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Bruce only knows the back healing kung fu.

Laugh at people who are in misery?

This woman is in complete denial. Ask her husband

This is so fascinating. I would like to ask though as one takeaway that I got from it is, that one side of this dissociation does not accept and can’t be integrated and also that several sides split should one attempt integration leading to put more resistance up to integrate, so my conclusion is that it can be ‘dangerous’ to do this work as one can build more resistance?

Thank you Deef et al. Brilliantly helpful, giving me lots of pointers. Sorry I can't contribute more but I'm grateful to have access to this 🙏

I miss him but understand his position 🥹

The way she wriggles around is pathetic. He’s not guilting you for being a woman or calling you lesser, it’s just a matter of fact. She asks, “why must women act this way” there is no “must”, it’s just they do. It’s no different than why we men use physical aggression more, it’s our nature and there’s no changing that. Women can use their skill set for good things, or they can use them for everything that was listed in the toolbelt for bullying they have. While we men can use our aggression or assertiveness for good, we can also use it to hurt ppl unjustifiably. To echo what Jordan said, “ppl aren’t good or evil, they are both”. If you don’t like being called a petty gossiper, or character assassinator, then simply stop.

Oh wow, they thought Michelle was planted. The social contagion of paranoid sabotage is real. “I did not plant her!”

When I was working in female dominated and mixed gender fields, I would regularly have different women in my office upset, crying and telling me about the bullying that is going on among the women in the workplace. Mostly it was the self proclaimed feminists who were the worst bullies of women. On the other hand, the men were quite happy workers.

Awful interviewer.Rude.

Does anyone think that Richard might actually have Borderline personality disorder? 🤔

*I've never heard anyone say, "ta-ra", before, what does it mean? 🤔

They are from hell

She's lucky because you showed one of her best videos. I find her very scary, as a person, to be around. She's extremely aggressive and I do believe that she's not well, mentally and psychologically. She has a lot of personal problems in her personal life and she also picks on other influencers subtly. I really wish she realises that she has issues so that she can get help. This is one of the links I'm talking about: th-cam.com/video/Bj1y6Oc7h4w/w-d-xo.html

18:23 Healthy Shame Rule: Mistakes are occasions for learning!! -JB

31:03 why those of us stuck in trauma triggers need EMDR type therapy "work" to shift out of 4F(fight,flight,...) limbic response behavior and into "curious" executive function prefrontal cortex response. Instead of getting triggered by your tone of voice...feeling of anger someone securely attached will not be threatened by your feelings(they are yours to express).

“[Annihilation anxiety] is completely indifferent to serotonin reuptake inhibitors because it is not mediated by serotonin. In fact, the main thing that will calm that kind of anxiety are the benzos and alcohol, the downer drugs. Which may be why a lot of people with substance-use disorders have a certain level of Annihilation anxiety.”

I don’t get it - they feel like they exist if they can kill you?? How does that make sense to a narcissist- someone is trying to do this to me.

1:12:28 this is so good to hear. 😊 it’s true that at some point we can decipher things on our own and avoid external guidance ❤

LOVE THIS

14:23 this three models are as morally sick as one can get. (APD apart) 🤢

I had my first child at 36 and my third and last at 42 years of age. I was a fully grown adult when I was presented with motherhood challenges . I had to take responsibility for their safety without expecting my supporting system to do it for me. No one to blame. I had to wake up and live in reality. I can see how this was life changing for my kids, when I became safe. Unfortunately, most women can’t afford taking time off to process life, think and take accountability and it’s badly reflected in motherhood and how they mess up their children being children themselves.

My theory is that women stop their development in teenage years when confronted to early romantic trauma. Women’s growth is stunted by the unsafe society and financial demands placed on upon them way too early. Without the protection and safety of authority and institutions women are unable to grow and it reflects in motherhood.

Link the full video please

Deef what is your opinion on psychoanalysis? I want to pursue a psychology degree but it is not being taught in university curriculums. Do you think its unscientific or that it has its merit?

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You just use him for gaining followers. Create your own content!

But boys learn to be men by observing men

The state calls a mothers testing and defusing the worlds fear factors.. Abuse...but totally disregards the subjects Adverse Childhood Events. Judges and Lawyers have no clue about Adverse or Virtuous childhood events..they pass judgment then wash their hands of what the future holds. A mother mindful and capable of forward cognitive linear thinking and playing the odds without being wreckless ...would be great.

Such a compassionate man

She is only helping to keep up the divorce rate and horrible tactics that encapsulates the general anti father attitude in our So called Family court -- i had the unhappy experience of reputation destruction in that court for 6 years -- they had to resort to lying - because there was nothing solid they could really say i had done wrong. Mainly all women acting like a pack of hyenas - no fairness - no morality - no truth - no empathy for my kids who they were long term emotional wounding - no recount to even basic human emotion - of this is gone too far -- i think we should stop now --- absolutely no remorse -- aided by a pro female/mothers only (male judge)-- what a spineless example of a man. .So female bullying exists - for sure and its treacherous. There are some horrendous female example of human beings out there-- better that they were never born -- truly disgusting and horrible.. This woman interviewing is a liar and complicit in keeping this circus of hell going... better she decides to retire into obscurity -- and is not heard............

Female bullying is truly destructive.

I am going to be honest i couldn't watch the video. But i respect dr ramani a lot cause she seems really empathetic towards survivors of narcissistic people. If it weren't for her then a lot of people coming out of divorce and breakups and toxic families would be lost. That being said i do think the "narcissistic abuse coaching" is really sus and a lot of people give zoom sessions and chat with vulnerable people and take money from them. I liked a bunch of posts on narcissistic abuse and some narcissistic healing recovery coach dms me and tells me to join his program/session/course. That's so predatory. I think people should be strong on their own and not get swindled into these type of scams and cults and mlms. And dr ramani helped me be my own person. So that's that

This is an interpretation of winnicott in a more general across the whole of childhood way. Winnicott describes more detail, and tends to emphasize the third point over the first two, as winnicott focuses on the early years including and especially as a baby. This summary is more of a post 18-months version. It works as winnicott though, as long as you include all three and probably add that in order to do all three you need to accept you have a mind with craziness too, that you have some craziness and darkness and hatred and thats okay, its not who you are or how you will organise your life but it is there - like everyone else.

Apparently on track! Thank you Prof

Hey Deef, I hope you are well and are enjoying your summer!

I absolutely agree and found exposure is great for phobias and anxiety.

I was institutionalized in the military. It’s like being in prison. 😵‍💫20 years went bye..PTSD disable Veterans 🇺🇸It’s hard to leave it. Scary to leave. PRISON of the mind is scary to leave the military.Some has to show the truth light 💡 at the end of the tunnel .. Like being trapped in the ghetto or apartheid .Mandela suffered trapped in prison, they let him free but he went back into the prison.but he focused on breaking free..you have to pull yourself out or somebody has to help you out .They can’t elevate, trapped in the cycle of negativity, like living in a bad neighborhood that you can’t get out of because there’s no exit unless somebody pulls you out or you have to pull yourself out the ghetto

Was this from Donald winnicot?

Excellent video.

It works!

AMEN!

I disagree leave me e alone. Stay away from me you devil.

Women are abusive, controlling, manipulative, devious, calculating, vicious, nasty and all women know that. But never admit it. A collective conspiracy of silence. They used their sexuality to control and subjugate their gullible male slaves. They are not the lovely precious delicate creatures they would have us all believe. They are ruthless in getting what they want. Far more psychologicaly damaging than men. But they don't leave any bruises. This woman is obviously peddling the old feminist mantra. That old chestnut Very defensive because she knows he's drilling right on the nerve. And she doesn't like it. You only have to look at how they paint their faces to know what you're dealing with. War paint. Whore paint. Highly deceptive.