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The BIGGEST Dating Mistake I Made in Japan 💔
Don't make this horrible mistake...
(I'm super nervous to share this story... I know I come off super naive and daft but I wanted to share it so that someone might find it helpful when dating in Japan...)
I made a huge dating mistake in Japanese culture and I didn't realise how big the mistake was until it too late.
Today I share with you a story of a naive and younger Steph, one who has yet to learn and grow...
Watching the story you may laugh and think, wow how can someone be so daft but yes I was that daft person! Looking back on it now I realise that what I did was terrible definitely in Japanese culture but also other cultures too.
I didn't know about Kokuhaku culture until much later in life and when I learnt about it, it made me realise how different Western and Japanese dating culture can be.
Is confessing your "love" or "like" to someone by the 3rd date too soon?
Whether it is or not, don't laugh at them and treat it like a joke (like I did...)
Sorry to *redacted name*...
Thanks for watching the video guys! It's a story I'm super nervous to share but I think a lot can be learnt from it.
For example:
1. I was super naive and daft
2. Kokuhaku culture in Japan can be so different
3. The gym is a great place to pick someone up (kidding...ish)
Hope to see you guys in the next video!
X Steph
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  • @dianaa8125
    @dianaa8125 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wait I'm confused i thought you and Pat Kay were an item???

  • @lindaorsi7615
    @lindaorsi7615 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Would love a hotel with gym please

  • @hannahpham2556
    @hannahpham2556 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Name of onsen please?

  • @isadora3044
    @isadora3044 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you so much for sharing this!!!!

  • @Trace7173
    @Trace7173 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I met my Japanese crush several times at a live house in Shinjuku. We knew each other through Twitter and I used to go watch her band play around Tokyo whenever I was visiting Japan. We could hardly communicate but she managed to ask me to buy tickets for a upcoming concert. I agreed because I thought it would be a great way to spend some time with her. When I got back to my hotel and went online I found out that the concert was still 2 months away. It was then that I found out that she just wanted me to buy her tickets. And to make matters worse, she told me my brother was "very handsome" because she also followed him on Twitter. I ended up buying her 2 tickets and then I was passive aggressive to her online for months after that with plenty of backhanded compliments to confuse her. I know it's immature and sort of mean but so was she!

  • @Dkidlee
    @Dkidlee 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I thought this was universal Osaka but I realized it not now

  • @icegoh1
    @icegoh1 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hello, may I know the name Onsen in this video?

  • @The_Extra_Offical
    @The_Extra_Offical 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    What kind of job do you have now currently in Japan? Or are you a full time youtuber right now?

  • @spark_6710
    @spark_6710 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm Japanese who's been living in the U.S. for almost 4 decades ,but originally from Tokyo & was born in Shibuya ! I highly recommend Shibuya as the base for youngsters to visit Tokyo ,teenagers to mid 30's ,but anyone over that age range or older ,I recommend Ginza or Marunouchi or even Odaiba areas ! 💜🥁🐉🎤🎶💞

  • @ThunderbotMusicYT
    @ThunderbotMusicYT หลายเดือนก่อน

    6. Meet Gojo

  • @dyaaong6030
    @dyaaong6030 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😊🧡

  • @nochu7
    @nochu7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    omg, im paying 2010$ per month for a studio you can't walk more than 6 steps for

  • @SolaceJames
    @SolaceJames หลายเดือนก่อน

    Be careful of domain expansions tho

  • @onzbrau
    @onzbrau หลายเดือนก่อน

    no timestamps, tldr?

  • @Migzter05
    @Migzter05 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Would actually recommend this over USJ if you're a HP fan. This and the Harry Potter cafe in Shibuya.

  • @Migzter05
    @Migzter05 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I put this in our itinerary for our upcoming Japan visit this November. Might be worth checking out.

  • @joycetan4684
    @joycetan4684 หลายเดือนก่อน

    No wonder U have a very strong Aussie accent! 🤭 Was wondering how come a Japanese girl speaks like an Aussie! 😆🌏

  • @haserotmalach7324
    @haserotmalach7324 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A whole lot of her face, very little of the place.

  • @vincentgraffeo9030
    @vincentgraffeo9030 หลายเดือนก่อน

    All of your content is supreme!

  • @KEDLA.M
    @KEDLA.M หลายเดือนก่อน

    ZzzzZZzz

  • @RahulSingh-p4c2s
    @RahulSingh-p4c2s หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hello Stephanie! Do you have a business email for collaborations?

  • @WhereRichardStay
    @WhereRichardStay หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much for this video! It helped me figure out what hotel I want to stay next month.

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad I could help!

  • @DinkievanderWesthuizen
    @DinkievanderWesthuizen หลายเดือนก่อน

    Babe, it is difficult to imagine you as a powerlifter!❤

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      I get this a lot haha!

  • @ezshottah3732
    @ezshottah3732 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Years often go by before I realize my dating mistakes or failures lol

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      I feel ya! Much to learn

  • @charlesbullghost5491
    @charlesbullghost5491 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Will it's time to move on to south Korea 🇰🇷 or China!✨🇨🇳 Both places probably have very impressive dating services!✨ For your very true 💘 love interest!✨ My great inspiring wisdom for today!✨ Have a very impressive beautiful 😍 day.😍👏❤

  • @JCally83
    @JCally83 หลายเดือนก่อน

    See that’s the trouble with “suki-desu” being said as both I like you and I love you. That’s very confusing to a westerner? Saying I like you and I love you are both hugely different. However, of course different customs in Japan vs Australia or western world so I get that as well. It’s a minefield.

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Right!? Lost in translation I feel...

  • @JCally83
    @JCally83 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You must have felt ill after finishing that challenge? Bloody impressive!

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      I was craving dessert! Literally any other flavour than soba

  • @bungalogic
    @bungalogic หลายเดือนก่อน

    I was rejected by JET… then I got a job transfer working for 🍎… it was a blessing in disguise. 😬

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think it must have been!

  • @williamwan221
    @williamwan221 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for sharing your dating life (cause it wasn’t ❤ right?😉) Great to learn more about any one of the “Japan by food” hosts because its great to watch a new episode every week - nice 100 💵 episode😊 and oh really liked the sushi one with the “shoot for a prize” game at the end!! look forward to seeing you in the next one 💯

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for watching! I hope to see you in the next video!

  • @ongcheeway5495
    @ongcheeway5495 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can I have the Onsen name

  • @OneIdeaTooMany
    @OneIdeaTooMany หลายเดือนก่อน

    Honestly, I've heard far worse and you've obviously learned from your experience... Dating is just different here... I've dated a few Japanese girls though. Not gonna lie, I was probably used by a few of them for free english lessons until my Japanese got way better so now this doesn't really happen anymore. I did confess to my longtime girlfriend. I eased into it by telling her what I liked about her and us and then I was full like... なおのことが。。。。。(Mild panic setting in as I realise I can't go back now because she knows what word comes next...) 好きand then full blown panic as I silently waited for her answer. Very different from Oz where you just kinda start hooking up often enough and it just kinda becomes a relationship.

  • @noeljokait
    @noeljokait หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very well done and thank you.

  • @NamekSaiyan
    @NamekSaiyan หลายเดือนก่อน

    lol girls who lift huge red flags

  • @joshuahan09
    @joshuahan09 หลายเดือนก่อน

    soma seems like a great tour guide :)

  • @benkuzaaa
    @benkuzaaa หลายเดือนก่อน

    isnt this Pat Kay studio?

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don't tell him!

    • @benkuzaaa
      @benkuzaaa หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@STEFATTY 🤣

  • @CreepyShinigami
    @CreepyShinigami หลายเดือนก่อน

    I dunno Steph. From my dating experience in Japan, it always seems to work out better for me when women are into me instead of me asking them to be my girlfriend. In my modest opinion, since women are the gatekeepers of relationships, it always organically works out for me :)

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      So interesting to hear about different experiences! Thanks for sharing!

  • @TriPhi89
    @TriPhi89 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cant wait to go next week!

  • @kathrynlebda780
    @kathrynlebda780 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so happy you are sharing this story! There is SO much miscommunication with dating abroad and this brought so many flashbacks of my own time in Sendai. More power to you queen for being honest with the awkward and gringe side if being an expat ❤‍🔥

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank youuu! I was nervous to share but hearing other people's stories make me feel like I wasn't the only one lost whilst dating in Japan!

  • @shin-i-chikozima
    @shin-i-chikozima หลายเดือนก่อน

    Attraction of Shibuya can not be overstated and immeasurable and very profound and unimaginable

  • @chauminh
    @chauminh หลายเดือนก่อน

    Merci, in Japan japanese is their first language et maybe english

  • @TheJourneyofJosh
    @TheJourneyofJosh หลายเดือนก่อน

    He must have known you wouldn’t understand as he knew you were not from Japan, I’d say that’s more on him 😂 great lesson learnt.. I didn’t even know that existed haha. Saying ILY on date 3 is pretty wild 😅

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      3 dates is definitely wild to me too!

    • @Classic_DionysuS
      @Classic_DionysuS 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Men know within six months if they love you. If she's cute, fun, personality, pleasure to be around, we don't need anything more. We aren't like y'all - you got way more check boxes you gotta check before you come to that conclusion

  • @vicmartinez8971
    @vicmartinez8971 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I doubt a smart girl such as yourself will ever be in short supply of anything in life, even if you have to open every door in Japan to find the person you want to accompany you on your journey..it's your story we are all following. I think "koku haku" is overrated anyways just saying.💌🇯🇵🕊

  • @Texxet11
    @Texxet11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was interesting as I learned about this similar concept in Korea talking to a local friend who was seeing somebody at the time.

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes! I heard there's a something similar in Korea too!

  • @Arcturus5404
    @Arcturus5404 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don't know Steph, he knew you're not from Japan, so he could have just explained his culture a bit more. No need to beat yourself up

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      I learnt a lot, even if it was a bit too late haha!

  • @cooliipie
    @cooliipie หลายเดือนก่อน

    Miss potty mouth

  • @matthewsmith9755
    @matthewsmith9755 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Zapp and Roger - Heartbreaker 💔🕺🎶.

  • @joshuahan09
    @joshuahan09 หลายเดือนก่อน

    frenzoned again 🥲

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂 Jeff is welcome

  • @jasons4056
    @jasons4056 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for sharing your experience 😀. :)

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks for watching 🙏🏻

  • @johngo3715
    @johngo3715 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In your defense you weren't being mean. It was just a matter of cultural differences and the language barrier.

    • @STEFATTY
      @STEFATTY หลายเดือนก่อน

      I guess so. I'll never know how he really interpreted the situation 😅

    • @johngo3715
      @johngo3715 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@STEFATTY maybe he will see this video.

  • @Dmwntkp99
    @Dmwntkp99 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My Japanese friend told me it's common that you don't lead someone to your dwelling or you'll be marked for creepy harassment and you might have to move if it continues.