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I quit drinking for many years but I’m afraid that it is slipping back into my life. In the period i went sober i was not going out , i was practicing my instrument. I had a goal in music but after many years that dream is starting to blur out a bit. My social life was non existent. I knew the people I’m surrounded by aren’t the healthiest but i almost never meet people who aren’t drinking or doing drugs… it’s everywhere!! So yeah I slipped up again at a festival. It’s so weird i hate drinking but in a way I enjoy it because it turns me into a more social creature, it makes me enjoy the moment more. Not over analyzing everything… but i know that there is a downfall afterwards so yeah. I’m going to stop again because I really hate the hangovers. It makes me more anxious and it hits my confidence a lot afterwards. I don’t care if my social life sucks, my health is more important !! I have to believe in higher powers to get en back on track quitting this bad habit!!

Hey Jill, I am 15 months in recovery ( with a few slip ups). I get the waves where i feel massive physical and mental fatigue, while i know lifting weights will help and i lift 6 days a week, on those days i am unable to do anything and on top of that feel guilt for skipping gym, which makes things were, what would say i should do?

I tried a 0% beer and I didn't care for the feeling. I also realized that I don't really like the taste of beer. I only drank them for the buzz. I prefer that drink other non alcoholic beverages that are not mimicking alcohol. I also find non alcoholic beer, wines and spirits to be way too expensive. You can't even enjoy the financial benefits of not buying alcohol if you start the habit of drinking these NA beverages. To each their own. I just think these drinks still glorify drinking alcohol.

Hello mam, I have watched your video and liked it, am struggling with addiction related issue, I have been to 3-4 doctors, no is like understanding the root cause ,I want to talk with you ,plz mam,plz give response

Great explanation, thank you you have my sub :)

I couldn't moderate my amount of alcohol once I started. I went from sober to blackout, no inbetween. The endorphines were all consuming for me. I loved the high. I would go out to get drunk, never to just have 1 or 2 drinks. An off switch didn't exist for me, and I too had to finish all the alcohol before I could go home. Last orders I would order 2 double spirits and a beer and a shot just because the bar was closing. I am sober 3 years. I still feel boring but its something i can live with.

I drank wine because I can’t not fall asleep sleep . I will fall asleep at 9;00 am . What can I do ????? I have no life 😩😩😩😩😩😩😩

I am 65 . I first went into Rehab in 1999 at the age of 39 . It was a 17 day Program and after being hesitant about going in . I ended up loving being in there Sober ? When I got out I went on a 3 day Bender to see if I could " control " my drinking ? Well at this point in my Life I am 23 year sober , It was nice listening to you , hope you are well , 🙏

Great Information! Thank you!

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It took 3-4 months for me to feel "normal" again after quitting heavy kratom and nicotine usage. Not as bad as many experience, but it's important to talk about and for people to plan for when quitting drugs or alcohol.

Ben and Jerry’s topped… don’t even try it 😂

Thank you for this. I been sober almost 2 months. Had a couple NA beer here and there. But wasn’t too sure. I even researched some angry orchard is one of my favorite ciders in the past. And they are delicious!!Unfortunately they do not make NA versions but found one at total wine that almost taste the same.

GILL!! Omg Yaaay I am so happy you're on TH-cam, I listen to your podcast. I found you and some others online during my "realizations" of my drinking last year. Thanks for being so cool, I love your stuff.👍❤️🙂

I came out the other side of a 6 withdrawal, able to start eating again, and i didn't have the cognitive ability to fry an egg and make toast, i couldn't work out how to do it. Some insight into how people with wet brain live 24/7

Veru interesting...Thanks Gill..Is this aslo the card of you only drink every Friday night amd not rest of the week ?

And here I was thinking it was all due to me just being lazy in my retirement...silly me. Thank you and I'll finish watching your video when...😴

I changed where I shop for food to avoid the cravings I'd get when I'd go to the supermarket where I bought wine. Same phenomenon?

Your very beautiful!

I have been working on leaning into my boredom....before I thought alcohol was helping me to relax. The reality for me is that I can finally relax when I lean into my boredom. I started reading, meditating, and really listening to others when they talk. It helps. It helps to slow down

I'm on day 50. Days 30 to now, I've been kind of stuck...just not motivated, and every day is boring, but I go through the exercise and diet routine and stay on top of that. Is this strange low I'm in normal? Not really depressed, just some anxiety and blah

Ive had adhd for as long as i can remember..this actually makes alot of sense..if im play drums..or fishing or whatever it may be im hyper exfixiated on it..same for alcohol.

Hope i have a chance at reversing my alcoholic hepatitis my doc said its bad and might be close to chirosis and im only 22. Going into a treatment center tomo. Hoping to go sober for a couple of months. Yall stay safe out there.

You described my friendship perfectly wow!!

If you have an anxiety disorder like i do...alcohol is by far the worst thing to do

Alcohol doesn’t suit most people so quitting isn’t something to be ashamed shamed of it’s a strength to acknowledge that it’s not good for you and it’s even more empowering when you stop !

I take Prozac for OCD and anxiety… I find that if I have 1-2 drinks my meds don’t work as well. 😮 And I get buzzed super fast.

I used to bingedrink every weekend. And also suffer from anxiety in general. After how many days of not drinking can i expext an inprovement?

Thank you for trying to help people. In an evil world full of Narcissistic personalities, and people who just don't care.

.5% beer does seem to give me some kind of effect but not enough to worry me.

That clarified my fatigue issue for me...thanks! I've been AF for 6 weeks now and am still napping for at least an hour a day (in my 70s and retired). That said, I was unable to do much of anything while drinking, so where I am at now is still an improvement. 👍

This is what am going through I started drinking to reduce my anxiety but now I can't stop people around me think I enjoy drinking but don't understand how much I want to stop

Most people I know are not moderate with their drinking but do not fit AAs definition of an alcoholic. This is why I did nothing about my drinking; because they were who I compared myself to.

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Is it normal to have mood issues flucuate daily or weekly? Or is it just something that happens for a month at a time?

thank you so much, today is #43, exactly everything I need to hear. And the community is beautiful.

Dopamine is what reinforces neural pathways.

Sobriety is like eating unseasoned food. You taste the food as it really is, and sometimes it can be underwhelming. But you can accurately assess the quality of the food because it's not occluded by spice

Hi, someone on the app I Am Sober recommended you so I am here 😊 just hit 90 days today!! Am very emotional

Thanks for bringing attention to this issue. A lot of information about new found (year-ish) sobriety is confusing and nebulous. One hears a lot of anecdotal stories about "relapse gets worse each time", but it's hard to have it sink in without your podcasts bringing attention to studies and your matter-of-factness explanations. Relapse is serious stuff and deceptively dangerous - it's disheartening it's not more well known and explained. Thanks for adding to the collective knowledge and bringing light to a very dark topic.

Gill, excellent, very informative, very concise outline of all the major benefits. Don't forget to mention the crazy amounts of additional energy, and also the negative effect alcohol has on hormones...esp for guys. Keep up the great work, Enjoying Day 274 here.

Wow I am on day 30 right now! Crazy to see this today :) The first 7 days were very tough, withdrawal, terrible mood. Then the 2nd week I felt amazing all the time, then week 3 and 4 I felt e4xtremely irritable all the time. It didn't matter how much I exercised, how well I ate, etc... I was just miserable. Now that I'm in my 5th week I feel good again.

11 months AF with one small relapse 4 months ago and still EXTREMELY fatigued. I have had my thyroid and b12 checked without issues, sleep study done with no sleep issues. I am just now getting to the point where I am having dreams again. And they are normal dreams. I have NOT had even 1 dream about drinking. I used to be a dreamer, almost every night. For the past 7+ years have not been dreaming at all. I finally started dreaming again abt 4 weeks ago but they were just every now and then. I am not getting to where i am dreaming atleast every other night. I wonder, since I am starting to dream again, if my sleep is stabilizing and my fatigue will eventually go away? Anyone have any idea?

You have to remember that this a a drug that has been ingrained in society since the dawn of agriculture. Would you try and moderate cocaine or meth use ? So you're maybe afraid of missing out on all the "good times"? Once I'd had a period of sobriety long enough for it to be the norm, I realised what a joy it was to stand outside this part of our culture. No longer part of it or trapped by it.

No money in this world could buy sobriety,inever want to drink again its painful, unhealthy,itstarts as fun then its killing you,the more you drink it ,im gona start working on it idint understand how much of a stronghold it gots on you,iwish inever drank ineed to fix this in order to live life ,ifeel like if idont stop this imight die of something,pray for me ,never quit quitting

I am 11 months AF. Is it possible to take that long to begin sleeping normal?? I used to dream ALLLL THE TIME!!! I havent had a dream in 8+ years. About 3-4 weeks ago I actually started dreaming again. At first it wasnt often but it is getting where I am dreaming every other night. But even that I am dreaming, i am still EXTREMELY FATIGUED!! NEVER wake up rested. I struggle to wake up and brush my teeth but I force myself. I have had binge drinking issue for 10+ years. The last few years i only drank on the weekends but the entire time ive been drinking alcohol i would only drink at night, never during the day or morning. In fact i have never, not even once drink during the day. I have never had any withdrawal issues or anythinf. There have been many times I would go days without drinking and never had any issues. What got me was boredom. So I would go home every night and drink until i blacked out. For the past several years it has only been on the weekends tho. I have never needed alcohol during the day or anything like that and i always felt fine, other than being hung over from the night before. Since i started dreaming again a few weeks ago doesnt that mean my sleep might be starting to become normal? But dmn I have been AF for 11 months so i didnt think it would take that long? I cant figure out if my tiredness and other symptoms is due to the amount of years ive consumed alcohol or my adhd? I was medicated for ADHD up until the age of 18 and havent been taken meds for it since and i am now 38. I have tried to see doctors abt the adhd part but its always “i dont treat adult adhd bc its not a big deal” blah blah and they just kinda laugh it off. Sorry for the rant. But you think its possible for it to take 11 months for my sleep to begin to stabilize? I mean I am finally dreaming again, so I assume that means I am finally starting to sleep more normal? What you think? Btw, awesome content, youre awesome! I just now found you!

Great intro to the topic. I didn’t want to drink NA’s during the first year of sobriety but now I enjoy them on occasion.

Yes absolutely!! I'd wake up terrified after drinking it lead to a recent 6 day bender and now drinking isn't relieving the anxiety I just feel sick.... I've been here before its soooo bad the doom feeling I feel insane. It takes about 3 days and things lessen the anxiety goes down but goddddddd that's a long 3 days. Going through day 1 I feel you and the people in the comments.... I had a medication really help me in the past and surprisingly I could drink once or twice a week and get drunk and be OK... Well not no more either the med stopped or my anxiety depression got worse. Drinking is a disasssster for me... I'm friggen 34 and I use to be able to get help and see my mom and her doc and some quick benzos but now I don't have support and I been struggling alcohol but I'm out of money now so can't buy more I just got to white knuckle these 3 days.... Somehow! :(

This is %100 true

You mentioned the “Big Thing” on here. I’ve certainly seen that happen to many people in my life. Losing jobs, families, jail, health problems, etc. But, also not true for me, or many others I know. We decided to change for rational reasons before ever getting there. Watching others descend into Hell certainly helped. But, wasn’t all of it. As a business owner, it was a lot of social drinking during the week: client, referral partners, golf outings etc. And, on the weekends it was hanging with good friends, usually around sporting events. But, there was never a job-loss, a DUI, or a GF walking out because of drinking. As a life long athlete, and someone with business, financial, and travel goals, it was the awareness of how much it was getting in the way. Wanting to run a marathon, get down to 12% body fat, etc, and reading up on all the things alcohol does to destroy training results, and lower testosterone. The creeping awareness of how brain fog, and lack of good sleep was slowing down business and financial achievements. Knowing that in order to say “yes” to certain things necessitates saying “No” to others. The more I studied, and the more I thot, the more “No” was the only answer. I did 240 days without alcohol, combined with diet changes, ramped up exercise, and finally dealing with emotional sludge from my past instead of avoiding it, and I truly feel like I’m 25 again. Best of luck to all. Find your own way, and your own reasons…just get there...sooner rather than later. Keep preaching the message Gill.