3 would be:
Strong leadership skills
Likes to do new things
Enjoys working together
Thanks for this video Shan! You rock my world ✨✨✨✨🌷🌷🌷🌷
top 3: securely attached, supportive, similar values
bottom 3: parenting skills, strong leadership skills, extroverted
Top 3 cooperative, similar values, trustworthy.
Bottom 3. Similar interests, high novelty seeking, allows others to take lead
Had to do top 5 😭
1. Shared outlook on life
2.Physically attractive
3.Speaks my love language
4.Finachally independent
5.Sexually compatible
Least important
1. Allows others to lead
2.Enjoys working together
3.Follow directions
4.Securely attached
5.Emotionally stable ☹️
Top: Trustworthy, Faithful, Intelligent
Bottom: speaks my love language, good parenting skills, securely attatched
My top 3:
1. Shared life/societal outlook
2.Securely attached
3.Sexually compatible
Bottom 3:
1. Emotionally stable
2. Similar interests
3. Extroverted
My top 3 Qualities for a partner. They'll have to... :
- Be Intelligent
-Speak my love language
- have Similar Values
My bottom 3 Qualities:
-Be physically attractive (although @ times my eyes lead before my brain starts an interview with the individual)
-Be sexually compatible
(I mean... I'm all for sex. Having it, talking about it, watching it, heck even drawing it. But, I have learned that the fantasies are more of my enjoyment and the actual act is a bonus. So, it's not high on my radar- for a long term partner)
-Follows directions (b/c I sure as heck fight against the rules the majority of the time)
top 3:
intelligent (emotionally and knowledgable)
shared values (trustworthiness is one of them)
sexually compatible (+ physically attractive to me)
bottom 3:
securely attached
extroverted
similar interests
Top three:
Intelligent
Supportive
Financially stable
Bottom three
Strong life skills
Extrovert
Similar values
My Top Qualities♡
1. Trustworthy
2. Similar values
3. Intelligent
(If we could do top 5 lol)
4. Securely attached
5. Emotionally stable
My Bottom Qualities♡
-Extroverted
-Allows others to take the lead
-Enjoys working together
my top 3:
-securely attached
-takes responsibility for self
-sexually compatible
I just binge watched both seasons!!!!
Im so glad i waited for all the episodes to be available 🙃👌🏽❤️
My top 3:
1) Supportive
2) Similar values
3) Faithful
X
TOP
1.Similar interests
2.Trustworthy
3.Sexually compatible
BOTTOM
18.Strong leadership skills 19.Extraverted
20.Good parenting skills
I feel like your Fullscreen tv show would be a hilarious Sitcom! I need this to happen.
Top 3:
Takes responsibility for self (You have to take care of yourself! You got to stick up for yourself and treat yourself the best. I don't want someone to ever down themselves and I don't ever want to hear negativity about yourself because how you treat yourself ultimately is really how you treat others. If you constantly are bashing yourself, I know it would be nothing to you if you turned that negativity toward me. Don't be insecure and fake confidence in yourself until you believe you're actually good enough.)
Follows directions (I need you to listen to me when it matters. Following directions can come to how I will my my sex to be or how I like to be in public. Say if I'm the girl that hates holding hands, listen to that. Follow how I like what I like. Don't make me feel uncomfortable if I rather show intimacy from only hug you know, what I'm saying.)
Trustworthy (If I can't trust you to be around me and stay in my life, then I don't know what you're here for. I have to know how your days been, what you've done for the day-I mean you don't have to go in to detail, but I just have to know that I could trust you with my life. No judging each other and that you'll be there when I need you, even when I don't. Knowing when to be there for me is so crucial. If you not there when I do need you, it makes me lose trust in you.)
Bottom 3: Extrovert (I'm an introvert and could care less if someone was extroverted. If they were extroverted I wouldn't really care because they could help me with my introverted nature all in all, but you don't have to be super outgoing for me to like you. I actually prefer the quiet types who have some mystery to them.)
Securely attached (I don't care if you are super clingy or not, as long as you know how to be there for me whether I needed you in the moment or not. Learn to be there either physically, mentally, and or emotionally.)
Emotionally stable (I wouldn't say I am emotionally stable, so I would help others who aren't emotionally stable like me. I'm very emotional. I get sad, you know..depressed. Get in my little/big moments, so if others had problems I would help them like I help myself, no problem. I take people's emotions serious.)
1. Interesting
2. Intelligent/knowledgeable in multiple aspects.
3. Strong morals and leadership and caring (all goes hand in hand)
1. Attractive
2. Sensual
3.Quirky
top 3
faithful, trustworthy, good life skills
bottom 3
parenting skills, emotional stability and letting others lead
I feel like I really needed this list to help with my relationship. Thank you so much for this
+Cassandra Barrett so glad to hear that Cass! Thanks for being here
1) similar values 2) intelligent 3) speaks my love language | 19) strong life skills 20) enjoys working together 21) extroverted
your show is the best!!!!!!!
you have the best advice i love you shan
'likes to do new thing', strong life skills, extrovert. top three ideals.
I enjoy your videos and the great information you put out.. I wish you the best success!!
1) Chemistry
2) strong faith
3) Compassionate
Hey Shannon! I am in need of a good "love language" video
My top 3 qualities:
1.speak my love language
2. Intelligent
3. Faithful
My bottom 3 qualities:
1.follows directions.
2. Extrovert.
3. Allow others to take the lead.
This video was so interesting and cool! (I also want to point out that the colors in you hair are very pretty)
top 3:
shared politics/outlook on life
securely attached
supportive/happy for my good news
bottom 3:
good parenting skills
strong leadership skills
follows directions
Only worried about 18 of them so that's why mine stops there.
1)Emotionally Stable
2)Trustworthy
3) Attractive
bottom 3:
16) Similar interests
17) Likes to do new things
18) Same outlook on life
1. faithful 2. shared politics 3. emotionally stable
19. strong life skills 20. enjoys working together 21. follows direction
Nailed another awesome video. Love you Shannon
My Top 3
1. Supportive
2. Strong Life Skills
3.Takes Responsibility for self
My Bottom 3
1. Emotionally Stable
2.Sexually Compatible
3. Physically Attractive
My top 3:
supportive
highly novelty seeking
strong leadership skills
My bottom three
Extroved
Physical Attractiveness
Allows others to take the lead
My top three= 1. Trustworthy2. Similar Values3. Supportivewas so difficult to choose x
My top three qualities are shared politics/outlook on life, physically attractive, and intelligent, while my bottom three qualities are strong leadership skills, follows directions, and allows others to take the lead. Lol. It's interesting to see all my values in a list form.
Bottom three Emotionally stable, takes responsibility to self, good parenting skills.
Thumbnail on point. Love the blue in your hair also Shan. Just finished watching both seasons of your show & loved it. Keep up the amazing content girl. Much love. 💙
top 3: trustworthy, good parent, faithful. bottom 3: allows others to lead, love language, extrovert
Top 3: Supportive, physically attractive, speaks my love language
Speaks my love language, sexually compatible and supportive! - top, similar interests, shared politics, takes directions - bottom ✌🏻
You are so intriguingly creative.
+Oumou Diallo oh wow thank you Oumou
Off topic but your eye makeup is on point and it makes your eyes pop
+Devon Moretti ooooh thank you Devon!!!
My top 3:
Trustworthy
Similar values
Speaks my love language
My bottom 3:
Faithful
Strong life skills
Allows others to take the lead
Rearranging this list is harder than I thought.
You should do a video talking about Sza's new album and songs like "the weekend" and "doves in the wind" !
Top 3:
- Intelligent
- Trustworthy
- Securely attached
Bottom 3:
- Good parenting skills
- Allows others to take the lead
- Follows directions
MY TOP 3
Faithful
Supportive/ happy for my good news
Speaks my love language 😍
+The TH-cam Shaderoom hi boo!! We have 2/3 of the same BUT your top quality is at the bottom of my list...not quite compatible but close!
I want to watch the show 😢
I can't do top 3 but I can do top 6
I'm so tickled by you mirroring him 😂😂😂😂
My top 3:
Trustworthy
Securely attached
Strong life skills
My bottom 3:
Allows others to take the lead
Good parenting skills
Likes to do new things
The top 3 was so hard to pick! I don't think I'd date someone for long who didn't have ALL my top 10. Is that being too demanding?
-Intelligent
-Trustworthy
-Supportive/Happy for my good news
Least important:
-Enjoys working together
-Extroverted
-Good parenting skills
Ill be sending in my video shortly!
Top 3: Strong Leadership Skills, Similar Values, Trustworthy
Bottom 3: Likes to do new things, Extroverted, Follow Directions/ Allow others to take the lead
+Shelley S yessssss submissions!!! It's so clear as day you're looking to date a preacher 😂..JK! Or maybe..
My top 3 :
-Intelligent
-Supportive
-Sexually compatible
Highest
1. Trustworthy 2. Life skills
3. Intelligent
Lowest
1. Allows others to take lead 2. Has similar interests
3. Shared politics
Also, I wanted to ask if you could do a vid (if you haven't already) on loving someone vs being attached.
I'm dating my boyfriend for 3 months now and it's my first relationship. I'm 20 btw. I feel SO much for him. Care about him deeply and maybe even love him. But those priorities of mine when dating someone is not evident in him, but idk if it's too soon to tell or what. I don't want to let go of him because he's amazing but I'm not being satisfied emotionally. Do you have any advice PLEASE!? :(
I think I want to date (myself)...
Top 3: Trustworthy, faithful, cooperative
Bottom 3: Allows others to take lead, leadership skills, life skills