Solo Female Surviving Hard Times By Finding Safety Living In a Minivan “Van Tour”

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  • Meet Gail a Canadian Van dweller who is finding a better life living out of her mini van
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    Living full-time in my rolling tiny home has been the best decision of my life. Off-Grid living offers a peace and connection to life that you just can't explain. When i first started van life i build a stealth camper van with the mindset the you had to live a stealth van life and i soon discovered that you can just live the city van life and boondock in the countryside and as long as you are respectful of the backcountry and cities you live in. Stealth van life in not necessary. Be proud of the life you choose to live, Share this van life journey with everyone. Remember Tiny Homes and The whole tiny house lifestyle is very popular and #vanlife is no different. When you don't hide it people will come say hi and ask you questions. The world is more curious than hateful. Well......Welcome to my everyday van life adventures. My name is Chrome Valdez and i travel full-time with Cruz the bulldog. Stay weird everyone and thank you for being here.

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  • @lesleecharles9803
    @lesleecharles9803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4527

    By putting herself out there she has no idea how many women she's helped in writing their own future. Just beautiful.

  • @CarlosRamTx
    @CarlosRamTx 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3703

    At first I felt sad, but quickly realized this is actually full of positive energy. She was able to leave a toxic situation AND did it her way. She's courageous, smart, and inspiring.

    • @sosexymagazinerobinwatkins8467
      @sosexymagazinerobinwatkins8467 3 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      I appreciate your comment. We have to walk in each other's shoes. This may not be something you personally may want to do, but at least it took her out of a potentially dangerous situation and she's able to move at will and do what she needs to do. Kudos to her!

    • @ohioladybug7390
      @ohioladybug7390 3 ปีที่แล้ว +50

      I couldn’t have said it better. She has accomplished amazing things.

    • @drakejagminas6904
      @drakejagminas6904 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      Took the words out of my mouth Carlos, I felt the exact same way. Very powerful.

    • @katdesignsstar9286
      @katdesignsstar9286 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Same💛🙏

    • @JennyinIllinois
      @JennyinIllinois 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yes!

  • @AfroMomVanlifing
    @AfroMomVanlifing 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3290

    You can tell the trail of sadness in her eyes and voice. Trauma can freeze you or move you, she chose to take action. So very proud of you Gail. You are an inspiration 💫💥💕

    • @The_Ladder_Perspective
      @The_Ladder_Perspective 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      Can define hear the sadness

    • @gorymarty56
      @gorymarty56 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      Definitely had a sad life. She still has the effects from it.

    • @sandraschick1916
      @sandraschick1916 3 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      I applaud your action to preserve your sanity and your life. I completely get your situation. My prayers are with you. May you find peace in your daily life and joy in your soul once more!

    • @jimmyharrison1864
      @jimmyharrison1864 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      You are all correct. She "gardens" her sadness. Hopefully she will grow into a whole person on this journey.
      Ones happiness is not given to them by others.
      🙏

    • @vickidickinson2888
      @vickidickinson2888 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      Praying for you to continue to heal. You have done an amazing job with your van. So very creative. Stay safe!

  • @TheBffTwins
    @TheBffTwins 2 ปีที่แล้ว +520

    I'd love to see an update on this lovely lady. She's definitely a trooper.

    • @Kaitlin24247
      @Kaitlin24247 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Sameeeee

    • @haseefadzly
      @haseefadzly ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Same here

    • @maryjohnson3947
      @maryjohnson3947 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I hope she is having a wonderful life. We need an update.

    • @barbaraa2937
      @barbaraa2937 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      She´s got an instagram its written in the description box :)

    • @icetoad5250
      @icetoad5250 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      She is wonderful and happy and living her best life!...I just met her and she was so nice!

  • @vanadians3819
    @vanadians3819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1928

    Im a woman starting out alone at 50 in a strange town where I basically know no one. I admire your positive attitude. We may never meet, but you have a friend praying for you in me.

    • @hennagal7360
      @hennagal7360 3 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      Bless you too Shawna 🌻

    • @lisebroder6325
      @lisebroder6325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

      Takes a lot of Courage go to a town that you know no one and start all over again congratulations

    • @rebeccabeasley9624
      @rebeccabeasley9624 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Amen

    • @victoriariley7490
      @victoriariley7490 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      And Im praying for You! Blessings💜

    • @minimalist5555life
      @minimalist5555life 3 ปีที่แล้ว +82

      I too have been in a similar situation . Leaving with just my small car and 2 dogs. It is hard starting over at 50 in 2012 with no money in the bank. Slow and steady we can do it. I will get my van one day and that's all I need as a minimalist.
      You are an inspiration thankyou

  • @annelynk7944
    @annelynk7944 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1569

    Don’t ever apologize for crying. It’s not a sign of weakness. It is a release. I’m so proud of you. 💪

    • @sandyschutt6132
      @sandyschutt6132 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      I agree ,tears are cleansing !

    • @TeeMarie36
      @TeeMarie36 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      I definitely agree... crying calms the heart and your spirit. It’s a way of resetting

    • @angelabay-jespersen6205
      @angelabay-jespersen6205 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      I completely agree. Also I believe it’s super important to release your emotions rather than suppress them.

    • @jeanyoung1224
      @jeanyoung1224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Not if your heart is shattered it makes worse sometimes

    • @leannewallace7276
      @leannewallace7276 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@jeanyoung1224 you are still healing and have a long ways to go but it will come to you also I'm sorry that you are hurt so bad. But it does get better it took me 13 years before I felt better. Sometimes it sooner sometimes it takes longer. It will come.

  • @clarasmith1873
    @clarasmith1873 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2325

    Gail showed a lot of courage sharing her story and letting people know they can take back their lives.

    • @SindyJ37
      @SindyJ37 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      A very brave wonderful woman indeed

    • @pammorrison88
      @pammorrison88 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      @@valeriehancotte-galan4790 sometimes you have to be your own support system. That’s all you have.

    • @grandmanette9503
      @grandmanette9503 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Pamela Morrison. You are so right, sometimes they are not there for you when you need it the most! Or the abuser has Luther ones believing your blowing it up!! Yes if you have a gut feeling go with it!! 👍🙏

    • @rosem5558
      @rosem5558 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      @@valeriehancotte-galan4790 ESPECIALLY in a situation where you don't have a support system, like many don't (abusers alienate your close ones very often) because you'll just end up staying while waiting for a support system ...you definitely only need yourself if you're going to get out, and then once you're out (transition house or other) you can start building a support system going forward

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      @@valeriehancotte-galan4790 it’s been very tough. I was very isolated and still am for the most part as I’m trying to clear out of this house entirely on my own. I only had one person I turn to in the beginning of the end. But I quickly reached out to a lot of old friends that had slipped away… I was actually surprised at how many old friends suspected abuse but they didn’t know what to do. They’re there for me now over text, over phone but they’re still all so far away. I’m hoping that’ll change soon.

  • @thepursefreak78
    @thepursefreak78 ปีที่แล้ว +354

    When I left my toxic marriage, I moved from my large home into a studio apartment and it really was like a cocoon of safety. The feeling is indescribable. I just felt so safe. I hope she goes on to live a beautiful life❤️

    • @DiPlanet883
      @DiPlanet883 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I am trying to get this going myself. I have a plan and I think one weekend I will load up everything and go. I will get the apartment first and slowly move things over so not to be noticed then I will find the right time to take the big stuff and go.

    • @1mourningdove54
      @1mourningdove54 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@DiPlanet883 I hope that you are doing well, and that your plans fell into place as you planned. It's hard-I'ver been there, but every difficulty will be worth it in the end if you find your peace again.

    • @a.wilcox5690
      @a.wilcox5690 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I left a toxic 32 year marriage and moved to a small place. My safe place. A place to heal, to feel at peace. To love myself and to heal the trauma. I love what this woman has created. Very impressive. Such resiliency!!!💗

    • @courtneymeyers82
      @courtneymeyers82 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      It's sad that studio apartments aren't affordable anymore

    • @gregkareem9824
      @gregkareem9824 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ​@@courtneymeyers82when it comes to getting a roof over your head Nothing us affordable anymore

  • @jackieumphrey1712
    @jackieumphrey1712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +549

    Important point she mentioned: blending in. Don’t attract attention to yourself.

    • @sueedwards9334
      @sueedwards9334 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      So sad that women feel that they have to be inconspicuous

    • @KB-xk2fe
      @KB-xk2fe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I found every couple hours keep moving❤️

    • @KB-xk2fe
      @KB-xk2fe 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @Susan Kerr true, dollar tree has facial wipes and they work great for a clean fresh look👍

    • @lctlonlonscommunityandthea7361
      @lctlonlonscommunityandthea7361 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Fake story in this video. She didn't even tint the windows, you can see right in.

    • @leonaleona1628
      @leonaleona1628 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@lctlonlonscommunityandthea7361 you missed the part where she showed the blackout screens she has stored in the back for when she needs them.

  • @AussieG63
    @AussieG63 3 ปีที่แล้ว +431

    Your Not a SURVIVOR Darling , Your THRIVING, Courageous, Smart, Focused.
    Tragedy to Triumph, Wonderful to see your happy

    • @annetteyoutube742
      @annetteyoutube742 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      👏 💯%

    • @dianewilkins4418
      @dianewilkins4418 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You will be all right.
      You inspire.🌹

    • @StephaniRoberts
      @StephaniRoberts 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      So TRUE!!! 🎯 This is Audacious ingenuity!! I love that you know to blend in too. So wise!!! You’re amazing Gail! Bravo to you!!! 💛🙌🏼

  • @ramonvazquez-veta147
    @ramonvazquez-veta147 3 ปีที่แล้ว +813

    To anyone considering the option of car sleeping. Keep in mind join a gym. $20 a month you can take a shower every day. Just one less thing you have to think about...Goodluck and take care.

    • @evangelinegonzales9009
      @evangelinegonzales9009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Thanks, thats my question

    • @ramonvazquez-veta147
      @ramonvazquez-veta147 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@evangelinegonzales9009 That's how I did it when I was working out of state. That's how I ended up at Graceland main gate.

    • @christinamann3640
      @christinamann3640 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Even these days there are times and locations available, so still worth it.

    • @TheMidnitemel
      @TheMidnitemel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Brilliant!

    • @christinamann3640
      @christinamann3640 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Keep watching Chrome and other Vanlifers for more tips.

  • @gingers7451
    @gingers7451 2 ปีที่แล้ว +603

    It's so amazing how real happiness doesn't come from "things". This woman is happy with her small space and her freedom. So awesome! You go Gail!

    • @clarisamolina740
      @clarisamolina740 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Agreed.

    • @carolynmorris7303
      @carolynmorris7303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It's better than being a whipping post.

    • @AA-cw7ql
      @AA-cw7ql ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She does have a "thing" called a van. I bet that van helps her feel happy or at least more comfortable than being without shelter.

    • @kateallison3294
      @kateallison3294 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      And feels SAFE and Independent ❤️

    • @Pabz2030
      @Pabz2030 ปีที่แล้ว

      Possions end up owning you and taking over your life. And in the end you always lose them sooner or later

  • @jackfenton2271
    @jackfenton2271 3 ปีที่แล้ว +603

    The whole TH-cam world is cheering for you!

  • @yossibeneliezer1536
    @yossibeneliezer1536 3 ปีที่แล้ว +822

    I can understand her very well. After being emotionally and physically abused by my former wife for decades, I escaped to live in my car for a year and a half. My car was my refuge and a place to be happy.

    • @evangelinegonzales9009
      @evangelinegonzales9009 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      What address you use for mail? Po box.

    • @MyFocusVaries
      @MyFocusVaries 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      So glad you got out

    • @milkagutierrez5993
      @milkagutierrez5993 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Congratulations on taking the first step towards a happier life

    • @lynnmahan154
      @lynnmahan154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Glad you got out. Life's short.

    • @sharon-hermit
      @sharon-hermit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I'm so sorry. I walked away from a hell relationship.

  • @cindy7129
    @cindy7129 3 ปีที่แล้ว +678

    A house full of sorrow and darkness vs. A minivan with endless possibilities & inner peace. That’s a no brainer 💛

    • @carolburke9153
      @carolburke9153 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You are so spot on cindy.👍

    • @5DNRG
      @5DNRG 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      She is blessed to be a strong soul with an awesome safe living space that is so practical too.

    • @thanhhoale3886
      @thanhhoale3886 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I agree !!! I have been there too !

    • @clarisamolina740
      @clarisamolina740 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agreed.

    • @KP-tn9cq
      @KP-tn9cq 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Absolutely perfectly said.

  • @AllezVous222
    @AllezVous222 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    What I love about this video is how honest it is. Her van is realistic and shows us that it is feasible. While other aesthetic van life videos are visually pleasing, they also feel intimidating and nearly unreachable.

    • @truthseeker3967
      @truthseeker3967 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes, this is the most memorable set up- looks so cozy too.

    • @xlander-jp1rd
      @xlander-jp1rd 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There’s nothing to stop it from being a work in progress 😊

  • @lisamedlyn3818
    @lisamedlyn3818 3 ปีที่แล้ว +241

    I left a 19-year marriage and moved into a small house. A counselor told me my new place was a place of healing. This is your place to heal and start anew.

    • @Onlinesully
      @Onlinesully 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      great. When did you make the move and how is it going ?

    • @jimmy-vn6ip
      @jimmy-vn6ip 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      who's generating the money to pay the rent for that "small house"?

    • @chaosdemonwolf1
      @chaosdemonwolf1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@jimmy-vn6ip She's got a job?

    • @mihaelavoievidca2433
      @mihaelavoievidca2433 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes having a honest job it’s just the best

  • @cmac2295
    @cmac2295 3 ปีที่แล้ว +775

    She mentions the word safe so many times. I am so glad she got herself out ❤

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      @@DB-gf5gu bro, your trolling is weak.

    • @everythingmatters6308
      @everythingmatters6308 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@DB-gf5gu Misogynistic much?

    • @hbianco2350
      @hbianco2350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@DB-gf5gu what do you have against being safe?

    • @hbianco2350
      @hbianco2350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@DB-gf5gu some cannot remove their self from an unsafe situation. like children, handicapp, elderly ect. human trafficking victims fear their life if they leave.

    • @hbianco2350
      @hbianco2350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@DB-gf5gu im not talking about her obviously.

  • @selahrising
    @selahrising 3 ปีที่แล้ว +468

    I left a 30 year toxic marriage as well and am saving for a van. This lady is my hero. Thank you for telling your story, Gail. You’ve given me hope that my dream can happen.

    • @flfisher
      @flfisher 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Same here. Still working on it tho. Since 1985... haven’t been able to escape it mentally.

    • @lillysweetle
      @lillysweetle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@flfisher Meditation helps. 30 mins a day is all you need.

    • @cynthiar7350
      @cynthiar7350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@lillysweetle 40 years for me & what I’ve discovered since is shockingly criminal.

    • @lillysweetle
      @lillysweetle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@cynthiar7350 ladies the most important thing is to get our physical and heal yourself. Stay safe.

    • @cynthiar7350
      @cynthiar7350 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@lillysweetle Thank you, I’m trying.

  • @chantalfibrohope
    @chantalfibrohope ปีที่แล้ว +140

    So inspirational. She just helped so many women who feel trapped like there is no way out. Bravo for making a plan and executing it!

  • @AliceinMindfuland
    @AliceinMindfuland 3 ปีที่แล้ว +698

    It breaks my heart every time she mentions everything she has to do for safety against her abuser 💔 She's an admirable woman. I hope she gets all the peace and safety she deserves. ❤️

    • @sshza2143
      @sshza2143 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      she will. she's well on her way and let's all be kind to one another. it has never been difficult for me but the cruelty in this world is just😥

    • @jessemartin3125
      @jessemartin3125 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Women in general have to be aware of their safety. I'm glad to see how pro-active she is.

    • @kariay50
      @kariay50 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙌🏻

    • @richardbarth918
      @richardbarth918 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It broke my heart to hear that slight fear in her voice even talking during the day with a camera person with her.

  • @andiraandira3368
    @andiraandira3368 3 ปีที่แล้ว +527

    Everything about her and the van screams Smart.

    • @reginapolo3357
      @reginapolo3357 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Exactly!

    • @pjk1714
      @pjk1714 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      She is a survivor

    • @frida6049
      @frida6049 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@DB-gf5gu The point of this video is to talk about her and her life living in a van. She talks about what led for her to get to where she is- that’s not her playing victim but her stating facts. Why twist it into something it’s not? Lose the negative energy.

    • @coppersense999
      @coppersense999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@frida6049 trolls who comment with no name talk about themselves in their comments. He didn't lie, based on how pitiful he sounds. Poor thing. Imagine that voice, only living with it 24/7. Srsly, a self-critic who mocks domestic abuse survivors. Ouch. Not a happy person, as you noticed.

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DB-gf5gu how do you know she was not abused? Most domestic abuse is men against women.

  • @AdrienneUnae
    @AdrienneUnae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +718

    This hit home for me as I ran away, too. I blended in living in my car and then a van, in NYC, ages 47 through 51. The PTSD, from living life, is real. Whatever we have to do to create safe space and stay safe is what we're supposed to do. It's okay to cry. I'm with you in the thrive. We've got this.

    • @amandab8433
      @amandab8433 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      What wonderful encouraging words. I hope 2021 and beyond bring you happiness.

    • @AdrienneUnae
      @AdrienneUnae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@amandab8433 🙂🙏🏾 Same to you!

    • @AdrienneUnae
      @AdrienneUnae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Heavy Music Group awww thank you. It runs in the family. Casting agents typically book me to play parts that are 20 years my junior. Hilarious 😆 !

    • @AdrienneUnae
      @AdrienneUnae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @Heavy Music Group oops. I forgot to say I'm a vegan. So that helps me look younger, too.

    • @cocoaocean
      @cocoaocean 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      💟

  • @ZebaKnight
    @ZebaKnight 2 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Brava! I thought this would just be another van tour, but it is the tale of a courageous woman who turned a dangerous living situation into one that's safe, and full of promise. The Caravan build is very nice, but it's Gail's story that's outstanding. I hope that everything has gone well for her.

  • @josephmayes8302
    @josephmayes8302 3 ปีที่แล้ว +426

    Much respect.🙏🙏🙏 and any man who is abusive, is not a man.

    • @teresawilliamson3540
      @teresawilliamson3540 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Joseph Mayes / Thank You & Merry Christmas !!!

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Joseph...I missed where she said that she was in an abusive relationship, or that the relationship was with a man. She stated that she was in a relationship "that became very toxic". I've known many women over the years that have been in "toxic" relationships because their spouses were opposed to "ladies night out" or their spend happy ways supported by her maxed out credit cards that she paid for with "her money". It seems that toxic is a go to for any woman that isn't "Instagram happy" these days, so they quickly start swiping right, and are then shocked to discover that there are consequences to this action.

    • @daphnelattimer9952
      @daphnelattimer9952 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@1966johnnywayne The word "safe" should have clued you in immediately.

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@daphnelattimer9952 Right, because women typically resort to 'soft' language when describing their victim victimhood.

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Zzzz Zzzz No, that's called 'battering'. No man or woman should lay hands on another, but if they do you have a right to use necessary physical force to defend yourself if the threat continues to be present...however if you engage in the use of physical force in retaliation for someone having assaulted you, without the threat continuing to be present, then you are now committing assault and battery.

  • @reconstructingleslie4597
    @reconstructingleslie4597 3 ปีที่แล้ว +511

    Don’t ever apologize for crying it’s a part of the healing process! You’re a brave amazing lady!

    • @Onlinesully
      @Onlinesully 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You're right. She has nothing to apologies for. But Sometime we want to or need to say sorry too, for various reasons. take care today

    • @RaccoonNation
      @RaccoonNation 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I love your channel name Leslie

    • @sophiajoyceferry7150
      @sophiajoyceferry7150 3 ปีที่แล้ว

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  • @maryjoschlee2297
    @maryjoschlee2297 3 ปีที่แล้ว +838

    That has GOT to be THE BEST, most organized van build EVER. This lady is more than amazing in so many ways. WOW!!!!!

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Thank you ❤️

    • @topherjoe1
      @topherjoe1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      @@gailgillette7337 I have to agree, your van build is amazing, so organized and that fireplace...I feel you girl, they are my zen zones! I have one going in my bedroom 24/7 (it is also my office now we are in forced telecommute mode). Value Village and Goodwill has pretty much furnished my home since I started raising my son on my own 20 years ago, I got out of a bad relationship as well. lol, I have a hard time buying anything new because of the years of 2nd handing it. I will always be grateful for those resources! Thank you for sharing your story with us, I wish you the best, may you have many wonderful adventures while you heal in peace! xxxx

    • @bontronblock
      @bontronblock 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I sold my van last summer and found over 200$ in it in coin.
      This girl is cool.

    • @johardy-bishop9105
      @johardy-bishop9105 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@gailgillette7337 Bless you, Gail. X

    • @rhonda9275
      @rhonda9275 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@gailgillette7337 be blessed and I subscribe to your channel

  • @stephaniesimmons2253
    @stephaniesimmons2253 3 ปีที่แล้ว +333

    A nice practical setup. I only wish this lady the best.

    • @SindyJ37
      @SindyJ37 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      100% I couldn't agree more this young woman deserves safety and happiness ♡

    • @pennylowe5633
      @pennylowe5633 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Gayle you are a survivor! I have seen many builds & you are very clever . You know your needs.
      And you used one of the materials that I want to use in my build Coloplast from UK. I wish the best for you. Keep it moving & happy trail to you.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you💕

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@valeriehancotte-galan4790 yes, I have been involved. I am working with a couple of different counsellors. Unfortunately Covid has put an extra spin on things as far as people feel isolated in situations like this.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@pennylowe5633 Coroplast-I love that stuff! Light weight, Sturdy and easy to work with!

  • @kdhjy5
    @kdhjy5 3 ปีที่แล้ว +522

    I was in an abusive relationship, beaten everyday, raped, locked up and starved, i went from 150 lbs to 80 lbs, i escaped with my baby. Keep your head up. Things will get better 💪

    • @The_Ladder_Perspective
      @The_Ladder_Perspective 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      You pick winners! Sounds like every other millennial girl who wants the bad guy & realizes they fucker up

    • @kdhjy5
      @kdhjy5 3 ปีที่แล้ว +109

      @@The_Ladder_Perspective we were in college when we met, i have a career, he had a career and an athlete actually he was vip in football and baseball everything changed when i moved with him and I'm 45 years old. Stop assuming.

    • @Liz-uv3fz
      @Liz-uv3fz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      @@The_Ladder_Perspective Some people seem to have no idea how some people act before getting in a relationships. Most people aren’t going out looking for a monster. Some are but most are not. Nine times out of ten when you go on a date you never showing 100% who you truly are. You’re molding yourself to be person you’re going on a date with has interest in. That’s what abusive people do they present themselves as nice, respectful, sweet, etc. Then when they finally have you they turn into a monster. When they realize you’re not leaving them they become comfortable and become manipulative so that you won’t have the courage to leave them.

    • @jennystawinski7809
      @jennystawinski7809 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💜💜💜💜💜

    • @Noname-dg3pm
      @Noname-dg3pm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Kdhjy5...plus ur a beautiful person on the outside (and inside) there r a lot of weird preconceived notions about someone who has outer beauty. Like idk like what...lol
      Idky.. it's weird. But u know...we r the same age just by a yr or 2 or 3 :)

  • @conniesplace8601
    @conniesplace8601 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1276

    This was a very very very important video. She might have saved a lot of lives with this video.
    Her van built was amazing. Thank you for sharing

    • @arabica571
      @arabica571 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      So true..

    • @danamichelle1290
      @danamichelle1290 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Amen. I chose this life but I wish more would see that it IS doable, even temporarily. Thankfully, when I got out of an abusive situation I had a great support system.

    • @catofalltrades3428
      @catofalltrades3428 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I totally agree.

  • @tracyd2320
    @tracyd2320 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    When she opened that van door, I saw the beautiful colours and I said to myself...It's gonna be okay..My heart hurts for her though...Stay strong

  • @reginamee3777
    @reginamee3777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +447

    This brought tears to my eyes. She was in a bad situation and she made it better for herself. I commend her on that. Her van looks cozy and comfortable . Shes a survivor.

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Well, hopefully...February is going to be pretty cold in Sask.

    • @marie-joseepaulzak1936
      @marie-joseepaulzak1936 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Where do you take showers? And where do you park you van at night?

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@marie-joseepaulzak1936 those are great questions!

    • @xlander-jp1rd
      @xlander-jp1rd 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And she seems pleasantly humble, practical and down to earth. 🇨🇦

  • @patmontgomery7277
    @patmontgomery7277 3 ปีที่แล้ว +466

    I cried with you. I’m currently building a tiny shed on my uncles property as my escape. You are an inspiration.

    • @MagdalenaShakti
      @MagdalenaShakti 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      As are you, Pat. Stay strong and put yourself back at the center of the altar of your life. You are loved and you are valuable.

    • @MrBendayho
      @MrBendayho 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I am so sorry to hear about how your life took a turn but you seem to be very strong and quite capable. I wish you the best!

    • @SuperTruthful
      @SuperTruthful 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I will pray for you also. My mom got out decades ago..i know the fear but persevere and protect yourself.

    • @runtochrist1975
      @runtochrist1975 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I watched many of these small living spaces and even self sustaining where growing your own food too. Smart to live simple. Much love to you and blessings for a happier you!!!

    • @007gzilla
      @007gzilla 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol

  • @ronaldharris6569
    @ronaldharris6569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +450

    I noticed people who chose to live in cars and vans by choice seem happy, and they are usually creative and well organized that lady is going to be okay she is a survivor.

    • @marianl3447
      @marianl3447 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      yes she is ...and much more than that too....appreciate your acknowledgement of those things.

    • @Gio-un4wh
      @Gio-un4wh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yea I been noticing that also maybe they know something we don’t 🤔They do say freedom is priceless.I really really been thinking in taking this step my self. if the things I have lined up right now don’t go my way.

    • @Steven19886
      @Steven19886 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Gio-un4wh Haha, oke...

  • @Autumn1988
    @Autumn1988 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    So proud of her for making a new life. I hope she is doing ok now and finds safety and peace (I’m watching this 2 years later)

  • @chriscook4u2
    @chriscook4u2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3961

    I pray continued peace for you. Stay safe and in God’s Grace always.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

      🙏🏼 thank you

    • @TeeMarie36
      @TeeMarie36 3 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      @@gailgillette7337 Gail your Amazing stay strong and stay encouraged and remember that your courage is your strength.

    • @purselmer5931
      @purselmer5931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      She has no choice BUT to be in God's Grace always. It's not up to Gail, and it never has been. We've known she'll be in His grace for about 2020 years now....

    • @audrealambert9583
      @audrealambert9583 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Amen

    • @leahveal5470
      @leahveal5470 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Amen!

  • @Kelly_Ben
    @Kelly_Ben 3 ปีที่แล้ว +217

    "You don't have to be stuck in a bad spot. Plan ahead. " Such powerful words, for ALL areas of life.

  • @rickholeman9045
    @rickholeman9045 3 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    Probably the most important van life video ever. Gail is impressive and sincere and I wish her continued safety and peace.

  • @teresalee2302
    @teresalee2302 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    What a brave and inspiring woman! Sharing her struggles to make others stronger… And a nice little build out on a budget

  • @mimiwhite5710
    @mimiwhite5710 3 ปีที่แล้ว +358

    I'm so proud of you ma'am!!!! My mother left my dad with no shoes on her feet, and I'm so proud to say that's my mom. Women like you inspire me ❤

    • @nancyhoward7005
      @nancyhoward7005 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Me2

    • @dino9086
      @dino9086 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      help your mom,she need normal life.

    • @rebekahritchie9012
      @rebekahritchie9012 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That’s so sad! I could not imagine what she went through!

  • @naomichristian1099
    @naomichristian1099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +472

    I wish I could hug her. So very glad she made it out and that she's safe. I really like what she's done to her van.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Awww...I could go for a few hugs right about now. 💕 thank you.

    • @AnaTorres-kd9pb
      @AnaTorres-kd9pb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@gailgillette7337 I love you Gail and I so appreciate your wisdom and just hoped to have seen this back 10 yrs ago to live like you, prayers and peace be with you 🙏 🥰💜

    • @AnaTorres-kd9pb
      @AnaTorres-kd9pb 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gailgillette7337 do you have a channel on TH-cam,?

    • @KrisBowlr
      @KrisBowlr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      💖🤗🤗

  • @bindilove3899
    @bindilove3899 3 ปีที่แล้ว +306

    There’s no shame in living in a van. What’s important is that you’re safe and are okay inside. ❤️🥰

  • @QueenBaha
    @QueenBaha 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I come back from time to time to watch this again…I’m pretty sure it’s more than 50 times I’ve watched this video. And now I am free & safe, this video helped ALOT and I am forever grateful to you CHROME for giving a damn enough to ask someone you may not have ever met for an interview & for giving a damn about someone like me living this lifestyle in my minivan who might need to see another woman in her minivan on a journey to ultimate reality. THANK YOU CHROME & GAIL💐

  • @jvjackson4775
    @jvjackson4775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +338

    Having worked as a Deputy, specifically Domestic Viloence Safety planning coordinator, Gail makes numerous critical points. What an inspirational story and van build. Best wishes for a bright future!

    • @wakeup7874
      @wakeup7874 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      JV Jackson like which points in particular plz explain more if you will

    • @jvjackson4775
      @jvjackson4775 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      1. Tucked some money away
      2. Planned ahead her exit strategy
      3. Developed a 'safe place' 4. Follows her gut instincts
      5. Air horn
      6. Steel bat easily accessible
      7. Dog spray
      8. Stealth mode

    • @dinglebarry528
      @dinglebarry528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@KayRay1966 - That or she could be anywhere with snow??

    • @rhonda9275
      @rhonda9275 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@KayRay1966 stop

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@KayRay1966 ......
      I missed where she said that she was in an abusive relationship, or that the relationship was with a man. She stated that she was in a relationship "that became very toxic". I've known many women over the years that have been in "toxic" relationships because their spouses were opposed to "ladies night out" or their spend happy ways supported by her maxed out credit cards that she paid for with "her money". It seems that toxic is a go to for any woman that isn't "Instagram happy" these days, so they quickly start swiping right, and are then shocked to discover that there are consequences to this action.

  • @sarahm2878
    @sarahm2878 3 ปีที่แล้ว +523

    Congratulations on leaving that toxic relationship. I know the feeling; living in a van is much more desirable than living in a mansion with a monster.

    • @reginapolo3357
      @reginapolo3357 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Balaam!!!! Ain't that the truth!!!!!

    • @AmeliaJaneE
      @AmeliaJaneE 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Shame the monster gets the mansion.

    • @sueb5645
      @sueb5645 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I wish i could escape my nightmare..........

    • @PriDrummond
      @PriDrummond 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@sueb5645 there are places that can help you, as the crisis center at the end of this video in Canada. I can look up places nearer you if you need.

    • @vickybiagini8623
      @vickybiagini8623 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      That's why I'm glad I stayed single. Too many are afraid of being alone.

  • @kathleenberg9168
    @kathleenberg9168 3 ปีที่แล้ว +444

    I walked out with a suitcase after 38 years. Thriving!.

    • @michelewalburn4376
      @michelewalburn4376 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Wow. I am so happy to see so many women taking control of their lives.

    • @gail-sw9xg
      @gail-sw9xg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@3rdyoutubechannelstopdelet914 Her story is not new. What is new is that women can now get themselves out of those situations and take control of their own lives.

    • @ronnieroo227
      @ronnieroo227 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Wishing you much love and happiness ❤️🙏🇬🇧

    • @sierrachoco5271
      @sierrachoco5271 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gail-sw9xg the problem is that I don't think it is really safe regardless of what people say

    • @gail-sw9xg
      @gail-sw9xg 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@sierrachoco5271 Sometimes safe is a relative thing. Is it safer to stay in an abusive relationship where you KNOW you are going to be beaten or killed?

  • @NWSIMU
    @NWSIMU 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    She is so inspiring ❤️ I want to just give her a hug 🫂 i cried actually when she cried 😭

  • @Jason_The_Man
    @Jason_The_Man 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1394

    As a man it absolutely pains me that my fellow men can’t conduct themselves like gentlemen and protectors. “Do no harm”. Is it really that hard?

    • @angelpawz411
      @angelpawz411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +139

      @Habazlam Bazaza the 2nd Even if that were true, there's no excuse for abusing and hurting others.

    • @angelpawz411
      @angelpawz411 3 ปีที่แล้ว +135

      @Habazlam Bazaza the 2nd she said she was in a toxic environment/relationship that was unsafe and not healthy for her over a period of years. Now she feels safe where she is. She made it clear she left a toxic situation of her own free will. Why are you so quick to assume she cheated on him and kicked her out?

    • @ben5154
      @ben5154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +108

      @@qtown5330 he's a troll. Do not feed

    • @christinemurphy4367
      @christinemurphy4367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      It was most likely a man, but I don't think she specified, does she? Could have been a woman, but I still agree with you and your right about plenty of men.

    • @MrRaErickson
      @MrRaErickson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      2 sides to every story

  • @Yeshanu
    @Yeshanu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +524

    This woman's attention to detail, especially to safety, is pure genius. Very inspiring and I hope your life gets better from here on in.

    • @jessicalt4121
      @jessicalt4121 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      What a nice temporary home. I really like what you have done. A great vehicle for traveling.

    • @dinglebarry528
      @dinglebarry528 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Just think what she can do with a traditionally sized Tiny Home!!

    • @colleenbrookes-gain5685
      @colleenbrookes-gain5685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Rachel Jacobs absolutely agree...

    • @seductive_french_kisses
      @seductive_french_kisses 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Most women are this detailed or detailed in diff ways bc safety is such a huge concern.

    • @morgannordahl4355
      @morgannordahl4355 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Just don't get pulled over in California. Having that bat in your car is a felony.

  • @zhaw4821
    @zhaw4821 3 ปีที่แล้ว +299

    I'm female, almost 70. I lived in two continents. I'm very well off financially. The best times in my life were living in my van next to the ocean in San Diego. You go girl!!!!!❤🧡🧡💛💛💛💚

    • @patriceb1274
      @patriceb1274 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Luckily you had the option having financial independence and not having to live in a van because it’s your only choice for survival ..,

    • @teekay7460
      @teekay7460 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      send her a few bucks

    • @naelyneurkopfen9741
      @naelyneurkopfen9741 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@patriceb1274 my, how very passive-aggressive of you.

    • @patriceb1274
      @patriceb1274 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@naelyneurkopfen9741 Enjoy your day !

    • @sbuschlen71
      @sbuschlen71 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@patriceb1274 gotta love when people brag about how easy things were for them. How about just be grateful you were blessed because most of surely have lived a life of survival mode! Thank you

  • @rsbrryberet4802
    @rsbrryberet4802 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    This was the very first solo female van tour I'd ever seen when it originally posted and now coming back to it a couple years later, it's still as inspiring as ever. Kudos to you and great job!!!

  • @MaryFilkins
    @MaryFilkins 3 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    I've never wanted to reach out and hug a stranger before, and take her pain away, as much as I did when I watched this.

    • @barefootreba
      @barefootreba 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Same here. I would love to meet this lady and be a lady friend to her and be part of her healing.

    • @hemroidhenry7756
      @hemroidhenry7756 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Agree 100%

    • @helengittings4431
      @helengittings4431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@hemroidhenry7756 me too

    • @timcabral3462
      @timcabral3462 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Me to such a lovely woman. xoxo

    • @VeeTownsend
      @VeeTownsend 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Such positive energy, love this, love this, leaning so much... And from a lovely lady ..... 💚

  • @Kerry_Riddick
    @Kerry_Riddick 3 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    This lady is a genius,she has thought of everything,such a awesome build, something to be proud of to live in and be safe.

    • @danarzechula3769
      @danarzechula3769 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I know, right? I kept thinking she would be a wonderful van build consultant. She could have a nice lucrative business, network and help people all at the same time.

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yeah, "thought of everything"...squirreled away thousands of dollars in a relationship for her personal needs, turned to a male friend to build out the van...and thinks that she will be able to survive Saskatchewan's January and February winter weather huddled in a van. It ain't going to be Pinterest easy.

    • @DNLDVID
      @DNLDVID 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@danarzechula3769 I agree, I thought so also. I love the little ambient fireplace lantern! You don't have to spend $150 thousand for a living space van!

    • @DNLDVID
      @DNLDVID 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@1966johnnywayne sounds negative and resentful towards a woman who needed to be safe!

  • @RobertVinet
    @RobertVinet 3 ปีที่แล้ว +474

    Gail is a strong and brave woman. I wish her every success. - Chrome, you've outdone yourself again. Thank you.

    • @bookathevanman9948
      @bookathevanman9948 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Gail I'm sorry I missed your name. 💛

    • @ml4918
      @ml4918 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      You got that right. An awesome lady.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@valeriehancotte-galan4790 I was just talking about that with a someone. There’s some women who can’t get into a transition house or the circumstances are different (more psychological torture and emotional torture rather than physical). I wish I/we could create some type of thing where we can help women put something together to that is safer than their homes so they can get out.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@ml4918 thank you 🙏🏼

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bookathevanman9948 not a problem...

  • @iam_thestoryteller
    @iam_thestoryteller 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Thank you for your story. This helped me be okay with walking away with nothing in a toxic relationship. I didn't know how to be okay with starting over alone. Thank you for showing me I can make it even from a car.

  • @suerobbins4529
    @suerobbins4529 3 ปีที่แล้ว +561

    Chrome, this is one of your most moving videos. Everyone’s story is different and as a woman, this one really hit home. The way you filmed it, letting her tell her own story in her own way without question or commentary is so respectful. Excellent filmmaking. Thank you and my very best wishes to Gail in her journeys ahead.

    • @conhakan
      @conhakan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ✨✨✨✨👍😊

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      Yes he did an amazing job. Because of my circumstances didn’t really know who Chrome was or what he did before I met him. I had heard his name mentioned a couple times in a group that I just joined but TBH My life is so crazy at the time I hadn’t looked them up until after I did the tour with him. I’m blown away at his talents.

    • @gregjo5141
      @gregjo5141 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I'm a dude I had tears half way through the video I can relate

    • @priscillaparisi1882
      @priscillaparisi1882 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@gailgillette7337 much love to you Gail,
      I see this way of life in my future, my daughter is 14yrs old, i cant do it till shes in her own, i really cant wait👍❤️🙏

    • @robs4988
      @robs4988 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So if it had been a man's story it would not have hit home?

  • @bobbimichelle1
    @bobbimichelle1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +306

    Yep, this woman is brave. I was moved too tears with this story. Hope she stays safe and warm and gets the future she deserves.

  • @SweetbearCoyote
    @SweetbearCoyote 3 ปีที่แล้ว +344

    Chrome, I love how you let Gail tell her story without interrupting her with a lot of questions. The filming and editing were great too. Very nice job 👍. So happy she was able to get out of the bad situation and still have hope for her future. The van build was so cute too. 😀

    • @sassykat2000
      @sassykat2000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      💯

    • @joangood6004
      @joangood6004 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I was thinking that too. The only time we hear Chrome is the very end with “It’s Perfect!”

    • @bobbywright8431
      @bobbywright8431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Outstanding work , Chrome. I agree!

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Yes he did an amazing job of capturing it. He is very talented. I’m glad you like my design.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@mimipacheco722 💕

  • @barbwatkins3676
    @barbwatkins3676 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Gail I truly hope you are still happy and safe after the ending of your traumatic situation. You made the very wise decision to escape toxicity and seek a new and safer life. Your bravery in stepping into the unknown is incredibly inspirational. Your little home is amazing..so cleverly designed and also very homey. I pray you are doing well. 🌈

  • @chasingsimpledreams
    @chasingsimpledreams 3 ปีที่แล้ว +196

    She has got to be one of the strongest women i have ever seen. Just. Wow.

    • @jayb8439
      @jayb8439 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Oh stop with your bull crap and your fake name

    • @ragheadand420roll
      @ragheadand420roll 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jayb8439 lol

    • @annika9348
      @annika9348 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@jayb8439 Stop being a snowflake.

  • @anner6342
    @anner6342 3 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    Three stages: Victim, Survivor, Thriver. Gail you've made it to THRIVER! Bless you on your journey. You are in my prayers! I hope to meet up with you down the road.

  • @jakedode
    @jakedode 3 ปีที่แล้ว +373

    Can't lie... I teared up a bit when she opened the door. She's really trying to make this simple van as much home as possible.

    • @tameraj.alvaro7451
      @tameraj.alvaro7451 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It is her home awesome!

    • @valeriesmith1598
      @valeriesmith1598 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I agree with you, I really like what she has done with limited space, brave lady.

    • @unzipitjoe8928
      @unzipitjoe8928 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Where do people living on these van's shower

    • @miacalderon467
      @miacalderon467 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@unzipitjoe8928 Some get a gym membership. Others use a portable pump and bucket. They make it work. 😊

    • @eckz8659
      @eckz8659 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@unzipitjoe8928 Truck stops. Most have nice clean showers.

  • @helened6896
    @helened6896 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    It's wonderful. It lets us know that it takes little to setup a simple van.

  • @floridamusings5244
    @floridamusings5244 3 ปีที่แล้ว +255

    Proud of this brave lady that even if it took 30 years, she found the strength to create her own safe space. Bless you Gail and best wishes.

    • @lisa9867
      @lisa9867 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@NonPremiumID I hope he doesn't. I don't want him to know what she is driving.

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@lisa9867 ...Who said it was a "him"?

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Florida ... She didn't say that the relationship was "toxic" for thirty years, but that it "became very toxic". You, know, like every women that isn't satisfied anymore...TOXIC.

  • @vcp93
    @vcp93 3 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    Man, that was pretty heavy, sad, and inspiring. So much pain, yet so much courage. I hope she finds a better life. It sucks seeing nice people who have been victimized. ✌️

    • @carolynthompson6518
      @carolynthompson6518 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Thank you for saying that - she really sounds “broken” and sad. Gosh I hope she will be ok 🙏🏻🙏🏻. I hope Chrome you can do a follow up to tell us how she is going ❤️

    • @TeeMarie36
      @TeeMarie36 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@carolynthompson6518 she has a TH-cam channel that’s he just started

    • @1966johnnywayne
      @1966johnnywayne 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Frank ... You know one side of the story, perhaps she was "swiping right" and her spouse, male or female, wasn't going to put up with it...why is that whenever a woman turns on the waterworks most people take everything she says as gospel???

    • @amyhendricks3627
      @amyhendricks3627 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@1966johnnywayne There were no waterworks here. She matter-of-factly stated her situation, and went on to show her van build, and how she maintains safety and peace of mind. Sheesh!

  • @carriecahill2130
    @carriecahill2130 3 ปีที่แล้ว +328

    Her intelligence and creativity is striking.

    • @bettinastebner
      @bettinastebner 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I think she could be teaching a survival course....

    • @EmpressEllie
      @EmpressEllie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@DB-gf5gu what the actual f. You have just outted yourself as an abuser. Get help. Also please someone block him. What kind of person belittles a woman for saving her life and keeping herself safe?

    • @EmpressEllie
      @EmpressEllie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@DB-gf5gu 😂😂😂😂😂😂 you think you have anything on me?!? The last time a guy tried to pull this garbage on my I grabbed him by his tiny balls and showed him how powerless he really is. Get lost abuser.

    • @asamcnuggets2789
      @asamcnuggets2789 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DB-gf5gu uh.. cringey

    • @habibba2323
      @habibba2323 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@EmpressEllie 😂😂 love your audacity, it's time for us, men, to value women

  • @CJ-wd3vh
    @CJ-wd3vh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Your story moved me so much Gail. I can relate to your feelings though I'm not exactly in the same situation. Love the safe, little cocoon you created for yourself, one of the coziest and smartly-designed builds I've seen. You are an inspiration! May you be enveloped in love, beauty, and safety as you move on in your sweet, little pod. Adventure awaits for sure!!! 🌅🌎

  • @laurencecruz6819
    @laurencecruz6819 3 ปีที่แล้ว +418

    This lady is soo strong. And smart it's never to late. She made the right decision she's alive and happy

  • @stillrandy
    @stillrandy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    I'm happy to call Gail a friend of mine. She is such a courageous & resourceful lady. All the best to you on the next chapter of your journey. Chrome you have done a wonderful job of sharing not just Gail's van, but also her story. Thank you.

    • @grandmanette9503
      @grandmanette9503 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Very touching story, and she knew she had to get out, some don’t and it’s to late! Kudos to her strength and knowledge to share with others!! Thank you!! Prayers for her and her journey!! 🙏🤗

    • @itsallaboutjesus8935
      @itsallaboutjesus8935 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm wondering if you are the "friend" that was there for her & helped with the build? If so, kudos to you as well.

    • @stillrandy
      @stillrandy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@itsallaboutjesus8935 No I'm not the friend that helped with her build. Gail already her van done when I met her through our local van living group. At the time I was helping another lady rebuild her van.

  • @thexxit
    @thexxit ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Such a great message. Her sharing her story I'm sure has helped others who are in a bad spot. It may seem impossible, but you can escape a bad situation. When she opened the door I was so surprised at the beauty of the interior! Such ingenuity. Wishing you more healing and happiness!

  • @traceyhenry472
    @traceyhenry472 3 ปีที่แล้ว +318

    I lived in an abusive marriage for 10 years before I got out with my kids. Best thing I ever did. The leaving was well worth the struggles that followed. My absolute worst day now is a thousand times better than my best day with him in my life. Bravo, fellow survivor!

    • @rayselorio6376
      @rayselorio6376 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Excellent

    • @veganvocalist4782
      @veganvocalist4782 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same ;D

    • @brandimclaughlin1727
      @brandimclaughlin1727 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      You are a survivor Tracey what dost kill use makes us stronger weman. Thank you for sharing your story it shows others strength

    • @guillaumecarteret1642
      @guillaumecarteret1642 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙏

    • @cathybailey2898
      @cathybailey2898 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You are such a brave woman Tracy I've been in abusive relationships I know at 69 I've been married few years now and I'm very very happy my husband is very sweet God's blessings to you sweet fellow survivor and you did it wow that's something that you made it out and you're happy and you're alive you will have PTSD always the time certain music certain smells certain different things but you will come through it just fine God's blessings forever and ever and always 🙏🏻💜🥰🐱♥️🏄🏼‍♂️🙏🏻💜🙏🏻💜🙏🏻💯

  • @LittleMikeStarCraft
    @LittleMikeStarCraft 3 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    This isn't an instagram post-- it is a powerful message to a lot of women out there, and she looks like she is doing really well because of it.

  • @E2AD24
    @E2AD24 3 ปีที่แล้ว +362

    What an incredible woman, I cried while watching this, I felt every word she said. Keep safe and Godbless

    • @sandygrogg1203
      @sandygrogg1203 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I cried, too..

    • @llast9497
      @llast9497 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@sandygrogg1203 I cried, too

  • @Blah-Blah-Blah143
    @Blah-Blah-Blah143 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    What an absolute inspiration you are Gail. May you continue to find peace and happiness for the rest of your days.

  • @thetrojanhorse.1320
    @thetrojanhorse.1320 2 ปีที่แล้ว +363

    This is definitely one of the most moving and emotional episodes I have watched. Bless this beautiful soul... i hope she finds the future she wants.

    • @clarisamolina740
      @clarisamolina740 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agreed.

    • @allysonflowers7496
      @allysonflowers7496 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I am so happy for you!!!

    • @sponzie1
      @sponzie1 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm so moved and grateful for her sharing, she gave some of us added hope

  • @barbara8802
    @barbara8802 3 ปีที่แล้ว +241

    When anybody is able to get away a toxic relationship and find their safe haven...it becomes our mansion regardless of size! I am impressed with her ingenuity and perseverance. Stay safe!

  • @jocelynwright9927
    @jocelynwright9927 3 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    I was in an abusive relationship, I got me and my kids out if it and it wasn't easy but now I'm trying to rebuild our lifes. Loads of respect to you x

  • @kittiia.8438
    @kittiia.8438 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Definition of “doing you” way to go! That’s very creative and gives a positive outlook. I’m doing somewhat similar as a young woman in my ‘17 Carolla. 🙏🏾

  • @vanjoy1781
    @vanjoy1781 3 ปีที่แล้ว +261

    I prefer van tours where the person filming doesn’t talk on film. Letting the nomad tell their story and show off their creations. Great Job Chrome. Love this style

    • @carolyn64
      @carolyn64 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      This isn't just about her camper van, It's more about her taking back her life and looking forward to her future 👍!

    • @jeanyoung1224
      @jeanyoung1224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Heartless

    • @nicolegeorge3704
      @nicolegeorge3704 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      What did he say so bad?

    • @jeanyoung1224
      @jeanyoung1224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      We don't love this style of no heart.

    • @tinadoty5406
      @tinadoty5406 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@jeanyoung1224 well said. That was a classless reply. Makes me sad to see such heartlessness. This lady is absolutely brave and awesome

  • @onedayatatime102
    @onedayatatime102 3 ปีที่แล้ว +155

    "If you're 17 or 54", such a powerful statement to our young ones feeling lost and alone. You can do this too and thrive with independence.

  • @nomadicmomma2048
    @nomadicmomma2048 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    As a survivor, I can't help but empathize with her. "Whether your 52 or 17, you can create a safe space." YES! Thank you for taking a stand for yourself and for sharing your story with others. You can be the catalyst for another person to get out of a bad relationship. 😍😘🥰❤

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That’s that was my main goal of the interview I wanted to get that across. Don’t give up hope-you can create your safe place.

  • @albatrosone
    @albatrosone 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    So glad this came my way. Total respect for this woman!! Sad story, sad eyes but so much power and inspiration!! Thank you for sharing your story. I really wish you all the best. Big hug!!

  • @misstishwyo
    @misstishwyo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +381

    She thought of everything and her attention to detail is incredible.

    • @_howtobrain_474
      @_howtobrain_474 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Miss Tish Creates exactly!!

    • @sabrasheedy5685
      @sabrasheedy5685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I think her home is awesome. Everything is where it should be. You deserve happiness, joy and love. I thank you for sharing your story and your home because I'm going to be converting a van soon and I can't wait. I've been watching utube for almost 6 months and learning so all you wonderful people thank you for sharing and teaching me about van life. I wish all of you happiness, joy and love. Be safe always. Hopefully I'll meet you in the future. You're totally Awesome and my kind of folks. Watch out for the idiots.

    • @mercedesrodriguez9991
      @mercedesrodriguez9991 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @AOC's RAPIST That's smart. I think this little van is very nice and I love her organization.

    • @jasonmax5644
      @jasonmax5644 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for sharing your story Gail love you're van it is nice and cozy I am glad you are safe.

  • @FortyTwoAnswerToEverything
    @FortyTwoAnswerToEverything 3 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    She looks fantastic for being 54. Love her perseverance as well as her entire build. Hope she is doing OK in 2021

    • @franmurphy1876
      @franmurphy1876 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did she have help from the dealership where she got the van?

    • @iamshe3275
      @iamshe3275 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      My thoughts exactly

  • @ericverpeten8503
    @ericverpeten8503 3 ปีที่แล้ว +180

    She’s a survivor, found the strength to create her own safe space. prayers and peace be with you Gail!

  • @theresawright3842
    @theresawright3842 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Please give us an update on Gail’s adventures in her new life Thanks for sharing you are an inspiration ❤

  • @maryannedarling536
    @maryannedarling536 3 ปีที่แล้ว +224

    Oh my heart. So impressed by this woman's resilience and cleverness.

  • @ceputehching-ching1503
    @ceputehching-ching1503 3 ปีที่แล้ว +202

    The sadness in her voice i can even concentrate what ever she is saying about her van..wish her a blessed & happy life..in the future

    • @ceputehching-ching1503
      @ceputehching-ching1503 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      can't

    • @Desperado3248
      @Desperado3248 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Nice job but you sound sad and scared. If you can , sell your house and get a Thor Compass, or a Winnebago Travato. This is stopgap and affordable . If you are going to be full time it will give you safety and comfort. Also suggest for safety you get a tazer/ stunner, and a ring camera for your vehicle, solar panel back up power

  • @curiouscat3384
    @curiouscat3384 3 ปีที่แล้ว +226

    Hugs from North Carolina USA :) If you're ever traveling down this way I have plenty of room to park a 'tiny house' and us ole' single gals can make bonfires and talk away :)

    • @bewell4743
      @bewell4743 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      There should be a all girls tiny house network. Of places that allow just what you described.

    • @morganbush7499
      @morganbush7499 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Respect

    • @dmannevada5981
      @dmannevada5981 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@bewell4743 Funny you said that, cuz I was thinking the same thing for men. That would be cool.

    • @greaterishe7197
      @greaterishe7197 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      💜

    • @leeglee111
      @leeglee111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      SC here. You can come our way too. Plenty of land you can park and stay safe! Reach out!

  • @dyzway
    @dyzway 2 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I love your determination, resilience, and outlook! You are an inspiration and should be so proud of yourself. A lot of women need to remember that we are strong and that we make our own happiness and peace. Stay safe and joyful in wherever you go and whatever you do. Thanks for your story. Much love and respect!!

  • @donseclad
    @donseclad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    I feel so much anger and disgust that a woman is reduced to living like this at the hands of any man but I must say the amount of respect and admiration I have for you Gail is huge. You have shown exceptional courage and heart and I sincerely wish you the very best luck in the future. Merry Christmas and have a great 202. Hugs from Ireland.

    • @openyoureyes3113
      @openyoureyes3113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      What about man ? I know lots of man that are in the same Situation.
      I’m glad you’re proud of her.
      But do you feel any anger and discuss what a man is reduced to living on the street.
      She may have a van as a home.
      But lotta men are actually homeless sleeping on the street?
      I lost my home, job, 90% of my friends because if her toxic nature. Life does get better!
      I’m proud of her to.
      Kind of just like the same black lives matter what about white lives.

    • @robs4988
      @robs4988 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What are you talking about? You are only hearing one side of her story. I know more than one woman that is the toxic partner in a relationship so hear both sides before you make toxic comments.

    • @donseclad
      @donseclad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Happy Camper Im sorry to hear that but I never said it didnt, I hope all is better now

    • @donseclad
      @donseclad 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@openyoureyes3113 I never said it doesnt happen to men!!! I said I admire this woman, not one thing to do with the colour of skin, you brought that into it

    • @openyoureyes3113
      @openyoureyes3113 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@donseclad
      Yes. I know You don’t.

  • @dd1394
    @dd1394 3 ปีที่แล้ว +120

    Wonderful lady, positive and ingenious. She is a great inspiration for women in troubled domestic situations. Get out and be safe, don’t stay if you feel unsafe.

    • @gailgillette7337
      @gailgillette7337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Agreed... there’s just so many different layers. You get chipped away, your confidence is undermined. Overtime you’re not the same person that you were when you entered the relationship. You are just a shell. It’s like like my in a cult... Stockholm syndrome, or they now call it trauma bonding-it keeps you stuck. You I have to grab a toehold and pull yourself out of it with all your might. It’s brutal but worth it.

  • @VeronicaLockyer
    @VeronicaLockyer 3 ปีที่แล้ว +188

    Gail, you are a hero. I too suffer from PTSD from 20 years in an abusive marriage. Your story is an inspiration! Vxo

  • @banzand
    @banzand ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I know this video is from two years ago, but I do wish her the very best and I hope she has overcome her hardships. She's such a lady!

  • @daddyzgirlz22
    @daddyzgirlz22 2 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    i come back from time to time to watch you. there is something about your energy that i find so inspiring. you move me in lots of ways i can’t put into words. i hope you’re doing well, Gail. 💕

  • @itsagnaxx5861
    @itsagnaxx5861 3 ปีที่แล้ว +276

    she inspired me.
    I suffer from anxiety, and the only place I found to make myself feel calmer and panic-free was sleeping in my car.

    • @angiesullens2126
      @angiesullens2126 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Vit B1 helps BIG TIME w Anxiety

    • @64marikus
      @64marikus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I feel the same way about sleeping in my car. It's very quiet and peaceful

    • @forest487
      @forest487 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Please be safe I care for you and am wishing you safety and happiness please reach out to friends.

    • @veganvocalist4782
      @veganvocalist4782 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I prefer small spaces too, even in a bigger place I always seem to live mainly in one or two rooms ;D

    • @johnbwong3295
      @johnbwong3295 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Recently i am going through some crisis. I stayed in my Pirus on and off. I could pray deeply and really in touch with inner self without disturbance.

  • @eugottabekiddin3772
    @eugottabekiddin3772 3 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    You can feel her struggles,but she has overcome a tough situation

  • @nmmoore2920
    @nmmoore2920 3 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I worked at a DV center and so admire this dear woman's courage to leave her situation and start her new, happier, safer chapter. Many, who've not been in such circumstances, understand how difficult leaving can be. So bless you and her for sharing her story. Secondly, what a terrifically designed van/home she has designed. I love her concept of cocoon. There is a sense of coziness and yet efficiency in that concept and in her design

  • @bulletrogers
    @bulletrogers ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You handled that so well and kept it about her life and things she’s dealing with. Also glad to see she’s got a safe space while she recovers.

  • @Emma.E.Emerson
    @Emma.E.Emerson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Gail, did a great job. I had PTSD for so long, but at 60 calmer. I wish for an update. I hope she is fine. Hugs.