I'm not japanese but from eastern asia. We act the same as you said. Not that we don't have personal opinion but we try to see what we commonly enjoy. Just like your example, if a someone invited me and ask what I want, my mind would be searching for something we both like with no hassle for both side and to take consideration of the budget also. Even if the one who pays is rich..expensive treats is still a big no-no. So,most of the time i would reply "anything is fine. It up to you" phrase, which means I will enjoy whatever you will offer because the thought that you invited me is a privilege that I already received.
>soranounmei Oh! Really ? Have you ever been troubled to understand these matter? I'm so relieved that you could understand what I would like to tell you. Today's video was my challenge. I was not sure of this video. So I am うれしい that you seem you could feel something from my video. Let me correct some Japanese, 感嘆△→簡単◎、フェイト△→ファイト◎ but understandable, keep on learning!
Thank you very much for this video. I am fully experiencing what you just described with my customers in Japan. Being Italian I am at the opposite scale of your behavior but it is important that we try to understand and always respect each other regardless. I will be a bit more pushy from now on with my customers when I really sense they have issues or feel not comfortable about something and they don't share it with me. Thanks again
@TechAndTea Thanks so much for your kind comment. Are you learning about Japanese through "Psychology class" How curious!! Sounds good. Because I am native Japanese some time I could not find what oversea's people interesting in, so if you have any concrete question, it'll help my contents!
I just found your channel and it's really fun to watch and learn. I like how you choose themes that help bring down the cultural barriers, Thank you from Sweden!
I'm not from Japan, but you are litterally describing my beheviour. I do understand all these situations becouse I'll do the same and I think in the same way as you.
thank you for sharing such intimate information. I recently began to watch your videos and I am a big fan. thank you so much for taking your time and making these videos available to the world. your culture is truly amazing.
Hello! I have only just found your channel, and I wanted to thank you SO MUCH for helping me better understand the wonderful people of Japan! Your advice and wisdom is so practical! Thank you!
@SarabiChan Thanks so much for your message.You have watched most of my videos. I am so pleased. Your comment so encouraged me! Because Some time the theme is too insight of Japanese culture, I was wondering if these theme like"Behavior" " won't say No" can be understood. By receiving your kind message, now I relieved and decided again to continue this exciting work. IJapan is so beautiful and calm county, hope your dream come true and if you have any question, I will happy to answer ;D
When I was living in Japan, I found that the people were sooooo expressive! So many people say "Japanese people have no expression!" but... there is so much body-language! I think that the concept of Honne and Tatamae are in every culture, but in Japan people actually KNOW what it means! So important! Thank you so much for making this video~ it's awesome to have a Japanese person talk about this stuff! =^_^=
This is very helpful! I work as a server at a Japanese Ramen Restaurant, and each shift I'm learning more and trying my best with my interactions with my manager who is very sweet, but there are barriers in communication. Also, I'm loving your videos!!
So, if you ask another person directly about what they want to do or eat, then you feel like you can say your own opinion without being rude. I'm really glad you made this video. It makes a lot of sense and really helps me in understand more about why you act the way you do. I really look forward to seeing more videos.
I as a mermaid in Hawaii Kailua, completely support your feeling in this video! I left the country 25 years ago ! It is because the stress to understand people. I am still discovering what is the good part of being the same....but I have not yet. Anway! I really appreciate your video! Thank you and Mahalo
I have enjoyed all your videos very much and I wish there were more. The way you speak makes me laugh because alot of your words are VERY GOOD and you suddenly sound like an American. Great job :)
I am so glad to see your videos! you are really special for a Japanese woman, because you are not shy to talk about yourself and about they inside of Japanese society. That is very informative and interesting! thank you so much!
This video and you are so helpful! My daughters best friend is Japanese and her family has only been living in the states for about a year. We have a hard time communicating. Thank you so so much for these tips! :)
This was so informative. It also makes sense. I am glad to know how to approach in these situations now. I hope to see more cultural difference videos from you. Thanks
Thank you very much. Because you are making these videos, we can learn how to get along with your country and culture. Very informative! Again, Thank You Very Much! :-]
Great Video! Thank you for sharing , i have a better understanding of your culture. You explained it better than anybody else, even with broken English. You are beautiful and please keep making those videos, I find them very educational
Wow Japanese are such well breed polite group of people. Truly the result of cultured behavior transcending through generations after generations. I hope globalization doesn't erode this away!
Many thanks your kind and useful video, I really appreciate it. Next September I am going to visit Tokyo and your explanations will help me to communicate with your people.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make videos about sharing your beautiful culture! I am American (African American and Native American ancestry) and I was raised to be respectful and polite to everyone especially guests and of course our elders. Therefore, it truly inspires me that in Japan that there is so much emphasis on Harmony and Respect. Thank you again for sharing!
Thank you for explaining your culture. I like to learn about other cultures and how they are different from mine. This will help me be more in harmony when I eventually visit Japan.
Domo arrigato Komori san, I love what you shared! Your description was fascinating & also very familiar. I have not heard these thoughts expressed as completely or as courageously. Even though I grew up hearing my mother (an American Nisei) describe the hiding of such feelings, it was not explained. Creating harmony in the bigger picture, & how an individual represents the self integrally, with each a separate facet with real thoughts & feelings, was something beautiful. Thank you for this. ,'-)
Hello, I like your videos, the way you explain about your culture and way of being, you seem so nice! (pleasant voice and pretty face its a plus!) Thank you!
Thanks for this and your others videos. This one interested me a lot since i was and still i'm having an hard time to understand what really a Japanese person think.It's something that you learn slowly but it's so interesting to discover the Japanese culture.This video was really helpful to clarify me why Japanese people do this. Thank you!
This is so very helpful Komori! Thank you very much! My husband and I are visiting Japan this coming April/May and we are trying to get as much information of your culture and language as possible so that we do not offend anyone or humiliate ourselves on our trip.... I know this is going to be difficult because we are so different. (Japan and America)
Arigatou gozaimasu for making this clear and informative video! You have a very good insight in the differences in culture between East and West, and also to which strengths and weaknesses this leads. Thoughtful of you! I think many polite Western people share similar customs, it is just not formalized. Like calling someone late and ask 'I hope I am not bothering you'. Or when going out with new friends not wanting to stand out by ordering difficult stuff or imposing yourself. It's etiquette.
I loved this video so much. I find many Japanese people to have such profound humility, it is one of the things that i deeply respect and admire about this culture. Thank you for sharing it with us!
Very united and very appreciative of the smallest things.. Which makes me very interested in your culture Komori. Which is why I have always been going back to Japan every chance I can get. Teaches a lot of things. Respect, humility and a lot more.
Komori, I must say a very big thank you, I am in Japan with new Ideas for managing IT organisations, I now understand the people I am working with much better, what you say is really true, Innovation, doing new things, changing things need people to speak their minds and to be outstanding. This seems really different, I will now ask people directly what they say and hope things will get better
i really appreciate you taking time to teach us about Japan, i love Japan since i was 6,but always thinking of how different the culture is in Japan,and being born in a different country with different manners,am a bit afraid that i'll do something or say something without thinking is bad and hurt someones feelings, in the other hand i am a very polite young man, but at the same curious about learning new things,i appreciate someone from japan directly tell us,not someone that just visit.
Thank you for explaining this. I am becoming addicted to your videos! I have a friend in Japan and when she visits it feels like she doesn't like me, but I suspect it's because of body language, tone of voice, etc which are different in our cultures. Being quiet and modest in America is considered bad. I think a balance is nice - have your own opinions but still be modest and respectful of the harmony of the whole group.
I'm brazilian. I just started to learn japanese and I found your channel. You're really a nice, pretty and cute girl and you really know how to explain to us "gaijins" the way of japanese people think. This is a lot different for our hot and emotional culture here in Brazil
Now that was awesome. I like how you explain the whole concept of "modesty" and how it's not really being modest, or conforming, it's a behavioral thing westerners have a hard time grasping. It's not better or worse or comparative :) Vive la Difference!
I bet that's a big reason why crime is so low in Japan. The frowning upon of "disharmonious" behavior is probably keep individual impulses in check. That's also probably why crime can be so high here in the US. Brazen behavior is rewarded.
John Shen it's basically public/social shaming. they usually shame the person's parents and family. in order to keep shame away from their family name they won't do certain things. same thing happens in Korea
Wow awesome video, you really explained well the Japanese way of thinking! That shows that you are very intelligent and a really perceptive woman. Being nice is always good because I never saw any videos that had 0 dislikes like yours. And yes you are VERY beautiful! I hope that you are a little embaressed by all my praises! lol Thank you! :)
im just like this, this is because im always polite and kind. when i went to japan i noticed that there are way more kind and polite people than anywhere else, it is my dream to live in japan it is such a nice place.
I am American. I appreciate this way of thinking so much- HARMONY. This world with all of its chaos needs harmony. But I teach Conversational English and have many Japanese women in my class, I am trying to understand the culture so I can teach them better. I try to encourage them the way I would an American and I probably make them uncomfortable. Your video will help me be more appropriate with my praise. thank you so much.
You described my own habits exactly. (By the way, I'm American). When I was younger I was extremely shy and soft spoken. Always afraid of imposing on anyone or inconveniencing them. I made it my priority to stay in the background. But I wasn't necessarily sad or down on myself; I just thought it was a polite way to be. When friends would ask: "Where do you want to go for lunch?" my typical response would be "Anything is fine. Whatever you want." I think I probably annoyed people sometimes because I never said what I thought. A lot of people in the US might mistaken a quiet person as being stuck up, or may think that a person who "hides" their feelings and thoughts just don't like you. Maybe this is my cue that it's time to relocate!
+Amanda Moser Hi! Thanks you for showing your younger's day experiences. How kind a child you were. I like the person like you. There should be someone like you even in America, people does have their own unique character naturally, and it should be respected.
There are many people like this the U.S., but you're right that they're viewed, generally, as negative traits. I think it also depends quite a bit on your family's background (social class, ethnicity) and the region you are from.
haha.. same here although I live in Africa.. people here think you are arrogant if you are quit... and its hard to make friends.. was thinking the same , I should definitely relocate too.
Japan is a very refined culture that revolves around respect. Everything that you do that includes interacting with other people revolves around showing utmost respect to them, and I think that is a bit confusing to Americans/other cultures, because they don't really care. If you offend someone in America, you offend someone, no big deal. Its their fault, not yours. However in Japan if you offend someone it sort of forces you to take responsibility for that- because you offended someone and thats not nice, unlike in America if you offend someone it is the other persons problem, in Japan it is now your problem. Like not expressing your emotions- has to do with not wanting to bother people with your emotions. Like she said, its all about harmony and it all boils down to respecting your peers. But this is why I love Japan so much because in other cultures respect is taken so lightly and just tossed around, however in Japan its a daily thing to show respect to each other and it makes me happy there are still intelligant people left on this world. -_- After all the YoloSwag crap ive seen everywhere. I'm Italian and I've been many places and I love studying different cultures and languages, and Japanese was always my favorite.
In America, we respect each other enough to tell each other the truth. It's not lack of respect. It IS respect. You lie to people who you can't trust with the truth. You don't give them the benefit of the doubt to be able to handle it, because you don't respect them enough for that. So you take the 'safe' rout by being super polite and delicate with your words. Imagine two cowboys are sitting around a campfire eating the beans that one cowboy cooked, but very badly, so that they taste bad. The cook asks the other cowboy, how do the beans taste? IF the one who cooked them is crazy and violent and dangerous, OR if he is not dangerous but is instead a weak crybaby who gets upset too easily, the one eating them may say "they are just fine." He doesn't respect his partner enough to trust him with the truth, because he is either violent or weak. But if they are friends, and trust each other, and the beans are bad, he will say, "these beans taste like pig shit, god damnit. How come you cain't cook?" There is innocence in truth telling, and you trust the people you respect to discern that innocence in you, the nobility of your intentions. He and his friend probably constantly insult each other and neither of them takes it personally. That's part of how men learn to really trust each other. You poke a bit, until to learn the other person's boundaries. And then you back off. And then you know. Then you don't need to be polite anymore, because you trust each other. When, in Japan, you don't tell each other the truth, for fear of hurting each other's feelings, you think you are respecting each other. But you are disrespecting each other. That's not what real respect looks like. It's what cowardice and fear look like.
Interesting description of the Japanese mentality. There is enormously to learn of this very former and so attractive culture. Thank you from France ^^
i really need to say thank you to you! because i have many japanese friend people i meet through an organisation and i never really understood why the girls i hung out with would never really say what was on their mind per say , or mention a specific idea ... with a group project! I feel so bad for judging them , and thinking they are boring or not interesting , not smart to have ideas. Your video really show how the japanese mentality is , and how to feel appreciative of it! i never knew the things you say about keeping the atmosphere harmonious !! i just see the other side ... so i really am grateful i see your video
This video was created so long time ago, but still it seems work well. I am so pleased to help you understand Japanese .There are so many differences in various culture, to know other culture is sometimes quite difficult. I wish I could contribute more on understanding each other to be better friend. Thank you lazy girl to take your precious time to leave your lovely message!!
Thanks for your answer! Great.... If you make a good video that people connect to it can be timeless! Keep making videos!! Happy I found this channel 😊❤
I have some lovely Japanese friends in Tokyo & Kumamoto that I know through the Martial Arts, and I often wonder to myself 'what do they really think' of this or that idea. But they are so reluctant to express their opinion at first. I have found over the years that beer & whisky tends to relax them. Obviously though this is not perfect. So I think I will take your advice and 'ask them directly' from now on. Thank you so much for attempting this difficult subject. Good job!
I agree that when you are invited somewhere you don't pick whatever you want. Usually, I pick something equal to what they are eating or anything less expensive. It's a way of not being rude and taking advantage of the fact that they are paying for you, therefore, your own opinions are secondary during these circumstances. Politeness.
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I'm not japanese but from eastern asia. We act the same as you said. Not that we don't have personal opinion but we try to see what we commonly enjoy. Just like your example, if a someone invited me and ask what I want, my mind would be searching for something we both like with no hassle for both side and to take consideration of the budget also. Even if the one who pays is rich..expensive treats is still a big no-no. So,most of the time i would reply "anything is fine. It up to you" phrase, which means I will enjoy whatever you will offer because the thought that you invited me is a privilege that I already received.
@MrLAURA9797
Thanks so much for your comment;D
>soranounmei
Oh! Really ? Have you ever been troubled to understand these matter?
I'm so relieved that you could understand what I would like to tell you.
Today's video was my challenge. I was not sure of this video.
So I am うれしい that you seem you could feel something from my video.
Let me correct some Japanese, 感嘆△→簡単◎、フェイト△→ファイト◎ but understandable, keep on learning!
Thank you very much for this video. I am fully experiencing what you just described with my customers in Japan. Being Italian I am at the opposite scale of your behavior but it is important that we try to understand and always respect each other regardless. I will be a bit more pushy from now on with my customers when I really sense they have issues or feel not comfortable about something and they don't share it with me.
Thanks again
Thanks for your opinion and way to behave. That's also interesting for me too.
;-)
You have the most adorable accent when speaking English, you have amazing English skills. ^.^
@TechAndTea
Thanks so much for your kind comment. Are you learning about Japanese through "Psychology class" How curious!! Sounds good.
Because I am native Japanese some time I could not find what oversea's people interesting in, so if you have any concrete question, it'll help my contents!
I like the way you speak English. It's so かわいい.
I just found your channel and it's really fun to watch and learn. I like how you choose themes that help bring down the cultural barriers, Thank you from Sweden!
I'm not from Japan, but you are litterally describing my beheviour. I do understand all these situations becouse I'll do the same and I think in the same way as you.
thank you for sharing such intimate information. I recently began to watch your videos and I am a big fan. thank you so much for taking your time and making these videos available to the world. your culture is truly amazing.
Modesty and extreme kindness... things some people don't understand.
Hello! I have only just found your channel, and I wanted to thank you SO MUCH for helping me better understand the wonderful people of Japan! Your advice and wisdom is so practical! Thank you!
Most helpful "hints" and explanations anywhere on the web...thanks.
@SarabiChan
Thanks so much for your message.You have watched most of my videos. I am so pleased.
Your comment so encouraged me! Because Some time the theme is too insight of Japanese culture, I was wondering if these theme like"Behavior" " won't say No" can be understood. By receiving your kind message, now I relieved and decided again to continue this exciting work. IJapan is so beautiful and calm county, hope your dream come true and if you have any question, I will happy to answer ;D
When I was living in Japan, I found that the people were sooooo expressive! So many people say "Japanese people have no expression!" but... there is so much body-language! I think that the concept of Honne and Tatamae are in every culture, but in Japan people actually KNOW what it means! So important! Thank you so much for making this video~ it's awesome to have a Japanese person talk about this stuff! =^_^=
This is very helpful! I work as a server at a Japanese Ramen Restaurant, and each shift I'm learning more and trying my best with my interactions with my manager who is very sweet, but there are barriers in communication. Also, I'm loving your videos!!
So, if you ask another person directly about what they want to do or eat, then you feel like you can say your own opinion without being rude. I'm really glad you made this video. It makes a lot of sense and really helps me in understand more about why you act the way you do. I really look forward to seeing more videos.
I as a mermaid in Hawaii Kailua, completely support your feeling in this video!
I left the country 25 years ago ! It is because the stress to understand people.
I am still discovering what is the good part of being the same....but I have not yet. Anway! I really appreciate your video! Thank you and Mahalo
Your video is interesting and usefull and your particular way of closing your eyes while you talk is hypnotic and fascinating.
Thank you so much for this video! Its helped me alot on my paper on social norms of Japan. Your culture is so cool, i'm dying to visit japan someday!
I have enjoyed all your videos very much and I wish there were more. The way you speak makes me laugh because alot of your words are VERY GOOD and you suddenly sound like an American. Great job :)
I am so glad to see your videos! you are really special for a Japanese woman, because you are not shy to talk about yourself and about they inside of Japanese society.
That is very informative and interesting! thank you so much!
You present things very well and in a good order, many thanks.
This video and you are so helpful! My daughters best friend is Japanese and her family has only been living in the states for about a year. We have a hard time communicating. Thank you so so much for these tips! :)
It is such wonderful and thoughtful culture! I loved it and also your explaining by your heart that is beautiful and honest. Thanks!
This was so informative. It also makes sense. I am glad to know how to approach in these situations now. I hope to see more cultural difference videos from you. Thanks
Beautiful and very useful video. You give honest and good insight about the japanese way of living...I love it!! ciao
Lovely, she's so graceful. Bless your heart
Thank you very much. Because you are making these videos, we can learn how to get along with your country and culture. Very informative! Again, Thank You Very Much! :-]
Very interesting video. So polite to keep harmony. Thank you for sharing about your culture.
Great Video! Thank you for sharing , i have a better understanding of your culture. You explained it better than anybody else, even with broken English. You are beautiful and please keep making those videos, I find them very educational
Wow Japanese are such well breed polite group of people. Truly the result of cultured behavior transcending through generations after generations. I hope globalization doesn't erode this away!
+DarkCastleCorps if it was onlky through about their "dark fantasies" #tentaclesandcrap
DarkCastleCorps breed?
Victoria Willington that's a small niche... Just because you look for it doesn't mean they all do...
Thank you so much for making this video. It helps us to understand the Japanese culture better.
Many thanks your kind and useful video, I really appreciate it. Next September I am going to visit Tokyo and your explanations will help me to communicate with your people.
Thank you so much for taking the time to make videos about sharing your beautiful culture! I am American (African American and Native American ancestry) and I was raised to be respectful and polite to everyone especially guests and of course our elders. Therefore, it truly inspires me that in Japan that there is so much emphasis on Harmony and Respect. Thank you again for sharing!
Thank you for explaining your culture. I like to learn about other cultures and how they are different from mine. This will help me be more in harmony when I eventually visit Japan.
Domo arrigato Komori san, I love what you shared!
Your description was fascinating & also very familiar. I have not heard these thoughts expressed as completely or as courageously. Even though I grew up hearing my mother (an American Nisei) describe the hiding of such feelings, it was not explained. Creating harmony in the bigger picture, & how an individual represents the self integrally, with each a separate facet with real thoughts & feelings, was something beautiful. Thank you for this. ,'-)
Hello, I like your videos, the way you explain about your culture and way of being, you seem so nice! (pleasant voice and pretty face its a plus!) Thank you!
Thanks for this and your others videos.
This one interested me a lot since i was and still i'm having an hard time to understand what really a Japanese person think.It's something that you learn slowly but it's so interesting to discover the Japanese culture.This video was really helpful to clarify me why Japanese people do this.
Thank you!
Thanks for your information, "restraint"! I learn new word today.
Thanks very much.
Awesome explanation. Please keep up the good work. Doumo Arigato gozaimasu.
This is so very helpful Komori! Thank you very much! My husband and I are visiting Japan this coming April/May and we are trying to get as much information of your culture and language as possible so that we do not offend anyone or humiliate ourselves on our trip.... I know this is going to be difficult because we are so different. (Japan and America)
Arigatou gozaimasu for making this clear and informative video!
You have a very good insight in the differences in culture between East and West, and also to which strengths and weaknesses this leads. Thoughtful of you!
I think many polite Western people share similar customs, it is just not formalized. Like calling someone late and ask 'I hope I am not bothering you'. Or when going out with new friends not wanting to stand out by ordering difficult stuff or imposing yourself. It's etiquette.
Thank you for sharing such wonderful advice !!!
You make realy good and important movies, thank you for your explanathions about Japaneese behavior.
I loved this video so much. I find many Japanese people to have such profound humility, it is one of the things that i deeply respect and admire about this culture.
Thank you for sharing it with us!
Thank you so much for posting this!
This is very helpful! =)
Thank you for sharing this. I am very curious about Japanese culture, and many others. You,re a very good teacher :)
Very united and very appreciative of the smallest things.. Which makes me very interested in your culture Komori. Which is why I have always been going back to Japan every chance I can get. Teaches a lot of things. Respect, humility and a lot more.
Komori, I must say a very big thank you, I am in Japan with new Ideas for managing IT organisations, I now understand the people I am working with much better, what you say is really true, Innovation, doing new things, changing things need people to speak their minds and to be outstanding.
This seems really different, I will now ask people directly what they say and hope things will get better
@TheKenrid
Thanks for you kind invitation;D
In Japan, I love to eat ,Sushi of course, and UNAGI, have you ever heard?
Such a beautiful refined considerate culture
This video is great! Thank you so much for this information. It helps foreigners understand better the Japanese society. :)
japanese people are very humble and polite
Your Videos are awesome, thank you very much! I hope to be in Japan again one day!
このビデオをアップロードしてくれてありがとうございます！ まだ日本語と日本の文化事を勉強しています。 説明はすごいだと思います。 発音も上手です！ またありがとうございます。
thanks so much for this explanation, it helped me to understand that behaviour so well!
Great. I got to visit there. The mind games of Japan have driven me mental. So glad to be back in Australia
Thank you for explaining these behaviors. I love your accent.
This is rather informative! Thank you. You have a new subscriber. :)
i really appreciate you taking time to teach us about Japan,
i love Japan since i was 6,but always thinking of how different
the culture is in Japan,and being born in a different country with
different manners,am a bit afraid that i'll do something or say
something without thinking is bad and hurt someones feelings,
in the other hand i am a very polite young man, but at the same
curious about learning new things,i appreciate someone from japan
directly tell us,not someone that just visit.
Thank you for explaining this. I am becoming addicted to your videos! I have a friend in Japan and when she visits it feels like she doesn't like me, but I suspect it's because of body language, tone of voice, etc which are different in our cultures. Being quiet and modest in America is considered bad. I think a balance is nice - have your own opinions but still be modest and respectful of the harmony of the whole group.
I'm brazilian. I just started to learn japanese and I found your channel. You're really a nice, pretty and cute girl and you really know how to explain to us "gaijins" the way of japanese people think. This is a lot different for our hot and emotional culture here in Brazil
Johnny Lynn Lee just fyi, gaijin is not a nice way of saying foreigner as the proper way to say it without negative connotation is gaigokujin
Very interesting video. I love Japanese people and customs.
waaa...it's very nice of you for explaining us these manners.....I'd like to hear more.....you are so cute and so honest and so friendly...
Thanks for the video, really interesting. I'm planning to visit your country in 2018. I'm from Costa Rica.
Thank you for the video. You guys are really good.
Wow! What a great video! Subscribed!!
Now that was awesome. I like how you explain the whole concept of "modesty" and how it's not really being modest, or conforming, it's a behavioral thing westerners have a hard time grasping. It's not better or worse or comparative :) Vive la Difference!
This was very helpful! Thank you very much. You seem very nice :)
you are a good teacher ^^ i love your explanation thank you
I know! isnt it!? I love learning about it so much. There are so many things to take from them and to improve yourself on.
こもりさんは英語が大変堪能です！こもりさんのビデオを見るのはこれが初めてですが、日本人の心理や調和の大切さ等をよく説明していただいて、とても有益だと思います。私はしばらくの間日本に住んでいたもので、自分の体験はご説明の通りです！他の投稿したビデオを見たくなりました！ありがとうございました。＊私の間違いだらけの日本語をお許しください。笑。
I bet that's a big reason why crime is so low in Japan. The frowning upon of "disharmonious" behavior is probably keep individual impulses in check. That's also probably why crime can be so high here in the US. Brazen behavior is rewarded.
John Shen it's basically public/social shaming. they usually shame the person's parents and family. in order to keep shame away from their family name they won't do certain things. same thing happens in Korea
Wow awesome video, you really explained well the Japanese way of thinking! That shows that you are very intelligent and a really perceptive woman. Being nice is always good because I never saw any videos that had 0 dislikes like yours. And yes you are VERY beautiful! I hope that you are a little embaressed by all my praises! lol
Thank you! :)
Hayoi san, again, another nice video on a fine subject.
That was very informative. Thank you very much.
This was really informative, thank you a lot!
im just like this, this is because im always polite and kind. when i went to japan i noticed that there are way more kind and polite people than anywhere else, it is my dream to live in japan it is such a nice place.
Little by little I'm starting to see just how humble the Japanese really are! I love it! :D
This was very informative! Thank you.
Thanks for the great videos!
Wow, this video explains the behaviour of the exchange students i recently met. Thanks for the advice! :)
This is well explained. I can relate to everything you said here. :)
I am American. I appreciate this way of thinking so much- HARMONY. This world with all of its chaos needs harmony. But I teach Conversational English and have many Japanese women in my class, I am trying to understand the culture so I can teach them better. I try to encourage them the way I would an American and I probably make them uncomfortable. Your video will help me be more appropriate with my praise. thank you so much.
You described my own habits exactly. (By the way, I'm American). When I was younger I was extremely shy and soft spoken. Always afraid of imposing on anyone or inconveniencing them. I made it my priority to stay in the background. But I wasn't necessarily sad or down on myself; I just thought it was a polite way to be. When friends would ask: "Where do you want to go for lunch?" my typical response would be "Anything is fine. Whatever you want." I think I probably annoyed people sometimes because I never said what I thought. A lot of people in the US might mistaken a quiet person as being stuck up, or may think that a person who "hides" their feelings and thoughts just don't like you. Maybe this is my cue that it's time to relocate!
+Amanda Moser Hi! Thanks you for showing your younger's day experiences. How kind a child you were. I like the person like you. There should be someone like you even in America, people does have their own unique character naturally, and it should be respected.
There are many people like this the U.S., but you're right that they're viewed, generally, as negative traits. I think it also depends quite a bit on your family's background (social class, ethnicity) and the region you are from.
haha.. same here although I live in Africa.. people here think you are arrogant if you are quit... and its hard to make friends.. was thinking the same , I should definitely relocate too.
You are soooooo cute, you make me smile. :D
Japan is a very refined culture that revolves around respect. Everything that you do that includes interacting with other people revolves around showing utmost respect to them, and I think that is a bit confusing to Americans/other cultures, because they don't really care. If you offend someone in America, you offend someone, no big deal. Its their fault, not yours. However in Japan if you offend someone it sort of forces you to take responsibility for that- because you offended someone and thats not nice, unlike in America if you offend someone it is the other persons problem, in Japan it is now your problem.
Like not expressing your emotions- has to do with not wanting to bother people with your emotions. Like she said, its all about harmony and it all boils down to respecting your peers. But this is why I love Japan so much because in other cultures respect is taken so lightly and just tossed around, however in Japan its a daily thing to show respect to each other and it makes me happy there are still intelligant people left on this world. -_- After all the YoloSwag crap ive seen everywhere.
I'm Italian and I've been many places and I love studying different cultures and languages, and Japanese was always my favorite.
In America, we respect each other enough to tell each other the truth. It's not lack of respect. It IS respect. You lie to people who you can't trust with the truth. You don't give them the benefit of the doubt to be able to handle it, because you don't respect them enough for that. So you take the 'safe' rout by being super polite and delicate with your words.
Imagine two cowboys are sitting around a campfire eating the beans that one cowboy cooked, but very badly, so that they taste bad. The cook asks the other cowboy, how do the beans taste?
IF the one who cooked them is crazy and violent and dangerous, OR if he is not dangerous but is instead a weak crybaby who gets upset too easily, the one eating them may say "they are just fine." He doesn't respect his partner enough to trust him with the truth, because he is either violent or weak.
But if they are friends, and trust each other, and the beans are bad, he will say, "these beans taste like pig shit, god damnit. How come you cain't cook?" There is innocence in truth telling, and you trust the people you respect to discern that innocence in you, the nobility of your intentions.
He and his friend probably constantly insult each other and neither of them takes it personally. That's part of how men learn to really trust each other. You poke a bit, until to learn the other person's boundaries. And then you back off. And then you know. Then you don't need to be polite anymore, because you trust each other.
When, in Japan, you don't tell each other the truth, for fear of hurting each other's feelings, you think you are respecting each other. But you are disrespecting each other. That's not what real respect looks like. It's what cowardice and fear look like.
Interesting description of the Japanese mentality. There is enormously to learn of this very former and so attractive culture. Thank you from France ^^
i really need to say thank you to you! because i have many japanese friend people i meet through an organisation and i never really understood why the girls i hung out with would never really say what was on their mind per say , or mention a specific idea ... with a group project! I feel so bad for judging them , and thinking they are boring or not interesting , not smart to have ideas. Your video really show how the japanese mentality is , and how to feel appreciative of it! i never knew the things you say about keeping the atmosphere harmonious !! i just see the other side ... so i really am grateful i see your video
This video was created so long time ago, but still it seems work well. I am so pleased to help you understand Japanese .There are so many differences in various culture, to know other culture is sometimes quite difficult. I wish I could contribute more on understanding each other to be better friend. Thank you lazy girl to take your precious time to leave your lovely message!!
Thanks for your answer! Great.... If you make a good video that people connect to it can be timeless! Keep making videos!! Happy I found this channel 😊❤
Thank you for such a wonderful explanation of this behavior. there is nothing wrong with it and understanding it makes it easier to work with.
You have really a wounderful manner and culture and there is huge difference between your culture and others
That's really interesting, the don't stick your head high in the cornfield thing.
This was a beautiful explanation of Japanese social manners. It is a culture of complex subtleties.
Great videos, they are very fun to learn from! ^^ God Bless Japan!
That's a good way to put it. I was thinking of the word conflict.
Thanks for sharing your feeling!
You`re really beautiful :) and thank you for this video it definitely helped me in many ways :)
I have some lovely Japanese friends in Tokyo & Kumamoto that I know through the Martial Arts, and I often wonder to myself 'what do they really think' of this or that idea. But they are so reluctant to express their opinion at first. I have found over the years that beer & whisky tends to relax them. Obviously though this is not perfect. So I think I will take your advice and 'ask them directly' from now on. Thank you so much for attempting this difficult subject. Good job!
I agree that when you are invited somewhere you don't pick whatever you want. Usually, I pick something equal to what they are eating or anything less expensive. It's a way of not being rude and taking advantage of the fact that they are paying for you, therefore, your own opinions are secondary during these circumstances. Politeness.
very well mannered 👍👍👍