Secret Service Agent Teaches How To GAIN RESPECT & TRUST From Anyone | Evy Poumpouras
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True. Every weakness will be used against you. Quiet and listen.
So glad to hear someone confirm this! I’ve never felt comfortable sharing details of my life with coworkers. There are very few I can trust.
Then coworkers say you’re unfriendly because you don’t share every detail of your personal life
It's true it's hard at work because people are super competitive
@@annabanzon313 Not only that, they get joy from gossiping. 🤨
@@MNP208 that is just loww
@@MNP208Right!? That’s all they ever do. Also they always want to do a damn happy hour! I figured out that our old boss had no life outside of work and used the constant happy hours to get away from his home life 😂😂😂
We have two ears and one mouth, so we should listen more than we say. Period.
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Amen honey bun 💕
Say it louder for the people in the back of the room not listening and paying attention 👏🏿👍🏿🎆
@@GreatnessClips. IRONIC. Then why didn’t you ? You never shut up and kept interjecting to the point I wanted to throw my phone across the room. Control yourself.
Im gonna use that!
Don't be vulnerable. Be Competent.
"Have more than you show, speak less than you know.” - William Shakespeare.
wow ... all great men advised that ....
“Don’t speak with your hands” , “or feet”
why so , in godfather marlon brando used hands also @@guysumpthin2974
48 laws of power , law number # 4
A great man was once named Mr Sum Ting Wong
When talking to new people, before you open your mouth ask yourself "does this person need to know what I'm about say?"
That is a good advise. Thank you.
Never show your weakness it’s a jungle out there!!!
So basically don’t leave the house if you can avoid it, because I have no interest in living in a world like that with “people” like THAT, who behave more like animals, not people. I swear the ONLY reason I would love to get rich is so I never had to take on a job EVER and could just stay home… for no other reason than jobs come with “people” and all that insane juggling that one has to do around them so as not to get eaten. It is like in the jungle, gotta be careful with the vicious apes.
0:58 I was always told *'you're not vulnerable'.* I tried working on that.
What really changed for me was when I realized *I have to feel safe with you* to become vulnerable.
The people in my life were gossipers, self-absorbed, critical, bad listeners, not caring but only curious/nosey etc....
No wonder I didn't feel safe to open up.
Now I'm very discerning about whom & when I share my life & vulnerabilities with.
True.
Yep! and always listen to your gut. You might now know why you feel the way you do but trust that your body recognizes something that hasn't gotten to your brain yet.
I was told as a child to not reveal too much of your thoughts. Listen more than blab especially if you don’t absolutely need to reveal something about yourself. It has stayed with me all life long.
I’m kind, I treat everyone with respect, and I’m not standoffish but I don’t walk around revealing more than needed recklessly or freely.
Hard to find genuine people in life. Not sure if it’s a book on Machiavellism, or social despotism. Personally I find people constantly only think of themselves and their agendas, where their ensuing covert nibbles aren’t acknowledged and when they are, it’s its imagination and self-serving selfishness disguised as the purging of oppressed anger.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻… you’re welcome
I swear, in a furniture store a young, gay salesman who I’d briefly spoken with a few times during my shopping trip, managed to tell me about his husband, how much the husband spent on their furniture (a lot), all sorts of stuff then in our last chat on the way out downloaded his family’s achievements, and then the fact that one though, (an uncle I think he said) had SA him….yes. A furniture salesman told me he’d been S. Assaulted. All I wanted was a damn TV cabinet.
He felt comfortable with me because we did hit it off, I thought he was cute and funny. I’m old enough to be his mom or his granny. My head was reeling.
I'm 56 and I want this woman to be my mum just to help me navigate the rest of my life! So amazing 🤗🇦🇺
Glad you enjoyed it and that it is helpful for you!
She will be interviewed on "Mike Drop" today well depending on when you see this comment 3/17/2024 ! I had not heard of her before but saw a 5 min clip and she captivated me immediately ! Cheers God Bless. "Mike Ritland or Mike Drop"
then sadly you have wasted 56 years of living....
It’s hard to believe how easily people are swayed by convincing people. Remember, there are other valid opinions out there. While we do need to listen emphatically, self disclosure and being vulnerable send important signals to the other side that their “counsellors” are real people, not super people. They struggle like we do and if they managed to function and “survive”, so can we.
If you still feel you need a parental figure to hand hold you, perhaps you need to need to learn to have more confidence in yourself
Absolutely brilliant, most people don't learn these communication skills until they reach 40+. Sometimes you just need to listen.
I'm learning that less is more with people and I mean giving them more time to show me who they are rather than showing who I am all the time and expecting people to reciprocate. 🎉
When I first met my husband’s mom she would always ask me personal questions about my life. When I opened up to her because she made me think that I could trust her. Once I opened her she went and told everyone everything about me. It’s been 3 years since I’ve talked to her and cutting her out of my life has been the best choice I ever made.
Impressively clear voice. Emotionally smart too.
The essence I took from this (+ another interview with her) is "Everybody is different" so "Pay attention" when talking with people and BUILD an understanding of that person
I need to learn this soo much, basically to Keep to myself. World just wait for you to open-up & bang its used against you, its gossiped against you. 😢
Back in my day a lot of this advise was just common courtesy. We have lost our way in our society, basic manners are gone.
Good way to put it ! Common courtesy.
Truth. I'm embarrassed for those with no manners because we all know that they can learn to respect themselves and show that true respect to others and within oneself.
Hey look man...times change.....can't fight the train
I’ve Ben working for same company for 16 years and the only thing they know about me is that I have daughters and grandchildren and that’s it!
Awww so sorry Lewis to hear about your father 🙏🏼 sending you lots of love and prayers 💜
So how many times did you pray? See…dont lie
Vunerability isnt about over sharing its about being able to be authentic with yourself, not hiding amazing parts of you away from the world that you chooose to share. Its about freedom and liberation. Yes when your in company that is narcissistic you need to be very careful what you share as they will use it against you! Being vunerable can be pausing and exseriencing the world in stillness and quietness, oversharing is too often a trauma response.
I can't tell you how much I have learnt from Evy, she is my mentor, My go to is becoming bullet proof when I need advice, I find the topic and go straight to those pages, thank you for sharing this with us Lewis xxx
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I admire Evy, I think she's great! ☺️
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"Have a filter!" Say it louder!
Top advice here. Especially about not having a physical object between you e.g. a desk or table. In personal relating situations, better to sit beside the person rather than opposite them. And yes, don't try to fake understanding. Better to admit that no, you don't understand them or their situation or their beliefs or actions . Another thing about " understanding". If you can, work out whether it is understanding OF them or AGREEMENT WITH them , they're really seeking. Because so often, it's the latter.
I am an open book, but I also demand respect because I let others know where I stand and I make boundaries clear, plus my work ethic speaks for itself; however, just because you’re an open book doesn’t mean you literally tell people EVERYTHING 😂 I do agree with doing more listening and letting people have that moment.
So, you’re not an open book
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She's a beautiful angel.
Like to have seen her at 18 ❤
@@EricDraven-qd9puwhy are 18
She has a magnificent mind.
Can NOT help but love her!
👏👏👏👏 A thousand claps of resounding respect!
The video's name is misleading. She didn't mention respect. It should be called how to get people to open up to you or ways to ask questions when getting info from someone
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Agree, title is misleading
This is great for counseling and comforting people. Learning this in Grad school, wish I had someone in my childhood that would knock the me out of my life when I was young. I was too selfish growing up to care more about the people around me instead of myself.
Evy is incredible, thank you for the interview!
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Superb Insights... All those who are seeing this after 1 year since it was published (Y)
I’m learning so much in conversing from this lady,
Hello from France, merci thank you very much for sharing ! All the best, Warmly, VT
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Finally someone I can agree with
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I go by being sociable and i only tell people stuff about myself i don't care about them knowing.
The other side of this is you soon know who to not associate yourself with
Human nature; the more mysterious you are physically and with your words, the more interested people are. Mystery, yeah, people are shallow, but know your landscape and just accept it. Be more mysterious.
Excellent Advice❤️
Happy to hear this!
Thank you 😊 for putting this up!
Loads of wisdom tips and a very helpful video.Thank you.
You're welcome, thank you for watching! 🧡
Great guest!
Thanks!
I don’t know how I got this on my TH-cam channel but this is so good! Thank you for sharing
So glad you enjoy the channel! Thanks for being here!
I read her book a couple of years ago and passed it on to my girls. Mrs. G
I like that she brought up the empathizing scenario. It is more nuanced than what was explained, though.
For example, I lost my dad 2 years ago, and so did a few other friends and extended family members not too long before that. They wanted to call me and offer to “talk” because they “know what it’s like to lose their dad”. However, I lost my dad to suicide and I had to find his body. While the others lost their dads to things like cancer and illness. Very, very different trauma. So in those cases, I held back and did not open up to them.
Sorry
I use to be an interrogator (low-level) and learning to read people is still very interesting to me and video's like this (as a visual learner) are great! 👍🏼🙂
It makes sense to cast yourself aside and pay attention to people close to almost everything they say or do during your conversation with them. Also your questions must be subtle and probing so that the other person should not feel confronted which alerts them to raise their defence walls. Then, they would definitely shut you down or deliberately misguide you about everything!
I learned a LOT in 10 minutes
“Certainly you should discuss everything with a friend; but before you do so, discuss in your mind the man himself. After friendship is formed you must trust, but before that you must judge.”
- Seneca
This video is back to my life today... Needed to remember it. Thank you a lot for sharing. Gratefully & Respectfully, VTDW.
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Everything she's saying has been common sense to me for a long time.
Lately, I've noticed I have"ME,ME, ME" syndrome even though I don't like talking too much about myself. Weird, but I have to fix that.
Well, after watching this, I will never talk to anyone again. When she asked, “What do you want from this person?” That was it. You can’t just have a pleasant conversation anymore, you have to manipulate people to get what you want…?! No thanks.
It's just depends what you are talking about..
When you come to realize what everyone else seemed to find out when they were kids, and you are like 34, and see that now basically being kicked around and done wrong your whole life makes sense and you also see that you never had a single friend and likely even your parents didnt actually care much about you... It's a nightmare to see humans for what they are. I rather go back and have never awakened to it all. And now I see no purpose In life. If they are so weak to have to play games and tricks 99% of the time. I not being like this and seeing them for what they are now. I can't unsee it. So it's just not gonna work. You are either prey or a predator. ... Or a dismayed hate filled wacko who explodes on people. Calls them on their bullshit. But they are so disconnected they will never admit you are right about then. So then you are now insane and they spread the word...
Stay innocent and naive or give up. Or be a ruthless piece of garbage. Pick one
She looks so beautiful and attractive.
She reminds me of Lady GaGa 😊
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Agree! I am an extreme extrovert but never share my personal details to myself! Made tjis rule 9 years ago when I graduated medical school , I never share parts like relations, what I do when I go home , the people I hang around with me no one at my work place has a sneak peak into that , n thats why I never am vulnerable at my workplace! They have nothing they can use against me.
You are a genius madam
🎉shes very wise and sapient, excellent content
it's so asmr-ish how you talk. It's good to listen
I love her wisdoms!
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Great interview. Need more of this. Good job!
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!
If you're truly trustworthy, just let others discover you on their own and don't push them
Pushing them can make you sound like a toxic person such as a narcissist, it's not what you want
If the door of opportunity opens, don't betray it don't betray it!
If you want to keep that trust, KEEP YOUR WORD and DO what you SAY you're going to DO
KEEP your PROMISES, and if something happens that causes you to break that promise, work it out and come up with a satisfactory working solution for you both
If something happens causing you to break your promise, explain what happened and come up with a working solution to MAKE IT RIGHT
Everyone lives in their own projected world. As Byron Katie would say: no thoughts are personal.
Lewis, have a look at other podcasts with her AND specifically the chatt rooms..hmmm.. TY.
...also, in 2 days she switched, as the comments weren't that flattering..., softly speaking...
It’s hard to believe how easily people are swayed by convincing people. Remember, there are other valid opinions out there. While we do need to listen emphatically, self disclosure and being vulnerable send important signals to the other side that their “counsellors” are real people, not super people. They struggle like we do and if they managed to function and “survive”, so can we.
I realize how much I share if I have had the same story so they know I can relate. But that can be me, me, me. Going to stop that.
truth beautiful lady, great interview
So glad you enjoyed it! Appreciate you for listening!
this guy has a great deep voice and looks , he should dress up well to compliment it .
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I wish at least 1 of my kids mums was like evy. she's the best
A suggestion. The title should be, "How to gain someone's trust"
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We all perceive things differently .
That’s something I’m working on being more careful with what I say .
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And to whom !
Thank you.
You're welcome, thank you for tuning in.
Sympathy is when you have experienced something yourself empathy is when you were empathetic, but you have not experienced it
Be friendly not familiar
After losing his dad is mentioned it seems he holding back tears
clearly he's not got what he expected from her; he's soft when she's hard and relatively emotion-free
Excellent, both of you, thank you
Thank you! Appreciate you for being here.
Can someone please tell me where i can see the whole interview from them please ? Thank you very much in advance
You may check out the full episode here th-cam.com/video/SVB3SZKC8I4/w-d-xo.html
@@GreatnessClips thank you so much for sharing the link. I'll watch it 🙏💙
You're welcome 🧡
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Today 3/17/2024 on "Mike Drop" she will be his guest ! Depending on when you see this comment that's why I left the date ! Cheers God Bless "Mike Ritland" or "Mike Drop"
gawd, she's gorgeous 😍
Focus!
Boundaries.
She is Awesome 😎
Thanks for watching! I'm glad you liked it!
I never wanted to listen to her, now I see I should have.
Evy Poumpouras
Relatable.
Thanks.
Love this
Misleading title. It's more about how to make someone open up to you. Trust, maybe but It says nothing about respect
I'm done with trying to gain respect or trust, because most people are crazily determined to oppress me as a female. It's just part of being a woman. I used to gain weight so that no men would hit on me or at least the wrong men wouldn't hit on me.
Even if two people lost a parent that doesn't mean they had the same relationship or childhood with that parent because many are toxic and dysfunctional. There are those who might be relieved that someone has transitioned because their energy was low vibrational, and there are those that will grieve, etc
Become truly valuable and you won't need to use evil tricks.
What an AMAZING Agent.. I respect and look up to her as a true mentor for life as a woman🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
I wish I could meet curious people but I only meet people who want to speak about themselves. How can we have a relationship? It's impossible, curiosity has to be reciprocated.
Would love the whole interview link .
Have a look here: th-cam.com/video/SVB3SZKC8I4/w-d-xo.html
Secret service couldn't teach you anything above what you already know.
This is why when I date people, I don't tell them they are on a date with me, and when I apply with companies I don't provide my details and they totally respect me for it.
This makes no sense to reply with that must be very hard I cannot imagine. How about asking the person how that is or feels and if the person was close to the father. Or perhaps just listen or ask if you could ask a question about it to understand it better. Even the most kind question is torture to some. The death of the father might be the biggest relieve ever felt before.
What’s with everyone wearing black?
Wearing white would be racist. White skin is racist. Being normal is an offense.
I have a much stringer filter now. I filter personal information by saying to myself, "Do they need to know?""
This video is why you shouldn't talk to anybody.
I think I like her good job all
Amazing ,
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