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How can this be applied to children with special needs? When touch can be overstimulating or even painful.

I believe most challenging conduct I have right now with my toddler is that she hits me when she's upset and that she throws stuff and I am having a hard time figuring out whats the best and most efficient approach toward that

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Is your mixed-raced?

My grandmother had 19 children… imagine how that would work? OMG the human race would not be here still if we had to do this all the time. But I guess happy some people have all that time :). Let the child figure it out!

I'm going try this thank you so so much!!

This was a great help. Thanks for sharing it. 😊

My 4 yo keeps doing things which I tell him not to do, so even then I need to tell him calm voice ? In public ?

My daughter doesn’t respond to anything I do. She only wants me husband and freaks out if I take her when she wants him to hold him. Nothing will calm her down even all these techniques. She is usually able to be comforted while he’s at work tho. Still a lot of whining and crying.

thank you ✨🙏✨

As a teacher many years ago I am heartened to find out that I did many of these things naturally! That rubbing of the back took the stress out of a little body almost immediately! However when I had my own children I found it much more difficult! When they were having emotion meltdowns I felt I was a failure for letting that happen! How I wish I could have had access to these wonderful insights then!With thanks!

Hey, im just wondering what the name of the song you played at the end of the video is called. Loved this video btw! So helpful even for me as an adult understanding my own emotions

This knowledge you are giving is AMAZING. thank you thank you thank you! 📈💛

Omg this is so good & EXACTLY what our daughter is going through now- this is the first video I’ve watched that i can relate to! Thank you!

I struggle getting him to cooperate regarding general bodily functions. He doesn't want to eat, bath, change diaper, potty train, blow his nose...it's so frustrating. He is 3 and 2 mo ...and when I try talking to him gently as you suggested he lashes out and hits...but he is not this way at daycare...just when he gets home. At daycare he is an angel...at home he is challenging.

When i got my finger stuck in door I cry and my nanny helps me crazy

Ok. You just said that our toddlers learn how to view the world by watching our expressions… if we constantly keep our voice and expressions soft, then how does a child deal with the outside world? Especially when people are so cruel. I worry that this approach will make a child be unable to cope when someone is not kind or they are cruel. I understand that we need to be a stable and safe place for our children, but how do we get them to be prepared for when the world is ugly to them? I am not saying that we as mothers or family should be ugly to the child but how do we prepare them? I feel there’s a problem with the way parents are with their children within the past decade or so. A lot of children and young adults are entitled. I believe there needs to be a happy medium of acceptance, love, understanding, discipline, and consequences, so children, or young adults don’t crumble under pressure, or have meltdowns when things don’t go their way. Please don’t misunderstand me. I am not in any way saying that we should beat our kids or something crazy like that. I understand babies don’t understand emotion regulation and need assistance dealing with emotions. Just how do we make a happy medium?

Well done great video

We never outgrow these techniques!

Remember to label the emotion in this process. What is “you look upset because” mean? What is upset? You look angry because….. You look sad because….. You look scared because….. Why it is excellent that you identified how the child’s body is reacting with the emotion, the actual emotion should also be identified. It will help the child begin to learn to use the emotion word in verbal language, understand why his and her body is reacting and then be become available to learn and use self regulation. Your coregulation is incredible! You also released your child when your child showed resistance to being held and comforted but accepted your kind words and gentle touch. A child develops self regulation after first experiencing co regulation with a safe adult. The adult is with the child in the emotion and feeling safe in the emotion. Validated by the support through the emotion rather than trying to change it. Wonderful video!

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My 2.5 year old always runs away when I need to change his nappy. Please can you give any tips, how to stop this and to make the nappy changing experience pleasant

My son is 3yrs 11months... He shows quite a severe emotions sometimes... Crying without a reason, difficult to understand. Feels helpless sometimes. I just hug and calm him down as much as possible

Love this! My only challenge is what happens if they start school and they don't get this same attention and patience?

My first born nephew is 14 months. I’m the oldest of 7 myself and I cannot have children of my own. That’s one generational curse down. Next, helping the next generation to have a better handle of their emotions. ‘It takes a village’ and this auntie villager is willing to pitch in.

My son (3 years) I feel I can control him more when my wife is not around, but when my wife (mother) is around his behavior is much more difficult to manage, he gets angry very fast, for the smallest thing, such as when he's throwing food and when I say to stop it, he gets angry and start to do it more or start to throw even other things around, and it seems he does this on purpose, because sometimes he laughs while in the middle of act of showing anger

Toddlers may struggle to manage their strong emotions, but parents and caregivers can assist them by utilizing emotional intelligence. Naming and validating the emotion, teaching coping skills, modeling emotional regulation, using positive reinforcement, and practicing empathy are all part of this process. Toddlers can develop healthy relationships with their feelings and the skills needed to deal with difficult situations if they are taught to recognize, understand, and manage their emotions. Allowing them to connect with them and be with them when they encounter big emotions is very important to ease and practice their emotional intelligence.

excellent information ty

Hiya tita

I feel like I’m doing a great job as a father. I’m only two years in and this is the first time I searched a video for handling toddler emotions and everything that I seen as an example, I’ve been doing. I just pray my daughter knows how much I love her even when I’m validating how she feels even when she’s two

Get them away from electronics. Problem solved

Recently my toddle refuses to go nursery and having big emotions every morning. Any advises ?

I do like your video a lot! It's very helpful 👍

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The only issue with your video it does not address bad behaviour. For example we have a no throwing toys in anger rule in our home and no hitting or throwing furniture rule. We get down to our sons eye level and tell him “ this is your first warning no throwing toys. If you do it again we will take the toy away from you” we give him an opportunity to make a good choice and we always follow through. We’ve seen good results with this. To raise balance children we have to follow through with consequences they can understand. Your sons tantrums were not that bad by the way. You need to provide more tools for parents with serious issues with their children. Just talking in a sweet voice is not all there is to it. But part of it.

Please guide me in handling twin tantrums and their fighting

So inspiring

What if riding out the emotion includes hitting, kicking & throwing toys?

Montessori schools have similar ideas as you

Such beautiful video❤ thank you for guiding shared with my moms group ❤️❤️ Could you please also make video how to handle a baby who cries for small small things Even if remote button don’t start or I don’t immediately do what he is asking Pls help me

This just teaches children that when they throw fits, they get hugs and love so they will throw more fits

I need child therapy like this. This has made so much sense why I act like this still. I don't have anger meltdowns but I have emotional ones. Therapy is sometimes hard bc I'm doing adult stuff when I haven't ever got emotional help as a kid

You are truly god sent because your video so far has help me tremendously.

Thank you, this really helped me understand and connect with my daughter.

OMG Absolutely Ridiculous!!

Hi I am working in afterschool club and I have a child that just doesn't want to listen and running and teasing other children what you will recommend what approach to use? Other other toddler he has tantrum that we have to hold him otherway he just run out or hurt himself or others.

Thank you so much!

That’s how i did with my 2 daughters who are 20 and 21 today. People were judging me by saying that i was « too soft » on them… i didn’t listen and now that my kids are grown ups, people now see that i was right! They are good girls with a good heart with no big issues in life. They blossomed so well and they thank me for that 💕

I’m going to get shit for this. But I disagree with this. This style is what is being used these days because most boys are raised by single mothers. And all it is causing is a bunch of weak men who look for women to comfort them and their emotions. This is why fathers figures are so important. When a father sees his son throwing temper tantrums he’s not running over and coddling them. You’re just teaching him throwing fits gets him comfort. Even my pediatrician says. Ignore the temper tantrums. This method is raising weak, emotional men. Boys need to be taught that emotions are okay to have but they need to have control of them without being coddled or getting attention when you act this way. This is all fun and cute now. Once’s he’s a grown man and no good woman wants to date him because he’s too needy and emotional you will understand.

Been continually watching your videos in 2 days and I got hook. Hope you also finish this video and continue posting more in your channel.