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Tano's Mom
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เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 24 ก.ย. 2019
Exploring all aspects of emotional intelligence and growth mindset, it’s importance as well as ideas and resources on how to instill it in ourselves and in our children.
As a full time working mom, first time parent and wife, I face my own emotional challenges and obstacles and aim to share my experiences as opportunities for learning and personal growth.
If you are curious and interested in self awareness and emotional well being, join my community of other like minded parents and individuals.
I am currently taking a break over the holidays (month of December) to work on my personal growth and will not be posting new videos until the new year (January 2020). However I am planning new videos so if you want to connect please find me on Instagram @Tanos_Mom and feel free to send me a message!
As a full time working mom, first time parent and wife, I face my own emotional challenges and obstacles and aim to share my experiences as opportunities for learning and personal growth.
If you are curious and interested in self awareness and emotional well being, join my community of other like minded parents and individuals.
I am currently taking a break over the holidays (month of December) to work on my personal growth and will not be posting new videos until the new year (January 2020). However I am planning new videos so if you want to connect please find me on Instagram @Tanos_Mom and feel free to send me a message!
Four Play Based Methods for Releasing Toddler Anger and Aggression
I began noticing excessive frustration, throwing toys and self-inflicted hitting from my son, patterns I wasn’t seeing around other children at the extent I saw in my son. After doing some research I realized he was displaying a lot of anger and aggression.
The book that has helped us a lot in helping our son deal with this behavior has been "Attachment Play: How to Solve Children's Behavior Problems with Play, Laughter, and Connection".
This book was recommended by Katie Crosby a therapist specializing in working with children. You can find her here:
Instagram: thrivinglittles
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Connect with me on Instagram: tanos_mom
The book that has helped us a lot in helping our son deal with this behavior has been "Attachment Play: How to Solve Children's Behavior Problems with Play, Laughter, and Connection".
This book was recommended by Katie Crosby a therapist specializing in working with children. You can find her here:
Instagram: thrivinglittles
TH-cam: bit.ly/2RGvTzV
Connect with me on Instagram: tanos_mom
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5 Approaches I Use to Control My Anger and Improve My Relationships
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We can't always control getting angry, but we always can control how we react to feeling angry. This is something that took me a really long time to learn and understand. I share the five approaches I use I use to control my anger and improve my relationships. These approaches are focused on putting you in the control seat of your emotions and give you more control over the outcome of a situati...
Helping toddlers manage fear: Approaches I use with my son
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Toddler's brains can't process fear in the same way as our adult brains can as their prefrontal cortex (the part in the brain that rationalizes experiences) isn't developed yet. Therefore helping toddlers manage their fears requires a completely different approach due to their developmental stage in life. In this video, I share what are some of the fears my son experiences and how we approach h...
Four Quick Tools and Tips I Use to Conquer My Fear: Managing Our Adult Emotions Series
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Some fears are helpful but many others aren’t, they hold us back and create an unrealistic perception of ourselves of what we can and can’t do. In this video, I share my four quick and effective tools I use to manage fear by working with our brain's cognitive function. Connect with me on Instagram tanos_mom?igshid=1h4tt6r4ywfuy
Nature activity ideas with kids that calm and develop the mind: Hiking and exploring canyons
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Taking children hiking and allowing for them to move their bodies out in nature has a lot of positive impact on the brain. From raising endorphins, improving cognitive function and increasing children’s hippocampus. In this video I share how we took our son hiking on Annie’s Canyon Trail in San Diego, California. It’s a 2 mile hike that has a lot of different terrain for kids to explore and get...
Nature activity ideas with kids that calm and develop the mind: Exploring desert plant life
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Although it’s important to protect kids from too much sun exposure, being outdoors in the sun has many positive effects on their mental wellbeing. In this video I share how my son and I went to the Balboa Cactus Garden in San Diego, California to explore desert plant life and to soak up some rays. Exploring the different varieties of desert plant life teaches kids about the local ecology and it...
Nature activity ideas with kids that calm and develop the mind: Exploring Tide Pools
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The ocean provides so many amazing benefits for kids, not only is it a great learning environment but also provides positive effects on their mental wellbeing. In this video I share how my son and I went to the beautiful tide pools in La Jolla, an area of San Diego in California. Exploring tide pools teaches kids about the local ecology and it is an awesome bonding activity between parent and c...
How nature impacts children's social and emotional development
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In this video I share key three facts on how nature enhances the social and emotional wellbeing of children. I cover off on how being in nature has calming effects on the brain, how unstructured outdoor play supports children’s development and how being in nature contributes to a connection and empathy towards all living things and the environment. Smithsonian Early Enrichment Center “Get Out o...
Five calming tips and activities for kids for the plane
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This video provides ideas that are an alternative to using screen time when traveling. So rather than distracting the little ones with screens the focus here is on creating a parent and child connection. I researched this topic and found a bunch of great resources from child development specialists and therapists, so the ideas here focus a lot on the brain's cognitive function as a way to help ...
Helping Toddlers Manage Their Big Emotions Using Emotional Intelligence
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Tantrums are just an experience toddlers display when they’re feeling big emotions (frustration, anger, disappointment, jealousy etc.). Because their brains are so young they don’t have the ability to process what they’re feeling and therefore we see displays of crying, throwing things, hitting, kicking etc. Clinical psychologist (and one of my most favorite authors on child development) Daniel...
Toddler toys for social and emotional development: My son's two favorite examples
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Sharing two of our favorite toys that are aimed for toddlers that focus on social and emotional development. In these two examples, my son and show you how the toy works, what he is learning (emotional vocabulary, thinking skills, empathy etc.) and why it’s important. Toys featured: Lego Duplo “My First Emotions” activity set Hape “Eggspressions” activity set
Teaching Kids About Emotions: Children’s stories dealing with anxiety and worry
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All emotions serve a purpose, and fear and anxiety are actually our human protection mechanism. Worry is our body’s response that helps us to avoid danger and feeling it is totally normal. However fear and anxiety becomes an issue when those feelings begin preventing us from engaging with the world around us. In this video I share my favorite children’s story books that introduce the emotion of...
Teaching Kids About Emotions: Children’s stories dealing with anger
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Anger is one of those emotions we all have an aversion towards, but it’s neither good or bad to feel angry, it’s all how we react when we feel angry that matters. In this video I share my favorite children’s story books that introduce the emotion of anger in a way that teaches kids what happens when we feel angry and provide positive coping solutions and mechanisms to help the little ones under...
How to teach emotional intelligence to kids: Increase feelings vocabulary
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The foundational element of instilling emotional intelligence in children is for kids to have a rich emotional vocabulary so they are able to identify and communicate how they’re feeling. One way to increase a child’s awareness about the different ranges of emotion is through children’s story books. My son and I went to the Austin Central Library and picked up a few books (which I share in this...
Emotional and social development activity: Building imagination through play
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An activity idea for kids that helps to cultivate critical thinking, problem solving, language, social and emotional skills through imaginative play. Imagination is one of those activities that doesn’t get enough attention, yet it’s a foundational activity that helps to cultivate important aspects of child development and the brain. This simple activity focuses on using building blocks and othe...
Future generation learning: How education is evolving
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How Emotional Intelligence will drive the world of work
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How Emotional Intelligence will drive the world of work
How can this be applied to children with special needs? When touch can be overstimulating or even painful.
I believe most challenging conduct I have right now with my toddler is that she hits me when she's upset and that she throws stuff and I am having a hard time figuring out whats the best and most efficient approach toward that
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Is your mixed-raced?
My grandmother had 19 children… imagine how that would work? OMG the human race would not be here still if we had to do this all the time. But I guess happy some people have all that time :). Let the child figure it out!
I'm going try this thank you so so much!!
This was a great help. Thanks for sharing it. 😊
My 4 yo keeps doing things which I tell him not to do, so even then I need to tell him calm voice ? In public ?
My daughter doesn’t respond to anything I do. She only wants me husband and freaks out if I take her when she wants him to hold him. Nothing will calm her down even all these techniques. She is usually able to be comforted while he’s at work tho. Still a lot of whining and crying.
thank you ✨🙏✨
As a teacher many years ago I am heartened to find out that I did many of these things naturally! That rubbing of the back took the stress out of a little body almost immediately! However when I had my own children I found it much more difficult! When they were having emotion meltdowns I felt I was a failure for letting that happen! How I wish I could have had access to these wonderful insights then!With thanks!
Hey, im just wondering what the name of the song you played at the end of the video is called. Loved this video btw! So helpful even for me as an adult understanding my own emotions
This knowledge you are giving is AMAZING. thank you thank you thank you! 📈💛
Omg this is so good & EXACTLY what our daughter is going through now- this is the first video I’ve watched that i can relate to! Thank you!
I struggle getting him to cooperate regarding general bodily functions. He doesn't want to eat, bath, change diaper, potty train, blow his nose...it's so frustrating. He is 3 and 2 mo ...and when I try talking to him gently as you suggested he lashes out and hits...but he is not this way at daycare...just when he gets home. At daycare he is an angel...at home he is challenging.
When i got my finger stuck in door I cry and my nanny helps me crazy
Ok. You just said that our toddlers learn how to view the world by watching our expressions… if we constantly keep our voice and expressions soft, then how does a child deal with the outside world? Especially when people are so cruel. I worry that this approach will make a child be unable to cope when someone is not kind or they are cruel. I understand that we need to be a stable and safe place for our children, but how do we get them to be prepared for when the world is ugly to them? I am not saying that we as mothers or family should be ugly to the child but how do we prepare them? I feel there’s a problem with the way parents are with their children within the past decade or so. A lot of children and young adults are entitled. I believe there needs to be a happy medium of acceptance, love, understanding, discipline, and consequences, so children, or young adults don’t crumble under pressure, or have meltdowns when things don’t go their way. Please don’t misunderstand me. I am not in any way saying that we should beat our kids or something crazy like that. I understand babies don’t understand emotion regulation and need assistance dealing with emotions. Just how do we make a happy medium?
Well done great video
We never outgrow these techniques!
Remember to label the emotion in this process. What is “you look upset because” mean? What is upset? You look angry because….. You look sad because….. You look scared because….. Why it is excellent that you identified how the child’s body is reacting with the emotion, the actual emotion should also be identified. It will help the child begin to learn to use the emotion word in verbal language, understand why his and her body is reacting and then be become available to learn and use self regulation. Your coregulation is incredible! You also released your child when your child showed resistance to being held and comforted but accepted your kind words and gentle touch. A child develops self regulation after first experiencing co regulation with a safe adult. The adult is with the child in the emotion and feeling safe in the emotion. Validated by the support through the emotion rather than trying to change it. Wonderful video!
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My 2.5 year old always runs away when I need to change his nappy. Please can you give any tips, how to stop this and to make the nappy changing experience pleasant
My son is 3yrs 11months... He shows quite a severe emotions sometimes... Crying without a reason, difficult to understand. Feels helpless sometimes. I just hug and calm him down as much as possible
Love this! My only challenge is what happens if they start school and they don't get this same attention and patience?
My first born nephew is 14 months. I’m the oldest of 7 myself and I cannot have children of my own. That’s one generational curse down. Next, helping the next generation to have a better handle of their emotions. ‘It takes a village’ and this auntie villager is willing to pitch in.
My son (3 years) I feel I can control him more when my wife is not around, but when my wife (mother) is around his behavior is much more difficult to manage, he gets angry very fast, for the smallest thing, such as when he's throwing food and when I say to stop it, he gets angry and start to do it more or start to throw even other things around, and it seems he does this on purpose, because sometimes he laughs while in the middle of act of showing anger
Toddlers may struggle to manage their strong emotions, but parents and caregivers can assist them by utilizing emotional intelligence. Naming and validating the emotion, teaching coping skills, modeling emotional regulation, using positive reinforcement, and practicing empathy are all part of this process. Toddlers can develop healthy relationships with their feelings and the skills needed to deal with difficult situations if they are taught to recognize, understand, and manage their emotions. Allowing them to connect with them and be with them when they encounter big emotions is very important to ease and practice their emotional intelligence.
excellent information ty
Hiya tita
I feel like I’m doing a great job as a father. I’m only two years in and this is the first time I searched a video for handling toddler emotions and everything that I seen as an example, I’ve been doing. I just pray my daughter knows how much I love her even when I’m validating how she feels even when she’s two
Get them away from electronics. Problem solved
No. Tantrums are normal and a sign of healthy brain development. They have them no matter what. Do you even have kids?
Recently my toddle refuses to go nursery and having big emotions every morning. Any advises ?
I do like your video a lot! It's very helpful 👍
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The only issue with your video it does not address bad behaviour. For example we have a no throwing toys in anger rule in our home and no hitting or throwing furniture rule. We get down to our sons eye level and tell him “ this is your first warning no throwing toys. If you do it again we will take the toy away from you” we give him an opportunity to make a good choice and we always follow through. We’ve seen good results with this. To raise balance children we have to follow through with consequences they can understand. Your sons tantrums were not that bad by the way. You need to provide more tools for parents with serious issues with their children. Just talking in a sweet voice is not all there is to it. But part of it.
Please guide me in handling twin tantrums and their fighting
So inspiring
What if riding out the emotion includes hitting, kicking & throwing toys?
Montessori schools have similar ideas as you
Such beautiful video❤ thank you for guiding shared with my moms group ❤️❤️ Could you please also make video how to handle a baby who cries for small small things Even if remote button don’t start or I don’t immediately do what he is asking Pls help me
Hi! I will send you a resource in a few days.
This just teaches children that when they throw fits, they get hugs and love so they will throw more fits
Secure attachment is needed.
No, the fits will eventually subside or lessen because you have made them learn emotional regulation! So they'd have learnt the tools to manage emotions in healthy way as they grow!
That's all you took out of this?
I need child therapy like this. This has made so much sense why I act like this still. I don't have anger meltdowns but I have emotional ones. Therapy is sometimes hard bc I'm doing adult stuff when I haven't ever got emotional help as a kid
You are truly god sent because your video so far has help me tremendously.
Thank you, this really helped me understand and connect with my daughter.
OMG Absolutely Ridiculous!!
Hi I am working in afterschool club and I have a child that just doesn't want to listen and running and teasing other children what you will recommend what approach to use? Other other toddler he has tantrum that we have to hold him otherway he just run out or hurt himself or others.
Thank you so much!
That’s how i did with my 2 daughters who are 20 and 21 today. People were judging me by saying that i was « too soft » on them… i didn’t listen and now that my kids are grown ups, people now see that i was right! They are good girls with a good heart with no big issues in life. They blossomed so well and they thank me for that 💕
This is helpful to see.
Dear mom I am a mom of 2.5 yrs old son. Pls help me how to deal if he starts crying at small things like door not opening immediately or I am not reading him a book once he asked . Basically need to understand that we have to allow sometime to get things done.
@@bhagyashreeprabhakar6448 I would maybe suggest that if you spend just a little more time to « communicate » with him so he feels like even though he can’t get what he want, you still understand his feelings. For us grown ups, it’s little things but at his age, he feels proportional to his little 2 1/2 years old 🤷🏼♀️ I think that just this little Time more given for a couple of days and you’ll save much more Time later because he Will start to be confident that even if you stay with your word, he feels understood. Witch bring much more benefits over time. Sorry for my english, it’s not my first language 😅
@@bhagyashreeprabhakar6448 I would also consider that he might be showing first signs of for eg. ADHD or BPD and maybe a trip to a psychologist first, especially if more signs come up and to a psychiatrist next if a psychologist can also see certain signs could be in place. It doesn't mean it has to be any mental issue at all, but we as people often forget that there might be many things at play that don't always mean that we as parents are doing something wrong or that the child is doing this on purpose, is being bad etc. Sometimes there might deregulation in the brain that a child can't really do anything about nor a parent without enough knowledge so... yeah. Don't take it to heart tho! If you see that nothing works and your child is becoming even harder to manage, understand, to relate to and have trouble self-soothing, then it's always a good idea to check and be sure. ;) PS You can't diagnose them that early on many issues, but it's good to pay attention already.
Love wins love.
I’m going to get shit for this. But I disagree with this. This style is what is being used these days because most boys are raised by single mothers. And all it is causing is a bunch of weak men who look for women to comfort them and their emotions. This is why fathers figures are so important. When a father sees his son throwing temper tantrums he’s not running over and coddling them. You’re just teaching him throwing fits gets him comfort. Even my pediatrician says. Ignore the temper tantrums. This method is raising weak, emotional men. Boys need to be taught that emotions are okay to have but they need to have control of them without being coddled or getting attention when you act this way. This is all fun and cute now. Once’s he’s a grown man and no good woman wants to date him because he’s too needy and emotional you will understand.
Imagine a generation of men who actually know how to regulate their emotions because their parents helped them regulate their emotions as children.
@@healthandwealthdiva imagine. But it will not happen with this type of parenting. Aka. I get attention from females when I act out…
So you're talking about toxic boy moms? That comment about single moms rings alarm bells. There's no guarantee that boys raised with present father figures will be better off than those without them. Plus, there are plenty of men who were raised by single moms and they turn out emotionally stable. You wanna know who also raises weak, emotional men? Violently volatile boys stuck in adult men's bodies. Physically present but emotionally unavailable. Those types solve their issues by lashing out, and wind up hurting themselves & others within their vicinity. If you want to ignore tantrums, then fine, that's on you, bud.
@@Moszan look at the studies and stats miss. 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) - 5 times the average. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes - 32 times the average. 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes - 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control) 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes -14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26) 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes - 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report) I know my comment might hit close to home possibly. But the facts are the facts and the numbers are astonishing. Kids want attention if they lash out and you tend to them you will learn. I do this. I get attention. good or bad. I could go on and on about this stuff. Most fathers will teach their children how to control their emotions not coddle them for it. It makes them weak, unattractive and unstable Let me ask you this. Do you want your man crying all the time. All emotional looking for you to tend and give him attention to his emotions like his mother used to? My father saved me from my mother trying to turn me into one of these pathetic men you won’t even date
Been continually watching your videos in 2 days and I got hook. Hope you also finish this video and continue posting more in your channel.