I actually walked away from a potential relationship with an unbeliever. It still hurts but I am sure that I made the right decision. My obedience to God comes first. It's worth the pain.
In my experience I dated a girl, and she wasn’t a believer in Christ. (Christian). But what attracted me was her character and how interested she was about my faith. Which I was very open to her about. Christ is king in my life, and I live daily to put God first. So I dated her because we had chemistry and in this dating period she got to see my faith in action. I would answer her questions about Christ and salvation which she would always question. But she would always stay interested. And eventually she gave her life to God and proclaimed Christ as King in her life. So I married her. She’s my helper and we help each other grow in character with God. We pray together, we serve together. If she would have never came to faith then I wouldn’t have married her to put it simply. That I do agree on, but dating a non believer I see no problem. The scriptures don’t say anything about dating. Zip. Old Testament or New Testament. But it does on marriage. So having a clear understanding on what marriage is truly important. This is my story hopefully it helps somebody out there. Also by the way, we waited for sex until marriage or anything close to it. It wasn’t easy but that’s one thing we had to make clear since the beginning.
God bless you guys! I pray for Christians who have so little faith in God. God has changed the hearts of pivotal men in the bible, and yet today we doubt that God can bring people to the love and redemption of the gospel for the purpose of marriage?? I'm so encouraged by the wisdom in your testimony 💙
gin martha She’s doing well, we continue to strive to put God first in our marriage. She continues to deny herself daily in Christ, we encourage eachother in that regard to never forget the truth of the gospel. We are expecting our first baby boy in November 18th.
@Ramon Barrera I am in the same situation. I've been dating a girl who I guess you could say is an unbeliever. She grew up going to church but like many people as they got older she gave up faith, mainly due to the fact that the churches she went to weren't really true, and they were judgmental. So now she says she's "not religious" and that God may or may not exist. She has a really great heart, a terrific personality, is a girl who actually likes you for who you are, has good behavior and attitude. Basically she has the heart and character of someone who is a 'true believer,' but she just doesn't identify with faith. Unlike "missionary relationships" - as this guy mentioned in his video and what I do know what he means - I actually don't try to convert this girl or minister to her. I did sort of drop statements to her a few times in the terms of 'planting the seed' I guess, but I didn't like doing that and I felt like I was being preachy. So all I do is live my life before her and pray that the Lord claims her heart and touches her spirit. I don't like preaching to her or trying to get her to believe in God like other Christians do.
@Ramon Barrera thanks for sharing your story. I really want to learn more how long have you got to know each other until deciding she is the right person? I am struggling with same thing that I think i am non-Christian but I am interested in the faith for long time before I met a Christian guy, and want to learn more, but I am worried that my purpose will be wrongdoing if I proclaim to God because the Christian guy I met. I have had a hard time. We were in a friendship but it has already become more than that as he likes me and I think I do like him. However, i do understand that he can't date me as I am still a non-Christian. After three weeks, he just told me that he wanted to make a decision to cut off as he doesn't think he can maintain the half-half friendship because it seems to be unhealthy. I don't know what the best way to do. Should I let him know I truly believe in Jesus and he died once for all?
Yes but that doesn’t mean the Holy Spirit doesn’t work through us. I’d also argue that you can witness to unbelievers without manipulation or pushing them to change.
I am in this exact situation and am struggling really hard. For the first time in my life I have a real connection, real chemistry and real feelings with a guy that’s my friend. I think he feels the same. We both have weird personalities that other people don’t understand or connect with. We get each other though. He knows I’m Christian and we know we like each other, but have not dated because I told him I’m not allowed to date non Christians. This seemed to make him sad. Me also. I see him almost every day at work and It’s killing me that we can’t be together. The only thing that keeps me going is telling myself that he might get saved on his own in the future. I tell him about God and try to be a good influence on him without forcing anything on him, butI know I can’t save him, only God can. I just have a strong feeling that he will get saved sometime in the future. He has a good heart and I can’t see him being trapped in the dark forever. Satan just has a strong hold of him right now.. I pray for him every day for God to save him because I don’t want him to go to hell..Please pray for us.
why not give him a tract that explains salvation and let him make the choice? the best one is This Was Your Life by Jack Chick; u can buy them online or perhaps at your christian bookstore. go for it! My youth pastor explained salvation to my boyfriend then asked him Do you want to accept Christ? and he said yes immediately! then we went out of the church and got in the car and i said to him So! when you do want to get married? HA HA!! ya thats how it happened! 40 yrs later we are still a strong christian couple!!
this is exactly what i’m going through!! it’s very hard but at the end of the day i can’t save anyone, God decides what He wants to do and i keep having this gut feeling to wait but by waiting i feel like i’m getting my hopes up all i gotta do is keep praying.
@@cristinazapata6305 actually i was commenting to miss fluffy; but, what are you waiting for like a lightning bolt or something? Ask the dude to go to church with you; thats what i did, worked just fine. if i had waited around for some big signal from Heaven i would have never had the chance to marry the guy!
I will apply this with a lukewarm Christian as well. I dated a lukewarm Christian and it was more painful than dating an unbeliever, his attraction for the world was bigger than his love for God and it broke my heart to see him going on that path. 😓
@Dye Dye , I am not sure if you were romantically involved with him, but if you were, pray for him, love him as a brother in Christ from the distance, move on with your life, God is the only who can change people! It’s very painful to see a person you loved so much being content living in sin and distancing from the Lord more and more. It almost broke me down.
This is me rn! I’m so hurt because I love this person and I really would like us to be together. Feelings are mutual but he just doesn’t take God seriously. I know he’s genuinely saved but he just prefers to sit on the fence. He would rather relate with the world and look cool than to be a firm believer. I really don’t want to compromise because we’re not even dating yet and we’re already having clashes in ideas about Christianity. I’m so sad. I want him but I can’t have him. Sigh. I guess I have to move on.
@@treasure7278 release him to God, submit to the Lord and run from him ! Stop entertaining lukewarm Cristians, seek the Kingdom of God and wait for the godly spouse God has for you ! As of right now, you aren’t equally yoked!
I also would add someone who claims to be Christian but doesn't really make Jesus priority enough/or who holds views which you could not submit to/agree with if relationship.were to continue. I broke up bc my ex began to show me that he would be mean and hateful to lgbtqia community. he wanted to openly harass and condemn people in very unchristlike way, and felt it okay to be hateful and proud towards others. it also just felt like I was the spiritual leader,& I just did not feel safe ever being in a position to trust my well being with him, but also couldn't accept his treatment of non believers and anybody not aligning with his beliefs or values.
My ex boyfriend is also a non-believer. I remember praying to God to change his heart but He revealed his secrets instead--that he's been cheating ever since we started the relationship. I only learned about him being a non-believer when things already got worse between us. We eventually broke up and it's the best decision so far. After that terrible relationship, I learned to guard my heart and trust the Lord with His ways. 💖
@@GabbityGabby Well atheist will cheat more then Christians, because most atheist have no morals and think its ok to sleep with everyone, while most Christians do not want to sleep with everyone.
My unbelieving boyfriend left me this week because our values kept clashing and he just got tired of it. Words cannot describe just how devasted I am yet deep down I have a peace I haven't had during the entire period I was with the guy. Please pray for me!
You probably have a soul tie. Dismantle it and thank God you didn't marry him. I married an unbeliever PRETENDING he was saved. He was into Satanism and he tried to kill me. I'm quite serious. I praise & thank the Lord he divorced me.
Guard your heart 1 place YHWH in your heart first 2 do not missionary date any1 3 don't make any assumptions 4 be a light by not dating them 5 keep interacting w/believers Galatian 6:1, 1Chorint 15:33 6 pursue group set. friendships 7 be honest. How mature is your Faith with YHWH? 8 Observe the fruits s/he bears
Prioritizing God and serving our Lord in this world will never be easy. the moment when I knew I was starting to develop feelings for my atheist guy friend, I prayed for him and the Lord's guidance for me every night. today I hung out with my friend group (he's included in the group), and I just knew my feelings for him will only continue to grow. it has been so long since I've liked a guy this much. everything about him just makes me so happy, and I just can't stop thinking about him. it hurts a lot knowing I have to give up my feelings of him for Jesus (simply giving up on the person we really like is hard), especially when I also feel a chance of him liking me back. However, no matter how tempting it is I will continue to face the Lord and keep spreading His word. After reading the comments, I know a lot of my dear sisters and brothers in Christ are also facing this issue; and I know it hurts a lot. Deep down I know if we all continue to glorify God, our Lord will provide, and we will be so very blessed. so whoever is reading this please don't give up as I won't as well. God bless you and keep you
This video really helped clear my vision on my current situation. I've never felt such a strong bond between me and a guy before. We both understood each other's stories and had a genuine friendship that i've never experienced before. I began to grow feelings but kept my walls up because he was a non-christian. I didn't think about it too heavily in the beginning, but now that I think about it, it really is a spiritual battle. Either this guy or the Lord. I came to find this video at the perfect time and I decided to choose God. I know that with this person I will be able to maintain a strong friendship, but it will be an emotionally roller coaster for a short while, and that's ok. Everything will be ok and will go according to God's plan for him and I. Thank you so much for this video.
Hi Emily, Your comment from two years ago is exactly what I’m going through right now. I’ve been best friends with my guy for 8 years and I’m struggling but after seeing this comment it’s helped me make a better decision. ❤
Good advice yet sometimes God work in mysterious ways i try to follow God guidance yet God clearly put a non believer in my life it took five years for my husband to be converted and it was the most amazing experience that we had yet i will say search God to know if that what he want you to do for he knows the end from the beginning
We have to guard our hearts no matter the other person is a believer or unbeliever. Always keep options open, and be discerning, listen to God and His word. I am currently having a close friendship with an unbeliever and I am not dating him yet God has been giving me so many chances to share the gospel, especially His love to him. Pray for them, be with them, listen, be there, be a trustworthy friend and when they see God in you and their heart is softened by the Lord to receive the gospel, they would come to faith. Keep on praying. Keep being their friend. Do not date!
I believe what Gods Word says. However, I've been married three times to men who are believers. Even met my last one in Church. Everything was great until they started to change. In every case they all ended up cheating on me and stopped going to Church. I do understand that people change on a daily basis. However, just because everything is working out in the beginning, doesn't mean someone will continue to follow Gods Word. Yes, I did Pray about this before I married them. People are not what they seem to be these days. Sad indeed.
Not being rude or anything but doesn’t this mean that god is not real and not listening to your prayers. I honestly just can’t come to believe in any of this. I’m trying to change but it is so hard I need help
It's more than dating a non-christian... it's dating a christian that doesn't share the same purpose that you do. You can both be Christians and not even be equally mature HORMONES GET IN THE WAY... that's why recognizing your own boundaries and limitations are so important.
Miss Kat I’m struggling with this my girlfriend says she’s a Christian and we live together but are views sexually are different. I don’t want to have sex anymore because I know the damage that’s it’s doing to us she is having a hard time understanding that my desire to not have sex is not because I’m not attractive her but because I know where I want to be in the Lord and where am at now isn’t where I want to be. Idk how to go about this because I love her and I want marriage but is having sex is pushing that possibility away because n feeling really broken about it spiritually. I’ve tried to explain it to her but she still doesn’t understand what I’m trying to say and I don’t want her to feel like I’m manipulating her what should I do.
@@kennyw3173 Go to God's word.... pray on it day and night.... and move out. Seek biblical counsel. There are wounds you have that far deeper than treating the symptoms. Pray for God to give you godly accountability, but even so, trust God's word over other people and your emotions. Remember that the heart can be wicked and our thoughts can trick us. Keep filling your mind with truth and you will be protected. Keep post it notes/ index cards of scriptures everywhere that are accessible to you. Memorize them. Accept that being a Christian is a daily battle, and you have the Holy Spirit to equip you to have CHOICE and to choose right over what's easy will win out over time.
I agree with this. We, as Christians, think being "unequally yoked" pertains only to belief in Christ, but I believe it spans other areas (not necessarily all) in your Christian walk that should be balanced.
@@AstrOT6Stars exactly. It's the same as being given a unique set of gifts. You are called to minister to some, and I won't be able to reach them and vice versa. There's a whole body of Christ for a reason, =-)
@@SquidCena currently we are friend and we love each other, he is very clear that I accept only a person who loves God and Bible. I’m giving him a chance because he can’t let go of me and I love him I doesn’t want to hurt him. he is willing to follow me wherever I go and follow me to believe God (thought it’s still hard for him), but slowly.
@@hhmaster789 You are giving him a wrong motive. He's trying to be someone that is not him. It is not your role to change someone. Run. Leave. And pray for someone who will share the same levels of faith as you. You should not settle for less.
@@LeeHarveyDDavid our relationship has downgraded to "colleague", i've let go and i am not trying to change him. He is deeply in love with me, i afraid if i disappear out of a sudden he could gone mad, so i give some time for this relationship to cold down.
So true, although it hurst a lot obedience to Christ comes first. The bible also comforts us by saying “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33 God bless you all, and keep your hearts and mind in his perfect peace. Amen 🙏🏾
Let me give you my advice from experience. RUN. RUN. RUN AWAY. And don't be like Lot's wife. DONT LOOK BACK!!! Missionary dating is TOTALLY unbiblical. People can pretend to be a Christian in order to keep a relationship. You must both be real Christians BEFORE you date. It is wise not to have any close relationships with non believers. 1 Corinthians 15:33. Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character"
As a Pagan living within the Bible Belt, I'm so glad you brought up missionary dating! It's exhausting getting to know someone and feeling a connection, only for them to say that my beliefs are a sore spot for them but they "like me so much they're willing to put in the effort to convert me". As the person on the other side of that, let me say that it is hurtful and unwarranted. If you can't see yourself being with someone who isn't a Christian, don't try to make one. Find someone already appealing to you.
@@GabbityGabby .. I also agree. I was dating a YEC for a couple of months. Her lack of science literacy and stubbornly wilful ignorance caused my opinion of her to decline to that of a parent frustrated by an idiot child. I just lost all respect for her. She's tried with other men. None last long. Where I live religious faith is considered... silly.
@CJ I’m sorry to tell you this but you are not a victim of your own decisions. If you know that’s your environment then you need to be just as forward with your deal breakers as you ask of others. Tbh.
@@LeahMarshals22 yep, agreed - that's why it was in the bio of all of my dating apps. I WAS upfront. I think that was some of the appeal for missionaries.
@@CJhasgoneidle Some people see the word agnostic, athiest, pagan, in a person's bio and religious people will take male it their sole mission to try to get to connect to that person in order to convert them. That is so morally wrong. I am agnostic-athiest and just found out the guy I started talking to about three weeks ago is a devout christian who has never before dated a non-believer. Now, we may never get together because of it. I won't convert for him or anyone else, so I guess those are the breaks. 😭
Its been 20.years since i gave my life to Christ...recently i experienced a 7 month relationship with a baby Christian..for me personally i could not handle it...he was a good person but he put little effort into growing in Christ...i could not connect to him in anyway...it was very fustrating
This is good. Am blessed. I am reading the comments and am like there are still real Christians out there. We should make a group for Christian dating. That way we can meet.
I agree, In Japan there are many ministries that are doing that, since there is a decline in population there, and in our Christian life, there is a decline in marriages with Christians. The Churches I've grown up in always have had relationships with non Christians 8/10 percent of the time...If it's God's will that I may be a father one day, I would want them to grow up with my friends children, you never know if one day they desire to start a relationship, and as parents we must support them than to separate them, even if they don't have financial stability.
Guys don’t. Just don’t You can’t change then. Only God can. They can say that they will change but then they aren’t changing for God they are changing for you. Which is a false conversion and will end in the long run. I just broke up with my girlfriend who was as worldly as they come. And I’m telling you DONT. Don’t do it. I’m a broken man. I’m devastatingly broken. You can’t change her. As much as you try. She will only change you. Trust the lord to bring the right one into your life. Or else there’s just heart break that could have been avoided Please pray for me I need God to build me back up
Thanks for this video. I'll write this here as a warning since I have made the mistake to be with an unbeliever who said he believed in a creator but that he did not believe in the bible and I still thought it was ok to get in a relationship with him. I thought he would come around since he was raised a christian. Being in a relationship led me to having sex with him as he said he wanted to marry me and again I thought it would be 'ok'. I was basically feeling lonely and wanted to be in a relationship. But it was not ok. I got pregnant and after a discussion, he decided to leave and said he never wanted a relationship with me ever again in life. He said he still wants to be a dad but also proposed to live together. I am torn since I wished to have a family with both mom and dad and a stable marriage but know I can not live with him since he is an unbeliever (and would want to live together only 'as friends') and since we never married in the first place. Biblically you can not be unequally joked, as they can bring you further and further from your believes and carry you away from the heavenly Father, so I can not live with him and will have to deal with the responsability of raising this child in the faith and at the same time trying to what is right in all things. Please don't make my mistake, the FAther in heaven has grace but the consequences are real. And if you wish to pray for the Father of the baby so that his eyes be opened, feel free.
In my point of view problem was with you not with unbeliver. Because if you had relationship, so God trusted you that you can overcome all temptation. So we are responsible what we are doing. Maybe God wanted to test your heart beacause you was praying with prayers: God test my heart and show me all my sins or with prayers of Isiah: Here i am Lord send me to this who needs my help. But you failed. Sister test your heart. Surely there selfishness , pride, jealousy, and other sins. Im also now suffering but i need overcome , its so hard, but at least God showed me how my heart is black
Love is not taking but sacrificing yourself as God did sacrificing His Son. Did you sacrifice yourself for this man? Love is not expecting something good that you can recieve but giving something good so people could see your light. Im trying sacrificing but im not doing good it hurting me but Gods will is to be light for people without expecting something good
I was lonely and wanted a man's attention whom I liked, even though I wasn't going to go back to him, well I went back. He so beleives somewhat in a god, but not a Bible reader/church goer. Anyways, he wanted sex and I gave it to him as I wanted his love. That didn't work. Then I realised I could be pregnant and when we had an online argument /conflict type scenario, he would act out saying he is moving or telling me to get an abortion. The abortion part was very painful. I think he didn't want to be a dad and also to be with me. He would contradict himself with me, leading me on to beleive he wants to be with me or telling me he won't marry me, different times. I can't remember all the details now. This was one year ago. Anyways so I didn't go back to him even though he would ask me to see him throughout the entire year. From his track record, he will take me for my body and leave. He would also have female friends and keep telling me their his friends and yet he didn't even want me as a friend. It was horrible. Currently I feel a little bitter thinking how some women have attractive, kind, faithful husbands and others don't. Is it gods will? And I also always longed for a stable family of my own, since I was little. My parents divorced and it was very devastating. God bless you. Xoxo , sending well wishes to you and baby and the dad too.
I understand now how Paul went from calling himself “the least of the Apostles” near the beginning of his Christianity to “the worst of all sinners “ near the end of his life….as an older Christian, I thank you for speaking correctly…temptations, simple & complex, try us every day.
Wow this was very much needed. I’m in a situation right now where the majority of my environment is not strong in faith or in faith at all, and I’m starting to be interested in certain people around me. I have been trying my best to put God first but keep telling myself that I can help the person I like to come to Jesus. I know that this is not the path I should be taking, and this video really helped me get that firm and clear in my mind. I think I like the idea of getting to know this person better but staying friends and being rock solid in the word of God as to not be persuaded to a worldly path. Hopefully by doing this, I can witness to this person as well as other people around me. It can be disheartening to realize that there are no Christians or people who even care about being a Christian, but if you carry the presence of the Lord these people will attract to you like magnets.
Hey Anna, I'm in a situation where there are almost no believers in my direct environment so I understand how you must feel. It is very easy to get influenced and to walk down the wrong path and I would strongly advise you to be very careful. As for myself I have made a big mistake due to this and will have to face the consequence now (basically got into a relationship with a guy, he said he believed in a creator but not in the bible so I thought it might be 'ok' to continue in a relationship, then fell into temptation having sex with him and will have to face single motherhood now because he left me and because I have come to the realization that it was never 'ok' to begin with.) Please take care.
This is the first I am looking into scripture for these answers, as I had not expected to fall in love with a non believer. But I knew something felt right, when he is extremely respectful and supportive of my faith. I had a feeling it wasn’t wrong to stay with him. And I found 1 Corinthians 7:12-16 “But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?” I Corinthians 7:12-16 NKJV I know everyone approaches it differently and I’m still proceeding in the relationship with believer caution. and still have to learn his true values and beliefs on parenting. But even his comments on, I’d stay home with the dog, because I know you’d want to take the kids to church. This gave me a bit of comfort now that I feel I don’t have to brush him off just for the sole reason of not being a Christian. I will continue to ask God for his guidance and I am praying for him always for God to turn his life around towards him, but I know that’s something I cannot control. Pray for me if it’s in your hearts as well. This is still a struggle.
I’m in this same exact situation where I’m in love with a non-believer who not only respects my faith, but adamantly encourages my walk with Christ. We’re even reading a Christian apologetics book together. He’s also in love with me and is open to Christ, but just hasn’t reached the point of believing. I surrender this relationship to God everyday. I too am not convinced that God doesn’t want us together. I also proceed with believer caution. Please pray for me if you see this message.
Yeah it was so sad after the breakup. And that time, there are times I was crying...but I choose to be more closer to God, to pray more, to read more of His word, to let other believers minister to me, and I'm asking the Holy Spirit to control my mind and I believe God will heal me from the pain. I choose to obey Jesus. I have to move on and I just pray that the guy will be saved one day.
So good! My favorite part was to not date someone you like so that you won’t contradict yourself and what you believe. If you care and like this person you won’t want to hurt them by confusing them in how you walk with God. At the same time guarding their heart & not leading them on!!
There's a guy I like (this is long distance), he's not Christian, but we click a lot. I've shared with him and broke down exactly why I believe in Jesus and Christianity, a full-length discussion and answer his apologetics related questions etc. First of all, I like him, but I never told him that I do (I care for him as a friend), and have been praying for him, 'cause I know "we can't be together" anyway. Not entirely sure what to do with my feelings, but I appreciate the friendship we have. It's tough because he likes me, but there's just too many things to consider aka 1) him not being a believer 2) the distance It's a hard pill to swallow. I haven't told him I liked him back, but he likes me too. I just don't know what to do with my feelings. I wanna honor God, but also be able to reach out to him without having such missionary dating motives. Well, technically, we're not dating, he just admitted a few times that he likes me but never said it back. Any advice on how to maintain this friendship and also guarding my heart (while ministering to him)? We're both in our mid-20s. Thank you so much for this channel. MEANS A L OT. Praise God for this, your ministry. You people like us a lot.
If you both like each other, it’s going to be very hard to be friends, and I think a long distance friendship could just be a waste of your time. Earlier this year I really liked a guy who wasn’t a Christian and he really liked me, but I realized that I can’t be friends with him. I have to pray and trust that someone else will minister to him, because it is too tempting for me to maintain a friendship with him. And if it’s long distance, keeping in contact would also take away time from real-life friendships. So I know how hard it is 😢 (I’m still sad about this guy, months later), but God is more important to me, and I don’t want to kid myself that God needs ME to be the person to witness to the guy. Hope that helps!
To add, I really like Mark’s point about witnessing to the person by not dating them. When I told the guy that I can’t see him anymore because of my faith, I shared about why my relationship with God is the first priority in my life, not just because it’s a religious thing, but because I love God. I pray that this conversation was a way for God to use me, and after that I can’t be friends because it’s not wise to invest my heart in this friendship.
@@LearningtheHarp Yes, this is why I refuse to tell him I like him, 'cause I know what it entails. I am still unsure whether or not to keep this friendship, if I'm simply rationalizing to be able to keep this or not. I've grown tired and weary of all my friendships with the opposite sex, whom I click and connect with the most, not working out. I've already surrendered a 2 year friendship I had with with an unbeliever, whom I liked for years. And I'm really just....tired. I just hope I'm not walking in disobedience.
Hi Juju, I understand you. But I disagree with the comment that says having a long-distance close friendship will rob the time off our real relationships. That only happens if we idolize/get obsessed by the other person. I still have meaningful relationships and real friends, God is still no.1 and I am not dating him. Well, there are no strong feelings apparently... Just feelings of gratefulness to have a deep connection with another friend who is willing to learn about Christianity and Jesus. Guarding my heart has been hard normally, but with my band of sisters giving me prayer support and God actually giving me the strength and showing me ways to share the good news with him as a dear friend, makes my love even grow deeper in Christ. I get to see the bible in such a whole new perspective and have compassion for the lost like never before. Cling to God, sis and bro. Rest in Him. Don't try to evangelize ppl with our own strength. Because if it is His will, He will bring them to you.
@@Juju-tw7we Hi Juju! I'm in a pretty similar situation right now and the difference is I've actually travelled over the distance and we have dated for 3 months. But now I'm feeling the conviction to stop but I'm still in a mess because I feel like this relationship is too early to end- I haven't had enough conversations with him about Christ and not even a chance to bring him to church. I was wondering how is your situation now? Any updates or maybe testimonies that could shed some light into my situation? Thanks!
As someone who was lost in this world , had a one year relationship with someone who was also lost, it was scary. Later on into that relationship I connected with God , but he was someone I had to let go. He didn’t believe what I did , ( he was catholic ), I told him as a Christian I had to be w/ someone Christian . He agreed to “conform to Christianity”, but in reality never did which I now know understand. He lied to me later on into the relationship , leaving me in pain because I tried to help him in many occasions but a part of him disliked hearing about God helping him. I’m not single and able to focus on our Heavenly Father , as someone who went out with individuals who were lost into this world , know it’s not worth it . It’s not worth being with someone who doesn’t follow God like you do, or anyone who is toxic to you! :) God bless
It’s so strange. It’s like God is testing me right now. There are 2 guys in my life showing an interest. One is agnostic and the other is Christian. I’m really attracted to the agnostic one and not attracted to the Christian one. I asked God- “Why do you bring people into my life I either don’t want or can’t have.” I just hope He will bring someone in my life I both want can have.
Ended my 6 years of relationship with my non-believer boyfriend 2 years ago but yes, I still can’t move on and get into any relationship yet and he was suffering alot too . But few days back I heard that he is now finally seeing someone now . Well , it hurts so much that I started questioning my decision again . But yes , my love for God will win over and over again. Im sure he is with me on this . Pray for me if you see this comment, I really need it 🙏🏻
You can't move on because you probably had sex. You were illegally married in the spiritual realm & Satan concocted a soul tie. Learn about this and dismantle it. Repent and you will be free. Carry on and don't get into relationship unless God says yes.
I wish I could have seen this video before marrying my soon to be ex. I married an atheist because we had been a couple before I got saved, had two kids, broke up, when we were broke up I got saved, and then people at my church started saying we needed to get married because being married meant I could witness to him. He dragged me down so low that I started questioning the existence of God. Now we have three kids and are going through a divorce after he had an affair and it had come out that he had actually had numerous affairs.
i’m dating this guy and he believes there a higher power but doesn’t believe in God. and he told me he’d change for me to keep the relationship and i just don’t think that’s right. this video has helped me so much.
I'm at this stage in my life right now, it's very heart breaking, laying down something you want for something your spirit needs. My advice to others is don't even start or consider dating a non-Christian to start with. You will hit a cross roads if you're truely listening to Jesus and as we know, he always wins in your heart eventually. It's so painful so don't do it, trust me.
I was not a Christian, I am married already with a non-beliver, then I converted into a Chistian by God's will. It happened 2 nights ago, very quickly, suddently God came to me at middle night and changed me. I am not sure what to do. Dear God, please give me guidance, Amen.
How do you tell an unbeliever that you can't date them because they aren't a Christian? You meet someone and you really hit it off, but the only red flag is their spiritual status. If you distance yourself, you're going to have to explain why. Saying that you're a Christian and have to maintain an "only Christian" standard may sound legalistic, judgemental and may hurt your witness. How would you do it?
That's not correct about sounding legalistic and judgmental. An unsaved person wouldn't even really understand those terms so therefore they can't stand on them. Just like he was saying if you haven't made up your mind when an unsaved person is interested in you, that person will make it up for you! And the biggest damage to your Witness is not standing up and saying who you are and what you believe in Christ Jesus. BELIEVE me, I'm a single woman, I've had to have this conversation many times with interested, unsaved men. while I probably have had some responses from very hurt egos, at least I am thankful to the Lord to know that I stood on my relationship with Christ and in my position in HIM.
I did it.many times organically. Nonbeliever: hey want to go to a party tonight? Me: I'm not into that type of party. I'm going to facedown tonight at my church. Want to come? ************* Nonbeliever: hey want to watch a movie? Me: sure, what movie do you have in mind. Nonbeliever: Hellraiser Me: awwe, I don't watch movies that elevate the devil. I'll watch Courageous or Fireproof. Want to watch any of those with me? You get the jist. They'll do too.
Here I like this non-believer guy my friend, I think he wants to get me to the next level but I said to him that I am not sure... so We remain friends and I just want to be the light for him... even when we quarel I apologize first. Even though it is hard to think that he might be with someone else one day but I do pray the best for him and one day may he get to know and have faith in Jesus even if we are not meant for each other.
For me this has always been a struggle. I have never dated anyone with my faith unfortunately not bc I did not want too but they seem to be few and far between. I live in Portland Or and to find someone who doesn't drink every week and believes in God is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Came to the realization that maybe I am not meant to find someone, or maybe I need to move somewhere else...lol
If you're asking if you should be with someone who doesn't believe and isn't willing to open their heart enough to keep trying, I'm going to personally give the simple answer as no. I've been in a relationship for 8 years, had sex out of wedlock, and we have 2 precious boys now. I have heard God calling me for the last 6 months and have become more and more convicted by God. These past two weeks I finally got compelled to fully repent by the grace of God. Due to her strong beliefs to try and live a life without Jesus, I had to make a stand for God. Right now I feel like I'm in hell. I have been crying uncontrollably and praying for God to reach her heart. Today God told me to let her go. I am in pain. She doesn't want Jesus in my boys life and i am struggling to find the right words to keep them close to me and Jesus. Please pray for us.
When we delight ourselves in the Lord He will give us the desires of our hearts. You shouldn't have to compromise who you are because if that person is the one God has chosen for you, he or she will already be a believer. You'll wind up with regret and find yourself compromising by trying to walk in synch with that person and not fulfilling your true destiny in Christ Jesus. You can still be a light to that person without dating them.
I've been in that position, and for me they were tolerant of my beliefs as friends. After we dated however, she would go from not supporting my beliefs to outright mocking them. Finding someone who also believes in God (and other things you value) goes a long way, creating happier relationships.
This kind of thing really needs to be out there and more accessible to young people today. Many are going to make the unequal yoke mistake because they just don't know. I didn't know, and I've always been a Christian, but I totally fell away since my parents weren't into it and only one friend, one aunt and one uncle that were, thank God for them, and that's still the case, and I'm 50 now, with one practicing friend, and same aunt and uncle. Kids today are not being exposed to the mistakes they can make that affects their whole lives. It's tragic. And it does cause marital problems, and you are drug down into darkness and sin with them.
I am a non-believer. I grew up around unbelieving parents, but my grandma was always passionate about teaching me about Christ. At some point, I reviewed my life and decided that I don't think God exists. I really like someone right now, and they are a Christian. I have searched so many articles and videos and even went to my old bible that my grandma got me, but I still feel fake. I want to believe in Christ, but I don't. I can't make myself believe, but I desperately wish I could. It's an odd limbo in trying to convince myself that I could be a devout Christian and thinking that even if I did, I wouldn't be a true Christian. I would say I am agnostic. There could be a God, but there might not be. I've always thought religion is a beautiful thing. I just can't believe it all. I don't believe that the bible is the word of God. I don't believe in Adam and Eve or Jesus or the existence of God himself. If he existed, why would he care? The guy I like doesn't know. We aren't dating yet, but I think he likes me. He is so perfect. I couldn't care less that he is a christian. I think his faith is beautiful and I would go to church every Sunday as a non-believer if I'm right about him. (I understand non-believers shouldn't go to church like that.) I'm terrified that I will never know for sure if we had a real thing because he'll walk away once he figures out that I'm not a christian. I don't feel like I should talk to him about this. Most of my thoughts about life align perfectly with the way Christians tend to think people should live, just without the belief. If I continue with my disbelief, I will lose so many possible relationships, including this one. But if I choose to believe, I wouldn't be a true believer. I think there would always be doubt. I'd never be a good Christian. It would be for a guy. I know the internet can't really help, but I am struggling. Church wouldn't fit my life now. I'm scared to talk to him. If someone out there cares, please give me some advice. I don't know where to go.
I'm going through this now it feels so right but I know it's not as he doesn't know God although his mum is a Christian..I feel led to him it's so confusing the chemistry between us is so powerful I don't know how long I can control myself I just want to be with him it hurts I feel so alone & I'm surrounded by non-believers no one understands 😭💔
That's some tough love... but I think you're right, at least in my case :s I'm praying I will be able to submit to God's will for my life. Until now, what he wanted me to do never failed me!
@Fossil farmer 88 Dating a nonbeliever will Not end badly every time, because there are Christians and nonChristians who have great relationships together.. however, a nonChristian can and in many cases, does, draw the Christian's allegiance away from God therefore putting distance between the Christian and God. The Christian begins to care more about their relationship than of their obedience and relationship with God💖 One step in the wrong direction can lead to a great distance away from the One who knows us Best and loves us MOST, and Knows what is best for us not just for a short time but for all of ETERNITY🙏💖🙏
God's done it again, I was wondering about this situation and what the wisest thing to do would be This popped up moments a go, this is truly wise counsel to the singles in life, I remember how intensely lonely I felt and I did some of the things in this video, and it turned into catastrophe. I wish I had this teaching then but computers were in its infancy days. Please be cautious singles, please be cautious.
I have a huge crush on a man that is most likely not Christian. He’s from a country that is heavily Muslim. I can’t outright ask him because I can’t pursue him right now as we have a professional relationship that will end in May. Anyway, I knew if I looked I would find a video from AGW that would help me get over this crush. Your videos always help me to keep my heart focused on the correct middle eastern man.
May God bless you with your wonderful witnessing, Mark. May your wife be blessed as well. Incredible to see the maturity that you both have at such young age.
Thank you for your Biblical advice Mr. Mark. It's really helpful for young Christian's. Aside from friends and workmates who are non Christian's, I also have families who practice other Faith's. You are so right in saying that we should encourage them to come to a Christian community as opposed to us Christian's going to Non Christians events. Thanks again.
Currently moving on from a friend who's not a Christian. He is actually really nice but I have to cut off right away inorder me to be guarded cause I think it's the best way to do it. If we think we are standing strong, let us be careful not to fall. Though he crosses my mind from time to time but I have to resist it and divert my attention. Shared Jesus to him though. May he encounter Christ. Godbless everyone.
I just left a relationship with a non believer but I’m honestly still having a hard time accepting it was the right decision to make. We both initially believed in God but as time went on a lot happened in her life and when she recently lost her grandmother she decided that she doesn’t believe in god anymore and doesnt have any interest. This was heartbreaking to hear but I knew I couldn’t move forward with the relationship. Apart of me feels like maybe this was just a rough period in her life and she’ll find her way back to god but I also understand that I can’t stay mainly because of that.
Hi Jon, maybe just pray about it and pray for her as well. I realize that when someone is not so mature in the faith, some hard moments in life make them question God's intentions in their lives. They definitely need to grow and mature in the faith. On whether you should have left, keep praying, if it was meant to be, it can and will still come around i believe.
I have a friend that I didn’t know (but it appears to me now that he) liked me, I was just witnessing to him whenever I had an opportunity. I will say that at the very beginning I thought maybe I did like him, but it was very soon made clear through getting to know him more as a friend that we would not be good for each other; the most important thing being that he wasn’t a believer. I was witnessing to him throughout the friendship, and at one point it felt like we were best friends. I asked him if he would be okay if I bought him a Bible and he seemed overjoyed! He read the gospel of John and Genesis - Exodus on his own. I thought it was great to hear! But it seemed that he only thought of Christianity because he liked me, so now it seems he doesn’t really talk about God’s Word anymore (of course I don’t know his heart either). We don’t talk very often anymore. So I completely understand not trying to get into a relationship to change someone; I would never want to do that. Especially after experiencing this, I know that becoming a believer in Christ this way may not stick with that person if they only did it to be with you.
yes, thinking from a guy’s perspective , yeah he only wanted to convert to christianity just for the sake of you, not a genuine conversion. Only a godly christian man can pursue a serious christian relationship with a godly christian woman both having a personal relationship with God ✝️ Do not BE *DECEIVED* by satan’s counterfeits as there are *MANY* distractions in the world out there. Do not be led by your own emotions, your own flesh because Satan’s path is filled with deception at the beginning and at the end of the road, it’s only death
i just had my heart mangled by a Christian man. he moved fast. initially, he was amazing and kind. i met his kids and he met my family. i told him all about my spiritual beliefs on our first date and he was so intrigued and impressed, but he didn’t tell me he was a Christian until 2 months into dating. everything was perfect! we saw eye to eye on everything, we had things in common, and our intimacy was like nothing i’ve ever experienced. he suddenly expressed that my spiritual practices are not of God and that he can’t date me anymore. i feel so deceived, used and heart shattered. missionary dating is selfish and abusive. if you are Christian, please don’t go around hurting people who don’t practice faith the same way as you.
There seems to be a lot more women in church circles than men! How can we expect equal yoking.. when the ratio almost feels like 1 potential guy for every 50 girls?? Feels like hoping against hope for sure?? Then there’s issues to deal with such as competition, jealousy and hatred from other women, when you somehow end up dating or hanging with that one potential guy in the group! It just feels messed up!!! And then guys that act like they are on a freaking pedestal, cuz they are this one special guy amongst this school of women around ... Feels easier to missionary date & get a guy saved than it is to find a solid Christian guy within a church setting!
Hi Mark. Thanks a lot. I am blessed by listening to this video. I really like point two because I was actually doing that and it got me into trouble. Trying to stop all forms of communication but it seems difficult. Wow! Thanks a lot. God bless you immensely. The whole video is an instruction I needed.
Never hear of missionary dating but that is a very interesting title. I grew up in a home where my Mother thought she would convert my Father and married him. Every Thursday, he went to the movie theatre by himself and every Saturday, he went to the local dance hall by himself. It was a small community so he knew all the neighbours and liked to socialize. On Sundays my Father went to his own church which did not teach being born-again and my Mother took us children to her church that taught born-again. Our home was very divided and continually full strife and hypocrisy. All the children had very distorted ideas about religion and God and married unbelievers. When God stated in his word to not be unequally yoked, it was serious matter that affects children and generations. When a believer marries a non-believer, you put yourself under Satanic bondage.
Just say unless you are radical Jesus Freak I will not date you. I was asked about this from one of my non Christian coworkers and I said unless she put Jesus at the absolute center of her life, I can not date or purse her.
So wise and true. I have realized when unequally yoked it's very hard to even talk about anything other than superficial topics like the weather and work. But being in a community group at my church there's a big difference. it's so nice to be able to share freely about what I'm learning about Jesus with another person and not have to worry about them being offended and knowing that they will understand me. I have Let go of this "situationship" mentally but still care for the person n feel compelled to reach out and check on them and pray for them but it's hard because then those feelings keep pulling. And they are avoiding "the talk" i think because we care for each other and don't want to lose ea other. I want to be free to pursue a relationship with Jesus above all else and His will though. I pray for their sake they will surrender to God i hate seeing people hurting...
Have been talking to a guy that I like and he asked me out on a date. I am very involved in my church and go 3 days a week. I have mentioned it to him and he has not shot it down or commented on it. I do believe he likes me. I will use the time we will spend together to ask him of his religion and his intentions. I get way too excited in the beginning of relationships, even platonic. I have had friends that have told me not to date to save. I agree. Please pray for me Mark.
I walked away from a 10 year relationship with children to a non believer. He was abusive but it still hurt. I put it off for years because I knew it would be so painful. God has been so patient with me. I made the right decision for me and the children. Life is beautiful again. Luckily I never married him so I'm now free to marry but he will have to be a Spirit filled Christian.
I enjoyed this video very much. What is your take /teaching for women above 40 and still beliving God for marriage. Am 45 single and still beliving God for a spouse though there is no sign of any. Please pray for me because i do not want to spend the rest of my life single neither do i want to make mistakes out of desperation. Thanks
When we met I was not fully a believer but I have always been effective to God's commandments,Later I have grown to be a strong believer but for Him he is stil a non believer....he drinks n he is a narcissist but my worry kids are involved ...more of prayers for God's eye opening it's so much for my soul to guard my heart....Pls keep us in your prayers
Thanks Mark for this video, it's a blessing having these tips and pray that the Holy Spirit will guide me to do this in my life. I am in a season of unwanted singleness and I know that I would love to have a partner with whom I can settle down and build a future but as many people will have already commented there's a lack of Christian men out here that will actually practice and obey to God words or loads of them that used to be and for personal reasons or failures abandoned and are now rejecting God and feel that they are in charge of their own life.
Hi … there is a thing that still doesn’t make sense for me .. my mother married my father .. they are both Christian and they got divorce two years ago .. my sister got married to a Christian man .. and they are getting a divorce .. my friend from church “she is in the sing stage “ ended up her relationship with her awesome “singer chrisitian boyfriend “ because he doesn’t wanna marry her now .. the pastors from my other church are getting a divorce .. what can we say to this ??? I have been analyzing this things .. and honestly I can say … with a Christian or not Christian that things can go wrong … being a Christian is not a guarantee that it will never end … if a person really Loves God and really loves you and she or he is Loyal to you is what it matters … all these people got God’s confirmation about “getting together and marriage “ and look at them getting a divorce … I have seen so many Christian marriages in my church that they don’t even hold their partners hands … they don’t have any compliments for their partner .. they are just focus in serving in the ministerial that they even don’t kiss their partners … I have seen more non Christian marriages and couples love so hard to their partners and their children and homes than the people from my church and in general …
Can you say for sure their marriage was confirmed by God? Also just because we are Christians doesn't mean we are perfect. Although thats not an excuse. Do we make mistakes, yes. We, as Christians, are not a private club of perfect people, we’re a community of forgiven sinners. However, I know many christian couples who have long loving marriages. You can't look at others marriages and compare, you don’t know their struggles and weaknesses, within their marriage so how can you compare and say non Christian have better marriages because they show love to each other. You don't know what happens behind closed doors. Focus on how you will be different with your marriage. Follow God and make that a foundation in your own relationships.
Why are relationships as a child of God so hard? Sure, I know why. But why is a non-believer more appealing than your brothers and sisters? Why do the 'believers' (most) turn to be liars and manipulators, yet they are the ones we are told to date and marry? Why does the non-believer (some) check all the boxes, but the only flaw they have is they don't have Christ in their life? Why does it hurt to let them go? Why do some have success than others when they date non-believers? How do you maintain a holy relationship with someone you are physically and sexually attracted to, yet connection must be maintained? Why is there so much pressure to get married? I have so many questions, questions that have multiple answers to that make you so confused, but you have to trust God. God first, always, no matter what. Oh God, please give us strength!
My viewpoint is that choosing to purposefully avoid anyone of a specific religion or lack thereof for dating is no less shallow than choosing to say you should never date someone of a different race or a different hair color or because they aren’t as hot as someone else. That’s not to say those opinions are invalid, but don’t pretend like they are anything less than subjective bias. Love someone based on their character first, everything else second. A Christian who is a jerk is not automatically better for you than an atheist who is a wonderful person, just as the reverse is also true.
Thanks for that, it’s definitely true on my end. My agnostic boyfriend loves and treats me better while the christian guys I dated in the past treated me like garbage and I was so confused and heartbroken.
I actually walked away from a potential relationship with an unbeliever. It still hurts but I am sure that I made the right decision. My obedience to God comes first. It's worth the pain.
Any update to provide more inspiration?
@@HipHopIsInMyNYBlood Hi! I am now in a relationship with a Christian. :) He is my first boyfriend. :)
Study Nook I’m really glad to hear that!
Study Nook really happy to hear that
OK sorry guys. We broke up a week ago. Still coping 😔
In my experience I dated a girl, and she wasn’t a believer in Christ. (Christian). But what attracted me was her character and how interested she was about my faith. Which I was very open to her about. Christ is king in my life, and I live daily to put God first. So I dated her because we had chemistry and in this dating period she got to see my faith in action. I would answer her questions about Christ and salvation which she would always question. But she would always stay interested. And eventually she gave her life to God and proclaimed Christ as King in her life. So I married her. She’s my helper and we help each other grow in character with God. We pray together, we serve together. If she would have never came to faith then I wouldn’t have married her to put it simply. That I do agree on, but dating a non believer I see no problem. The scriptures don’t say anything about dating. Zip. Old Testament or New Testament. But it does on marriage. So having a clear understanding on what marriage is truly important. This is my story hopefully it helps somebody out there.
Also by the way, we waited for sex until marriage or anything close to it. It wasn’t easy but that’s one thing we had to make clear since the beginning.
Happy for you. Now how is your wife's faith doing? Is she still keep her faith until now? 😇
God bless you guys! I pray for Christians who have so little faith in God. God has changed the hearts of pivotal men in the bible, and yet today we doubt that God can bring people to the love and redemption of the gospel for the purpose of marriage?? I'm so encouraged by the wisdom in your testimony 💙
gin martha She’s doing well, we continue to strive to put God first in our marriage. She continues to deny herself daily in Christ, we encourage eachother in that regard to never forget the truth of the gospel. We are expecting our first baby boy in November 18th.
@Ramon Barrera I am in the same situation. I've been dating a girl who I guess you could say is an unbeliever. She grew up going to church but like many people as they got older she gave up faith, mainly due to the fact that the churches she went to weren't really true, and they were judgmental. So now she says she's "not religious" and that God may or may not exist. She has a really great heart, a terrific personality, is a girl who actually likes you for who you are, has good behavior and attitude. Basically she has the heart and character of someone who is a 'true believer,' but she just doesn't identify with faith.
Unlike "missionary relationships" - as this guy mentioned in his video and what I do know what he means - I actually don't try to convert this girl or minister to her. I did sort of drop statements to her a few times in the terms of 'planting the seed' I guess, but I didn't like doing that and I felt like I was being preachy. So all I do is live my life before her and pray that the Lord claims her heart and touches her spirit. I don't like preaching to her or trying to get her to believe in God like other Christians do.
@Ramon Barrera thanks for sharing your story. I really want to learn more how long have you got to know each other until deciding she is the right person? I am struggling with same thing that I think i am non-Christian but I am interested in the faith for long time before I met a Christian guy, and want to learn more, but I am worried that my purpose will be wrongdoing if I proclaim to God because the Christian guy I met. I have had a hard time. We were in a friendship but it has already become more than that as he likes me and I think I do like him. However, i do understand that he can't date me as I am still a non-Christian. After three weeks, he just told me that he wanted to make a decision to cut off as he doesn't think he can maintain the half-half friendship because it seems to be unhealthy. I don't know what the best way to do. Should I let him know I truly believe in Jesus and he died once for all?
You can’t change another human being only the Holy Spirit can.
THIS. Honestly, it all boils down to what the Holy Spirit Is telking you.
Yes but that doesn’t mean the Holy Spirit doesn’t work through us. I’d also argue that you can witness to unbelievers without manipulation or pushing them to change.
@@HhfGs2478 I agree.
PERIOD!!!
💯 agree
I am in this exact situation and am struggling really hard. For the first time in my life I have a real connection, real chemistry and real feelings with a guy that’s my friend. I think he feels the same. We both have weird personalities that other people don’t understand or connect with. We get each other though. He knows I’m Christian and we know we like each other, but have not dated because I told him I’m not allowed to date non Christians. This seemed to make him sad. Me also. I see him almost every day at work and It’s killing me that we can’t be together. The only thing that keeps me going is telling myself that he might get saved on his own in the future. I tell him about God and try to be a good influence on him without forcing anything on him, butI know I can’t save him, only God can. I just have a strong feeling that he will get saved sometime in the future. He has a good heart and I can’t see him being trapped in the dark forever. Satan just has a strong hold of him right now.. I pray for him every day for God to save him because I don’t want him to go to hell..Please pray for us.
why not give him a tract that explains salvation and let him make the choice? the best one is This Was Your Life by Jack Chick; u can buy them online or perhaps at your christian bookstore. go for it! My youth pastor explained salvation to my boyfriend then asked him Do you want to accept Christ? and he said yes immediately! then we went out of the church and got in the car and i said to him So! when you do want to get married? HA HA!! ya thats how it happened! 40 yrs later we are still a strong christian couple!!
this is exactly what i’m going through!! it’s very hard but at the end of the day i can’t save anyone, God decides what He wants to do and i keep having this gut feeling to wait but by waiting i feel like i’m getting my hopes up all i gotta do is keep praying.
take the dude to CHURCH!! what are you waiting for!!
Lauren i’m waiting for God’s timing and for God to move
@@cristinazapata6305 actually i was commenting to miss fluffy; but, what are you waiting for like a lightning bolt or something? Ask the dude to go to church with you; thats what i did, worked just fine. if i had waited around for some big signal from Heaven i would have never had the chance to marry the guy!
People grow in faith. I wasn't always the person I am today and I'm glad my Christian friends didn't give up on me before I came to faith.
He's talking about dating. Not friendship.
I will apply this with a lukewarm Christian as well. I dated a lukewarm Christian and it was more painful than dating an unbeliever, his attraction for the world was bigger than his love for God and it broke my heart to see him going on that path. 😓
@Dye Dye , I am not sure if you were romantically involved with him, but if you were, pray for him, love him as a brother in Christ from the distance, move on with your life, God is the only who can change people! It’s very painful to see a person you loved so much being content living in sin and distancing from the Lord more and more. It almost broke me down.
This is me rn! I’m so hurt because I love this person and I really would like us to be together. Feelings are mutual but he just doesn’t take God seriously. I know he’s genuinely saved but he just prefers to sit on the fence. He would rather relate with the world and look cool than to be a firm believer. I really don’t want to compromise because we’re not even dating yet and we’re already having clashes in ideas about Christianity. I’m so sad. I want him but I can’t have him. Sigh. I guess I have to move on.
@@treasure7278 release him to God, submit to the Lord and run from him ! Stop entertaining lukewarm Cristians, seek the Kingdom of God and wait for the godly spouse God has for you ! As of right now, you aren’t equally yoked!
I am sorry for your loss. May GOD continue to keep you and to pursue him with perfect love.
I also would add someone who claims to be Christian but doesn't really make Jesus priority enough/or who holds views which you could not submit to/agree with if relationship.were to continue. I broke up bc my ex began to show me that he would be mean and hateful to lgbtqia community. he wanted to openly harass and condemn people in very unchristlike way, and felt it okay to be hateful and proud towards others. it also just felt like I was the spiritual leader,& I just did not feel safe ever being in a position to trust my well being with him, but also couldn't accept his treatment of non believers and anybody not aligning with his beliefs or values.
My ex boyfriend is also a non-believer. I remember praying to God to change his heart but He revealed his secrets instead--that he's been cheating ever since we started the relationship. I only learned about him being a non-believer when things already got worse between us. We eventually broke up and it's the best decision so far. After that terrible relationship, I learned to guard my heart and trust the Lord with His ways. 💖
Mary Rose Raganas this very same thing happened to me too.
@@GabbityGabby Well atheist will cheat more then Christians, because most atheist have no morals and think its ok to sleep with everyone, while most Christians do not want to sleep with everyone.
@@SquidCena That's not true. Athiests do have morals. Just because your a Christian that doesn't make you better than others.
@@Angel-lu3lmWhere did she say that? Learn to read and *understand* . It’s not because you feel like sht that other people should too.
My unbelieving boyfriend left me this week because our values kept clashing and he just got tired of it. Words cannot describe just how devasted I am yet deep down I have a peace I haven't had during the entire period I was with the guy. Please pray for me!
@Sofia De Angelis Thank you so much for the scriptures! May God bless you!
The peace ❤
You probably have a soul tie. Dismantle it and thank God you didn't marry him. I married an unbeliever PRETENDING he was saved. He was into Satanism and he tried to kill me. I'm quite serious. I praise & thank the Lord he divorced me.
Stay in the presence of Jesus !! That peace is gonna be more evident as time goes on
I'm going through the same thing too
Guard your heart
1 place YHWH in your heart first
2 do not missionary date any1
3 don't make any assumptions
4 be a light by not dating them
5 keep interacting w/believers
Galatian 6:1, 1Chorint 15:33
6 pursue group set. friendships
7 be honest. How mature is your Faith with YHWH?
8 Observe the fruits s/he bears
Prioritizing God and serving our Lord in this world will never be easy.
the moment when I knew I was starting to develop feelings for my atheist guy friend, I prayed for him and the Lord's guidance for me every night. today I hung out with my friend group (he's included in the group), and I just knew my feelings for him will only continue to grow. it has been so long since I've liked a guy this much. everything about him just makes me so happy, and I just can't stop thinking about him.
it hurts a lot knowing I have to give up my feelings of him for Jesus (simply giving up on the person we really like is hard), especially when I also feel a chance of him liking me back. However, no matter how tempting it is I will continue to face the Lord and keep spreading His word.
After reading the comments, I know a lot of my dear sisters and brothers in Christ are also facing this issue; and I know it hurts a lot. Deep down I know if we all continue to glorify God, our Lord will provide, and we will be so very blessed.
so whoever is reading this please don't give up as I won't as well. God bless you and keep you
Right 👍 Its hard, but it has to be rooted in God regardless of how much you may like them.
This video really helped clear my vision on my current situation. I've never felt such a strong bond between me and a guy before. We both understood each other's stories and had a genuine friendship that i've never experienced before. I began to grow feelings but kept my walls up because he was a non-christian. I didn't think about it too heavily in the beginning, but now that I think about it, it really is a spiritual battle. Either this guy or the Lord. I came to find this video at the perfect time and I decided to choose God. I know that with this person I will be able to maintain a strong friendship, but it will be an emotionally roller coaster for a short while, and that's ok. Everything will be ok and will go according to God's plan for him and I. Thank you so much for this video.
Hi Emily,
Your comment from two years ago is exactly what I’m going through right now. I’ve been best friends with my guy for 8 years and I’m struggling but after seeing this comment it’s helped me make a better decision. ❤
Me too am going through the same situation but may the Lord help me
Good advice yet sometimes God work in mysterious ways i try to follow God guidance yet God clearly put a non believer in my life it took five years for my husband to be converted and it was the most amazing experience that we had yet i will say search God to know if that what he want you to do for he knows the end from the beginning
We have to guard our hearts no matter the other person is a believer or unbeliever.
Always keep options open, and be discerning, listen to God and His word.
I am currently having a close friendship with an unbeliever and I am not dating him yet God has been giving me so many chances to share the gospel, especially His love to him.
Pray for them, be with them, listen, be there, be a trustworthy friend and when they see God in you and their heart is softened by the Lord to receive the gospel, they would come to faith.
Keep on praying.
Keep being their friend.
Do not date!
@@Imokay1695 Thank you for your comment! God bless you!
I'm confused as to what qualifies as a date? I'm starting to get the impression that one on one time with a non believer is a date.
@@soniayoyse4978God will never do something that contradicts His Word that’s how yk never
@@jolavinci4351 why you are telling me this?
Who are you?
Dating a non christian is not worth it ever can cause so much pain and heart break.. trust me been there done that never again..
Angel Flower same.. hurtful
Take it easyyy 😂🙌
Same can happen with a believer though just to be honest.
Dating a believer can be just as painful! If not worse..
Been there too!
I believe what Gods Word says. However, I've been married three times to men who are believers. Even met my last one in Church. Everything was great until they started to change. In every case they all ended up
cheating on me and stopped going to Church. I do understand that people change on a daily basis. However, just because everything is working out in the beginning, doesn't mean someone will continue to follow Gods Word. Yes, I did Pray about this before I married them. People are not what they seem to be these days. Sad indeed.
I agree with you. Chin up. God is FAITHFUL, find peace in your single life
That is really sad and seems so unfair. Hopefully God will bring you a good Christian God loving man soon!!
Exactly
Not being rude or anything but doesn’t this mean that god is not real and not listening to your prayers. I honestly just can’t come to believe in any of this. I’m trying to change but it is so hard I need help
@@chrislongford8313 that's mad ridiculous God is real...satan is the one that changes ppl
It's more than dating a non-christian... it's dating a christian that doesn't share the same purpose that you do. You can both be Christians and not even be equally mature HORMONES GET IN THE WAY... that's why recognizing your own boundaries and limitations are so important.
Miss Kat I’m struggling with this my girlfriend says she’s a Christian and we live together but are views sexually are different. I don’t want to have sex anymore because I know the damage that’s it’s doing to us she is having a hard time understanding that my desire to not have sex is not because I’m not attractive her but because I know where I want to be in the Lord and where am at now isn’t where I want to be. Idk how to go about this because I love her and I want marriage but is having sex is pushing that possibility away because n feeling really broken about it spiritually. I’ve tried to explain it to her but she still doesn’t understand what I’m trying to say and I don’t want her to feel like I’m manipulating her what should I do.
@@kennyw3173 Go to God's word.... pray on it day and night.... and move out. Seek biblical counsel. There are wounds you have that far deeper than treating the symptoms. Pray for God to give you godly accountability, but even so, trust God's word over other people and your emotions. Remember that the heart can be wicked and our thoughts can trick us. Keep filling your mind with truth and you will be protected. Keep post it notes/ index cards of scriptures everywhere that are accessible to you. Memorize them. Accept that being a Christian is a daily battle, and you have the Holy Spirit to equip you to have CHOICE and to choose right over what's easy will win out over time.
I agree with this. We, as Christians, think being "unequally yoked" pertains only to belief in Christ, but I believe it spans other areas (not necessarily all) in your Christian walk that should be balanced.
@@AstrOT6Stars exactly. It's the same as being given a unique set of gifts. You are called to minister to some, and I won't be able to reach them and vice versa. There's a whole body of Christ for a reason, =-)
@@kennyw3173 the first problem... You're living together.
In my past life i never thought this was a big deal until i learnt the truth, now I'm waiting on the Lord and it's good to wait.
Being unequally yoked is a nightmare. Don't do it. They will tell you, as long as we love each other who cares... Don't. Just don't.
yeah that's what he told me, and even some elder sister whom i had fellowship me told me that love is the most important thing...
@@hhmaster789 Then what happened?
@@SquidCena currently we are friend and we love each other, he is very clear that I accept only a person who loves God and Bible. I’m giving him a chance because he can’t let go of me and I love him I doesn’t want to hurt him. he is willing to follow me wherever I go and follow me to believe God (thought it’s still hard for him), but slowly.
@@hhmaster789 You are giving him a wrong motive. He's trying to be someone that is not him. It is not your role to change someone. Run. Leave. And pray for someone who will share the same levels of faith as you. You should not settle for less.
@@LeeHarveyDDavid our relationship has downgraded to "colleague", i've let go and i am not trying to change him. He is deeply in love with me, i afraid if i disappear out of a sudden he could gone mad, so i give some time for this relationship to cold down.
So true, although it hurst a lot obedience to Christ comes first. The bible also comforts us by saying “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33 God bless you all, and keep your hearts and mind in his perfect peace. Amen 🙏🏾
Let me give you my advice from experience. RUN. RUN. RUN AWAY. And don't be like Lot's wife. DONT LOOK BACK!!! Missionary dating is TOTALLY unbiblical. People can pretend to be a Christian in order to keep a relationship. You must both be real Christians BEFORE you date. It is wise not to have any close relationships with non believers.
1 Corinthians 15:33. Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character"
god bless u,I need this 🤍
As a Pagan living within the Bible Belt, I'm so glad you brought up missionary dating! It's exhausting getting to know someone and feeling a connection, only for them to say that my beliefs are a sore spot for them but they "like me so much they're willing to put in the effort to convert me". As the person on the other side of that, let me say that it is hurtful and unwarranted. If you can't see yourself being with someone who isn't a Christian, don't try to make one. Find someone already appealing to you.
I am an atheist and I completely agree! People should be upfront about what’s a deal breaker for them.
@@GabbityGabby ..
I also agree. I was dating a YEC for a couple of months. Her lack of science literacy and stubbornly wilful ignorance caused my opinion of her to decline to that of a parent frustrated by an idiot child.
I just lost all respect for her. She's tried with other men. None last long.
Where I live religious faith is considered... silly.
@CJ I’m sorry to tell you this but you are not a victim of your own decisions. If you know that’s your environment then you need to be just as forward with your deal breakers as you ask of others. Tbh.
@@LeahMarshals22 yep, agreed - that's why it was in the bio of all of my dating apps. I WAS upfront. I think that was some of the appeal for missionaries.
@@CJhasgoneidle Some people see the word agnostic, athiest, pagan, in a person's bio and religious people will take male it their sole mission to try to get to connect to that person in order to convert them. That is so morally wrong. I am agnostic-athiest and just found out the guy I started talking to about three weeks ago is a devout christian who has never before dated a non-believer. Now, we may never get together because of it. I won't convert for him or anyone else, so I guess those are the breaks. 😭
Its been 20.years since i gave my life to Christ...recently i experienced a 7 month relationship with a baby Christian..for me personally i could not handle it...he was a good person but he put little effort into growing in Christ...i could not connect to him in anyway...it was very fustrating
This is good. Am blessed. I am reading the comments and am like there are still real Christians out there. We should make a group for Christian dating. That way we can meet.
Great idea
I agree, In Japan there are many ministries that are doing that, since there is a decline in population there, and in our Christian life, there is a decline in marriages with Christians. The Churches I've grown up in always have had relationships with non Christians 8/10 percent of the time...If it's God's will that I may be a father one day, I would want them to grow up with my friends children, you never know if one day they desire to start a relationship, and as parents we must support them than to separate them, even if they don't have financial stability.
So, did you start a group?
ChristianMingle...? It’s already there
Nope bad idea!
I hate myself right now please guys keep me in prayer
God loves u submit to God.
Please do not hate yourself Patricia. Your Hunan just like the rest of us. We all make mistakes. God loves you.. please try and do the same 💕.
You may feel that way one day but there is always tomorrow and a new day 😃 Look in the mirror and see how beautiful you are 😍😍😍 You are Blessed💕💕💕
God Bless you truly
I pray you don't hate yourself anymore in Jesus name. That is a trick of the enemy.
Guys don’t. Just don’t You can’t change then. Only God can. They can say that they will change but then they aren’t changing for God they are changing for you. Which is a false conversion and will end in the long run. I just broke up with my girlfriend who was as worldly as they come. And I’m telling you DONT. Don’t do it. I’m a broken man. I’m devastatingly broken. You can’t change her. As much as you try. She will only change you. Trust the lord to bring the right one into your life. Or else there’s just heart break that could have been avoided Please pray for me I need God to build me back up
Thanks for this video. I'll write this here as a warning since I have made the mistake to be with an unbeliever who said he believed in a creator but that he did not believe in the bible and I still thought it was ok to get in a relationship with him. I thought he would come around since he was raised a christian. Being in a relationship led me to having sex with him as he said he wanted to marry me and again I thought it would be 'ok'. I was basically feeling lonely and wanted to be in a relationship. But it was not ok.
I got pregnant and after a discussion, he decided to leave and said he never wanted a relationship with me ever again in life. He said he still wants to be a dad but also proposed to live together. I am torn since I wished to have a family with both mom and dad and a stable marriage but know I can not live with him since he is an unbeliever (and would want to live together only 'as friends') and since we never married in the first place. Biblically you can not be unequally joked, as they can bring you further and further from your believes and carry you away from the heavenly Father, so I can not live with him and will have to deal with the responsability of raising this child in the faith and at the same time trying to what is right in all things. Please don't make my mistake, the FAther in heaven has grace but the consequences are real. And if you wish to pray for the Father of the baby so that his eyes be opened, feel free.
In my point of view problem was with you not with unbeliver. Because if you had relationship, so God trusted you that you can overcome all temptation. So we are responsible what we are doing. Maybe God wanted to test your heart beacause you was praying with prayers: God test my heart and show me all my sins or with prayers of Isiah: Here i am Lord send me to this who needs my help. But you failed. Sister test your heart. Surely there selfishness , pride, jealousy, and other sins. Im also now suffering but i need overcome , its so hard, but at least God showed me how my heart is black
Love is not taking but sacrificing yourself as God did sacrificing His Son. Did you sacrifice yourself for this man? Love is not expecting something good that you can recieve but giving something good so people could see your light. Im trying sacrificing but im not doing good it hurting me but Gods will is to be light for people without expecting something good
Hi, I can relate to parts of your message. How are you doing now?
I was lonely and wanted a man's attention whom I liked, even though I wasn't going to go back to him, well I went back. He so beleives somewhat in a god, but not a Bible reader/church goer. Anyways, he wanted sex and I gave it to him as I wanted his love. That didn't work. Then I realised I could be pregnant and when we had an online argument /conflict type scenario, he would act out saying he is moving or telling me to get an abortion. The abortion part was very painful. I think he didn't want to be a dad and also to be with me. He would contradict himself with me, leading me on to beleive he wants to be with me or telling me he won't marry me, different times. I can't remember all the details now. This was one year ago. Anyways so I didn't go back to him even though he would ask me to see him throughout the entire year. From his track record, he will take me for my body and leave. He would also have female friends and keep telling me their his friends and yet he didn't even want me as a friend. It was horrible. Currently I feel a little bitter thinking how some women have attractive, kind, faithful husbands and others don't. Is it gods will? And I also always longed for a stable family of my own, since I was little. My parents divorced and it was very devastating. God bless you. Xoxo , sending well wishes to you and baby and the dad too.
Awww I’m so sorry :(( how are things going now for you?
I understand now how Paul went from calling himself “the least of the Apostles” near the beginning of his Christianity to “the worst of all sinners “ near the end of his life….as an older Christian, I thank you for speaking correctly…temptations, simple & complex, try us every day.
Wow this was very much needed. I’m in a situation right now where the majority of my environment is not strong in faith or in faith at all, and I’m starting to be interested in certain people around me. I have been trying my best to put God first but keep telling myself that I can help the person I like to come to Jesus. I know that this is not the path I should be taking, and this video really helped me get that firm and clear in my mind. I think I like the idea of getting to know this person better but staying friends and being rock solid in the word of God as to not be persuaded to a worldly path. Hopefully by doing this, I can witness to this person as well as other people around me. It can be disheartening to realize that there are no Christians or people who even care about being a Christian, but if you carry the presence of the Lord these people will attract to you like magnets.
Hey Anna, I'm in a situation where there are almost no believers in my direct environment so I understand how you must feel. It is very easy to get influenced and to walk down the wrong path and I would strongly advise you to be very careful. As for myself I have made a big mistake due to this and will have to face the consequence now (basically got into a relationship with a guy, he said he believed in a creator but not in the bible so I thought it might be 'ok' to continue in a relationship, then fell into temptation having sex with him and will have to face single motherhood now because he left me and because I have come to the realization that it was never 'ok' to begin with.) Please take care.
Guard your heart... That's a very useful guidance. Thank you!!
My pleasure!
This is the first I am looking into scripture for these answers, as I had not expected to fall in love with a non believer. But I knew something felt right, when he is extremely respectful and supportive of my faith. I had a feeling it wasn’t wrong to stay with him. And I found 1 Corinthians 7:12-16
“But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her. And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy. But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace. For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?”
I Corinthians 7:12-16 NKJV
I know everyone approaches it differently and I’m still proceeding in the relationship with believer caution. and still have to learn his true values and beliefs on parenting. But even his comments on, I’d stay home with the dog, because I know you’d want to take the kids to church. This gave me a bit of comfort now that I feel I don’t have to brush him off just for the sole reason of not being a Christian. I will continue to ask God for his guidance and I am praying for him always for God to turn his life around towards him, but I know that’s something I cannot control. Pray for me if it’s in your hearts as well. This is still a struggle.
I know this comment you made was 5 months ago, I hope you are doing okay. I am going through something like this as of now. I'd like to pray for you
Is he your husband? If not, be very careful.
I’m in this same exact situation where I’m in love with a non-believer who not only respects my faith, but adamantly encourages my walk with Christ. We’re even reading a Christian apologetics book together. He’s also in love with me and is open to Christ, but just hasn’t reached the point of believing. I surrender this relationship to God everyday. I too am not convinced that God doesn’t want us together. I also proceed with believer caution. Please pray for me if you see this message.
Yeah it was so sad after the breakup.
And that time, there are times I was crying...but I choose to be more closer to God, to pray more, to read more of His word, to let other believers minister to me, and I'm asking the Holy Spirit to control my mind and I believe God will heal me from the pain. I choose to obey Jesus. I have to move on and I just pray that the guy will be saved one day.
So good! My favorite part was to not date someone you like so that you won’t contradict yourself and what you believe. If you care and like this person you won’t want to hurt them by confusing them in how you walk with God. At the same time guarding their heart & not leading them on!!
As a Christian myself, I would only marry a Christian woman. I would never marry a non-Christian because I will NOT forsake my bond with God.
There's a guy I like (this is long distance), he's not Christian, but we click a lot. I've shared with him and broke down exactly why I believe in Jesus and Christianity, a full-length discussion and answer his apologetics related questions etc.
First of all, I like him, but I never told him that I do (I care for him as a friend), and have been praying for him, 'cause I know "we can't be together" anyway. Not entirely sure what to do with my feelings, but I appreciate the friendship we have.
It's tough because he likes me, but there's just too many things to consider aka 1) him not being a believer 2) the distance
It's a hard pill to swallow.
I haven't told him I liked him back, but he likes me too.
I just don't know what to do with my feelings. I wanna honor God, but also be able to reach out to him without having such missionary dating motives.
Well, technically, we're not dating, he just admitted a few times that he likes me but never said it back.
Any advice on how to maintain this friendship and also guarding my heart (while ministering to him)?
We're both in our mid-20s.
Thank you so much for this channel. MEANS A L OT.
Praise God for this, your ministry. You people like us a lot.
If you both like each other, it’s going to be very hard to be friends, and I think a long distance friendship could just be a waste of your time. Earlier this year I really liked a guy who wasn’t a Christian and he really liked me, but I realized that I can’t be friends with him. I have to pray and trust that someone else will minister to him, because it is too tempting for me to maintain a friendship with him. And if it’s long distance, keeping in contact would also take away time from real-life friendships. So I know how hard it is 😢 (I’m still sad about this guy, months later), but God is more important to me, and I don’t want to kid myself that God needs ME to be the person to witness to the guy. Hope that helps!
To add, I really like Mark’s point about witnessing to the person by not dating them. When I told the guy that I can’t see him anymore because of my faith, I shared about why my relationship with God is the first priority in my life, not just because it’s a religious thing, but because I love God. I pray that this conversation was a way for God to use me, and after that I can’t be friends because it’s not wise to invest my heart in this friendship.
@@LearningtheHarp Yes, this is why I refuse to tell him I like him, 'cause I know what it entails. I am still unsure whether or not to keep this friendship, if I'm simply rationalizing to be able to keep this or not. I've grown tired and weary of all my friendships with the opposite sex, whom I click and connect with the most, not working out. I've already surrendered a 2 year friendship I had with with an unbeliever, whom I liked for years. And I'm really just....tired. I just hope I'm not walking in disobedience.
Hi Juju, I understand you. But I disagree with the comment that says having a long-distance close friendship will rob the time off our real relationships. That only happens if we idolize/get obsessed by the other person.
I still have meaningful relationships and real friends, God is still no.1 and I am not dating him. Well, there are no strong feelings apparently... Just feelings of gratefulness to have a deep connection with another friend who is willing to learn about Christianity and Jesus.
Guarding my heart has been hard normally, but with my band of sisters giving me prayer support and God actually giving me the strength and showing me ways to share the good news with him as a dear friend, makes my love even grow deeper in Christ. I get to see the bible in such a whole new perspective and have compassion for the lost like never before.
Cling to God, sis and bro.
Rest in Him.
Don't try to evangelize ppl with our own strength.
Because if it is His will, He will bring them to you.
@@Juju-tw7we Hi Juju! I'm in a pretty similar situation right now and the difference is I've actually travelled over the distance and we have dated for 3 months. But now I'm feeling the conviction to stop but I'm still in a mess because I feel like this relationship is too early to end- I haven't had enough conversations with him about Christ and not even a chance to bring him to church.
I was wondering how is your situation now? Any updates or maybe testimonies that could shed some light into my situation? Thanks!
As someone who was lost in this world , had a one year relationship with someone who was also lost, it was scary. Later on into that relationship I connected with God , but he was someone I had to let go. He didn’t believe what I did , ( he was catholic ), I told him as a Christian I had to be w/ someone Christian . He agreed to “conform to Christianity”, but in reality never did which I now know understand. He lied to me later on into the relationship , leaving me in pain because I tried to help him in many occasions but a part of him disliked hearing about God helping him.
I’m not single and able to focus on our Heavenly Father , as someone who went out with individuals who were lost into this world , know it’s not worth it . It’s not worth being with someone who doesn’t follow God like you do, or anyone who is toxic to you! :) God bless
Wow all thanks to God, my question have been answered❤
I've been fighting with my mind about this but all thanks to God it's answered.
It’s so strange. It’s like God is testing me right now. There are 2 guys in my life showing an interest. One is agnostic and the other is Christian. I’m really attracted to the agnostic one and not attracted to the Christian one. I asked God- “Why do you bring people into my life I either don’t want or can’t have.” I just hope He will bring someone in my life I both want can have.
Sometimes it’s not God bringing these guys but the devil to distract you
Ended my 6 years of relationship with my non-believer boyfriend 2 years ago but yes, I still can’t move on and get into any relationship yet and he was suffering alot too . But few days back I heard that he is now finally seeing someone now . Well , it hurts so much that I started questioning my decision again . But yes , my love for God will win over and over again. Im sure he is with me on this . Pray for me if you see this comment, I really need it 🙏🏻
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You can't move on because you probably had sex. You were illegally married in the spiritual realm & Satan concocted a soul tie. Learn about this and dismantle it. Repent and you will be free. Carry on and don't get into relationship unless God says yes.
Aw mahn.... This is sadder than what I'm going through. I hope you are doing okay now
This is the ABSOLVE best advice I have heard on the topic so far.
God bless!
I wish I could have seen this video before marrying my soon to be ex. I married an atheist because we had been a couple before I got saved, had two kids, broke up, when we were broke up I got saved, and then people at my church started saying we needed to get married because being married meant I could witness to him. He dragged me down so low that I started questioning the existence of God. Now we have three kids and are going through a divorce after he had an affair and it had come out that he had actually had numerous affairs.
That’s a sad story.. but it happens in Christian marriages too.
i’m dating this guy and he believes there a higher power but doesn’t believe in God. and he told me he’d change for me to keep the relationship and i just don’t think that’s right. this video has helped me so much.
Thank you. Battling conflicting thoughts and emotions on this topic right now.
I'm at this stage in my life right now, it's very heart breaking, laying down something you want for something your spirit needs. My advice to others is don't even start or consider dating a non-Christian to start with. You will hit a cross roads if you're truely listening to Jesus and as we know, he always wins in your heart eventually. It's so painful so don't do it, trust me.
Amen love you
Always been in this same stage but different people at different times. I'm still waiting for God to show me my Christian future husband.
I was not a Christian, I am married already with a non-beliver, then I converted into a Chistian by God's will. It happened 2 nights ago, very quickly, suddently God came to me at middle night and changed me. I am not sure what to do. Dear God, please give me guidance, Amen.
How do you tell an unbeliever that you can't date them because they aren't a Christian?
You meet someone and you really hit it off, but the only red flag is their spiritual status. If you distance yourself, you're going to have to explain why. Saying that you're a Christian and have to maintain an "only Christian" standard may sound legalistic, judgemental and may hurt your witness. How would you do it?
Joshua Lewis ask God to show you signs of her being prone to live a Godly life
That's not correct about sounding legalistic and judgmental. An unsaved person wouldn't even really understand those terms so therefore they can't stand on them. Just like he was saying if you haven't made up your mind when an unsaved person is interested in you, that person will make it up for you! And the biggest damage to your Witness is not standing up and saying who you are and what you believe in Christ Jesus. BELIEVE me, I'm a single woman, I've had to have this conversation many times with interested, unsaved men. while I probably have had some responses from very hurt egos, at least I am thankful to the Lord to know that I stood on my relationship with Christ and in my position in HIM.
Its very simple just to say that law of God does not let him marry non christian. Thats it. Thats why i am single becouse there is no christian girls.
I did it.many times organically.
Nonbeliever: hey want to go to a party tonight?
Me: I'm not into that type of party. I'm going to facedown tonight at my church. Want to come?
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Nonbeliever: hey want to watch a movie?
Me: sure, what movie do you have in mind.
Nonbeliever: Hellraiser
Me: awwe, I don't watch movies that elevate the devil. I'll watch Courageous or Fireproof. Want to watch any of those with me?
You get the jist. They'll do too.
@@323azteca hey, i like the example. Thank you!
Here I like this non-believer guy my friend, I think he wants to get me to the next level but I said to him that I am not sure... so We remain friends and I just want to be the light for him... even when we quarel I apologize first.
Even though it is hard to think that he might be with someone else one day but I do pray the best for him and one day may he get to know and have faith in Jesus even if we are not meant for each other.
For me this has always been a struggle. I have never dated anyone with my faith unfortunately not bc I did not want too but they seem to be few and far between. I live in Portland Or and to find someone who doesn't drink every week and believes in God is like looking for a needle in a haystack. Came to the realization that maybe I am not meant to find someone, or maybe I need to move somewhere else...lol
Wait for God! ☺️❤️
This is already helping me so much, Jesus comes first, thank you.
If you're asking if you should be with someone who doesn't believe and isn't willing to open their heart enough to keep trying, I'm going to personally give the simple answer as no. I've been in a relationship for 8 years, had sex out of wedlock, and we have 2 precious boys now. I have heard God calling me for the last 6 months and have become more and more convicted by God. These past two weeks I finally got compelled to fully repent by the grace of God. Due to her strong beliefs to try and live a life without Jesus, I had to make a stand for God. Right now I feel like I'm in hell. I have been crying uncontrollably and praying for God to reach her heart. Today God told me to let her go. I am in pain. She doesn't want Jesus in my boys life and i am struggling to find the right words to keep them close to me and Jesus. Please pray for us.
Oh wow, thanks brother. You don't know HOW right on time this is for me. GOD MAY BLESS Y'ALL! ✨❤️
So glad it was timely for you
When we delight ourselves in the Lord He will give us the desires of our hearts. You shouldn't have to compromise who you are because if that person is the one God has chosen for you, he or she will already be a believer. You'll wind up with regret and find yourself compromising by trying to walk in synch with that person and not fulfilling your true destiny in Christ Jesus. You can still be a light to that person without dating them.
I've been in that position, and for me they were tolerant of my beliefs as friends. After we dated however, she would go from not supporting my beliefs to outright mocking them. Finding someone who also believes in God (and other things you value) goes a long way, creating happier relationships.
Awsome video!
Bottom line, stay grounded in Christ.
This kind of thing really needs to be out there and more accessible to young people today. Many are going to make the unequal yoke mistake because they just don't know. I didn't know, and I've always been a Christian, but I totally fell away since my parents weren't into it and only one friend, one aunt and one uncle that were, thank God for them, and that's still the case, and I'm 50 now, with one practicing friend, and same aunt and uncle. Kids today are not being exposed to the mistakes they can make that affects their whole lives. It's tragic. And it does cause marital problems, and you are drug down into darkness and sin with them.
You don't know how much God has used you to bless me😮
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! All glory to God and thank you for sharing this :)
Amen. Thank God that I have followed these before I even saw this video.
It's still the best to entrust God still in everything.
God bless!
Hello Mark ! I'm still enjoying your content ! God Bless! You are so right on these points ! I learned the hard way !!!
So glad you are enjoying the content :)
I am a non-believer. I grew up around unbelieving parents, but my grandma was always passionate about teaching me about Christ. At some point, I reviewed my life and decided that I don't think God exists. I really like someone right now, and they are a Christian. I have searched so many articles and videos and even went to my old bible that my grandma got me, but I still feel fake. I want to believe in Christ, but I don't. I can't make myself believe, but I desperately wish I could. It's an odd limbo in trying to convince myself that I could be a devout Christian and thinking that even if I did, I wouldn't be a true Christian. I would say I am agnostic. There could be a God, but there might not be. I've always thought religion is a beautiful thing. I just can't believe it all. I don't believe that the bible is the word of God. I don't believe in Adam and Eve or Jesus or the existence of God himself. If he existed, why would he care? The guy I like doesn't know. We aren't dating yet, but I think he likes me. He is so perfect. I couldn't care less that he is a christian. I think his faith is beautiful and I would go to church every Sunday as a non-believer if I'm right about him. (I understand non-believers shouldn't go to church like that.) I'm terrified that I will never know for sure if we had a real thing because he'll walk away once he figures out that I'm not a christian. I don't feel like I should talk to him about this. Most of my thoughts about life align perfectly with the way Christians tend to think people should live, just without the belief. If I continue with my disbelief, I will lose so many possible relationships, including this one. But if I choose to believe, I wouldn't be a true believer. I think there would always be doubt. I'd never be a good Christian. It would be for a guy.
I know the internet can't really help, but I am struggling. Church wouldn't fit my life now. I'm scared to talk to him. If someone out there cares, please give me some advice. I don't know where to go.
I'm going through this now it feels so right but I know it's not as he doesn't know God although his mum is a Christian..I feel led to him it's so confusing the chemistry between us is so powerful I don't know how long I can control myself I just want to be with him it hurts I feel so alone & I'm surrounded by non-believers no one understands 😭💔
That's some tough love... but I think you're right, at least in my case :s I'm praying I will be able to submit to God's will for my life. Until now, what he wanted me to do never failed me!
Thank you...I'm struggling with this right now.
So glad it was helpful to you!
Me too :(
@Fossil farmer 88 Dating a nonbeliever will Not end badly every time, because there are Christians and nonChristians who have great relationships together.. however, a nonChristian can and in many cases, does, draw the Christian's allegiance away from God therefore putting distance between the Christian and God. The Christian begins to care more about their relationship than of their obedience and relationship with God💖 One step in the wrong direction can lead to a great distance away from the One who knows us Best and loves us MOST, and Knows what is best for us not just for a short time but for all of ETERNITY🙏💖🙏
God's done it again, I was wondering about this situation and what the wisest thing to do would be
This popped up moments a go, this is truly wise counsel to the singles in life, I remember how intensely lonely I felt and I did some of the things in this video, and it turned into catastrophe. I wish I had this teaching then but computers were in its infancy days. Please be cautious singles, please be cautious.
I have a huge crush on a man that is most likely not Christian. He’s from a country that is heavily Muslim. I can’t outright ask him because I can’t pursue him right now as we have a professional relationship that will end in May. Anyway, I knew if I looked I would find a video from AGW that would help me get over this crush. Your videos always help me to keep my heart focused on the correct middle eastern man.
I so needed to rehear this. God bless you and thanks for this video.
May God bless you with your wonderful witnessing, Mark. May your wife be blessed as well. Incredible to see the maturity that you both have at such young age.
Thank you for your Biblical advice Mr. Mark. It's really helpful for young Christian's. Aside from friends and workmates who are non Christian's, I also have families who practice other Faith's. You are so right in saying that we should encourage them to come to a Christian community as opposed to us Christian's going to Non Christians events. Thanks again.
Currently moving on from a friend who's not a Christian. He is actually really nice but I have to cut off right away inorder me to be guarded cause I think it's the best way to do it. If we think we are standing strong, let us be careful not to fall. Though he crosses my mind from time to time but I have to resist it and divert my attention. Shared Jesus to him though. May he encounter Christ. Godbless everyone.
I just left a relationship with a non believer but I’m honestly still having a hard time accepting it was the right decision to make. We both initially believed in God but as time went on a lot happened in her life and when she recently lost her grandmother she decided that she doesn’t believe in god anymore and doesnt have any interest. This was heartbreaking to hear but I knew I couldn’t move forward with the relationship. Apart of me feels like maybe this was just a rough period in her life and she’ll find her way back to god but I also understand that I can’t stay mainly because of that.
Hi Jon, maybe just pray about it and pray for her as well. I realize that when someone is not so mature in the faith, some hard moments in life make them question God's intentions in their lives. They definitely need to grow and mature in the faith. On whether you should have left, keep praying, if it was meant to be, it can and will still come around i believe.
My grandmother died. My dad. I didn't forsake the Lord. Leave her be.
I have a friend that I didn’t know (but it appears to me now that he) liked me, I was just witnessing to him whenever I had an opportunity. I will say that at the very beginning I thought maybe I did like him, but it was very soon made clear through getting to know him more as a friend that we would not be good for each other; the most important thing being that he wasn’t a believer. I was witnessing to him throughout the friendship, and at one point it felt like we were best friends. I asked him if he would be okay if I bought him a Bible and he seemed overjoyed! He read the gospel of John and Genesis - Exodus on his own. I thought it was great to hear! But it seemed that he only thought of Christianity because he liked me, so now it seems he doesn’t really talk about God’s Word anymore (of course I don’t know his heart either). We don’t talk very often anymore. So I completely understand not trying to get into a relationship to change someone; I would never want to do that. Especially after experiencing this, I know that becoming a believer in Christ this way may not stick with that person if they only did it to be with you.
yes, thinking from a guy’s perspective , yeah he only wanted to convert to christianity just for the sake of you, not a genuine conversion. Only a godly christian man can pursue a serious christian relationship with a godly christian woman both having a personal relationship with God ✝️
Do not BE *DECEIVED* by satan’s counterfeits as there are *MANY* distractions in the world out there. Do not be led by your own emotions, your own flesh because Satan’s path is filled with deception at the beginning and at the end of the road, it’s only death
I jumped this ooops... please pray for me but its been a really great video tho
God Bless you truly
i just had my heart mangled by a Christian man. he moved fast. initially, he was amazing and kind. i met his kids and he met my family. i told him all about my spiritual beliefs on our first date and he was so intrigued and impressed, but he didn’t tell me he was a Christian until 2 months into dating. everything was perfect! we saw eye to eye on everything, we had things in common, and our intimacy was like nothing i’ve ever experienced. he suddenly expressed that my spiritual practices are not of God and that he can’t date me anymore. i feel so deceived, used and heart shattered. missionary dating is selfish and abusive. if you are Christian, please don’t go around hurting people who don’t practice faith the same way as you.
There seems to be a lot more women in church circles than men! How can we expect equal yoking.. when the ratio almost feels like 1 potential guy for every 50 girls?? Feels like hoping against hope for sure??
Then there’s issues to deal with such as competition, jealousy and hatred from other women, when you somehow end up dating or hanging with that one potential guy in the group! It just feels messed up!!!
And then guys that act like they are on a freaking pedestal, cuz they are this one special guy amongst this school of women around ...
Feels easier to missionary date & get a guy saved than it is to find a solid Christian guy within a church setting!
Thank you for this. This was helpful
Hi Mark. Thanks a lot. I am blessed by listening to this video. I really like point two because I was actually doing that and it got me into trouble. Trying to stop all forms of communication but it seems difficult. Wow! Thanks a lot. God bless you immensely. The whole video is an instruction I needed.
Never hear of missionary dating but that is a very interesting title. I grew up in a home where my Mother thought she would convert my Father and married him. Every Thursday, he went to the movie theatre by himself and every Saturday, he went to the local dance hall by himself. It was a small community so he knew all the neighbours and liked to socialize. On Sundays my Father went to his own church which did not teach being born-again and my Mother took us children to her church that taught born-again. Our home was very divided and continually full strife and hypocrisy. All the children had very distorted ideas about religion and God and married unbelievers. When God stated in his word to not be unequally yoked, it was serious matter that affects children and generations. When a believer marries a non-believer, you put yourself under Satanic bondage.
Just say unless you are radical Jesus Freak I will not date you. I was asked about this from one of my non Christian coworkers and I said unless she put Jesus at the absolute center of her life, I can not date or purse her.
Thanks for sharing :)
^^ This
tskjesusfreak Amen, if perfect is too much to ask for than I'll be alone. I'm not risking my soul. Hope you find her brother. God bless
So wise and true. I have realized when unequally yoked it's very hard to even talk about anything other than superficial topics like the weather and work. But being in a community group at my church there's a big difference. it's so nice to be able to share freely about what I'm learning about Jesus with another person and not have to worry about them being offended and knowing that they will understand me. I have Let go of this "situationship" mentally but still care for the person n feel compelled to reach out and check on them and pray for them but it's hard because then those feelings keep pulling. And they are avoiding "the talk" i think because we care for each other and don't want to lose ea other. I want to be free to pursue a relationship with Jesus above all else and His will though. I pray for their sake they will surrender to God i hate seeing people hurting...
I'm not perfect so I take that back, but someone forgiving who loves God, that's perfect marriage wise.
Have been talking to a guy that I like and he asked me out on a date. I am very involved in my church and go 3 days a week. I have mentioned it to him and he has not shot it down or commented on it. I do believe he likes me. I will use the time we will spend together to ask him of his religion and his intentions. I get way too excited in the beginning of relationships, even platonic. I have had friends that have told me not to date to save. I agree. Please pray for me Mark.
This is what I need to know right now!!! Thank you so much 👍
My pleasure!
heard this way toooooo late. never again... never again..
This came just in time. Stay blessed and thank you for the information and advice.
So glad it was timely!
This video meticulously explains all the possible scenarios. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for the pep talk, Mark. It’s keeping me focused.
I walked away from a 10 year relationship with children to a non believer. He was abusive but it still hurt. I put it off for years because I knew it would be so painful. God has been so patient with me. I made the right decision for me and the children. Life is beautiful again. Luckily I never married him so I'm now free to marry but he will have to be a Spirit filled Christian.
I enjoyed this video very much. What is your take /teaching for women above 40 and still beliving God for marriage. Am 45 single and still beliving God for a spouse though there is no sign of any. Please pray for me because i do not want to spend the rest of my life single neither do i want to make mistakes out of desperation. Thanks
When we met I was not fully a believer but I have always been effective to God's commandments,Later I have grown to be a strong believer but for Him he is stil a non believer....he drinks n he is a narcissist but my worry kids are involved
...more of prayers for God's eye opening it's so much for my soul to guard my heart....Pls keep us in your prayers
Great points 📝📝📝
Always helping us bro 😩😩😩❤️❤️❤️
God bless!
Thanks Mark for this video, it's a blessing having these tips and pray that the Holy Spirit will guide me to do this in my life. I am in a season of unwanted singleness and I know that I would love to have a partner with whom I can settle down and build a future but as many people will have already commented there's a lack of Christian men out here that will actually practice and obey to God words or loads of them that used to be and for personal reasons or failures abandoned and are now rejecting God and feel that they are in charge of their own life.
Excellent Video..... Learned so much and got to Know the Truth..... Glory to God..... Hallelujah
Good stuff!!
but youre not changing them, in the first place you're saving them
exactly
Only god saves
Hi … there is a thing that still doesn’t make sense for me .. my mother married my father .. they are both Christian and they got divorce two years ago .. my sister got married to a Christian man .. and they are getting a divorce .. my friend from church “she is in the sing stage “ ended up her relationship with her awesome “singer chrisitian boyfriend “ because he doesn’t wanna marry her now .. the pastors from my other church are getting a divorce .. what can we say to this ??? I have been analyzing this things .. and honestly I can say … with a Christian or not Christian that things can go wrong … being a Christian is not a guarantee that it will never end … if a person really Loves God and really loves you and she or he is Loyal to you is what it matters … all these people got God’s confirmation about “getting together and marriage “ and look at them getting a divorce … I have seen so many Christian marriages in my church that they don’t even hold their partners hands … they don’t have any compliments for their partner .. they are just focus in serving in the ministerial that they even don’t kiss their partners … I have seen more non Christian marriages and couples love so hard to their partners and their children and homes than the people from my church and in general …
Can you say for sure their marriage was confirmed by God? Also just because we are Christians doesn't mean we are perfect. Although thats not an excuse. Do we make mistakes, yes. We, as Christians, are not a private club of perfect people, we’re a community of forgiven sinners.
However, I know many christian couples who have long loving marriages. You can't look at others marriages and compare, you don’t know their struggles and weaknesses, within their marriage so how can you compare and say non Christian have better marriages because they show love to each other. You don't know what happens behind closed doors. Focus on how you will be different with your marriage. Follow God and make that a foundation in your own relationships.
Why are relationships as a child of God so hard? Sure, I know why. But why is a non-believer more appealing than your brothers and sisters?
Why do the 'believers' (most) turn to be liars and manipulators, yet they are the ones we are told to date and marry?
Why does the non-believer (some) check all the boxes, but the only flaw they have is they don't have Christ in their life?
Why does it hurt to let them go?
Why do some have success than others when they date non-believers?
How do you maintain a holy relationship with someone you are physically and sexually attracted to, yet connection must be maintained?
Why is there so much pressure to get married?
I have so many questions, questions that have multiple answers to that make you so confused, but you have to trust God. God first, always, no matter what. Oh God, please give us strength!
Number 4 is everything to me!!! Thank you Mark!!
The man I have fallen for who is a non Christian is supporting my Christian beliefs riddle me that?
Same sis
Thank god he made it easy for me !!! He was just after my body so from the get go I was running away..
My viewpoint is that choosing to purposefully avoid anyone of a specific religion or lack thereof for dating is no less shallow than choosing to say you should never date someone of a different race or a different hair color or because they aren’t as hot as someone else. That’s not to say those opinions are invalid, but don’t pretend like they are anything less than subjective bias. Love someone based on their character first, everything else second. A Christian who is a jerk is not automatically better for you than an atheist who is a wonderful person, just as the reverse is also true.
Thank you Jordan it's nice to see a more open minded comment here 🙂
Thanks for that, it’s definitely true on my end. My agnostic boyfriend loves and treats me better while the christian guys I dated in the past treated me like garbage and I was so confused and heartbroken.
"Put God First above all else." ✅️
Amen!
Again your production value is on point! You never fail to impress 😀
So glad you enjoyed it!
So many thumbs up! Great tips!