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I’ll claim my ticket before fame. I am the 900 sub, keep up the good work

You know, a girl I really liked, that was my girlfriend for about three and a half years, she one day just lied to me, and hurt me so deeply that I broke. For months I was so sad, so miserable, but I never tried to hide my feelings, never tried to distract myself from the sadness, the sorrow and the pain. 7 or 8 months later, almost all the bad feelings are gone, and I feel so much better, even better than before. I really loved that girl, she arrived at my life when I was looking for the same than you: a deep and meaningful connection with someone. Eventually she was gone, my life changed, and the connection was lost. But right now, everything is just better. Let you feel your feelings friends, it's the best way to arise stronger and mature after everything was hurting you

I just find it so hard to develop connections with anyone tho, i just cant find anyone who i can see myself with. But i just want to feel connection with someone Its not Like i dont have people asking me out either, i just reject anyone who asks. Ive tried dating apps, they dont work for me, i just cant feel close to someone who i cant see in person and i never know what to say anyway.

Do u only crave to have a girlfriend? Don't u crave to have male friends with whom you play games or sports, eat together or have fun time outside?

Yea the numbing the pain thing and essentially coasting by taking no action because you are distracting yourself just enough is relatable and something I've been trying my best to avoid.

I'm glad that you rejected the second offer. You were put as the 2nd priority. The second option. If you allowed this to happen you will learned your lesson sooner or later:)

Stick to video games and stop bothering. Do not look or interact with them ever.

Fantastic video! Keep it up!

Man when you came back the next day and got that girls number I was so hyped for you bro !😂

You didn't get laid tho.

yo what platform and games you play bro?

I relate to you a lot regarding being a shy introvert and moving to a new city with no friends. Ive been trying to approach girls for a few months and after failing time and time again i got so depressed that i stopped trying. I'm gonna try to just sit with my emotions for a while and hope it helps because otherwise i dont know what to do

Correct move. When you put out to the universe that you want X, sometimes it will say back "how about X - 1?" And if you say yes to that, then you don't get X, you settle for less than X. You start training yourself that your goals are not goals, they're dreams that don't have to be made real. You teach yourself that your wants can be let down, and that your standards don't have to be met. You can spiral yourself into low-status subconscious thinking from these implicit patterns. People don't "have" time; they MAKE time. She MADE time for someone else. No harm in that; but if that becomes the basis of your relationship, then i'm not sure you're setting yourself on solid foundation. When you say "no thanks, I'll play video games" you're telling the universe that video games have a higher value than the "discounted" version of what you asked for. You are defiantly demanding "I get what I want or I'll have nothing at all." You train the universe to not try and get you to settle for less. Next time, it's more likely (but not always the case; sometimes you're tested multiple times with "less"), that whoever it is, will be worth more than just staying home and playing video games OR they will be the type who want to stay home and play games too.nothing at all. Sometimes it's not the right time for it, not the right person, or both. If you truly want it, another opportunity will come. You'll have a lifetime of them and it's up to you to accept or reject them as they come. You _can_ reject all of them and die alone. You can reject the last one and meet someone a few months before an untimely end. Nobody knows. And it doesn't matter. Just be sure to make decisions that feel right to you in the moment. Do not fear future regret. You will regret everything that doesn't go perfectly in some way. Learn to accept that your decisions can only be made, and are only made in the moment. As soon as you give up the "20/20 vision of hindsight" and judging your past based on the present, you will have a little more peace of mind. Learn and grow, but don't judge or beat yourself up over decisions that you couldn't possibly have made because of the simple fact that time hadn't passed enough to be aware of what yo "should" have done. Whatever you choose is always the best option based on your value system and motivations at the time. And there's always "a way out" of almost all bad situations you might get yourself into because of those decisions.

I think you did the right thing in saying no to the first girl. Waiting until 30 mins after you planned to meet up with someone to tell them you can't make it is very rude.

Literally what I have done with my life, I just told myself that you can't get everything in life and not everything's for everyone. So, I just up and left the world of trying of get a partner chasing the connection or intimacy. It's been so long that I don't even know what do I even want, so just stopped trying and have come the conclusion of Imma die alone, and if it's a good day might be with some bros and I just started my 20s. I gave up because life looks bleak If I consider just always trying and failing instead I just thought let's try putting my energy into things in life where I know I'll keep trying no matter how many times I fail. Getting a good career, going to the gym, building a business and if I hit a burnout just travel to somewhere.

If this guy gets rejected on Tinder, we're all fucked for real

Great story and thanks for sharing. I had a similar experience where I woke up one day with the same motivation to get a girls number but never realized where it came from. It wasn’t till I watched this video that I realized it was because I was abstaining from distractions (video games, porn, etc) that I gave myself the opportunity to feel the emotions I had blocked out for so long. Can’t believe this didn’t click before.

0:30 same thing happened to me. Been on self-improvement ( even have my own self-improvement channel ), been on some dating apps, no matches in days, finally got matched with a girl that was ( not really, but sort of... ) cute, I'm trying to think of the right thing to say, and then plan a date. The difference in my story is that the girl ghosted and worst case scenario unfollowed. This wasn't a specific scenario. This has happened multiple times. ...and no. I am not bad looking. Guys like Solomon convince me that dating is easier in the US than here in Sweden where I live ( although for maintaining healthy relationships it's the opposite... )

This is such a great vifeo, and that story of meeting the Tesco girl is so funny and endearing 🤣 i needed to hear this man

You're extremely shallow

bruh

Tldr

*Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or loneliness.*

LOL the runescape bgm

Hey brother, please don't lie in the title anymore, if at the end you said that "it fizzled out", maybe you forgot to mention that you slept with ther, but if not, just don't put it in the title. Other than that, this was an amazing video! 🔥

every runescape kid I swear. Good stuff man

Your story made my day, I get those same lonely feeling you get, I´m 21, and I have a good life, I go to the gym, I work, I go to college, have good friends, and I felt now more confident than I ever felt this last few years, when I was depressed and felt life had no meaning, but sometimes at night, I still feel a little empty dealing with the fact that I never found a good partner for me, and I had lots of signals from girls in the past, I just didn´t understand them😆

Fuck it, tonight’s a good night as any to scream into the digital void that is the TH-cam comment section. 10 girls. I’ve had 10 girls say yes to a first date to me in person in the last 2 years. And yet, not a single second date. My goals always been “long-term partner” btw. You know what’s worse than total deprivation? When your goal is just barely within reach, and you just can never get it. Every time, no matter how sweet these girls were to me before, something happened after the first date that broke us up. Sometimes it was me, sometimes it was her, and sometimes neither of us. I look around and see only two types of men: Men who get rejected and men who make it after successfully asking 1-3 girls out on a first date. I feel like I’m living in a goddamn cartoon. At this point it’d be a relief if someone told me the reason for my failure was that Im secretly a terrible person bc then this situation would be somewhat under my control at least. I’d have something to work on. I want to look back at all my past experiences and say “oh so I was a piece of shit got it” but I cannot. I feel myself getting jaded nowadays, something that’s been my biggest fear for a while. Shits getting to me. I know once I give up then it’s over. New encounters with girls aren’t scary bc of the girl anymore, it’s because any relationship I have had has always been swept away at a moments notice. I’m starting to wonder to myself “what’ll it be this time”and I’m disgusted at that. It’s like, “Come on growth mindset I need your head in the game if we want to find a girl”. Btw, you’re a good fella man. Nice video. You’d enjoy reading some Dostoyevsky I reckon.

It’s shocking to me how similar all of our experiences are as guys. Much love brothers, stay up. ❤

Honestly you made the right choice with story 1. A woman who flakes on you and changes her mind an hour later isn't even worth looking at, let alone risk having sex with.

another laughable grifter. stop the nonsense please.

It took me loosing everything, truly alone, to understand I needed to be better than who I was. I thought without a girlfriend I was nothing. My best friend overdosed and I spiraled but not before I decided to change my mindset, changed my environment, changed my profession. And now I am alone with my dog but I am not lonely.

Thank you for being vulnerable ❤ I've struggled with this before too. I've heard of psychologists talk about the strategy you mentioned.

Bro the runescape music in the back xD. Im in same spot as you but im 29 with anxiety so I back out of every date I plan

I’m still in the lonely cycle

What is this clickbait title? Where is the getting laid bit?

As of 2024 dating was terrible for me all of the relationships I had this year failed and I had friends for a while and unfortunately they started ghosting me and not inviting me out eventually we had a falling out. I isolated myself from people I stopped dating . I picked up boxing as a new hobby and I started playing basketball (I might apply for tryouts next year ). I'm working on my relationship with God. College grades improved. Right now I'm happier now with myself.

confidence is key 🔑

Excellent video and channel bro. Channels like yours have inspired me to start making my own videos.

Runescape

Good video, buddy. Earned a new subscriber.

Maybe that works when you're attractive but when you're not you essentially don't even register as a person to other people's brains. No one looks and smiles at me or whatever. I don't exist. I've tried going to the gym, meeting people, getting into clubs or whatever. There's just something wrong with me and no amount of ""confidence"" can cover it up. I'm simply not enough, no matter how much effort I put in and that's that.

I'm pretty black metal, couldn't care less for humans and shallow connections. Problem solved.

this video speaks to me. escapism, self-loathing, insomnia, severe video game addiction, and substance abuse since 13. completely cut everyone off and stopped trying to make friends near 18, dropped socials all of it. 2 near-death experiences by 20, doubled down on nicotine, corn, alc, mj. Not all at once, sometimes i'd trifecta that bih but mainly would cycle them bi-weekly. Only ever been sober for 3 months twice in my entire life, on that second part now. I've severely degraded my social skills and yearn for connection as you say. Can't even make proper eye contact without scaring the hoes (no lol i really couldn't care enough to even bother courting or worrying about other's opinions). I feel like (i know this may come off as pretentious) I'm more closely tied to reality given the amount of shit I've risen above with my intuition and my mother's unconditional love keeping me in check. I have a dark and crude humor as I do my past, I'm basically a wig/ger, not pronouns - white trash. But I make most people uncomfortable because of how direct, forthcoming, and kinda ghetto I am. Also being chirstian, conservative, caucasion, living rural in las vegas, definitely paints me an oddball. Understanding that, sure, I'll only attract a handful of people based on that, but I've lost intent to even try, burdened by so much shit i've caused for myself. When i was young I was changing schools every year or two, got a few suspensions, nothing too crazy though; Basically had to make new friends every time and come to accept that friends don't last, only I made some really good ones along the way. Atleast I can say I can call on some real homies because I was genuine with them (for the most part). Honestly writing and fitness have been enormous positive outlets for me, I learned to supplement the bad habits with good ones. But I can't let go of things... I suppose I can't let myself heal meaningfully, my fear is I hurt the next person I open up to only I know this to just be the devil ensuing doubt in my mind. Trust and trauma is out of cadence. Its like a spiritual war in my mind everyday. I listen to music so often it nearly obfuscates my ability to really think about life deeply. I'm very stable now at this point but lonely as hell, last gf was 3 years ago. I'm 25 about to grad, unemployed and with parents. I have skills but have yet to "monetize" them, if i even wish to. still struggling with corn its definitely my biggest vice, I feel like i'm not trying hard enough and God is pissed with me. I can tell when I'm coming onto something bigger than me but still feel anxious of the unknown. I'm grateful to be alive today and have the unique perspectives and experiences I have. I endured some hard times but also had really awesome times when I was younger, family did so much for me, only thing that kept me from sliding down the sewer. Still, everyday is a misery simulation but I learned that I've created that through my thought process (software) and perspective, I'm cut off from the source (intimacy/human connection), music is therapy, I find random things to learn and I incrementally improve on things I'm passionate about. I just suffer in silence but convince myself this will make me a stronger man, more able to protect those I love in the future (Ik this is a stretch of rationale). But sincerely, everyday I'm on the edge, mind over matter, and I can't spare a single second in a weak state of mind, It is as crucial as survival, knowing the corruption and darkness that exists in this world, and its predatory tendency to prey on the weak and oblivious. I think if I were to be alone the rest of my life, I'll try to just help other people, even with something as simple as passing wisdom or helping them see within themselves. Having older parents like my friend, we don't have much time left with them, but they passed down a lot for us. Being a man in this society and time, currently not making adequate money to provide for a family, can really be daunting if you think too far into it. This really affects my confidence and my agency because I absolutely hate asking for things. Just have to take everything one-step at a time, embrace mistakes, and when you make them, make sure you reflect on it. Always think about your next move. For me, I've just been back-tracking and trying to free myself of chemical dependencies, knowing damn well I was too instable to hold an intimate relationship or worse, be influenced to give into my demons again. It comes down to me moving past my addictions so I can commit to my spouse/love, I could already foresee my vices as problematic in the long-term, hence I put dating on the back burner, only now its just hitting different (isolation). Made some sketchy 'friends' in my time, grateful for it. Only again, its just hard to take that initial 'leap' of faith and initiate convo/try to get to know people. Its not difficult for me, but I've grown so comfortable not having obligations to 'keep up' with people or always having to spend money to do shit. Frankly, it just makes sense for a loner like me, in my predicament (broke ahn) to not be doing all this. I try to live as cheaply as humanly possible except when I impulse buy dumb shit like a goof. I just want to get right with God, get my sleep in order, and quit corn for GOOD. Many prayers with Christ to deliver me from temptation, lust is the strongest of confines at this point in time for me. But spontaneously writing this with my heart and soul helps me visualize, organize, and process tf I'm going thru. I must remember to be patient (literally tatted on me). I want to stay self-accountable, consistent in the gym, continue pursuing my passions, and land a career that my heart is in which I can support (hopefully) a couple kids and happy wife some day. I see so much content (my algo) about men dating and I see this crazy group-think, tribalistic negativity. Guys (in the U.S.) i know we're in a corporate hellscape right now, but holy heck have some faith, not all women are bad, the culture is pretty sick rn, the foods, pharma, don't even get me started, this com m net would get sent to the shadow realm. Just stick to your wits, trust your gut, and keep working to improve yourself. If you fall, get up, learn from it, and keep going. There's so many people in your shoes struggling, some even far worse, and still they are keeping faith and getting up the next day to give it all, even knowing it may be their last. Please stay strong, build discipline, keep hammering, and be mindful of the self-respect you deserve. You owe it to yourself to do better, even if that means changing the most miniscule thing (and sticking to it!). Set some goals! I have intuition telling me I'll be alright but I know it won't be easy. My soul will only be saved if I let go and become stronger spiritually, emotionally, physically, and mentally. These are my priorities. When I fall inline, everything will work out and my kids will be better off as result of my sacrifices. I think when I was young, I absorbed so much negativity, the household was very chaotic. I put so much pressure on myself, I learned self-sabotage young, then I learned how to escape, all too well, Fun for a boy, hell for a man. Time comes for me to grow up, take responsibility, and move on - forgive myself finally. Just keep focused on the goal. Do right when no one's looking. This material and money means nothing at the end of the day. We all die but only some live, I will live a meaningful and adventurous life when I stop making excuses and commit to what is greater than me. I remember a thing I did from watching a Jordan Peterson video... went like, write 2 full papers, 1 on where you see your life in 5 years if you try to change all the discrepancies you see in your life holding you back... 2 on your life trajectory if you continue to run away from the things you know you should face (where you at in 5 years)... lets just say, this motivated me, and trust me, I was honest with myself. I believe the only way I get through my situation and series of impending hurdles is being as grounded as I can be, and brutally honest with myself (and God) in order to grow past my addictions and actually be free. I'm at the point where I think I'm just going to put myself out there on the internet and just try to spread some of my story and wisdom, f it, what do i have to lose. Family is everything~

got the asmondgold-lite attic, you'll get there one day, just need to see some hairline recession and your damn near official.

wow, this is really cool, i seriously gotta stop distracting myself with youtube 😅

to my fellas, get laid by somebody you love. casual sex is overrated.

I was feeling ugly recently but I discovered your channel and it’s an absolute goldmine

So what tips and advice would you give on approaching a girl you don’t know? Coz I’ve had times when I’m in public and I’ve caught girls looking at me but I never approached because I have no idea on what to say as there’s no common topic to talk about and I hate forcing conversations

Hey bro do you have an instagram? I like your vibe and wanted to see if there was any other place I could find you.